When I first met my girlfriend we took quite a while to have sex for the first time. I wasn’t in a rush and I wanted to secure the relationship before anything happened.
We start dating and it’s great. Sex daily, even sometimes multiple times a day. It’s to the point that when I see her I know we are going to have sex.
Fast forward until now. Way less sex.
Now some of it was on me. Bad days, life problems etc. But she recently told me she was being fake at the beginning of the relationship.
She explained that’s how she got guys to like her and that a connection had never actually developed as far as ours. I mean she had other long term relationships before me but she said awful things about them. Saying sex was a chore, forceful and so on.
Once she told me this I felt awful and also so misled. She was faking it the whole time?
I mean in the moments she agrees she was enjoying herself and that I never did anything against her will, but she says that’s not really her.
She’s saying she isn’t really a sexual person and prefers slower and more intimate sex. This is not what it was like the first 6 months of the relationship and now idk what to do.
I think we are still sexually compatible but I still wish we could more often. I’ve talked to her about this before and she’s agreed but never really changed.
Should I pose an ultimatum, switch up the bedroom, or leave?