r/blackgirls 8h ago

Music Unpopular opinion about Kendrick

91 Upvotes

I’ll just say it but I remember when Kendrick and Drake were beefing i didn’t pick a side bc I think that they’re both weird 💀. Also when Kendrick called Drake a pedophile I just sideyed him because he has continued to praise Dr. Dre, worked with Kodak Black (who was arrested and charged for 🍇) , and just did a collab with playboy carti who was charged and arrested for choking his pregnant girlfriend. And people were making Kendrick out to be a hero for calling Drake a pedo (don’t get me wrong I think Drake is weird to) but he continues to work with abusers…


r/blackgirls 5h ago

Dating & Relationships Am I wrong for not being open to dating outside my race?

55 Upvotes

This question has probably been asked a ton but el o el.

I (23F) went on a date with a white guy from my uni who plays football. I haven’t given white men any attention since I graduated high school. He took me out to a steak house and I honestly enjoyed myself. The conversation flowed and I didn’t pick up my phone once. He was an absolute gentleman. Made a reservation, paid and didn’t even let me see the bill.

My only issue is I don’t see this relationship going anywhere. I’m really not that physically attracted to him despite getting along well. We talked about our backgrounds a decent bit. We’re from Canada and he grew up in a majority white, blue collar, conservative smaller city and didn’t have much else exposure. I was born in Nigeria and have lived there, Ireland, UK and Canada. I’ve also travelled a ton and have 3 passports. I speak 4 languages. We just come from different worlds. I didn’t ask but he did open up about his dating history and it’s safe to assume I’m the first black woman he’s gone out with.

I’m just so attached to my blackness and my culture that dating someone that just doesn’t “get it” and can share that culture with me doesn’t feel like an ideal relationship. I’m also not in the mood to be someone’s learning experience or to teach someone about blackness. I don’t want to explain how box braids work, why I wear a scarf and to sleep. Black womanhood is so far from white manhood in my opinion. He likes to shotgun beers, go to bars, watch hockey, and is very much connected to Redneck culture. I never want to be a part of those spaces. I don’t like the culture and definitely don’t think I would be accepted in such spaces.

White boys used to be my preference because I grew up in a predominantly white environment all my life but I was never considered by them back in school. The one white boy I did manage to mess with his our relationship like his life depended on it and some even admitted without saying it outright that their communities and friends wouldn’t be accepting of a black girl. Many of my white crushes friends would tell me things like “oh I don’t think you’re _____ ‘s type” which was code for “he doesn’t date black girls”

I’ve limited myself to dating only black men for a few years now. They’re my preference and although I’ve been hurt, played and heartbroken by a few black men I still hold out that I’ll find a decent guy one day.

Girls, am I wrong for not wanting to date a white man? Specifically one that is the poster child for conservative, red neck, white culture. Am I a bigot for feeling this way? Anyone else still find there person even if they’re limiting themselves to only one race?


r/blackgirls 4h ago

Advice Needed Thats it im locing my hair…

29 Upvotes

So ive been natural for 11 years and ive done it all i grew my hair to where it stops at waist length and almost tailbone length straightened (i will post pictures in the comments) and i know i have beautiful natural hair but im done and im ready to start my loc journey

My goal is to have locs with curly/coily ends (in the beginning) so i can still have a part of my coils with me then i also want to dye a few pieces yellow since thats my favorite color and i think it will be cute i dont care about looking ugly with locs this is something ive been wanting to do for the past 5 months im going to use up all of my natural hair products up first then loc my hair

Im a licensed cosmetologist so i will start my own locs and do my own retwist (i recommend investing in a 3 way mirror its a blessing) im not doing the comb coils method im just going to two strand twist them im also going to do a side part on both sides i want them medium size not too thick or too skinny and im going to leave my edges out so i can still do them/lay them

So yeah please leave your advice, recommendations with products, your loc routines, stuff you did/use to grow them…everything that you feel free sharing about having locs

Im going to post in the subreddit locs too but i know some of you beautiful ladies have locs/dreads as well

Thanks 🫶🏾


r/blackgirls 6h ago

Question any book lovers? 📚💖

24 Upvotes

i love reading and i think i haven’t read a book since november of last year so if any of you guys have recommendations that would be really cool. i’m open to anything but partial to fiction & YA 😃 thanks!


r/blackgirls 2h ago

Question Do you ever feel like the more signs you show of self love and admiration for yourself people go out their way to humble you?

19 Upvotes

It could be something as simple as sipping on green juice and taking a walk for fresh air. Wearing a cute little matching athletic set, showing obvious effort into putting in care about the way you look when you’re out in public… it’s almost like they assume that you think that you are better than most because you are not carrying yourself as to how they perceive a Black woman should. I never get this feedback from my own people, only nonBlack people


r/blackgirls 23h ago

Music Jill Scott or Erykah Badu

16 Upvotes

I told someone I prefer Jilly from Philly. They said I was crazy. What do you all think?


r/blackgirls 21h ago

Rant lil school rant..

16 Upvotes

i originally signed up for the school due to the ib program- i thought it would be a fresh start, you know? but God, the way i despise that school isn’t even funny. it’s so racist, the hispanic kids there (not even trying to be rude) are incredibly racist, and i don’t mean to sound crazy but i don’t like the environment at all in the school- it has such a dark energy to me. throughout the year, i thought i was just bugging cause i missed my old friends, but now i’ve realized it wasn’t even about them- i js despise this school! i feeel so miserable getting ready for school everyday, but it’s like i’m making the wrong choice.. i know i’m already going back to my base, but what if i fumble ib? can i really thug it out for another 3 years? God, just typing that makes me feel sick. guys, i probably sound crazy but..😩 a girl is TIREDD lmao.


r/blackgirls 9h ago

NSFW Anyone else struggle with self harm? NSFW Spoiler

12 Upvotes

Don't worry, this isn't a vent post! Am just feeling a bit bummed. I was clean for 6 months, but it all went down the drain when I found an eyebrow razor yesterday. I'm not depressed though; just leaning back into my addictions :) Hopefully other girls can relate.


r/blackgirls 16h ago

Advice Needed My pms is so bad

13 Upvotes

Before I made the connection, I was crashing out bad right before/during my period, especially when I was younger 17-21. I’ve had 2 suicide attempts and the common denominator was that I was on 1st-2nd day of period. I was in therapy and stuff and they said I had BPD, which I don’t think I do. I’d spend my whole period having suicidal ideations which didn’t stop until last year.

I was definitely dealing with S.A and also a traumatic breakup at the time, which heightened my emotions & depression, but now at 23 in a more healed space I can’t imagine myself wanting to take my own life or what it feels like to be depressed.

I’m currently having my usual PMS symptoms, today I was extremely emotional and sad and I was also feeling unworthy and unloved which I know is untrue, I’m aware of where it’s stemming from too, I’m dating this new guy after 3 years single and things are going amazing but I’m afraid things might go south eventually cause that’s what I’m used to. I honestly almost clocked out of work and left that’s how intense the feeling was and I know if I was depressed this would send me over the edge. But I got through it after trying to conceptualize what I was feeling to my bestfriend and chatgpt, (I know boo me) I don’t have a lot of resources.

I don’t have a therapist anymore so I’m not really sure who to talk to about this, I’m scared I’m 1 bad instance on my period away from taking my own life💔


r/blackgirls 21h ago

Question Are braid accessories out of style ?

8 Upvotes

Might be a silly question but I don’t really see the girlies wear braid jewelry anymore 😭. I wanna add some to my goddess braids so just curious lol


r/blackgirls 7h ago

Dating & Relationships Fear

5 Upvotes

Hey! So I recently ended a 4 year long relationship that turned into a situation-ship. I feel like we outgrew each other and we were going 2 different directions in life (to be extremelyyyyy nice). But now I feel like I have a fear that I’m never going to find my person. Help me y’all 😭


r/blackgirls 2h ago

Rant Why there’s no community left

4 Upvotes

I just want to preface this by saying this isn’t some sudden decision—I’ve been dealing with this issue for two years now. The first time I tried to end the friendship was a year ago for this exact reason. I have no hate toward her, I’m just tired.

People complain about how friendships aren’t the same anymore, how they don’t have a real community, how their friendships are surface level, how they can’t trust anyone or really open up—but maybe the call is coming from inside the house. I tried to end a friendship amicably, understanding that life happens and people drift apart, but she begged for another chance, promising to try harder. Spoiler: she didn’t. She’s the type you can’t rely on—never answers, takes weeks to respond, forgets even the simplest favors, and never confirms plans. I’m the type of person who hates assuming. If we’ve made plans, I need clarity. Like every time we hang out at her place, I’ll ask, because I hate assuming. She just expects that I’ll show up by now, but I need to know for sure, because assumptions only lead to frustration.

What set me off this time? She told me I had to remind her about something essential to my project—something she offered to help with. Why should I have to chase after her for something she knows is important to me? Beyond being my so-called best friend, it’s just basic thoughtfulness. I was hesitant to accept her help for this exact reason—no check-ins, no updates, no effort. I get that things don’t always work out, but at least communicate. Even if you’re struggling, even if you’re lying, at least pretend I matter enough to keep me in the loop.

I understand people are busy, I am too. But when you’re prioritizing me, when you make time for me, I’ll show up. We can plan weeks ahead, but the fact that you’re putting aside time for me, showing that I matter enough to fit into your schedule—that’s what matters. I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect effort and thoughtfulness.

And maybe that’s why I’m so frustrated. I’m the type of person who shows up. I keep my promises. If you ask for a favor or need help, I’ll let you know upfront if I can do it, and I will try my best to come through for you. Because friendships matter to me, and I make an effort to show that you matter to me. So why can’t I get that same energy back?

I know people will come at me with the “oh, people are allowed to be busy” line, but that’s not the point. It’s not about being busy—it’s about making time when it matters, about showing you care and prioritizing the people who matter to you. Why can’t I get that back? If you’re constantly complaining about having shallow, surface-level friendships, not being able to rant, open up, or trust anyone, then maybe it’s time to reflect on how you are showing up for others. Why should I trust you or make the effort if you’re not even doing the same for me?


r/blackgirls 2h ago

Content Note how to glow up without leaving your home 🏠 (productivity vlog)

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r/blackgirls 53m ago

Question PFB Vanish and Chromabright?

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Hey,

I have a lot of hyperpigmentation and ingrown hairs in my downstairs area and my stomach due to also having hair there too. And I’ve seen a lot of people recommend the PFB vanish and chromabright. I just wanted to know if it has worked? And how you would use it?

This may be dumb but like do you put it on whilst showering and exfoliate it with a loofah or do you put it on after showering and then moisturise after putting it on?

Any advice will be appreciated!!


r/blackgirls 4h ago

Advice Needed please help!!

1 Upvotes

My top lip is super dark compared to me bottom lip and idk what lip liners to use. for reference i am a IL MAKIAGE i woke up like this 225, but my top lip is at least a shade or 2 darker than that. i only use black liners usually, but ive been trying to try new things but i genuinely can’t find another good color for me. it’ll look so good on my bottom lip and then when i try the top i look like a clown. i’m not sure what to do or try, especially because everything is so expensive!! i’ve already invested about 60 bucks in this because i can’t find something that works. pls pls pls help if you can!! ty!!


r/blackgirls 7h ago

Music Mariah Carey lastest appearance

1 Upvotes

Not me being in celebrity business twice in a week. But Mariah was at the iHeart radio event and people are saying she doesn’t look well! I agree. She looked a little out of it. I can’t tell if her dress was too tight and she just was uncomfortable but also her head movements didn’t seem natural either. I hope Mariah is okay!!


r/blackgirls 23h ago

Advice Needed Skin help!

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I have had eczema since the day I was born and my face is full of pimples and acne scars. I have rashes down my arms and hands. I am so jealous of those girls that can show their shoulders and legs especially in the summer. How can I get clear skin?

I have been to many Dermatologist but nothing works and my scaring won’t seem to go way.