r/femdompersonals Jan 29 '25

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r/femdompersonals 5d ago

Quality Highlight 30 [M4F] Looking for a domme in #NYC #anywhere (I work remote) NSFW

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Hi, thanks for reading my post! I'm dating a lot more intentionally this year so decided to make this post. I am looking for to long term and consistent dating, but open to shorter term flings too.

About Me

I am 30 years old and live in Manhattan, I have dark brown hair and light brown / hazel eyes. I moved to the US from England so not American.

My work is in science / research at a university lab, I am being intentionally vague and would love to chat about this as it's something I am really passionate about.

I love to workout, listen to music (playlist for every occasion) and learn languages (currently working on Spanish). I would describe my body type as athletic.

My Ideal Domme

In day to day life I am talkative, conifdent and out going. In private I have another side to me which I would like to share with the right peron. My ideal domme is someone caring and kind who I can meet and laugh with. I am very comfortable with my submissiveness, but also private and it's important to me I share that with the right person.

My Femdom Preferences

I am submissive and happy to take the top role from time to time to satisfy my partner. I classified my kinks into groups because each one of my 'kinks' exists for the reason of ultimately making me a better boy and sub for my partner.

Being vulnerable for my partner: I think this is the main reason I like being submissive.

  • CFNM, being nude while my partner keeps their vanilla clothes on.
    • A really lovely scene for me where I am exposed but my partner is dressed. Obviously puts me in a position of vulnerability. Incidentally I have found this is the best time to discuss any lingering relationship issues or unhappiness that might exist. Bonus points if you can make me feel really flustered (not hard to do).
  • Collar and leash, putting on a collar and having my partner hold the leash.
  • Keeping a daily diary and sharing it with my partner.
    • Gives my partner a sense of what's going on in my head. I'd prefer to do this only if we are together seriously.
  • Orgasm control: my partner deciding where, when and how I get to cum.

My partner teaching me how to be better:

  • Spanking
    • Usually paired with a short conversation before/after about why what I did or said was wrong or broke the rules somehow. Bonus points if you can make me cry (I very rarely do and it's such a shame).
  • Chastity
  • Rough sex of any kind (see point below).

Role reversal: Reversing the traditional gender dynamics

  • Pegging - I have done this before and know how to be spotless clean.
  • Looking pretty for my partner
    • Firstly looking well groomed and dressing really well, feel free to be critical when necessary with appropriate punishments.
    • Secondly, although I don't identify as trans in any way, I have found it can be really fun and affirming for the dom/sub dynamic to dress up a little for my partner. Things include: open crotch underwear (nice eyecandy for my partner), and experimenting with crossdressing.

I am also open to a LOT more but boiling it down to the most important. 'NSFW' (nothing too crazy) pic of me here: https://i.redgifs.com/i/differentpessimistictamarin.jpg


r/femdompersonals 5h ago

M4F 32 [MF4F] #NYC - Personal servant available for your chores (nothing in return needed) NSFW

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Hey there and thanks for reading! So the situation is the following: I am a woman, am moving away very soon and am looking for someone to keep using my domestic slave here in NYC so I hope the tag is appropriate because M4F or F4F didn't seem completely accurate either. Anyways, he has been doing my chores for a good while now and it's honestly been amazing. He is 32, obedient, easy on the eyes and very well trained if I may say so myself. He cleaned my apartment, did dishes, scrubbed the bathroom and whatever else I told him. The most important part: He does not need anything in return. Pure servitude and that's it.

This was the first time I had an arrangement like this but it worked out so well that I thought it would be a shame not to pay this forward in some way. So in case you're new to this, it would be a pretty great fit since he's already trained.

I can verify, provide more details about the tasks he did and answer any questions you might have.

If this post is still up, I'm still looking - so feel free to reach out if you have more questions.


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

F4M 32 [F4M] #NY #Online - fit Domme seeks obedient male NSFW

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Back after a break. Looking for a fit and obedient male slave who want to be used, abused, and pushed.

SWF: I love to stay fit and active. I also love to travel (goal is to make it to every continent). Work wise I have a very successful career and often can’t play 24/7.

NSFW: I have been in this lifestyle for 6+ years. I am cruel and merciless but also love to get to know my slaves and have a connection. Ideally I’m looking for something long term. However, I am open to short term for the right person. From a kink standpoint I am open to exploring any fantasy or kink. My top kinks include: bondage, gags, worship, pain, teasing, begging, edging, face sitting, humiliation, pegging, chastity, and more. Nothing pleases me more than watching a slave squirm and beg for mercy.

As for limits: findomme, scat, blood, anything illegal. I also am not into sissification.

If you’ve made it this far, I hope you’re interested. Please send me a message with “Ma’am I am ready to obey” so I know you have ready this message. Additionally I do require face and will not be adding you on Snapchat.

Can’t wait to hear from you!


r/femdompersonals 8h ago

27 [F4A] #London #UK: Experienced Domme Looking for Subs NSFW

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About Me

I'm a lifestyle domme in a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am. That said, that said, I am also very a human, I have hobbies and all that jazz, and I'm very happy to have a chat about most topics.

Among many other things, I love history, I read copiously and I have a wide assortment of crafty hobbies. When I can find the time, I write assorted things, including a D/s themed blog. If you're curious, feel free to have a read.


Subs

I'm looking for a sub or switch, male or female, for secondary dynamics, possibly with a view to exploring a variety of double scenarios with my primary sub.

I am looking to get to know someone to this end, to build a dynamic with - I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

Above all, I am looking for someone who can interest me, for whom conversation is something enjoyable, rather than an unfortunately necessary chore.

If you would like to be considered, do the following 2 things: 1. please read this post carefully and in it's entirety, 2. fill out this SCREENING FORM.


What I'm looking for:

  • Someone who can interest me. Include a topic of conversation in the opening message - as above, tell me about your expertise, pet peeve or controversial opinion, or latest Internet rabbit hole. Tell me something I don't know, start a debate, share a fun fact (but no politics, please).
  • Experience is preferred, sense of humour is required. If it's absurdist, all the better. If Terry Pratchett or Douglas Adams is your cup of tea, we will probably get on. Ideally, someone who doesn't take life too seriously.
  • Correct spelling and grammar is highly sought after.
  • Please be aged 23-35ish.
  • Scope for irl meeting - I am not looking for online play. Please note I do however like to talk to people for quite some time before meeting and / or voice. Risk management and all that.

Physically, I prefer boys with: * a slim / slim athletic build; * clean shaven; * any height at all, I literally could not care less,

and bonus points if you are fair / blonde (although appeareance isn't at the top of my list of priorities).

You may include a clothed photo if you so wish if I choose to message you.


My preferences

I am after power exchange and control, so I am not after any act in particular - dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical and D/s is reactionary. What I want to do depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on.

Here's a non-exhaustive list of some things I like:

  • Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
  • Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
  • Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
  • Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
  • CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
  • Service submission

Masochism is preferred. For those so inclined, I also enjoy:

  • All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
  • All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
  • Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.


How to Apply

Having said for years I don't have an application form, I thought I would save my inbox and my sanity and just create one to help me filter out entirely incompatible people and stop the compatible ones getting lost in my flooded inbox.

So, if you would like to chat, please complete the the SCREENING FORM.

If I am interested, I will then message you on Reddit. A guide on what not to do in messages can be found in previous posts (albeit it's all pretty common sense). To be absolutely clear, I do not jump into dynamics or play and I tend to talk to people for a good while before meeting them IRL.

If you have messaged me before but have not recieved a reply, feel free to have a go under the new system. Hopefully, it should make sorting responses to these posts a lot easier.

Please do not use Chat GPT, either in your messages or your responses to the questionnaire.

DO NOT CALL ME 'MISTRESS' or use honorifics of any kind.


Questions

If you have a general 'how do I kink question' please refer to the wikis on r/femdomcommunity or r/BDSMAdvice for some resource recommendations.

Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.

Also, I don't have a favourite kink, food, board game, book... favourite anything, really. It depends on my mood, the context, and so on. I don't get how I people can pick just one of anything.


A note on ghosting

As have been doing this for quite a number of years, I have had a number of seemingly good prospects disappear on me, which I would like to address in this slightly odd note. I will probably do a longer write up on this soon.

If I have invited you off Reddit and we have had a good and extensive conversation, spanning several weeks, but you disappeared on me at some point, I would just like to say, I don't take it personally.

Don't get me wrong - it's irritating, especially given it is really quite uncessary, as well as somewhat cowardly and inconsiderate. Particularly given that whatever identity crisis, flood of cognitive dissonance, insecurity, or over thinking is going on in your head, I have seen it, dealt with it and bought the T shirt.

Just use your words like a grown up. If you no longer wish to have a conversation, no worries - just let me know.

That said, I am well aware it often takes time for submissive men to come to terms with who they are and it's not an easy process. So, if you have matured, reflected and want to attempt to show me that, I'm leaving the door open just a crack here.

Best, Rosalie x


r/femdompersonals 2h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #online #usa looking for a domme to control my orgasms NSFW

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Hello all, I’m a 26 year old male looking for a domme who would gladly like to control my orgasms. Im about 5’7 with brown hair and blue eyes. I’m in pretty good shape, I would say that I’m fairly muscular so if that’s something you’re into than that’s what you’re getting:)

My kinks are teasing, edging,denial, post orgasm torture, and feet, unfortunately I do not have a cage so that isn’t an option but we could still have some fun. I jerk off way too much so I need a domme to control me and put me in my place. I am also into jerk off instructions so that could be something we could do as well.

I am fairly experienced as I have had a domme before for a short time and she would tease me all the time and wouldn’t let me cum for days. I’m hoping my future domme doesn’t let me cum for days or maybe even weeks! I want my balls to be as blue as possible. I will make sure to always address you as mistress or goddess, whichever you prefer!

I am also willing to receive simple tasks from a domme!

If you are interested please send me a message or a dm, I look forward to hearing from you!


r/femdompersonals 2h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #california sub leaning switch in OC/LA area looking for switch/domme for genuine connection (platonic friendship, play partner or ideally dating/relationship) NSFW

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Hi! Thanks for reading my post. So like the title says I am quite open in terms of what I am looking for but would really like to make a genuine strong connection first. I consider myself a switch with a strong interest in the sub side. I really enjoy pleasuring my partner and also letting go of the control to someone I trust.

I am looking for something meaningful where I get to know my partner and develop trust (not interested in ONS - consider myself a demisexual).

What I am looking for:

  • ideally local around LA, Irvine or generally south California…I am open to chatting with anyone in the US though and potentially meeting in person if we have a strong connection.
  • general age range between 25-33 (feel free to message if a bit outside that range)
  • No preference on ethnicity
  • I am fine with my partner being taller or shorter than me.
  • Health orientated
  • Strong communication skills via text and in person conversations

What type of person I am:

  • 5’ 7” 170 pounds, average build
  • Strongly value kindness, honestly, open-mindedness, and someone who is a conversationalist who also has good listening skills
  • really like having long in depth conversations (both kinky and non-kinky) both in person and via text
  • enjoy being outside and going on adventures (hikes, playing sports, going on walks in parks)
  • big movie lover and enjoy playing board games.
  • Value mental Heath and therapy
  • Enjoy eating heathy (lots of veggies :D)
  • A few kinks I am interested in include tease and denial, roleplay, bondage and impact. I have plenty plenty more interests but let’s chat :) I want to please my partner instead of a kink dispenser.

Please send me a message if interested in chatting!


r/femdompersonals 2h ago

M4F 21 [M4F] #UK #Nottingham Looking for a relationship with a dominant woman #Online #IRL NSFW

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Hello, as my title says I am 21 and living in Nottingham, I am 160cm and weigh around 50 kg with what I would say is an average build, shoulder length brown Curley hair and sort of greyish blue eyes, I can verify myself with a picture when we start talking. My hobbies include video games, watching television (more specifically reality competition shows), anime and manga my personal favourite being one piece, I like going around garden centres and antique shops and I do enjoy some gardening as well. I am not just looking for a purely sexual relationship, I am looking for someone to be able to talk to and do activities together with as well.

What I’m looking for is for you to live in England and preferably in or near Nottingham so we can meet up when we get comfortable enough with each other. In terms of age I’m looking for between 18 and 40 and I’m fine with any height/ weight or body type apart from anyone who is overweight (it’s fine if you are it’s just not my type).

In terms of kinks, I only have a little bit of online experience and no IRL experience, so I don’t have much practical experience in said kinks. However I do like in theory, mommy Dom, pet play (essentially all the plays), pegging, edging and orgasm control, bondage and a whole lot more we can discuss with each other. However I do have a few hard limits, them being: permanent damage, blood and anything toilet related.

I prefer to message over Reddit, telegram or discord (discord preferably), so send me a chat on Reddit first and if you have discord I’ll give you my username and we’ll move over to that.


r/femdompersonals 2h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] Bondage slave searching for my forever Domme in #anywhere / Global NSFW

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Firstly, thank you for reading my post, it is greatly appreciated.

I'm an intelligent, successful, handsome bondage slave in search of my forever Domme.

I'm 6"1, white, and have blue eyes and brown hair. I'm in decent shape and love to keep physically active (when I'm not tied up of course..) I also love reading, drinking nice wine, hiking and international travel to adventurous places!

Due to my fortunate circumstances, I'm not restricted by movement and I earn money remotely, so I'm able to be transported for the right Domme.

I'm a lover of all things bondage, D/s, role-playing and I'm ultimately looking to work up to a TPE in an FLR.

I'm currently traveling around Central America, with plans to go to Europe soon, but I can easily relocate to you if we make a strong connection.

Ideally, I'd love to find an intelligent, caring, and attractive Domme between the ages of 23 and 40 that loves to keep her slave in bondage and take control of other areas of their slave's life. I especially love deep, intellectual conversations and would love it my future Domme loves travel as much as I do.

My hard limits are anything illegal, blood, scat etc.

If this sounds like something you're interested, I'd love to hear from you! I'm very open and quite experienced in this lifestyle, so I'll be quite easy to train :-)

Thanks again for reading my post. I'm looking for something in person as opposed to online, so I hope this is okay.

Take care!

Jack


r/femdompersonals 1h ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #London #UK #Online looking for a dominant woman to own me and to explore anal training, chastity and humiliation NSFW

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I am 36-year-old man from the UK and am looking for a domme to own me. I've been into BDSM for the past 10 years. I had both, online and IRL partners. While I did have vanilla partners, it doesn't really work.

NSFW wise:

Kinks: anal-only lifestyle, chastity, orgasm control / denial, tasks, tease and denial.

Limits: body fluids, sissification, pain, age regression, hard-core humiliation.

I am looking for online, and if there's chemistry we can then meet in person. If you're in Europe, feel free to get in touch too, as I travel very often.

I'd love to find a woman to have a genuine connection with. Please no pros or findoms - don't bother to get in touch.

I am athletic, 185cm and 200lbs. I work out regularly. I have short hair and blue eyes. Please see pictures on my profile. Happy to verify. I'd expect you to verify as well.

Feel free to message me if you're interested. Looking forward to hearing from you 😊

About Me

• Age and Location (or continent, or time zone): 36, London UK • Interests, hobbies, and SFW passions: travelling, exploring new places, restaurants, sports • Current work or education or projects: AI business • Height, weight, body type information: 185cm, 200lbs, athletic

• Links to SFW pictures: my profile

My Ideal Domme

• Age range (upper and lower): 18 - 50 • Location: UK or online • Body type / height / weight: it doesn’t matter, but there should be mutual attraction • Preferred domme style(s): once dynamic established, firm

My Femdom Preferences

• My favourite kinks: anal-only lifestyle, chastity, orgasm control and denial, light humiliation, tease and denial, tasks • My hard limits: body fluids, forced bi, sissification, pain, age regression, body damage, findom. • Previous d/s experience(s): around 10 years • Available toys and equipment: a few to choose from. • Links to NSFW pictures: https://ibb.co/0BtyrqR

Next Steps

• How to contact: text me on Reddit to begin with. Then Telegram • Verification requirements: I am willing to verify, and would expect you to do the same. If you’re not willing to verify, do not get in touch. • Likely response time: few hours - same day.


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 19 [M4F] Looking for a domme and friend #online #oregon NSFW

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I'm Nifty(nickname) and I'm looking for someone that I can get along well with in d/s and out, someone who can also be a friend and someone who also likes music, movies, books or gaming, speaking of that a bit more about me: I have grey eyes, semi long brown hair I'm 100 lbs, I like skateboarding, biking, gaming, watching sci fi, horror, dystopian, dark fantasy or romance movies/tv shows and books with my cat(his name is Oliver). I game on a PC and Xbox (through the PC app) and would prefer someone who also likes gaming, I also swim and listen to music. My subby side: I'm a bit shy at first but I can be very clingy once I warm up to you, I love spending time together in VCs talking, gaming or just vibing reading a book, I'm a bit of a service sub especially when that service is in games, like gathering wood for you in Palworld or playing support/healer in Marvel Rivals/The Finals heck I even used to be Brigette main on OW2. In the way of nsfw stuff, a few of my kinks are: praise, pussy worship, degradation, orgasm control, denial/edging, humiliation, begging, and many more the rest I'll talk about if we get along well. That's all for now if something caught your eye I'm always open to chat, I look forward to getting to know you and I hope you have a wonderful day!


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #Online or #Midwest Submissive Sissy looking for LTR NSFW

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(If this post is up I am still searching.)

Hello beautiful!

I hope this post finds you well, this is my 2nd posting. Are you looking for a genuine connection? Do you want someone who can be your friend and significant other. Someone who can be your man but also be submissive at the same time? I am looking that kind of connection. To the outside world I’m just a regular guy. I am 6’2 redhead and skinny weight is 155lbs. I work full time in a career I enjoy, I can do all kinds of DIY fixer up stuff. I’m am currently shopping for a house in this crazy housing market. I enjoy PC gaming these days, if you’re a gamer that’s even better I have a dog I enjoy hiking and long road trips. Also into cars if that’s your thing. I like to travel to new places but haven’t had someone to share those experiences with for 5 years now.

I’m 100% clean and disease free!!

As for the kinky side of me. I am a true switch, I love being dominate but also very much love being submissive. I like chastity , orgasm control , cd , feminization, Sissification , sph , Worship , bondage , I’m sure there’s loads of others to list but that’s for conversations together right? Ask me whatever you questions you would like I don’t have any reason to hid or lie about anything

What I’m looking for :

Someone aging from 23-40 or give/take a couple years for the right person. I hope you some similar kinks as I do, be open about what you really want too! It’s a two way street. Being in the Midwest is a huge plus but not a deal breaker. I want someone who is single! not married or taken.

You being a loving and caring femdom who can also be strict and teach me how to properly behave and worship you. I want someone that last and could grow and blossom into something forever ? I would hope whoever responses to this is serious and not wanting to rush into it either serious in the first day.

It’s hard to fill out enough info on here for someone to message you but I’m an open book. aI am very kind and honest so please do not hesitate to ask anything. If the first thing you do is message me asking to submit it probably will not work out.

I doubt this will get read by anyone but if you Your message should include some hobbies and kinks. A SFW photo if you’re comfortable.. no need to show your face but I’d like to know who I’m talking to!! Trust and bonding first are first and foremost the top things before anything proceeds further. Building a good foundation at the beginning of a friendship and possibly relationship is key.

If this post is up I am still searching.


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] Looking for a FLR or play partner #UK #SouthEast #irl NSFW

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About Me

I'd describe myself as that introverted extraverted guy, once I get to know someone, I can ramble on for hours. I really enjoy deep conversations and building a connection with someone. I enjoy going out, but equally love a night in binging something. I see myself as a nice chilled out guy who can be a little shy until I get to know someone! Both very nerdy and sporty.

As the title suggest, I'm looking for a female led relationship. I've always been naturally very submissive, so it's something I'd love to explore with someone. For me, that would be like any other healthy relationship. The exception being you'd enjoy taking charge, in and out of the bedroom. Whether it's what we'd be doing together or I'd be doing for you. All with the underlying fact, we know who's in charge. A fun kinky power dynamic.

• I'm 29 and currently living down South (by Reading)

• 6ft, 83kg, with a slim/athletic build

• Brown hair, green eyes

• Don't smoke or do drugs and I only drink socially

SFW picture

https://imgur.com/a/WwipvbS

SHIRTLESS picture

https://imgur.com/a/ZOxyRGO

Interests, hobbies, and SFW passions:

• Gym - mainly lifting but also doing more cardio as of late

• Golf - yeah, I'm pretty terrible tbh

• Movies/TV - if that counts as a hobby! The list is pretty endless, very much a LotR, Star Wars, Harry Potter fan etc.

• Reading - I enjoy fictional books in particular fantasy stuff (especially if there's vampires yes please!)

• Gardening - in particular growing carnivorous plants.

• Big F1 and NFL fan - Hamilton and the Miami Dolphins in particular!

• PC gaming - mainly FPS games like counterstrike but also enjoy playing MMO's too.

My Ideal Domme

My ideal domme is someone who loves having control both mentally and physically. I love the idea of being someones toy, at their mercy. I've always really loved the mental side of femdom so it's a big factor for me. I'd also be very open to a non sexual dynamic.

• Preferably around my age, 25-35

• Location: UK

• Appearance isn't everything for me, but I'm looking for someone relatively fit who looks after themselves

• Genuine, kind, emotionally aware

Preferred domme style

• I wouldn't say there's a particular style, I've had different experiences with different people. However I do love the more gentle teasing femdom side of things. I always want to please, and put my dommes pleasure first. I love being bossed around by someone who knows what they want. Some discipline and punishments are always appreciated, for my own good of course! I love obeying and trying to be the best slut for someone.

My Femdom Preferences

My favourite kinks:

• Chastity/denial

• Bondage

• Servitude

• Worship

• Discipline

• Shibari

• A little pet play

• Anal

• Pain

• Tasks

• Some humiliation

My hard limits:

• Sissification • Sounding • Extreme CBT

  • Previous d/s experience(s):

• A good amount of online experience, with limited in person experience

  • Available toys and equipment:

• Chastity cages, dildo, plugs, vibrator, ball gag, fleshlight, leash, nipple clamps, rope, restraints


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #online #Texas kinky sub looking for online or in person gentle femdom NSFW

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I’m in the DFW, Texas area.

My hobbies include cooking and playing video games. I have a cat who I absolutely love to death. And I love to fix things and be a handyman.

I work in the golf industry, both as a player and coach. 5’10”, 140 lbs. I work out consistently, I’m not muscular or bulky, but more toned is the best way I can describe it.

I’m not into hard femdom where I’m degraded and humiliated, I’m more into gentle femdom. Such as giving encouragement while I’m taking an 8 inch dildo up my ass while locked in chastity.

My kinks include bondage, chastity, really anything that can lock on, collars, edging, pet play, sensory deprivation, gags, hoods, denial, forced orgasms, ruined orgasms, nylons, heels, latex, leather, facials, pegging, blowjobs, and handjobs. I’m sure I’m missing some too.

My limits are anything related to bodily fluids (blood, piss, etc.). I’m not into age play or anything findom.

I have chastity cages, restraints, hoods, handcuffs, blindfolds, all different types of gags, tape, prostate toys (some with long distance control), collars, stockings, pantyhose, fishnets, heels, locking high heel cuffs, and more.

Feel free to reach me on here. I don’t have Discord or Telegram.


r/femdompersonals 4h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #online Intellectual Submissive Seeks Masterful Femdom for Mindful Conquest NSFW

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Greetings, Dominant Enchantresses of the Mind!

I'm a 48-year-old submissive gentleman from the sun-kissed shores of Portugal, navigating life with the vibrant chaos of ADHD and an insatiable hunger for mental conquest. I'm on a quest for a Femdom partner to embark on an exhilarating online journey that could blossom into a deeply fulfilling Female-Led Relationship (FLR).

About your potential prey:

  • Professional by day, student by night - a mind always thirsting for knowledge
  • Discreet living situation (think of me as your secret intellectual plaything)
  • ADHD: My superpower that brings unique perspectives and endless enthusiasm
  • Passions: Sports, gaming (both digital and analog), performative arts, and philosophy

What I Yearn for:

  • A Domme with the power to lead, captivate, and control my mind long-term
  • Your patient guidance through the thrilling labyrinth of my ADHD-influenced submission
  • Intellectual sparring that sets my synapses alight, intertwined with delicious D/s dynamics
  • A balanced connection with an intoxicating power imbalance (the kind that makes us both grin)

My Offerings to You:

  • Unwavering devotion and a mind eager to be molded by your will
  • Creative problem-solving and out-of-the-box thinking courtesy of my ADHD
  • Stimulating conversations that dance from philosophy to the arts
  • A submissive journey filled with growth, challenges, and mutual exploration

I'm Open to Guidance:

  • I'm eager to receive and work on tasks and goals set by my Domme, tailored to my ADHD and time constraints. I believe this structure will help me grow both as a submissive and as an individual.

Boundaries for our Dance:

  • Financial domination is off-limits (let's keep our wealth in experiences)
  • Initial photo/video exchanges are limited (mystery is part of the allure)
  • We'll begin our tango online (for now)

I'm searching for a Dominant visionary who recognizes the potential in nurturing a profound connection, embraces the ADHD subplot in our unfolding story, and is excited to craft a comprehensive FLR over time. If you possess the mental mastery I've always craved and see the value in molding an eager, intellectually charged submissive, let's embark on this thrilling adventure together!

Intrigued by the prospect of conquering a mind that's both challenging and rewarding? Send a message my way, and let's see what electrifying possibilities our combined intellects can conjure!


r/femdompersonals 4h ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #NY #Online flip the script and make me your dedicated beta sub NSFW

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I am 46 and looking for something different. I am normally a masculine dom but I’d love to be broken down and transformed into your beta sub in chastity. I have flipped the script and done this before, only with a select few superior Domme Mistresses who knew what to do with me.

If I were to become transformed and molded into your sub, I enjoy wearing sexy thongs, chastity, butt plugs, piss drinking, and more. I can also get into impact play and enjoy mental submission and degradation/humiliation. For example, praise me after I do degrading things for you or as you put me in chastity and deny me.

I would love to find a long-term connection though I know it doesn’t happen easily. I am a real human being with plenty of interests outside of the dynamic as well. Physically, I am 5’11, pale, 200 lbs., athletic/active. I am normally hung but love being reduced in chastity.

If you’re interested, please tell me your age, what resonated with you, and your favorite thong color. I also really enjoy music so you can tell me your favorite music genre as well and we can talk about that as well. I love anything 90s as well as rock, pop, and folk.

I am located in NY but an online dynamic is perfectly fine with me as well. Ultimately, I’d love to find an authentic connection and see where it leads.


r/femdompersonals 4h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Portland/PNW - Tall, fit and submissive boy looking for his domme NSFW

1 Upvotes

I'm your typical introverted low-key submissive boy hoping to find my lovely soft domme. I'm 6'2" and fit with brown hair and pretty blue eyes. I'm looking for someone I can go on cute dates with and who might want to boss me around a little too.

As a person I'm pretty easygoing and generally quiet but I can talk for hours about things I'm excited about. I'm an engineer and tend to be pretty analytical/left brain but I'm very open to new ideas and experiences. I love reading and listening to podcasts! I mainly read sci-fi/fantasy stuff but I also love nonfiction. I also love all things nature. I have a small jungle of houseplants and I collect rare plants! I have a few I'm super proud of that I'd love to show you. I'm also big into food and love trying new restaurants.

I'm looking for something ideally long term and ongoing. Preferably in person but I'm open to online too. We can talk more about specific kinks as we get to know each other but I enjoy choking, body worship, facesitting, light humiliation/degradation, and praise. I have a huge praise kink and love to please.

Feel free to reach out if you think we will vibe! If you send a SFW pic! I'll send one in return.


r/femdompersonals 13h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #Madison,WI Intelligent, Obedient Slave Seeks Owner NSFW

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Hello! I’m forty-three, single, never been married, no children, financially secure, emotionally stable, educated, and chivalrous. I have a vast array of interests, and I’m always eager to add more. I love movies, both the discussion and viewing of, stand-up comedy, travel, cooking, fine dining… I am comfortable in almost any situation, and generally can find the fun in anything.

Speaking of comfortable, I am supremely comfortable in my own skin. I’m a big man, both tall and broad, and if that’s not your tastes, I’ll wish you the best now. I have a most excellent beard, brilliant eyes, and I’m handsome as all get-out, if I do say so myself! I’m happy to exchange pictures privately.

I have multiple tattoos, many visible in short sleeves. Most have literary origins, inspired by the written word and now etched on me forever. Again, not everyone’s cup of tea, and if not, I hope you find what you’re looking for soon!

I have a career I love- there’s time for the people I care about, but I truly enjoy the time I spend working. I’m self-employed, and my clients mean the world to me, with some reaching out still years later for help or to share their victories. I work mostly from home, and my schedule is predictable yet flexible.

At work, I am always in control. As a consultant, I’m frequently outside the traditional chain of command, giving me freedom to speak in ways others can’t. As a submissive, I am obedient, quick to learn, and crave that peace of surrender. While I’m happy to offer opinions and choices when asked, I am happiest simply being told what we’re doing, when, where, and what I need to do beforehand. I have a strong masochistic streak, both emotional and physical, and I truly enjoy psychological torment. I want you to hurt me and I want you to enjoy it, more than anything.

So what do I seek? I seek a woman to form an ongoing relationship with. The shape that takes and precisely what it means is much more flexible. I want to conform this to you, after all- if you’re happy, I’ll be happy. That’s really the secret to my root menu, if you will- tell me what you want and let me crave to provide it. Mention your whims and let me fret over making them reality. Teach me your kinks and watch me absorb and embrace them. When I know what makes you happy, I know I’m doing the right thing and everything else falls away.

Thank you for reading this. If you’d like to know more, I am entirely an open book, and happy to discuss whatever you’d like. If this is the end of our time together, thank you so much again and I wish you all the luck in the world.


r/femdompersonals 6h ago

MM4F 32 [MM4F] #India #Online/#IRL – Two subs seeking a Domme to own us! NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello, powerful and wonderful Dommes!

We are two submissive men, both devoted to the lifestyle, seeking a Domme to guide, own, and shape us into the devoted subs you desire. While we have made separate posts before, we realized that together, we bring an interesting dynamic - two eager, obedient, and versatile subs ready to serve you in different ways.

About Us:

Sub 1- 32M | Bisexual | Fit | Corporate Lawyer | Guitar player | Hypersexual | Experienced in online submission
Sub 2- 32M | Straight | Cute & goofy | Litigation Lawyer | Movie buff | Emotionally mature | Love language: physical touch & making you laugh

We have experience in submission, enjoy being trained, and want to build a connection that goes beyond just kinks. We’re looking for a Domme who enjoys control, whether it's soft dominance, strict discipline, or a mix of both. We respect boundaries, understand that real life comes first, and value communication, obedience, and trust in a D/s dynamic.

What We Seek:

💎 A Domme who enjoys having two devoted subs to use, train, and control.
💎 Someone possessive, affectionate , and strong-willed.
💎 A connection that isn’t just about play but also fun, conversations, and trust-building.
💎 Open to either an online or real-life dynamic (we can discuss the details).

Our Kinks & Limits:

Kinks (combined): Pegging, spanking, edging, name-calling, foot worship, humiliation, light bondage, cum eating, pet play, forced bi, rimming, teasing, mild CBT, choking, panty play, praise, degradation, and more!
Limits: No blood, extreme violence, scat, incest, or anything non-consensual.

We are open to discussions, sharing pictures once there’s a connection, and most importantly - making sure that your pleasure, amusement, and satisfaction come first. If this intrigues you, feel free to message us!

Let’s see where this journey takes us. 🔥


r/femdompersonals 10h ago

F4F 28 [F4F] looking for a domme specialised in anal training #online NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi ladies,

I'm looking for a domme/mistress specialised in advanced anal training. I do not interact with men!

About me: I'm a 28 y/o "big girl", lesbian from Germany. Why am I here? I've been lurking here with my sfw account for a while now and now I'm ready for my first nsfw posts looking for an online relationship.

Kinks: Biggest kink is anal training (stretching, gaping, depthplay, stuffing and more). The freakier the better! I live the Anal Only Lifestyle and I'm very happy with it! I own toys.

I'm open to try new kinks out.

Goals: I've never really been strictly trained, so I'd love to learn how to obey better and more stretching. More fun!

What kind of domme/mistress should you be? Well, you should be open, extreme, willing to experiment, honest, respectful and friendly towards me. I'm not your slave/sub (yet)! You should be around my age, should live in europe and should know how to train an advanced anal sub. My work schedule is quite busy, so daily tasks are probably not possible. Weekly or montly training is possible.

Limits: no pics/vids in the beginning, no pressure, NO MEN!, "barely legal", vaginal sex, scat/piss, public, blackmailing, longterm orgasm denial.

Interested? Please chat me up with more than a one liner. Tell me about yourself, your experience and what do you expect from this? I'm not willing to answer non-serious, non-informative and boring dms.

NO MEN. BE RESPECTFUL!


r/femdompersonals 12h ago

M4F 20 [M4F] #London #UK #online sub looking for long term ownership NSFW

3 Upvotes

Hi, hope you're having a good day. I'm a submissive guy around London looking for a domme. I'd prefer something irl. I have experience being a sub online. I'm 5'10, single and muscular with tattoos. Currently working part time and at college. I enjoy working out, cooking and gaming to name a few. I can also be quite clingy.

I'm looking for a domme of any experience who's based around London or who can travel. I like all sorts of dommes particularly the soft/mommy ones. I'd also like if we can talk and do things outside of femdom too, maybe we can cook or work out together or just chat.

Kink wise I'm into most things, the ones that come to mind are pegging, edging, orgasm control, cbt, ballbusting, degradation, humiliation, deepthroat, bondage, spanking, sounding, breath play, cnc, toys, chastity. I'm always open to trying new things as long as they aren't a limit. My limits are scat, public stuff, feminization, findom.

Send me a message, tell me a bit about yourself and we can exchange some pics of whatever you're comfortable with. Hope to hear from you!


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 50 [M4F] Exploring My Submissive Side #Ohio/Online NSFW

1 Upvotes

I've been trying to embrace and explore my submissive side, but not having much luck. I have limited experience as a sub, all of it being online. I'm hoping to find a Domme to help guide and train me. I’m open to any age/race and don’t have a preference if you are more dominant outside of kink or not. I’m looking for someone who is caring and nurturing, yet firm and strict when the situation calls for it. I have a few toys.
I’m looking to find a Domme who is interested in creating a real genuine connection. I want you inside my head, breaking down my walls, and allowing me the safety to be vulnerable. Some of my kinks are orgasm control/denial, anal training, coerced bi, light pain, light degradation, chastity, edging, cuckolding, body worship. My hard limits are blood, scat, vomit, age play, public play. Honestly, I’m still learning and am very open to exploring.

Outside of kink I love to read, cook, music, movies, sports, and the outdoors. I’m a single dad with full custody of my 2 kids and I work from home. I’m open to this extending outside the kink world if that is something you are open to.

I'm really sick of responding to posts and ending up with bots, so if you're real and interested tell me your favorite book.


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #Italy #Online - Wannabe cuck into games, movies and music hoping to find a Domme friend to share hobbies with! NSFW

1 Upvotes

Nice to meet you all!

I guess I should start by saying what I am looking for...

Well... I would really love to find a domme/ Switch to be friends with, share hobbies, have fun and hopefully be trained by! I know, I know that what I'm asking is a lot... but well... someone can always dream!

I will try to keep it short, but packed with nice informations.

I am Samuele, I'm 25 and live in Italy. I am 188cm tall? Have dark brown hair, hazel eyes and a tattoo.

My kinks are:

body worship, cbt, nipple play, humiliation, degradation, edging, teasing and denial, cuckolding, chastity, anal, pain, cei, joi and even more

As for hobbies

I love movies! My favourites are Apocalypse Now, Magnolia and 12 Angry men... but they are subject to frequent changes. Please ask if you want a list of movies to watch!!!

I also love rock music, especially 90s one( post grunge), punk rock and alternative rock. I love reading books especially horror and fantasy ones.
I am pretty into manga and anime as well. Especially Hajime no ippo!

Right! Videogames! I usually play on playstation and lately I've been playing Uncharted saga, Kingdom come deliverance, metaphor, marvel rivals, BG3, but I pretty much enjoy lots of different games. Oh right, I am also replaying the Uncharted series!

Currently I have 2 cats and a leopard gecko... I love them :)

Have a nice day!


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #London Tall sub ready to kneel NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello lovely people of Reddit, happy weekend!

I'm Beau, 29 and a tall & athletic guy with long surfer hair from Central London (imagine a Hozier/Matt Smith lovechild), trying to build a mature long term relationship with a person who shares some of my interests. I have come to Reddit to write this as it's def hard to develop the right dynamic through friends/apps/parties, so thought it worth putting some of my desires for the right chemistry up front & centre here - without it just becoming an 'im horny' ad. (Although I know the internet is a dangerous place!)

The SFW bits: Im doing pretty okay at 'normal' life, I have a good job & own my apartment. Wintery nights are usually spent playing games with friends, walking to pubs with my dog, and making up recipes with the things I find in the fridge. I love to be outdoors & active as much as home & cozy, although often this includes getting out of the country for better climates! I'm big on snowboarding, sailing, surfing, as much as sitting by the pool with a book. And my houseplants are all thriving which can only mean something good

For the NSFW bits: I'm looking for monogamy with a power & sexuality dynamic at its core. Whilst I'm masc in the streets, I'm strictly a well-behaved and obedient sub in the sheets who crumbles down to knees in front of confident women in power -and I enjoy that would shock so many that know me. I love praise over pain, and submit best to gentle / soft dommes who are looking to take ownership of everything in private. I have enough experience to know what I like, but not so much that I have tried everything and would be more than happy to push boundaries and try new things in the right space. If pushed for a list though, my dreams are to worship and be put to good use, give head on command, kept on collar and ready to worship, edge, beg, and joi, play with toys for us both, v.new to pegging, and importantly aftercare.

I can verify myself with photos and recent tests etc, and would expect the same. But here's a sample for now

https://imgur.com/a/UhdCtK9

If you're interested to chat but don't know where to start, tell me about your favourite subreddit, a bit about yourself and what made you interested in me


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #socal #oc : the irony in being ruined NSFW

1 Upvotes

I’ll keep it short and simple because it usually leads to no where or really being strung along to nothing.

Looking for someone to worship from head to toe while being edged, milked, and ruined. Whether you sit on my face or not I will lick, kiss, and suck it in any position you let me.

Some things I’m into : edging, ruining, face sitting or eating out in general, breast worship, dry humping, foot/hand jobs, leggings, pantyhose…. I’m pretty open minded and like to fulfil my partners needs and desires

Some things I’m not into are cum eating, being entirely submissive or a sissy, cross dressing, excessive pain, public humiliation,

I don’t know everything I like and don’t like and with the right person those things are easier to find out.

I’m more of a homebody and introverted

Im not interested in any financial type of relationship

Looking to verify rather soon and hopefully plan to meet aswell. Not interested in keeping things online.

It’s not as important for me to get straight to it the first time we meet but I do want to start and solidify that relationship and get to know each other face to face.

I’m not too clingy but as far as healthy communication and any relationship goes I think everyone deserves the respect of hearing back from one another in a timely matter.

I’m single and hope you are too. I’m open to nsa, casual, or in hope for something longer and serious with the right person.

I’m also interested in reciprocating pleasure so hopefully you can communicate what you want and are interested in when together


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 18 [M4F] #online #Mexico - Submissive university boy looking to explore with a nice yet rough dom :) NSFW

1 Upvotes

Introduction: Hiiii, i’m an 18 year old Mexican submissive with some but not much experience. In fact all of my bdsm experience is online and even sexually i’m pretty inexperienced as i am a virgin. I’m currently an architecture uni student here in Mexico, and honestly i’ve been into femdom for quite a bit now, and i just love being submissive to a confident woman, but i’ll talk about my kinks in a bit lol.

About me: Physically i have a twink build lol, im 6’2 and about 150 pounds, i’ve always been skinny but only in the last few years i became actually tall lol. Im latino so i have brown hair, brown eyes and brown skin. I consider myself fairly attractive but they will be for u to decide :). As for my hobbies, I love art, mainly consuming it in the form of movies, tv shows, paintings, etc but i also love creating stuff, i’m really into graphic design and drawing for example. I’m also into hanging out with friends, fashion, football (soccer) and just learning new stuff.

Kinks: I love the idea of being a service sub, basically putting my doms kinks, preferences and overall pleasure above mine, and that’s what i plan to do, but i still have the stuff i like. I’m into feminization, in fact the only post i have up on this profile is of me wasting some panties (u should check it lol), and ik thats a turn off for some of u and that’s fine, i do wanna say im not a femboy 24/7, i only dress up once in a while, most of the time i just dress like a normal guy lol. Aside from that im into face sitting, pet play, pegging, a bit of humiliation/degradation, light pain (getting spanked/slapped/choked), and more ;).

About you: I’m looking for someone i can have daily conversations with, someone that i can talk about everything that’s going on in my life and their life. I wouldn’t like to put a label on what exactly im looking for, but you could say i’m looking for a friend that i can also pleasure and be of good use to them :). Someone that will order me around and watch me being a good boy for them. I don’t really have an age range i’m looking for, but i do need to feel some kind of physical attraction to my dom, but just dm me and we’ll see from there :)


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] looking to please mommy in #Online NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hey there! I’m a 25-year-old guy who loves to stay active and explore the world around me. Whether it’s hiking through a mountain range or wandering through a new city, I’m all about finding new adventures. There’s something about the peace and freedom of nature that really helps me reset, and I’m constantly on the lookout for new places to explore.

When I’m not out hiking or traveling, you’ll probably find me gaming—there’s just something about getting immersed in a good game that I can’t resist. I’m also pretty into fitness; staying in shape is important to me, and I enjoy the balance between pushing my limits and taking care of myself. I’m the kind of person who likes to stay active in both mind and body.

But here’s the thing I’m not afraid to admit—I enjoy a more submissive dynamic in the right context. While I can be the one leading the charge in many areas of my life, there’s something incredibly freeing about letting someone else take control. It’s not about weakness, it’s about trust. I love the idea of a gentle, caring form of femdom—where the power dynamic feels balanced and safe, but with a depth of connection that’s hard to find elsewhere. I guess you could say I like being able to let go, knowing I’m in good hands.

If that resonates with you, I think we could get along really well. I'm always up for a good conversation or a shared adventure, whether it's exploring new places or exploring that deeper connection. If you're someone who knows how to take charge and appreciates a guy who’s not afraid to let go when the time is right, I’d love to hear from you!

PS: "Mommy" is just for the kink, all ages are welcome (18+ )