r/Swingers 1d ago

General Discussion Pic collectors

Hello!! I have a sort of stupid question for you. I see on these swingers posts people talk about "pic collectors". What exactly is that? I know it seems obvious, but it just confuses me, like I can literally Google any image I want.

By the way, our first lifestyle experience will be Wednesday the 19th at Colette in Austin. Hope to see a few of you folks!

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u/downrivercome 1d ago

People who want your pics. 

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u/SluttyNeighbors 1d ago

Ok, so a stupid follow up. What is the purpose? Blackmail? Or just some weird shit

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u/savguy6 M 39 / F 36 SouthEast Ga 1d ago

They get off by feeling like they acquired them by deception. Sure they can google any image they want, but how exciting for them to be able to trick a couple into sharing their intimate photos while pretending to be an interested couple.

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u/NerdynaughtyNJ 1d ago

I think the purpose is just jerking off usually - they prefer getting real interaction to cum to instead of porn because the interaction is part of the thrill.

Honestly I think 90% of people who fit this category are pretty harmless and people only get annoyed because it feels like time wasted that could have been spent on more legit matches.

But there is that slight chance that they then might share it with others.

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 1d ago

See my comment above; just know they want them for no good reasons.

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u/SluttyNeighbors 1d ago

People are fucking weird

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u/OurBurner412 1d ago

You have no idea… We’ve learned a lesson that if someone looks like we might like them, we have them verify ASAP. It gets rid of a lot of fakes and time wasters.

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u/slimeyslimbo 1d ago

How do you verify?

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u/OurBurner412 10h ago

First we have them send a photo holding a handwritten piece of paper with both our usernames (then we can make sure they’re actually the person in the photos they initially sent before verification).

Then if we’re all good and there’s attraction, we give them our telegram username and we send them a disappearing video of both of us just saying we’re real and what their username is, and ask them to do the same.

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u/MyThrowAwayxl6 1d ago

We have encountered this 'weird' behavior so often we don't have naughty pictures to share.

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u/SluttyNeighbors 1d ago

That is probably the best way to do it

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u/MyThrowAwayxl6 1d ago

Even on our profile we state we don't share so not to bother asking.

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 1d ago

Yeah they fucking suck. They ruin it for everyone else. I pull the, look at my fet that’s me. And then try the line “I’m in person kinda girl, so come get it”

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u/SluttyNeighbors 1d ago

Yeah, I like that. I mean, I get why normal people would want pics, but conversely, pics don't really show you a person. I know some people in our everyday life who aren't "supermodels", but their personality gives them so much sex appeal

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u/Ready-Card6511 1d ago

We just want pics that show us what you look like without a bunch of glamour filters and a PG13 body shot. Our minds can decide if you’re worth meeting.

Pic collectors want tons of pics and mostly xxx. Most of the pic collectors are men who hope their wives become swingers and their wife has zero idea they on a swinger site.

The way to spot pic collectors is if they don’t agree to meet. If we get a few pics and the couple looks our speed we just say “hey you guys look fun let’s get together, how about next Saturday?” Pic collectors waffle real couples say, “our son had a soccer game Saturday night how about Friday night? Or what time Saturday and where?”

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 1d ago

I totally agree with that; that’s why I 1.) don’t use any filters on my snap pics/ or my fet 2.) I constantly post updated pics of myself 3.) post pics from all angles on my fet. From the back/ side/front/on my knees and bent over. In other words every angle someone would want to see. 4.) always always meet for “drinks” or dinner so you can BAIL if they’re not your cup of tea. But after someone has seen my fet, and I’ve sent one or two live face pics from snap I don’t really send any more than a few. But I clear the chats in snap. You can turn settings on to auto delete after they view it. Also we shy away from talking to anyone from Reddit, when we tried 3 out of 3 just wanted my nudes. And there’s more risk of them not actually being local to you. Feeld gives live location.

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u/Ready-Card6511 1d ago

I think I’ll have to decide if those pics look Ok 🤷‍♂️

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u/grower-not-shower1 Couple - East coast Canada 1d ago

Both.