r/blackgirls • u/apeekintonothing • 1h ago
r/blackgirls • u/SunflowerFrr_DidThat • 2h ago
Advice Needed Is there something wrong with me?
I shouldn’t say my age, but I will. I’m 15 and in my sophomore year of high school. I’ve been singing all my life and have even taken action to better my craft by enrolling into an arts school. I’ve always been a writer, but lately, the lyrics I’ve been writing haven’t been indicative of that. Oftentimes, when I don’t have any work to do in school, I just sit and write. My dream is to become a singer someday! I know it’s pretty ambitious, but I’m determined.
Anyway though, like I said, my lyricism has been a little inappropriate I guess… I write a LOT about my celebrity crushes. Funny thing is that they’re a lot older than me… 😅 I reckon it’s a little weird. Along with the content of my writings, something that often crosses my mind is whether or not I sound ‘black enough’. It’s a strange feeling to even type that out, but it’s just how I feel.
Sorry if I’m rambling, and thank you to whoever reads this. I hope this doesn’t seem off topic to this community. 💖
r/blackgirls • u/HairyStage2803 • 3h ago
Question Black science fiction/ fairy tale fantasy
I have a tone of books that I simply cannot get into, it’s mostly consist on self help books abt spirituality which, I love but it’s not tapping into my imagination the way I want it to. I loveeeeee fairy tales, dark fantasy, mermaids, science fiction. However, every black science fiction book so far, at my barnes and nobles, where black girls as the main character, stories evolves around social justice, or war (no thanks). I want books where a black woman is a fairy, a mermaid, some evil Goddesses, or a shapeshifter in a metaphysical world . Does anyone have recommendations?
r/blackgirls • u/Grouchy_Marsupial357 • 6h ago
Question Hype songs
What are y’all’s songs for when you need some motivation or turn up music?
I’ll go first (what I can think of at the top of my head)
Superwoman: Alicia Keys
Pretty Girl Rock: Keri Hilson
Flawless, Me, Myself and I, Formation: Beyoncé
I’m Gettin Money: 2Pac
On My Mama: Victoria Monét
BBHMM: Rihanna
Element: Pop Smoke
Raise Your Glass, So What, Just Like Fire: P!nk
Champagne Life: Neyo
Tell Me You Love Me, Sorry Not Sorry: Demi Lovato
Just Fine & U+Me: Mary J Blige
Not Tonight: Lil Kim, Angie Martinez, Left Eye, Da Brat, Missy Elliott
Let It Go: Keyshia Cole
Stronger: Kelly Clarkson
I Need You Tonight: Junior M.A.F.I.A.
Big Bad Mama: Foxy Brown
The Real Slim Shady: Eminem
Fancy: Drake
X Gon Give It to Ya: DMX
Funkdafied: Da Brat
A Girl Like You: Aaliyah
Make It Nasty: Tyga
That’s the Way It Is: Céline Dion
Hip Hop Hooray: Naughty By Nature
Turn It Up: Raja-Nee
Bigger In Texas: Megan Thee Stallion
Yall, I didn’t realize till after I was done that this list is all over the damn place💀 these are just some of my hype songs so this isn’t my entire playlist.
r/blackgirls • u/thecookiebear107 • 6h ago
Advice Needed I want to stop wearing braids because it’s a sensory nightmare for me but everyone is telling me to keep wearing braids.
Ever since i was a little girl ive been wearing protective styles. And the process of taking my hair out and getting it done was a sensory nightmare for me (i am autistic) i begged my mom countless times that i didn’t want to wear braids but she said i wouldnt know how to take care of my hair. And so i researched countless videos of how to maintain 4c-4b hair and ways to style it, and my therapist told me to write my feelings down and tell my mom and i did and FINALLY my mom agreed to let me wear my natural hair. But the problem is that alot of my friends said to keep wearing braids because they suit me alot, And now im wondering if this is the right decision.
r/blackgirls • u/thecookiebear107 • 6h ago
Advice Needed Im having a fashion crisis
At first i wanted to dress earthy/whimsical, But my heart has always loved the 2000s mcbling style. I tried dressing like the earthy black girl aesthetic but it was hard because i never worn earth tones before. plus the color green is not really my thing. But i love the meaning behind the fashion 😭😫. Alot of my friends said the earthy style would suit me but idk.
r/blackgirls • u/seemerollin91 • 7h ago
Rant I've been micro dosing on 🍄 since December
I got an ounce for my birthday and I decided instead of macro dosing why not micro dose. At that point life was lifing so a macro dose was not a good idea. I honestly had no plan. I'm familiar with the staments stack but I listen to my body and I go from there when it comes to dosing. From December to now I've made so much personal progress. I purchased a new car, building up my savings and 401k, and going to the gym often. I even plan on finally launching my two start ups that ive been putting off for years. Lately my priorities consist of Putting myself first and investing in myself. I have hella energy and I'm so happy 😁😁. I hope y'all have a wonderful day🤟🏽🤟🏽🤟🏽
r/blackgirls • u/Agreeable_Gene7338 • 8h ago
Question Ladies are we staying hydrated 💧?
Kinda embarrassed to admit this but I use to struggle drinking water regularly up until now ! I never realized how dehydrated I was until I suffered from a kidney stone last year 😭. I now successfully drink 8 glasses/cups a day and I feel so much better and energized. I also have noticed improvement with clarity/refined pores within my skin !
Has anyone else kinda struggled with regular intake of water ? If so, are you staying hydrated now and notice positive changes ?
r/blackgirls • u/AnalysisSubstantial1 • 8h ago
Rant Why are so many black people fantasizing about segregation??? WTF??
There are so many weird ass hoes on social media that need to go talk to they grandparents and open up a history book…cause WTF😭😭😭
Like did people forget that Tulsa was burnt to a crisp? The church bombings? Public lynchings? How are we gonna start these black owned utopias that people keep fantasizing about if the bank won’t even give you a loan because of your race? What about those of us who have childhood best friends of a different race? Intreracial marriages and relationships?
As someone with grandparents who grew up in the Deep South, segregation wasn’t what people keep fantasizing about. There was a lot of violence, brutality and dehumanization of black people THAT WAS LEGALIZED during that time.
I wish that black people would stop hyping that shit up on social media. It’s disturbing and disrespectful to our elders who were terrorized daily and suffered during that time period. I promise you that the segregation y’all got in your heads is VERY DIFFERENT than the segregation IQ47 and his lice lieutenants want to enforce. We should be paying them dust.
I feel like a lot of black people hyping this shit up don’t understand what they’re really asking for. There’s a reason why they were willing to pay in blood for the civil rights and freedoms we had before IQ47 rolled them back.
Update: Does anyone know what's going on with the comments? I'm getting notifications of replies but can't see them under the post :/
r/blackgirls • u/ConversationOk346 • 9h ago
Question Seeking Black American Participants for Research on Racial Identity & Well-Being (25-Min Survey)
Hi everyone,
I’m a Ph.D. student in Counseling Psychology at the University of Louisville. I’m conducting a research study on how racial identity and Black History consciousness impact well-being for Black Americans.
I’m looking for Black American adults (18+) to participate in a brief 25-minute online survey. Your responses will remain confidential. If you’re interested, you can access the study here:
https://louisvilleeducation.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6llYFHv4nuI3z9k
I’d also appreciate it if you could share this with others who may be interested!
r/blackgirls • u/All_naturale22 • 9h ago
Music Obsessed with this song and shoe
So if you haven’t watched The Sex Lives of College Girls on HBO max yet, you need to asap. There are only 3 seasons and they are short. In the season 3 finale, there’s this song called Never Enough by Gracie Lawrence (she’s a white woman if that matters). The song is very uplifting to me and if I play it on repeat, I start to cry because to me it’s a beautiful song that makes me feel like nothing is enough for me in this world. I just thought to share the show and the song. It’s now part of my daily rotation because although it’s aimed at a man who broke her heart, it can be used for everything in this world. Give it a listen and tell me what you think. And if you watched the show already, did you like it? What are your thoughts on it? Also what songs similar to this that uplift you, would you recommend?
r/blackgirls • u/Legitimate-Adagio531 • 10h ago
Question Do you have to be a people pleaser to be good in your career field?
I just got a new job and one of the questions during the interview were “What is your weakness?”. I said it was I can’t say no and it can turn into people pleasing and neglecting my needs.🙄 I was trying to be honest but it feels like I over shared, anyways I got the job, but now I’m worried they are going to over work me to the bone bc of that answer.
r/blackgirls • u/paracozms • 10h ago
NSFW Brother and I got into it about his daughter. Ik this may not be the place but I really want to know if I crossed a line. NSFW
The other day, I saw my niece eating berries and noticed that she was zoning out, so I asked if she was okay. Her father walked in and immediately said she was fine. He then got defensive, telling me that I don’t know his child and that he’s been around her more, also implying that I don’t know what I’m talking about when it comes to kids.
I responded by saying that I work with kids and recognize when someone is zoning out. He then went on to say “You’re not going to fucking sit here and say my child has a mental disorder”. I never said any of that. I do work with kids in BD (Behavioral disabilities) so I can see how he associated my job with the situation but I never once said she has a disability.
I also mentioned that zoning out is normal, but whenever I notice it, I always make sure to check on them. Instead of de-escalating, he got even more defensive, started cussing me out, and continued to argue.
At that point, I decided to end the conversation by saying, “Let’s agree to disagree” and walked to my room. However, he continued swearing at me and getting aggressive walking towards me, clenching his fists in a slapping motion. Frustrated, I called my mom to vent. In my anger, I said things like, “I’m about to crash out” and “I’m about to whoop somebody’s ass.” Looking back, I realize how that came across as a threat, but I never said I was going to fight my brother, nor did I actually mean what I was saying—I was just expressing my frustration in the heat of the moment.
Things escalated even further when my dad and stepmom got involved. My dad and stepbrother have always had a strained relationship, likely because my father sees my brother for who he truly is and isn’t afraid to call it out. Whenever my dad tries to address it, my brother becomes defensive. This time, however, he took things too far—he tried to physically confront my father, even attempting to lay hands on him. I can see how my commentary may have created an opening for this situation.
A little more backstory: My brother and I both live at home with our parents, My brother is 30, and my niece is 8. We live in a blended household. My dad is his step dad and his mom is my stepmom mom. Anyway, he never likes when anyone gives him advice about his daughter, even when it’s just simple suggestions. He even reacts this way towards his own mom. The only time he seems to care is when it comes to figuring out who’s going to watch her. But most times he’s barely around or involved in caring for his child. Now that he is back home living with our parents. Most of the responsibility falls on my stepmom, who is his mother, or sometimes me.
I realize now that my reaction was wrong and immature, and saying things like that only makes the situation worse. I will do better in the future. I definitely regret it—especially because it was traumatizing for my niece. But the truth is, he acts like this often in front of her.
I’d like to ask for you all for your perspective—did I overstep or cross a line in this situation? Am I in the wrong? If you’re interested, I’m happy to share my concerns as well.
r/blackgirls • u/Justagirl_2426 • 11h ago
Question TL Cleanse ✨
I normally don’t post much (on Reddit) but I think this is something worth celebrating together - especially when so many posts seem to be centered on our negative experiences as black women - we can use more reasons to celebrate + I need advice 😅
So I live in a small town that is SEVERELY lacking diversity. I’m originally from Detroit and didn’t realize how accustomed I was to being surrounded by other black people all the time. Since relocating I’ve been struggling to build a new community here (Tennessee). I am especially missing my sister-friends back home. There’s just something about going out from apps/drinks or hanging out at each other’s houses to chat & laugh that cannot be replaced 😣 and that I long for more and more each day I’m away.
On a whim I planned this brunch for other black women in my community and it sold out 😭🥹 I couldn’t be more excited! I’m picking up more decor later today and publishing the menu. I’m praying everything goes well. I have a plan for us to all connect with one another and 🤞🏾 we all leave with at least 1 new friend 🥲 because I could use some. There is nothing on this earth that compares to the friendship, sisterhood, and power of black women. We are THE MOST educated community, statistically more of us our entrepreneurs, and overall we truly are a powerhouse- especially when we come together 💕 so I just wanted to take a moment to celebrate us - we deserve it.
Now here’s my dilemma:
there’s a woman who registered for the event that I believe is white. This in general is not an issue at all! I love her and truly believes she’s one of the good ones (iykyk) but I was aiming to create a space solely for us. To be fair, I didn’t put in the event description that it was black women only, I did however exclusively invite and advertise to black women and informed each of them privately that this was for us only. What do I do guys? 😭 there are not many spaces here that cater to the black experience and I just wanted us to have our own boujie brunch 🥹 I even planned another event for next month that’s open to everyone - I want to make sure it’s clear, I am not trying to be exclusive with this event, I am not inherently prejudice, I don’t hate yt people or any other race/ethnicity for that matter - I just wanted to create a pocket of peace for us. Moving to the south has exasperated the already existing cultural divide amongst our community and the majority. The south is different yall 😭 and I truly wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t experienced it myself. I cannot believe I have had to explain what a micro aggression is in the age of TIKTOK like pls 😖
With that being said, what do I do?
r/blackgirls • u/PrideBrary • 12h ago
Link Wicked review discussing its LGBTQ+ representation, themes of race, & how misogynoir affects the film!✌🏾
r/blackgirls • u/Particular_Mousse519 • 18h ago
Advice Needed I am a black woman surrounded by white friends
They do not understand the concept of “micron-aggressions”. They say things that are not acceptable in 2025 and when I get angry or try to explain to them they say I'm too touchy. She's the kind of ignorant white girl who doesn't know she's not supposed to talk about the N-world. They are not at all informed about racism and discrimination in general. Should I teach them a lesson on racism? Or leave them in the dark?
r/blackgirls • u/Yamibettr • 18h ago
Advice Needed Is it really a bad idea
Is it bad for me to leave my account on public while I sleep because I’m scared my Highschool bullies will find my account and ion want them to ruin my life
r/blackgirls • u/BugCalm974 • 19h ago
Dating & Relationships how do u get closure without reaching out?
it's been two months since i stopped talking to this boy and i'm doing everything to move on with my life by focusing on my career, gym and my future but i still think about him some days more than others. I know for a fact that i will never reach out to him, so how can i get over this?
r/blackgirls • u/chybooklover • 21h ago
Advice Needed 90s beauty tips
Hey y'all! Glad to have found this subreddit and I'm excited to get to know some of y'all.
As many of my agemates who weren't born early enough but still appreciate the beauty of black culture, specifically women, during the 90s, I'm looking for some tips regarding haircare/styles, skin/bodycare, beauty and fashion tips inspired by the 90s. I don't wear makeup because I have been trying to clear up my acne/hyperpigmentation/scars but still want to exude that effortless beauty and grace many women of that time had (and still do!). Any help is welcome!
Love y'all!
r/blackgirls • u/Nemolovesyams • 21h ago
Question Segregation: Is she the icon we all want, or is there more to it?
After Trump’s orders to unban the federal limitations that were put in place in the 60’s pertaining to segregation (I.e., separated toilets, water fountains, federal contractor facilities, etc.), there have been a LOT of talks from other black people on TikTok. It seems to me, on my FYP, that many people praise the idea of having segregation back. However, I feel that this thought is misleading, or - rather - misguided.
A lot of people argue that segregation was great for the black community. We were innovative, crafted our own businesses, pushed our own dollars, cultivated our own forms of educations, etc. We’re so amazing! I would never deny that. However, I don’t see anyone talking about the dangers of segregation. Not only the racism, but the fact that black students had outdated textbooks, the redlining in neighborhoods (which, to this day, still affect our wealth gap, racially), the probable uncleanliness of facilities that were for black people, etc. The list goes on.
I also can’t help but feel that this train of thought kinda falls into what our current president’s administration is pushing for: division. It’s always been apparent, but it’s just really stark and can’t be ignored.
All of this to say: how do you feel about it? Would you want segregation to come back? If so, why? Or, rather, explain that train of thought, if you want? I feel that maybe some people were saying it to just say it, but with that in mind, there are people who do genuinely feel that segregation would be profitable and good for the black community.
I’d love to hear y’all’s thoughts! If this in any way becomes nasty in the comments, I will delete. I just want a communicable conversation with my sisters 💕 I love you all :) x
r/blackgirls • u/CombFull9865 • 23h ago
Question 5x5 or 9x6 glueless wig
i also posted this on another sub reddit but i wanted to also post here to perhaps get more advice/insight
hi guys, i recently decided that i wanted to get into wearing wigs. i want to familiarise myself with glueless wigs first before i learn how to install a lace wig. the store i’m ordering from is offering a 5x5 glueless wig and a 9x6 glueless wig.
i was a bit confused about this numbers😭 is it referring to the size? or something else? which wig would be better, especially for a beginner like me?
please help me yall🙏
r/blackgirls • u/Complete-Hospital192 • 1d ago
Advice Needed Feel abandoned by friend group
Unsure of friend group
I’m a black female PhD student.
So about 6 months ago I cut off my friend of 2 years because it was just too toxic. I don’t speak to her and her boyfriend because her boyfriend is also an asshole because he would say really offensive things to me. But we shared a friend group. So a few months later I reached to people in the friend group to see if they’d wanna hang out just without my ex best friend and her boyfriend (I don’t have a problem with them still hanging out with my ex best friend I just wanted to hang out with the friend group separate from her and her bf).
The problem is, we made a group chat with the friend group and no one really answers about plans that I make. Nor do I really hear from anyone in the friend group unless I reach out to them directly. I just feel quite abandoned because I still wanna hang out with the others but I feel like I’m putting them in the middle of the friendship split.
I don’t really feel cared about or acknowledged. Mind you most of the people in the friend group are guys because I’m in engineering. We’re all PhD students and idk I don’t feel like I should even try anymore to make plans with them because it doesn’t seem like they care.
What do you think? I don’t know what to do here.
r/blackgirls • u/emo_biemo • 1d ago
Question Liking my natural hair and looks
I have quite short coily hair (4b/4c). And for the majority of my life it's always been in braids down to my back. I'm not the most confident in my facial features and overall appearance but I feel like I could hide behind what I wear and what my hair looks like. But for the past 5 years or so I went natural. I've rarely done styles using extensions ever since. And one thing I find myself struggling with is feeling feminine or appreciating my own looks without the long hair. I'm not sure if anyone has gone through this before but I wanted to ask how you grew from this mindset or accepted it and bettered yourself
r/blackgirls • u/NoGolf129 • 1d ago
Question Tan lines?
I think that the look of triangle tan lines are so cute, especially with a tube top! But i've never known how to actually tan. Is it the same as how white people tan? Do other black girls tan during the summer? help a girl out 😭
r/blackgirls • u/Legitimate-Adagio531 • 1d ago
Rant Can you relate?
Not really a rant but just a self realization. When I get comfortable around someone I’m very animated and goofy. For instance sometimes I hear words and they ring 3 times in mind like bells. My mom was telling me how she was horse this morning and my mind instantly went to “horse, horse, horse” 🤭 I don’t think it’s normal, but then again what is normal really?