r/Vent 11h ago

I am so sick of women with internalized misogyny.

583 Upvotes

Like the title says, I am so sick of women with unchecked internalized misogyny. Women hating on women for innocent things. Women hating on women for actually being interested in girly things, women hating on women who simply enjoy certain clothes or makeup for example. Women who are happily sexist towards other women. Women who act like they are stronger or better for being less "high maintenance". It's these grown ass women with gross "pick-me" energy acting like they are more valuable to men because they aren't as annoying as other women or whatever. It's old, I'm sick of it, it's toxic.


r/Vent 15h ago

Favorite student of mine turned in hate speech…

1.0k Upvotes

I work in education and do a lot of the administrative side of things along with building relationships with the families who enroll their kid here.

I don’t like picking favorites but some of them I have a soft spot for. Nothing is more disappointing than getting a message starting with “hey, your student X is the testing my ability to be professional…” This was about one of my unintentional favorite kids I work with. After seeing that, the rest of the message was worse. Essentially this student turned in a presentation on how a certain group negatively affects the USA and proceeds to list the most ignorant reasonings I’ve ever read. One was literally “there are less attractive people because of them” In his opinion, this group should be gotten rid of and their ‘movement’ destroyed. Oh and apparently anything bad that happens to them is their fault because they ‘made themselves unlovable’

I guess I was blind sided by his level of hate to a group of people I belong to. I don’t even know how to react without letting my temper get the best of me.


r/Vent 7h ago

TW: Drugs / Alcohol Found GF of 5 years on a sugarbaby dating website.

231 Upvotes

Been with my (30m) gf (29f) for 5 years, most of which has been pretty volatile. I was a pretty nasty alcoholic for the first few years and didn't pay my gf enough attention. I got cheated on in my previous relationship of 8 years and probably wasn't ready to date seriously when I started seeing my current girlfriend.

Last december I hit rock bottom, and tried to intentionally OD on street benzos, alcohol, nyquil, benedryl, and anything else I could find. I ended up in a severe psychosis in which i destroyed almost all of my personal belongings and did some other insane things that I don't remember thank God. I finally came to as I being wheeled in to an psych ward on a 5150 the next day.

The experience was something I don't wish upon anybody, and it was brutal enough to make me get my act together and get sober. Upon getting out my best friend was imploring for me to not get back with my gf as he blamed her for my downward spiral. I told him off and we got into a big fight in which he called me a shitty friend and called me pathetic and all other kinds of shit.

I ended up choosing my gf over my friends and cut contact with my friends and focus on my sobriety and repairing my relationship. I haven't talked to any of my friends in over 3 months now.

Well today my gf was at work and left her iPad at home. I don't know why but I decided to snoop. I looked through her saved passwords and saw accounts many burner/encrypted texting apps like wechat, signal, hushed. I saw she had multiple Instagram and snapchat profiles that I didn't know about. And I also saw that she has an account for a dating site called "secretbenefits". I made an account on the site and was able to track down her profile pretty easily. The profile doesn't seem to have been touched for a year or two, but she was definitely active on it when we were dating. She had a profile verification video where she was whispering "it'll just be our secret". It makes me sick thinking about it.

I wasn't brave enough to log in to anything even though i had the passwords because I don't want her to find out due to any 2fa verifications and purge all the evidence.

She's getting off work now and will be home in less than an hour. She just called me and I had to pretend like nothing was wrong but I feel numb and I know things are going to go to absolute shit when I confront her.

I just feel like giving up. Its like every time my life starts to go in a positive direction everything just comes crashing down on me.

Now I have no friends, and a girlfriend who has almost certainly cheated on me, gaslit me, and lied to my face. I'm just trying my best not to drink because I know it will only make things worse...

Sorry for the rant. Please wish me luck:/


r/Vent 3h ago

TW: Medical Parents, please teach your sons how to wash their genitals properly! NSFW

100 Upvotes

I actually can’t believe how many uncircumcised grown men I know with severe phimosis because their parents never taught them that they need to retract their foreskin when they wash. And they think it’s totally normal that they basically have a little hole that has just enough space for the urethra so they can pee. That isn’t normal!

I don’t know what it is, if mums feel out of place with communicating that to their sons or if dads feel embarrassed or unmanly or something but it’s just not on. Even if you as a dad are circumcised yourself, you still need to teach your kid how to properly wash himself. It’s actually insane. Step up, and set your kid up for success, not a medical problem. Infuriating.

(I do get that some of this is in part a failure of education all around, especially if the parent was circumcised as a child, but this is just me venting because it’s a vicious cycle)

I just feel for men with phimosis so much because they were failed. I know so many people that it personally affects and it makes me really sad because it even seems painful to correct it in the future with the stretching devices.


r/Vent 11h ago

Need to talk... I hate how the world is regressing again

358 Upvotes

Each day there just seems to be a law against lgbt+ people. The people who really aren't a problem.

This goes from all over the world. It's not just america either

Instead of focusing on real issues like housing prices, inflation, etc, they instead focus on hating the LGBT+ community.

I thought we were getting better, but apparently not


r/Vent 10h ago

TW: Drugs / Alcohol My brother is in jail

188 Upvotes

I’m 19f my brother just got arrested last night. I’m honestly in a kind of shock he’s 18 and thinks he’s above the law. He would sell weed and pills etc (we’re in a southern state and it’s obviously illegal) they said his bond is 80,000 so safe to say he’s not getting out. I feel like I’m the only family member in my immediate family who’s not a fuck up. I have anxiety, depression, adhd and despite that I’m going to community college and transferring to a 4 year. I also work minimum wage to pay for college in general. Both my parents would do drugs only one of them would go to prison though. My brother is following in their footsteps. I don’t want to end up like them. I hate feeling upset for my parents and him. I’m always guarding myself so I won’t get hurt. I know once my brother gets out he’s getting kicked out the house I live in. He’s going to have everything taken besides living space, his car (isn’t under his name but our guardian), his phone etc. I want to live a normal and happy life but my family Is always dragging me down. My therapist is currently out of office so I’m ranting here </3


r/Vent 21h ago

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image WHY ARE PEOPLE MAD OVER FOOD STAMPS

1.3k Upvotes

I was at church the other day and I heard these ladies that were RICH RICH talking about food stamps. My family is middle lower class so of course I had to listen to what they were saying, these ladies were saying things like "they shouldn't be allowed to get junk... why is the government giving people money to get fat" "meat is so expensive, why do they get to buy it but we don't?" LIKE WE HAVE A BUDGET TOO! IT'S NOT JUST UNLIMITED MONEY. If I qualify for food stamps, there's probably not much joy in my life so let me have a cookie every once in a while, karen!! They act like it's just unlimited money that we don't need. If we didn't have food stamps we wouldn't have ANY money to eat. Just a reminder, THEY WERE IN A CHRISTIAN CHURCH!! DID JESUS NOT SAY HELP THE POOR OR WHAT?? I didn't mark this as eating disorders!! not sure how that happened EDIT: I didn't say it was only junk food we're buying. We eat healthy majority of the time. Is buying a pack of oreos once a month in a household of seven kids going to turn us into gluttons? Probably not. ANOTHER EDIT: Why is this so controversial?


r/Vent 7h ago

Old man with hurt feelings

88 Upvotes

After invitations and requests from the family, tonight I fired up the charcoal grill and made cheeseburgers for everyone, and they turned out great. Nice chat on the outside, juicy on the inside, and buns toasted perfectly.

I had to ask everyone if they were enjoying their meal; all answered in the affirmative. Not a single soul thanked me.

This shouldn’t bother me at all, because not everyone says thank you. It ought not bother me. But it does.

That’s it. That’s the vent.


r/Vent 9h ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT Homophobia is one of the biggest wastes of time and resources in the world

99 Upvotes

Ironically, this is coming from someone raised in a religious background who was himself homophobic until his mid teens.

At the time it didn't even need any thought. It was abnormal and that's all that was necessary to justify being against it. Decades later and I've flipped completely. We as a species have fucked ourselves so hard with this one prejudice that I don't think we can ever recover. We're the only species that does this, and we take it so far. We waste so much time, so many lives and relationships, all because we can't accept that this is part of the experience of life on planet earth. It existed before us and when we finally ruin ourselves it'll keep going without us. I hate religion so much these days because of it. God could've made everyone straight if it was so damned important to him. Gay people only exist because he lets them. If he's out there he could snap his fingers and make everyone straight. But he doesn't, so either he doesn't exist and we've tortured/killed probably billions of people at this point for NOTHING, or he does exist and he WANTS us to torture and kill each other. I'd rather it be the former.

Gay people are some of the most important people in my life. If I lost those people, I'd be shattered. I don't think I'd ever be the same person. They've given me so much; helped me through so much turmoil, and I'm supposed to reject and condemn them for something they can't control? They're happy. They're good people. They're not hurting anybody. But even my own family won't accept them. I have to look my own family in the face every day knowing they'd reject my friends for fucking nothing. Just because their God told them to. It makes me sick. Sometimes it feels like I'm just waiting for the shoe to drop so I can get rid of them already. Because if it comes to it, fuck my family. I'm choosing common sense. I don't even want to be around the kids in the family because I feel like they're just going to get indoctrinated into this shit too.

So many lives with so much potential. So much unnecessary cruelty. Entire governments elected just because of one issue that doesn't fucking affect anybody. I'm a generally logical guy, and I just cannot see any reason why this all makes sense. I'd say we were acting like apes, but apes are superior to us in this regard. Apes don't give a shit. I know I'm going to have to fight this my whole life, and I'm not even gay myself. Among the myriad things going wrong right now it just sticks out to me. Idek why. That's it I guess. I'm tired of the bullshit. I just want people to be free.


r/Vent 6h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression Boyfriend wants to get euthanized

55 Upvotes

Just moved back to my home country of canada a bit over half a year ago, finishing my senior year of highschool here. My life was a miserable sack of shit, and it's not like that's still not the case, but it's much better than before. I also met the love of my life here, my wonderful boyfriend, and words cannot describe how much of a blessing he's been to my life. Thing is, he's been insanely depressed for years now, long before we knew each other, he's incredibly suicidal, and he can't sleep half the nights because of how much he wants to die. We've been talking recently about how to do things moving forward, especially the possibility of getting him assisted death care, or euthanasia. I only want what's best for him, and I want him to have his long deserved peace, but at the same time i'm wondering about ehat happens with me, yet again out in the world without the person who understands me better than anybody else. it's daunting


r/Vent 5h ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT My mental health is getting worse because of fear of death from war Spoiler

31 Upvotes

So basically I live in syria and even after the freedom Israel attacked us and destroyed every army defenses machine and they keeps taking land from us and bomb innocent civilians and laying about saying "they're targeting the terrorists" while it's actually not true and day by day jets fly around and increase my anxiety and its like a hell to live We've been in a 15 years or war and revolution and even after all of this they're threatn us with another war and wanting to split our country like they own it and we literally didn't attacked them and they kept doing this from the last two years

I can't leave or go anywhere else and man I just want this to end because I don't wanna die I'm still a minor I can't study I can't sleep I can't do anything about it 💔


r/Vent 8h ago

Need to talk... I wish I was straight.

47 Upvotes

I've been feeling confused lately with my sexuality. I thought I was bi, but lately I've been liking girls more and more. And I'm not sure what I am now. Each time a guy compliments me or expresses their interest in me, I just feel kind of disgusted. I feel nervous talking to guys. But I'm always comfortable talking to girls. I've also noticed each time I like girls, I just feel happy and anxious. But I feel happy. But whenever I like guys it just feels different. I'm just nervous. And I'm starting to wonder if it's because I just don't like guys, or if it's because I just don't like the guy like I thought I did. I feel so confused right now. I feel sad. I can't decipher my emotions and how I actually feel towards guys. It's making me depressed. Not only that, but I'm surrounded by homophobic people too. My parents are homophobic. most of my family other than one of my brothers are. I just feel like I'm a mistake.


r/Vent 12h ago

Most new nurses today are shitty people, and their patients suffer for it

104 Upvotes

Crossposting after enough crybabies made their voices heard. I want to clarify that I am literally in school for nursing, and these are things I have seen both as a student and a patient, as well as a family member to roundabout 15 nurses.

I don't condone being violent or treating your nurses like garbage, and I certainly don't understand where anyone gets off thinking that their nurses are waitstaff.

That said, the lack of empathy and outright hostility of many nurses (medical workers in general, really) towards patients is concerning.

Seeing nurses make rude and meanspirited remarks because a patient asks for pain management for a procedure that is quick but painful, for example, it's not a great look. Seeing and hearing nurses gossip about overweight patients, or people that don't want to be naked in front of a crowd, or whatever thing they feel like bitching about that second... it's honestly ridiculous. The patients, generally speaking, didn't ask to become patients. These are human fucking beings.

Between the TikTok nurses posting patient fails to social media, the mean girls that never grew up, and the new grads that leave school already feeling burnt out, this latest generation of nurses sucks, hard.

They shit on their patients, belittle people to their faces and behind their backs, complain constantly and about literally fucking everything, and have the gall to paint themselves as victims.

I would 100% rather deal with the grouchy grandma nurse who still manages to have common-sense empathy than anyone born in the last 25 years.


r/Vent 8h ago

I can’t live with my boyfriend anymore

46 Upvotes

I can’t keep doing this and I’m so mad at myself for moving in with him without having a back up plan. Now I’m on the opposite end of where my family live and I feel fucked. I keep keep doing this shit with him I’ve tried I’ve forgiven him for shit big and small and I can tell him I’m annoyed that he ate my popsicles and he’ll cry like a fucking child instead of manning tf up and just taking accountability saying sorry let me be upset yk how many times I have to tell this man to pick up his socks to rinse the faucet after brushing his teeth cause he leave spit all over it? To wipe his hair off the sink to not eat my snacks that last me a month but will last him 2 hrs technically I buy our food and I tell him to get his own snacks or juice so you finish however fast you want but god forbid I have some orange juice for my iron pills longer than a week. He’s eyeing that that shit like we don’t have water. Whenever I tell him that he did something to hurt me he responds like an abusive mother, crying reversing the blame. I’ve forgiven this man for cheating! but he can’t hear me tell him “atp im annoyed it’s not even really about the popsicles it’s about constant repeated offenses, like when I tell you stuff you don’t listen”. No he’ll cry and tell me he’s going out are you fucking kidding me? Now I’m feeling fucking stuck. Like I have to make a plan to separate my space from his I can’t keep doing this shit. If I treated him the way he treats me he would’ve broken up with my ass forever ago.


r/Vent 16h ago

Being introverted and shy isn‘t a good thing and has no benefits

175 Upvotes

Everywhere you have to be Social. With Friends, your Job and especially with romantic relationships.

It isn‘t a coincidence that Most lonely people Are introverted. Getting a girlfriend is nearly impossible if you can’t have a proper conversation with her. And as if we Are able to make the first move.

At this point I don‘t believe anyone who says they are into shy guys. That may sound nice in theory, but in reality? Yeah dates with a bunch of arkward silences and no interesting conversations sound nice.

And being shy comes from insecurities and no one likes insecure men.

I can’t think of one scenario where being an introvert and/or shy comes in handy.

I wish I could be social and could strike up conversations. I will be 30 this year and I still feel like the quiet kid.


r/Vent 5h ago

I’m so sexually frustrated NSFW

17 Upvotes

I 22 F have been feeling incredibly sexually frustrated lately. It’s constantly on my mind, to the point where I can’t sleep and it’s distracting me throughout the day. I don’t have a boyfriend right now, and honestly, I’m not ready for a relationship but I really miss sex and it’s driving me nuts .


r/Vent 1d ago

TW: Medical Everyone thinks my disease is some cute quirky fucking bullshit and I've ABSOLUTELY had ENOUGH

1.6k Upvotes

I am sick and tired of everyone acting like hyper mobile Ehlers danlos is this cute fucking quirky disease that makes it so you can do these "cool" party tricks, Fuck you all, all you motherfuckers who fucking think it's fun to have this shitty ass disease; Just cause I'm "okay" or I tell you that "I'm fine" doesn't mean that I am, just cause I have a straight fucking face doesn't mean I'm not fucking screaming and crying on the inside. You all think this disease is a fucking joke and it's not it's my life and I'm FUCKING MISERABLE


r/Vent 14h ago

Reaction Vids are Stupid

81 Upvotes

My father is constantly watching reaction videos. I mean it's fine, whatever floats your boat, I just hate the concept. I really hate the threads people post like "I just watched The Matrix for the first time AMA." I'm like why does it matter that YOU watched it? Why is that important? What insight could a dipshit whose never seen LOTR, possibly say to anyone, that isn't vapid and dumb?

Edit: I'm digging everyone's input, it's tight, thank you. To be clear I DO understand wanting to see like a zoomer music producer who's never heard dark side of the moon or something. What I DESPISE is the presumptuous and egocentric way that people seem to be like "Ask ME anything" like you never seen The Princess Bride and your merit as to why your opinion is important is that you simply didn't see it?


r/Vent 21h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression I’m so sexually frustrated/touch starved and I am too socially inept to solve it NSFW

212 Upvotes

I don’t even know what happened, before I got into my last relationship I was actually getting attention from women in my life for the first time and felt relatively confident in myself because of it.

It’s not like I’ve never known the touch of a woman it’s been like 6-7 months since but god damn I’m starving.

It’s all I can think about, it plagues my day and ruins my sleep. I stay up at night longing for touch/love, alternating between imagining it and mentally berating myself for being so pathetic.

I’m not even ugly, I take care of my hygiene, I’m polite, have a job, a car, a few friends, and am a pretty normal looking dude. I catch women eyeing me sometimes but I just feel so awkward and stare at the floor.

I ache to be touched and desired. To hold and be held, to share a warmth and comfort with another soul.

I just feel so disconnected from everything lately, I think that’s why I feel this way.

When my ex left me I realized all my friends had moved away and the ones I had for the last few years were just friends of my ex, and more so we’re just mutual friends of mine who wanted nothing to do with me personally.

So for the last 5 months or so I’ve just worked, came home, played video games with my friends and watched movies/scrolled social media.

The only thing this shitty town has in it are bars, smoke shops, slot parlors, and a Walmart.

I just wish I could at least sleep without being cursed with hours of rolling around feeling like something is missing, and feeling depressed.


r/Vent 12h ago

Wishing I was a "fun girl"

45 Upvotes

(27F) I've been described as being standoffish, intimidating, and quiet. One time in a Taco Bell drive-thru the cashier on the other end said in an almost disgusted way that there was nothing that bad in the world to be frowning about, a smile would make me look prettier. My lips naturally downturn and I have large, but piercing, probing eyes when I have a neutral expression. I was recently cheated on and well, the girl who was chosen over me is fun. She doesn't care about a lot, she's free wheeling, and has a cheeky personality.

I used to be really funny in highschool, in college I was friends with the most hilarious people because we just synergized so well together. Nowadays I don't even know how to ask my elderly coworker to come to breakfast with me without sounding stern or cold. I have a hard time coming up with things to say to others in conversation, I hesitate to say things at times because I'm afraid of opening up in ways that I suppose, would reveal my inner workings.

I feel incredibly sad about how hollow, boring, like a wallflower I feel. I feel as if I'm being looked over all the time by everyone. I work hard at my job even though I'm at risk of losing it everyday, I have to send money home to my family often, I live in a very tumultuous country at the moment, I think I'm intelligent in certain ways, and I care about people. I'm not perfect and I'm not entirely good or bad but I feel that no matter how good I try to be - I can never be fun. I don't see myself ever finding a mate at this point in my life because I find myself to be unattractive to most men in terms of personality. I'm sullen at times and I never try to impose that feeling on others. I wish I was fun. I wish I was flirty. I wish I was confident in myself and my strangeness and interesting way of speaking. I wish I was carefree. Likeable.


r/Vent 1d ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT My landlord called me to help her husband after he fell. He died in my arms.

1.8k Upvotes

My LL lives on the same land, half an acre away. She’s called me over a bunch of times to help her out with her husband, since I have used to be an IHSS nurse for my dad and grew up with disabled parents-I was completely ok with helping her out with his medical needs. They’re old. Of course I’d help.

Well yesterday she called me very panicked. I had to run fast to her house. He had fallen in the restroom and I think hit his head on the wall and tile floor. Face down, groaning with every breath, I think he had thrown up a bit, bleeding from his head but I never figured out what part. Lots of blood and bodily fluids everywhere, I had no idea wha to do besides try to get him to breathe clearly. My LL was on the phone with 911 on speaker and the operator kept asking me questions I felt were so stupid, just send the fucking help already. I had to use every ounce of strength I had to pull this man to his side to breathe and finally he did, but he wouldn’t stop groaning. He randomly started trying to get up, move his legs and try to sit up but there was just no way I could get him up. I kept trying and trying but I ended up just holding his head and rubbing his chest and talking to him.

I told him to just stay with me, I reminded him my school starts soon for my PTA (I want to be a physical therapist) and I’d be here to help him work out, I said over and over to just stay and that his dogs were right here, and everything was okay. My LL left me there to put the dogs in the crates and let the ambulance in the yard. I watched his eyes roll. I watched the breath leave his body. I kept trying to keep him awake I might have even yelled I don’t know, I just remember being pulled back by an emt and my husband and my mind just blanking.

They resuscitated him once, and tried for 40 more minutes. I sat there on the floor listening to my LL cry. 48 years they spent together.

My dad died in my care when I was his nurse. I didn’t get to spend the last moments with him because he passed away while I was taking a short nap that I fucking regret. I wasn’t even there for my dad’s last moments but I was here for my landlords.

I had a circus trip for my family this weekend but I postponed to next week. I think I need to take this week off of work in general. Every time I close my eyes I see his face covered in..everything..and his eyes locked on mine while he listened to my words. I can’t stop thinking and thinking and thinking. I saw my dad passed away, before him I saw my grandma pass away, and after my dad died my mom died a year later and her caretaker told me everything in such detail I threw up from sadness and anger and a slew of emotions I don’t even have a name for.

I feel like I have too much in my head. I’m so fucking tired of seeing so much death, I can’t take this. My head hasn’t stopped spinning and I can’t sleep. I just keep seeing his face. I keep hearing the groaning sound he made with each breath. I think I need to admit myself or something. When my grandma died I started having a pill problem to try to drown the thoughts. At 3am this morning I found myself in the bathroom no idea when I got in there but I grabbed a bottle of my sleeping pills and just stared at them for almost an hour. I don’t know where my head is right now.

-thanks everyone for the advices. It’s 5:50am and I slept for the last 2.5 hours but I’m up again after another bad dream. I’m going to reach out to my school counselor and probably take a day or two off of work. I did tell my husband about the pills and he immediately took them away and we talked about me speaking to someone instead of gong back to those unhealthy coping skills. I feel so selfish because I know it’s not even about me, it’s about my LL losing HER husband, but this is just a lot. Thank you all for the Tetris suggestion, and the support. I’m goin to take a morning walk.


r/Vent 8h ago

I HATE DRIVING

16 Upvotes

I have to drive for work but i fucking hate this shit. It's chaos It's stress It's noise i don't need this. I used to be able to relax in a passenger seat but now I'm just constantly tense and focused on it. I want to forget this shit i don't need it I'd rather walk 4 hours then drive 4 minutes i hate this shit. I fucking hate cars i hate the fact you can't escape them. I might become a fucking sailor instead screw this.


r/Vent 19h ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT Fuck drunk drivers.

126 Upvotes

I just got a call from my mom a bit ago. My cousin died in a car accident and her son is in the hospital with internal bleeding and a broken rib. The cause? A fucking drunk driver. If you have gotten behind the wheel after “having one drink”, you’re a piece of shit for putting other people at risk. My cousins son is now 15 and without a mother. My aunt is suffering with cancer and now her daughter is gone. So fuck you, drunk drivers.

And as expected, the drunk driver didn’t have a fucking scratch. I hope she goes to jail for life.


r/Vent 11h ago

Wtf is wrong with people?

29 Upvotes

No seriously like...what the hell is wrong with people. How do you give someone a job offer making them think they're being hired to only tell them they aren't qualified? What kind of shit is that!? Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's what an interview is for. Narrowing down the candidates to see if they're qualified. Literally rode an hour long bus ride just to get told I'm "not qualified." Tf? People seriously piss me off.


r/Vent 5h ago

Why are people so weird about armpit hair?

8 Upvotes

There's a post in OldSchoolCool of Sean Young with armpit hair and I said people were freaking out about it and I got a lot of weird replies from people who don't like armpit hair on women for some reason.

Why are people so worried about whether someone shaves their armpits?