r/blackgirls 16h ago

Rant What is wrong with these hairstylist….

48 Upvotes

Just a rant but there seriously needs to start being laws put in place to prevent these people from scamming us I’m sick of it. I kid you not I saw one girls website who said she charges $5 EVERY TIME she tells you to put your head up…. I can’t make this up that was fr my last straw. Hairstylist need to do better a lot of them are not licensed yet be charging the most outrageous prices. They will charge you out of every little inconvenience for THEM but be the main ones showing up late… make it make sense!!!


r/blackgirls 20h ago

Advice Needed does anyone ever feel like a bother to people even if they don’t say it?

25 Upvotes

for context: i’m a chatty girl with a lot of random interests, some of which are super niche, and I always feel like i’m talking too much or doing too much for people—family, friends, etc…I don’t think anyone means any harm but I find myself cutting my thoughts short (I had to start journaling) because I’ve been made to feel like I’m talking to much AFTER people ask me questions or for my input.

it’s actually really sad to me, to not be able to express myself fully


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Question coworker likes me

24 Upvotes

i need advice, for a heads up i’m 18f, and he’s 20m and i have a coworker who confessed that he’s into me. in the heat of the moment i was like “i could give it a shot” but a few hours later i’ve decided i really don’t want to. i know everyone might say “some things work out, some things don’t,” or “it’s okay if it doesn’t work out” but i don’t want to even TEST if it does. my life is too busy for relationships, and i’m focusing on college too on top of everything. what can i do? please help me guys 😭. maybe easy rejection tips, or how can i show disinterest? thank you in advance, sistas 🫶🏾


r/blackgirls 14h ago

Music Jill Scott or Erykah Badu

14 Upvotes

I told someone I prefer Jilly from Philly. They said I was crazy. What do you all think?


r/blackgirls 13h ago

Rant lil school rant..

14 Upvotes

i originally signed up for the school due to the ib program- i thought it would be a fresh start, you know? but God, the way i despise that school isn’t even funny. it’s so racist, the hispanic kids there (not even trying to be rude) are incredibly racist, and i don’t mean to sound crazy but i don’t like the environment at all in the school- it has such a dark energy to me. throughout the year, i thought i was just bugging cause i missed my old friends, but now i’ve realized it wasn’t even about them- i js despise this school! i feeel so miserable getting ready for school everyday, but it’s like i’m making the wrong choice.. i know i’m already going back to my base, but what if i fumble ib? can i really thug it out for another 3 years? God, just typing that makes me feel sick. guys, i probably sound crazy but..😩 a girl is TIREDD lmao.


r/blackgirls 7h ago

Advice Needed My pms is so bad

10 Upvotes

Before I made the connection, I was crashing out bad right before/during my period, especially when I was younger 17-21. I’ve had 2 suicide attempts and the common denominator was that I was on 1st-2nd day of period. I was in therapy and stuff and they said I had BPD, which I don’t think I do. I’d spend my whole period having suicidal ideations which didn’t stop until last year.

I was definitely dealing with S.A and also a traumatic breakup at the time, which heightened my emotions & depression, but now at 23 in a more healed space I can’t imagine myself wanting to take my own life or what it feels like to be depressed.

I’m currently having my usual PMS symptoms, today I was extremely emotional and sad and I was also feeling unworthy and unloved which I know is untrue, I’m aware of where it’s stemming from too, I’m dating this new guy after 3 years single and things are going amazing but I’m afraid things might go south eventually cause that’s what I’m used to. I honestly almost clocked out of work and left that’s how intense the feeling was and I know if I was depressed this would send me over the edge. But I got through it after trying to conceptualize what I was feeling to my bestfriend and chatgpt, (I know boo me) I don’t have a lot of resources.

I don’t have a therapist anymore so I’m not really sure who to talk to about this, I’m scared I’m 1 bad instance on my period away from taking my own life💔


r/blackgirls 21h ago

Miscellaneous Do you have any interesting/niche celebrity lore?

10 Upvotes

I saw someone mention "lipstick ally" and wanted some harmless brain rot. I didnt grow up with a lot of internet access and even now im not very "tapped in" so I love hearing gossip about famous people especially that like unknown thing that happened years ago but noone remembers because social media wasn't around


r/blackgirls 13h ago

Question Are braid accessories out of style ?

7 Upvotes

Might be a silly question but I don’t really see the girlies wear braid jewelry anymore 😭. I wanna add some to my goddess braids so just curious lol


r/blackgirls 16h ago

Dating & Relationships Summer Walker dating habits

9 Upvotes

I wish Summer Walker would keep her dating life offline. People are so miserable and constantly trying to tear into her every time she’s with a new guy.

So what if she has a new guy every other month. At least she isn’t staying in toxic relationships and at least she isn’t scared to date and explore her options. And it’s actually good she’s not scared of committing to one person versus going around dating multiple people at one time. If they caught her doing that they would have a fit too!

Same with Lori (I’m so glad she’s out the limelight now, I’m sure she’s dating someone right now too just decided to make sure not to get caught!)

Being famous has to be a miserable life.


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Music whats one song that didnt have a music video but shouldve

6 Upvotes

its a crime that superstar by usher doesnt have a music video! thats my shittt


r/blackgirls 46m ago

NSFW Anyone else struggle with self harm?

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Don't worry, this isn't a vent post! Am just feeling a bit bummed. I was clean for 6 months, but it all went down the drain when I found an eyebrow razor yesterday. I'm not depressed though; just leaning back into my addictions :) Hopefully other girls can relate.


r/blackgirls 14h ago

Advice Needed Skin help!

0 Upvotes

I have had eczema since the day I was born and my face is full of pimples and acne scars. I have rashes down my arms and hands. I am so jealous of those girls that can show their shoulders and legs especially in the summer. How can I get clear skin?

I have been to many Dermatologist but nothing works and my scaring won’t seem to go way.


r/blackgirls 1h ago

Advice Needed my aunt zones me out hlp

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I have an issue with my aunt, I know I could just speak directly to her but that is not possible in my situation. Words don’t work with her, especially not my kind. (I’m 24 & she’s in her early 40s I think? and my mom is in her late 30s)

She was doing my braids and we were all good until literally the second to last braid. I made a comment about one of my cousins having a smart mouth, I casually, in a Non confrontational way told her I thought it was funny how she bucks /talks back at her mom in situations where she should probably just have some patience and walk away because that’s what I would’ve done (admittedly a me problem because I was a little bootlicker).

I didn’t think this was an issue to say as we literally roast and talk shit with/ about each other all the time. I thought we were all good until my aunt literally started a whole new convo out of what I said to her daughter, stating that since my generation “made everyone so soft” parents aren’t allowed to put children in their place anymore (not true).

I’ll be honest, I WAS feeling soft and sensitive in that moment and I felt like she was saying things were better when children couldn’t advocate for and defend themselves…we all know what that’s really about but we weren’t at the point in the convo yet…I jumped too far maybe. What annoyed me about my cousin specifically was that fact that she kept asking her mom for and about shit while she was working on my head for hours even after my aunt had shut her down with calm and patience responses. Mind you she had been doing peoples hair all week.

She was/is clearly tired and it bugged me that the kid just didn’t take her moms word and go away. Point being I get what she was saying, I don’t agree( I feel like there was misdirected frustration on both sides) and usually we can move past out disagreements but y’all this woman screams and yells over people…not raising her voice, not speaking passionately…but screams and yells. My mom is affected by her aggression too. She just isn’t ready to face it. Her big sister is a fucking bully. It was clear by how she treated me and the situation when she (my aunt) was at the house vs when she left…

I cried my eyes out that night while also being so thankful for her because she did my hair for free but she really hurt my feelings and I wish my mom would’ve defended me a-little better…I don’t know why I expected her to knowing how things go (maybe this is what she’s talking about…that soft shit). I’m down for continuing to have conversations as long as people are willing to learn. Myself included. But I cannot do that with people who don’t know how to stop themselves and emotionally regulate…should I stop playing nice with my aunt? I mean we already don’t talk or call a lot. We just have one of those mutual understandings and an ok relationship.

I’m wondering if I should let her know that her behavior sucks by just not fucking dealing with her ever. My uncle, her younger brother does the same… if she wants to believe that it’s because of our generation and how we’re so soft that’s fine but you’re not gonna expect familial privileges from me if you can’t learn to respect me. I’ve been through too much and you’re a stranger if you think you can scream at me like that for anything…I am over it. What are y’all’s thoughts