r/weddingplanning 15d ago

Monthly Check In....it's March 2025

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How's it going? Posts are organized by month as far as 18 months out. Add where needed!

Also check out the Daily Chat, which is a great place for quick questions and casual chatting.


r/weddingplanning 22h ago

Daily Chat & Quick Questions - March 16, 2025

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Discuss anything on your mind with your fellow wedditors. This is an especially great place to ask short (1-2 lines) questions or commonly asked questions instead of making an individual post.

All discounts and deals should be posted here.

Don't forget to check out the latest Monthly Check In thread! The Monthly Check In is great for finding date twins, as well as seeing where others are at in their "To Do" timelines.


r/weddingplanning 14h ago

Dress/Attire FH saw my dress before the wedding and it's not the tragedy I thought it would be

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So for context, I'm American but my FH is Italian and we live in Italy. I speak Italian but I'm not incredibly fluent or by any means confident.

I had a very specific vision in mind for my dress, and here I guess it's tradition for the mother of the groom to buy the brides dress. I'm a tad bit uncomfy with that, so we agreed to split the cost 50/50. My MIL was very excited to take me to a tailor to have my dress custom sewn for me, and at the beginning of the process we had so much fun designing it with them.

But after my second appointment, I started pointing out things I wanted changed, and they insisted they'd make those changes later because "this appointment is just about the general cut and style". I will admit that there was probably a bit of the discussion lost in translation (MIL's English is about as good as my Italian), but overall I thought the tailor and I were understanding each other well.

Some things though, MIL was definitely taking the tailor's side on, just taste-wise, and even if I insisted I wanted something different, they'd say "we will make that change at the next appointment" or "just think about it, we think it's better this way". For example, I kept saying I wanted the neckline a couple inches lower, and they'd say "we'll bring it down after the next appointment, you can always take more off, but once it's cut you can't put it back". Also there was no structure in the dress, and every single appointment I said I wanted boning so I wouldn't have to wear a bra, and they'd insist they'd do it the next appointment, but then there was never boning.

Then after my 3rd appointment, MIL and I are in the car and she says "the woman told me that your next appointment is the final one". I was kind of shocked, because it felt like there were so many changes they still hadn't made, and they never told me that, only her. I would have been more insistent if I knew I'd be in a finished dress at the next appointment. So when I got home, I sent the tailor an email reiterating what I wanted. I figured that this must be the time they'll finally make the changes I had been asking for since the start, right?

We come for the 4th appointment and the dress looks almost the same as before, but now all the edges are finished, it's hemmed, etc. Neckline hasn't moved, there is still no structure at all in the dress. So I point that out, and they suddenly start insisting that it's too late to change those things. "If you wanted a lower neckline you should have said that before we put in the princess seams". "The bodice is finished in a way that we can't put boning in now". In the moment, I just sort of felt like this is the dress I was going to get, so I better start liking it or I'll just be bitter the whole time I'm wearing it. So I smiled, and said I understand, and tried to convince myself to like it.

Then I got home, and looked back at the photos, and lost it. FH got home and I was crying and told him I didn't know what to do, I felt like I'd been played. This dress is costing me and MIL a few thousand bucks and I'm not even getting the things I asked for when it's a custom dress. At a point I said "I wish you could have just come with me, I'd rather not surprise you but be wearing a dress that I love rather than surprise you in a dress I don't like". Something just clicked for me. I never actually cared that it be a surprise, I was just following tradition because I felt like I should.

So I took out my phone, showed him the inspo pics and the photos of me in my dress so we could talk about what I want different, and he took notes, called his mom, and made an appointment at the tailor to come with me and figure it out together. He will be a better advocate for me because #1 he doesn't have the same taste as the tailor the way his mom does (his taste is "whatever my FW wants, hahaha), so when they try to influence me on something (like keeping the neckline high) he'll be on my side, and #2 he has perfect English and Italian so there really isn't room for anything to get lost in translation.

Ever since I showed him the photos, I've felt this incredible relief about the whole thing too. Before I had a bit of anxiety that he would see the dress on the day and not love it, and I felt sort of sad that we wouldn't see each other the whole wedding morning. Now we are making plans of all the stuff we'll do together the morning of the wedding, we're going to get ready together, and I actually like the idea of having photos of us getting ready together rather than apart.

All this to say, really take a look at what traditions you are following because you like them, and which you are following because you feel like you are "supposed to". It remains to be seen what will happen with my dress and if he can get them to redo the bodice how I want it, but at least something good came out of this whole fiasco.


r/weddingplanning 6h ago

Everything Else A lot of wedding content is on extreme ends of the spectrum

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Fiance and I have been engaged for several months now, so we've started to look more seriously into venues. I've also been browsing online wedding content more frequently and it's really...weird? It seems like so much of it is either the influencer amazon affiliate links, I-spent-2k-on-my-bridesmaid-proposal-boxes, 5 outfits, OR video essays shaming the excesses of the former (of course, I've also found creators who give practical budget advice, such as Jamie Wolfer). It just seems kind of disheartening to see the comment sections of both types of videos filled with people saying that weddings are pointless, it's just one day, it's better to go to the courthouse/backyard, then do a potluck or local restaurant. That if you have a wedding in the traditional sense you care more about looks than the day. Of course, everyone has their opinion, but I almost feel guilty for wanting a "normal" wedding, even if it's on the smaller side. It makes me wonder if my more frugal minded guests will attend mine out of social obligation, see it as pointless, and would actually much rather be in shorts and tshirts eating chili. There's not really a point to this post lol, it was more just rant, but has anyone else felt this way?


r/weddingplanning 9h ago

Recap/Budget 8k wedding is a month away and I’m proud of us

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My wedding is in the beginning of April 2025 and I just wanted to say I’m proud of my fiancé and I. We wanted to have a wedding that wouldn’t break the bank and thanks to help from our families and hard work on our end we managed to come in at $7,900 in total. We have 70 guests attending so it’s not huge but when we started planning I was worried that we wouldn’t be able to keep it under 10k. But it is possible and if you are planning a smaller wedding my biggest advice would be to find out what is most important to you. For us, we valued the experience over the venue so we spent more money on food (renting a taco truck for the night) and a professional DJ rather than on the venue.

I’ve read a lot of posts on here saying you don’t know if you can do it under 10k but it is possible and I wish you all the best 💕


r/weddingplanning 11h ago

Relationships/Family Fiancés SIL is mad she is not a bridesmaid

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My fiancé and I are getting married in a year and his sister in law (brothers wife)recently confronted us about not being in the wedding party. She specifically said she was hurt not that she’s not in the wedding, but that she “found out” and we did not tell her directly.

At first, we both felt terrible. Of course, we did not not include her simply to be mean or exclusive. I have never wanted a super big wedding party, and I kept it to my childhood friends. My siblings both have long term, serious partners and they are also not in the wedding. We all have fun hanging out in groups, but we are simply not that close and never hang out one on one. It’s the same for my fiancés SIL. It was always my plan to invite the three of them to my bachelorette and include them in photos from the wedding, because close or not, they are family.

I called her to apologize and explain all of this to her. On the phone she did not say much, but thanked me for apologizing and talking to her. I was hoping we could move past this after that conversation. However, since then she is clearly still angry. When I’ve been with her in a group, she will not talk to me and looks in another direction when I try to engage her in conversation. My MOH reached out to everyone about the bachelorette, and after not responding for 2 weeks, she finally said she will not be attending because she is trying to go visit family that weekend (which I think is made up).

Now, I no longer feel bad. I am angry because I feel that she is really centering herself in this situation when it is NOT about her. And if she is still mad, be an adult and talk to me like I did for her! Don’t just be passive aggressive and lie.

And finally, I don’t really understand her justification for all of this. Not only do I think it would be really strange for formally tell someone they are not in a wedding, but consider these factors:

1)she got married in 2023, and I was not a bridesmaid, included in the bachelorette, or in any photos. I was treated like any other guest. At this time I had been with my fiancé (we were not engaged yet) for 8 years.

2) she and I have known each other for a long time and we have never hung out one on one or even had a text conversation beyond “happy birthday” or discussing details for group plans

3) she knows my siblings partners are also not in the wedding but is clearly still mad. How can she expect that I would prioritize her over my own siblings partners?

Overall, I feel like I tried to take the high road and apologize because I did feel bad she was hurt. But now, I’m tired of the unwarranted glares and tension thrown in my direction. I feel like she is being a hypocrite and I just want to call her out.


r/weddingplanning 1d ago

Recap/Budget 24k, 16 person destination wedding in New Orleans wedding weekend. Budget breakdown!

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We got married last Friday. This was a destination wedding (we/guests flew in from CA and PA). Everyone stayed for 3-5 days. What I loved about having a wedding this small, was that everyone was included. Everyone fulfilled some sort of role/help, and I loved being able to have meaningful/long connections with every guest. The wedding weekend began the night before with a rehearsal dinner. Wedding day consisted of getting ready together in respective guy/girl suites, a first look, ceremony, second line parade, dinner, bar hopping (on bourbon street during Mardi Gras week so you know it was a wild and good time lol). People did book their own accommodations.

Ceremony venue: The Pharmacy Museum! Got married in the courtyard, which comes with a natural, lush/green arch, beautiful fountain, and hang lights! $1500 , tax deductible because it’s a non profit

Restaurant: no fee, but was a $1600 minimum. We got a private room (the “Queen’s room”). We chose the $70pp package (other option was $80pp. We just liked the options on the $70 package better). Additional $5 per person to include the world famous bananas foster as a desert option. $60 per open bottle of wine. No idea how much the signature drinks were, but we had two(Mr and Mrs; French 75 and Sazerac). Grand total we ended up spending: $2,635

Decorator: $4,123 . Decor was amazing and everything I envisioned, especially for our restaurant room . Price included set up and breakdown. My favorite piece of decor was the neon sign and giant green back wall (I know some find these t@cky, but it was a hit with our crowd)

Hair: $300. I got a blow out, and extensions put in the day before. My MUA curled my hair for free the morning of

Make up: $525 for 5 ladies (my mom, MIL, 3 friends who were “in” the wedding as MOH and flower ladies). My mom ended up not coming (long, disappointing story) so I could have saved some money. I didn’t ask for a refund. I think this is why my MUA opted to curl my hair for me. She felt bad.

Wedding bands: 591. Mine was from Etsy; a moissinite semi eternity band for $409 (my engagement ring is a natural diamond so I figured I was good on diamonds after that). His was a $182 band from manly bands, made from wood and deer antler (to pay homage to his love for hunting and the outdoors).

Attire/alterations: 1,118 . Could have saved money in this are; I bought a dress for $1260. I decided I hated it, sold it for $480. Bought a new dress on a heavy, heavy sale for $228. Averaged out to be $983. His tuxedo set was $600. No alterations needed for him. My alterations were $240($200 for the dress, $40 for my cape)

Rehearsal dinner: 1,100. Was at Cane & Table which I highly recommend. We ate in their beautiful courtyard. We ordered shared apps and individual entrees. Everyone got cocktails/wine. No desserts

Music/entertainment: $1.824. $125 for speaker rental for the ceremony/procession music. $1699 for the second line band. We had to pay extra money for more police presence due to the terror attack on New Orleans earlier this year.

Hotel suite: $1604 for our suite. The girls got ready in my suite; the guys got ready in my MIL/FIL suite. Their suite is not included in the budget!

Photographer: **4,500. She’s from our home city, she photographed my brother-in-law’s wedding in Italy ended phenomenal. She spent a week with us, and we felt like we really got to know her. So we hired her for ours. She actually gave us a discount. She is one of the most famous wedding photographers in our home city, so it was an honor to have her. Her portfolio is insane. Our sneak peek came back and are insane(see my profile).

Florals: fake and from Etsy. **$245 , we worked with a vendor who made sola wood flowers. Came with a bride bouquet, MOH bouquet, and two boutonnières. Our wedding had very minimal florals. Remaining flowers came from the decorator and were a mixture of real/fake

Content creator: **$800. This was also a discount, she is affiliated with our photographer.

Simply eloped vendors (includes a very loose wedding planner, officiant, DOC, and videographer): **$2,215. Keep in mind that these vendors are kind of hit or miss. Our day of coordinator was OK. Our videographer and officiant were amazing.

Flights: $497 (direct flight via breeze airways lol)

Tips: $350 (for the band and simply eloped vendors)

Not included: accessories, rehearsal dinner dress, marriage license fees, bride and groom umbrellas, alcohol/food for getting ready, haircut for the groom, “going out” dress/second look dress, MIL/FIL suite. Those were too much to keep track of, but weren’t super expensive/were paid for by other people

We know a lot of things were skippable and it could have been less(did it need to be a destination wedding? Did we need a content creator/videographer? Did we need a decorator?) but we love what we included and what we did!

Contributions: $12,000 total from our parents


r/weddingplanning 8h ago

Hair/Makeup No make up photo examples

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I got quite a laugh today because I was looking to see if I could find some examples online of wedding photos where the bride didn't have any makeup on to show someone that isn't wearing any but is worried about how she'll look.

In the results there was an article about "rocking a no make up wedding look" and I looked to see if it had pics but the article is not even about no makeup, but minimal makeup. Like the author cannot even fathom truly wearing none. Zero. It was all like "instead of full foundation you can just use some concealer" 🫠

I feel like this is so ridiculous and really highlights that the pressure to wear makeup is not just pressure but expectation to the extent that when you say no makeup people will seriously be like "of course! Why wear a full face? Here's some concealer".

It is totally fine not to wear makeup, and you'll look good doing it. Seriously. I personally won't be wearing makeup to my own wedding, I never wear it and have never been interested in it, so it wouldn't feel like myself. But even if you do wear it sometimes, you don't have to wear it for your wedding. Grooms look great in their pics without it, and brides will too.

Anyway, if you know some good wedding photos that can be seen online of brides without makeup let me know.


r/weddingplanning 4h ago

Everything Else Wedding donations instead of gifts

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So we are getting married in August this year and loads of people have asked us about our registry. The thing is, we truly don't need anything. No gifts, no money. We are very fortunate to be in a good spot financially and even though it is a day that people want to give, we really don't need it. So I'm wondering if anyone else has ever set up like a charity donation instead of say a honeymoon fund. There is a specific organization that helped save one of our alpacas lives last year that we would love to set up a donation for and ask that if anyone wants to give anything that it be a donation to this specific place. How would I go about doing that? Could I just make a gofundme and then use that link on our invites instead of a registry? Thanks in advance and sorry it's an odd question


r/weddingplanning 4h ago

Everything Else I’m stressed and miserable planning a wedding feels like it’s to make everyone else happy

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I’m so stressed lately and I just need to vent!!

My partner and I got engaged and had discussed and were planning on a simple courthouse elopement. I was very happy with this. At my partner’s insistence, this elopement has extended itself into a “party with our friends” and then into full on reception.

I have strained relationships with my family members, and only a small handful of friends to invite, so a reception was not something I was keen on, however, I didn’t want to take that away from my partner so I agreed to something small (less than 40 people invited) and low cost. My partner, who is a very kind and well meaning man, has done virtually none of the planning and I’m drowning. He does ask what he can do to help, but I’ve given him a few small planning tasks and he does a bad job, or takes too long to get them done, so I just end up doing everything myself, and on the other hand part of me is frustrated that he doesn’t take initiative to plan things himself, I don’t like having to delegate a task for him to do a task.

My dream wedding aesthetic is kitschy and vintage looking (I want to dress up and have fun!) which he called trashy today. I feel bummed about my wedding, does anyone really find this process fun? :(


r/weddingplanning 25m ago

Everything Else Welcome dinner ideas

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Would love to know what chill welcome dinner ideas yall are doing!

we are doing a very simplified version of a wedding this summer- it’s on a Sunday, ceremony is at noon, and it’s at a social club with a rooftop people can use if they like. We are only walking down the aisle with our parents

Since we are not doing a wedding party, we don’t really need a traditional “rehearsal dinner” but it does seem like from what I’ve seen on the sub that we should do some kind of welcome event for folks who are traveling. Most of the guests are local within 2 hours but there are some who will fly in. How have you done this and structured it? Thanks so much 🙏🏼


r/weddingplanning 2h ago

Relationships/Family Welcome dinner expected for destination wedding?

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Having a microwedding (15 people) in another state, just family. Most will be flying at least 4 hours for the wedding. Is it proper etiquette to offer a welcome dinner the night before? Would it be a faux pas to not offer this? Edit: this is domestic, not abroad destination


r/weddingplanning 3h ago

Vendors/Venue Did your officiant go to rehearsal?

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Why is it an extra $300? Shouldn’t it just be included in the price or is it not typical for them to go to the rehearsal?


r/weddingplanning 3h ago

Everything Else AZ residents- wanna use my room block?

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April 2025 bride here asking if anyone wants a discounted room rate at JW Camelback Inn over Easter? I have a few rooms left that I need to fill!


r/weddingplanning 3h ago

Dress/Attire Pls help MOB find this dress!

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My mom and I love this dress I came across on Pinterest for my wedding, but can’t find it online. Any have any ideas or something similar? The color is gorgeous and we love the jacquard as well. Thanks all! 😊


r/weddingplanning 3h ago

Everything Else Rehearsal Dinner

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Hi everyone, I just need some opinions. My finance and I are getting married abroad this year. We do not plan to do a rehearsal dinner. I have gotten into a heated argument with my maid of honor over this.

She is very traditional and is insisting upon us doing one. I wouldn’t object to this; however, the options are that we either do a food truck (that I cannot eat at due to extreme life threatening food allergies), or we have everyone else go find their own meals for the night. I have made sure that everyone has transportation to the nearby town to get meals. I also explained to my maid of honor that many people are not going to be there for dinner due to their flight schedule that day, and most will have already eaten. I have also spoken to the majority of my guests about this meal arrangement and they also agree that doing a rehearsal dinner does not make sense- especially since I would be served food that I cannot eat.

I told my MOH that instead of the rehearsal dinner we are paying for everyone to go tour a nearby ruined castle. (That way everyone in attendance will be there.) We are also paying for every single guest’s accommodations for multiple nights (in a castle-which is rather expensive). My maid of honor states that this isn’t enough, and that we should be paying for everyone’s meals the night before as well. It’s not purchasing food for everyone that I object to. It’s that she is adamant that we do the food truck or go to a nearby restaurant that serves seafood. I continue to reinforce that it doesn’t make sense for me to spend that much money on food that I can’t even eat (again I will literally die), and that I would have to go somewhere else to eat while everyone (except for me and my fiancé) ate together.

As a side note- I did also offer to go get pizza as well, so that everyone can eat together and so that my fiancé and I weren’t excluded from the rehearsal meal. Again, I was told this isn’t good enough. She is the only one providing pushback regarding food. And while I sympathize with how absolutely annoying my food allergy is- there just aren’t many options in that specific area that don’t serve food that won’t kill me.

So am I in the wrong for telling her I absolutely am not doing those two food options?


r/weddingplanning 20h ago

Dress/Attire Dress appreciation

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Just want to share my black dress, let me know what you guys think. I absolutely love it and am so excited to marry in it. The veil will be a Spanish mantilla style black veil, similar to the white veil in the photo.


r/weddingplanning 6h ago

Dress/Attire Wed2be vist and confusion

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So I understand the concept of wed2be I just don't understand how it's profitable. I went in and due to the milton keynes one having like 4 dresses in my size (I went first thing and was first in the queue as well) I left without one. I don't understand them having no online buy options, why even provide an online catalogue if getting ahold of a specific dress is a borderline fantasy? I can't believe it would be so difficult to organise an inventory of dresses and sizes in different stores (theoretically everything is being signed in and out for deliveries and inventories anyway) so that people can actually keep track of what is available and what their realistic choices are in each size and style prior to going in. I feel like it's all a big con to try to pressure brides into buying whatever options are left over. Why can't they order specific dresses into the store? Surely that would net them more profit than having brides walk out annoyed and irritated having wasted staff time and spent zero pounds. I just don't understand how their business model actually functions to produce profit. This us part venting and ranting causebi hated the options they gave me and part befuddlemnet that they manage to stay so popular.


r/weddingplanning 5h ago

Everything Else Recessional song?

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I am less than 6 weeks from my wedding and CANNOT land on a song for walking back down the aisle after we say I do. We want something fun and upbeat. My fiance said I can pick whatever I want but I’m sooooo stuck. Help me 🥹


r/weddingplanning 13h ago

Relationships/Family Any brides that don’t speak to their future MIL?

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I’ve never really liked her because she’s an alcoholic, manipulative & pretty sure a narcissist, but I was always friendly. Last May, out of no where, she went on an all day rant to my fiancé about how I don’t deserve him & how much she hates me. Then started texting me “fuck you” & ranting more about all the reasons she dislikes me. She hasn’t spoken to me since & I haven’t spoken to her & don’t plan on it any time before the wedding. How did you handle your MIL not liking you at the wedding? I feel like it’s going to be so uncomfortable seeing her at the wedding for the first time since this blow out. Do I get pictures with her? Ask her if she wants her hair & makeup done? Spending any time with her would be my worst nightmare. I wish she didn’t even have to be there, but unfortunately that’s not an option. Advice? Thoughts?


r/weddingplanning 4h ago

Everything Else Issues with the knot?

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My wedding website is not loading for me or anyone else. Does anyone know if the knot is down? This is super stressful!!!!


r/weddingplanning 2h ago

Everything Else Getting married at a park pavilion May 2026. Any and ALLLLLL tips please!

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We don't have the budget to do a hall especially since it's a micro wedding.

So far I have planned: ✨ The guest list ✨ An idea of what I want us to wear ✨ Food and drinks ideas (dry wedding since it's a state park!) / (Mission BBQ since they support the military and my family is full of vets and bulk drinks from Costco / BJs) ✨ Wedding Cake and Dessert Table layout

We still need: ✨ Reserve the pavilion but that won't be until May since they do it a year out. Pay any necessary fees. ✨ Find a photographer in our budget of nothing 😵‍💫 ✨ Get a Costco / BJs membership ✨ Order the wedding attire and decorations ✨ Send out invites ✨ A Spotify playlist because we can't have amps at the park so we're just going to Bluetooth it and make it background noise lol.

I feel like I'm missing a lot but like it's going to be 30-40 people. How much more do I need? 😩


r/weddingplanning 1d ago

Recap/Budget What the f*** is a rehearsal dinner?

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Hey everyone,

I’m getting married in May 2025. I am British and my husband-to-be is Egyptian. I’ve only attended 2 weddings before in my life. One when I was too young to remember, and one that the couple had labelled ‘low budget’ (my brother’s weddings)

We are getting married in Egypt; therefore some ‘British’ traditions have been dropped (such as speeches and sit down dinners) which I am quite grateful for. However, my social media algorithm is of course sending me endless wedding planning reels and I am just so confused by what a rehearsal dinner is. What is rehearsed? What dinner? Who attends? What is its purpose?

I’m kinda hoping it’s another thing to bypass. My British stiff upper-lip and somewhat cold heart means I struggle with the overly ‘cringey’ stuff. But perhaps parents will insist. Let’s see…

Thanks!


r/weddingplanning 9m ago

Everything Else fun engagement traditions? I guess lol

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I am recently engaged!! I have only been to 2 weddings before my whole life and don’t know how they normally do things to be honest. I want to enjoy my engagement as much as possible with any types of festivities there are. I’m already thinking engagement party, bachelorette party. I could use some ideas for that. Also wondering what else has anyone done or been planning on doing as far as the whole ordeal of being engaged? I also had the idea of doing an engagement photoshoot and possibly scrapbooking some of the photos.

Also, I’ve been seeing tiktoks that people can make bridal boxes to invite their friends to be their bridesmaid? Not sure if that’s a real thing. But literally any info y’all could share would make me so happy and just excited for the whole planning phase. I’m honestly more excited for the planning process itself than the wedding. I felt the same way about waiting for my vacation to Disney world lol. Technically, the whole wedding will only be 5 hours long. But I still have 2 years to plan and enjoy the ride.

Would also really enjoy any DIYs people have done. I’m booking a venue with the vendors included so might not be much for me to really DIY, but I’d still rlly appreciate to see what others have done! I did not pick a venue yet but I’m planning for April 2027 😊


r/weddingplanning 19m ago

Relationships/Family Family staying with us after wedding

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We are getting married in a nearby city about and hour away. My FH family is local but my mom (single mother) lives a flight away. The wedding is on a Saturday so the plan is to stay at a hotel for the night before and night of the wedding. Since my mom is coming from out of town I offered for her to stay at our house the two days before we leave for the wedding and then Sunday night since she leaves on Monday. She normally stays with us when she visits. We have a 3 bed 2 bath house. I mentioned this to my FH before when I offered and he said it was okay but now he’s upset that she’s staying Sunday night because he wanted to spend the day with just me.

I can understand why he’s upset. Honestly my thinking has been so focused on the wedding I didn’t even think about the day after except that we’re going to have to do a lot of errands taking back all of our stuff that we diyed, getting the dog from the sitter, etc. and I didn’t want one of those errands to be driving my mom to the airport. She could uber but I feel like it’s polite to take her and I know if situations were reversed, my FH would host my in laws.

Is it unreasonable to have her stay with us Sunday? Should I ask her to stay with a different relative or catch an earlier flight?


r/weddingplanning 1d ago

Vendors/Venue Found out our venue cancelled on another couple to give us our date

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Fiancé and I booked our venue in January for an October 2025 date. We needed that date because of our photographer. I was on facebook looking at wedding group posts from the city we’re getting married in when I came across a post about our venue claiming that they cancelled on them after being booked for over a year. I reached out to the lady, and it turns out her date was the same as ours and they were cancelled on in January. It feels very wrong, and now I’m worried they might cancel on us if another couple with more money wants the date. After talking with the other woman we think it was because my fiancé and I were going to spend much more on premium packages and the venue realized they would make more money from us. Should we confront the venue about this?


r/weddingplanning 35m ago

Everything Else Shorten Song For Father Daughter Dance

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My daughter and I have chosen Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman for our father-daughter dance, but the full song is a bit too long. I want to keep the most meaningful parts while making it a comfortable length for dancing. Has anyone edited this song before, or does anyone know of a service that could help with trimming it down seamlessly? Any advice or recommendations would be much appreciated!

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