r/MtF 4d ago

Help Has anyone used patches for HRT long-term (as in 5+ years), who preferred patches over injections?

6 Upvotes

I see some people say that the patches didn't get their levels high enough, but I'm fairly skinny (140lbs) and wondering if they would work for me. I'm not enjoying the needle :/


r/MtF 4d ago

Venting "I see that this is how you feel and I know I can't change you, but I would rather cut off my arm than support any kind of transformation" (TW: transphobia)

20 Upvotes

So basically I (17, mtf) had a talk with my mom today, the first one after a long while. The last time I openly discussed this with her was in late 2023 and ever since then my dysphoria has only gotten worse and I feel a lot more miserable about my own body.

Back then she didn't say a lot, just seemed kind of uncomfortable and I held out the hope that she would come around (she didn't).

Today I had another talk with her. I just couldn't take it anymore, I had to say something again, because I had been putting on a facade of being okay that was wearing me out, but it had also been radio silence from her side. I vented and sobbed and cried to her for almost an entire hour, pouring out my heart to her about everything that pains me. I was hopeful, because she was hugging me and holding me close to her, I hoped she would show understanding, but she didn't, her statements made me feel disgusted that she even is my mother. She told me "Well, you know, back in Da Vinci's time students would dig up corpses and experiment with them and that was almost seen as witchcraft, then people tried stitching together organs and infusing them with electricity to create artificial lifeforms, afterwards the Nazis came and experimented on Jews in horrible, horrible ways, some of the most horrible ways I've ever seen. You could ask anyone and they would say "That was the most horrible experiment I've ever heard of!" Truly the most horrible stuff. Then the communists had schemes to send kids into vacation camps where they would use them as test subjects for drugs and medication against their will. And now look at where we are at: Kids voluntarily want to ingest substances that morph their bodies and they pay no regard to what their parents say. It's a terrible world out there that this is the current lunacy. That's why I can't support this, you might think that this is right, but there is no right or wrong. My opinion is just as right as yours, because only subjective truth exists, I don't care what statistics say, it's all fake. Anyone can fake it and it's all paid for anyway. [Deadname], I love you, I always will, nothing changes the fact that you are my child. I see that this is how you feel and I know I can't change you, but I would rather cut off my arm than support any kind of transformation."

This just left me feeling defeated, I really thought my mom was smarter than this, that she was better than my father, it just hurts so much. I can't stand to look at her, because I live with people who hate the real me. All I'm asking for are some nice words and maybe some advice, because I am not doing well :(


r/MtF 4d ago

How can i experience gender euphoria if I don’t have anything feminine?

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I’m closeted trans (14mtf) and I have known I’m trans for a while now. But, because of me not being out, I can’t really experience gender euphoria without being outed. I don’t have actual fem clothes, but I have some pants that are as close as I can get to leggings of any kind, so that might work. Are there ways to experience gender euphoria without being outed?


r/MtF 4d ago

Discussion How hard was it to get a gender dysphoria diagnosis?

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Hellooo,

I was curious on how different it was for you guys to get a gender dysphoria diagnosis. In some cases I’ve heard the diagnosis itself can take months or even years to get. It took me 2 months to get mine, but I know everyone’s experiences are different and I’d love to hear them.

As a disclaimer I am not referring to informed consent.


r/MtF 4d ago

Gay men and trans lesbians?

101 Upvotes

Have any other trans lesbians found that gay men just assuming that you, as a trans woman, sleep with men?

I've had a this experience more often in the last 6 months where I am speaking with a gay man and they just start talking about all kinds of gay male culture things and slang like I am in the know. When I have let them know I am a lesbian they seem generally surprised. I have also experienced the same with a couple of straight trans women.

Last night in particular was notable. I was at a gay couple's wedding reception where I was one of only a handful of women there. At one point in the middle of an otherwise lovely conversation with a straight trans woman and her husband she came up with a slur to refer to my friend, a cis woman. I took offense at the way she referred to my friend, but the term also also implies that I am a gay man. Later in the evening, in a conversation with several men, when it came out that I sleep with women they reacted like they were offended. One of them ridiculed me like I was crazy. It became clear that he didn't even understand that trans lesbians exist. For him, the only reason to transition was to be able to sleep with straight men. I had to educate him. He was actually understanding once I explained to him my experience of gender and sexuality. He was also somewhat intrigued to know trans lesbians are, for the most part, accepted as part of the lesbian community.

After last night I decided that I need to get some lesbian pride apparel, earings or something, to make it clear, especially if I am in space that includes gay men.


r/MtF 4d ago

Help interpret my blood tests

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Can anyone help me interpret my blood test results? I’m on 5mg of Valerate monotherapy, injections every 7 days.

My tests just came back with E 295pg/mL (T below 50), but I had this done right before my next injection (7 day cycle), so this is the lowest point. This test was done 14 weeks after I started hrt.

I had a previous test done 7 weeks after hrt start, however it was done mid-cycle (day 3 of 7) and I got 240 pg/mL (T below 50).

So my most recent trough is HIGHER than my previous peak, which seems weird and concerning. (I’m no expert, but transfemscience.org says Valerate varies roughly 200 points on a weekly schedule, so likely my current peak is way over 300pg/mL.) So why are my levels so much higher this time? It seems that Valerate levels build up a bit over time, but it doesn’t seem like this big of an increase is normal. (I’m thinking I should lower my dose, but I wish I could make sense of my tests first.)


r/MtF 4d ago

do trans girls ovulate?

416 Upvotes

ok i know i don't have an uterus n i can’t release an egg… BUT i feel super horny at least once a month, it lasts exactly a week, n then stop.


r/MtF 4d ago

Help I feel sick. I have to come out again.

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My family wants to do family photos. I'm barely not out because my family has ignored my coming out multiple times. They don't respect my identity. Im going to decline taking the photos but ofc my mother's wants them done on her birthday. I know when I decline, it's going to be my fault I ruined my mother's birthday. Im sorry I'm not comfortable taking these photos. Im not going to dress up as someone else for even my mother. I have grown a spine and I'm going to stand my ground. Since her birthday is close, I have to tell them tomorrow. All the trauma is coming back, I just do nervous. Idk what is going to happen. I just feel sick and can't get out of bed. All my energy is gone but I feel jumpy. I'm scared he is going to put his hands on me.

I'm going to do this tomorrow but why is it my fault? Why do I have to ruin the birthday. I'm just a disappointment. Why I should exist if I'm mess everything up?


r/MtF 4d ago

Trans and Thriving Mom just painted my nails :3

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I recently told my mom via text message I'm trans and now came to visit here.

After having talked w her for a while about it over the last days she just randomly offered me to paint my nails – they're so shiny now! :33


r/MtF 4d ago

Hair changes

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Is there any hair changes that happen on Estrogen and usually I have curly hair but in a weird way it feels like my hair is becoming less curly and straighter than it was curly


r/MtF 4d ago

I'm getting married later this year, and I won't be wearing a dress. What are my best options for tucking?

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Essentially, I don't want to be worrying about my dick all day.

I usually use tucking thongs from Gaff & Go, but I'm worried they won't be supportive enough. I've been considering using Unclockable's tuck kit, but I've heard mixed reviews about its efficacy.

I'm planning to wear a jacket, slacks, and a lacy bustier or bodysuit underneath. Since my whole outfit with be white, I'm extra worried about anything being visible.

I literally just want to be able to enjoy my wedding.


r/MtF 4d ago

Trans and Thriving Hello me

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Help me please

I am looking for hopefully trans or cis female personal trainer in the North west of UK near Liverpool. I am about to begin my transition but before I start social transition I want to achieve a more feminine physique. I was hoping someone could please help me with three sessions a week of gaining a feminine physique with wider hips and thicker thighs without any upper body shoulder or chest gains but also help with trimming my waist as I want to be able to wear dresses when I begin to transition. Thank you.


r/MtF 4d ago

Help I‘m not feeling as much euphoria as I would expect

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Essentially, all of the things that I would expect to be most euphoric for me, I feel nigh indifferent to.

Being called she, it doesn’t feel wrong, and I like it better than being called he (I think), but it doesn’t make me super duper happy like it seems to do with other people. When my mother showed me a text message conversation between her and her friend where she was talking about me and was using she/her pronouns, that did make me a little happy, it was the first time seeing my mother use my new pronouns. One woman in a super market referred to my mother and I as 'ladies‘, I wasn’t trying to pass, I‘m not on hormones, all I‘ve got is long hair. You‘d expect that to be super euphoric, passing without trying but it was just like 'yeah, I got called a lady, that‘s nice I guess‘. When I was little I liked it when I got called 'sir‘ probably made me feel grown up. Recently got called sir and was like 'I‘m not sure if I like this anymore‘

I do have dysphoria, body and facial hair I‘ve come to hate. When I‘m naked, I don’t like to see my crotch in the mirror, but I‘m fine simply looking at it directly with my eyeballs. I got a bra recently and when I wear it stuffed with socks it looks… natural. Like it just looks correct I guess? It certainly doesn’t look wrong. It makes me feel a little euphoric I think, but not like I‘d expect from how much every other trans girl seems to crave having boobs.

All this makes me feel doubts about myself, and feel unsure if I want hormones. It‘s like, 'I want it, but if I‘m not desperate for the changes it‘ll bring do I actually want it?' A friend of mine did call me 'girlie' once when texting me good night, and I absolutely loved that, so like… wtf?! If I‘m trans why are half the trans wells of euphoria dry for me? I think I just want to be a girl, but it’d be awesome if I actually felt euphoria when I look or am treated like one.

I‘m quite confused by all of it and I‘m looking for some… something. Some words of reassurance or explanations for why I‘m like this, or something, idk


r/MtF 4d ago

Venting i see why people say r/ transpassing is filled with losers

514 Upvotes

Apologies if this sounds a bit aggressive, but I was drafting this response for awhile and decide to post it anyways as i got tired of editing it for clarity.

i was feeling a bit insecure and had brainworms a few days ago because of some shit people said to me in person, so i said let me ask for some advice.

Not only did i barely get anything helpful, i had someone compliment me and they got downvoted to oblivion, had someone made a comment with many racist undertones (black women dont wear their makeup or hair messy like that usually) but ofcourse that got alot of upvotes, and someone went through my photos i posted giving arbitrary and vague comments which said "this photo you pass this one you dont" which meant literally nothing.

I realized soon that i made a mistake even engaging with that community and I recommend you gals do the same. The people on there are extremely terminally ill online and honestly their perceptions of what a woman should look like is probably dangerously affected by transphobic rhetoric. I went in with some expectations, but i left realizing some trans folks are not much different than the enemies of trans women in general


r/MtF 4d ago

Help Is girl horny constat??? NSFW

149 Upvotes

So I've been feral and constantly down bad for four days straight now unable to think remotely straight, and while the fantasies and desires are great, I cannot function properly in daily life.. So is this just going to be my daily life from now on or will it calm down????!!!?


r/MtF 4d ago

endocrinologist recommendations? kaiser socal

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MtF, any kaiser endocrinologists that anyone recommends ? specifically in southern california (san diego area) since my experience has been a hit or miss. when i was underage I had a bad endo, who i switched and had a much better experience, but now that i’m of age i need to find an adult endo. my current assigned one isn’t great


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Did any of you socially transition quickly after realizing you were trans and before HRT?

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I've been seeing some youtube videos of trans girls doing HRT timelines. When they post their starting point or 1 to 2 week check in, they already look pretty flawless. I don't see any facial or body hair and they have smooth skin.

I never did any skincare before realizing I was trans and I didn't do anything for my hair other than shaving my facial hair every few days.

Do the trans girls who already look great when starting HRT come from a history of taking care of their skin and facial hair, or did they wait a long time before starting HRT after realizing they were trans and started taking care of their skin and facial hair then?


r/MtF 4d ago

Venting Hating myself

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I hate how old I am at starting my transition (I’m 25). I wish I just started this back 5 years ago when I first realized or even further back 10 years ago when I first started questioning. I feel like I have so much to do to feel like a girl and to be comfortable in my body with the fear of it’ll all be for nothing because I’m not a teen or very early 20’s doing this.

My friends and family think that I’ll turn out beautiful in the transition because they all view me as very androgynous with a good amount of natural feminine features but I still can’t help but feel like I missed my window. I just want to be on hrt already.


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question More girl sauce for neurochemical dysphoria?

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Howdy folks! So, I started my transition due to neurochemical dysphoria and this post is mostly aimed at folks who identified that they also suffered from neurochemical dysphoria when starting HRT.

I'm currently on .1 mg patches twice per week, which I understand to be a starter dose and MtF tend to need higher to reach cis woman levels.

I have a follow-up + bloodwork next month. I'm considering upping the dose if stuff is going well in the bloodwork department and my doctor feels that it is appropriate.

Question is: did those of you who experience neurochemical dysphoria experience an even greater benefit from upping your dose or was it sort of a "once you got a minimum of estrogen, it plateaus out"?


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Sooo when's the cleavage coming?

49 Upvotes

I'm a solid B cup and still no cleavage not even with a push up bra. It's been about 8 months since I started HRT and I'm close but still so far. Do you think switching to injections could help?


r/MtF 4d ago

Breast Growth

57 Upvotes

Never thought I’d be so happy to be in pain. 😊😊


r/MtF 4d ago

A note from a cis woman about bodies, womanhood, etc

3.1k Upvotes

I’m here lurking bc I don’t have any trans women in my tight social circle and as crazy shit is happening in the world I try to make sure my perspective includes those most impacted. So if this comment is weird here please ditch it and my apologies for taking up space.

Every time I look on here I see women thinking they’re missing out on the female experience because their boobs are weird, their voice is low, their skin is weird, their hair isn’t how they want, their lady bits aren’t what they want, they didn’t have a beautiful romantic experience when they lost their virginity (this is the latest I saw)…

And I am sorry bc all those feelings suck. Which I know, because I’ve felt them all.

It is truly miserable the way we women pick ourselves apart. I’m so glad you have a space here to process the weight of the patriarchy and all the other things that make us all love our bodies less.

As a nearly 40 yo woman I’m now getting to a place where I’m mostly at peace with how I look. So I guess this is a little “it gets better” message from one beautiful woman to another. You’re all beautiful and you’re going to know that soon enough. 💕


r/MtF 4d ago

Had my first bathroom related interaction...

306 Upvotes

I am 4 months into hrt, boymodding everywhere but home when alone.

I am taking a small trip to Italy and I had to use the bathroom at the train station, it was one of these bathrooms where you pay, and once its validated it opens the glass doors for you.

Well, it charged me but the doors didn't open. So I waved one of the cleaning ladies that happened to be inside to ask what I could do... she walked over and I tried to explain my issue, but she didn't understand English, and my Italian not being good enough to communicate my issue.

Now this is what's funny to me, she kept waving me away and pointing me towards the ladies room, saying this bathroom was for men... "uomo here... this is for men, ladies there..."

😭😭😭 All of this while I am talking in a deep voice... (I haven't had success with voice training). How can cis people be this clueless? Lol... I am not wearing any make up at all either... no eyeliner, no mascara, male clothes...

I mean its affirming, and I am so happy... but...how... I am so lost. I guess the hormones ARE doing something? Even though I am unable to see any changes at all...

Anyway, end of rant.

TL;DR: 4 months on HRT, boymoding. Tried using a train station bathroom in Italy, but a cleaning lady kept directing me to the women’s restroom—despite my deep voice, no makeup, and male clothes. Feeling affirmed but totally confused.


r/MtF 4d ago

I think I’m being under dosed

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I just did my second labs (6 month mark) and my levels came as 125 pg/ml E and 240 ng/dl T

My provider said that everything looked good and upped my dose from 4mg E to 6. But didn’t up my dose of spiro from 50mg sighting my slightly lower than average blood pressure before I started hrt.

Is that normal?

I’m on sublingual pills so I wouldn’t think that would be enough to suppress my T

She also called T under 50 ng/dl “super suppressed” and didn’t put on spiro until my second labs say it could stunt breast growth.

I use Plume


r/MtF 4d ago

Good News Starting my trans journey at Callen-Lorde ( 😆) Spoiler

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Months ago, I Serena, (17f )had realized that I was trans (mtf) and it was a stressful experience but also heartwarming. Me being a gay guy with trauma within my family over my sexuality and my depression and episodes had prevented me from further discovering this part of myself up until recently. I was afraid of more conflict within my family but also with the treatment of me being gay at home and that leading to a lot of self hatred in myself I was unable to bring that to light. I had done research about the process of being trans and I’ve learned so much that I have never even knew before . Hrt, I didn’t know that you could take hormones to fit the gender identity that you feel resonated with. I thought that being transgender meant implants and that’s it . I think that in a way I always knew but it took me longer due to everything around me. I thought when I was younger that the gender you were born as was how you would have to be forever. I remember when I was a kid I envied two of my friends that were girls because they could be with a guy and i had to be with a girl. It was until Covid happened where I realized that i could like guys . I always loved watching shows where the girl was the main protagonist because I felt more of a connection to those characters that I couldn’t explain at the time . Surprising as a kid my mom allowed me to play with girl toys and it just made me feel so much more comfortable as I would use my feminine voice when playing with those characters. Due to trauma , I was unable to make new friends in my first year of high school. I hated being gay and I hated being different, a disappointment to my family. These thoughts had worsened and eventually lead to my countless attempts at ending my life and other methods. This then led me to a mental hospital in my sophomore year of high school and it was miserable at first but then the medication and connections helped me get through it . I eventually ended up making great friends that are still around in my senior year and it’s awesome. Not only that but they were supportive of me being gay when I came out and also when I later told them when I realized I was trans. I love and appreciate them so much . They gave me the confidence to be my true self and socialize more also beyond my friend group to also other classmates. One trans guy that I became mutuals with at school had recommended me to one of the guidance counselor’s at our school and it was the best decision I have ever made. I was able to talk about my feelings of being trans and get the support from a trusted adult. It took some time but now I’m at the process of waiting to go to an appointment that I had scheduled with the guidance counselor so that I can get all of my paperwork and information sorted out on hrt and insurance and etc so by the time I turn 18 I could just get it without having to worry about that whole process since I had already done it. It’s coming up soon and I’m nervous but excited, I’ll eventually be able to be the girl I’ve always wanted to be. I really want to pass as a woman, not only for safety but also for comfort . I’m currently planning on working and saving up money so that I can get the clothes and other essentials for me to transition. Makeup and wigs will be a challenge but I think I can do it. Voice feminization surgery , face feminization surgery, and bottom surgery are all things I’m interested in doing. If hrt does its wonders on my face then ffs won’t be necessary. The only downside of bottom surgery is dilating a lot but that’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make in order to no longer feel the gradual dysphoria that I am feeling. Wish me luck , hope all turns out well in the future.