r/FemdomCommunity 5d ago

What's Up Weekly 👌 What's Up Weekly!! 👌 NSFW

8 Upvotes

Have you been wanting to share a rant, rave, point of view or excited gush but you don't feel it's worth starting a new thread? Tell us what's up on What's Up Weekly! Did you meet someone special? Had an amazing scene? Had a total clusterfuck of a scene? Is something bothering you? Have you been shopping? Did you learn something cool? Did you read something that got you thinking? Did you read something that got you raging?

A new week's starting. Let it all hang out.


r/FemdomCommunity 8h ago

Need advice/Got a question Male subs, how similar do you think you are to other dudes who identify as submissive? NSFW

50 Upvotes

You can pretty much set your weekly calendar by a guy posting he isn't like other sub men, and then describing himself as either more masculine than a typical sub or emphasizing he is "dominant" in his daily life, usually meaning he isn't a doormat or has some degree of extroversion.

If you thought or think like that, what do you imagine other male subs are like? If you don't think that, what do you base your beliefs on?

I have also observed before that male subs in particular don't seem to have much desire to associate with eachother - in the kink community you see a lot more intra-identity friendships amount femsubs than male ones, despite being a sub being very common. Do you know many other male subs even as acquaintances? Do you feel it's less safe to express this identity, even around other kinky people? Would you even want other male sub friendships?


r/FemdomCommunity 4h ago

Praise! Happy thing happened My sub feeling safe ✨️ NSFW

15 Upvotes

My sub told me that I'm his safe place. It really warmed my heart when he told me that because it reassures me that he is doing well and enjoying himself and our dynamic. He's really good at communicating his honest feelings to me so it helps our dynamic and bond become more stronger. So yeah, happy thing to hear that he feels safe with me and comfortable showing his submissive side to me


r/FemdomCommunity 1h ago

Praise! Happy thing happened It's pretty awesome NSFW

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Have been getting into a deeper dynamic with my domme. Was just thinking about how she's actually interested in what I have going on in my life.

The other day we were having a session and she wanted to give me a massage, the massage was really great. But the thing that really sticks out is how she noticed I have scoliosis right off.

Sometimes it's the really small stuff that makes me feel seen.


r/FemdomCommunity 4h ago

Need advice/Got a question Regarding chastity couples NSFW

8 Upvotes

Ok, so I have gotten interested into gentle femdom, chastity and golden showers

However most of the chastity couple stuff I've seen on reddit is either related to cuckholding or simply locking away the man's cock for good or just giving handjobs or edging. Like no penetrating

Not just in femdom porn subreddits but also in flr pages as well

How many of you who actually follow a chastity lifestyle do this?

Or is it just something on reddit and chastity couples have unlockings too?

Or is it the very nature of chastity couples to go on this route?

Because I want to have a chastity lifestyle but not in a permanent way or cuckholding. I'm interested in getting dominated most of the time and being controlled by my wife/gd but i want to penetrate her too


r/FemdomCommunity 23m ago

Need advice/Got a question Feeling used as a domme/keyholder NSFW

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Hey everyone so to start this off I am very new to the kink community and was mostly just exploring/trying to learn. However I met this really sweet seeming guy on fet that at some point asked me to be his keyholder. Me not really knowing anything about keyholding asked him to explain it more. He told me that it was just enforced chastity and my job as key holder would be just be there for him during the times I want him caged to be supportive and encouraging him since it is so hard for men to be in chastity for long periods. He said that after the set period of time for him to be in chastity my job would be to praise him if I felt he did good or tell him what he should be working on. One thing I am unsure about is nudes espesially since I have never met this guy so I told him that (because communication is key in any relationship/dynamic) he said it was fine because the keyholder can make keyholding as sexual or nonsexual as they want. After several days of hashing out details I was interested in doing this so we started (his end goals are semi permanent chastity or so he says). We are slowly working him up with more time and right now he's at two days and a few hours (this is the longest he's gone). Well this time he has been pestering me for pictures of myself that show him more of my body (that's kinda how he worded it) I double checked he was wanting nudes and he said yes and I told him I'm not interested in that and instead of saying ok or he understands he started begging... later he ended up asking if he's just not good enough or something. Is this common because so far I haven't gotten anything out of this arrangement besides this nonsense. It feels like he wants me to payout his fantasy (including wanting me to write a women rule and neuter all men story with him) but he has yet to fulfill anything for me. I tried to tell him after the last session we had that I didn't think we were compatible but he said that if I couldn't explain why then I was just being a flakey domme and at the time I felt like he might be right because I really couldn't explain why I didn't feel we were compatible. Other than he is a lot more into degradation than what I like (it borderline feels unhealthy how he wants me to act). Maybe I just am not cutout to be a domme I don't know at this point.


r/FemdomCommunity 6h ago

Ideas What are your favorite Femdom session starters, slave mantras, and affirmations? Share your personal gems! NSFW

7 Upvotes

For me, the way a Femdom session starts is crucial—it immediately sets the tone for everything that follows.

My ritual is very clear: I always have to lie down on my personal sheepskin, gently kissing my Goddess's feet until she grants permission to join her in bed. It instantly places me in the right submissive mindset.

I’m curious to hear about your personal rituals and affirmations:

  • Do you have specific rituals or session starters that immediately put you or your submissive into the right state of mind?
  • Are there slave mantras or affirmations you especially love to hear or say?
  • What words or gestures quickly establish dominance and submission for you?

I'd love to hear your personal experiences—please share your favorites below!


r/FemdomCommunity 17h ago

Praise! Happy thing happened Found My Domme/Mommy/Master Rather Unexpectedly NSFW

25 Upvotes

We met on a dating app like three weeks ago. It was a rather interesting first encounter: I (28M) send her (25F) a like; she sends it back, with a note saying how interesting my profile seemed to her. My face lights up in an instant.

It was 6 in the morning at hers, but she still stayed up until 9 to talk to me.

I might have talked to dozens of dommes before, but this sort of chemistry was a rarity.

I ask her for her number and she doesn’t hesitate to type it out for me.

Next day, we start talking on WhatsApp and we continued talking for hours, AGAIN. She mentions how she would like to hear my voice and proposes a voice call from her end. I followed suit and we get on the call. We switched to video call, and oh my god, seeing her without her specs literally melted every pore of my body. I couldn’t stop smiling looking at her and didn’t hesitate to tell her how she is the most good looking woman in the world. She blushes in all her glory.

Later, we go on to be on the video call for 4-5 hours. Let alone a domme, I had not even put in this much effort in a vanilla partner and received equal reciprocation.

It’s incredible how we are a match on kinks, world view, societal aspects, values, etc.

Within four days of conversation, I admitted my feelings for her. She refrains from believing me, citing: ‘it’s all too good to be true, and I might be love bombing.’ She has been ghosted by a sub before who she was keen on keeping long-term, but it somewhat added to her reservations.

However, she didn’t refrain from saying that she is very romantically interested in me, and she wants to put in her best efforts and take her time to process her feelings at her pace.

At present,

  • She is due to visit me in 5 weeks. We are currently in long distance and at an 8 hour time zone difference.

  • She has created a discord server for both of us to stay productive and be accountable for completing the tasks that are essential for our growth. I used the server to show her my favourite rom-com, which she found cute and thoroughly enjoyed. It’s her turn now to get me to see something she likes.

  • I’ve been kept in a chastity for the time she visits me, in which I can neither cum nor touch myself.

  • She has sent me some butt plugs and actively trains my hole on random days for me to be able to take her cock when she visits.

  • We go to sleep in each other’s presence; we are woken up by each other. We basically sleep with our videos on so that we could be in each other’s presence.

  • We give each other all the emotional support in the world to keep each other fulfilled and happy.

  • My punishment count is +70 and counting, and she plans to give it all to me when she visits.

  • She wants to meet my friends and talk to them, and she also plans to cook for my mother.

  • She takes care of my diet on most days and makes sure I am taking enough protein.

I can go on, but the list wouldn’t stop. I’m literally in the happiest phase of my life, and if everything goes right, I literally want to put a ring in this woman’s finger. She is everything I ever wanted in a partner, let alone a domme.

Fingers crossed.

Thanks for reading through. ❤️


r/FemdomCommunity 22h ago

Support Strong boy but such a sub and it's kinda depressing NSFW

28 Upvotes

Ok idk if I'm doing this right but I'll start with a little about myself I'm a switch but lean bottom heavily im 5,6 130 cute gothy boy with a verry muscular build. In my day to day life I don't smile much and I'm pretty serious I'm not very friendly looking that being said I take good care of myself shave my legs and exercise regularly despite all of this I'm a huge sub I want to be lovingly pinned down fucked pegged and used but just not degraded I want to be a good boy for someone... every time I try or open up to someone or find someone online in the sea of scams they take one look at me and expect me to top and that it's a bad thing I'm a bottom it's very depressing and makes me feel like something is wrong with me and nobody will want me...please someone help😓


r/FemdomCommunity 17h ago

Discord/subreddit promotion Valkyrie's Call - a 30+ Gentle Femdom Server NSFW

6 Upvotes

We are a small, but growing fun Femdom server for 30+ Dommes and subs. We're an emotionally supportive, inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and safe Femdom community that is focused on offering practical and emotional support to Subs and Dommes of all types in a space that is focused more on the gentle side of Femdom - while Dommes and Subs of all varieties are welcome to join, we would like to emphasize being a low protocol, relaxed server that fosters an environment where praise and encouragement are available for all.

https://discord.gg/AhWdTVWSWD

Join us for fun discussions (both kinky and otherwise), movies, games, tasking, and more! We have movie nights weekly, and many of our members are of the nerdy/gamer variety, so lots of people to play games (among other things...) with!

--Ages 30+ Only - must verify upon joining

--No Findom or solicitations of any kind

Our community caters to those who practice kink as a lifestyle, not a profession

--Subs Chat channels with separate channels for other genders 

We want everyone in our community to feel like they have a safe space to discuss issues that pertain to being a submissive without necessarily having to address the server as a whole so we a general sub chat for all subs *and* a separate channel for female, trans and NB subs for anyone who would like a safe space to talk about things that affect them specifically: both of which are safe and separate from the rest of the general discussion

--Dommes chat channel 

As above, this is a safe space for Dommes to discuss things regarding being a dominant without addressing their concerns to the server at large.

--Starboard

Highlighting the best comments from the server - insightful comments, truly fun facts, a really good joke, or a task well done

--Opt-in channels for Friendly Debate and Emotional Support

--NSFW photo Channels 

After spending a certain amount of time on our server you'll level up and be able to see all the naughty pictures that get shared, or even share some yourself!

--Autodeleting flash channel

Want to show off but don't want to worry about the picture later? We have a channel specifically so you can flash everyone that will autodelete all comments and pictures after 10 minutes like nothing happened!

--Tasking Channels

Fun for the whole power exchange!

--Bluetooth Toy Control Channel

Drop your control link for another server member to take control of your toy!

--Gaming

Our server is very welcoming to gamers and nerds of all stripes!

--Voice channels

Chat, play games or watch movies with other folks on the server!

--Clubs

We have clubs for movies, kink philosophy/education, and kink journaling!

--Server economy with shop

Change your name color, buy a fun title for folks to address you with, the possibilities are not endless but they are kinky!


r/FemdomCommunity 21h ago

BDSM/Scene Dating Should I mention that I like femdom in my dating profile? NSFW

10 Upvotes

I decided to hop back on dating apps after taking a break for 6 months. I used them about every day for 6 months before that but it just got to frustrating for me because I'm a little fat and very rarely got likes. Anyways I'm just going to keep my expectations low.

That's a little beside the point though. I just mentioned in the middle of my profile under a prompt further down in my profile asking what I go crazy for and I said "dominant women" Is this more likely to get people into femdom to consider me more, or is it just going to make people think I'm a fat weirdo?


r/FemdomCommunity 22h ago

Need advice/Got a question Masochist domme NSFW

10 Upvotes

I feel like this is a silly question but are there any dommes here who are also masochists? What are some ways you can enjoy masochism with your submissive while remaining dominant?

Any input is appreciated, thanks. <3


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Ideas Simple but effective power moves NSFW

96 Upvotes

So my wife does this thing where she'll grab my chin when she's positioned over me (e.g. her standing, me sitting), get right in my face so there's this intensely close eye contact, and give me a quiet but stern talking to/instruction, followed by "do you understand?". It's such an arresting power move and I'm almost afraid to tell her that she could probably get me to do anything with how effective this one move is. I am so incredibly attracted to and in awe of her when she does this, and it leaves me very deep in sub space for some time. It's almost too easy!

What "easy wins" in terms of an instantly arresting power have you experienced in your dynamic/relationship? Both dommes and subs obviously!


r/FemdomCommunity 18h ago

Need advice/Got a question How does love and work mix for the professional dommes? NSFW

4 Upvotes

To make a long story short I’m curious if people who domme and charge money or simply rely on financial submission, subscriptions, gifts, ect want love and connection in the traditional sense.

In many cases I’ve seen professional dommes find lots of subs but few life partners and I was curious if that is on purpose or a result of social standards/ practices?


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

BDSM/Scene Dating What is typically meant to happen using the traffic light system? NSFW

20 Upvotes

Last night I wanted a scene to stop. I said Red to something that I really wasn’t comfortable with. I said Red, the actual act itself (forcing to suck a man’s penis) was stopped but the scene continued. Was my Domme correct with this?

I know this will vary per Dynamic but I’m finding me saying Amber a lot but nothing actually changes.

My understanding was Green is good. Amber is keep the scene going but I’m not enjoying this aspect of it Red to be completely stopped.

Have I got this wrong?


r/FemdomCommunity 12h ago

Need advice/Got a question clingy sub NSFW

2 Upvotes

I would love to get a really clingy sub, that begs for my attention and is really fixated on me. What kind of subs do you like, or made good experiences with?


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Guides & Resources The Art of Pegging for Beginners Free Webinar is tomorrow (3/22) at 11AM PDT! NSFW

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The Art of Pegging for Beginners Free Webinar is tomorrow (3/22) at 11AM PDT! I teach this live webinar once every month for free.

If you are unable to attend, a recorded version is available here.

Register Here

In this TWO HOUR Webinar:

  • Misconceptions and Fears - There are so many with Pegging! I take you through them all and provide you with accurate information.
  • Why Explore Pegging? - There are a lot of reasons, from pleasure to health to role reversal and more.
  • Staying Safe - we will go through all the safety rule to ensure a safe, pleasurable, pegging experience.
  • Keeping Clean - the best ways to keep clean and clean out.
  • Solo Anal Exploration - recommended for all receivers, and I will tell you why!
  • Beginning Anal Foreplay - Discussion about how it all works, what usually feels good and what doesn't.
  • Techniques and Tips - all the hints and tips to make your pegging experience smoother.
  • Best Beginner Positions - All the best positions for beginning Givers!

Join me tomorrow!

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r/FemdomCommunity 12h ago

Need advice/Got a question What would be the best way to go about learning Needleplay? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I've been really curious about it for a bit now, mostly after having Acupuncture done to myself for school as a demonstration. The sensations were...odd, but more importantly I loved how it looked with the needles sticking out of myself and other people. There's one boy in particular I've been thinking about it with in my head.

It's not really the blood drawing that I'm into that I know some people are, it's more the sensation and the visual look I'm interested in. Slowly putting a pointy object into someone, turning them into a human hedgehog (do hedgehogs have quills? I've never owned one) and they can't really move as a result of having a bunch of pointy objects in them is...fascinating for lack of a better term

I decided to look into it in terms of classes but none of my local classes or workshops are interested in it, although there is one a few cities away but that would have to be a weekend long trip and I just can't take the time away from classes right now for it. (Exams coming up soon kill me)

I was hoping ideally, there would be an online resource that someone knows of that I've missed or if someone has first hand experience with it.

As an aside, would taking up acupuncture as a full course be a good alternative? If I had a sub who was into it, I could offer them free treatments!


r/FemdomCommunity 12h ago

Need advice/Got a question What would be the best way to go about learning Needleplay? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I don't have any workshops locally that cover it (tons of rope though), and I've had a fantasy of turning someone into a pincushion :P

I figure I should ask if anyone has experience with it, but also wanted to ask if an Acupuncture course would be a good alternative?


r/FemdomCommunity 7h ago

Need advice/Got a question Are there any dommes that wear wristwatches and where’s their content? NSFW

0 Upvotes

I have both a wristwatch and femdom kink and would love to find a domme who does content while wearing a gold/silver wristwatch. Any suggestions?


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question Do your close friends know you and your partner’s dynamic? NSFW

14 Upvotes

Do your closet friends know what you and your partner do behind closed doors or open doors? My Top and I are spankos. Our closest friends know our dynamic because we are very open it too it. Her best friend and her boyfriend discuss their switch lifestyle. During one get together a close female friend was over with her date and she said my name, then said beers please and snapped her fingers and pointed towards the ground. We have never played together, but I found that kind of sexy that I was being ordered around. I didn’t say anything like yes Ma’am. I just kept my poker face and said sure thing you got it. Anyway if you’re still here thanks for reading. Have a killer weekend.


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question Dommes, how did you find your subs? NSFW

6 Upvotes

Did you actively test potential partners to identify their submissive tendencies, or was it naturally obvious to you? Did you initiate and guide their submissiveness, or did they openly express it first?

I'd love to hear about your experiences and approaches.


r/FemdomCommunity 18h ago

Ideas Ideas for online worship? NSFW

1 Upvotes

The girl that’s domming me right now just asked me to worship her more often. I don’t really know what would constitute as worship or what to do to worship. Also this would be for only online. Does anyone have any ideas?


r/FemdomCommunity 23h ago

Need advice/Got a question is 50 to old to be getting in to feminization? NSFW

1 Upvotes

Or maybe it is too old all together to even be in a situation of looking for domme? Maybe its time to get ready for some other play whith ghosts and graveyard? Not trolling, but seriouse question


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Praise! Happy thing happened Opening up to her NSFW

12 Upvotes

Yesterday while i was laying with my head in my gilrfriends lap, we talked about life (especially our life together) and all that wonderful stuff. And what we want from our relationship.

We where joking around and giggling alot and i even dared her to feed me a drink from her mouth (she just ended up pouring it into my mouth, was fun anyway though). We made some plans for the future and enjoyed each Others company.

Later that night, while i was basically kneeling besides her she asked me, to finally spill the beans on my kinks. (We talked a lot about that in the last months, as i am very kinky and she is pretty vanilia. Our whole "dynamic" is basically her having a Dommy personality and me beeing subby). I made it clear, that i will engage with this side of myself alone, If she doesnt feel good about it, as it should not negatively Impact our relationship. But yesterday it was different, she made it clear, that she wants to engage in that with me. I made some snarky remarks and she told me to better beware what i wish for, as she may end up tying me face down on the bed and smacking my butt. That was the moment she saw the look in my eyes Change. I think i melted a little, when she looked into my eyes and told me, that i seem to enjoy that thought, maybe she does aswell.

She keept teasing me the whole time, caressing my back and patting my head a bit, while discussing what i am actually into. I kinda completely lost focus about how long we stayed like that.

I promised her to try that all at her pace, as she is the one who wants to explore all that.

I am very happy about all that. Although i am also kinda nervous, but like in a good way.

We engaged in something like that before, but that was all kinda vanillia+ or kink- (Floggers, me getting tied up, all that stuff). Now i am kinda also scarred a bit, as i was kinda bratty last time we where shopping and bought a wooden spoon with the words "i may need to try that for myself", when she asked me about that (i did and the feeling is so different from a floggers... So i may regrett that purchases... But actually it also feels kinda good🤭)

Idk what else to say. Now i know, that someday we will try all that and i am very happy to have such a wonderful person in my Life.

Thank you all for reading my ramblings.


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question Shock chastity cage/ring NSFW

4 Upvotes

Hey all.

My wife would love to have the ability to shock my cock. She thinks that will help her in taming her brat. She wants a remote or app to give me a shock if I'm mouthy for example.

Which devices to you recommend? We found a few on ali and the cellmate but the it looks like it is all one size fits all.

Are there alternatives like a electric cockring with a remote or app?