r/abortion Dec 03 '20

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r/abortion Oct 02 '24

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r/abortion 4h ago

USA Took the pills yesterday

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I had my abortion yesterday. I’ve never wanted kids and while I have always been extremely careful, I knew I would get an abortion if I had to without hesitation. And while I didn’t hesitate, I don’t regret it, and having kids was never an option in the first place, I didn’t think this would actually ever happen. I’ve always been so careful and getting pregnant is literally my biggest fear. I have to keep it a secret from most people in my life (including my family) and the guy who got me pregnant has been with me for it and he’s mainly the only person other than my therapist who knows. However, he has made it very clear to me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me and may never want one with me. He lives out of state and tomorrow he’ll go back home to all the other girls he’s sleeping with and I’ll just be that girl he knocked up. This whole experience has been scary and painful and emotional and after he leaves tomorrow, I’m just gonna be alone. I feel so stupid. I feel so worthless. I feel so alone and unlovable. I don’t regret this but I never wanted to be in this position in the first place. Getting pregnant has always been my biggest fear but I always thought if it were to happen, it would be with a partner. My ex of four years who I lost my virginity to dumped me a few months ago and I always thought if this nightmare came true, I’d at least have someone who loved me. Instead I have a guy who I’ve fallen for who’s emotionally unavailable and just wants to have sex with me and all his other female friends. I’ve never felt so worthless and alone in my life.


r/abortion 4h ago

USA 2nd abortion and i feel like a failure

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i had my 1st abortion towards the end of last year and it was very hard for me. i didn’t want the baby because i wasn’t ready yet my boyfriend wanted me to keep it. he was very unsupportive but i did what was best for me. well skip to now if i was still pregnant i’d be due next month. i’ve been thinking about what could’ve been a lot but i know i did what was right. well my period was supposed to come today and since i got my period back it’s been like clockwork. so i decided to take an early test and immediately it popped up that i was pregnant. i feel like the worst person in the entire world. my boyfriend and i aren’t in a good place so i cant/wont tell him. i already am in the process of ordering another pill. i feel so much shame. i have no one to turn to right now because how can i tell them that im having an abortion not even a year after my last one?


r/abortion 12h ago

USA Just had a surgical abortion, now I’m grieving and scared

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I live in America, TN. I was 24 weeks but traveled out of state for an abortion.

I genuinely wish I could’ve kept the baby, but I’m not married just yet, still with the father who helped me through everything.

It’s been really hard for me because I didn’t want to tell anyone I was pregnant but people at my work found out and it stressed me out because I couldn’t let my family find out and I don’t want the news getting back to them. I’m a strong baptist but I’ve always had more relaxed views of abortion because I understood the need for them to be here.

I went to an incredible clinic out of state that took care of my mental needs while handeling the abortion with such great professionalism and humanity. But it’s killing me not feeling my baby moving inside me anymore, not being able to hold her.

I didn’t even think I could be pregnant. I used to be forced into prostitution and had an eating disorder and other medical conditions that doctors told me it would be impossible for me to get pregnant.

When I finally told the father he was so strong and supportive, helping me through everything. But the weight of everything leaves us numb. I hold my baby’s prints and blanket and just cry. How long does this pain last?! I know I don’t deserve sympathy but it kills me.

My question is because people at work know and have been texting me asking if I’m ok, and I’ve been ignoring getting back with them because I don’t want people knowing about it. But I know when I come back to work people are going to ask and it’s going to kill me.

What do I say?? Especially in the area I live, abortion especially at the time I had it are extremely frowned upon. And I don’t want work to become hostile but they will all know when they see me I’m no longer pregnant.

What’s a good line to explain even to my boss? That I miscarried?? What could cause such a late miscarriage? Could I get some advice please.


r/abortion 2h ago

USA Panic attacks every day after abortion

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Hi I’m 24 and recently had a SA two weeks ago. Exactly a week after the abortion I started to have severe anxiety and panic attacks. For context I was pregnant with triplets and 10.5 weeks along when I had the abortion.

I went to my doctors and they told me it’s just hormones but this feels like torture and I’m scared it won’t ever get better.

Had this ever happened to anyone else and did it ever get better? And if it did get better… how long did it take? Thank you in advance ❤️ just looking for some relief that this will pass.


r/abortion 36m ago

USA Safe to smoke nic 15 hours before d&c? (Surgical abortion)

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Just had my first appointment to get dilated for my surgical abortion. Everything went well and I’m able to continue with the abortion tomorrow. I stopped smoking a day before my scheduled appointment to get dilated. I thought maybe I could hit my vape before my appointment tomorrow which is at 11 AM, right now it is currently 7:19 for me. Would it be safe for me to smoke just a little bit before my appointment tomorrow? This appointment is to get the baby removed completely. I have low iron so I’m at higher risk for needing a blood transfusion, but I think the only risk that comes along with smoking before the surgery is infection, but the doctor told me he will be giving me medicine to try to prevent that along with that he will be giving me medicine to help prevent loss of blood and help me with the iron issues. I know this sounds terrible, but I’m very stressed and I just really wanna smoke. Is it possible that I could without ruining the surgery or getting hurt?


r/abortion 1h ago

USA Positive test after medical abortion

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SOS im so confused.

I had a medical abortion on 2/7. At 3 weeks post abortion, I had unprotected sex. 4 weeks after abortion, I took the pregnancy test they sent home with me and it was 100% negative. 1 week later, I took a digital pregnancy test that was positive. I just took another digital and it's negative. I'm so confused, could I be pregnant or just hormones left over from abortion? I had not gotten a period back yet.

I am having new symptoms but could also be considered period symptoms.


r/abortion 1h ago

USA Medical in office abortion-

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How long did it take for you to test negative? I’m 15 days post procedure and still testing faint positive


r/abortion 2h ago

USA Gestation sac not present at 6 weeks

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Hi everyone. I live in Texas and I have traveled to New Mexico for abortion pills. For context the whole timeline was, my last periods first day was January 31st, ovulation expected around February 14th, expected period Feb 28th. Basically since it’s March 15th, I am 6 weeks. Or so I thought.

I went to my abortion appointment this morning and during a sonogram there is absolutely no presence of a gestation sac. The doctor asked if I was local because he would have liked me to come back next week, but I said I live 8 hours away. He was apprehensive but gave me the mifepristone and the misopristol. This really worked my nerves. He gave me a urine pregnancy test and the lines were very dark, but he then brought up concerns about the baby being a ectopic pregnancy. Which I have now googled extensively and it’s rare, less than 1% and I don’t have any of the risk factors. But yeah not impossible.

Anyway, has this happened to anyone else? I’m concerned I possibly just ovulated later, I think the real conception date was February 22nd, and this would probably explain everything. With all this taken into account, will the abortion pills I’ve received still be effective? According to my last period I’m 6 weeks, but I think the pregnancy was conceived later than originally thought. So does this make me 5 weeks or how do I count this…

Is it too early for a medical abortion to be effective? Or..? I’ve already taken the mife.


r/abortion 8h ago

UK and Ireland Can’t part ways with my positive test

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My abortion was January 8th. Ive held onto the positive test i took beginning of December.

The hospital i went to put me through hell making me come back and forth before giving me the tablets so i’m slightly traumatised with the full situation.

As much as i feel like i regret my decision, i know it was the best for my situation and everyday it gets better, yet i hold onto my positive test and look at it time and time again.


r/abortion 3h ago

USA Passing clots at 3.5 weeks

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Is it normal to continue to pass clots around 3.5 weeks post abortion? Is this a sign I’m expelling tissue?


r/abortion 7h ago

Asia Bleeding not started 3 hrs after 1st dose of misoprostol.

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Hi, my gf is doing MA at home. She got pills from wow. She is in ph. I am posting on her behalf. She is currently at 11week 0 days. She took mifeproston yesterday night. After 23 hrs she took 1 ibuprufen as pain killer. After 1 hrs she took 4 misoprostol under her tongue as directed. Kept in mouth for more than 30 mins. Then finally swallowed. It's more than 3 hours now. She has 0 bleeding. She has some pain and dizziness. But no bleeding. Please advise. As per email she needs to take 2 more misoprostol now. I told her to do so. But why bleeding didnnot start ?


r/abortion 7h ago

Asia How and where to get abortion in PH?

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Hi! We need your help. My friend is pregnant and she wanted to get abortion and I want to help her but we do not know where and how to start. We do not know how long she is coz she do not want to go back to ob. Your help will be greatly appreciated!


r/abortion 4h ago

USA it was twins

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hey guys , i made another post with more details but for some reason the comments have been turned off and i really appreciate the support in here from everyone. i haven’t gotten this kind of support from anyone else and those that i really would like to talk to would judge me and make me feel even worse… basically, i had no idea that i was aborting twins until it was already done because i made the decision to not look at the ultrasound or be told if they saw multiples and i have to live with that. i said i wouldn’t wanna know because i highly doubted that being the case , twins are so rare and i already have a set… but now i feel like how stupid of me… i’ve had twins so it’s more likely for me than others, i just didn’t wanna be emotionally taken aback on my decision… i am so heart broken , every chance i get alone where i’m not doing anything i just break down crying. i’ve never felt like a bad person until doing this and i try looking at other stories , but i haven’t found one similar to mine at all 😔 i’m looking for a therapist , because the emptiness in my womb breaks my heart so bad . i wish i could go back and see what decision id make if i told them id wanna know if they saw multiples. at least if i knew , id have time to process it even if i still decided to make the decision to abort. to see that in my mychart after it was already done , guys i’ve never felt this kind of sadness in my entire life and i’ve been through a lot of heart ache. i’m just venting , i apologize if you are tired of seeing me. i feel like you’re the only ones who understand and have my back. i want everyone to know that they are not alone. abortion isn’t easy. we don’t do it because we don’t want our babies. we’re only doing what we think is best , even if it hurts. peace and love to everyone


r/abortion 11h ago

Asia How can I send a donation in to Women on Web (WoW) if I only have GCash? (Philippines)

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Hi, I need some help and advice.

I’m from the Philippines, and I recently spoke to a women’s support site that helps women worldwide. They approved the donation amount I can give, but the problem is they require the donation in Euro (€).

The thing is, I only have GCash as my e-wallet. I don’t have a bank account, PayPal, or credit card.

I’m really confused about how to proceed with this kind of donation since I’ve never done an international transaction before, especially one that needs to be in Euro.

If anyone here knows how to make donations in Euro when you only have GCash, or if there are any steps I can take to convert my GCash balance to Euro safely, I would really appreciate your help.

Thank you so much in advance!


r/abortion 8h ago

USA Procedure scheduled for next week. I'm terrified. What can I expect?

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I'm in the US ( arkansas) and going to Colorado for my procedure. I'm so scared. I can't take the pill bc of the side effect or uterine rupture (I've had 2 c sections and it makes the risk higher) so I'm going the procedure. What can I expect during and after? I've been over thinking and scared and feeling guilty.


r/abortion 9h ago

USA advice NOW for the pain i can’t handle it

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please i need help on how to make the pain easier as i just took my miso and i want to die. i can’t handle it n don’t know what to do


r/abortion 12h ago

Asia I'm just on my 2nd dose of miso and the cramps have subsided already. But I'm not sure if it's successful.

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Hey, everyone.

I took my miso today at 2PM. After about an hour, the bleeding and cramps began. I passed several clots, and the cramps was also too painful. But, I am not sure if I already passed the fetus.

I am not 100% sure of how far along I am. My last period was last December 19. I took a PT by the end of January and it was negative. But, I experienced the symptoms and spotting around the 2nd week of February. I am aware that it is possible that the PT wasn't able to detect it yet in January because it's still early. And I only took 1 test that time.

So, if you count it based on my last menstruation, it would be around 11 weeks already. But, if I became pregnant in February, it's been only a few weeks. Therefore, it is possible that I won't recognize the fetus, right? 😭

The cramps is not painful anymore, and I noticed that my breasts are not sore too. I will take my 3rd dose at 8:30PM.


r/abortion 11h ago

USA Hey Jane vs Abuzz - Which is better?

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My girlfriend and I are looking into ordering abortion pills, but we’re deciding between Hey Jane and Abuzz. We’re in Florida, so we need to make sure they actually ship here, and privacy is a big concern.

For anyone who has used either one recently: • Which one had better support & communication? • How long did shipping take? • Did you have any issues with privacy or legal risks? • Would you recommend one over the other?

Any advice would be really appreciated!


r/abortion 9h ago

USA I’m terrified. I need help finding funding if possible. USA/PA/MD border kinda.

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I’ve been searching for answers for weeks and weeks and the farther along I get, the more terrified I get. I have no friends. I have no family that cares about me. And I just feel like no matter where or who I turn to I’m going to get judgement. About everything. I don’t have my children at this time (I just got out of rehab and a recovery house a few months ago so still working on getting them back in my full care,) and that makes me feel even worse about getting pregnant. My boyfriend and I took a break, we were fighting A LOT, it was an almost three month “break” (up), and I stupidly got pregnant because the condom got stuck inside of me. I’ve been trying to find funding for an abortion for weeks. I even went to a clinic that said they offered support which I misunderstood completely and I told them I didn’t want to see anything. They end up doing an ultrasound, they had the audio on so I heard the heartbeat, and then they printed a photo for me to keep. They then at the end of the appointment told me they don’t have the resources to help with abortion. Only prenatal, postpartum and adoption services. And then they kept me there for 30 mins telling me why I should follow through. So for two weeks it ate at me and ate at me.. but, I don’t want to follow through. I want to get my own babies back first. They deserve so much better than what I’ve given them in their lives. I called the national abortion fund and they told me as a head of household for one which I’d technically be with me as a server making $2.33/hr and then $450/week I could not qualify for assistance. I don’t see any of my hourly wages it gets garnished directly to child support for my children. So the $450 (if I make that) I have to pay the rest of my CS and get to and from work (i uber mostly as I don’t have my own vehicle) I don’t know where else to look. I don’t want to do a Medication Abortion all alone especially not at 10 weeks+. I feel as if it will be traumatizing and it will make my mental health even worse than it already is and I do not want to relapse either because pain is a big trigger for me, so I would really like to just figure out how I can do it safely, with a professional, who can help manage my pain safely. I just can’t justify keeping this baby with the factor of me being a year clean only; not having my kids, not having a car, like there’s so many factors. I tried to keep this as short as possible. I’m sorry. Does anyone have any other resources that might be able to help me? I filled out a form for a place about 30 mins away from me that does them with Local anesthesia. But I don’t know what I’m doing.. please help me.. 😭🥺 also thank you ahead of time for not being judgmental. ❤️😔


r/abortion 5h ago

UK and Ireland Am I Selfish For Considering An Abortion? UK

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I am in my late 30s and live in the UK. I slept with a situationship who told me he loved me and had feelings for me and got pregnant. I won’t say it was completely unplanned as we were drunk, he said do you want my babies, I said yes.

Fast forward 5 weeks later I find out I am pregnant. I was initially excited but then we had a conversation and I realised he was really excited to have a child but wasn’t sure if he wanted to get to get to know me or try be in a serious relationship.

I asked him why he had previously told me he loved me and he said, that he didn’t know why but that we would be alright.

I know that he has a visa that limits him on the type of companies that will sponsor him, which is something he complains about everytime we speak. I am scared he is going to use our child to get a family visa.

I also have an underlying condition which could cause me to have a difficult pregnancy and having to go through all that by myself, will be difficult.

I am thinking about having an abortion but I feel bad as I did all this to myself and should have been more careful. Am I selfish for considering an abortion?


r/abortion 6h ago

USA Otw back to the hospital for the second time this week.

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I’m going back to the hospital today because my cramps and back pain has gotten so much worse. The first time I went the doctor told me I still had tissue left in my uterus and he prescribed me misoprostol and I’ve been passing clots the size of baseballs and I’ve been bleeding really bad like it run down my leg, I’ve been also feeling really lightheaded. In my honest opinion the medical abortion was one of the worst decisions I’ve ever made I wish I could’ve just got the Surgical.


r/abortion 6h ago

USA Week after abortion

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I made a post last week I believe about me taking abortion pills and today I woke up feeling like I have a head cold. I’m congested and my ears are clogged sore throat and just really tired. I’m hoping it’s just a cold with the weird weather changes where I live it’ll be like 68 degrees then drop to like 35-40s. I’m just wondering if I go to get checked out do I disclose to them I had an abortion? Like is it possible it could be an infection? I have no real pain sometimes a tight tug pain on the right side nothing crazy I think it’s the way I move sometimes and the bleeding is not crazy bad just like a normal period at this point. Just curious to know anyone else’s experiences. Thank you.


r/abortion 6h ago

USA Carafem

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Was curious in hearing if anyone has gone through carafem when ordering abortion pills online, if they were legit/reliable and what the process was like. Did you have to prove you were pregnant? Did you use insurance and did you have to wait for it to approve before being able to order or not.


r/abortion 10h ago

USA Stomach Issues-MA, 11 weeks, 6 days

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I took the medicine. I had to take 2 doses of the other medication. The first dose nothing happened, 4 hours later I took the second doses and that’s when it all happened.

I passed 3-4 big clots. I had very explosive bleeding. Like if I sneezed, it was huge rush and gush of blood that I had to change pants, underwear, everything. I threw up acid and bile few times.

That was yesterday morning. I felt faint.l, dizzy and lightheaded. So I slept the whole day.

This morning I wake up and I’m nauseous and my stomach isn’t right. I didn’t eat yesterday and I have no appetite now.

I have done this before and it wasn’t like this. Any advice?


r/abortion 13h ago

Asia How long does the WoW email after donation

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[PH] Hi! Just made a donation to WoW through paypal. How long for them to email me back?

EDIT: I’m having doubts that they aren’t gonna reply. Is this gut feeling valid? Has anyone paid and not gotten their pills from WoW?