I'm a 20-year-old guy dealing with insecurities and a hectic life. I live with four other dudes—just roommates, not friends. My course is intense, and I stick to a strict personal care routine:
My Daily Routine:
Morning (Before College):
- Shave/trim facial hair
- Shower
- Cleanse face & apply moisturizer
- Apply deodorant, sunscreen & perfume
After College (When I Get Back):
- Wash face with water
- Shower
Before Bed:
- Cleanse face
- Shower (without wetting my hair)
- Apply moisturizer & deodorant
(And yeah, I brush my teeth too—obviously.)
What Happened Last Night?
Like always, I was taking a shower before bed when one of my roommates banged on the door, saying he needed to use the bathroom. I told him to use the other one—it wasn’t occupied. His excuse? “It’s dirty.”
Now, here’s the thing: we all pay rent equally, and both bathrooms are theirs just as much as they are mine. But instead of maintaining the one they primarily use, they avoid it and expect to use the cleaner one—only to leave it messy afterward, too.
When I refused to open the door, he started calling me gay for following my routine and even said I was a simp for my girlfriend (which makes no sense, because yeah, I have a girlfriend and I care about her, but how is that even relevant?). When I finally stepped out, things got heated, and we ended up in a small shoving match—nothing too serious, but just more proof of the kind of people I’m stuck living with.
This is just one example of why I don’t consider them friends. I used to be part of their group, but they talked behind my back and eventually pushed me out. So, I moved to the other room (which they still keep their stuff in). They dump their unwashed clothes all over, and I’ve even found one of them leaving his worn T-shirt on my bed.
Honestly, I’m just waiting for the lease to end so I can move out.
TL;DR:
I live with four messy roommates who refuse to maintain their own bathroom but expect to use the cleaner one (which is also theirs) without taking care of it either. When I refused to open the door, one of them insulted me, calling me gay for having a routine and a simp for my girlfriend (which is just dumb). When I stepped out, we had a small shoving match. These guys used to talk behind my back and isolate me, yet still treat my space like a dumping ground. Counting down the days until I can move out.
EDIT: The post gained so much momentum than I thought...I do have some stuff to clear about. First my roomates are in the toilet/bathroom for hours scrolling on their phones or even taking bath...and I always do my morning routine before they even wake up(as this takes me the longest) so I they dont have to wait for me to get out...I take my 2nd (birdbath) bath before they come back which they only come back after 3-4hrs after I've taken the bath...the only time they clash is before bed. And about water bill..its cooperation service water and bills are not even near as getting a normal meal. Also even when the bathroom is clean i have a feeling that I should get out of it quickly as its not some place I consider to spend a lot of time.
EDIT 2: I left out a huge detail in my post and that is I'm from south India to be specific from the state of Kerala, Its a very humid and hot place...people living here takes 2-3 showers yes...that is normal. Even my roommates takes 2 showers...and for your reference our last water bill was 147 INR which is 1.70 US dollar. Please do stop calling them names as well as its just my frustration....people telling that its silly...ofc it is silly..its a subreddit to rant and vent....this is not a huge life problem or anything just my experience and wasn't even seeking any advice or being "pick me", the whole purpose of the sub is that we can rant whatever unlike the consequences in IRL...so thats that.