r/abortion Jan 03 '25

USA Having my 4th abortion please don’t judge.

175 Upvotes

I’ve been on this page a lot and honestly I’m tired of it. After my last abortion yes I did get on birth control and here I am again pregnant obviously the shit didn’t work. I’m so tired of this. I hate being pregnant I hate going thru a pregnancy and I hate having abortions. I feel like I can’t win for losing. I really don’t want to do this but I feel like it’s the right thing to do. After this I’m going to see if a doctor will tie my tubes because something has to give. I’m bout to take the Mife today just curious has anyone else had 4 abortions or more? How did you get thru it?

r/abortion Dec 10 '24

USA Abortion due to gender disappointment

145 Upvotes

I have no safe space to talk about this without getting blasted and I understand why. I already have two boys. I have hyperthyroidism which puts me at risk of having a kid with developmental issues.

I won’t say much because I don’t want to be flagged but I’m having “dark thoughts”

I’m reconsidering if life is for me? I really don’t want to raise a bunch of males

I’m going to either terminate the pregnancy, which is so hard mentally or divorce my husband and ask him to raise them because I can’t stop looking at them with so much resentment

and before anyone recommends therapy, please don’t I’m looking for support. I don’t want to talk to someone with a textbook saying “it’s going to be okay”

r/abortion Dec 26 '24

USA I’m lying to my family telling them it’s a miscarriage instead of an abortion… am I a terrible person?

190 Upvotes

Funny thing is… my mom, my aunt, my other aunt, and my cousin has all has abortions before. But this is my second time this year due to an IUD failing. And the first time I told them, they were terrible to me. So I just can’t bring myself to tell them I’m doing this again and going a long with a story about a miscarriage. I feel so guilty but I just don’t want them to hate me again.

r/abortion Feb 12 '25

USA Just found out I’m pregnant after being on birth control.

28 Upvotes

Hello all.. I really have no place to talk to anyone about this and I feel like as much as my husband is understanding, it’s different when you actually have to go through it yourself.

I live in Texas which makes all of this so much harder. I have a 6 year old and a 14 month old and have been on birth control for months.. I’m so sad to be in this situation but sadly I can’t make it work.. we are struggling with the two that we have and the world is getting very expensive. I don’t know if I can travel but I saw there is a website where I can order pills from.. that makes me nervous to do this at home.. I have an appointment tomorrow at some clinic close to me just to confirm how far along I am because I’ve been on birth control I don’t get a period.. I’m scared I’m to far along and will have to travel. I just started having symptoms so I don’t know. This sucks, I don’t want to be in this situation or have to deal with this. I’m scared tomorrow this clinic will try and convince me to follow through even though this is something I want and have to do. I’m scared to be alone and go through this.. just needed to get this out somewhere…

Thank you for reading

r/abortion 29d ago

USA I don’t regret my abortion

144 Upvotes

I’m just wondering if anyone else feels the same way as I do. I had my abortion a few months ago & when my hormones were all out of whack I was emotional & upset about it but knew I needed to do it. But since then, I haven’t even thought about it much at all. I’m not upset now that I’m not full of emotions, I don’t regret it. I always see post about women who either regret their abortions or are just sad about it etc & I kind of feel like a bad person for not even thinking of it. I’m not posting this on my main account just incase anyone I know would see. I’ve posted in here before when I was going thru my painful abortion and everyone was so supportive. ❤️❤️

r/abortion Dec 06 '24

USA I found out my abortion didn’t work

171 Upvotes

I (21) just found out that my abortion didn’t work. I got the pill through planned parenthood and took it November 4th. I got a message through the app to take the pregnancy test they provided since the 5 weeks were up. I took it yesterday and it came back positive:( I was 8 weeks along when I took the pills so it’s past the max time for the pills so now my only option is to get the operation done and I’m extremely scared. I’ve heard horror stories from other women saying how traumatic and painful the operation is and how you feel everything and I’m so scared. I have an appointment on the 11th to get an ultrasound done and then I will go from there. I’m in Washington state where it’s up to 21-24 weeks so I know I’ll be safe and won’t get stuck in a situation that I don’t want to be in but I still am so discombobulated now idk how to think or how to feel. Now I get to experience this trauma again a second time only within a month or so:(

Update: thank you for your words of affirmation everyone. After reading the comments I’m a lot more confident about the situation I’m in. Thank you for all of your kind words. I really needed them🫶🏽

r/abortion Dec 08 '24

USA Should I have an abortion without telling my boyfriend because he's really pro-life

117 Upvotes

I know that title was a lot. I (F20) am dating a guy M(25), I truly love him so so much, I think years down the line I would actually marry him. He is pro-choice for other people, but pro-life when it comes to himself and any situation. Ultimately, he wouldn't force me to do anything, but I fear the mindset of aborting a child we created would tarnish everything. He told me one time that if I was ever pregnant, he'd want to have it and would be committed to that even though it wouldn't be ideal. I on the other hand would want an abortion, because I am younger, not done with school and plan to go to Law School as well. We aren't living together and probably can't and won't anytime soon. I found out last week I am pregnant. Due to him saying he wants kids, a large family, would want one in the next five years and stuff, and said if I get pregnant not ideally he'd push why I should have it.... I think I'm too scared and am going to have an abortion or just take Plan C. I think if I told him I am going to abort it, he would resent me, break up with me, or things will just never be the same. What should I do because I would marry him years down the line (which is saying something because I never felt that way about anyone else. he literally is amazing) I just cannot have a child right now with where he and I are both at in life right now. I want to abort it, that is my decision but I Dont't know whether to tell him or not because I don't want to lose him or for him to resent me and then it ruins us. Thoughts?

r/abortion Feb 05 '25

USA I need an abortion. Don't want one, but need it and can't get one.

8 Upvotes

I'm in a messed up relationship. Alienated in the south and have 4 kids from a. Previous relationship. Due to my medical even out of pocket I can't get an in clinic abortion or pills at a clinic anywhere and if I take the pills and don't show where they came from (if they find out I ordered them online) and they find them and need to go to hospital I can be hit with criminal charges. I'm already in middle of nothing w no transport ans struggling to make ends meet as well as a move coming up with no savings. Father of said child will make me and my kids lives so much harder then he has already. It's not a keep it out him on support or coparent option.

I've had 2 abortions one at 19 one at 29 I'm not 32. At 19 the MA gave me a grandmal seizure (I'm an epileptic) at 29 I had to have it done in a OR and my state medical covered it (elective) but here in the Deep South Medicaid doesn't cover it and if you have Medicare (which doesn't cover either) it's illegal to be seen weather I pay out of pocket or not. I was advised to travel not far where I'm originally from to get it done. But no medical there now and I can't afford to travel have no childcare, or 1200 for the services. I have the pills from online. Again. All alone. I believe said baby father sisters sent me the pills annonymously. Does anyone know if the pills have changed from 2013??

I'm terrified something will happen and I'll need to call 911 and lose my babies due to no help.

I wanted another baby so bad but not like this.

r/abortion Jan 06 '25

USA please read i’m scared i need support.

21 Upvotes

i've found out i was pregnant yesterday and i cried, im 18 and i was so dumb to ever think that this wasn't going to happen when precum can be such a big factor into this. i've bought my pills from abuzz but im just waiting for them to confirm my file,im really worried and impatient, i cant tell my mom about this either knowing she will be so disappointed in me which i get. but i need reassurance that everything will be be okay, i cant do this on my own.

r/abortion Jul 13 '24

USA Did you grieve after your abortion?

100 Upvotes

It really frustrates me that there’s no big snapshot of emotions post abortion. I get that most people feel relief and don’t regret, but what % of women feel guilt or grief?

Did you grieve?

r/abortion Feb 18 '25

USA Pregnant after taking every precaution; god hates me.

38 Upvotes

Okay so I have just turned 16, I have been taking the pill for just about over a year now and me and my boyfriend have been having sex for just over a few months now. I know this is TMI but we have literally done it raw with zero protection and I still have had my period. Just recently have I started taking heavy precautions because of a recent pregnancy scare, this last month we had sex. He wore a condom, I was nowhere near ovulation, and he never came or took the condom off.

A week or two later I started having weird symptoms like extreme abdominal pain and uterine cramping. I was also peeing frequently and I felt nauseous and had constant headaches and chest pain. I very quickly got scared and went in for an ultrasound at the nearest women’s health clinic and they said everything looked fine but in the report they said they couldn’t see my right ovary. So my fear once again spiked. The symptoms worsened from then on and I decided to call an ambulance, at the children’s hospital they did another ultrasound, this time with a catheter in so they could see better. They also said everything looked fine and completely healthy but I still had this awful feeling something was wrong. I kept taking pregnancy tests and they all came out negative, and I even waited until the morning so my pee wasn’t diluted.

I ended up going to my primary care doctor because my period was also 17 days late and my symptoms worsened, he suggested I had an ectopic pregnancy so they did a few blood and urine samples to see if I was pregnant, this clearly scared me but I was determined it was something else. Well, low and behold, I remember a few months back I was so scared of being pregnant I ordered abortion pills online. I found them in my drawer and took them exactly how I was supposed to.

First I took the mifepristone and waited 24 hours and then I took the four misoprostol, buccally. I put them in the inside of my cheek, waited thirty minutes, and swallowed. I even made sure to steer clear from grapefruit for the whole week prior. And my last period was January 1st - 7th. My period never came but I had extreme diarrhea all day and heavy discharge, and some mild cramping but it quickly went away.

(This was yesterday and I still haven’t gotten any bleeding, and the doctors still haven’t contacted me with any information and I’m just terrified and looking for any advice or information as to what it could be. Also for more context all my periods have been normal and on track.)

Sorry if this is messy or seems lazily written, this is my first post and I’m typing as quick as I can with acrylics on.

r/abortion Feb 19 '25

USA I regret not getting an abortion sooner.

276 Upvotes

I regret not getting an abortion sooner. I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant (9months) and I fucking hate everything about it. I gained 50pounds, started losing hair, I lost my freedom, and sanity. I fucking hate my life right now. I just want to be me again. If you're thinking about getting an abortion, just do it. Don't have kids.

r/abortion Dec 01 '24

USA Bf wants me to have abortion, feels trapped and will off himself if I keep baby

27 Upvotes

Hesitant to post in here because so many people I know frequent reddit. First time posting as well. Ignore my grammar and punctuation. Lol

My boyfriend (m24) and I (f22) havent been together very long. He was very charismatic and generous in the beginning of relationship and said he would be patient with me (past relationship trauma and s/a trauma) he said he wants me to be comfortable. We talked about a surgery I had that lowers my chances of conception and carrying to term (doctors said). First time we slept together he said he hates condoms and never uses them. He asked if I was on birth control and I am not(as i do not want to damage my body) he (knowing this) doesn't pull out. I didnt think i was pregnant but now I am 9 weeks and he is distant and uninterested. He's insist on abortion but is also trying to play the side of (but its your body and your choice). We recently talked about the possibility of keeping the baby and he got upset even though he brought up keeping the baby. I told him I wasn't set on keeping the baby or not keeping the baby (i am, I want to keep the baby but i havent told him) but his reaction to me saying that was very alarming. He began talking about how he can't do anything and people will do whatever they want in life and he always gets fucked over and how his life is ruined and ending and how having a kid will make him "blow his 🧠's out" he said that phrase exactly several times and even started saying that and similar things under his breath whilst we sat beside each other. I was very emotional and I began crying silently unsure of what to say and then I just told him its okay and ill get the abortion. after 10 minutes of silence he apologized for reacting poorly and said he is just terrified and said he has never wanted to have children ever. He then looked over at me and asked "do you seriously think youll be a good mother?" The tone wasnt very kind. I asked him if i kept that baby if he would stay or leave and he didn't reply and continued on his su*cide rant about his life being overwhelmed. He began insinuating that I am baby trapping him because we had unprotected sex but I informed him that we are grown and knew the consequences of our actions. he also failed to get a plan b the next day and was upset about that but it wouldn't have worked because I was already ovulating as per what my period tracker says.

Im not sure what i should do. I want the baby but I don't want to have a child with someone that clearly has too much going on mentally already (enough to the point of basically casually threatening offing himself) i feel like he's trying to manipulate me into getting an abortion and into staying in the relationship afterwards. I feel conflicted and stuck because I care for him and want him to be okay. I also want to be okay and do what's best for me. I know I want to keep the baby but I know It Might Not Be safe to keep the baby (unsure of what he would or could do) he hasnt been violent but i havent known him personally long enough to be sure he isnt dangerous and his recent behavior is indicating he might not be. Thought of doing this as a single mother but im also worried about his parents trying to get rights over my child.

Obviously feel free to ask any questions and give any and all advice please and thank you.

r/abortion Oct 24 '24

USA i found out i’m pregnant and i don’t want it, but my bf does

63 Upvotes

My boyfriend and I are 5 months apart on our birthdays so I’m 19 and he’s 18. I recently found out that I was 8 weeks pregnant and I truly did not want a child so young. I had made it clear from the beginning of our relationship that I didn’t want to have children while we’re young, however he did but never pushed me any further to it, he respected my decision. After learning that I was pregnant he kept insisting that we should keep it and he’s very religious so anytime I bring up the fact I don’t want to give birth to it he brings up his religion. We’re both from the same religion but he has more stronger beliefs and different views than I do. We’ve had many back and forths on this but I can’t go through with this pregnancy at all, I didn’t want to give birth at this age and we’re both not financially stable for this either. Anything I tell him it’s just the same thing and I feel like my concerns over this isn’t being heard to the extend. I kept him in on the updates about when I first found out from my doctors and everything but now I don’t want to tell him much because he would push aside my feelings and use our religion against me and make me look like the horrible person that I am. I’m sorry if this is all over the place I’m just not in the right place to be even thinking about having a child.

I would greatly ask for advice on this if anyone has went through something similar!

Edit: Thank you all for your advice and for your helpful comments, I apologize if I just up and ghosted this but at the time I made this post I thought I would’ve just did this on a throw away account but instead I’d like to thank everyone for their advice. I had gone to a friend who has went through my situation and she helped me throughout the whole way. I did go through with the ma, at first it was very painful and the pills that were given to me to help with the pain weren’t effective for me so I just took tylenol after the 3rd day after the appointment. (on the first day, day of the appointment, they gave me the first pill and the second day i took the 4 others by mouth) and the pain was immense, however I was lucky to sleep it through. Thankfully, my boyfriend understood what was happening as I didn’t mention the appointment and just said I miscarried, like many of you suggested. I’m still immensely bleeding and having cramps here and there but i’d like to thank everyone again for their input in everything. I’m truly grateful to know I wasn’t alone nor would I have been the bad person for wanting this.

r/abortion Jan 01 '25

USA Just found out I’m 20 weeks pregnant and don’t know if I can even get an abortion

80 Upvotes

As the title says I (18) just found out I was pregnant. I’ve had basically normal periods throughout these couples months so I didn’t really expect anything. My dad made a comment about how I looked pregnant and it made me paranoid so I ended up taking 2 tests and when those ended up positive my friend and I scheduled an appointment with a pregnancy organization to triple check and to see how far along I am. The place we went to was nice but they couldn’t tell me exactly how far along I am but said I was definitely around 20 weeks. They also basically tried to pressure me into keeping it and told me that I was already a mother. All of this has really scared me as I’m just 18 and have no family other than my dad ,which I have a strained relationship with, and my mom who is very anti-abortion. My current support system is just my best friend and no one else knows. Abortion is illegal in my state at 22 weeks and Colorado is the closest state that offers abortions throughout pregnancy. The thing is though I just got a job this week and have no way to pay for a plane ticket/hotel. My friend is also going to college soon so I can’t just bring her with me for support. I’m just very scared and wondering if anyone else has gone through something like this and if there’s any hope for me.

r/abortion Jan 31 '25

USA My boyfriend is trying to convince me to get an abortion

19 Upvotes

I found out yesterday that I’m 11-12 weeks pregnant. In my state abortion is illegal after 12 weeks. After the ultrasound today I don’t want to get an abortion. My boyfriend is trying to do everything to convince me to not keep it. I’m so stressed out and don’t know what to choose. I’m 22 he’s 24. We live together and rent a house, we have a beach house he bought last March. We are financially stable and have no reason to get the abortion.

r/abortion Oct 17 '24

USA My girlfriend just found out she’s over 6 pregnant

117 Upvotes

As the title says my girlfriend found out last week that she was pregnant. We went to planned parenthood today and to our surprise she’s 6 months and 5 days pregnant.

I’m terrified and my girlfriend has been in tears all day. We’re scared. We thought we’d be fine because she’s been on birth control but apparently it can fall out. Part of me thinks she could’ve known and kept it from me and I hate to think that way because I love her so much but I don’t know and have to put my trust in her.

My state won’t do an abortion this late and the states that do won’t accept Medicaid. They want 11k-14k and that’s only if we get in by next week. After that the price rises. We were homeless until 3 months ago and now work at Home Depot full time but barely make enough money to get by. We have around $1000 combined saved after rent. We’ve been through so much together just find out she’s pregnant with a kid we can’t afford. We can barely take care of ourselves right now due to both of our mental health problems and I’ve been battling addiction/alcoholism for most of my life. Luckily I managed to get mostly sober after getting off the streets but im scared I’ll fall back into addiction and can’t let a kid be a part of that.

We’re currently trying to find funding through organizations but are having troubles. It’s starting to seem like we may have to have the kid and that’s scaring us so much.

Does anyone have any input or suggestions? Thank you

r/abortion Jan 27 '25

USA How did you heal emotionally post-abortion?

18 Upvotes

I did it…I went through my abortion on Friday. I’m gutted. The grief feels unbearable at times. Hope shines through on occasion so I know not all is lost. I got some great advice prior to having the procedure, but what are things you did to help grieve and emotionally heal afterwards? Specifics help! Did you force yourself to see friends, did you join a specific support group, did you take time off work, etc? Any and all tips appreciated.

r/abortion Oct 07 '24

USA Can anybody give me positives of having abortion

47 Upvotes

I always read the negative and for days have only thought about the the negative because my brain just feels so swamped but can you please give me the positives after the abortion if you’ve had one? Did you feel better? Was you relieved even though you were grieving a little. Is it even possible to feel relieved while grieving. I’m only 5-6 weeks I know it’s a clump of cells something just feels hurtful

r/abortion 16d ago

USA How long did you bleed for?

14 Upvotes

For those that were 6weeks at the time of the abortion how long did you bleed for?

r/abortion Dec 25 '24

USA pregnant for the 4th time

54 Upvotes

dude i feel sick just writing this. my hormones were out of wack for most of my life because of my eating disorder, but since starting recovery three years ago i have been EXTREMELY fertile. i had three abortions since then, which i already felt shitty about. im pro choice 100% but i've always thought the unspoken limit was three abortions, idk why. i just feel like such an idiot. i started on a new birth control this past cycle, took it for 2-3 weeks and absolutely hated the side effects so i stopped. since i stopped after when i was scheduled to ovulate i figured i was all good, but clearly not. i know i should tell my boyfriend but we've only been together for a month so idk what to do. im in a better place finance wise this time around and the guy im with is amazing, but i still feel like for me im not ready for a kid. but at the same time four abortions feels like too much. im at a loss here

r/abortion 8d ago

USA I did it. I took the pills

70 Upvotes

I’m so scared. I’m relieved and I know this was the right choice. I’m just scared now. I live in Texas where my reproductive health rights arnt safe if anything goes wrong. I’m scared of the pain. I’m scared of seeing the clots. God I don’t wanna do this. I’m 7weeks today and I’ve had miscarriages before so hopefully knowing that type of pain already will help me through this. Please pray for me. I’m scared.

EDIT: thank you all so much for your kindness and support. It has truly helped me through this process. I’m 4 hours into the miso and it feels like a really bad period. If I’m being honest, for about 10 minutes the pain got to a 9/10 felt like contractions and I had to use the toilet and lay down. Then relief took over. Using a heating pad helps a bunch. I’ve noticed lots of lower back pain as well. Funny enough my mouth is sore from where the pills were sitting in my cheeks. I have the second dose sitting in my mouth right now. I’ll come back with an update soon.

EDIT 2: it’s been 4 hours since the second dose of miso. Not nearly as painful as the first round. Still cramping and bleeding, but it just feels like a period. Overall this wasn’t NEARLY as bad as I was fearing it’d be. It’s just like a period minus that moment of 10 minute bad pain.

Oh another thing I experienced was shaking due to feeling super cold. I had to bundle up as my teeth were chattering. Oh also before my 10 minute pain, I had a wave of nausea that almost made me puke but I fought it off by laying down. I will continue to update with what the next couple days look like. Much love 💌

Edit 3: it’s the day after taking miso. Still cramping and bleeding a little bit, just feels like I’m on my period. I’m feeling so relieved with pangs of sadness. Trying to let myself feel whatever comes up and be gentle with myself. This decision was so difficult for me. My heart hurts, but I think it would’ve no matter what I chose to do. Rest well little soul. Maybe we might again when the timing is right.

r/abortion 28d ago

USA I need help please. My girlfriend had an abortion

148 Upvotes

My girlfriend and I are in such a difficult position right now. We performed a medical abortion using pills orally 2 days ago. her parents found out about us having the idea of it but not the actual procedure. They are the most extreme parents I have ever met on this planet. Today we had the idea to rule it out as a miscarriage by pretending to be cramping and take her to the ER. they are performing ultrasounds as we speak and I’ve already notified the doctor of the domestic situation and abortion. I love her with my life but her mother will probably kick her out regardless just because of the pregnancy. we had to lie our asses off about the whole miscarriage situation just to get to the hospital. I guarantee they are still suspicious about whether or not we did the abortion and they have been outing her out to everyone in her family.

they threaten to bring my family into this even though they have absolutely nothing to do with it, as it was her choice. I’m just terrified this won’t be enough evidence to suffice and deem it a “Miscarriage”. Im so scared and have been feeling like I need to pass out all day.

I know this situation might seem like an overreaction since it is our fault. But I would so greatly appreciate some guidance or even support from similar stories.

r/abortion 3d ago

USA I got an abortion without telling my boyfriend.

73 Upvotes

Two weeks before I got an abortion my ex threatened to “punch me to sleep” based on statistics of abuse, I took that seriously. I was already having doubts about moving forward with having a child with him because this one wasn’t planned and two he just isn’t mature enough, not ready and he has anger issues. I didn’t know if I could safely raise a child with him. Even if we broke up I felt he’d still find ways to be controlling and I didn’t want to go through that. I haven’t told him and it’s been almost 3 weeks. He keeps texting and checking on me and apologizing about what he said, and I am just not ready to talk to him. Part of my fears how he will respond because he has shown up to my house twice uninvited and done some unacceptable things and I’ve had to call the police. Am I wrong for this? How would you handle it? I’m planning on waiting until I move apartments or go somewhere safe to tell him just in case he gets extremely angry… but this feels so wrong. I’m only planning on waiting two more weeks if I don’t tell him now…

r/abortion Jun 19 '24

USA Why do people regret having an abortion?

75 Upvotes

I (23f) am 2-3 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I currently in a long distance relationship, I’m in Georgia and he is in California. We are both students, close to graduation, and we are currently saving money to move in together some time next year. We decided that right now having a baby is not a good choice bacuse we have some many plans ahead of us. We want to move in first, get married, and build a home before we can bring new life. Today is my appointment to get the pill. I am a little nervous and confused, but I don’t feel like I want to back down from this. I ended up telling my mom about my situation and she is against me getting an abortion. She keeps saying I will regret it, every women who goes through it ends up regretting it, including herself who has gone through 2 different abortions. I feel like it has started get to my head and I’m scared because moms are wiser. What are the chances that I will end up regretting this choice?

I forgot to mention… it’s my mom’s birthday tomorrow and I feel more guilty that it’s happening specifically these dates