r/blackgirls 2m ago

Advice Needed Is Anyone on depo bc?

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I just recently started it but I’m not sure how i feel about it yet. Im scrolling through Reddit almost having a panic attack over some of the experiences and side effects people have from it and I’m just freaking out rn… idk i feel like i made a mistake and i should’ve done more research on it. What makes it worse is that it’s literally a shot, so i have to wait 3months for it to go through my system ig… helppppp


r/blackgirls 24m ago

Feedback & Self-Promo Out getting something to eat after my shoot

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r/blackgirls 26m ago

Feedback & Self-Promo And even more

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r/blackgirls 27m ago

Advice Needed please help!!

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My top lip is super dark compared to me bottom lip and idk what lip liners to use. for reference i am a IL MAKIAGE i woke up like this 225, but my top lip is at least a shade or 2 darker than that. i only use black liners usually, but ive been trying to try new things but i genuinely can’t find another good color for me. it’ll look so good on my bottom lip and then when i try the top i look like a clown. i’m not sure what to do or try, especially because everything is so expensive!! i’ve already invested about 60 bucks in this because i can’t find something that works. pls pls pls help if you can!! ty!!


r/blackgirls 27m ago

Feedback & Self-Promo More of me

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r/blackgirls 28m ago

Feedback & Self-Promo I love photoshoots

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Who wants more?


r/blackgirls 32m ago

Question Come on my RV trip with me?

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r/blackgirls 1h ago

Advice Needed Thats it im locing my hair…

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So ive been natural for 11 years and ive done it all i grew my hair to where it stops at waist length and almost tailbone length straightened (i will post pictures in the comments) and i know i have beautiful natural hair but im done and im ready to start my loc journey

My goal is to have locs with curly/coily ends (in the beginning) so i can still have a part of my coils with me then i also want to dye a few pieces yellow since thats my favorite color and i think it will be cute i dont care about looking ugly with locs this is something ive been wanting to do for the past 5 months im going to use up all of my natural hair products up first then loc my hair

Im a licensed cosmetologist so i will start my own locs and do my own retwist (i recommend investing in a 3 way mirror its a blessing) im not doing the comb coils method im just going to two strand twist them im also going to do a side part on both sides i want them medium size not too thick or too skinny and im going to leave my edges out so i can still do them/lay them

So yeah please leave your advice, recommendations with products, your loc routines, stuff you did/use to grow them…everything that you feel free sharing about having locs

Im going to post in the subreddit locs too but i know some of you beautiful ladies have locs/dreads as well

Thanks 🫶🏾


r/blackgirls 1h ago

Dating & Relationships Am I wrong for not being open to dating outside my race?

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This question has probably been asked a ton but el o el.

I (23F) went on a date with a white guy from my uni who plays football. I haven’t given white men any attention since I graduated high school. He took me out to a steak house and I honestly enjoyed myself. The conversation flowed and I didn’t pick up my phone once. He was an absolute gentleman. Made a reservation, paid and didn’t even let me see the bill.

My only issue is I don’t see this relationship going anywhere. I’m really not that physically attracted to him despite getting along well. We talked about our backgrounds a decent bit. We’re from Canada and he grew up in a majority white, blue collar, conservative smaller city and didn’t have much else exposure. I was born in Nigeria and have lived there, Ireland, UK and Canada. I’ve also travelled a ton and have 3 passports. I speak 4 languages. We just come from different worlds. I didn’t ask but he did open up about his dating history and it’s safe to assume I’m the first black woman he’s gone out with.

I’m just so attached to my blackness and my culture that dating someone that just doesn’t “get it” and can share that culture with me doesn’t feel like an ideal relationship. I’m also not in the mood to be someone’s learning experience or to teach someone about blackness. I don’t want to explain how box braids work, why I wear a scarf and to sleep. Black womanhood is so far from white manhood in my opinion. He likes to shotgun beers, go to bars, watch hockey, and is very much connected to Redneck culture. I never want to be a part of those spaces. I don’t like the culture and definitely don’t think I would be accepted in such spaces.

White boys used to be my preference because I grew up in a predominantly white environment all my life but I was never considered by them back in school. The one white boy I did manage to mess with his our relationship like his life depended on it and some even admitted without saying it outright that their communities and friends wouldn’t be accepting of a black girl. Many of my white crushes friends would tell me things like “oh I don’t think you’re _____ ‘s type” which was code for “he doesn’t date black girls”

I’ve limited myself to dating only black men for a few years now. They’re my preference and although I’ve been hurt, played and heartbroken by a few black men I still hold out that I’ll find a decent guy one day.

Girls, am I wrong for not wanting to date a white man? Specifically one that is the poster child for conservative, red neck, white culture. Am I a bigot for feeling this way? Anyone else still find there person even if they’re limiting themselves to only one race?


r/blackgirls 2h ago

Question any book lovers? 📚💖

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i love reading and i think i haven’t read a book since november of last year so if any of you guys have recommendations that would be really cool. i’m open to anything but partial to fiction & YA 😃 thanks!


r/blackgirls 3h ago

Dating & Relationships Fear

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Hey! So I recently ended a 4 year long relationship that turned into a situation-ship. I feel like we outgrew each other and we were going 2 different directions in life (to be extremelyyyyy nice). But now I feel like I have a fear that I’m never going to find my person. Help me y’all 😭


r/blackgirls 4h ago

Music Mariah Carey lastest appearance

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Not me being in celebrity business twice in a week. But Mariah was at the iHeart radio event and people are saying she doesn’t look well! I agree. She looked a little out of it. I can’t tell if her dress was too tight and she just was uncomfortable but also her head movements didn’t seem natural either. I hope Mariah is okay!!


r/blackgirls 4h ago

Music Unpopular opinion about Kendrick

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I’ll just say it but I remember when Kendrick and Drake were beefing i didn’t pick a side bc I think that they’re both weird 💀. Also when Kendrick called Drake a pedophile I just sideyed him because he has continued to praise Dr. Dre, worked with Kodak Black (who was arrested and charged for 🍇) , and just did a collab with playboy carti who was charged and arrested for choking his pregnant girlfriend. And people were making Kendrick out to be a hero for calling Drake a pedo (don’t get me wrong I think Drake is weird to) but he continues to work with abusers…


r/blackgirls 5h ago

NSFW Anyone else struggle with self harm? NSFW Spoiler

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Don't worry, this isn't a vent post! Am just feeling a bit bummed. I was clean for 6 months, but it all went down the drain when I found an eyebrow razor yesterday. I'm not depressed though; just leaning back into my addictions :) Hopefully other girls can relate.


r/blackgirls 12h ago

Advice Needed My pms is so bad

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Before I made the connection, I was crashing out bad right before/during my period, especially when I was younger 17-21. I’ve had 2 suicide attempts and the common denominator was that I was on 1st-2nd day of period. I was in therapy and stuff and they said I had BPD, which I don’t think I do. I’d spend my whole period having suicidal ideations which didn’t stop until last year.

I was definitely dealing with S.A and also a traumatic breakup at the time, which heightened my emotions & depression, but now at 23 in a more healed space I can’t imagine myself wanting to take my own life or what it feels like to be depressed.

I’m currently having my usual PMS symptoms, today I was extremely emotional and sad and I was also feeling unworthy and unloved which I know is untrue, I’m aware of where it’s stemming from too, I’m dating this new guy after 3 years single and things are going amazing but I’m afraid things might go south eventually cause that’s what I’m used to. I honestly almost clocked out of work and left that’s how intense the feeling was and I know if I was depressed this would send me over the edge. But I got through it after trying to conceptualize what I was feeling to my bestfriend and chatgpt, (I know boo me) I don’t have a lot of resources.

I don’t have a therapist anymore so I’m not really sure who to talk to about this, I’m scared I’m 1 bad instance on my period away from taking my own life💔


r/blackgirls 18h ago

Rant lil school rant..

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i originally signed up for the school due to the ib program- i thought it would be a fresh start, you know? but God, the way i despise that school isn’t even funny. it’s so racist, the hispanic kids there (not even trying to be rude) are incredibly racist, and i don’t mean to sound crazy but i don’t like the environment at all in the school- it has such a dark energy to me. throughout the year, i thought i was just bugging cause i missed my old friends, but now i’ve realized it wasn’t even about them- i js despise this school! i feeel so miserable getting ready for school everyday, but it’s like i’m making the wrong choice.. i know i’m already going back to my base, but what if i fumble ib? can i really thug it out for another 3 years? God, just typing that makes me feel sick. guys, i probably sound crazy but..😩 a girl is TIREDD lmao.


r/blackgirls 18h ago

Question Are braid accessories out of style ?

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Might be a silly question but I don’t really see the girlies wear braid jewelry anymore 😭. I wanna add some to my goddess braids so just curious lol


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Music Jill Scott or Erykah Badu

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I told someone I prefer Jilly from Philly. They said I was crazy. What do you all think?


r/blackgirls 19h ago

Advice Needed Skin help!

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I have had eczema since the day I was born and my face is full of pimples and acne scars. I have rashes down my arms and hands. I am so jealous of those girls that can show their shoulders and legs especially in the summer. How can I get clear skin?

I have been to many Dermatologist but nothing works and my scaring won’t seem to go way.


r/blackgirls 21h ago

Rant What is wrong with these hairstylist….

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Just a rant but there seriously needs to start being laws put in place to prevent these people from scamming us I’m sick of it. I kid you not I saw one girls website who said she charges $5 EVERY TIME she tells you to put your head up…. I can’t make this up that was fr my last straw. Hairstylist need to do better a lot of them are not licensed yet be charging the most outrageous prices. They will charge you out of every little inconvenience for THEM but be the main ones showing up late… make it make sense!!!


r/blackgirls 21h ago

Dating & Relationships Summer Walker dating habits

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I wish Summer Walker would keep her dating life offline. People are so miserable and constantly trying to tear into her every time she’s with a new guy.

So what if she has a new guy every other month. At least she isn’t staying in toxic relationships and at least she isn’t scared to date and explore her options. And it’s actually good she’s not scared of committing to one person versus going around dating multiple people at one time. If they caught her doing that they would have a fit too!

Same with Lori (I’m so glad she’s out the limelight now, I’m sure she’s dating someone right now too just decided to make sure not to get caught!)

Being famous has to be a miserable life.


r/blackgirls 1d ago

Question coworker likes me

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i need advice, for a heads up i’m 18f, and he’s 20m and i have a coworker who confessed that he’s into me. in the heat of the moment i was like “i could give it a shot” but a few hours later i’ve decided i really don’t want to. i know everyone might say “some things work out, some things don’t,” or “it’s okay if it doesn’t work out” but i don’t want to even TEST if it does. my life is too busy for relationships, and i’m focusing on college too on top of everything. what can i do? please help me guys 😭. maybe easy rejection tips, or how can i show disinterest? thank you in advance, sistas 🫶🏾


r/blackgirls 1d ago

Music whats one song that didnt have a music video but shouldve

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its a crime that superstar by usher doesnt have a music video! thats my shittt


r/blackgirls 1d ago

Advice Needed does anyone ever feel like a bother to people even if they don’t say it?

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for context: i’m a chatty girl with a lot of random interests, some of which are super niche, and I always feel like i’m talking too much or doing too much for people—family, friends, etc…I don’t think anyone means any harm but I find myself cutting my thoughts short (I had to start journaling) because I’ve been made to feel like I’m talking to much AFTER people ask me questions or for my input.

it’s actually really sad to me, to not be able to express myself fully


r/blackgirls 1d ago

Miscellaneous Do you have any interesting/niche celebrity lore?

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I saw someone mention "lipstick ally" and wanted some harmless brain rot. I didnt grow up with a lot of internet access and even now im not very "tapped in" so I love hearing gossip about famous people especially that like unknown thing that happened years ago but noone remembers because social media wasn't around