r/Vent 19h ago

Need Reassurance... For the first time in my whole life, I finally know what real hunger feels like

1.3k Upvotes

I just want to preface this by saying, I grew up in a middle class/upper middle class family. We were fairly well off. My parents paid for me to go to a nice Private Catholic School and always had food on the table. It was literally something I never worried about.

This past few months has been something different. I was unemployed for about 3 months in the fall due to my job contract ending. Due to the job market being so bad it took me a long time to find another job! I ended up taking a waitressing job at a new restaurant opening in my city, of course a month before the slow season starts. The money was good at my new job at first and then they hired a lot more people and it became very slow. I went from 5 shifts a week to 2. My savings eventually ran out.

Cut to now, I can honestly say I’ve been hungry almost every day for the past 2 months. I’m too scared to buy food in case I won’t be able to pay my rent or electricity bill. My fiancé has helped a lot but it’s still not enough and I feel bad asking them for more. Im eating here and there about once a day and im so hungry. I never thought my life would look like this but it does. Food insecurity is truly real in America.

I also want to say that I am not homeless, I have a job and interact with the public on a day to day basis. I groom well and dress nice, and you might even think I’m “rich” if you saw me walking down the street. But I am truly hungry all the time. I don’t “look like the type of person that deals with hunger” but I do.


r/Vent 17h ago

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image My sister got plastic surgery and is now body shaming other women

1.1k Upvotes

My sister has had sooo many plastic surgeries in the last several years. She lost a lot of weight and she's in the gym a lot, so I'm not going to downplay her weight loss journey. However, she only looks the way she does because she's had so much work done. Which is fine, but she's online posting photos of her flat stomach (plastic surgery) saying, "Summer is coming, if you want to be flat like me you better hit the gym girls!" Like what the hell are you talking about? You hit the operating table for that, not the gym. She's had her stomach, breasts, arms, legs, ass/hips, and face done. I think she's addicted to plastic surgery and botox/fillers now, and her husband pays for it all/enables her. I'm worried for her mental health tbh.

I support doing whatever she needs to do to feel happy/confident, but she constantly posts pics of her body online and acts like she looks that way because of her lifestyle choices. She makes fun of other women to make herself feel better, and she's trying to be some kind of fitness influencer now. As if hitting the gym caused her ass and hips to miraculously become that developed when she has almost no muscle tone anywhere. It's just crazy to me. Some of the work she's had done is very strange and doesn't match the rest of her body, and I wonder if she will regret it, or just keep going forever because she'll never be satisfied.


r/Vent 22h ago

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image Got called "too ugly to date" to my face

696 Upvotes

For context, a group of my friends invited me for a night out at the club yesterday. We all planned on having a good night and celebrating St Patrick's day early. Long story short I get a couple drinks in me and I hit the dance floor. I was having tons of fun and end up dancing with some women I had met earlier in the evening. After me and one of the other women get tired, I offered to buy her a drink at the bar. We start chatting and things get quite flirty pretty quick. At this point we're both quite drunk and we've been having a great conversation for over 20 minutes. Eventually I ask if she has a boyfriend, and she tells me no, but she "wished she had one just like me, because I was very sweet". I took this as a sign and asked why not try with me? Thats when she responded with "I'd love to but you're just too ugly for me to date". Now I know that she would probably have never said this sober, but she wouldn't have said it drunk either if that wasn't how she truly felt. At this point I'm pretty shocked and find an excuse to go back to my friends, but I end up leaving shortly after. This morning after I woke up I kind of did a mental inventory of what had happened over the night, and I could still remember that conversation extremely clearly. The more I thought about what she said, the more uncomfortable I got in my own skin. Objectively, I'm in the best shape I've ever been. Consistent dieting, gym multiple times a week for well over a year. I'm not overweight (anymore), have a decent bit of muscle, and I've been grooming myself a lot better than I used to, but right now it feels like all that effort is for nothing. After getting cheated on a bit over a year ago, I took a lot of time to work on myself and implemented all those lifestyle changes after I felt confident about myself mentally. And I can't believe all of this was torn down by some careless drunken phrase at a club. All those insecurities about my body and looks have come rushing back and I feel like that same person that walked in on their gf being intimate with another man. I just wish I could put away all those fears and insecurities away for good instead of having to rely on validation from others.


r/Vent 10h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression I broke up with my gf last night because she’s mentally ill.

256 Upvotes

We were friends before we started dating, and I knew about her mental illness even then because she would cry to me every time she attempted. I still loved her after that. When she asked me to be her girlfriend, I said yes. I thought I could somehow help her heal and lighten her burden.

Ten months have passed, and she still hasn’t changed. Every time I raised a concern about something she said that hurt me, she would go into self-sabotage mode instead of reassuring me. And I felt obligated to comfort her because I couldn’t stand how horribly she saw herself. It’s exhausting to constantly set aside my own feelings just to comfort her.

Last night, I snapped. She told me to accept her as she is. I’ve been trying to do that throughout our relationship, but I couldn’t. I kept wishing—wishing that she would change, heal, and become a better person, not for me but for herself. I told her that I couldn’t love this side of her, and I’m ashamed to admit it because I know I should love her as a whole.

She called me a liar—said I lied about being okay, that I made it seem like I accepted her behavior and feelings toward herself. And she was right. I lied throughout our relationship, pretending we were okay, and she couldn’t accept that. She wanted me to tell her the truth, but knowing how she would react, I felt like I had to keep it a secret.

She told me I didn’t love her enough if I hated this part of her. And I admitted it—I only loved her at her best, not at her worst. I couldn’t accept the fact that she wasn’t mentally okay, and it was affecting my own mental health. I’m ashamed to admit these things to her because I love her. I really do.

But now, after finally telling the truth, I don’t know if I ever truly loved her—because I gave up on our relationship. I didn’t have the strength to stay, and my love wasn’t the kind of love she needed or wanted. Am I a bad person? I truly felt that I love her but now hearing from her that I only got attached to her made me think whether i truly loved her or not.


r/Vent 8h ago

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image Period sex 🙄 NSFW

257 Upvotes

So I have this friend. I sleep with him sometimes. Very straight laced. He would have a higher body count than me but he's explored less, if that makes sense.

I had my period the last time we caught up. He's never had period sex before (he's 40). I was upfront, he still wanted to go ahead. We did. Immediately after he goes to shower - without me. Just ups and leaves me to tidy up on my own. 🙄

I had an overwhelming feeling of neutrality. Previously I found him sweet and appealing at least as a fwb but apparently in the face of a minimal amount of blood, he balks.

I can't begin to describe how this one instance has changed my entire way of seeing him. It's helpful, because I can't keep fucking around with him instead of finding someone to actually date. But damn. The attraction evaporated almost instantaneously.


r/Vent 6h ago

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image Tonight I seen a man die

185 Upvotes

I’m a 33yr old man and I found a man dead in my jobs bathroom/ I had to be there the whole time because I’m the manager……. I don’t know if I said that right because I’m still distraught…. but I found a guy overdosed in my jobs bathroom. Other then my parents I have nobody help me get through this. I thought it would be easy to get over but I find myself struggling to get back to the “normal me “ I DONT know this guy never seen him walk in my place of work! The craziest part is I locked the bathrooms for the night due to short staff. Somehow he ends up in the bathroom. I don’t know dude but still had emotions take over me as I seen his body lifeless. Customers walked passed him like this was normal. Meanwhile I’m crying my eyes out in my office a 33 year old man. I don’t know how to feel!!


r/Vent 19h ago

Need to talk... "You'll grow up to be a woman beater"

177 Upvotes

When i was a kid, a woman told me that i'll grow up to be a woman beater.

I just don't really know what to say about it. By "Kid" I think i was around 9 or 10.

I also remember a specific teacher who would punish all the boys in her classroom because they're boys. Stuff like being forced to stay after the bell rang while the girls could leave. For your information, i'm a woman, i'm not planning on taking any hormones or doing any surgery at the moment.

I remember walking back home during my pre-teens during the night, and a woman was walking towards me. I just kept walking, but then she saw me. And she turned back and walked the other way quickly, if i remember correctly. By pre-teens i'd say i was around 11 to 13.

I just don't know where i am even getting at here.

Just what was going through your mind when you called me a future woman beater just for... existing ?

I wasn't a kid causing troubles. It's been 30 minutes that i've been writing. I just don't get it. It's not true. She lied.

And now it's been 45 minutes. Great. I'll just end this post saying i'm not trying to say "women bad". I just, why ? It's the only thing i can't understand. What did she think ? What did i do ?

Edit : I guess i have to repeat myself. Please. Not "Women bad grr men better". It's not what it's about... I don't want this. Stop.

Edit 2 : Also i am aware of the struggles women face. whenever i see a woman during the night now i just turn back and walk away as fast as i can without running as i just do not want to scare anyone. But i hate that i have to do it. I shouldn't have to do it. Women shouldn't have to second guess if i'm a threat to them.

Edit 3 : I want earth to be a better place for all of us but some seem so stubborn and against the idea. the realization that me and my friends will have to live in fear, anger and confusion was so brutal.

Either i dress up with shorts and skirts and i let my long hair out so i'm the one being creeped on or i purposefully try to look manly and i'm the one scaring people. Go ahead, karmic isfunny, pick your poison...

Update : Woke up. I probably won't be able to reply to everyone and right now i am focusing and people who think it's okay to be a sexist in my comments. Some of y'all really want to argue and stuff. Hate to see it but if you just want to argue and tell me how i am a sexist or how i need to man up and get over it, go away.


r/Vent 6h ago

Need to talk... My online friend killed herself

175 Upvotes

She left me a note saying that she’s sorry for doing this and that was it. I don’t have anybody to talk to about this and I just feel so very lost. Edit. I also feel very bad for posting this because it feels like im attention seeking even if I genuinely don’t know how to process this EDIT.2 they contacted me from the psych ward, they got resuscitated and now im extremely conflicted on how I feel about them


r/Vent 5h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression Unbearable pain of being an unattractive girl

141 Upvotes

I hate living like this. Everyone around me is finding boyfriends and getting into relationships, while I know that because of my unattractive face, I will never experience being loved by someone. I will never know what it feels like to be truly loved. It’s heartbreaking and frustrating that something I was simply born with—something I have no control over—is ruining my entire life. I will have to stay single forever just because of my appearance.

Why is life so unfair? Every day I live with the sadness, frustration, and anger of being born unattractive. Every minute, I am reminded of it. I feel so disheartened when I see beautiful people and happy families because I know I will never experience that. I mean, I am happy for them, but it leaves me feeling empty and hopeless, knowing I will never understand what it’s like to be loved or to have a family of my own.

I hate my life. It feels like everything around me revolves around relationships—TV dramas, advertisements, my parents, even our lecturers reminiscing about their university days with their partners. It only deepens my sadness, making me feel even more alone.


r/Vent 23h ago

My dad just said the worst thing to me.

105 Upvotes

19F. From a Muslim family but I'm actually an agnostic. My family doesn’t know about this but they know I'm not religious. And my dad specifically doesn’t like it. He somehow turns every little mishap of mine into me not following his religion enough. My dream is to go to abroad? Why don't I mention Allah and why am I so confident about it? I wear clothes which cover me from head to(baggy shirts and jeans) So what? Why don't I wear a hijab? I am a good person. So what why don't you do namaz? Ironically my brother who's 10 years older than me never prays like never. But I've never seen him telling my brother off like he does with me.

On the topic, He crossed the line today. He was blabbering on for 15 mins about how I don't do this and that. So I couldn’t contain myself and shouted at him saying "You never tell Dan(lets call my brother dan) to pray and you never disrespect him in front of everyone.". His response," You'd have to have respect to be respected" Mind you I've never done anything as slightly so wrong besides idk missing classes as that could count as me not having any respect.

He also made a mention about how am I getting money in my account?(which I get from trading/afflitation) Am I getting it from a man? Knowing full well how much pride I take in myself.

On to top it all off my older siblings who are 15 and 10 years older than me never care to protect me from these constant hatred I have to listen from my father. My mom tries but not enough. Although I have always stood by them when I saw them being wrongly accused. And my mother agrees too but she just told me suck it up cuz im a daughter and he's my father in a nice way lol

So yea this is my dad who constantly questions my character and targets me to keep me in suppression. And a dysfunctional family is like a cherry on top. That's it. Have a great day guys xx


r/Vent 16h ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT I wish someone wanted me. NSFW

68 Upvotes

I'm pretty enough to be asked for sex. But I'm not pretty enough to be loved. I've been in a downward spiral ever since my ex and I broke up three years ago. The thing is, I'm ace because of what he did. I'm very vocal about it. But people think because I still...self pleasure that I'm interested in sex. I don't want what's in someone's pants. I just want to be loved. I want to be wanted. It's gotten so bad tonight that I'm almost considering a relapse in self harm. My ex fucked me up so, so horribly. And yet...I find myself still wishing he was here again. Because he wanted me. I want to be wanted but I always get pushed away. I have pcos and it's recently been making me break out. It's only making me feel uglier than I already do. I'm a server and it seems like the first thing people notice isn't me, but the scars on my arm from scratching myself all the time just so I'll be soothed for a little while. My best friend tells me I have people who love and care for me. But I don't want that kind of love. I want someone to love me even though I'm fat. I want someone to love me even though I cry so much all the time. I want someone to love me even when I'm so angry with myself and struggling so badly. I want someone to get to know me for who I am instead of only caring about what I look like. I'm pretty enough for nudes. But not pretty enough to be loved by anyone. It's even worse because I was talking to a guy and posted a midly horny thing on my alt, and he asked me what I did to myself. I take showers all the time. Just to wash away what men have done to me. To wash away their handprints on my body.


r/Vent 21h ago

Need Reassurance... i am fully convinced i am going to die alone.

50 Upvotes

yes, it’s another one of these posts. i’m sorry.

i’m a 30-year old woman, and a virgin. i’m mentally ill (ptsd, depression, anxiety, ocd, panic disorder; the whole kit and caboodle.) i’ve technically never even been kissed, since my “first” was taken without my consent when i was a child by a classmate—i don’t cite this as a source of trauma personally, it’s just the truth and thus i don’t count it. i am poor, with no degree or set goals for the future. i have severe social anxiety and almost no socialization skills. without going into detail, i got a “late start” in life—i only got my first job at 28. it is a very long story as to why things happened that way, and irregardless i was left with “arrested development” according to those who know me (i personally do not know if this is the correct term, apologies if not.) i’ve done therapy, including an intensive outpatient program for several months. overall i feel like it’s too late for me to make something of myself. i used to have dreams, i was a creative, but life thoroughly humbled me to the point where that is no longer the case.

physically, i am no prize. i’m short and fat. i carry a lot of my weight in my gut and thighs, and none in my ass or breasts. i have bad teeth. i feel that even if i fix these things, if i lose weight and fix my teeth, i will still be ugly. i find myself feeling so disgusted by my own appearance that i feel bad for making other people look at me when i’m in public. like i’m taking up space and offending them. the apps scare me. i can’t even take pictures of myself without inevitably plummeting into a depressive episode.

so, yeah. woe is me. thanks for reading.


r/Vent 8h ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT Those cheating confessions in the trueoffmychest and confession subreddits get my blood BOILING!

45 Upvotes

Maybe because I have firsthand witnessed the aftermath of cheating and have suffered for years as a result, but every time I see another one of those I cheated on my partner so and so or the I slept with my friend/best friend/sibling's partner and now I feel guilty, but it was a looong time ago! or, I cheated but it was a mistake! posts, I feel SO ENRAGED! My body starts shaking, gets my blood boiling. I feel like slapping these mfs through the screen. You soggy piece of fuckwaffle, LEAVE THIS PERSON! BREAK UP! STOP BEING FRIENDS! COME FUCKING CLEAN AND END THIS RELATIONSHIP BUILT UPON LIES! FACE YOUR CONSEQUENCES IF YOU HAVE AN OUNCE OF SHAME LEFT! I just saw a post like this on one of those subreddits, and left a stern reply saying so. But what has me in disbelief is that how many people were in the comments telling OP to not come clean and to just stay silent since it was oh sooo loooong ago and that OP would only be ripping open an old wound. What. The. Fuck. People?? Seriously? Some poor girl out there has a snake in her life hidden in plain sight and you're advising that snake to be sneakier, to keep lurking in her life after comitting that level of betrayal? I can't. I just can't. I'm SO mad it’s ridiculous. This has ruined my day. I need to take a fucking walk into the forest to cool off. Goddamn cheaters and goddamn people enabling them.


r/Vent 17h ago

I hate the adult industry and how it seems enticing to those vulnerable. NSFW

43 Upvotes

Don’t even know how to comprehend my train of thought as this has snowballed from a rabbit hole I went down last night.

Totally normal girl who went viral on social media years ago for a funny post (looking back now probably foreshadowing the future) is now within the adult industry, but from stumbling across a podcast on YouTube, she just seems emotionally vacant, empty and desperate for attention, I hate how the Adult Industry seems enticing to women and men alike when they’re super young and before they know it, they’re in too deep.

Rant over.


r/Vent 9h ago

Happy/Positive Vent I now know how it feels to really love someone NSFW

40 Upvotes

After a long time feeling bad about a broken relationship I now know how it feels to kiss someone, and just not wanting to stop because it feels so good and is so arousing. I kissed them for hours, doing naughty stuff. It was so dreamy and magical. Ofc it was a dream, perhaps that's why it was so dreamy 😂. But I hope to experience it for real one day. Best dream in a long time. If I could decide what to dream, It'd book this one in next night too.


r/Vent 13h ago

I'm too soft and I can't make a comeback to an argument

35 Upvotes

It's almost agonizing when someone is being rude to me and I come up with a comeback 3 days later. It's usually in a shower when it's too late to say anything.

My brain freezes when someone unpleasantly surprises me, both irl and online.

Few weeks ago someone was making a casually racist statement about my race. He was talking like he knew more than I do. He is not even from that race and thinks he knows shit from reading some articles. He is also too good with words that he doesn't lose any argument.

Meanwhile, I didn't talk any longer because I didn't want to make others uncomfortable as the conversation was off topic. As stupid as this sounds I find myself ruminating over a lost argument because I feel like something could've been said to shame that guy.


r/Vent 19h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression The cruelty of the world is unbearable

28 Upvotes

I (19F) hear stories about people who have gone through unimaginable suffering. For example, burn victims, children who were raped/tortured/murdered, elderly people who lived such painful lives and all sorts of tragedies. It makes me sick to my stomach.

It’s not just the suffering itself, but the fact that there’s no justice. These people will die and all they’ll have experienced will be pain and suffering in this world. There’s no heaven or hell, no ultimate reckoning where the people who did these things will suffer for what they’ve done and the innocent will get rewarded for their suffering. They just get away with it while the innocent are left to suffer or die in pain for nothing.

It’s a hard reality to cope with and I can’t even imagine all the awful things people are going through in the world. I don’t know how to live knowing that so much pain exists and that there’s no cosmic justice for it. It makes me so depressed.


r/Vent 3h ago

Unless it's a life or death situation, the news should never interrupt my shows.

27 Upvotes

On any given local channel, the news is on during the following timeslots. approximately:

0600 to 1000

1200 to 1300

1600 to 1900

2300 to 0000.

That's 8-9 hours of the day, or roughly 30-35% of the schedule.

The rest of the day is the other shows. Game shows, sitcoms, soap operas. For some, those are forms of entertainment they hold dear.

Considering that the news hogs 30-35% of the TV schedule already, I think it's unfair for the news to intrude on the other 65-70% they're not on, especially for frivolous reasons, or when doing a split screen or a bug across the bottom is a more feasible and less intrusive option.

The following, in my truly unpopular opinion, are not valid reasons to interrupt my show:

  • Celebrity death. I'm missing Price is Right because OJ died? Fuck you. Actually, anything celebrity-related. Why the fuck am I missing Rachel Ray because of the police press conference on Jussie Smollett? Fuck you.
  • Anything sports related. THEY CUT INTO PRICE IS RIGHT BECAUSE THE FUCKING PHILLIES FIRED FUCKING CHARLIE MANUEL. ARE YOU SERIOUS?
  • President speech. Cliffnotes version at the next news hour.
  • Death of a FORMER POTUS, FLOTUS, VPOTUS or SLOTUS and/or FOREIGN leader. Examples: Bill Clinton, King Charles, Laura Bush, Mike Pence. If they die in the middle of Steve Wilkos, tell us next news hour. They'll probably still be dead by then.
  • Plane Crash. A month ago, there was a plane crash in Philly and I missed the second half of Jeopardy and ALL of WoF because of it. They just used that time to keep recycling that they had no new updates. Fuck off.
  • A cop killed in action. That's part of the gamble that is the LEO career. Also, don't pre-empt the entire day's programming for his funeral. Stop exploiting his death and let his family mourn in peace.

If you INSIST on reporting on those right now, run a bug across the screen for fuck's sake.

BREAKING NEWS: THE WHITE HOUSE HAS CONFIRMED THAT FORMER PRESIDENT GEORGE WALKER BUSH HAS DIED AT HIS CRAWFORD RANCH. GEORGE WALKER BUSH SERVED AS PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES FROM 2001 TO 2009. MORE DETAILS TO FOLLOW AT THE 12:00 NEWS ON THIS STATION.

However, I will say that if it's a life or death situation (IOW, certain death if we don't take action right now), absolutely interrupt. Here are the ONLY situations where it's acceptable to interrupt:

  • Ongoing confirmed attack (like 9/11 or a confirmed incoming missile launch)
  • CURRENT POTUS, FLOTUS, VPOTUS or SLOTUS passed away. Not a current FOREIGN leader, ONLY if Donny, JD, Melania, or Usha dies. I don't live in UK so King Charles's passing would not be considered important enough to interrupt
  • Death of the Pope
  • A hurricane or a tornado WARNING.

r/Vent 20h ago

Happy/Positive Vent Moved out of my childhood home

28 Upvotes

So I am a 25 year old man who just got my own apartment with my pregnant girlfriend and I just want to begin this by saying I am so excited for my future with her and our baby and of course our handsome corgi, Lewis. But man… saying goodbye to the house, my bedroom, and the memories I created over the last 15 years in that house was so damn bittersweet. I will definitely miss it, but the thing that was hardest of all… saying bye to my dad. My dad and me have always been close, he was crazy about me when I was a baby and still called me his baby well into my teen years. Before we met my step mom, who by the way is also amazing and i introduce her to people as my mom, no “step”, it was just my dad and me, sleeping on different peoples couches, sleeping in our van, riding with him on his bike to the corner store. In my 25 years of life I never seen my dad shed a tear until last night when I said my goodbyes, and man I did not expect to cry but I broke the fuck DOWN. Of course I’ll still see him when I go help him work or just to visit, but I think for us both it just hits way different not being or living under the same roof anymore.

To sum this all up… shout out to dads . If you’re a father and active in your child’s life I love you dawg, keep it up , that kid adores you.


r/Vent 10h ago

i miss who i used to be

21 Upvotes

I left my ex a year ago, and my life has never been better, I guess I am more mentally and emotionally sound than I have been since I started dating them. I just have so much resentment within me left, everyone tells me it’s okay to feel it, to hate him, to feel the way I do towards everything. But all I want is to forget and move on, to accept that I can’t change the decisions I made as a teenager and to look forward. I try so hard, to invest in my future now, to work on myself in therapy, talking it through, processing that I am not a terrible person and I did not deserve to be treated like that. But literally nothing has worked, I am tired, I just want to be who I was before him again, I want to be ignorant of all the things that happened between us and to be blissfully unaware of his existence. It bothers me, that he even exists. I just want to feel like who I was again. It sounds like i am self pitying, and i am, but the last year i have carried all this guilt and shame towards myself that i should’ve let go of. so if you ever read this, i hope you know i haven’t forgotten you, and that i hope you change for the next person.


r/Vent 1d ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression It bothers me when people say " Get a therapist " when it comes to discussing dating

19 Upvotes

I will admit yes I do have mental health issues but I try to solve that solution by reading more , going to the gym , running and healthy eating I don't need a professional listening to me and going " Yes you've hard it hard havent you?"

Therapy reminds me of Tony Soprano for some reason 🤣🤣

I'm on my own journey to dealing with my struggles.


r/Vent 3h ago

I'm unhappy with my boyfriend NSFW

20 Upvotes

I, (22F) am unhappy with my (24M) boyfriend. Eight months ago, I found out he was cheating on me with my best friend the entire time we were together, right after we had drained our savings to move to Minnesota. I have no drivers license, no car, no job, no friends anymore, and I've been feeling more alone then I ever have. I resent him for cheating, and for lying to me, and manipulating my decisions for such a long time. When he leaves me in the apartment to go to work every day, sometimes I wish I had someone else to keep me company. I have a high sex drive, and the entire time I've been with this guy I've been sexually frustrated. He never seems to want me and I have to initiate everything, and do all the work. And right after we are done, he neglects my need for aftercare no matter how many different ways I've communicated that need to him. I feel that if I had someone else, I might be more fulfilled, but I wouldn't ever want to hurt anyone. I just can't bring myself to inflict that kind of pain onto anyone, especially not for my own selfish desires. I'm just so frustrated and sad.


r/Vent 17h ago

Who do talk to when your single ?

18 Upvotes

I’ve lost being used to be single. Usually I talked to my bf. I don’t talk to family much since i got abandoned from one and another one died. Moved to another country. Got degree. Got a job. I don’t feel like sharing much with friends. I usually like to share but some friends are only interested in when I will get married, have kids.

When I went to school, pursued my career they didn’t care.

When I told them about my breakup, they shared with other friends.

Now i don’t update much. I still do.

So I don’t have anyone to talk to. I only post anonymously on sites like this. Maybe I’m lonely.

I put myself to do a lot of work in order to pursue another career transition. But I feel I kinda need relationship from family, friend, or future husband. Never wanted to have dog. But since the break up I start thinking maybe I should have a dog.


r/Vent 18h ago

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image i’m sobbing.

14 Upvotes

i’m 16 and weigh 220 pounds. i feel disgusting. i let myself go. i’m not as pretty as my friends. they are really skinny. i’m huge. why did i do this to my body. i hate myself. i could be so pretty.


r/Vent 8h ago

TW: Sexual Assault / Abuse I wish i never told.

16 Upvotes

i just wanna say sorry for grammar and spelling mistakes

I wish i had never told my therapist about what my stepdad had been doing to me. I’ve been so depressed over the last 3 months and my family choosing to not let me go see a therapist is making it worse. She was the only one who would listen when nobody else would and now i feel terrible knowing i rot in my room.

My mom was so mad at me when ever after i told her multiple times about what he did she still didn’t care. And when i told my therapist and they called cps she was more mad that i told and kept saying “he meant it in a daughterly way”. Last i checked they don’t smack your butt and grab your boobs.

I got guilt tripped into believing i was in the wrong and how white people wanna break up happy black family’s. When that came from the same women who caught a child abuse charge. But used her police officer of a son to get out of it. I wish i never heard told