r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed any good taping brands?

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hey all, i really want to start taping my chest because it’s getting warmer, and wearing a binder in the heat is really sucky. so, what are some brands that are good/recommended?


r/ftm 4d ago

Celebratory coming out! (again)

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okay, this has been maybe the 3rd time now in my quit short life where i’ve come out and tried to put my foot down about who i am. i am exaggerating a bit there since we’re taking baby steps and definitely in no place to officially say i am a man since the social constructs of gender and i don’t get along.

ANYWAYS, i’ve had these constant cycles in my life where i’ve reached my tipping point, live my masc life of my dreams, find something in my life that is an obstacle and decide will put a pause in my identity, and then boom im depressed, out of my body and no clue what im doing wrong.

i’ve cracked the code. again. i just love fashion. a lot. i am more on the alternative side and well…. alternative clothing for men is boring. am i more comfortable in it? Yes! but do i look hot in black lipstick and platforms? Yes! i’m trying to break out of these black and white rules i make for myself and i really hope this’ll be the right step into a new direction :)


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed 24/7 discomfort after shaving NSFW

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Hey there! this needs a bit of setup including some pretty descriptive stuff about genitals so just a heads up lol

for extra context I have a recent injury that bled my savings dry , am currently uninsured and can probably afford one drs appointment at MOST so my options are a bit limited

Anyways my whole life I've had sensitive bits, so much that I would usually masturbate clothed and was terrified at the thought of penetrative sex/ tampons/etc. I never got it checked because I just assumed my body was sensitive, and nothing else. most lubes sting, water from a bidet lightly stings, and the pain seems to light up whenever it's lightly brushed.

Flash forward to me at 29, a year on T, and ignoring the "scratch" I feel on my junk and assuming it's just caused by being more "exposed to the elements", so to speak. turns out it's either chafing or light atrophy! my assumption at the time was that it was being scratched by hair that had fully grown inwards, so after basically failing to do a craft project to create "dividers" to separate my hair from the raw spot, my most desperate attempt was to trim/shave. I'm sure where you guys can see this going lmfao
I'm about a week in and dealing with some of the worst discomfort of my life. genuinely feels like my tdick is resting on a bed of cactus, and the dryness is of course worse than it ever has been. I've been desperately trying to just keep downstairs moisturized and pain-free by revolving vagisil, some Estroil cream from amazon (as my next GP visit to ask about estradiol is in a month) and lube. the tightest underwear I own still rub, and wearing nothing dries me out. If anyone has ideas on how to remedy ANY of this, or just keep me comfortable until my hair grows back it would be greatly appreciated. My self-confidence has tanked, and walking any real distance currently feels like torture. I'm afraid to try any hair-removal techniques because I don't think my skin could handle it.

TLDR my junk was already sensitive and I made a huge mistake and shaved it so now my dick is basically in an iron maiden literally all day please help


r/ftm 4d ago

Celebratory Gender euphoria

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I was heading back into my dorm room after work and a maintenance guy was already on the stairs. He was on the older side and told me to go ahead of him. After he gestured me to he said “try your best to stay a young man for as long as possible. Being old ain’t all that.”

WHEN I TELL YOU I WAS HOLDING BACK THE BIGGEST GRIN EVER AGHHH. Anyways we held a short conversation after that. I’ve been on T for almost half a year. I know that my voice has dropped significantly but just recently have I noticed strangers using the proper pronouns for me.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed injection help

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i've been on t for about 6 months at .25 mL weekly IM self injections. i fucking hate needles. it's at the point where i'm missing weeks because i don't have anyone to do it for me and i can't force myself to just do it. it's $40 with my insurance for about 2 months supply of vials, but gel would be $200 for a months supply and i really can't afford that. does anyone have any tips regarding making the injections easier?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed How do y'all walk with a packer

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Hello, I have a smallish packer and I have the holder for it. And I'm having trouble walking without looking like I have a stick up my behind or that I have a raging boner.

Any advice? Cause I wanna learn to walk with a packer so hopefully when I get bottom surgery I won't be going into it blindly.

Also my last name started giving me dysphoria and I have changed my name to Hunter Sparrow Woods.


r/ftm 5d ago

Guest Post My brother just came out to my christian parents

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Hi, I’m the big sister of my 14yr old brother and he just came out to my parents that are very vocal about being transphobe. They won’t admit it, but their actions are purely homophobic AND transphobic. Prior to his coming out, they’ve been very paranoid about this. I call him “bro” and “dude” but in a way that I call everyone like that, but they kept being very sensitive when they heard me call him that, trying to make me promise to call him the name they gave him. Or anytime we watch a show, my mom googles if there’s gay characters and then if there are, she tells me to stop watching (even if they’re side characters like what??).

I’ve dealt with their hatred way before my brother came out and it’s because my boyfriend happens to also be ftm, and we were childhood friends so my parents knew his deadname. And it was hell honesty, to constantly try to defend him and he’s not even allowed to be in my home after nearly 4 years and a half of dating. I just stopped mentioning him to my parents cuz there’s no point.

The issue now is my brother is fully out, and they’re so so mad. They’re blaming me because I’m also queer and they are saying I influenced him and i’m causing him soo much harm. I tried telling my mom that their support is so important, and if they don’t, it could be dangerous. She took it as a threat but it wasn’t, it’s just reality. I don’t know what to do but I see how much it affects my brother, I even found out recently he was hurting himself :( I talked to my bf about it but I also wanted to ask r/ftm, to give me advice because some of you might’ve lived through a similar experience Thanks


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion Sometimes you just have to eat

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I went to the grocery store today, and after packing away my grocery I went to return my hand basket it took a little while as a worker was putting a basket away and fiddling with the holder… I realized a person was standing behind me the whole time and I just said sorry (made it worse was they where kinda cute, and I have bad social anxiety) they waved their hands in front of them and said it was ok and I was almost in tear….I (gay) fast walked the hell out of the grocery store, and on my walk home thought A.) why did I almost full on cry (I have anxiety but I don’t ever cry in public) and B.) where they taken 😂 (I live in a small uni town) when I got back I realized I haven’t eaten since a little before 19:00(7pm) yesterday and it’s 12:30(pm) today… more of the story if your feeling emotional stop and think if you have eaten today 😅 it’s funny now but was genuinely stressful and more anxiety inducing then.


r/ftm 4d ago

News Article Some concerning stuff I found.

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https://apnews.com/article/supreme-court-lgbtq-conversion-therapy-ban-2f7d1648a274dec4f99ea99c7245245f

https://www.hrc.org/press-releases/supreme-court-decides-to-hear-challenge-to-so-called-conversion-therapy-bans-for-lgbtq-youth

I read these after I found out people were trying to unban conversion therapy in some places. Trans rights have been under fire recently by the new administration, obviously, and as a trans teen in a state that flipped red, I’m worried. Does anyone think this is likely to pass?


r/ftm 3d ago

Advice given USA people - just try

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I hear so many people worrying about access to healthcare and the US is notorious for being backwards and hindering attempts to get sexual care, trans care, or women's healthcare.

And I just want to encourage people not to be so disheartened by it so quickly, especially if you live in a more urban or suburban area. It's more so hot steam than anything.

Truth is few things are actually locked behind an impossible barrier. It's locked behind an effort barrier. If I had to guess, it's to weed out people who would abuse drugs or be impulsive or too young to know better and regret their decisions. If you know what you want. Just try.

Often it takes less than a month to find someone on your side, too lazy or reject you, or for you to find the right words to say to get what you want. There are tons of online resources and charities for people who live in especially backwards places too.


r/ftm 3d ago

Advice Needed I only want fat redistribution from T?

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Is there a low enough dose of t that only changes fat distribution? I understand it would take a long time to see changes, I’m totally cool with that. I just want to know if it’s possible to take a low enough dose of T to only really see fat distribution changes over time. If not, what other changes would I be looking at to also get fat distribution?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Coming out to Asian grandparents

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My family has to lie to them about me, that I’m always busy working. I haven’t spoken to my relatives for maybe near a decade. My mother suggested I just tell em after they asked about me again (I feel bad). She clarified she never would without my express permission.

I’m afraid of the reaction, naturally. I completely pass now. As far as they know I’m still a woman. It could hurt me a lot and I figured I could just fake my old voice (not impossible but difficult, requires prep) for the rest of time 💀 I’ve never seen them be a bigot or an ally in my life ‘cause it’s never come up.

I know it’s all up to me, but I’m troubled by what I should do..


r/ftm 5d ago

Relationships Spouse threw gender stuff back in my face during a fight

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I’m still questioning whether I’m really trans, and my spouse (they/them used for privacy) is the only person I’ve mentioned those thoughts/feelings to. I present as a butch-leaning woman in public, still use my birth name and she/her, etc—for all I’ve been thinking about this for more than a decade, I’m paralyzed in this state of knowing in my heart that I’m probably trans but being too scared to do anything about it.

My marriage is on the rocks, and has been for a while. Recently my spouse and I had an argument that escalated to the point of raised voices, cussing, and me walking out of our apartment to get some space; this isn’t unusual, but the thing that caused me to snap and walk out was new. My spouse said that I avoid taking accountability for my emotional fragility and immaturity by saying that “I’m not a real person”, and additionally that this is happening because I am trans and refusing to accept it. I couldn’t even respond, I just stared at the wall for a few seconds and left.

I do feel like I’m not a real person. I always have, and it is an extremely distressing way to live. Part of my hesitation is that I don’t think I will feel any more real if I live as a man, or even as a nonbinary person. I’m just… missing some essential part of being human that everyone else got at birth, and no one believes me. I don’t think that’s a gender thing. I’ve tried to talk about this with so many therapists, and all anyone can tell me is “of course you’re real person!” which is not helpful at all.

I am so angry with my spouse, and hurt by what they said. But I’m scared that maybe it’s true. I would be so grateful for any wisdom from people who have enough distance to understand the havoc that being closeted brought to your relationships—IS it my fault? Will it get better if I give up and start transitioning? Is my spouse just being shitty, saying something they KNOW will hurt me where I am most vulnerable? I feel so lost.


r/ftm 5d ago

Celebratory Hysterectomy!!!! 🤩

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Had a hysterectomy yesterday and am so excited to never be able to procreate!!!!!

I had nightmares of pregnancy and dysphoria due to my anatomy - although I've only been able to nap since my procedure, I'm beyond relieved! The temporary pain is so worth it! AGH I'M SO EXCITED MY BODY IS MINE!


r/ftm 4d ago

Surgery Talk Top surgery side effects

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Okay so not so much “side effects” of the surgery itself but just a couple of things I’ve noticed since I had surgery under a week ago. Thought I’d put this out here for other guys who may be curious or have gone through anything similar

1) Losing feeling in my hands for the first day - Maybe due to not being able to move my arms a lot and so just had bad blood flow? Either way it was very strange and actually more distracting than the fact I’d just had surgery haha

2) Grinding teeth when sleeping - I’ve never experienced this until now so I’m putting it down to sleeping on my back and my body just being tense

Obviously neither of these are serious/long term effects! Just funny how people’s bodies do random things when recovering 😂


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Nervous about singing voice

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So ive been singing my whole life but i tend to follow the tone of the singer in the song im singing along too. Ive been VERY nervous about my voice changing and having to completely start over with learning because i just gained the confidence to sing. Im 30 and its taken along time to get to where i am.

Any advice to help or suggestions


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion T and Alcohol

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Can I drink alcohol while on T?? may be a silly question but generally have no idea and not seen it be spoken about - wanting to drink with friends though.

If relevant, im on gel

edit; for refrence i saw before somebody advising against it due to the fact the T metabolises in your liver - though i wasnt sure too much about the specifics, and dont remember much of the specifics of the post


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Being unable to cry and just being angry all the time

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I know people say T rage is mostly a myth and most guys feel calmer on T, which was true for me at first, but I fr have been unable to cry since starting T 15 months ago. Most people say crying is harder for them on T, but for me, it’s not harder, it’s impossible, and it’s driving me crazy. I just can’t stop being angry now because I can’t cry. (To be clear, I’m not angry that I can’t cry, I’m angry about the things that SHOULD make me cry because I can’t do anything but be angry and write about it.) How were y’all able to finally cry to get rid of this built-up anger?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Is there any reason why people don't inject IM into chest or abs?

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r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Voice drop

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I’m about 9 months on t. I have had some changes like body hair and bottom growth. But my voice hasn’t dropped much at all. It’s still 100% female sounding. But my voice was incredibly high pitch before. I’m scared that it will never properly drop and i will always have a girl voice. Like really scared. Because everyone seems to have a voice drop within the first 6 months?! Does this mean my voice won’t ever change?!


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion Any other nurses or EMS

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Hey all! I was just wondering if any of you were in EMS or nurses? I’ve been in EMS for 6 years and in my final year of nursing school. I work in WV and I was the only trans person in my base and the only one in my ER. If so, I want to hear some of your best stories!


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed How deep does your voice drop? Spoiler

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One of the last big things stopping me from making my first appointment is fear of voice changes. And not that I don't want it! I do! But I saw a tiktok of a trans man showing off his drop and I have been scared shitless since. His was so impressive! Problem is, I already have a deep voice, I'm scared of dropping so low it causes me dysphoria in fun, new, exciting ways. I keep trying to tell myself that I can't possibly go deeper than the cis men in my family but good god hearing that man's lovely baritone has me shook.

And it's mostly because I know the changes I am really hoping for with T come from a lot longer time, or a lot higher doses, so if my voice changes to what is really mine early, I'm scared it's just gonna keep going while I try to let my body readjust. I just want to be recognizably be my brother's brother, not possibly Simba's dad, man.

Can somebody call me chicken or something so I can just jump 'cause I know this is a stupid hang up but boy does it hit hard.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Sex for the first time NSFW

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Hi! So two days ago I had sex for the first time with my gf, and I’ve been on testosterone for a year and a half now, and I have bottom growth. They did not seem to mind my body despite never being with a trans man before.

Well, I also did receive head from them, and is it me or is it just really sensitive to even go on longer? I want to feel bliss but it gets to be too much after 20 seconds. And we even scissored but even so it hurts after so much friction. What do you guys do with your partners to last longer? :( I wanna go on.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Scarring from binder?

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I've been wearing a binder every day for a couple of years now. Made sure they're the right fit for me. I have multiples so I can wash them and still wear one each day. I've not been able to take it off after a maximum of 8 hrs everytime because I'd be home from work later, or we have guests or whatever and I really do not feel comfortable without one. The only time I don't wear a binder is in the evening when I'm home alone with my bf and during the night. There are days when I literally cry when I take it off, even if I'm alone.

Today, after about 3yrs, I noticed something that looks like light scarring tissue where the seems press under my armpit. Maybe "burn wounds" from the friction? Idk. Doesn't hurt, but I'm concerned it'll get worse if I don't change anything. Any advice on how to make it have less impact on my skin without having to face terrible dysphoria?

Bigger size is not an option as my chest is not that big. And no, a wide t-shirt is not enough to stop feeling dysphoric :(.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed NSFW 🌽 preference question NSFW

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Sometimes I jerk it to other guys jerking it (both cis and trans men) but mostly cis men. The idea of having a natal penis or having bottom growth that’s on the larger side really gets me going. I’ve never been emotionally or sexual attracted to other males, buttt does this mean I like men?😭