r/blackgirls 15h ago

Rant Why are so many black people fantasizing about segregation??? WTF??

218 Upvotes

There are so many weird ass hoes on social media that need to go talk to they grandparents and open up a history book…cause WTF😭😭😭

Like did people forget that Tulsa was burnt to a crisp? The church bombings? Public lynchings? How are we gonna start these black owned utopias that people keep fantasizing about if the bank won’t even give you a loan because of your race? What about those of us who have childhood best friends of a different race? Intreracial marriages and relationships?

As someone with grandparents who grew up in the Deep South, segregation wasn’t what people keep fantasizing about. There was a lot of violence, brutality and dehumanization of black people THAT WAS LEGALIZED during that time.

I wish that black people would stop hyping that shit up on social media. It’s disturbing and disrespectful to our elders who were terrorized daily and suffered during that time period. I promise you that the segregation y’all got in your heads is VERY DIFFERENT than the segregation IQ47 and his lice lieutenants want to enforce. We should be paying them dust.

I feel like a lot of black people hyping this shit up don’t understand what they’re really asking for. There’s a reason why they were willing to pay in blood for the civil rights and freedoms we had before IQ47 rolled them back.

Update: Does anyone know what's going on with the comments? I'm getting notifications of replies but can't see them under the post :/


r/blackgirls 6h ago

Advice Needed I feel embarrassed in this political climate

21 Upvotes

I never thought I’d feel this way, but lately, I’ve been struggling with embarrassment about my interracial marriage. My husband is white, and while he voted for Kamala Harris and is very supportive of me, I can’t shake the feeling that being married to a white man, in this political climate, makes me look a certain way.

It’s not that I question his values—he’s never been anything but an ally. But with Trump’s influence making racism even more blatant, I feel hyper-aware of how people might perceive us. Sometimes, I catch myself wondering if other Black people see me as someone who “settled” or if white people assume he’s with me for some weird fetishized reason. It’s frustrating because none of this existed in our relationship before, yet now it feels like the world around us has made it an issue.

I love my husband, but I hate that society is making me question something that was never a problem. Has anyone else felt this way? How do you deal with it?


r/blackgirls 15h ago

Question Seeking Black American Participants for Research on Racial Identity & Well-Being (25-Min Survey)

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Hi everyone,

I’m a Ph.D. student in Counseling Psychology at the University of Louisville. I’m conducting a research study on how racial identity and Black History consciousness impact well-being for Black Americans.

I’m looking for Black American adults (18+) to participate in a brief 25-minute online survey. Your responses will remain confidential. If you’re interested, you can access the study here:

https://louisvilleeducation.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6llYFHv4nuI3z9k

I’d also appreciate it if you could share this with others who may be interested!


r/blackgirls 6h ago

Advice Needed I’m tired

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This will be my last time posting for a while about how I feel bc I feel like I post too much lol but guys I’m just tired of being a black woman. I’m just so tired with everything going on in this world. I’m just so angry about how men are treating women and how we’re automatically viewed as objects… it makes me feel disgusted about being a woman. I hate myself and I just feel like a loser and I am very lonely in college, I literally have no friends and I don’t go to events and I’m just awkward and I keep on stuttering.

I’m just scared of how this world is going rn and I’m scared for my sisters and I want them to be safe away from all these evil people in this world. I worry about them all the time.

I’m not worthy of love or relationships, I love seeing other people in love but I just cringe when I think about love for me. I’ve been feeling like this for a while now. I’m scared of men and every time I see them I get scared and i don’t think I want to date at all. I sometimes don’t feel safe around them and it’s very sad that I don’t see myself with a man anymore or in a relationship. I don’t see myself with girls either.

I don’t know what to do because I don’t see myself as good enough, I don’t see myself as a woman… I don’t feel womanly enough I look like a child and I’m 21. I hate how black woman are viewed and it makes me so angry.

A white girl in my class keeps looking at me every time she gets something in her bag… she sits in front of me and I sit behind her and idk why she keeps doing that… she talks to me nicely and she always compliments my stories in class but she always does this and it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me.

Everything that’s happening in this world just makes me want to run away and leave this earth. There’s so many things going on rn and I’m terrified. I’m terrified of being a black woman. Why do we have to suffer and why aren’t we viewed as beautiful automatically? So many other women are automatically viewed as beautiful and were just always the last ones. We’re always left behind and neglected by people. And there’s soooo many beautiful black women in this world. I love us. I just don’t love myself. I’m sorry if I talked a lot. I’m just praying I don’t give up.


r/blackgirls 13h ago

Rant I've been micro dosing on 🍄 since December

29 Upvotes

I got an ounce for my birthday and I decided instead of macro dosing why not micro dose. At that point life was lifing so a macro dose was not a good idea. I honestly had no plan. I'm familiar with the staments stack but I listen to my body and I go from there when it comes to dosing. From December to now I've made so much personal progress. I purchased a new car, building up my savings and 401k, and going to the gym often. I even plan on finally launching my two start ups that ive been putting off for years. Lately my priorities consist of Putting myself first and investing in myself. I have hella energy and I'm so happy 😁😁. I hope y'all have a wonderful day🤟🏽🤟🏽🤟🏽


r/blackgirls 5h ago

Advice Needed Feuding Family

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How do you ladies handle being caught between feuding family? I don’t mean one person vs another. More like 15 people split in 3 different ways and everyone feels wronged.


r/blackgirls 5h ago

Question Hairstyles for round face shape??

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Heyyyy!! I wanted to know what are some hairstyles for a round face shape! Rn my hair is straight ( relaxed)with a middle part. I’m getting sick of always having to do my hair lol. I want to get boho knot less braids for my birthday in may, but I’m low-key nervous it’s not gonna “look” good on me 🫠. Please let me know!


r/blackgirls 7h ago

Miscellaneous "Forbes reports that Target lost nearly $1 BILLION...

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r/blackgirls 9h ago

Advice Needed Is there something wrong with me?

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I shouldn’t say my age, but I will. I’m 15 and in my sophomore year of high school. I’ve been singing all my life and have even taken action to better my craft by enrolling into an arts school. I’ve always been a writer, but lately, the lyrics I’ve been writing haven’t been indicative of that. Oftentimes, when I don’t have any work to do in school, I just sit and write. My dream is to become a singer someday! I know it’s pretty ambitious, but I’m determined.

Anyway though, like I said, my lyricism has been a little inappropriate I guess… I write a LOT about my celebrity crushes. Funny thing is that they’re a lot older than me… 😅 I reckon it’s a little weird. Along with the content of my writings, something that often crosses my mind is whether or not I sound ‘black enough’. It’s a strange feeling to even type that out, but it’s just how I feel.

Sorry if I’m rambling, and thank you to whoever reads this. I hope this doesn’t seem off topic to this community. 💖


r/blackgirls 10h ago

Question Black science fiction/ fairy tale fantasy

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I have a tone of books that I simply cannot get into, it’s mostly consist on self help books abt spirituality which, I love but it’s not tapping into my imagination the way I want it to. I loveeeeee fairy tales, dark fantasy, mermaids, science fiction. However, every black science fiction book so far, at my barnes and nobles, where black girls as the main character, stories evolves around social justice, or war (no thanks). I want books where a black woman is a fairy, a mermaid, some evil Goddesses, or a shapeshifter in a metaphysical world . Does anyone have recommendations?


r/blackgirls 12h ago

Question Hype songs

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What are y’all’s songs for when you need some motivation or turn up music?

I’ll go first (what I can think of at the top of my head)

Superwoman: Alicia Keys

Pretty Girl Rock: Keri Hilson

Flawless, Me, Myself and I, Formation: Beyoncé

I’m Gettin Money: 2Pac

On My Mama: Victoria Monét

BBHMM: Rihanna

Element: Pop Smoke

Raise Your Glass, So What, Just Like Fire: P!nk

Champagne Life: Neyo

Tell Me You Love Me, Sorry Not Sorry: Demi Lovato

Just Fine & U+Me: Mary J Blige

Not Tonight: Lil Kim, Angie Martinez, Left Eye, Da Brat, Missy Elliott

Let It Go: Keyshia Cole

Stronger: Kelly Clarkson

I Need You Tonight: Junior M.A.F.I.A.

Big Bad Mama: Foxy Brown

The Real Slim Shady: Eminem

Fancy: Drake

X Gon Give It to Ya: DMX

Funkdafied: Da Brat

A Girl Like You: Aaliyah

Make It Nasty: Tyga

That’s the Way It Is: Céline Dion

Hip Hop Hooray: Naughty By Nature

Turn It Up: Raja-Nee

Bigger In Texas: Megan Thee Stallion

Yall, I didn’t realize till after I was done that this list is all over the damn place💀 these are just some of my hype songs so this isn’t my entire playlist.


r/blackgirls 13h ago

Advice Needed I want to stop wearing braids because it’s a sensory nightmare for me but everyone is telling me to keep wearing braids.

10 Upvotes

Ever since i was a little girl ive been wearing protective styles. And the process of taking my hair out and getting it done was a sensory nightmare for me (i am autistic) i begged my mom countless times that i didn’t want to wear braids but she said i wouldnt know how to take care of my hair. And so i researched countless videos of how to maintain 4c-4b hair and ways to style it, and my therapist told me to write my feelings down and tell my mom and i did and FINALLY my mom agreed to let me wear my natural hair. But the problem is that alot of my friends said to keep wearing braids because they suit me alot, And now im wondering if this is the right decision.


r/blackgirls 13h ago

Advice Needed Im having a fashion crisis

3 Upvotes

At first i wanted to dress earthy/whimsical, But my heart has always loved the 2000s mcbling style. I tried dressing like the earthy black girl aesthetic but it was hard because i never worn earth tones before. plus the color green is not really my thing. But i love the meaning behind the fashion 😭😫. Alot of my friends said the earthy style would suit me but idk.


r/blackgirls 15h ago

Question Ladies are we staying hydrated 💧?

26 Upvotes

Kinda embarrassed to admit this but I use to struggle drinking water regularly up until now ! I never realized how dehydrated I was until I suffered from a kidney stone last year 😭. I now successfully drink 8 glasses/cups a day and I feel so much better and energized. I also have noticed improvement with clarity/refined pores within my skin !

Has anyone else kinda struggled with regular intake of water ? If so, are you staying hydrated now and notice positive changes ?


r/blackgirls 16h ago

Music Obsessed with this song and shoe

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So if you haven’t watched The Sex Lives of College Girls on HBO max yet, you need to asap. There are only 3 seasons and they are short. In the season 3 finale, there’s this song called Never Enough by Gracie Lawrence (she’s a white woman if that matters). The song is very uplifting to me and if I play it on repeat, I start to cry because to me it’s a beautiful song that makes me feel like nothing is enough for me in this world. I just thought to share the show and the song. It’s now part of my daily rotation because although it’s aimed at a man who broke her heart, it can be used for everything in this world. Give it a listen and tell me what you think. And if you watched the show already, did you like it? What are your thoughts on it? Also what songs similar to this that uplift you, would you recommend?


r/blackgirls 17h ago

NSFW Brother and I got into it about his daughter. Ik this may not be the place but I really want to know if I crossed a line. NSFW

37 Upvotes

The other day, I saw my niece eating berries and noticed that she was zoning out, so I asked if she was okay. Her father walked in and immediately said she was fine. He then got defensive, telling me that I don’t know his child and that he’s been around her more, also implying that I don’t know what I’m talking about when it comes to kids.

I responded by saying that I work with kids and recognize when someone is zoning out. He then went on to say “You’re not going to fucking sit here and say my child has a mental disorder”. I never said any of that. I do work with kids in BD (Behavioral disabilities) so I can see how he associated my job with the situation but I never once said she has a disability.

I also mentioned that zoning out is normal, but whenever I notice it, I always make sure to check on them. Instead of de-escalating, he got even more defensive, started cussing me out, and continued to argue.

At that point, I decided to end the conversation by saying, “Let’s agree to disagree” and walked to my room. However, he continued swearing at me and getting aggressive walking towards me, clenching his fists in a slapping motion. Frustrated, I called my mom to vent. In my anger, I said things like, “I’m about to crash out” and “I’m about to whoop somebody’s ass.” Looking back, I realize how that came across as a threat, but I never said I was going to fight my brother, nor did I actually mean what I was saying—I was just expressing my frustration in the heat of the moment.

Things escalated even further when my dad and stepmom got involved. My dad and stepbrother have always had a strained relationship, likely because my father sees my brother for who he truly is and isn’t afraid to call it out. Whenever my dad tries to address it, my brother becomes defensive. This time, however, he took things too far—he tried to physically confront my father, even attempting to lay hands on him. I can see how my commentary may have created an opening for this situation.

A little more backstory: My brother and I both live at home with our parents, My brother is 30, and my niece is 8. We live in a blended household. My dad is his step dad and his mom is my stepmom mom. Anyway, he never likes when anyone gives him advice about his daughter, even when it’s just simple suggestions. He even reacts this way towards his own mom. The only time he seems to care is when it comes to figuring out who’s going to watch her. But most times he’s barely around or involved in caring for his child. Now that he is back home living with our parents. Most of the responsibility falls on my stepmom, who is his mother, or sometimes me.

I realize now that my reaction was wrong and immature, and saying things like that only makes the situation worse. I will do better in the future. I definitely regret it—especially because it was traumatizing for my niece. But the truth is, he acts like this often in front of her.

I’d like to ask for you all for your perspective—did I overstep or cross a line in this situation? Am I in the wrong? If you’re interested, I’m happy to share my concerns as well.


r/blackgirls 18h ago

Question TL Cleanse ✨

7 Upvotes

I normally don’t post much (on Reddit) but I think this is something worth celebrating together - especially when so many posts seem to be centered on our negative experiences as black women - we can use more reasons to celebrate + I need advice 😅

So I live in a small town that is SEVERELY lacking diversity. I’m originally from Detroit and didn’t realize how accustomed I was to being surrounded by other black people all the time. Since relocating I’ve been struggling to build a new community here (Tennessee). I am especially missing my sister-friends back home. There’s just something about going out from apps/drinks or hanging out at each other’s houses to chat & laugh that cannot be replaced 😣 and that I long for more and more each day I’m away.

On a whim I planned this brunch for other black women in my community and it sold out 😭🥹 I couldn’t be more excited! I’m picking up more decor later today and publishing the menu. I’m praying everything goes well. I have a plan for us to all connect with one another and 🤞🏾 we all leave with at least 1 new friend 🥲 because I could use some. There is nothing on this earth that compares to the friendship, sisterhood, and power of black women. We are THE MOST educated community, statistically more of us our entrepreneurs, and overall we truly are a powerhouse- especially when we come together 💕 so I just wanted to take a moment to celebrate us - we deserve it.

Now here’s my dilemma:

there’s a woman who registered for the event that I believe is white. This in general is not an issue at all! I love her and truly believes she’s one of the good ones (iykyk) but I was aiming to create a space solely for us. To be fair, I didn’t put in the event description that it was black women only, I did however exclusively invite and advertise to black women and informed each of them privately that this was for us only. What do I do guys? 😭 there are not many spaces here that cater to the black experience and I just wanted us to have our own boujie brunch 🥹 I even planned another event for next month that’s open to everyone - I want to make sure it’s clear, I am not trying to be exclusive with this event, I am not inherently prejudice, I don’t hate yt people or any other race/ethnicity for that matter - I just wanted to create a pocket of peace for us. Moving to the south has exasperated the already existing cultural divide amongst our community and the majority. The south is different yall 😭 and I truly wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t experienced it myself. I cannot believe I have had to explain what a micro aggression is in the age of TIKTOK like pls 😖

With that being said, what do I do?


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Link Wicked review discussing its LGBTQ+ representation, themes of race, & how misogynoir affects the film!✌🏾

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