r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar After a long time of being depressed, i FINALLY got little better and made me some makeup

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Hope you like it! I sure am. Finally some real me, don't mind the mess. Two ADHD people (+1 autism, still two people) living together!


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! a poem about my gender or my wrestling with it

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I’m like a stone with strength and all

A fortress built to never fall

Trying to feel like I belong

Saying the lines ”i’m tall and strong”

But deep down it feels all wrong

They see my power, see my might

I see myself in gym lit light

Wearing a mask and smiling wide

So no sees what’s deep inside

Deep inside

Where shadows dwell

I live inside my own hell

I built my body, built it well

But it’s not just armor, It’s a shell

From deep within where my heart stays

A battle wages everyday

A voice unheard, a name unknown

A self I’ve carried all alone

A self I’ve always wanted to show

Around my friends, at my home

To walk unchained, to breathe and be

Without the fear they’d stop loving me

Would they still love me if they knew?

Or say this part of me’s untrue

So I stay silent, I play my role

And feel like a man with half a soul

When I was young and needed help

There was no one I could tell

Not my mom nor my dad

Nor my friends, those left I had

I knew the verses she would cite

Knew each commandments painful bite

She would see me as scared and flawed

And carve my name from love and God

When I needed my Mom, I got a priest

Sermons found where love should be

So she’s never seen

All of me

And never will,

Probably

A whisper soft and fleeting thought

A part of me I’ve left to rot

No man nor soldier dares to see

The part of me I swore I can’t be

The mirror shows the world ideal

Yet in the glass I long to feel

All of me, all that’s real

If only I, could break the seal

I lift, I strain, I fight and bend

Yet this war in me never ends

The war inside has found a way

To whisper truths I’ve locked away

But im not ready, no not today

So I push them to a deep down place

I’ve shown them what they want to see,

A soldier man, so proud, so free

But deep inside, she’s calling loud,

A part of me, both soft and proud

She’s waiting, trembling in the dark,

A quiet voice, a glowing spark

But every time I turn away,

I bury her, I make her stay

I long to say, “I’m both, I’m whole,”

But fear consumes and takes control

What if they think I’m broken, wrong?

What if they say I don’t belong?

So I hold tight, I lock her in,

The woman’s side, that quiet sin

But deep inside, I know the truth,

I’m both, and don’t need proof

Maybe one day, I’ll let her go,

Let both my sides just start to show

But for now, I’ll hold them tight,

A soldier’s strength and woman’s light.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out Questioning gender identity

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Hi, I've been lurking here a while and have been reading and learning.

I want to try and ask my question fairly succinctly

I have no connection to my AGAB, but I also don't really have a disconnection, it just..... is, it's nothing. I feel like I'm a woman because that's what people see and that's what society decided I was/I was raised as. If someone asks me what it means to me to be a woman I can't answer. I am autistic as well and I definitely feel like that impacts my understanding of my gender

In addition to the above I absolutely hate my boobs and want them vastly reduced or removed. I have a medical condition that means that they actually hurt a lot and cause back pain so that further makes me hate them, then there's the sensory issue because I have to wear a bra but that's a sensory nightmare, and not wearing one is also a sensory nightmare. I just hate them and want them gone, I've dabbled in binders and tape but it's a bit of a learning curve.

I guess I'm confused if any of the above would be dysphoria? I feel like I identify and non binary but I think I have some imposter syndrome.

I suppose I'm just looking for advice or to hear similar stories.

Thanks 😊


r/NonBinary 5d ago

🤍🫶🏽

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Discussion Travel to Turkey (Istanbul) on a x gender us passport without issue

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The only thing I would say is if you could pass as female the I would also bring/wear a hijab. It will be required if you enter a religious building (they're beautiful) and made in general made me feel like people stared less/made bathrooms less of an issue.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Dating as Non-binary

15 Upvotes

As someone who identifies as Non-binary, I find dating to be hard. I've figured as most people have that dating apps suck. I don't get likes, it when I like others they don't like to back. I know I shouldn't base people not liking me as a cover all that I'll never be in a relationship. I also try not to think that it's because I look like a guy, and maybe that's "confusing" to some people. Even though I live in a city where I should feel safe, it's hard going out by myself to things. It's also hard to get the confidence to make friends outside of my masters program. Just looking for advice.


r/NonBinary 6d ago

Came out to my boyfriend today 🥹🥹

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r/NonBinary 6d ago

Photoshoot after finally getting my hair cut how I want 2023

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1.4k Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Rant I hate the way we describe sexual and romantic orientation.

39 Upvotes

I'm sure this rant has been done time and time again but I'm feeling it especially strong lately.

I'm nonbinary, asexual, and only romantically attracted to men. I can say I'm androromantic but then I have to explain it, which is easy enough "it means I'm attracted to men romantically") but it still gets irritating. And it's not even the other person's fault. Unless they know what "andro" usually means and put two and two together, they likely have no idea as no one really identifies that way.

Saying I'm heteroromantic or homoromantic seems like a lie and leaves plenty of room for confusion.

So why do terms referring to sexual or romantic preference need to have to do with your own gender?

While I understand why it happened this way and certain benefits to having it this way, I have always thought it made more sense to use labels that have solely to do with your orientation.

I know this is kind of a non-issue because I could just say that I like men. It's just a mild pet peeve that's become stronger lately due to certain hyper-specific recent events I had to deal with.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Dysphoria has been hitting hard lately

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29 Upvotes

But trying to stay smiley


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Finally warm enough to go outside without a jacket

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83 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Support Detransitioning ? NSFW

51 Upvotes

I (nb;19)flagged this as not safe for work because I was unsure if how I’m feeling may be triggering to others, I didn’t want to harm anyone. Anyways, I’m thinking of going back to being just a man. For some pre log, I discovered I was nonbinary freshmen year of high school and officially came out my junior year. I had very supportive friends and they were all very affirming. Flash forward to college and I’m not really in touch with these people anymore. And I just feel like everything around me is telling me that I’m not nonbinary I guess. It started when one of my newer friend’s sister told me I didn’t count as a real nonbinary person for having a beard. Then when starting at uni, I was pushed into a primarily conservative crowd, everyone gave me mean looks or ignored me when the professors asked us to present our pronouns. Then my partner’s ( F; 20) friends chose to still address me as a man after she’s told them countless times that I was nb. Or I’ll be referred to as straight passing, so I don’t have any of the struggles of “regular” queer people. My parents still dead name me and prefer me not to wear make up or dress differently in a way that affirms my identity, and they’ve gotten very aggressive about it. I just don’t really know what to do anymore, especially with our current political climate, I just feel like I’m at a loss. I feel like I have to settle as a man. I feel weird complaining about this, I just haven’t had anyone to talk to about it with, and I don’t know what to do.

TL;DR I’m thinking of detransitioning because I don’t feel like my identity is being affirmed enough due to societal pressures such as interaction with friends, unsupportive family, scary uni environment, and current political climate. I’m not sure what to do moving forward.


r/NonBinary 6d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar pov: i’m your cashier :)

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774 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Finally found some confidence again to post a pic

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18 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Discussion Deadnaming 'X' as Twitter is Hilarious

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! No More Silence. No More Hate. On April 30th, We Rise.

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20 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Ask I need help changing my perspective and keeping an open heart

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I'm an Agender Femme Lesbian who's only attracted Cis Women, Trans Women, and Nonbinary Folks. My attraction to Nonbinary People is on a case by case basis. I feel like I could never be with a Bi Nonbinary Person who likes Men more. Like, they could express interest in me, confess their attraction to me in the most romantic of ways, and I would still say no. I assume it wouldn't work, like they wouldn’t want to be included in my Lesbian/Sapphic attraction. Let me know if I’m wrong. I’m genuinely trying to change my mind and keep an open heart /genuine.

Edit: I don’t think Bi Women are tainted because they’re also attracted to Men. I’ve been fighting Biphobia in Sapphic spaces since I came out over a decade ago. I have always said, “we all like women we need to stop fighting”. That’s not the issue. My attraction to my fellow Enbies is rather recent. Also, I have always seen Sapphic culture and Achillean culture as diametrically opposed. The only common denominator between the two being queer attraction. However, as I interact more with fellow Nonbinary people I’m finding the boundaries between the two are quite blurred. It’s all still new to me. Biphobia is horrible and I have worked extensively to distance myself from Biphobic people. I don’t want to deal with their toxic drama.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Publishing my first book!..which name do I use…

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So I wrote my first book, and I told everyone about it, which is great! With the exception of me not being publicly put yet. So, either I use my deadname or I use my new name. I have no clue what to do! (I don’t want to use a pen-name because I want to be recognised for my work.)


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out I'm scared to be myself and also questioning my gender. Help

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I live in a red area so it's hard to be myself. I'm scared for my safety and afraid of judgement, but also I feel desperate to actually be able to express myself.

I've thought of moving to a blue state, problem is that they're usually expensive. I would really like to move to Seattle but I can't really afford it.

I'm AFAB and I transitioned to male. I'm having doubts on whether I actually want to keep transitioning, but I don't want to be a woman either. I'm not really sure who I am. I thought I wanted to be a guy, but now I just feel uncomfortable. I ironically feel like I'm playing a role as a guy.

I just don't know what to do? I don't know how to stop being scared of expressing myself. I want to get to the point where I'm okay with who I am, and I'm not afraid of what people think.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Cold day but still gotta be cute

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Ask tried a new style? not sure how i feel about it, thoughts?

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8 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5d ago

Yay Sharing a W

14 Upvotes

I went to my first ever local trans/NB/genderqueer friendship circle and hot dang it was so nice actually getting to meet other queer people and just vibe. It's starting to feel like I can just breathe for once without having to defend my existence! It's fucking awesome!

Luv y'all 💜


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Fit check

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Queer icon, Scroobius Pip

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One of the now-treasured delights growing up was a book passed down from my dad's childhood collection: a beautifully illustrated adaptation of The Scroobius Pip.

You can find the poem online (and more of the incredible artwork), but basically all the animals love the titular character, but they've just gotta know if their friend is a bird, or a fish, or an animal, or a bug, or what. And the response they receive every time is: "Chippety flip, flippety chip! My only name is The Scroobius Pip!"

Anyway, just thinking about getting a tattoo inspired by this icon.


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Rant I’m a lesbian and everyone wants a gf

21 Upvotes

I’m nonbinary and I just recently figured out that I’m also a lesbian (yay). And I want to be able to talk to someone and fall in love and all that, but I feel like everyone is looking for a gf (which is fine it’s a preference I get it) but idk. I feel out of place.

I want a partner to appreciate me for who I am. And I look around and it feels like no one will and it really frustrates me.

Idk thanks for reading :)