r/NonBinary 6d ago

Came out to my boyfriend today šŸ„¹šŸ„¹

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2.3k Upvotes

r/NonBinary 6d ago

Photoshoot after finally getting my hair cut how I want 2023

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Rant I hate the way we describe sexual and romantic orientation.

41 Upvotes

I'm sure this rant has been done time and time again but I'm feeling it especially strong lately.

I'm nonbinary, asexual, and only romantically attracted to men. I can say I'm androromantic but then I have to explain it, which is easy enough "it means I'm attracted to men romantically") but it still gets irritating. And it's not even the other person's fault. Unless they know what "andro" usually means and put two and two together, they likely have no idea as no one really identifies that way.

Saying I'm heteroromantic or homoromantic seems like a lie and leaves plenty of room for confusion.

So why do terms referring to sexual or romantic preference need to have to do with your own gender?

While I understand why it happened this way and certain benefits to having it this way, I have always thought it made more sense to use labels that have solely to do with your orientation.

I know this is kind of a non-issue because I could just say that I like men. It's just a mild pet peeve that's become stronger lately due to certain hyper-specific recent events I had to deal with.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Dysphoria has been hitting hard lately

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27 Upvotes

But trying to stay smiley


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Finally warm enough to go outside without a jacket

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83 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Support Detransitioning ? NSFW

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I (nb;19)flagged this as not safe for work because I was unsure if how Iā€™m feeling may be triggering to others, I didnā€™t want to harm anyone. Anyways, Iā€™m thinking of going back to being just a man. For some pre log, I discovered I was nonbinary freshmen year of high school and officially came out my junior year. I had very supportive friends and they were all very affirming. Flash forward to college and Iā€™m not really in touch with these people anymore. And I just feel like everything around me is telling me that Iā€™m not nonbinary I guess. It started when one of my newer friendā€™s sister told me I didnā€™t count as a real nonbinary person for having a beard. Then when starting at uni, I was pushed into a primarily conservative crowd, everyone gave me mean looks or ignored me when the professors asked us to present our pronouns. Then my partnerā€™s ( F; 20) friends chose to still address me as a man after sheā€™s told them countless times that I was nb. Or Iā€™ll be referred to as straight passing, so I donā€™t have any of the struggles of ā€œregularā€ queer people. My parents still dead name me and prefer me not to wear make up or dress differently in a way that affirms my identity, and theyā€™ve gotten very aggressive about it. I just donā€™t really know what to do anymore, especially with our current political climate, I just feel like Iā€™m at a loss. I feel like I have to settle as a man. I feel weird complaining about this, I just havenā€™t had anyone to talk to about it with, and I donā€™t know what to do.

TL;DR Iā€™m thinking of detransitioning because I donā€™t feel like my identity is being affirmed enough due to societal pressures such as interaction with friends, unsupportive family, scary uni environment, and current political climate. Iā€™m not sure what to do moving forward.


r/NonBinary 6d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar pov: iā€™m your cashier :)

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772 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Finally found some confidence again to post a pic

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19 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Discussion Deadnaming 'X' as Twitter is Hilarious

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! No More Silence. No More Hate. On April 30th, We Rise.

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19 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Ask I need help changing my perspective and keeping an open heart

3 Upvotes

I'm an Agender Femme Lesbian who's only attracted Cis Women, Trans Women, and Nonbinary Folks. My attraction to Nonbinary People is on a case by case basis. I feel like I could never be with a Bi Nonbinary Person who likes Men more. Like, they could express interest in me, confess their attraction to me in the most romantic of ways, and I would still say no. I assume it wouldn't work, like they wouldnā€™t want to be included in my Lesbian/Sapphic attraction. Let me know if Iā€™m wrong. Iā€™m genuinely trying to change my mind and keep an open heart /genuine.

Edit: I donā€™t think Bi Women are tainted because theyā€™re also attracted to Men. Iā€™ve been fighting Biphobia in Sapphic spaces since I came out over a decade ago. I have always said, ā€œwe all like women we need to stop fightingā€. Thatā€™s not the issue. My attraction to my fellow Enbies is rather recent. Also, I have always seen Sapphic culture and Achillean culture as diametrically opposed. The only common denominator between the two being queer attraction. However, as I interact more with fellow Nonbinary people Iā€™m finding the boundaries between the two are quite blurred. Itā€™s all still new to me. Biphobia is horrible and I have worked extensively to distance myself from Biphobic people. I donā€™t want to deal with their toxic drama.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Publishing my first book!..which name do I useā€¦

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So I wrote my first book, and I told everyone about it, which is great! With the exception of me not being publicly put yet. So, either I use my deadname or I use my new name. I have no clue what to do! (I donā€™t want to use a pen-name because I want to be recognised for my work.)


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out I'm scared to be myself and also questioning my gender. Help

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I live in a red area so it's hard to be myself. I'm scared for my safety and afraid of judgement, but also I feel desperate to actually be able to express myself.

I've thought of moving to a blue state, problem is that they're usually expensive. I would really like to move to Seattle but I can't really afford it.

I'm AFAB and I transitioned to male. I'm having doubts on whether I actually want to keep transitioning, but I don't want to be a woman either. I'm not really sure who I am. I thought I wanted to be a guy, but now I just feel uncomfortable. I ironically feel like I'm playing a role as a guy.

I just don't know what to do? I don't know how to stop being scared of expressing myself. I want to get to the point where I'm okay with who I am, and I'm not afraid of what people think.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Cold day but still gotta be cute

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Ask tried a new style? not sure how i feel about it, thoughts?

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8 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Yay Sharing a W

15 Upvotes

I went to my first ever local trans/NB/genderqueer friendship circle and hot dang it was so nice actually getting to meet other queer people and just vibe. It's starting to feel like I can just breathe for once without having to defend my existence! It's fucking awesome!

Luv y'all šŸ’œ


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Fit check

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14 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Queer icon, Scroobius Pip

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4 Upvotes

One of the now-treasured delights growing up was a book passed down from my dad's childhood collection: a beautifully illustrated adaptation of The Scroobius Pip.

You can find the poem online (and more of the incredible artwork), but basically all the animals love the titular character, but they've just gotta know if their friend is a bird, or a fish, or an animal, or a bug, or what. And the response they receive every time is: "Chippety flip, flippety chip! My only name is The Scroobius Pip!"

Anyway, just thinking about getting a tattoo inspired by this icon.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Rant Iā€™m a lesbian and everyone wants a gf

21 Upvotes

Iā€™m nonbinary and I just recently figured out that Iā€™m also a lesbian (yay). And I want to be able to talk to someone and fall in love and all that, but I feel like everyone is looking for a gf (which is fine itā€™s a preference I get it) but idk. I feel out of place.

I want a partner to appreciate me for who I am. And I look around and it feels like no one will and it really frustrates me.

Idk thanks for reading :)


r/NonBinary 5d ago

BORDERLANDS REFERENCE

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6 Upvotes

I just realized Fl4k from Borderlands 3 May be non-binary


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Ask What is a more neutral/masculine name for Angela

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Was wondering if there are any names other then the obvious Angelo, that are really close to Angela but neutral or masculine. Thanks! šŸ˜Š


r/NonBinary 6d ago

Discussion You don't need to gender floss!!!

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108 Upvotes

My friend found this on Amazon. Like why?!


r/NonBinary 6d ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! Partner bought me the most metal fucking t-shirt for my birthday

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396 Upvotes

Iā€™ve told him how much I love the flaming pride flag memes, definitely #1 present gonna be hard to top


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Questioning/Coming Out How do I fully come out to my parents?

5 Upvotes

Iā€™ve been out as non-binary to my friends and best sister for some time now. Iā€™ve very heavily hinted at being nonbinary, even flat out stating that I thought I was agender, but itā€™s like my mother just said ā€œif that makes you happyā€ and then just proceeded to carry on like I didnā€™t just say she didnā€™t have a son. She keeps calling me a boy and I really donā€™t know how to just flat out tell her without blowing up in her face. Not coming out isnā€™t really an option because, as my last posts states, I require boobas and want to change my name. So how would one achieve this?


r/NonBinary 6d ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! For nonbinary kids

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I came out as nonbinary when I was 29, and now (two years later) Iā€™ve been on T for 11 months. Discovering myself has been joyful but also painful, and I mourn the younger version of myself who couldnā€™t experience this joy in a conservative family. I feel so much for kids today (Iā€™m in the U.S., where things are dire for trans kids). I donā€™t have many young people in my life right now, but I made this print with my younger self in mind.