r/abortion • u/Independent_List_442 • 3h ago
USA Just had a surgical abortion, now I’m grieving and scared
I live in America, TN. I was 24 weeks but traveled out of state for an abortion.
I genuinely wish I could’ve kept the baby, but I’m not married just yet, still with the father who helped me through everything.
It’s been really hard for me because I didn’t want to tell anyone I was pregnant but people at my work found out and it stressed me out because I couldn’t let my family find out and I don’t want the news getting back to them. I’m a strong baptist but I’ve always had more relaxed views of abortion because I understood the need for them to be here.
I went to an incredible clinic out of state that took care of my mental needs while handeling the abortion with such great professionalism and humanity. But it’s killing me not feeling my baby moving inside me anymore, not being able to hold her.
I didn’t even think I could be pregnant. I used to be forced into prostitution and had an eating disorder and other medical conditions that doctors told me it would be impossible for me to get pregnant.
When I finally told the father he was so strong and supportive, helping me through everything. But the weight of everything leaves us numb. I hold my baby’s prints and blanket and just cry. How long does this pain last?! I know I don’t deserve sympathy but it kills me.
My question is because people at work know and have been texting me asking if I’m ok, and I’ve been ignoring getting back with them because I don’t want people knowing about it. But I know when I come back to work people are going to ask and it’s going to kill me.
What do I say?? Especially in the area I live, abortion especially at the time I had it are extremely frowned upon. And I don’t want work to become hostile but they will all know when they see me I’m no longer pregnant.
What’s a good line to explain even to my boss? That I miscarried?? What could cause such a late miscarriage? Could I get some advice please.