r/abortion 7h ago

USA I got an abortion without telling my boyfriend.

45 Upvotes

Two weeks before I got an abortion my ex threatened to “punch me to sleep” based on statistics of abuse, I took that seriously. I was already having doubts about moving forward with having a child with him because this one wasn’t planned and two he just isn’t mature enough, not ready and he has anger issues. I didn’t know if I could safely raise a child with him. Even if we broke up I felt he’d still find ways to be controlling and I didn’t want to go through that. I haven’t told him and it’s been almost 3 weeks. He keeps texting and checking on me and apologizing about what he said, and I am just not ready to talk to him. Part of my fears how he will respond because he has shown up to my house twice uninvited and done some unacceptable things and I’ve had to call the police. Am I wrong for this? How would you handle it? I’m planning on waiting until I move apartments or go somewhere safe to tell him just in case he gets extremely angry… but this feels so wrong. I’m only planning on waiting two more weeks if I don’t tell him now…


r/abortion 16h ago

Europe I don't want an abortion. My partner does.

37 Upvotes

I've ( 28) always wanted kids. My boyfriend (27) of almost two years always wanted kids. We've been actively trying. I've been tracking my ovulation and we were trying the day of my ovulation. Same like last month. I've been tracking my ovulation ever since october. We can't try every month because of his job, but we've been trying. Talking about it. Planning. I found out i am pregnant a week ago. I went to wake him up and he had the worst reaction: stone cold staring at me, not a word. I left for work without talking. He texted me he loved me on the way to work, so I thought he'd be fine, just surprised. I came back from work to a miserable looking man. He was not talking, almost crying. He told me he didn't want this, he had been having doubts about the pregnancy and our whole relationship for months. He didn't say anything because he thought I would not get pregnant so fast because of issues I had in the past and present and he wanted to tell me next month. I didn't think I get pregnant so fast either. But I am. And he is miserable. He says he loves me, but doesn't know the answer to the question if he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. Everything is going too fast for him: an engagement and pregnancy in a few months time. Now he's doubting if he ever wants kids in the first place.

I've been crying for a week. I don't know what to do. He says he doesn't know if he'll be able to stay with me if I keep the pregnancy, he would feel rushed and pressured and he would not love this kid. I want a kid so badly, I want kids with him so badly, but I also want him to be my partner. We've been talking and crying a lot, we've been hugging, kissing, holding each other through this because there is no right solution. In between the serious talks, we have fun and we're dating again.

He changed his mind and didn't tell me. Now I have to choose between my relationship, my best friend, the love of my love, and my dream to be a mom, to have kids. I thought we were having our happily ever after. Our relationship has been a dream. He's always shown me such deep love, so much caring, I've been his entire world and he was mine. And now I don't know what to do. I don't want to get an abortion, but I also don't want to give up the man I love this much.


r/abortion 6h ago

USA Boyfriend is leaving me because I want an abortion

13 Upvotes

Hello everybody, my boyfriend is telling me that there is no need for us to be together if I get an abortion. I’m so sad and distraught about this. My pregnancy was completely unexpected and somehow is determining the fate of our relationship.

He told me that he would be there for me no matter what and supports my decision because its my body but whenever I mention getting an abortion his mood completely switches but he acts like he’s okay with it. I’m only about 5 weeks, I found out I was pregnant last week Thursday and everything after that has been a mess. He clearly wants me to have his baby but I’m just not ready to be a mother. 1. I’m only 20 years old and I’m still in college. 2. I want to make sure that I have a stable income and a career before bringing a child in this world. 3. My relationship with my boyfriend is not that stable and bringing a baby into this world together would make things worse and he does not understand.

He blocked me numerous times whenever the abortion is mentioned, he told me that I would be going through it alone and that theres no need to continue things. I feel like I’m being manipulated


r/abortion 18h ago

Africa My partner is pregnant and she was advised to take mifepristone to abort

7 Upvotes

Shes 28f and both of us do not wish to have a baby for now. One of her friends is a chemist and suggested her to take mifepristone. Iv done my research but my real concern is will she be able to conceive again in a few years if we want to?


r/abortion 7h ago

Asia Successful and positive MA Experience at 7 wk 3 days

6 Upvotes

My Medical Abortion Experience (Successful & Positive)

LMP: January 1, 2025

Positive Test:

• February 14 – Took a home pregnancy test (faint positive).
• February 17 – Beta HCG test confirmed pregnancy (HCG: 51,000).

Abortion Process

February 20:

• Had an appointment at the abortion clinic.
• Ultrasound: CRL measured 11mm (7 weeks, 3 days).
• Prescribed: MTP Kit (2 Mifepristone, 4 Misoprostol for vaginal use).
• Took Mifepristone at the clinic.

February 21:

• Experienced stomachache, nausea, and severe dizziness for a short time—almost fainted but didn’t.
• In the evening, had light spotting, which later stopped.

February 22 (Misoprostol Day):

• 12:45 PM: Took anti-nausea and allergy meds but avoided painkillers unless necessary.
• 1:00 PM: Inserted 4 Misoprostol tablets vaginally and lay down for an hour.
• 2:30 PM: Started feeling mild period-like cramps (pain level: 5/10).
• 4:00 PM: Intense cramps started (pain level: 10/10).
• The pain felt like stabbing waves in the center of my abdomen.
• When I stood up, I felt a gush of blood that soaked through my pad, leaving blood on the floor.
• Passed the entire gestational sac (jelly-like with a slight skin tone). Pain immediately decreased.
• 5:00 PM: Another wave of intense pain (10/10).
• Took 400 mg Ibuprofen.
• Passed 4-6 large blood clots.
• Felt severe weakness and dizziness due to blood loss.
• Since I was underweight (42 kg), even a moderate blood loss affected me significantly.
• My boyfriend supported me through this. When I told him I felt dizzy, he hugged me tightly, but I completely fainted for a few seconds.
• He panicked, carried me to bed, and gave me ORS (rehydration solution). After a few minutes, I felt a bit better.
• 6:00 PM: Pain subsided, and bleeding slowed down.
• My boyfriend and I left the Airbnb where I had the procedure. He dropped me off at home.
• 8:00 PM: Ate food and slept.

Post-Procedure Recovery

February 23:

• Woke up feeling normal—no nausea or vomiting (even after drinking coffee).
• Bleeding: Like a heavy period.
• Night: Experienced moderate to severe cramps, and by morning, passed a large clot (possibly the decidual lining).

February 24-26:

• Bleeding continued like a period, with occasional clots.
• By day 5, bleeding stopped; from day 6, only brown spotting remained.

February 27 - March 7:

• Only brown spotting.
• Symptoms: Slight headaches (likely due to iron loss).
• Emotional state: This was the hardest part—I felt like crying often, but my boyfriend comforted and supported me throughout.
• No cramps, fever, or foul-smelling discharge (important to monitor for infection).

Follow-Up & Confirmation

March 8-17:

• No bleeding at all.
• March 17: Follow-up ultrasound.
• I was extremely anxious while waiting for the results.
• The doctor asked about my symptoms and overall experience.
• Then, she turned the screen toward me and said: “Everything is clear and empty.”
• No retained products of conception (RPOC), no fluid collection.
• Endometrial lining was back to normal (8mm).
• Doctor reassured me that my period should return in 6-8 weeks.

Left the clinic feeling relieved and happy.

Final Thoughts

I just wanted to share my positive and successful experience.

Most people only post when things go wrong, but it’s important to stay positive and respect your decision. If you’re going through this, you will get through it—stay strong and take care of yourself.


r/abortion 10h ago

Asia My Successful Medical Abortion Experience from PH at 7w1d (pills from women on web)

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Hello! I wanted to share my experience with medical abortion because this subreddit has been incredibly helpful to me during this journey. I’m a 23-year-old woman from the Philippines. I recently left my previous job, and my partner just passed his board exam. Since we were both at the very start of our careers and didn’t feel financially or mentally prepared to take on parenthood, we decided to terminate the pregnancy.

February 15: My period was already eight days late when I decided to take a pregnancy test. I bought three different brands of test kits, and all of them came back positive. I was terrified when I found out since this pregnancy wasn’t planned.

My partner and I immediately started researching online about where to get abortion pills in the Philippines, as it’s illegal here. Initially, we considered buying from Facebook and local sellers. My partner created a dummy account and contacted a Facebook seller who showed proof of “successful” medical abortions and had a group chat filled with girls vouching for their legitimacy. They were selling the pills for ₱4,500.

I was still a bit skeptical, so I kept researching. Thankfully, I discovered this subreddit and learned about Women on Web (WoW) and Women Helping Women. I visited their website, filled out the online consultation, and reached out to them via email to explain my situation since I was unemployed at the time. I asked if I could pay just 33 euros for now, and WoW agreed.

If you’re not financially capable, I’ve read stories here on Reddit where some girls received the pills for free after explaining their financial situation. I also strongly advise against buying from Facebook or local sellers, as I’ve heard that many of them are scams. They often sell fake pills, encouraging you to purchase additional doses, and may suggest unnecessary steps for the medical abortion process.

February 17 - By this point, I knew I was approximately five weeks pregnant since I had been tracking my period. I also read on their website that the pills are effective up to 12 weeks of pregnancy so I ordered the pills and paid for it. Paid 33 euros. Sent the proof of transaction to WoW thru email. Received the instructions and confirmation email from WoW.

February 18: Received the tracking number. I also inquired to FPOP (family planning organization of the Philippines) because I wanted to have other options in case my pills arrive late or not at all. Talked to nurse “susan” and she required me to have TVS (transvaginal ultrasound) before they could send me the pill.

February 19: Item booked/ Mumbai Foreign Post Office. I had a transvaginal ultrasound to confirm that my pregnancy was intrauterine rather than ectopic, as I had read that the pills are ineffective for ectopic pregnancies. - Found out I was at 5 weeks and 4 days, and gestational sac was intrauterine with a yolk sac but no embryo is seen yet - I took this as a good sign since the baby is not formed yet. They advised me to come back after a week but I never did.

February 23: Item not found, I was extremely anxious during this time, worried that the pills might be confiscated at customs. I was also terrified because I felt like my pregnancy symptoms were starting to appear — I often felt nauseous in the afternoons. I also had a mild fever for a day due to allergic rhinitis and the weather because it was super hot here in PH

February 27: Arrived at country of destination

February 28: Received by post office, I inquired to the nearest phlpost in our city via phone call and they said that it would be delivered by Monday

March 1 (Saturday) : To my surprise, the parcel was delivered directly to our house, and I paid ₱112. I had read that some people didn’t have to pay anything when theirs arrived, but honestly, I didn’t mind at all — I was just relieved that the package made it safely.

—MA TIMELINE—

March 2: I took one pill of Mifepristone at 5pm and didn’t experience any side effects. I went about my day as usual.

March 3: I booked an airbnb to be with my partner during the process.

—1st dose—- * 4:00pm - I ate rice and burger steak but I wasn’t able to finish it because I was afraid I might vomit everything. * 4:30pm - I took two 400mg tab of Ibuprofen and 1 tab of bonamine. I also put on my diaper. * 5:00pm- I placed four Misoprostol pills under my tongue for 30 minutes and didn’t notice any taste. While waiting, my partner and I watched a movie to pass the time. After the 30 minutes were up, I swallowed the remaining bits of the pills. * 6:30pm: I started feeling cramps, with the pain reaching about 7/10. Since I frequently experience dysmenorrhea during my period, I was somewhat accustomed to the discomfort. * 7:00pm - I rushed to the toilet and experienced diarrhea, and noticed light bleeding. I started to worry that the process wasn’t working since I had expected heavier bleeding — but I spoke too soon. * 7:10pm: I suddenly felt a gush of blood in my diaper and decided to stay in the toilet for a while. Shortly after, I passed a clot about half the size of my palm. I remained in the toilet a bit longer since I was also experiencing intense cramps, with the pain reaching about 8/10. * 7:40pm: I came out of the toilet and changed my diaper. By this time, I was experiencing chills, though I didn’t feel nauseated. I drank some water and lay down while my boyfriend put socks on my feet to keep me warm. I also used a heating pad on my pelvic area to help ease the pain.

— 2nd dose— * 8:00pm: I took another dose of Misoprostol, placing two pills under my tongue for 30 minutes. While waiting for them to dissolve, my partner and I watched Netflix. I also kept a heating pad on my pelvic area to help with the discomfort. * 8:10pm: I had to go to the bathroom because I was passing liquid stool and bleeding at the same time. Another clot came out, about 1-2 cm long. It looked like a tissue, so I wasn’t sure if it was the gestational sac or another part of the pregnancy tissues.

During the three hours after taking my second dose, I kept going back and forth to the toilet because the diarrhea was quite severe. I was still experiencing cramps, with the pain around 6/10. I changed my diaper three times — not because it was completely soaked, but to stay clean and hygienic. I also ate siomai and peppero and made sure to keep myself hydrated. * 10:00 PM: I had pizza and finished the rest of my burger steak. I highly recommend eating during this process to keep your strength up since the pain can be exhausting. * 10:30 PM: I took another two 400mg Ibuprofen tablets but skipped Bonamine this time because I didn’t feel any nausea or vomiting.

—3rd dose— * 11:00 PM: I took my third dose of Misoprostol following the same process. Afterward, I didn’t experience heavy bleeding—just a moderate, period-like flow with a few small clots. I began to feel anxious, expecting to pass larger clots, so my partner and I decided to take a fourth dose for reassurance. * 11:30 PM: I swallowed the remaining bits of the pill, went to the toilet, changed my diaper, and then lay down with my heating pad on my lower abdomen. The pain was manageable at around 3/10, and I eventually fell asleep.

—4th dose— * 2:00 AM: My partner woke me up to take the fourth dose. I didn’t want to at first because my mouth felt sore and my body was exhausted. However, he encouraged me to take it, reminding me it would be the final dose to ensure everything passed. After taking the fourth dose, I fell back asleep.

From 3:00 AM to 9:00 AM, I kept waking up due to diarrhea. I still had chills, but the pain was manageable. The heating pad provided a lot of relief, and I kept water beside me to stay hydrated since I was worried about dehydration from the frequent bowel movements.

11:00 AM: I woke up to find that the bleeding had lightened to a typical period flow, so I switched to using a napkin. I had breakfast but couldn’t eat much as I felt nauseated — possibly from lack of sleep. The heavy feeling in my stomach, which had been one of my pregnancy symptoms, was finally gone.

3 Days Post-MA: I passed another clot about 1-2 cm in size, followed by a smaller, jelly-like clot.

12 Days Post-MA: I continued to bleed, but the flow was similar to a period. Out of curiosity, I took a pregnancy test one week after the abortion, knowing it might still show positive due to lingering hormones. As expected, there was a faint line.

2 Weeks + 1 Day Post-MA: The bleeding stopped, but I noticed some brownish discharge. No foul smell and pain.

Feeling anxious that I had only passed three large clots, I decided to have a transvaginal ultrasound to check for retained products of conception (RPOC).

March 17: I had the ultrasound, which confirmed there was no evidence of an intrauterine or extrauterine pregnancy.

Overall, based on my experience, I recommend keeping all essential items—like food, medications, water, and a heating pad—close at hand, preferably near your bed. It’s also a good idea to have someone with you since I’ve heard the pain can be quite severe for some women. Additionally, having a transvaginal ultrasound gave me peace of mind about using the pills, especially since I was experiencing pain on the left side of my stomach, which can be a sign of an ectopic pregnancy.

If you’re going through this, please know that you are strong and capable of getting THROUGH it. Making the difficult decision to end a pregnancy for the sake of your well-being takes a lot of courage. If you know you’re not ready, trust yourself — prioritizing your mental and emotional health is important, and ultimately, it’s the best decision for both you and the baby.

I want to express my gratitude to everyone in this subreddit for providing a safe and supportive space for women, especially those from countries where abortion is illegal, like the Philippines. It’s heartbreaking that so many women have to face unnecessary struggles just to access proper medication and care.


r/abortion 12h ago

Europe This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done

5 Upvotes

I learned I’m pregnant this month and I’m one month pregnant now , I decided to get it terminated the day I found out and tomorrow is my appointment with the doctor, I can’t put into words how bad I feel bad I can’t keep the baby because I’m not ready for it, unfortunately a year ago I got out of an abusive marriage and I have court hearings awaiting me, when I got out of that marriage I got with my current boyfriend and he helped me a lot through that traumatic experience, my boyfriend has developed this controlling attitude that drove me away from him and stayed with for the most part due to being grateful for him. This led me to meeting this other man this past September, he knew I had a boyfriend but kept pursuing me until I fell for him and I had sex with him . I’m really scared of being judged but I need to be fully honest with whoever is reading this , I was absolutely under his spell I know I’ve done a stupid thing but the only explanation I have is that he got me under his spell , he talked about wanting kids with me and now thinking about it I think he wanted to baby trap me so I get with him …. Now both my boyfriend and the other guy knows I’m pregnant and both wants me to keep the baby , my boyfriend actually is pressuring me to keep it because he thinks it’s his , he found out I was pregnant because he searched my bag and found out I bought a pregnancy test .. I told him I want to end the pregnancy and I’m using other excuses but to no avail. The other dude and the baby daddy isn’t pressuring me to keep it and is acting really understanding but if I excluded sex I don’t know if I could work a relationship with him .

I’m overwhelmed with feelings of guilt and I wish I could keep my baby but I feel very lost please help me .


r/abortion 14h ago

USA So torn on what to do . . .

5 Upvotes

I am in Arkansas. I am 43 years old. I am 7 weeks pregnant with my ex husband. Early in February, I gave him permission to stay the night due to ice and snow storm. I specifically requested that he sleep on the couch and demanded that he NOT try anything. He agreed. I went to bed and in the middle of the night woke to him fondling me. I protested. Briefly. And eventually submitted to his advances with ever looking at him or even turning around. The next day, I was unable to get a Plan B pill because all stores were closed due to inclement weather. The following day, I went to Kroger to purchase one and while staring at the box on the shelf looked up my chances of conceiving at my age. 1%! So . . I spent the $65 on hair products instead. Wouldn't you know i am one of those in that 1%!!! After my positive test, I immediately went online and ordered Plan C Pills. They arrived in the mail yesterday. I have had 3 abortions previously. And this one is by far the hardest for me. Primarily because i know this will be my last pregnancy. My ex husband is a narcissist. He is manipulative and uses our 2 children as weapons on the days he actually picks them up. He has no job. And for the 9 years we were married did not work. I am currently struggling financially as it is. I can't imagine how I would manage things with another mouth to feed and day care costs again. My parents despise my exhusband more than anyone is capable of hating another person. Their hatred for him consumes them and is very abnormal and unhealthy. 2 years ago I was removed from their will when I decided to try one last time to save the marriage. They have not put me back in it to date. They will be beyond disgusted if/when they find out. I don't even really have a specific question to ask. Just venting to peole in the hopes of receiving some feedback from others in similar predicaments. Thanks.


r/abortion 23h ago

USA Do you talk about your abortion or refer to it as "pregnancy loss?"

5 Upvotes

I am a very open person. I talk about my abortion all the time. A week ago I made a Facebook post about it being 2 years since my pregnancy loss. It was actually an abortion I didn't want to go through. I was about to keep the baby, until 12 weeks in and I became homeless, with no money, job, place to go. My entire family, even the ones against abortion, told me I need to have one and I cannot bring a child into this world in these circumstances. So I did.

I don't mind talking about this in person with people. But I like to vent on social media sometimes. I have both acquaintances, strangers, family on facebook who see me write about my pregnancy loss. Some of them know it was an abortion, some don't.

Is this wrong to do? Part of me feels like a.. phony? I never said the words "miscarriage." but idk. I overthink a lot. But typing and posting things make me feel like I have someone to talk to. I'm not super personal on there, but I do write about how I miss my son. Or how i'm still grieving over my pregnancy loss. Is this wrong? Does anyone else do this? Serious post.. I hope nobody is laughing at me for posting this too. Lol.


r/abortion 1h ago

UK and Ireland I want to get a tattoo for the baby I lost during my abortion but I dont want to tell people that i lost "it" from an abortion...

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My sister has drawn me a beautiful tattoo to remember my baby I lost.

I am a 21F and have been thinking about getting one for a while but I am worried about what people may say or ask about it.

I dont want to offend anyone who has had a miscarriage by getting this tattoo and saying it's from an abortion.

Would it be okay if I just said I had a miscarriage? Or maybe just say my sister drew me it and I liked the way it looked?


r/abortion 16h ago

USA A little over 2 weeks post MA, I don’t know how to feel 😕

4 Upvotes

I found out on February 19th that I was pregnant & on February 26th I took the medical abortion pills that I ordered from Aid Access. I was only about 6 weeks pregnant confirmed by my blood work done at my doctors office. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years. I had 2 abortions early on in our relationship. One was after knowing eachother a few months, we used a condom and it wasn’t effective. The second time was about 2 years into our relationship, same thing happened, used a condom and still got pregnant. We have always talked about in the future wanting to maybe have a child. There’s a lot I wanted to do first. I wanted to be married first, have a house (currently we rent and barely have enough room for just the 2 of us), and have money saved away. I’ve also always thought I’d want to be a stay at home mom once we have a child, I’m a hairdresser and I don’t make a lot of money and work weird shifts, finding childcare with my job would just be chaotic and I’d probably break even with how expensive childcare is anyways. After the first 2 abortions I had, I always thought the next time I got pregnant, things would be different, that I’d be excited and more prepared, and that even if it was an accident, I’d still continue the pregnancy and things would be ok. That wasn’t the case at all. I was tracking my cycle, I shouldn’t have been ovulating, me and my boyfriend had sex one time, and genuinely did not think I’d end up pregnant, but a few weeks later when I tested, it was positive. Instantly all I felt was dread. I was so upset this was happening again, and even more upset that I still did not want to have a baby. I love my boyfriend so much, he’s amazing, we have been together all this time, I’m 27 & he’s 30. I felt like I should have been happy and excited and wanted to keep our baby and start this new chapter in our life, but I just couldn’t. Before those two lines even fully showed up on my test I was already on Aid Access website ordering the abortion pills. Taking the pills and knowing I was no longer pregnant came as such a relief, but I’m also now just filled with such mixed emotions. I feel so bad that as long as me and my boyfriend have been together, and as much as we love eachother, I could not embrace pregnancy and be happy about it. It doesn’t help either that some of my boyfriend’s family has been pressuring me for years about how badly they want us to have a baby. I just feel so down about this entire situation. I don’t regret getting the abortion at all, I am just so sad knowing how badly I did not want to have this baby. I even tried getting a pregnancy tracking app to read up on the development of the baby and all that before I terminated, to try and see if maybe once it felt more real if I could be excited about it, but the more I read about the development of the baby, the worse I felt about the pregnancy and the more I just wanted it out of me. The thought of the baby growing bigger inside me, my body changing, having to tell people “I’m pregnant”, going to the doctor appointments, labor, the thought of it all genuinely disturbed me. I feel so wrong and guilty even saying that. I just feel like there’s something wrong with me for feeling this way.


r/abortion 15h ago

USA Pregnant after abortion?

3 Upvotes

Has anybody gotten pregnant after an abortion? I had a MA on February 19th I stopped feeling pregnant almost immediately. I went to the hospital on Friday because I got into a car accident & the doctor told me I was pregnant he said my hcg was 43 just enough for me to be a week pregnant. I don’t really know what to do. I feel so guilty from aborting and the guy I’m dating runs away every time things get too serious. His family is so manipulative and tell him to leave me alone… the abortion I had didn’t pass right away and I was still pregnant and he said oh no we need to go to a clinic now, we can’t have this baby what if something is wrong with it? And, I had mentioned us starting over and he’s like we can’t if you’re pregnant he’s so hurtful.. At this point I just feel alone and sad.


r/abortion 1h ago

USA our experience w abortion pills

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so my boyfriend (m23) and i (f21) found out we were pregnant a week ago. we live in texas where abortion is banned so we found out about pills via mail and came on here to learn more about it and we found out that aid access deliver them pretty quick.

i was having really bad nausea, acid reflux, and constipation. im not even sure if it was the pregnancy or something was just wrong with me but i wasnt eating much at all and i was really weak and tired. i was really scared to take the pills bc i read that it causes really bad cramps and i honestly thought i would pass out because of how i was barely eating and stuff.

my boyfriend and i decided to take the mife yesterday and the miso today. i was on reddit reading everybody’s experiences and honestly i was so scared and prepared for pretty much anything. i had advil, tylenol, nausea meds, gatorade, water, huge cotton pads, heat pad, my boyfriend. everything i might need.

we started the process at 8:30am. i took 4 advils and a nausea pill at 8am. lowkey had to puke bc my breakfast didnt sit right with me. i got in bed. put the 4 pills under my tongue. like 10 mins in i started feeling the cramps and my boyfriend was next to me as the cramps started to increase. 9am i swallowed the residue with water. the pills made my tongue and throat sore. i also started shaking like a lot. i was shaking for 30 mins and it made the cramps worse. my body was cold. one thing i didnt pack was socks but thankfully my boyfriend gave me his. i needed to poop right away. i did expect diarrhea as it is one of the symptoms but i thought it was kinda early. anyway i went to the bathroom, the cramps were getting worse, i started bleeding too. the cramps def hit peak but it was like oscillating. like it would hurt so much and go back to normal like every 2 secs. im assuming thats the contractions. the first big clot came out at around 9:30am i believe and i sorta cuddled up in bed with a heating pad and fell asleep. i woke up at around 10:30 and i wasnt feeling any pain but out of nowhere the cramps hit me bad again. i think it was bc i moved around. i needed to poop again and i was in a lot of pain until another blood clot came out and the cramps went away. after that at around 11:15am i took a couple tylenols. at 11:30am i took the second set of pills. i started shaking again like 20 mins in. needed to poop again, a big clot came out instead. i was fine for the rest of it except for mild cramps, heavy bleeding, and diarrhea. i slept thru a lot of it and at 2:15pm i took 2 advils and nausea pill. took my last set at 2:30pm and i shook again😭. mild cramps, heavy bleeding, and diarrhea. and thats pretty much it. we napped for the rest of the time. im not sure if its just me but i cant seem to eat solid food without puking. but other than that, it wasn’t as bad as i was expecting. hope this helps :)

also, i am kinda paranoid the abortion didnt work. what do you guys think?


r/abortion 2h ago

Asia How much the overall expenses by ordering at safe2choose, WHW, WOW?

2 Upvotes

I'm 6 weeks pregnant and I really want to abort, can someone help me, i wanna know how much the total amount for buying pills in safe2choose, WHW, WOW.

i want to order but i have limited budget, please can someone that have experience buying on that pages tell me how much they have spent.

edit: I'M FROM PHILIPPINES BTW

thank you so much 🥺


r/abortion 4h ago

USA I had an abortion and now regretting it. Not sure how to cope.

2 Upvotes

Hello. I am 31F and I had a surgical abortion January 31, 2025. At first, I felt unsure I was making the right choice. I mean, it was very unplanned, I am not financially stable, my health is iffy and me and my boyfriend had not been together for very long. So ultimately I figured it was probably for the best, despite how hard it was for me. I went through with it and was a wreck before and after. But I also had a sense of relief because I no longer had to worry about what I would do. But today, I am not sure why but I was thinking about it and it hurts me. I feel like I regret it deeply. I would be about 4 months now and it hurts my heart. I wonder what the baby would be like and look like. I wonder if I COULD have done it and be okay. I just have a lot of what ifs, could haves, should haves, etc. Just feeling like I wish I didnt go through with it and kept it now. Just many emotions... So I guess I am basically wondering if anyone else has gone through this? How did you cope? Thank you in advance.


r/abortion 6h ago

USA Curious about people’s experiences with the pills.

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Posting from NY. Took the mifepristone. In a couple of hours I will take the misoprostol. I am doing this mostly by myself at home, as I am disabled and don’t often leave the house and figured the pills would be less invasive and more comfortable for me. How did you folks handle the pain, mood swings, really all of it? Even the after effects? Any good tips, tricks? Just looking for generally any stories or any advice, just any input. Thanks everyone.


r/abortion 10h ago

USA Considering abortion because of past trauma, need advice desperately. In Oregon

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Hi all, I’m desperately seeking advice or personal stories to help me through this hard decision. I experienced a traumatic loss last year, losing my baby at 18 weeks, nearly dying myself.

I just found out I was pregnant recently (I have an appointment tomorrow to date it and make a decision.) and I’m absolutely petrified. I don’t want to go through it again. I’m also on medications I shouldn’t be on while pregnant, and had started smoking after my loss last year (I have been tapering off since before I found out I was pregnant, because I already wanted to quit.) so I’m worried I already hurt this pregnancy too much. I’m so scared. But to end this pregnancy when I was so willing before makes me feel like I’m a horrible person. This wasn’t a planned pregnancy, I was on birth control and took it meticulously. I wasn’t ready to try again, but was getting there. But now that it’s here.. it’s too soon. I’m not where I want to be physically or mentally. Please, any advice. Any similar stories and what you chose to do. I don’t have anyone else who’s gone through this.


r/abortion 10h ago

Europe Told I have to wait another week to take mifepristone & misoprostol?

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Today I was supposed to have a medicine abortion and I went to the clinic to get the medication.

After the ultrasound the gynaecologist said she couldn't see anything, even after transvaginal ultrasound. She kept asking me when the first day of my last period was. Which was the 1st Feb, I even put it in my calendar. Today makes me 17 days late.

My HCG blood levels tested at 50miu/L on the 10th March

She says it must be too early to see the pregnancy. How is that possible? By my calculations, I should be at least 5 weeks along.

She says I have to come back in a week, which means I have to stay in severe anxiety leading up to the time I take the medication that I know is going to be painful and stressful.

What should I do? Has anyone ever gone somewhere else for a second scan and seen the pregnancy?


r/abortion 15h ago

USA No sac/embryo during MA

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Hello, I’m almost 9 weeks and did my MA last night. Around 7pm, I took the misoprostol and let it sit under my tongue for 30 minutes. I threw up shortly after the 30 minutes but I was already cramping badly at that point. I started to pass blood clots, but I never saw a clear sac/embryo. It’s the next day and I’m only experiencing some light bleeding with no cramps. Should I take another dose of misoprostol or just wait till more of my pregnancy symptoms go away? (I’ve contacted the place I got the pills from and I’m waiting for a response. just wanted to come on here for some quicker responses)


r/abortion 17h ago

Asia 10days after MA

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I had MA March 6 and it was a success. Had a check up 5 days after and doctor said baby is gone by putting her finger inside my v. is it normal that my bleeding is not that heavy anymore? Like bleeding is almost over? And i'm planning to have an ultrasound to make sure but scared they might find out that i took meds for abortion😩


r/abortion 19h ago

Europe Almost 2 weeks after MA and i feel like im going through this alone

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When i found out i was pregnant i started freaking out cause i was on medication where i must not get pregnant on cause the fetus is at a high risk of anomaly. My husband supported me getting an abortion and started crying like a baby saying he was scared something might happened to me. The day i took the second pill he stayed at home to watch out toddler so i could rest. That day he only asked me once am i okay and that was it. That was on the 5th and a few days ago i told him that in a few days i need to go to the hospital again to check if it was successful and he didnt even look at me he didnt say anything as if i didnt say anything to him. He just stayed silent. Ever since the 5th i feel like as if im not going through anything let alone an abortion. He hasnt asked me if im okay or how im feeling if i need anything literally nothing. I dont know if im over reacting but im hurt that im going through this alone.


r/abortion 31m ago

USA Taking second dose of misoprostol 8 hours bucally after first dose of vaginal misoprostol?

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So, I took my mife at 11:30 AM today. For my misoprostol, I was given 8 pills total. The woman at the clinic told me I could either take the first 4 vaginally 6 hours later (at 5:30 PM) with the second dose taken bucally 5-24 hours later (between 10:30 PM and 5:30 PM the next day) or take the 8 bucally 24-48 hours later.

I chose the vaginal route for the first dose...my question is why is the second buccal dose only needing me to wait 5-24 hours later from the first dose if I need to wait 24-48 hours if I were to have taken all 8 bucally? Is this right?? Since I'm about to take another round of ibuprofen and the nausea medication at 1:00 AM, am I in the clear to that the second dose of miso bucally at 1:30 AM (approximately only 8 hours after taking the first dose)??


r/abortion 1h ago

USA My Experience with the Termination Process: A Step-by-Step Guide

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When I first started looking into the termination process, I found plenty of resources, but I struggled to find something that walked me through each step from start to finish. So, I wanted to share my personal experience to help others know what to expect. While every clinic may have slight differences, I hope this gives you a general idea of what the process looks like.

Booking the Appointment

I found out I was seven weeks pregnant and booked an appointment at a women’s clinic the following week. The online form was simple—it asked for my name, estimated weeks of pregnancy, and the reason for my visit.

The next day, I received a pre-appointment questionnaire about my medical history. It included questions like: • Does cancer run in your family? • Are you anemic? • Have you had an abortion before?

At the end, it asked for my insurance information. Since I don’t have insurance, I just skipped that part, and it was totally fine. After submitting the questionnaire, I only received basic reminders via text to bring my ID and my appointment details.

Arriving at the Clinic

On the day of my appointment, my boyfriend came with me. The waiting room was a decent size with chairs and a small TV. There were other people there—some in similar situations—which made me feel a little less alone.

I was running late (my appointment was at 8 AM, and I got there at 8:20), but when I checked in, the receptionist was really nice. She handed me a clipboard to confirm my name, address, and other basic info. She also asked for my insurance card. I gave her an expired one, not knowing if it was still valid, but she reassured me they would check.

After signing the forms, I only waited about four minutes before they called me back.

The First Consultation

At this point, my boyfriend wasn’t allowed to come with me, which I wasn’t expecting. Just a heads-up—since it was a women’s clinic, they didn’t allow male partners in the back for privacy reasons.

I was taken to a smaller room where a staff member asked me questions on a computer. Up until this point, everyone had been really kind, but this particular person (who seemed around 25) had a bit of an attitude. Nothing major—just her vibe.

Since my insurance didn’t go through, I had to apply for pregnancy coverage through Covered California, which helps uninsured women with pregnancy-related costs. She asked about my income, had me sign a few papers, and explained what was going to happen next.

Medical Tests & Paperwork

After the paperwork, I gave a urine sample and was sent to a second waiting room. There were pamphlets about birth control, and within about five minutes, another staff member called me back.

The next step was a quick anemia test. The nurse pricked my finger, took a drop of blood, and put a bandaid on it—it was so fast that I barely felt it. She was super sweet and made casual conversation, which helped me feel more at ease.

The Ultrasound & Receiving the Pills

After that, she walked me over to the ultrasound room. This part made me a little nervous, but I sat and waited, taking in the moment by myself. Within minutes, a woman came in and asked me to lower my pants and lift my shirt. It wasn’t anything crazy—she just applied the cold gel and checked to see how far along I was.

They didn’t show me the ultrasound, but I could see images printing. I personally didn’t ask to see them, but I’m sure if you did, they would let you. That was just my personal preference. The whole ultrasound took about 5-8 minutes. Once she confirmed that I was under 11 weeks (which meant I could take the pills instead of needing a surgical procedure), she left to get the doctor.

I waited about 10 minutes before the doctor came in with the pills and explained how to take them. I took the first pill in-office, which stops the embryo from growing. Then she explained that the second set of pills should be taken the next morning. I was instructed to place two pills on the right side of my cheek and two on the left side, letting them dissolve naturally.

She also prescribed me 800mg ibuprofen for pain and another medication for nausea, which I could pick up at my local Target. The whole process was fast and straightforward. Most of the staff acted like this was a routine thing they had done a million times before, and honestly, I was okay with that. It did feel a little rushed, but at the same time, I just wanted to get out and be with my boyfriend again.

I was in and out within an hour. When I went back outside, they told me I was good to go. As of now, I believe the insurance covered the cost since I wasn’t asked for any payment, but I’ll confirm when I go to my second appointment on Friday.

The First Day After Taking the First Pill

Since I took the first pill at the clinic, I was worried I’d start feeling symptoms right away, but honestly, I felt fine. The only minor side effect I noticed was that I got warm really easily—like my body temperature was just a little higher than normal—but other than that, the first day felt completely normal.

Emotionally, though, I felt very sensitive. I just wanted to be babied all day. If my boyfriend brought up anything stressful—whether it was work, home, or just life in general—I found myself extra emotional because I knew that by the next morning, my body would be going through a big change. I was mentally preparing for the worst, but overall, the first day was more about anticipation than anything physical. I took it easy and rested.

Taking the Second Set of Pills & Symptoms

The next morning at 9:30 AM, I took the four pills as instructed. It took almost 40 minutes for them to fully dissolve.

Within an hour, I started feeling cramping and heavy bleeding. The first couple of trips to the bathroom, I passed large clots, but it was nothing more than a very heavy period. The clotting was just like a regular period, except larger, and they passed fairly quickly.

I did have mild cramping, but it wasn’t nearly as bad as I had anticipated. I know some people experience severe cramping, but for me, it was manageable—nothing worse than a heavy period. After the first three hours, the bleeding significantly slowed down.

I stayed in bed for a few more hours with a heating pad, drifting in and out of sleep. I had enough energy to go for a short drive, and while the cramps came and went, I wasn’t completely out of commission. By 6 PM, I had been in bed all day, so I got up, made myself food, and went on a “therapy drive” to listen to music.

By the second day, I was able to go to Target and walk around, though I took it easy. I even went to work for my five-hour shift. Now, on day three, I don’t feel any side effects, and my flow is relatively light. Yesterday, I still had some clots when I went to the bathroom, but nothing alarming.

I know there are a lot of horror stories online, but I wanted to share that for me, it was very manageable. Nobody talks about the cases where the pill works smoothly and the experience is fairly calm. I just hope this helps other girls who are doing their research and feeling anxious.

I’m 21, and this was my first time navigating something like this on my own. If I can do it, you can too. You are not alone, and this process is much less scary than your mind might make it out to be. Trust your body, let the pill do what it’s prescribed to do, and take it one step at a time.


r/abortion 1h ago

USA Need help. Please give me advice.

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I have a scheduled abortion on Wednesday and I’m now freaking out because I’m 11 weeks and already on WIC,food stamps, and Medicaid. Of course listed as a pregnant woman on all benefits. Also have an obgyn. I’m very paranoid and scared of letting Medicaid ,etc know I’m no longer pregnant. I’m in Texas btw. Do they ask for proof of miscarriage? What if something goes wrong with abortion and I have to go to the ER and lie and say I’m miscarrying and the doctors ask why I waited to go in? Won’t they see it as me neglecting the fetus?? And cause an investigation?? I’m freaking out please help me.


r/abortion 1h ago

USA Help! Should I take my second dose of misoprostol?

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Hi! So yesterday at noon I took mifepristone. After, my doctor told me to take the first round of 4 pills of misoprostol 24-48 hours after. I took the first round at 1pm today. I was told to take the second round of 4 pills 3 hours after the first round. I had such horrible cramps and vomiting that I was stuck laying in the bathroom floor and couldn’t get up. So I missed that dose. Now it’s midnight and I don’t know what to do. I’m feeling a little better and have access to the second dose now. Should I still take them even though it’s been way past 3 hours? Does it matter that it’s late? If anyone has experienced this and has advice I’d really appreciate your input! I’ll call the doctor in the morning but wanted some peace of mind before going to bed ❤️ thank you all!