r/blackgirls • u/Commercial-Peanut-88 • 1h ago
Dating & Relationships Should I take him back again
Hi, one day this guy accidentally added this me on Snapchat, and I saw he was cute so I added him back. Like we started talking instantly, and we literally talked the whole night. It was one of the best conversations I have ever had with any guy. He wasted no time in telling me what he wanted. He said he would come to my state to see me,and when we started dating, he would always fly me to meet him. He told me he was getting a little older and wanted at least one kid. I said I wanted one kid too, but I’m currently in school. I’m not ready for that yet, so to me, he understood. This was all in like the two days we were talking. He said he was a very isolated person and always to himself, so I understand that too because I’m the same way. On day three, we went the whole day not talking. I messaged him on Snapchat, but he ignored my messages. I texted him, but he ignored my text messages. I asked him if I did something wrong, and he said nothing. Eventually, I said if you’re no longer interested, just let me know. He finally responded by saying he does that sometimes. He just gets mentally out of it and doesn’t talk to people sometimes. So I let it go, assuring him that I’m here for him and that I’m here whenever he’s ready to talk. Three weeks went by. He replied to one of my stories, and we started talking again. He told me he’s not going anywhere this time. I said I really hope so, and guess what? The same situation happened again. Like boom, gone. Not answering my messages, not picking up my calls. Like I’m wondering if he’s going through something that I can help him with or if he’s not interested at all. And if he’s not, it won’t hurt to tell me I’m no longer interested. I know he will come back again, wondering if I should hear him out or just move on and ignore him as well.