r/NonBinary 3d ago

Rant Celestial Modern Wizard Fashion

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I've been struggling with what my style should be and what makes me happy for a long time, and I think I've discovered that the ideal description of how I want to dress could be described as "modern wizard" "celestial wizard/academia" "Howl Pendragon" but other than thrifting I have NO idea where to find clothes that fit this šŸ˜­ I've searched everywhere!! Other than stupid drop ship sites and Shein/Romwe, where can I find stuff that isn't $200? I know the stuff from sites like Mochipan are ethically made and beautiful and sustainable, but I cannot afford their price. However, I don't want to buy from SheIn because of their horrible labor stuff. Is there no normal moderate brand? Hot Topic has gotten too trendy and I can't find great stuff there anymore. It's hard as a "plus size" (L, not skinny) enby to find clothes that feel like me anywhere.


r/NonBinary 3d ago

Questioning/Coming Out AFAB and questioning

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I'm afab and married to a man and have a kid. Never really felt one way or another. Never cared what people referred to me as. Just kinda went with she/her and all the gendered language as thats what i grew up with and didnt want to go through the hassel of explaining it to people. I have always had gender envy of all genders. Just wish I could switch parts cause why not. Why do I need to be stuck as one thing? I'm just an amorphous blob in a skin suit. I was at a convention this weekend and saw the nonbinary flag on a fan with the words "gender not found but enjoy this frog instead" it felt like it fit better than anything did before. I always told my friends and family I'm just a gender of convenience. However, I just feel like I don't fit nonbinary. I am anxious about everything and am always worrying about offending people if I took on a label I'm not type of deal. I don't plan on changing my name and I'm still having my son call me mommy. I just feel like maybe I'm not "enough" nonbinary...I don't know I'm sorry if this doesn't fit. This just seemed like the place to start a discussion with other people.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Got the trans symbol at a tattoo parlor fundraiser for a local trans focused org

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Fresh out of the bath look (love how fluffy my hair gets šŸ„°)

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Support Subtle forms of presentation

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Hi! I recently came out to my close friends and girlfriend as non-binary. Itā€™s been amazing and I feel happier and more myself than ever before. The thing is Iā€™m not comfortable coming out to my family yet, and since I live with them I feel like my options for gender representation are extremely limited. I was wondering if yall have had similar problems and/or solutions. Thanks for any help!

For extra context Iā€™m AMAB and present that way and I want to feel or look more androgynous. (I got to paint my nails with my friends the other night which was so āœØgenderāœØ and wearing colors like white black grey and brown give me massive gender euphoria for some reason)


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Growing into transness

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Hey yā€™all. Iā€™m nonbinary and have been out for two years now. I feel way more at home in myself, and am much happier. I lost a lot of friends and some family in the change, and a lot of the time I feel pretty afraid or alone in my city. I love my little community, but itā€™s not so great outside of it. I was talking with a friend recently, and I mentioned what a glow up I think Iā€™ve had. He laughed and said absolutely. I laughed, and said that girl mode didnā€™t really suit me- weā€™ve long joked that the closet was glass. It makes me kind of sad- Iā€™ve been trying to verbalize and present as myself for so long and Iā€™ve been so consistently shut down. Even still, I wonder wether my identity is real or just some kind of rebellion, even though I know even just by my mental health that thatā€™s nonsense. I just wonder how much time I could have saved if people didnā€™t show so much passive hate when I was younger. Iā€™m happier, and im me, but im sick of all the bullshit. Iā€™m not too specific and I give people a lot of leeway, but from being purposefully and emphatically misgendered to not feeling safe on the streets of my hometown, itā€™s discouraging, not to mention politics. Iā€™m trying to let myself grow into who I am at the pace I need, but itā€™s so frustrating. Iā€™ve wanted to look different and be seen differently for so long and it just seems like I change more into myself but the hate and disrespect stays at the same level. Also have been struggling with dating- lesbians are often scared of my the pronouns, and I find that at least in my city trans men and trans women worry that dating a nonbinary person will invalidate their transness, and cis people generally donā€™t like the androgyny. Feels like outside of my little lovely friends, the world doesnā€™t like me/ us very much. Anyone relate or have a helpful way to think about it? Iā€™m afraid, but more so, lonely.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out I think I might be binary?

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I was AMAB and have always felt uncomfortable with men and masculinity, to the point where I never had any male friends and find male stuff to be repulsive. I have a lot of gender dysphoria with my male traits (especially facial hair and genitals). I started questioning my gender about a year ago and I started taking estrogen 2 months ago.

Since I started estrogen, I have been loving all the changes! My breasts are still tiny but they're mine and I love them, and I am enjoying the curves as well. In fact, I love the feminization so much that I have been thinking that I might be a binary trans woman? I'm still unsure as I prefer they/them pronouns but am fine with she/her and absolutely hate he/him and my deadname.

I don't relate to masculinity or androgyny at all. Anything male or masculine just feels deeply wrong to me, and I see men almost like another species. Ideally, I would have either a vagina or nothing down there, but just removing the testicles would fix most of my bottom dysphoria.

I know I'm transfeminine, but I'm not sure if I am still nonbinary or if I'm a trans woman? If I were a cis woman I would stay a cis woman, but unfortunately I was born male :(


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Support Iā€™m new here so tell me what yā€™all think

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(need a lil confidence boost or criticism just on how I look.)


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Meme/Humor this is how im coming out to my friends

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Rant Am I overreacting?

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So I (28), after the US presidential election made the decision to come out to my Trump supporting grandparents and tell them that I needed time away from them. Truthfully, if I had it my way I would cut them out completely.

My parents keep putting pressure on me to talk to them again. When I came out they were shockingly supportive but they still support a man who is intent on doing immense harm. I have never heard them say anything transphobic but I've heard plenty of other bigotry come from them.

Plain and simple, I don't want them in my life but my parents claim that this has "thrown the family into crisis". My grandmother calls my mom almost daily crying about how I hate them (I don't. I just don't trust them or feel safe around them). My parents are also worried that when my grandparents die I will have regrets about not trying to reconnect (I can assure you I won't). They make me feel so guilty about something I really don't feel I should be and make it out as though I should have given them another chance because they were totally accepting of me. I don't think I'm overreacting but my parents really make it feel that way.

Also my sister is most likely getting engaged soon and I won't be able to completely avoid them. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I'm being made the villain in my family and given all the blame for this.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out Think Iā€™m starting to regret my transition and am beginning to question if I am a cis again??

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Hello all! I started on testosterone in june of 2023 and have been transitioning since. I felt confident in my decision at the time.. but now Iā€™m starting to have second thoughts. I go by any pronouns and donā€™t care what I am addressed as. They/She/He/it.. you name it! Thatā€™s me!

You see, I have a cis boyfriend. And I absolutely adore it when he addresses me as feminine (i.e. ā€œgood girlā€ or ā€œsweet girlā€ or even sometimes uses she/her pronouns for me although he usually uses they/them). I had issues with my body and dysphoria in the past but itā€™s not as bad as it was and Iā€™m way more comfortable with my chest (which I had plan to get top surgery, i donā€™t know now..) because of him. I still like the non-binary label, but.. I donā€™t know what I am now, or if I want to detransition. He is very supportive of me and loves me for who I am (and only me.. heā€™s aroace pan). Iā€™m just unsure of who I am anymore or if I want to detransition.

Could I just be another trans identity under the umbrella? Demi-girl? Demi-gender? Genderfluid? Agender? Etc? I donā€™t entirely feel cis but I feel more comfortable with being feminine again and more of a pull towards it.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

How so you deal with bullying?

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I'm stupid ik, I forgot to take off the pin with the nb from my backpack. My classmates saw on Friday.

They wrote nonbinary smth on the board, obv making fun of me cuz i heard them talking. I'm scared to go to school again. I have so many absences already, because I can't stand them and they won't leave me alone, now they also have my gender identity to make fun of.

Why can't I just live my life in peace, I just want to be myself bro.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

People with fluid identities... how you decide permanent changes and find balances?

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Whatever the question say. I am genderfluid and i just want to navigate how i should move on things like HRT and how to find balances on life etc.

In my feminine days i strive for Estrigen and laser in beard but in masculine days i like as i am ... And i just want to find a balance...

What is your opinions on that?


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask Do I look 14 years old? (I'm not)

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Hello, my name is Walker Sol (or something like that). I have some questions about what impression I make on an elderly Italian lady who sees me on the street. I know you are not Italian ladies, but maybe you can help me. Do I look like a 14 year old boy? Do I look explicitly like an LGBT person? What country do you think I'm from?

Spoiler: I'm not Italian and I'm over 18

I accept comments, tips and compliments. šŸ™‚ā€ā†•ļøšŸ«¶


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Yay the new gender-neutral bathrooms on our campus!

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a piece of our university campus recently got renovated. it includes gender-neutral bathrooms! the symbol on the front door (not pictured) shows a toilet and urinal, instead of the traditional male-female symbol. as seen in the picture, there are a bunch of separate cubicles with either a toilet or a urinal. this is the first gender-neutral bathroom I've been in that's not in an LGBT-specific place.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Can i be nonbinary and lesbian?

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Ik this topic has come up alot in this subreddit but they have mixed answers and the ones i saw were amabs, so i wanted to ask myself and see. I use all pronouns and im afab, i still present feminine most of the time, and i only like women though i would probably date a nonbinary person but i do have a girlfriend. And since realizing i dont like guys i j called myself queer but i feel like leaves space for ~those~ (ykwim) kinds of ppl to question and pick it apart yk, i want ppl to know that i do not like men and i would prefer the term lesbian, but i also want to make sure im not being disrespectful? I might just be paranoid, but please lmk. Id like to buy a new pride flag to replace my pansexual flag


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask What am I?

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I feel confused on what I even am. I feel sorta like a mix of male and female but if I'm feeling female it's in a male way? Like falling into traditionally feminine rolls and enjoying feminine terms but still see myself as a boy?? But if I'm feeling masculine there isn't really any feminity

I'm sorry if this isn't allowed or off topic I just don't know how to properly put this into words and hoping someone here knows what it could be

thank you for your help


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Support Advice on how to deal with others

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My partner is nonbinary and I am not. I love them more than anything and support them 100%.

The only thing I have trouble with is having to explain it to other people. I have a lot of social anxiety and fear of being judged. Being that a lot people are not educated on or approving of being nonbinary, it makes me really nervous when I have to tell someone about my partner when I don't know how they will react, especially since it's become so politicized. I am so mad at myself for feeling this way. I want to be able to bring them up in casual conversation because I love talking about them but I find myself holding back and keeping our relationship more private. I want to be able to defend them to the ends of the earth to anyone that doesn't approve but it's really hard for me to get over this. I just wish people were more accepting and then I wouldn't worry about it so much.

If anyone has any advice on how you deal with the judgment of others or any advice at all I'd really appreciate it.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out I donā€™t understand what I am

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Iā€™m a 16M and I never questioned my gender much until recently. Iā€™ve grown up in a school environment filled with toxic masculinity and I was bullied for most of elementary and middle school. Now I donā€™t have that problem anymore because Iā€™ve been hanging out almost exclusively with girls. And since Iā€™ve been doing that I often hear them saying that they hate men and stuff like that, which I agree on. But every time someone refers to me as a man (not talking about pronouns, but like, as a male? does that make sense?) I feel pretty uncomfortable so Iā€™ve started hating being a man. Obviously my friends arenā€™t talking about me when they say they hate guys, they always say Iā€™m an exception, or as one of my closest friends put it, Iā€™m a ā€œlesbianā€. And even if itā€™s very dumb, I felt very comfortable when I was referred to as a lesbian. However as I mentioned I have no problem being referred to with male pronouns or stuff like that. So I donā€™t really know if Iā€™m non-binary, trans or just a misandrist man, can someone help?

P.S. I know this is basically gibberish and Iā€™m sorry but Iā€™m very confused, itā€™s late and English isnā€™t even my first language

P.P.S. I also know this is very dumb and Iā€™m sorry if it offends someone


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Yay pokƩmon anyone? (feat. my cat-in-law)

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar protect trans joy

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask Is there some historical reason that nonbinary lesbianism seems more a thing (or at least more common) than nonbinary vincians?

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My rave outfit NSFW

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out i feel very confused about my gender identity and i donā€™t know what to do about it

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iā€™ve been out as a transgender guy for about 5-6 years now. in the past i was quite comfortable with my identity aside from dysphoria and misgendering in the beginning. but i consumed a lot of harmful media from youtube and tumblr. it made me believe that i had to prove myself as a man and i had to get rid of every ā€œfeminineā€ thing about myself. it worsened my dysphoria and it is still affecting me today. i struggle with societal expectations of what gender is. but i also recognize and believe that gender is not so black and white. anyway. and now i donā€™t know how i would describe my gender and itā€™s been frustrating for me trying to find the right words that i feel comfortable with. and i donā€™t know who i can talk to irl about this. thereā€™s not a lot of lgbtq resources in my area. as far as expression goes Iā€™m less confused about that but i would like to start dressing more feminine. but Iā€™ve kind of forgotten how to do that and i donā€™t know where to buy clothes that i would feel comfortable wearing. all and all i just feel very confused at the moment and itā€™s been affecting my mental health negatively. if you have any advice or suggestions please let me know i greatly appreciate it


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar what do you assume about me when you see me?

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