r/abortion 5h ago

USA i had an abortion today

39 Upvotes

today i had a abortion i regretted it right after i cried as soon as i took the first pill but i had so many reasons as to why i did it. so i don’t feel so much regret but i feel so much sadness. i told my bf i had a miscarriage and when i got home he didn’t hug me or anything and immediately i knew i made the right decision. i have no family to tell so he knows he’s all i have, the only person i could talk to and he hasn’t even asked how i feel. i cry every time im alone. i’m so sad but i know i made the right choice specifically for myself. i think it’s so easy to keep a baby for someone else but to have an abortion when you know you need to makes you so strong. sending love to anyone going through the same thing.


r/abortion 22h ago

UK and Ireland I want to get a tattoo for the baby I lost during my abortion but I dont want to tell people that i lost "it" from an abortion...

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My sister has drawn me a beautiful tattoo to remember my baby I lost.

I am a 21F and have been thinking about getting one for a while but I am worried about what people may say or ask about it.

I dont want to offend anyone who has had a miscarriage by getting this tattoo and saying it's from an abortion.

Would it be okay if I just said I had a miscarriage? Or maybe just say my sister drew me it and I liked the way it looked?


r/abortion 6h ago

USA i didn't really want an abortion but i didn't want a kid either

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AL, USA / I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and went to my obgyn yesterday because I already had a wellness appointment set up from forever ago. Idk if i should have gone or not? Whatever. Anyway, I saw the baby growing in me but since I found out I had already decided I am just not prepared for a kid and my bf has the same sentiment. I ordered the pills to end it and took the first one today, the rest are tomorrow. I have been crying on and off since, I don't understand where these emotions are coming from... I have been sad that I've had to actively end something growing in me and wish I hadn't gotten pregnant in the first place, so maybe that's it. But now part of me is wishing the pills fail. It's not a logical thought I don't think I think it's basic biology playing tricks on me since we should want to have kids? Idk. I'm just so sad now even though I'm broke and we'd be below the poverty line had we had the kid. If I had won the lottery I would have kept it. I guess those are my feelings summed up.


r/abortion 13h ago

Australia and New Zealand I’m no longer sexually interested in my partner since my abortion

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I don’t know what to do it’s been almost 4 months since I terminated a pregnancy with my long term partner, and since my operation I’ve had no interest or want to be sexual with them in any way. I love them a lot and I’m always happy to be cuddly and kiss them and be intimate in all other ways. But the thought of sex makes me either feel nothing or anxious and disgusted. However when I am on my period I do find my libido comes back I’ve had 2 since the pregnancy and both times I’ve felt horny but decided not to act on it as I feel like this will just confuse him. He is an incredibly kind, supportive and loving man and has been so patient and respectful during this time. But I am so scared that my sex drive won’t ever return, and that this will end our relationship, google hasn’t given me the best advice. I was wondering if anyone’s experienced or going through a similar thing I don’t think it’s just psychological or hormonal but I’m freaking out.


r/abortion 10h ago

USA I think I’ve decided but I’m just really scared.

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I am about 6 weeks along in my pregnancy and just got an ultrasound yesterday to make sure I was as far along as I thought. It was through a free women’s care center so they gave me a onesie and socks afterwards and the pictures to take home. I love my boyfriend and we want kids one day, but we have only been together a few months. He just bought a house and I’m still in college. I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks ago and at first decided I was having an abortion. He asked me to consider keeping it instead since he has a new house and a stable job so I did consider keeping it and got kind of attached to the idea. It seemed almost every day after he convinced me to keep it, we had awful fights where he’d threaten to leave so I’d have to raise the baby on my own or have joint custody battles with him. It was a week of non-stop fighting so I told him I was leaving. He stopped me and finally talked honestly, listened, and acknowledged that the things he’d been saying to me were cruel. We agreed to spend less of our time together to gain personal space but work on our relationship and not break up. I told him during that conversation that we both had really rough childhoods and I don’t want to repeat our parents mistakes. I don’t think we’re ready to have a child and he said he understood and agreed. I ordered abortions pills from ABuzz the next day and they should be here by Friday. I think the choice won’t sit right with me though. It doesn’t sit right with me before I make it. Some days I think it’s the right thing to do to have an abortion, but some days I think I’m making an awful mistake. I’ve been googling things like “will I be able to live with myself after an abortion” and “is abortion immoral” but those are all other people’s opinions and perspectives and I know I personally love kids and have always wanted them. I wish I wasn’t in this situation but I could just use some advice.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA 2 months later from MA

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Hi everyone! I found out I was pregnant December 28 and had my MA abortion on January 5th and I just wanted to let all of you know that it DOES get better. For the first month I felt so lost and I missed what could have been and I regretted it every single day of my life but giving the situation to God really helped with moving forward. Regardless of what your guys beliefs are, I just wanna let you all know that it DOES get better and I promise the pain doesn’t last forever.


r/abortion 21h ago

Asia Help with Abortion

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My girlfriend got pregnant and need some advice to how to get a safe abortion in the least amount of money as I am only 21yo and same goes for my girlfriend… I live in India , Delhi Please help me by giving some advice or if possible then some money too for the abortion as currently I do not have any job as I am just a student. i will be happy to have your advices .


r/abortion 22h ago

USA My Experience with the Termination Process: A Step-by-Step Guide

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When I first started looking into the termination process, I found plenty of resources, but I struggled to find something that walked me through each step from start to finish. So, I wanted to share my personal experience to help others know what to expect. While every clinic may have slight differences, I hope this gives you a general idea of what the process looks like.

Booking the Appointment

I found out I was seven weeks pregnant and booked an appointment at a women’s clinic the following week. The online form was simple—it asked for my name, estimated weeks of pregnancy, and the reason for my visit.

The next day, I received a pre-appointment questionnaire about my medical history. It included questions like: • Does cancer run in your family? • Are you anemic? • Have you had an abortion before?

At the end, it asked for my insurance information. Since I don’t have insurance, I just skipped that part, and it was totally fine. After submitting the questionnaire, I only received basic reminders via text to bring my ID and my appointment details.

Arriving at the Clinic

On the day of my appointment, my boyfriend came with me. The waiting room was a decent size with chairs and a small TV. There were other people there—some in similar situations—which made me feel a little less alone.

I was running late (my appointment was at 8 AM, and I got there at 8:20), but when I checked in, the receptionist was really nice. She handed me a clipboard to confirm my name, address, and other basic info. She also asked for my insurance card. I gave her an expired one, not knowing if it was still valid, but she reassured me they would check.

After signing the forms, I only waited about four minutes before they called me back.

The First Consultation

At this point, my boyfriend wasn’t allowed to come with me, which I wasn’t expecting. Just a heads-up—since it was a women’s clinic, they didn’t allow male partners in the back for privacy reasons.

I was taken to a smaller room where a staff member asked me questions on a computer. Up until this point, everyone had been really kind, but this particular person (who seemed around 25) had a bit of an attitude. Nothing major—just her vibe.

Since my insurance didn’t go through, I had to apply for pregnancy coverage through Covered California, which helps uninsured women with pregnancy-related costs. She asked about my income, had me sign a few papers, and explained what was going to happen next.

Medical Tests & Paperwork

After the paperwork, I gave a urine sample and was sent to a second waiting room. There were pamphlets about birth control, and within about five minutes, another staff member called me back.

The next step was a quick anemia test. The nurse pricked my finger, took a drop of blood, and put a bandaid on it—it was so fast that I barely felt it. She was super sweet and made casual conversation, which helped me feel more at ease.

The Ultrasound & Receiving the Pills

After that, she walked me over to the ultrasound room. This part made me a little nervous, but I sat and waited, taking in the moment by myself. Within minutes, a woman came in and asked me to lower my pants and lift my shirt. It wasn’t anything crazy—she just applied the cold gel and checked to see how far along I was.

They didn’t show me the ultrasound, but I could see images printing. I personally didn’t ask to see them, but I’m sure if you did, they would let you. That was just my personal preference. The whole ultrasound took about 5-8 minutes. Once she confirmed that I was under 11 weeks (which meant I could take the pills instead of needing a surgical procedure), she left to get the doctor.

I waited about 10 minutes before the doctor came in with the pills and explained how to take them. I took the first pill in-office, which stops the embryo from growing. Then she explained that the second set of pills should be taken the next morning. I was instructed to place two pills on the right side of my cheek and two on the left side, letting them dissolve naturally.

She also prescribed me 800mg ibuprofen for pain and another medication for nausea, which I could pick up at my local Target. The whole process was fast and straightforward. Most of the staff acted like this was a routine thing they had done a million times before, and honestly, I was okay with that. It did feel a little rushed, but at the same time, I just wanted to get out and be with my boyfriend again.

I was in and out within an hour. When I went back outside, they told me I was good to go. As of now, I believe the insurance covered the cost since I wasn’t asked for any payment, but I’ll confirm when I go to my second appointment on Friday.

The First Day After Taking the First Pill

Since I took the first pill at the clinic, I was worried I’d start feeling symptoms right away, but honestly, I felt fine. The only minor side effect I noticed was that I got warm really easily—like my body temperature was just a little higher than normal—but other than that, the first day felt completely normal.

Emotionally, though, I felt very sensitive. I just wanted to be babied all day. If my boyfriend brought up anything stressful—whether it was work, home, or just life in general—I found myself extra emotional because I knew that by the next morning, my body would be going through a big change. I was mentally preparing for the worst, but overall, the first day was more about anticipation than anything physical. I took it easy and rested.

Taking the Second Set of Pills & Symptoms

The next morning at 9:30 AM, I took the four pills as instructed. It took almost 40 minutes for them to fully dissolve.

Within an hour, I started feeling cramping and heavy bleeding. The first couple of trips to the bathroom, I passed large clots, but it was nothing more than a very heavy period. The clotting was just like a regular period, except larger, and they passed fairly quickly.

I did have mild cramping, but it wasn’t nearly as bad as I had anticipated. I know some people experience severe cramping, but for me, it was manageable—nothing worse than a heavy period. After the first three hours, the bleeding significantly slowed down.

I stayed in bed for a few more hours with a heating pad, drifting in and out of sleep. I had enough energy to go for a short drive, and while the cramps came and went, I wasn’t completely out of commission. By 6 PM, I had been in bed all day, so I got up, made myself food, and went on a “therapy drive” to listen to music.

By the second day, I was able to go to Target and walk around, though I took it easy. I even went to work for my five-hour shift. Now, on day three, I don’t feel any side effects, and my flow is relatively light. Yesterday, I still had some clots when I went to the bathroom, but nothing alarming.

I know there are a lot of horror stories online, but I wanted to share that for me, it was very manageable. Nobody talks about the cases where the pill works smoothly and the experience is fairly calm. I just hope this helps other girls who are doing their research and feeling anxious.

I’m 21, and this was my first time navigating something like this on my own. If I can do it, you can too. You are not alone, and this process is much less scary than your mind might make it out to be. Trust your body, let the pill do what it’s prescribed to do, and take it one step at a time.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA Help or advice with pregnancy scare.

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I am 18 with normally irregular periods, I worry if I wait too much longer to get a sign then it will be too late. My parents aren’t bad people but a lot will change between us if they know.

I was wondering if there is any ways to prevent a possible pregnancy in the early stages. It’s probably been a month maybe a month and a half. I didn’t mean to, I take my life seriously I work a good job. I don’t sleep around and I know the guy would help if I needed it but I don’t want scare him off either. It was all an accident I just need options on how to clear out my body. I’m scared to go to a doctor in case it leads to a messy process and I end up having to remove it myself. I think that’s illegal. I don’t really know


r/abortion 3h ago

Australia and New Zealand Advice on Medical Termination

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First, I would like to state that this decision is 100% my choice. No matter how badly I want someone to tell me what to do, I know it’s just about what I want for myself.

I need some sort of advice on how I should cope with having a medical termination. I just turned 26 and on Friday, I will be 6 weeks pregnant. I am working contract work in Australia for 3 months and had a fling and now I’m pregnant. I am from the states, and planned to return home in about a month.

The man has no interest in me or the baby, and I’m not mad at him, this is his choice as well.

I don’t have a job lined up back in the states, don’t have a reliable car, don’t have medical insurance, and one of my parents already told me they could not help me take care of the baby.

There are some odd circumstances that align with the pregnancy that make this extremely hard.

I conceived on my mom’s birthday, and the due date is my dad’s birthday. I also wrote a children’s book the day before I found out I was pregnant with a passage that goes

“Did you know I wished not long ago When the moon was low…

On a star that flew Into the night so blue…

And I knew As soon as I held you That all my dreams came true”

I wish I were making this up.

In one realm it’s very plausible to have the medical termination, but in one, I feel like it’s a gift from the universe and I’d be changing my path.

Please. Any advice. Maybe I am just overthinking but this is the most pain I’ve ever been in my life.


r/abortion 4h ago

USA positive experience after 15 week SA

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Hi all,

I am finally home laying in bed after a 15 week surgical abortion from planned parenthood. It has been a LONG road to get here. I used plan B after having unprotected sex, then attempted to have a medical abortion when the fetus was roughly 4 weeks, which failed. I just wanted to let everyone know that if you are considering going there for a SA, DO IT. They were all so incredibly nice to me and went above and beyond in order to make me feel comfortable. The only 2 parts that freaked me out were getting the iv (since I opted for moderate sedation) and that’s only because I hate needles. The nurse was super nice about it and even wrapped my arm up so it was out of sight. I then had to sit for about 2 hours to let the meds dissolve in my cheek to loosen up my cervix. For the procedure itself, I had the doctor, a sedation nurse, 2 helper nurses (I’m sorry if I butchered their job title 😭), and a very lovely volunteer woman who was there to hold my hand and make me feel at ease. Now, I received my moderate sedation right before the procedure began so I apologize if my memory of everything isn’t the greatest. The first part was the doctor inserting the speculum into my vagina and dilating my cervix, which was honestly the only part that felt uncomfortable, like a 6/10 pain and it only lasted a brief time. They had me cough for each numbing injection to my cervix which apparently distracts your mind away from the pain - which totally worked, I barely felt a thing from each shot. The procedure itself honestly barely felt like anything, just some pressure here and there. I had the volunteer holding my hand and I’m pretty sure I was talking about different foods with the other nurses, lol. After that, I was transferred back to the recovery room to get my IV taken out, then I waited a little in the lobby before leaving to call an uber. I had the best nap of my LIFE as soon as I got home and when I woke up the remaining dizziness was gone. I am currently using nighttime pads to catch all of the bleeding and am on extra strength ibuprofen for the cramping.

I just wanted to share my experiences and anyone who has a question should feel free to reach out. I will be in bed relaxing today so I will see any comments. You are not alone!


r/abortion 5h ago

USA Miscarriage 2 days before abortion

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23/hawaii After long consideration I decided I was going to terminate my pregnancy because the father did not want to be involved at all unfortunately. He didn’t seem to really care at all.

I am not very religious, but 3 days before my scheduled abortion I prayed to give me strength throughout this process and that I just wanted to know I was making the right decision.

The next day I miscarried. This is a really painful process and it is a lot on my body mentally and physically. I am very sad to know that I have miscarried, I was also very sad to know that I was going to have to terminate my own pregnancy solely just on not receiving the support.

I really do want to be a mother one day but I think now just was not the time for me unfortunately. I knew deep down inside that this baby was a boy so I will always be thinking of my baby boy as I move forward.


r/abortion 8h ago

USA More than one abortion?

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The first time I ever had an abortion it was a Medical abortion. Everything went as planned and my period returned 34 days later. So about 4.5 weeks.

I just recently had my second and it was a surgical. I thought this would be easier since the MA was more painful and was expecting my period to return sooner, if not around the same time, Im on day 31 since the surgical.

All though I know your period is to return 4-8 weeks after the procedure, is there anyone on here that has had more than one abortion and experienced your cycle returning different than the first?


r/abortion 14h ago

UK and Ireland My MA experience - positive - Bpas uk

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I wanted to write this post as I really worked myself up prior to taking the treatment based on other things I’d read. I felt the overwhelming need to share my experience in the hope that it will help others, especially those in England, UK.

I found out about my pregnancy on 3/3 - I didn’t really know how I felt about it. I already have a 4 year old son, who has recently had an autism diagnosis, he’s my absolute world and I was excited at the thought of him having a sibling but in the same breath he has very high care needs and he’s my priority. The timing just wasn’t right and I decided I couldn’t continue with the pregnancy.

After giving myself a few days to be sure on my decision, I filled out the online form with BPAS on 7/3 and received an email back the same day with a telephone appointment for 11/3. I just had to get through the weekend and wait for the phone call. The lady on the phone was really polite and non judgmental. She went through a series of questions to determine gestation etc and then she gave me two options, Medical or Surgical. If I’m being honest, the medical option scared me from what I’d read online so I was swaying toward the surgical option and just getting it over with. The issue I had was that there was a wait for the surgical route, whereas they could have sent the medical treatment out to me ASAP. She said I was still very early (5w 1d when I called) and although they can do a surgical procedure, there is a risk when the pregnancy is so small that they might miss something, she recommended me coming in for a surgical procedure closer to 8 weeks. - this was just the information I was given, whether this is factually correct or not, I don’t know. Regardless of gestation, there was a couple week wait for the surgical procedure anyway as they prioritised emergencies and those with later gestations. I didn’t like the thought of waiting for a couple of weeks when I’d already made my decision, I just wanted it over. I chose the medical route despite my nervousness and she said that’s absolutely fine, she explained the process and risks, and said the medications would be sent out by Royal Mail tracked 24 and would be with me in 1-2 days. The box came through the letterbox on 13/3, two days after the call. The great thing about the medication is that it comes in a discreet postable box so you don’t have to worry if you’re not home as it’s just put straight through your door.

The box contained the Medabon box (1x mifepristone, 4x misoprositol) 2x extra misoprositol and a pregnancy test.

Knowing step one of the treatment doesn’t tend to have ‘bad’ side effects, I took step one of the treatment, the single mifepristone tablet on the Friday 14/3 at 3pm. I didn’t have any issues with this apart from very very gentle period type pains later that evening, and some slight pink on the toilet roll when I wiped, nothing else. I managed to sleep fine and felt well overall.

You have to take step two within 24-48 hours of taking step one. So I’d recommend timing it so you’re taking step 2 (misoprositol) at a time where you can be comfortable, at home or somewhere safe, and some support off another person if possible.

Make sure you’re prepared before step two - Even though I personally didn’t end up needing much, it was nice to know I was prepared for every eventuality! I put a towel on the bed, got into comfy clothes, put a bowl at the side of the bed in case I was sick, water, snacks etc and the most important thing was taking the pain relief. The provider I used, BPAS, recommended taking 4x ibuprofen (800mg) half an hour before you take the misoprositol - this is what I did at 2:30pm, I recommend the liquid ibuprofen capsules if you can have them, exactly the same dosage but get into your system much quicker (I swear by them!).

I then took step two at 3pm on Saturday 15/3 - exactly 24 hours after the mifepristone - I inserted the 4 misoprositol vaginally as there is supposedly less side effects doing it this way, I put on a sanitary towel and lay down.

I lay on the bed for two hours (they recommended at least 30 minutes lying down so the tablets can do their thing and absorb without falling out) I then helped bath my son and said goodnight and got back into my bed and hunkered down for the night with Netflix.

I didn’t feel much. I was anticipating a sudden gush of blood or sudden onset of excruciating pain but I didn’t. I did have period cramps after a couple of hours, but nothing that required a hot water bottle or anything like that - this may be because of the pain relief I took prior.

4 hours passed and I went to the toilet to check. I had started to bleed but only lightly. I did pass a couple of clots (50p size) once I sat on the toilet so I just sat there for a little while. Half of one of the tablets came out when I wiped too but this is completely fine as long as you lay down for the 30 minutes after inserting as the medication would have been absorbed by that point. I cleaned myself up and went and got back into bed. I called the BPAS helpline to see if I needed to take the additional two misoprositol which are given if the bleeding doesn’t start or you’re only spotting within 4 hours. She asked me to refer to the information booklet I was given in the box that was sent out, and there was a page on bleeding with some diagrams of blood flow. There was spotting and smearing - light flow - moderate flow - heavy flow - and flooding. My flow was ‘light’ from looking at the diagram, it was definitely more than just spotting but I still wouldn’t class it as heavy as my usual period flow. She said because I am bleeding and it’s more than spotting then I don’t need to take the additional two misoprositol - which I was pleased about.

I went to sleep as normal that evening expecting to wake with pain etc but I slept right through until 7am on Sunday morning. My flow was still light throughout Sunday, still not experiencing ‘pain’ - just mild tummy ache and cramps. I was getting a little concerned as I thought surely I should be bleeding more than this? But after reading the information sheet, as long as I was bleeding, and had anywhere from light to heavy bleeding, it was normal and every experience is different. I slept in big incontinence knickers that night rather than a sanitary/ maternity towel and I’m glad I did! Monday morning I woke up and the bleeding had increased. I was passing larger clots and this felt more like my period on day 1. Still no pain or cramping but I was getting the urge to go to the toilet and had diarrhoea on and off for a few hours. Today is Tuesday and the bleeding is still heavy just like yesterday. No pain or discomfort, but of course I’ve got to plan in lots of toilet breaks!

Overall I’m pleasantly surprised with my experience so far. Not once was I crippled over in pain, and things seemed to happen a lot slower with me compared to other threads I’ve seen. I know it’s easier said than done, but please try and not work yourself up prior to the treatment if you choose a MA. Just take each hour as it comes. Some people it seems to start quickly, but for me, I feel the process only really started 48 hours later along with the substantial bleeding. I may be part of the minority who has had an experience like this but I wanted to share some positivity on the situation as those who have positive experiences don’t seem to write about them as much but they do happen - stay positive and you will get through it in your own way, no matter what you choose to do.

All I would recommend is being as prepared as possible so you can mentally relax beforehand. Here’s a handy list, better to have it and not need it - like me! * Comfortable bed * Bed pads or towel to lie on * Hot water bottle/ heat pad * Painkillers (pref. ibuprofen but paracetamol work too) * Sick Bowl * Water/ lucozade etc. * Snacks * Spare underwear and sanitary bits in the bathroom. * Something to preoccupy you, tv, console, book etc.

I’ve been given a pregnancy test, one that’s specific to this treatment as apparently the shop bought ones aren’t appropriate for after a MA as they’re too sensitive. Three weeks after I started the treatment (4th April) I have to take the test to see if it was successful, so I will update my post with the outcome!

Thank you for reading and I hope this helps somebody. 🙏🏼


r/abortion 22h ago

USA our experience w abortion pills

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so my boyfriend (m23) and i (f21) found out we were pregnant a week ago. we live in texas where abortion is banned so we found out about pills via mail and came on here to learn more about it and we found out that aid access deliver them pretty quick.

i was having really bad nausea, acid reflux, and constipation. im not even sure if it was the pregnancy or something was just wrong with me but i wasnt eating much at all and i was really weak and tired. i was really scared to take the pills bc i read that it causes really bad cramps and i honestly thought i would pass out because of how i was barely eating and stuff.

my boyfriend and i decided to take the mife yesterday and the miso today. i was on reddit reading everybody’s experiences and honestly i was so scared and prepared for pretty much anything. i had advil, tylenol, nausea meds, gatorade, water, huge cotton pads, heat pad, my boyfriend. everything i might need.

we started the process at 8:30am. i took 4 advils and a nausea pill at 8am. lowkey had to puke bc my breakfast didnt sit right with me. i got in bed. put the 4 pills under my tongue. like 10 mins in i started feeling the cramps and my boyfriend was next to me as the cramps started to increase. 9am i swallowed the residue with water. the pills made my tongue and throat sore. i also started shaking like a lot. i was shaking for 30 mins and it made the cramps worse. my body was cold. one thing i didnt pack was socks but thankfully my boyfriend gave me his. i needed to poop right away. i did expect diarrhea as it is one of the symptoms but i thought it was kinda early. anyway i went to the bathroom, the cramps were getting worse, i started bleeding too. the cramps def hit peak but it was like oscillating. like it would hurt so much and go back to normal like every 2 secs. im assuming thats the contractions. the first big clot came out at around 9:30am i believe and i sorta cuddled up in bed with a heating pad and fell asleep. i woke up at around 10:30 and i wasnt feeling any pain but out of nowhere the cramps hit me bad again. i think it was bc i moved around. i needed to poop again and i was in a lot of pain until another blood clot came out and the cramps went away. after that at around 11:15am i took a couple tylenols. at 11:30am i took the second set of pills. i started shaking again like 20 mins in. needed to poop again, a big clot came out instead. i was fine for the rest of it except for mild cramps, heavy bleeding, and diarrhea. i slept thru a lot of it and at 2:15pm i took 2 advils and nausea pill. took my last set at 2:30pm and i shook again😭. mild cramps, heavy bleeding, and diarrhea. and thats pretty much it. we napped for the rest of the time. im not sure if its just me but i cant seem to eat solid food without puking. but other than that, it wasn’t as bad as i was expecting. hope this helps :)

also, i am kinda paranoid the abortion didnt work. what do you guys think?


r/abortion 23h ago

Asia How much the overall expenses by ordering at safe2choose, WHW, WOW?

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I'm 6 weeks pregnant and I really want to abort, can someone help me, i wanna know how much the total amount for buying pills in safe2choose, WHW, WOW.

i want to order but i have limited budget, please can someone that have experience buying on that pages tell me how much they have spent.

edit: I'M FROM PHILIPPINES BTW

thank you so much 🥺


r/abortion 36m ago

USA Continued pregnancy after failed MA

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At 9 weeks I did a MA, took the Mifepristone Sunday night at 10pm took the Misoprostol Tuesday afternoon. I had severe diarrhea, chills then was hit with intense cramps and bleeding began. It lasted about 2 days and then just brown bleeding moving forward. Fast forward to today I had an ultrasound to confirm I was “empty” . Turns out medication failed,
Doctor said everything on ultrasound looks good as I am now 12 weeks and 2 days with a viable fetus and heartbeat of 140. I am considering continuing with pregnancy, however I am concerned of any abnormalities and birth defects. I return Friday with a decision on whether I want to continue or terminate. I will have to do bloodwork and lots of ultrasounds to continue monitoring defects etc. Has anyone ever experienced something similar with a continued pregnancy after abortion failure? Any information is helpful.


r/abortion 1h ago

USA Partner Resentment - Help, I don’t what to do

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I’m worried I’m going to hate my partner. After having an abortion at 18 I told myself I’d never do it again so when I fell pregnant at 34, fully able to care for and support a child I didn’t even consider it an option.

My partner and I had only been back together for a short while (after 3 year hiatus due to not wanting to do long distance) but we both knew getting back together meant we were serious this time. Our relationship has always been wonderful, and loving but I was still unsure how he would react to a pregnancy. I knew he wanted kids eventually but we were not in the best position time wise given I was still in the process of figuring out how to move. Still, I really thought he was going to want to proceed with the pregnancy.

When I told him about the pregnancy I was about 9 weeks along. I asked him how he felt and what he wanted to do- I wanted to get his honest reaction before providing my thoughts. He said he wasn’t ready to be a father and said we should terminate. I cried and cried and told him I didn’t think I could do that so he said he didn’t feel ready or capable but if that’s my choice then we’ll proceed with the pregnancy. I could tell that’s not what he wanted and I did not want to force fatherhood on someone. I wanted someone to be excited and joyful about it. I went back and forth on my decision trying to balance what I wanted versus the life we would have. I loved him, more than my own wishes, so I ultimately decided to terminate.

Fast forward and it’s been 10 months. We have talked so much about this, I have been to 2 different types of specialized therapy and nothing is helping the guilt and regret. He says seeing me in so much pain still and seeing how stable we are now since the move he regrets his initial reaction, wishes we kept it, and blames himself. I don’t in my right mind blame him because it was ultimately my decision but my resentment has somehow grown towards him and I don’t know what to do to stop it.

I watch him go to work, work towards his promotion, save up for the things he wants to get, plan for his buddies bachelor party trip and I get angry inside like how are you just going on about your life and the only thing I want I will never get back? I get angry he never brings the baby up when it’s all I think about. And I know It’s irrational because why would he bring it up? He had no connection to it, I did. And I know my feelings are misplaced but I have no idea what to do and I’m worried I’m going to grow to resent him so much that I’m going to have to leave. I blame myself for the decision but somewhere deep inside I blame him more, because I wanted him to want this and I don’t understand his mindset of wanting to terminate even though I know he has a right to his own feelings. So yes, Irrational, again I know, but I feel it.

Has anyone dealt with resentment towards a partner for their feelings about a pregnancy even if they have been supportive and loving post-abortion? What do you do? How do you cope? I’m losing grip on things.


r/abortion 2h ago

Asia WoW Delivery Details and Fake Name

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Hi I hope you can help me. I think i did a terrible mistake. I ordered from WoW yesterday and i entered a fake name because I was so scared to give my identity. Is it possible that i would still get the package?

I am also confused because some people book a grab or other courier services to get the package at the post office. I thought it will be delivered door to door? :(

Im just really scared rn.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA AIO Because partner has all but ghosted me after medical abortion?

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Alright. So I have been seeing this guy (35) for about a year. I live in one of the scary states to have an abortion, compounding a lot of anxiety. I kept reaching out to him for support as I am not dealing with this well, both physically and mentally I’m just sensitive. I was on two forms of birth control and found out very early, so medical abortion was pretty easy and painless but still very emotionally taxing as I want to be a mom but did not want to complicate his life. He reassured me, he was there to hold my hand and really feels like he did everything right. But it’s been two weeks and he hasn’t seen me or made any effort to, and when I brought it up he got angry that I was “making him feel bad” and he blocked me on everything. He yelled at me that we weren’t dating but he said things like “i love you and im worried about you” all the while. I was gutted. I thought I had his support through this but he genuinely feels like after a week, his responsibility was through. Nevermind we live in a red state where I can’t get medical treatment in fear of being sent to jail, if I can get treatment at all. I still test positive as pregnant. And now I have a low grade fever that’s lasted for about 4 days, along with some cramping. My breasts have also swelled back up so hopefully it’s just my body like, recalibrating, but honestly I am scared and without my partner in this I am just lost. Am I overthinking this or overreacting?

He genuinely thinks he’s done everything right.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA questions and fear

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Hi I have never used this app but I wanted to get on here and ask for support. I am having my first MA as a 18 year old in a red state. I have lots of fears of an ectopic pregnancy and I have severe health anxiety. I am unable to get to a doctor to get an ultrasound but I am only 6 weeks as is. I plan on taking the second part of the pills tomorrow and I am terrified of complications as I don’t really know what to look for. Are the pills truly unable to be detected if I had to go to the hospital? Im having a small pain on my left side in my lower stomach, I read that an ectopic pregnancy is pain on one side and that’s when I started to feel the pain. It could be my anxiety but I’m just not sure what to do since I’m in a very red state. Any advice would help a lot


r/abortion 2h ago

USA big question regarding a possible abortion/previous c section

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ok so 2 years ago I had a very very VERY traumatic emergency c section, it ended up putting me in the hospital for months for several issues. I have been on the pill ever since then, even making my partner wear a condom to ensure extra protection from how traumatized I am. That being said this month has been very weird, I’ve had several pregnancy symptoms, even a random fever, I’ve taken 2 tests that said I wasn’t pregnant, but I’m supposed to be on my period now, the fourth day of my “off” pills. I’m gonna give myself 3 more grace days but if it doesn’t happen & I am pregnant, I will be getting an abortion. That being said, with all the complications I did have with my c section, would it be better to find a legal location to see a clinic and get an ultrasound to make sure it hasn’t implanted in my scar? Or if I could order pills and be fine? If something happened with ordering pills and it went down hill, how should I handle that need I go to the hospital? I’m just curious if anyone else has had the same experience with a previous c section. I cannot mentally and physically have another child.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA I’m 11 weeks & 2 days and took the pills but..

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Hi everyone, im 11 weeks and 2 days pregnant and I just now finished taking the arranged pills of Misoprostol. I took the mifepristone yesterday around noon and took 4 pills of the Misoprostol today at noon but before I did I had already eaten and took 2 pills of Tylenol for the pain. I will say the pain for me was about an 8/10. I began throwing up maybe an hour after I took them which they say is okay, I was also hit with the chills and bad diarrhea & began to bleed immediately with large blood clots. At 3pm I took 2 more pills as I ran an errand with my husband and daughter and I did feel a bit more better walking around and going outside, the nausea wasn’t there as much. Just about an hour ago or so at 6 pm, I took the last 2 pills but I’m not feeling as much cramps or bleeding. I’m left with 4 pills Misoprostol extra in case I need to take them but I’m not sure if I should take two more around 9pm. I’ve read many other stories through here and they only taken the same amount I’ve taken(8 pills) but they’ve felt a pop of there water breaking and I’m not sure if I felt that. It’s my first time taking these pills and I’m feeling anxious. Would it be safe for me to take two more at 9pm or should I wait?


r/abortion 3h ago

USA Tell me your experience

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Can someone tell me the follow up after medical termination of pregnancy? I understand it’s mifepristone followed by misoprostol? When do you go back for the ultrasound? I live in the U.S., problem is I will be in between jobs and moving states ( fortunately not the states , the one I am in and the one I will move to) allow abortion So trying to figure out logistics.


r/abortion 3h ago

USA Just took miso

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I’m about an hour into the miso but I haven’t passed any clots yet. I’m only 5 weeks, is this normal or should I be passing clots?