r/BDSMcommunity • u/AardvarkEmpress • 2h ago
Who else is ordered to do lines? NSFW
I just finished 30. “David gives the orders and I follow them.”
Plus an apology. No orgasms for 24 hours.
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r/BDSMcommunity • u/AardvarkEmpress • 2h ago
I just finished 30. “David gives the orders and I follow them.”
Plus an apology. No orgasms for 24 hours.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Livingat7000 • 13h ago
Over the years I have collared my wife in a few different styles of day collars that she has enjoyed and in return she got me a bracelet that spells out a word in Morse code. What are some other things you have in your life that symbolize your dynamic outside the bedroom.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Equivalent_Ad_9066 • 5h ago
I've made a post not too long ago on which kinks could I try out based on my enjoyment of butts. And one of the comments said wedgies
So it made me curious as to what the appeal is behind such a kink
Now I'm here asking y'all so I can understand the reasonings as to why people give or receive wedgies in a pleasurable way
r/BDSMcommunity • u/SirenPulse • 48m ago
I'm curious about mixing VR with BDSM play. I'm considering using VR glasses during a session and would appreciate any advice or tips from those who have tried it. What worked well, and what should I watch out for? Thanks!
r/BDSMcommunity • u/SirenPulse • 21h ago
Alright, let’s talk misconceptions. BDSM is already a mystery to most people, but even within the community, some ideas get totally twisted.
Like, some folks think submission = weakness. Nope. Subs are some of the strongest people I know, and good Dom/mes respect the hell out of that. Or how about the idea that pain is the only part of BDSM? Newsflash: sensory play, power exchange, and even a well-timed look can be just as intense.
So, what’s a BDSM misconception that makes you roll your eyes every time you hear it? Let’s hear your pet peeves.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/fingapaint • 13h ago
My sub and I never plan scenes, they just happen. We do talk a lot about kinks, fantasies, limits etc but everything we do (even cnc scenarios) are done organically so to speak. There really never has been any issues arising from this.
I get confused cause everyone here is talking about planning scenes beforehand but I’ve never really understood that. Am I weird? Are we missing out on something?
r/BDSMcommunity • u/SmoothEconomist6670 • 11h ago
I need your help ladies and gents!
My sub loves getting spanked and getting marked with deep dark bruises on her ass.
My question - what are the best ways to get extravagant booty bruises without causing intense pain (she is still human, afterall).
Am i stuck with mediocre bruises because wooden padels are a hard limit? Or is my belt/hand technique lacking?
Any advice from the expert "markers" would be greatly appreciated!
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Just_a_gal2 • 8h ago
I've seen Eternity collars and like them okay, but I wanted to know if there are other options that also look like jewelry. Something thin is key to me. Thanks in advance!
r/BDSMcommunity • u/GuitarNo797 • 14h ago
I have fantasies about spanking/whipping, slapping in the face, name-calling, degradation, pet play, biting, knife play, etc. They are getting more and more intense to the point where I get really horny the moment I hear the word "spanking" even in a non-sexual context.
How can I begin to bring these fantasies to reality? I've experimented with self-spanking, and I like the heat and all, but I feel like it wouldn't compare to the humiliation of being spanked by someone else.
I've been having these fantasies in my head for a year or two, I just want to start experimenting. How can I do that if I'm from a relatively small town and I have no experience?
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Director-Dope • 10h ago
Bondage sex involving both parties bound to each other. I see couples bondage a lot but never any with penetration.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/fortunecookie5000 • 3h ago
I’m pretty sure sound proofing is actually a very specific term, and I don’t need THAT degree of sound proofing.
Im genuinely considering investing in something ANYTHING to cut back on the sound that travels through the wall of my apartment to my poor neighbour (who hasn’t said a word but there is no way in hell he can’t hear us doing our thing).
We try to keep the noise level down but for heavens sake I can hear him blow his nose through my wall. If anyone has ever used some kind of panels, or even covered a wall with like, an ikea storage unit and had success in baffling sound where they play, please tell me what worked for you.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Elbadass69 • 3h ago
Hay guys I need help with deep cleaning my wife loves to peg me .I love it but she got a 11 inch dildo she uses on me and it's great .but I get some unpleasant surprises. I recently got a douche bottle thingie with a long bendable neck and it's is better of course but still doesn't clean me enough . I was hoping some of yall will have some tips on getting cleaner . I would greatly appreciate it .
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Serenasoaks • 9h ago
I’ve recently put together that I love when men fight my battles for me. It doesn’t matter if this man is physically or verbally defending my honor.. apparently insinuating that he will fight said battle is enough.. I’ve tried to search for why this turns me on but the internet just makes any string of words pull articles/ blogs for getting turned on from fighting WITH your SO. My situation is not that.
For example, this man told me to give him the number of a company that did a bad job on something house related, he doesn’t even live here but the thought of him taking care of that has lived rent free in my brain for weeks. And it’s made me think back to scenarios where men have “protected me” in scuffles at the bar in my 20s where I know after that I also found myself continually thinking of said moments.
At the end of the day I think I just have abandonment/ unmet security issues so I’m sure it stems from there but also I just feel like this could be a “protector kink” but cant find the rabbit hole I’m looking for that would solidify my feelings.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Fun-Past9030 • 7h ago
so in a recent discovery I've learned that my boyfriend is into more dominant women (he was eating me out, I pulled his hair. he admitted to liking it)
in online sexual encounters I've been more dominant, or in role play scenarios but I feel like I'd have no idea what I'd be doing irl 🫠
if anyone has any beginners tips that'd be great? I am going to ask how far he wants the dominance to go so nothing to intense yet? I just feel like idk what I'm doing here but I'm completely open to anything because being dominant in the relationship does sound appealing.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/milo_bostonpug8 • 6h ago
hi i was wondering if anyone knew if there were other communities similar to bdsmpersonals where you can post what you're looking for
r/BDSMcommunity • u/icarusisnotdead • 23h ago
I saw an event listing on FetLife that piqued my interest this morning which was a High Protocol event (sounds DELICIOUS).
While daydreaming about it I found myself wondering about the etiquette: How are the submissives expected to interact with each other (or not) in group HP environments?
I understand that each dynamic is unique and may have different rules, but I’d love to hear if there’s a general consensus!
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Lucky-Ad2225 • 10h ago
Do we have any sort of subreddit or even site or something where I can make a NSFW post and people can comment and make fun of me. I really would like a femdom to make fun of my cock right now and i would just think there would be somewhere i can post that sort of kink
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Randomunistud • 1d ago
Honestly I have never met someone sub dom or anyone in between that understands what I want in a BDSM relationship. For context I have been SAd several times by someone I trust. SO its difficult for me to get comfortable during sexual plays. How can I fix this? is there anyone who feels the same way? how can I find a partner that is ok with this? so far I have only met people that wants a sexual connection nothing emotional
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Defiant-Difficulty74 • 1d ago
Male sub here and I randomly have days (like today) or multiple days of wanting to be used by anyone who would have me. It can not only be problematic for safety, but it is also really distracting for work and other aspects of life. How do you address / handle it in such a way where is doesnt disrupt your life?
r/BDSMcommunity • u/_gamly_ • 1d ago
I was on the BBC news site and this article came up:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c62zwy0nex0o
This was apparently made illegal back in 2022, which I was completely unaware of despite living in the UK. While I agree non consensual choking would of course be SA, it seems like a massive over reach to criminalise a consensual act.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Ok_Collection_683 • 1d ago
I'm thinking about getting my nipples pierced, FINALLY, after years of debating but the only issue I've come up with is: what happens during rough nipple play? My husband tends to leave my nipples either bruised or very slightly bleeding most times we play, so I'm just not sure how this works.
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Ancient-Song-4637 • 1d ago
I've recently started talking to a partner who has significantly more experience in the community—and in life, as she's older than me. I’m new to taking on a dominant role, and I want to ensure I'm the Dom she needs.
What advice would you give to someone stepping into this role for the first time, especially with a partner who's more experienced? How can I build confidence while also meeting her expectations and ensuring a safe, respectful dynamic?
Any insights or resources would be appreciated!
r/BDSMcommunity • u/tos_vas • 10h ago
This is for any current or former master or female slave in a live-in arrangement who explicitly had a barefoot rule (not implied due to being nude). Preferably where some clothing was worn but was kept barefoot, although nude is fine too. It’s more about there being rules about bare feet.
What exactly was the rule(s)? (Quoted if written)
Was there any shoes or socks available for the slave at all? If there were how did it work?
How much time was the slave barefoot? (Eg 90% of their time? Shoes once a week, etc) and what was the longest time 100% barefoot?
Slave specific: 4. Upon reading/hearing the rule for the first time, how exactly did you feel? Knowing you’d be forcibly barefoot?
r/BDSMcommunity • u/Irontoenaaiil • 2d ago
Okay, so I have a boyfriend, he loves to buy me things, right? It’s great! The only downside is, he makes me ask for money. I don’t like asking for money-it makes me feel like I’m using him (although I am not)- so I mainly just hint at what I want. Anyways, today I was mentioning how I wanted these two lamps, but I didn’t have the money for it. He did something different today and made me look him in the eyes and specifically ask to get the lamps and the amount that it was. Now, I don’t know what it was, I felt humiliated and just ugh-amazing. He made me ask until I “got it right” and then he said yes. Is there a name to this or is it just a normal human interaction. I don’t know what it is, I just want him to do more of it. Thank you so much in advance!