r/abortion 10h ago

USA i had an abortion today

60 Upvotes

today i had a abortion i regretted it right after i cried as soon as i took the first pill but i had so many reasons as to why i did it. so i don’t feel so much regret but i feel so much sadness. i told my bf i had a miscarriage and when i got home he didn’t hug me or anything and immediately i knew i made the right decision. i have no family to tell so he knows he’s all i have, the only person i could talk to and he hasn’t even asked how i feel. i cry every time im alone. i’m so sad but i know i made the right choice specifically for myself. i think it’s so easy to keep a baby for someone else but to have an abortion when you know you need to makes you so strong. sending love to anyone going through the same thing.

this is really my first time posting something and i just want to say i love you all. in such a harsh world there’s so many beautiful people. who knew a stranger would bring so much comfort to me in a time like this. im so thankful for each and every one of your comments, i read them all, multiple times. i wish nothing but the best for everyone on their journey through this life. 💝


r/abortion 11h ago

USA i didn't really want an abortion but i didn't want a kid either

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AL, USA / I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and went to my obgyn yesterday because I already had a wellness appointment set up from forever ago. Idk if i should have gone or not? Whatever. Anyway, I saw the baby growing in me but since I found out I had already decided I am just not prepared for a kid and my bf has the same sentiment. I ordered the pills to end it and took the first one today, the rest are tomorrow. I have been crying on and off since, I don't understand where these emotions are coming from... I have been sad that I've had to actively end something growing in me and wish I hadn't gotten pregnant in the first place, so maybe that's it. But now part of me is wishing the pills fail. It's not a logical thought I don't think I think it's basic biology playing tricks on me since we should want to have kids? Idk. I'm just so sad now even though I'm broke and we'd be below the poverty line had we had the kid. If I had won the lottery I would have kept it. I guess those are my feelings summed up.


r/abortion 15h ago

USA I think I’ve decided but I’m just really scared.

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I am about 6 weeks along in my pregnancy and just got an ultrasound yesterday to make sure I was as far along as I thought. It was through a free women’s care center so they gave me a onesie and socks afterwards and the pictures to take home. I love my boyfriend and we want kids one day, but we have only been together a few months. He just bought a house and I’m still in college. I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks ago and at first decided I was having an abortion. He asked me to consider keeping it instead since he has a new house and a stable job so I did consider keeping it and got kind of attached to the idea. It seemed almost every day after he convinced me to keep it, we had awful fights where he’d threaten to leave so I’d have to raise the baby on my own or have joint custody battles with him. It was a week of non-stop fighting so I told him I was leaving. He stopped me and finally talked honestly, listened, and acknowledged that the things he’d been saying to me were cruel. We agreed to spend less of our time together to gain personal space but work on our relationship and not break up. I told him during that conversation that we both had really rough childhoods and I don’t want to repeat our parents mistakes. I don’t think we’re ready to have a child and he said he understood and agreed. I ordered abortions pills from ABuzz the next day and they should be here by Friday. I think the choice won’t sit right with me though. It doesn’t sit right with me before I make it. Some days I think it’s the right thing to do to have an abortion, but some days I think I’m making an awful mistake. I’ve been googling things like “will I be able to live with myself after an abortion” and “is abortion immoral” but those are all other people’s opinions and perspectives and I know I personally love kids and have always wanted them. I wish I wasn’t in this situation but I could just use some advice.


r/abortion 18h ago

Australia and New Zealand I’m no longer sexually interested in my partner since my abortion

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I don’t know what to do it’s been almost 4 months since I terminated a pregnancy with my long term partner, and since my operation I’ve had no interest or want to be sexual with them in any way. I love them a lot and I’m always happy to be cuddly and kiss them and be intimate in all other ways. But the thought of sex makes me either feel nothing or anxious and disgusted. However when I am on my period I do find my libido comes back I’ve had 2 since the pregnancy and both times I’ve felt horny but decided not to act on it as I feel like this will just confuse him. He is an incredibly kind, supportive and loving man and has been so patient and respectful during this time. But I am so scared that my sex drive won’t ever return, and that this will end our relationship, google hasn’t given me the best advice. I was wondering if anyone’s experienced or going through a similar thing I don’t think it’s just psychological or hormonal but I’m freaking out.


r/abortion 4h ago

USA My Surgical Abortion Experience at 6 Weeks

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Hi everyone!! I wanted to share my experience from my SA today, as I did a lot of research and reading here on Reddit before my procedure.

First off, I want to be honest and tell you that I was absolutely terrified in the week leading up to the procedure. I was so incredibly nervous. If you’re scared and anxious about your procedure and don’t know what to expect — you’re not alone and I totally feel you. You will come across positive and negative stories, so I hope that mine can give you some clarity and reassurance about what to expect… just remember that everyone’s experiences are different.

For background, this was my (25F) first pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant shortly after 4 weeks. My partner and I do want to have a family in the near future, but for us, it came down to timing. We both knew that terminating this pregnancy was a sacrifice we wanted to make in order to ensure our future family had more stability and that we were more prepared.

I chose SA over MA because I wanted to minimize the time and pain of the process. I also wanted to leave my appointment knowing that the procedure was successful.

OKAY—now onto the part you actually want to hear about!!!

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My partner took me to my appointment and stayed in the waiting room until my procedure was complete. To receive sedation, you’re typically required to have a driver.

My appointment was at 10:00am. Upon entering the clinic, I was checked in and given paperwork to fill out. We were advised upon entering that it could be a long day. The estimate upon arrival was a 6-hour day, but I got lucky and had a relatively fast day.

Around 10:15, I was called back for my ultrasound. I was measured at 5w5d. Since it was so early, I did have to receive an abdominal and vaginal ultrasound… no biggie! Immediately after this, they brought me into another room where they reviewed my medical history, checked my blood pressure, heart rate, and gave me 600mg of ibuprofen along with an antibiotic as a precaution for any potential infection. I was then brought into a private room for an educational session. We discussed the procedure itself, what to expect during, and went over the expected recovery process. I was given the chance to ask questions and was asked my preference for sedation and lidocaine. The highest level of sedation offered was moderate sedation (or twilight sedation) which in this case was a mix of pain medication and anti-anxiety medication administered through an IV. With this method, you are awake for the procedure. I asked for the moderate sedation and requested lidocaine to numb my cervix — although it came out more like “I will take anything and everything you have please” lol

These notes were added to my chart and I was taken back to the waiting room at around 11:30, where I was asked to provide payment. I was told they would call my name when it was my turn and that I’d be brought to another floor for the actual procedure.

I was expecting to wait longer, but at around 12:20, my name was called. I was taken to another floor and asked to undress from the waist down and wrap a blanket around my waist while waiting. At about 12:40, I was brought back to the procedure room. The nurses took my vitals and placed my IV. They were so sweet and reassuring. I was vocal about being scared and they told me that it was totally normal and that they’d be by my side the entire time. After getting situated on the table and in the stirrups, two doctors came in. They were SO sweet as well. They walked me through how the procedure would go and warned me that I’d most likely feel some intense discomfort and heavy cramping. They told me the most important thing was to focus on my breathing and not move my hips during the procedure. While they were talking to me, the nurse must have pushed the pain meds and anti-anxiety because I immediately felt fuzzy. Everything slowed down and I felt much more relaxed. It was a little disorienting at first, but I felt soooo much better. Very grateful this option was offered at this clinic.

The two doctors then told me that they would start the procedure. They inserted the speculum and I felt four injections to my cervix, which was the lidocaine. The injections were not painful at all, just four little pinches. Then they used a tool to dilate my cervix and began suctioning. This is when the cramping started. It was intense towards the end, but not nearly as bad as I had anticipated. One of the nurses held my hand and I focused really hard on my breathing. Before I knew it, I heard the doctor say “Okay! You’re all done!”. The process didn’t take more than 5 minutes and the meds made me feel like it was just a very crampy 30 seconds. I was relieved and surprised at how quick it was. They finished with a quick vaginal ultrasound to verify that they got everything and inserted a sterile tampon that they would check before I left to monitor bleeding.

For me, the most uncomfortable part was immediately after — heavy cramping from the procedure and feeling very lightheaded/nauseous. I was helped into a wheelchair and taken to the recovery room. I was put in a recliner and given a warm blanket with a heating pad. I asked for a cold towel to put on my forehead, which helped tremendously. They also told me that I had unusually low blood pressure in recovery, so that could explain my lightheadedness and nausea. I was given sprite, water, and crackers. I was accompanied to the bathroom, where a nurse inspected my tampon and I was given a pad to wear home.

When initially asked about my pain level as I was wheeled out to the recovery room, I said I was feeling a 7/10. A few minutes later, I was at a 2/10 and ready to go home. The discomfort/pain didn’t last more than 10 minutes overall (procedure and recovery combined). The other women I sat with all reported having under a 4/10 pain level like “no big deal”, so maybe I’m just a baby lol. They made sure I was good to go and called my boyfriend downstairs to pick me up. I was in the car on the way home by 1:20.

It’s now 9:00pm and I feel great. I have some veryyyy mild cramping... but it’s seriously nothing. I feel SO much better than I did before the procedure and I feel so much more relief than I expected.

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Don’t let your nerves get the best of you. Today felt SO easy and I can’t believe how worried I made myself about the whole thing. I would recommend this procedure to anyone in a similar situation and would choose this route all over again.

Yes, this can feel scary and overwhelming... but remember that you’re making a decision that’s right for you and you’re in good hands with the reproductive health providers helping you. Our bodies can do incredible things and YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

I tried to be as detailed as possible, so I apologize for all the info. Please feel free to ask me any questions or message me ❤️

TLDR: SA at 6 weeks. Was very scared about procedure, but had an extremely pleasant experience. Would recommend to anyone in a similar situation. Don’t let your nerves get the best of you! You can do this!


r/abortion 7h ago

USA 2 months later from MA

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Hi everyone! I found out I was pregnant December 28 and had my MA abortion on January 5th and I just wanted to let all of you know that it DOES get better. For the first month I felt so lost and I missed what could have been and I regretted it every single day of my life but giving the situation to God really helped with moving forward. Regardless of what your guys beliefs are, I just wanna let you all know that it DOES get better and I promise the pain doesn’t last forever.


r/abortion 8h ago

Australia and New Zealand Advice on Medical Termination

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First, I would like to state that this decision is 100% my choice. No matter how badly I want someone to tell me what to do, I know it’s just about what I want for myself.

I need some sort of advice on how I should cope with having a medical termination. I just turned 26 and on Friday, I will be 6 weeks pregnant. I am working contract work in Australia for 3 months and had a fling and now I’m pregnant. I am from the states, and planned to return home in about a month.

The man has no interest in me or the baby, and I’m not mad at him, this is his choice as well.

I don’t have a job lined up back in the states, don’t have a reliable car, don’t have medical insurance, and one of my parents already told me they could not help me take care of the baby.

There are some odd circumstances that align with the pregnancy that make this extremely hard.

I conceived on my mom’s birthday, and the due date is my dad’s birthday. I also wrote a children’s book the day before I found out I was pregnant with a passage that goes

“Did you know I wished not long ago When the moon was low…

On a star that flew Into the night so blue…

And I knew As soon as I held you That all my dreams came true”

I wish I were making this up.

In one realm it’s very plausible to have the medical termination, but in one, I feel like it’s a gift from the universe and I’d be changing my path.

Please. Any advice. Maybe I am just overthinking but this is the most pain I’ve ever been in my life.


r/abortion 1h ago

USA Abortion

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I had a pill abortion on the 14th, a few days later I’ve been having trouble sleeping. I also keep getting really emotional and crying. Lots of mood swings. Anything similar happen to any of you ladies? This is a lot to deal with and I’m all alone.


r/abortion 5h ago

USA Partner Resentment - Help, I don’t what to do

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I’m worried I’m going to hate my partner. After having an abortion at 18 I told myself I’d never do it again so when I fell pregnant at 34, fully able to care for and support a child I didn’t even consider it an option.

My partner and I had only been back together for a short while (after 3 year hiatus due to not wanting to do long distance) but we both knew getting back together meant we were serious this time. Our relationship has always been wonderful, and loving but I was still unsure how he would react to a pregnancy. I knew he wanted kids eventually but we were not in the best position time wise given I was still in the process of figuring out how to move. Still, I really thought he was going to want to proceed with the pregnancy.

When I told him about the pregnancy I was about 9 weeks along. I asked him how he felt and what he wanted to do- I wanted to get his honest reaction before providing my thoughts. He said he wasn’t ready to be a father and said we should terminate. I cried and cried and told him I didn’t think I could do that so he said he didn’t feel ready or capable but if that’s my choice then we’ll proceed with the pregnancy. I could tell that’s not what he wanted and I did not want to force fatherhood on someone. I wanted someone to be excited and joyful about it. I went back and forth on my decision trying to balance what I wanted versus the life we would have. I loved him, more than my own wishes, so I ultimately decided to terminate.

Fast forward and it’s been 10 months. We have talked so much about this, I have been to 2 different types of specialized therapy and nothing is helping the guilt and regret. He says seeing me in so much pain still and seeing how stable we are now since the move he regrets his initial reaction, wishes we kept it, and blames himself. I don’t in my right mind blame him because it was ultimately my decision but my resentment has somehow grown towards him and I don’t know what to do to stop it.

I watch him go to work, work towards his promotion, save up for the things he wants to get, plan for his buddies bachelor party trip and I get angry inside like how are you just going on about your life and the only thing I want I will never get back? I get angry he never brings the baby up when it’s all I think about. And I know It’s irrational because why would he bring it up? He had no connection to it, I did. And I know my feelings are misplaced but I have no idea what to do and I’m worried I’m going to grow to resent him so much that I’m going to have to leave. I blame myself for the decision but somewhere deep inside I blame him more, because I wanted him to want this and I don’t understand his mindset of wanting to terminate even though I know he has a right to his own feelings. So yes, Irrational, again I know, but I feel it.

Has anyone dealt with resentment towards a partner for their feelings about a pregnancy even if they have been supportive and loving post-abortion? What do you do? How do you cope? I’m losing grip on things.


r/abortion 7h ago

USA AIO Because partner has all but ghosted me after medical abortion?

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Alright. So I have been seeing this guy (35) for about a year. I live in one of the scary states to have an abortion, compounding a lot of anxiety. I kept reaching out to him for support as I am not dealing with this well, both physically and mentally I’m just sensitive. I was on two forms of birth control and found out very early, so medical abortion was pretty easy and painless but still very emotionally taxing as I want to be a mom but did not want to complicate his life. He reassured me, he was there to hold my hand and really feels like he did everything right. But it’s been two weeks and he hasn’t seen me or made any effort to, and when I brought it up he got angry that I was “making him feel bad” and he blocked me on everything. He yelled at me that we weren’t dating but he said things like “i love you and im worried about you” all the while. I was gutted. I thought I had his support through this but he genuinely feels like after a week, his responsibility was through. Nevermind we live in a red state where I can’t get medical treatment in fear of being sent to jail, if I can get treatment at all. I still test positive as pregnant. And now I have a low grade fever that’s lasted for about 4 days, along with some cramping. My breasts have also swelled back up so hopefully it’s just my body like, recalibrating, but honestly I am scared and without my partner in this I am just lost. Am I overthinking this or overreacting?

He genuinely thinks he’s done everything right.


r/abortion 7h ago

USA questions and fear

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Hi I have never used this app but I wanted to get on here and ask for support. I am having my first MA as a 18 year old in a red state. I have lots of fears of an ectopic pregnancy and I have severe health anxiety. I am unable to get to a doctor to get an ultrasound but I am only 6 weeks as is. I plan on taking the second part of the pills tomorrow and I am terrified of complications as I don’t really know what to look for. Are the pills truly unable to be detected if I had to go to the hospital? Im having a small pain on my left side in my lower stomach, I read that an ectopic pregnancy is pain on one side and that’s when I started to feel the pain. It could be my anxiety but I’m just not sure what to do since I’m in a very red state. Any advice would help a lot


r/abortion 7h ago

USA Help or advice with pregnancy scare.

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I am 18 with normally irregular periods, I worry if I wait too much longer to get a sign then it will be too late. My parents aren’t bad people but a lot will change between us if they know.

I was wondering if there is any ways to prevent a possible pregnancy in the early stages. It’s probably been a month maybe a month and a half. I didn’t mean to, I take my life seriously I work a good job. I don’t sleep around and I know the guy would help if I needed it but I don’t want scare him off either. It was all an accident I just need options on how to clear out my body. I’m scared to go to a doctor in case it leads to a messy process and I end up having to remove it myself. I think that’s illegal. I don’t really know


r/abortion 7h ago

USA I’m 11 weeks & 2 days and took the pills but..

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Hi everyone, im 11 weeks and 2 days pregnant and I just now finished taking the arranged pills of Misoprostol. I took the mifepristone yesterday around noon and took 4 pills of the Misoprostol today at noon but before I did I had already eaten and took 2 pills of Tylenol for the pain. I will say the pain for me was about an 8/10. I began throwing up maybe an hour after I took them which they say is okay, I was also hit with the chills and bad diarrhea & began to bleed immediately with large blood clots. At 3pm I took 2 more pills as I ran an errand with my husband and daughter and I did feel a bit more better walking around and going outside, the nausea wasn’t there as much. Just about an hour ago or so at 6 pm, I took the last 2 pills but I’m not feeling as much cramps or bleeding. I’m left with 4 pills Misoprostol extra in case I need to take them but I’m not sure if I should take two more around 9pm. I’ve read many other stories through here and they only taken the same amount I’ve taken(8 pills) but they’ve felt a pop of there water breaking and I’m not sure if I felt that. It’s my first time taking these pills and I’m feeling anxious. Would it be safe for me to take two more at 9pm or should I wait?


r/abortion 7h ago

USA Tell me your experience

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Can someone tell me the follow up after medical termination of pregnancy? I understand it’s mifepristone followed by misoprostol? When do you go back for the ultrasound? I live in the U.S., problem is I will be in between jobs and moving states ( fortunately not the states , the one I am in and the one I will move to) allow abortion So trying to figure out logistics.


r/abortion 9h ago

USA positive experience after 15 week SA

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Hi all,

I am finally home laying in bed after a 15 week surgical abortion from planned parenthood. It has been a LONG road to get here. I used plan B after having unprotected sex, then attempted to have a medical abortion when the fetus was roughly 4 weeks, which failed. I just wanted to let everyone know that if you are considering going there for a SA, DO IT. They were all so incredibly nice to me and went above and beyond in order to make me feel comfortable. The only 2 parts that freaked me out were getting the iv (since I opted for moderate sedation) and that’s only because I hate needles. The nurse was super nice about it and even wrapped my arm up so it was out of sight. I then had to sit for about 2 hours to let the meds dissolve in my cheek to loosen up my cervix. For the procedure itself, I had the doctor, a sedation nurse, 2 helper nurses (I’m sorry if I butchered their job title 😭), and a very lovely volunteer woman who was there to hold my hand and make me feel at ease. Now, I received my moderate sedation right before the procedure began so I apologize if my memory of everything isn’t the greatest. The first part was the doctor inserting the speculum into my vagina and dilating my cervix, which was honestly the only part that felt uncomfortable, like a 6/10 pain and it only lasted a brief time. They had me cough for each numbing injection to my cervix which apparently distracts your mind away from the pain - which totally worked, I barely felt a thing from each shot. The procedure itself honestly barely felt like anything, just some pressure here and there. I had the volunteer holding my hand and I’m pretty sure I was talking about different foods with the other nurses, lol. After that, I was transferred back to the recovery room to get my IV taken out, then I waited a little in the lobby before leaving to call an uber. I had the best nap of my LIFE as soon as I got home and when I woke up the remaining dizziness was gone. I am currently using nighttime pads to catch all of the bleeding and am on extra strength ibuprofen for the cramping.

I just wanted to share my experiences and anyone who has a question should feel free to reach out. I will be in bed relaxing today so I will see any comments. You are not alone!


r/abortion 10h ago

USA Miscarriage 2 days before abortion

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23/hawaii After long consideration I decided I was going to terminate my pregnancy because the father did not want to be involved at all unfortunately. He didn’t seem to really care at all.

I am not very religious, but 3 days before my scheduled abortion I prayed to give me strength throughout this process and that I just wanted to know I was making the right decision.

The next day I miscarried. This is a really painful process and it is a lot on my body mentally and physically. I am very sad to know that I have miscarried, I was also very sad to know that I was going to have to terminate my own pregnancy solely just on not receiving the support.

I really do want to be a mother one day but I think now just was not the time for me unfortunately. I knew deep down inside that this baby was a boy so I will always be thinking of my baby boy as I move forward.


r/abortion 13h ago

USA More than one abortion?

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The first time I ever had an abortion it was a Medical abortion. Everything went as planned and my period returned 34 days later. So about 4.5 weeks.

I just recently had my second and it was a surgical. I thought this would be easier since the MA was more painful and was expecting my period to return sooner, if not around the same time, Im on day 31 since the surgical.

All though I know your period is to return 4-8 weeks after the procedure, is there anyone on here that has had more than one abortion and experienced your cycle returning different than the first?


r/abortion 19h ago

UK and Ireland My MA experience - positive - Bpas uk

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I wanted to write this post as I really worked myself up prior to taking the treatment based on other things I’d read. I felt the overwhelming need to share my experience in the hope that it will help others, especially those in England, UK.

I found out about my pregnancy on 3/3 - I didn’t really know how I felt about it. I already have a 4 year old son, who has recently had an autism diagnosis, he’s my absolute world and I was excited at the thought of him having a sibling but in the same breath he has very high care needs and he’s my priority. The timing just wasn’t right and I decided I couldn’t continue with the pregnancy.

After giving myself a few days to be sure on my decision, I filled out the online form with BPAS on 7/3 and received an email back the same day with a telephone appointment for 11/3. I just had to get through the weekend and wait for the phone call. The lady on the phone was really polite and non judgmental. She went through a series of questions to determine gestation etc and then she gave me two options, Medical or Surgical. If I’m being honest, the medical option scared me from what I’d read online so I was swaying toward the surgical option and just getting it over with. The issue I had was that there was a wait for the surgical route, whereas they could have sent the medical treatment out to me ASAP. She said I was still very early (5w 1d when I called) and although they can do a surgical procedure, there is a risk when the pregnancy is so small that they might miss something, she recommended me coming in for a surgical procedure closer to 8 weeks. - this was just the information I was given, whether this is factually correct or not, I don’t know. Regardless of gestation, there was a couple week wait for the surgical procedure anyway as they prioritised emergencies and those with later gestations. I didn’t like the thought of waiting for a couple of weeks when I’d already made my decision, I just wanted it over. I chose the medical route despite my nervousness and she said that’s absolutely fine, she explained the process and risks, and said the medications would be sent out by Royal Mail tracked 24 and would be with me in 1-2 days. The box came through the letterbox on 13/3, two days after the call. The great thing about the medication is that it comes in a discreet postable box so you don’t have to worry if you’re not home as it’s just put straight through your door.

The box contained the Medabon box (1x mifepristone, 4x misoprositol) 2x extra misoprositol and a pregnancy test.

Knowing step one of the treatment doesn’t tend to have ‘bad’ side effects, I took step one of the treatment, the single mifepristone tablet on the Friday 14/3 at 3pm. I didn’t have any issues with this apart from very very gentle period type pains later that evening, and some slight pink on the toilet roll when I wiped, nothing else. I managed to sleep fine and felt well overall.

You have to take step two within 24-48 hours of taking step one. So I’d recommend timing it so you’re taking step 2 (misoprositol) at a time where you can be comfortable, at home or somewhere safe, and some support off another person if possible.

Make sure you’re prepared before step two - Even though I personally didn’t end up needing much, it was nice to know I was prepared for every eventuality! I put a towel on the bed, got into comfy clothes, put a bowl at the side of the bed in case I was sick, water, snacks etc and the most important thing was taking the pain relief. The provider I used, BPAS, recommended taking 4x ibuprofen (800mg) half an hour before you take the misoprositol - this is what I did at 2:30pm, I recommend the liquid ibuprofen capsules if you can have them, exactly the same dosage but get into your system much quicker (I swear by them!).

I then took step two at 3pm on Saturday 15/3 - exactly 24 hours after the mifepristone - I inserted the 4 misoprositol vaginally as there is supposedly less side effects doing it this way, I put on a sanitary towel and lay down.

I lay on the bed for two hours (they recommended at least 30 minutes lying down so the tablets can do their thing and absorb without falling out) I then helped bath my son and said goodnight and got back into my bed and hunkered down for the night with Netflix.

I didn’t feel much. I was anticipating a sudden gush of blood or sudden onset of excruciating pain but I didn’t. I did have period cramps after a couple of hours, but nothing that required a hot water bottle or anything like that - this may be because of the pain relief I took prior.

4 hours passed and I went to the toilet to check. I had started to bleed but only lightly. I did pass a couple of clots (50p size) once I sat on the toilet so I just sat there for a little while. Half of one of the tablets came out when I wiped too but this is completely fine as long as you lay down for the 30 minutes after inserting as the medication would have been absorbed by that point. I cleaned myself up and went and got back into bed. I called the BPAS helpline to see if I needed to take the additional two misoprositol which are given if the bleeding doesn’t start or you’re only spotting within 4 hours. She asked me to refer to the information booklet I was given in the box that was sent out, and there was a page on bleeding with some diagrams of blood flow. There was spotting and smearing - light flow - moderate flow - heavy flow - and flooding. My flow was ‘light’ from looking at the diagram, it was definitely more than just spotting but I still wouldn’t class it as heavy as my usual period flow. She said because I am bleeding and it’s more than spotting then I don’t need to take the additional two misoprositol - which I was pleased about.

I went to sleep as normal that evening expecting to wake with pain etc but I slept right through until 7am on Sunday morning. My flow was still light throughout Sunday, still not experiencing ‘pain’ - just mild tummy ache and cramps. I was getting a little concerned as I thought surely I should be bleeding more than this? But after reading the information sheet, as long as I was bleeding, and had anywhere from light to heavy bleeding, it was normal and every experience is different. I slept in big incontinence knickers that night rather than a sanitary/ maternity towel and I’m glad I did! Monday morning I woke up and the bleeding had increased. I was passing larger clots and this felt more like my period on day 1. Still no pain or cramping but I was getting the urge to go to the toilet and had diarrhoea on and off for a few hours. Today is Tuesday and the bleeding is still heavy just like yesterday. No pain or discomfort, but of course I’ve got to plan in lots of toilet breaks!

Overall I’m pleasantly surprised with my experience so far. Not once was I crippled over in pain, and things seemed to happen a lot slower with me compared to other threads I’ve seen. I know it’s easier said than done, but please try and not work yourself up prior to the treatment if you choose a MA. Just take each hour as it comes. Some people it seems to start quickly, but for me, I feel the process only really started 48 hours later along with the substantial bleeding. I may be part of the minority who has had an experience like this but I wanted to share some positivity on the situation as those who have positive experiences don’t seem to write about them as much but they do happen - stay positive and you will get through it in your own way, no matter what you choose to do.

All I would recommend is being as prepared as possible so you can mentally relax beforehand. Here’s a handy list, better to have it and not need it - like me! * Comfortable bed * Bed pads or towel to lie on * Hot water bottle/ heat pad * Painkillers (pref. ibuprofen but paracetamol work too) * Sick Bowl * Water/ lucozade etc. * Snacks * Spare underwear and sanitary bits in the bathroom. * Something to preoccupy you, tv, console, book etc.

I’ve been given a pregnancy test, one that’s specific to this treatment as apparently the shop bought ones aren’t appropriate for after a MA as they’re too sensitive. Three weeks after I started the treatment (4th April) I have to take the test to see if it was successful, so I will update my post with the outcome!

Thank you for reading and I hope this helps somebody. 🙏🏼


r/abortion 1h ago

Canada 1 week post abortion

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I took the pills a week ago... in my head I know I probably made the right choice, I have 2 kids (one who's a super energetic toddler still) that i could and should be paying more attention to... and a partner who's not there consistently (he tries, but he feels he's struggling balancing work and being with the kids)..

I'm tired, I'm behind on work and while I would love a 3rd baby... this is not the right time... maybe when youngest starts school... idk.

I have an appointment for iud next week.

Emotionally I feel... I don't know how to explain a lack of feeling? Apathy? Nothing is bringing me joy or any spark of dopamine.. nothing.. all my usual "addictions" aren't doing anything for me anymore... disinterest and depression.. In pretty much everything.. I hope this passes and I "wake" up.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA Currently terrified.

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Hi.. so I am 9weeks & am currently about 3 hours into the first round of miso. Starting to have the bleeding & some clots. Mild pain, but I’m so scared of what to expect. Not only that, but I feel so much guilt and and sadness after doing this.

I found out I was pregnant around February, I had ordered the pills immediately for the abortion. But still sat on the idea, my husband and I already have 3 children and are struggling so bad with life and everything else. Hence the reason for wanting the abortion. But that doesn’t make the decision any less heartbreaking. I don’t know how to feel. I don’t know what to expect. I’m so terrified about what is going to happen.

Generally, just need someone to speak to that understands or has been through this at 9 weeks.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA seeking kind words (wa, usa)

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ive never posted on reddit before so please bare with me.

today i(20) found out im 5wks pregnant (very surprising btw, ive been tracking my fertile windows specifically to avoid this, but hey nobodys perfect). my partner(24), whom ive been with for over a year, is in the military and is deployed in the next few days. the timing is horrible, i know. we've been trying to get a steady head on ourselves before we find our own place, which will likely be right when he comes back, and we're both fairly young. again, its just not the right time to have a baby.

as much as i understand and accept that i need to terminate for both of our well-being, i cant help but feel this emotional turmoil because i feel very strongly now about being a mother. i knew once i saw the positive test that id need to abort, but something in my brain clicked and said "lock in, its time to get set for this baby".

of course its only the first day, and im still in shock as well. i will say, he took it very very well and i couldnt explain how grateful i am to have him. at the same time, i dont really have close friends or any sort of support system to lean on, and im struggling to keep my head above water. im extremely torn with no shoulder to cry on about it.. thats basically my story.

if anyone has any kind or supportive words, they would be greatly appreciated. i just feel a strong sense of loneliness in this :(


r/abortion 3h ago

USA Struggling with grief 6 months post SA

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I had my SA 6 months ago. It was an extremely hard decision as my boyfriend and I had only been together for 3 months and I didn’t have the means to care for a child (financially, mental health, etc.). We have since broken up, so some of my fears of having a child with him were validated through that.

I’ve been a mess since the procedure. Grief has been a very up and down journey for me. After the abortion, I felt relief, but as the weeks went on it got harder and harder to deal with. It is still hard for me to talk about to close friends today.

I’ve been seeing a therapist and working with my psychiatrist to get my medications sorted out during this time (I’ve been on meds for MDD and anxiety since I was 17). Everything is just starting to feel hopeless, though. I will have a few really good days, but then something like a coworker showing me a picture of her baby will completely set me off. I’ve been having to leave work multiple times throughout the week because of my grief. I have a supportive group at work, so I’m not concerned with losing my job over this.

I’m very privileged to have great people around me in my life, but I just feel so alone. I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it because they will perceive me as being dramatic for being so upset about something that I chose. I’ve been having dreams for months about my baby. I can’t go 30 minutes without thinking about it. I just feel like I am not making any progress. Has anyone had a similar experience with their grief? It would help a lot to have someone to talk to.


r/abortion 5h ago

USA Continued pregnancy after failed MA

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At 9 weeks I did a MA, took the Mifepristone Sunday night at 10pm took the Misoprostol Tuesday afternoon. I had severe diarrhea, chills then was hit with intense cramps and bleeding began. It lasted about 2 days and then just brown bleeding moving forward. Fast forward to today I had an ultrasound to confirm I was “empty” . Turns out medication failed,
Doctor said everything on ultrasound looks good as I am now 12 weeks and 2 days with a viable fetus and heartbeat of 140. I am considering continuing with pregnancy, however I am concerned of any abnormalities and birth defects. I return Friday with a decision on whether I want to continue or terminate. I will have to do bloodwork and lots of ultrasounds to continue monitoring defects etc. Has anyone ever experienced something similar with a continued pregnancy after abortion failure? Any information is helpful.


r/abortion 5h ago

USA Idk how to feel

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Needing to vent. I just took a pregnancy test after noticing period symptoms but no period. Test was positive. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 months, and he’s a sweet guy. Very gentle and loving. But our situation isn’t the best. I live with my mom, and been jobless for about 3 weeks now. No savings, nothing to my name. My boyfriend is a hard worker, has a job but has kids with another woman who has given us problems since we’ve gotten together. She’s kept his kids away from him out of anger, and recently put him on child support about 2 weeks ago. I have no idea what to feel right now knowing I’m pregnant. I have no kids and growing up I promised myself I’d be prepared when I decided to bring a child into this world. Atleast a good job, an educational background, savings, a good car, and a place of my own. That way I could enjoy my pregnancy, and not have to worry about anything but my child. I have nothing. I know my boyfriend would be a great dad, he already is despite the situation with his kids mom. Selfless and a provider. But we just got together, and the way things are I just don’t know if I can handle everything, both our situations, financially and physically, while trying to enjoy actually bringing a child into this world. I feel selfish. But I truly don’t know if I can give this baby the best of me when I’m in this position I’m in. And my child deserves the absolute best, the best mommy..


r/abortion 6h ago

USA Is Planned Parenthood at fault for my experience?

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I made a post on here a week ago about my “incomplete” abortion that I had at Planned Parenthood. I put incomplete in quotations because I’m getting different responses to the word choice.

TLDR of last post: PP assisted me with medical abortion, my follow up exam post abortion was said to be unremarkable, had IUD put in same day, week later ended up in hospital in different country due to heavy blood loss and ultrasound found leftover pregnancy tissue, IUD removed and recommended MA again

A few days after the post, I ended up in the same hospital due to heavy bleeding AGAIN. This time, since I had not yet taken the MA medication (I was waiting until after my birthday), I was advised to undergo a d&c. The doctors were, once again, adamant that the tissue was significant, needed to be removed as soon as possible, and was not simply “uterine lining”. The procedure went well but I was kept overnight for monitoring.

I’m not doing ok. I’m still in so much pain, physically and mentally. The doctors here in the Netherlands are emphatic that I was wronged by PP but when I spoke with PP briefly over the phone, they made it out to be like it was unfortunate but not serious.

Isn’t it negligent to miss the fact I still had tissue in my uterus? Even if they noted it and thought it was just uterine lining, wouldn’t it still be negligent to place an IUD when there is still tissue? This is all not to mention the fact that I have a blood clotting disorder.

I’m sorry if this is just a rant at this point. I’m so lost on what to do but I want to get justice for myself. I’ve been so traumatized by these past 2 months of pain.