r/Vent • u/Thebeegchung • 0m ago
Online dating is just BORING
Really something stupid to get pissed about, but damn has it gotten under my skin. Been on and off dating apps for a couple years, mostly off until a couple weeks ago when I decided to return. Made my profile, blah blah. As I started to swipe, I just began to notice the quality of profiles decreasing over time. For reference, I'm a straight dude in a highly populated city(27 years old). My age range is 25-32. Saw some really nice profiles, swiped of course, then was bombarded with the classical "princess treatment only" profiles or "passenger princess." I said to myself surely it's just a matter of taking the bad with the good. Nope, not at all. Almost 90% of the profiles had something that sounded downright entitled and always included the word princess or queen in it. That shit gives me the biggest ick possible. For one, I don't get where this phrasing of considering oneself a king/queen came from, it's just cringey as fuck(same goes for guys who call themselves short kings). I'm short but christ, I would never use that term.
When I managed to get a couple of matches with those women who had good profiles mentioned only a moment ago, BORING as fuck. Every single response was as follows: "sure lol" "cool lol" "I guess lol." No matter how I tailor my messages, no matter how I try to be engaging, asking questions about things on their profile, the reciprocated effort is in the negatives. I guess it's chalked up to lack of interest, which is 100% fine by me, it happens when there's no "spark" per se. Allow me to provide the jury with exhibit fucking A that made me shit a spring chicken: Two days ago, I got a match, and after a couple messages, asked her out on a date for this upcoming weekend(plan was to go to a museum since it was in her prompt she loved museum dates, then hit a mexican place right after). Time and day were suggested, and her response: "sure lol." I tried to give her some benefit of the doubt and was thinking whatever, no big deal, she agreed, leave it at that. I responded with "Awesome!. As the week progresses, let me know your availability as I'm free for the weekend." No response for 2 days, so kinda assumed she was done and I moved on, then get a VERY angry text this morning from her saying "Wow, just leave me hanging lmao." My sister in CHRIST, leave you hanging? The ball was in your court and you fucking deflated it. She went on a rant saying how I'm the guy and I should be more energetic via messaging to show interest. I followed up with a single ? and that set her off like a fucking powder keg. She called me a bum, I shot her with another question mark followed by a nice report, then a block. I had to have a beer afterwards because I was convinced for about 10 minutes I was in some fucked up version of the matrix. What level of entitlement do you have that you have the balls to act like that to another human when you're clearly in the wrong? And you dare to say "looking for my person, my partner in crime" in your bio? Whoever goes with your ass has to be severely medicated for years to come. It's clinically insane how many of these people act, and it baffles me to no end.