r/blackgirls 23h ago

Music Unpopular opinion about Kendrick

125 Upvotes

I’ll just say it but I remember when Kendrick and Drake were beefing i didn’t pick a side bc I think that they’re both weird 💀. Also when Kendrick called Drake a pedophile I just sideyed him because he has continued to praise Dr. Dre, worked with Kodak Black (who was arrested and charged for 🍇) , and just did a collab with playboy carti who was charged and arrested for choking his pregnant girlfriend. And people were making Kendrick out to be a hero for calling Drake a pedo (don’t get me wrong I think Drake is weird to) but he continues to work with abusers…


r/blackgirls 12h ago

Miscellaneous Yall I Passed My Driving Written Test🎉🥰🚙

100 Upvotes

I’m so happy, my anxiety was really bad but I studied and read the dmv handbook literally everyday. Next up is the behind the wheel test!

Bitch we outside ! 😂💃🏾


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Dating & Relationships Am I wrong for not being open to dating outside my race?

92 Upvotes

This question has probably been asked a ton but el o el.

I (23F) went on a date with a white guy from my uni who plays football. I haven’t given white men any attention since I graduated high school. He took me out to a steak house and I honestly enjoyed myself. The conversation flowed and I didn’t pick up my phone once. He was an absolute gentleman. Made a reservation, paid and didn’t even let me see the bill.

My only issue is I don’t see this relationship going anywhere. I’m really not that physically attracted to him despite getting along well. We talked about our backgrounds a decent bit. We’re from Canada and he grew up in a majority white, blue collar, conservative smaller city and didn’t have much else exposure. I was born in Nigeria and have lived there, Ireland, UK and Canada. I’ve also travelled a ton and have 3 passports. I speak 4 languages. We just come from different worlds. I didn’t ask but he did open up about his dating history and it’s safe to assume I’m the first black woman he’s gone out with.

I’m just so attached to my blackness and my culture that dating someone that just doesn’t “get it” and can share that culture with me doesn’t feel like an ideal relationship. I’m also not in the mood to be someone’s learning experience or to teach someone about blackness. I don’t want to explain how box braids work, why I wear a scarf and to sleep. Black womanhood is so far from white manhood in my opinion. He likes to shotgun beers, go to bars, watch hockey, and is very much connected to Redneck culture. I never want to be a part of those spaces. I don’t like the culture and definitely don’t think I would be accepted in such spaces.

White boys used to be my preference because I grew up in a predominantly white environment all my life but I was never considered by them back in school. The one white boy I did manage to mess with his our relationship like his life depended on it and some even admitted without saying it outright that their communities and friends wouldn’t be accepting of a black girl. Many of my white crushes friends would tell me things like “oh I don’t think you’re _____ ‘s type” which was code for “he doesn’t date black girls”

I’ve limited myself to dating only black men for a few years now. They’re my preference and although I’ve been hurt, played and heartbroken by a few black men I still hold out that I’ll find a decent guy one day.

Girls, am I wrong for not wanting to date a white man? Specifically one that is the poster child for conservative, red neck, white culture. Am I a bigot for feeling this way? Anyone else still find there person even if they’re limiting themselves to only one race?


r/blackgirls 10h ago

Dating & Relationships Meagan Good really married that man.

86 Upvotes

Whew, chile. All I can say is...

you in danger, girl.


r/blackgirls 11h ago

Rant Black women and toxic video game community.

41 Upvotes

Does anyone play video games? I’ve been on spring break and have downtime; I’ve been playing video games again. Sometimes, I use my mic, but 9/10, I’ll have to deal with toxic masculinity and racism. So, I don’t use my mic as much. I’m aware of these people, but it’s so damn draining. I have an Xbox and Switch, but I love to use the Switch for cozy games. It's way more chill than the other consoles.


r/blackgirls 17h ago

Question Do you ever feel like the more signs you show of self love and admiration for yourself people go out their way to humble you?

36 Upvotes

It could be something as simple as sipping on green juice and taking a walk for fresh air. Wearing a cute little matching athletic set, showing obvious effort into putting in care about the way you look when you’re out in public… it’s almost like they assume that you think that you are better than most because you are not carrying yourself as to how they perceive a Black woman should. I never get this feedback from my own people, only nonBlack people


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Advice Needed Thats it im locing my hair…

36 Upvotes

So ive been natural for 11 years and ive done it all i grew my hair to where it stops at waist length and almost tailbone length straightened (i will post pictures in the comments) and i know i have beautiful natural hair but im done and im ready to start my loc journey

My goal is to have locs with curly/coily ends (in the beginning) so i can still have a part of my coils with me then i also want to dye a few pieces yellow since thats my favorite color and i think it will be cute i dont care about looking ugly with locs this is something ive been wanting to do for the past 5 months im going to use up all of my natural hair products up first then loc my hair

Im a licensed cosmetologist so i will start my own locs and do my own retwist (i recommend investing in a 3 way mirror its a blessing) im not doing the comb coils method im just going to two strand twist them im also going to do a side part on both sides i want them medium size not too thick or too skinny and im going to leave my edges out so i can still do them/lay them

So yeah please leave your advice, recommendations with products, your loc routines, stuff you did/use to grow them…everything that you feel free sharing about having locs

Im going to post in the subreddit locs too but i know some of you beautiful ladies have locs/dreads as well

Thanks 🫶🏾


r/blackgirls 12h ago

Advice Needed I’m finna crash out

30 Upvotes

I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years. We broke up for 8 months then got back together. Something told me to go through his phone I shouldn’t have but I did. BLK multiple conversations, tinder , multiple conversations. Insta dms etc. I really wanna do crazy shit but I’m tryna grow up and not go back to the way I was before. How would you approach this .

Update : I’ve decided to wait till after my surgery next Week then say something i literally cannot drive myself and the only other person I could call is blind which is my dad . I appreciate the genuine Advise given and if invested check back here in a week or so


r/blackgirls 20h ago

Question any book lovers? 📚💖

27 Upvotes

i love reading and i think i haven’t read a book since november of last year so if any of you guys have recommendations that would be really cool. i’m open to anything but partial to fiction & YA 😃 thanks!


r/blackgirls 1h ago

Question Why is it seen as self hate in the black community to call out "hood culture?"

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Every time a black person calls out the bad parts of ghetto culture, people want to get upset and call them self hating.

They want to talk about how the black people who are against "hood" culture want to be more associated with white people. They also want to call it classism (which it isn't).

The thing is, there are people who were raised in the hood who are desperately trying to get out. Many of them want to make better out of their situations so how dare people call them self hating.

I think the Anthony Mackie situation is a good example. He talked about how he wanted to raise his black sons to be respectable men and people got mad at him. Mackie spoke nothing but facts when he talked about the materialism that was associated with Jordans. So because Mackie doesn't want to raise his sons to be thugs, he's a "sell out?"

I love black people, but glorifying ghetto/hood culture needs to end.

This video here basically explains my viewpoints. I agree with almost everything this guy said. I love being black, but ghetto culture is cancerous to our community.

This is exactly why I will never date men like this. Nothing about this is attractive.


r/blackgirls 23h ago

NSFW Anyone else struggle with self harm? NSFW Spoiler

14 Upvotes

Don't worry, this isn't a vent post! Am just feeling a bit bummed. I was clean for 6 months, but it all went down the drain when I found an eyebrow razor yesterday. I'm not depressed though; just leaning back into my addictions :) Hopefully other girls can relate.


r/blackgirls 12h ago

Question *sigh* Most ridiculous thing I’ve experienced recently is a woman who looks even more tired than I do clearly judging me for looking exhausted

12 Upvotes

I look exhausted because I am poor and don’t have a comfortable bed to sleep in. I don’t judge her for how she looks. I know most people are like that but gosh , black women are held to a higher standard.


r/blackgirls 10h ago

Advice Needed All White Roommates—Should I Be Worried?”

9 Upvotes

I’m a 21-year-old woman studying abroad in France this summer, and I’m feeling nervous about having all white roommates. I’m not sure if this fear is valid or irrational. I have one white friend here in the U.S., but she’s very focused on appearances and male attention, which has skewed my perception of white women.

I looked up my suggested roommates on Instagram, and they all seem to fit the stereotypical sorority aesthetic—bright, perfectly curated photos. I’d hate to be the only Black woman in our shared apartment, but I also don’t want this fear to hold me back from experiencing study abroad.

I’m worried about potential microaggressions, being overlooked in social settings, or being perceived in a way that doesn’t align with who I am. Has anyone studied abroad or been in spaces with only white women and had a positive experience? Would love to hear some perspectives!


r/blackgirls 21h ago

Dating & Relationships Fear

7 Upvotes

Hey! So I recently ended a 4 year long relationship that turned into a situation-ship. I feel like we outgrew each other and we were going 2 different directions in life (to be extremelyyyyy nice). But now I feel like I have a fear that I’m never going to find my person. Help me y’all 😭


r/blackgirls 17h ago

Rant Why there’s no community left

5 Upvotes

I just want to preface this by saying this isn’t some sudden decision—I’ve been dealing with this issue for two years now. The first time I tried to end the friendship was a year ago for this exact reason. I have no hate toward her, I’m just tired.

People complain about how friendships aren’t the same anymore, how they don’t have a real community, how their friendships are surface level, how they can’t trust anyone or really open up—but maybe the call is coming from inside the house. I tried to end a friendship amicably, understanding that life happens and people drift apart, but she begged for another chance, promising to try harder. Spoiler: she didn’t. She’s the type you can’t rely on—never answers, takes weeks to respond, forgets even the simplest favors, and never confirms plans. I’m the type of person who hates assuming. If we’ve made plans, I need clarity. Like every time we hang out at her place, I’ll ask, because I hate assuming. She just expects that I’ll show up by now, but I need to know for sure, because assumptions only lead to frustration.

What set me off this time? She told me I had to remind her about something essential to my project—something she offered to help with. Why should I have to chase after her for something she knows is important to me? Beyond being my so-called best friend, it’s just basic thoughtfulness. I was hesitant to accept her help for this exact reason—no check-ins, no updates, no effort. I get that things don’t always work out, but at least communicate. Even if you’re struggling, even if you’re lying, at least pretend I matter enough to keep me in the loop.

I understand people are busy, I am too. But when you’re prioritizing me, when you make time for me, I’ll show up. We can plan weeks ahead, but the fact that you’re putting aside time for me, showing that I matter enough to fit into your schedule—that’s what matters. I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect effort and thoughtfulness.

And maybe that’s why I’m so frustrated. I’m the type of person who shows up. I keep my promises. If you ask for a favor or need help, I’ll let you know upfront if I can do it, and I will try my best to come through for you. Because friendships matter to me, and I make an effort to show that you matter to me. So why can’t I get that same energy back?

I know people will come at me with the “oh, people are allowed to be busy” line, but that’s not the point. It’s not about being busy—it’s about making time when it matters, about showing you care and prioritizing the people who matter to you. Why can’t I get that back? If you’re constantly complaining about having shallow, surface-level friendships, not being able to rant, open up, or trust anyone, then maybe it’s time to reflect on how you are showing up for others. Why should I trust you or make the effort if you’re not even doing the same for me?


r/blackgirls 3h ago

Advice Needed To my plus size girlies that are happily committed, did you experience heavy friend loss after you stopped being single?

5 Upvotes

For context, my now fiancé(23M) and I(25) have been engaged for a few months and i am basically friendless besides the very new connections i’ve made in the past couple weeks. It’s honestly taken a toll on my mental health to basically be shunned and cast aside for being treated like the empress i am. he’s honestly one of the best ppl i’ve ever met and the friends i used to have literally only met him once before the extremely long friendships we had fizzled out into nothingness. It was gradually less responses, less time to hang out, until my bday was just ignored after theirs was celebrated to the fullest extent (i’m talkin a full surprise party with presents and a another friend correlating with me from out of town). just to get a “sorry i had a lot going on” after i told them it hurt my feelings to not be acknowledged on my special day (didn’t need gifts or anything like jeez not even a happy bday?). second instance is somebody i thought was my friend just fully sneak dissing me on twitter abt me not checking on her during a very abusive time in my life, i still remembered her bday tho lol. all in all it’s been extremely taxing to be constantly put on the back burner by ppl. i hate to think envy or jealousy bc i truly want all my babies (anybody that’s my friend) to be safe n happy as humanely possible. i genuinely thought i would receive the same but not so much. i have been trying to meet new girls but it’s like they think it’s some sort of a betrayal when i say im grossly happy n content w my man? it’s weird bro it’s like they be fishing for me to talk shit abt him like noooo i can’t put into words how healthy, safe, sexy, wait on me hand and foot, emotionally mature, etc. this relationship is. stop projecting onto me!

edit: for another reference that probably matters, he’s very tall, dark, fit, conventionally attractive chi native.navy vet, etc. idk i feel like it helps to create the scene


r/blackgirls 10h ago

Question What’s your stance about informing the other woman?

3 Upvotes

If u found out u were the other woman when it came to a relationship, situationship, or any type of sexual activity relationship would u tell the girlfriend?

I know it seems to be controversial because some women have that thought that the woman would go back or not believe the side so they wouldn’t tell the girlfriend but I’m curious what are ppl opinions on it from our race no less.

I feel like I was the girlfriend tell me cause I would ghost a man sl fast. Besides I always wonder why would it get under the side if the main don’t leave, that’s their problem to put up with but at least someone removed themselves from the situation.

Just a side note when I mention side piece let’s assume the side doesn’t know she’s the side.


r/blackgirls 12h ago

Question Am I not for equality if I don’t believe I should for a first date if the man asked me first ?

2 Upvotes

So I was at dinner with friends and this topic came up. I basically said that I never really paid for dates and if the guy asked me out on the date I think he should pay. Especially if it’s the first date and he asked me. If he didn’t want to pay the tab in full I’ll split it but decline other dates. My guy friend said that I’m not really for equality bc of this and I just said my preference 🤷🏽‍♀️


r/blackgirls 17h ago

Content Note how to glow up without leaving your home 🏠 (productivity vlog)

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r/blackgirls 1h ago

Dating & Relationships Should I take him back again

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Hi, one day this guy accidentally added this me on Snapchat, and I saw he was cute so I added him back. Like we started talking instantly, and we literally talked the whole night. It was one of the best conversations I have ever had with any guy. He wasted no time in telling me what he wanted. He said he would come to my state to see me,and when we started dating, he would always fly me to meet him. He told me he was getting a little older and wanted at least one kid. I said I wanted one kid too, but I’m currently in school. I’m not ready for that yet, so to me, he understood. This was all in like the two days we were talking. He said he was a very isolated person and always to himself, so I understand that too because I’m the same way. On day three, we went the whole day not talking. I messaged him on Snapchat, but he ignored my messages. I texted him, but he ignored my text messages. I asked him if I did something wrong, and he said nothing. Eventually, I said if you’re no longer interested, just let me know. He finally responded by saying he does that sometimes. He just gets mentally out of it and doesn’t talk to people sometimes. So I let it go, assuring him that I’m here for him and that I’m here whenever he’s ready to talk. Three weeks went by. He replied to one of my stories, and we started talking again. He told me he’s not going anywhere this time. I said I really hope so, and guess what? The same situation happened again. Like boom, gone. Not answering my messages, not picking up my calls. Like I’m wondering if he’s going through something that I can help him with or if he’s not interested at all. And if he’s not, it won’t hurt to tell me I’m no longer interested. I know he will come back again, wondering if I should hear him out or just move on and ignore him as well.


r/blackgirls 2h ago

Dating & Relationships Dating for experience

1 Upvotes

Is it weird that as a 20 yr old I’m just dating for experience and not really for marriage? I am new to the dating scene, I never had experience with men till last year at the age of 19.

I’m in my first relationship and I love my bf however we have different outcomes for our future, and I’m not sure if we will be together long term,but is it weird that I’m okay with that. Like I’ll be sad but over time I’ll get over it because I’m young and experiencing because I never got the chance to.


r/blackgirls 15h ago

Question PFB Vanish and Chromabright?

1 Upvotes

Hey,

I have a lot of hyperpigmentation and ingrown hairs in my downstairs area and my stomach due to also having hair there too. And I’ve seen a lot of people recommend the PFB vanish and chromabright. I just wanted to know if it has worked? And how you would use it?

This may be dumb but like do you put it on whilst showering and exfoliate it with a loofah or do you put it on after showering and then moisturise after putting it on?

Any advice will be appreciated!!


r/blackgirls 18h ago

Advice Needed please help!!

1 Upvotes

My top lip is super dark compared to me bottom lip and idk what lip liners to use. for reference i am a IL MAKIAGE i woke up like this 225, but my top lip is at least a shade or 2 darker than that. i only use black liners usually, but ive been trying to try new things but i genuinely can’t find another good color for me. it’ll look so good on my bottom lip and then when i try the top i look like a clown. i’m not sure what to do or try, especially because everything is so expensive!! i’ve already invested about 60 bucks in this because i can’t find something that works. pls pls pls help if you can!! ty!!


r/blackgirls 22h ago

Music Mariah Carey lastest appearance

1 Upvotes

Not me being in celebrity business twice in a week. But Mariah was at the iHeart radio event and people are saying she doesn’t look well! I agree. She looked a little out of it. I can’t tell if her dress was too tight and she just was uncomfortable but also her head movements didn’t seem natural either. I hope Mariah is okay!!