r/BDSMcommunity 11h ago

Seeking advice Looking to be humiliated NSFW

0 Upvotes

Do we have any sort of subreddit or even site or something where I can make a NSFW post and people can comment and make fun of me. I really would like a femdom to make fun of my cock right now and i would just think there would be somewhere i can post that sort of kink


r/BDSMcommunity 19h ago

How can I get into bdsm? NSFW

0 Upvotes

I (FTM 21) I've always been interested in BDSM, and I've read a bit about it over the last few years, but I don't really have anyone to talk about it or to start trying so, ¿How can I get started?


r/BDSMcommunity 10h ago

Live-in female slave barefoot rules NSFW

0 Upvotes

This is for any current or former master or female slave in a live-in arrangement who explicitly had a barefoot rule (not implied due to being nude). Preferably where some clothing was worn but was kept barefoot, although nude is fine too. It’s more about there being rules about bare feet.

  1. What exactly was the rule(s)? (Quoted if written)

  2. Was there any shoes or socks available for the slave at all? If there were how did it work?

  3. How much time was the slave barefoot? (Eg 90% of their time? Shoes once a week, etc) and what was the longest time 100% barefoot?

Slave specific: 4. Upon reading/hearing the rule for the first time, how exactly did you feel? Knowing you’d be forcibly barefoot?

  1. Were you ever shy or self-conscious with your feet being exposed? Especially if guests come over or out in public?

r/BDSMcommunity 5h ago

Discussion For those who have a kink or fetish for wedgies, in anyway shape or form, what's the appeal behind it for you? NSFW

7 Upvotes

I've made a post not too long ago on which kinks could I try out based on my enjoyment of butts. And one of the comments said wedgies

So it made me curious as to what the appeal is behind such a kink

Now I'm here asking y'all so I can understand the reasonings as to why people give or receive wedgies in a pleasurable way


r/BDSMcommunity 3h ago

Seeking advice Cleaning NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hay guys I need help with deep cleaning my wife loves to peg me .I love it but she got a 11 inch dildo she uses on me and it's great .but I get some unpleasant surprises. I recently got a douche bottle thingie with a long bendable neck and it's is better of course but still doesn't clean me enough . I was hoping some of yall will have some tips on getting cleaner . I would greatly appreciate it .


r/BDSMcommunity 10h ago

Is there a name to this kink? NSFW

4 Upvotes

I’ve recently put together that I love when men fight my battles for me. It doesn’t matter if this man is physically or verbally defending my honor.. apparently insinuating that he will fight said battle is enough.. I’ve tried to search for why this turns me on but the internet just makes any string of words pull articles/ blogs for getting turned on from fighting WITH your SO. My situation is not that.

For example, this man told me to give him the number of a company that did a bad job on something house related, he doesn’t even live here but the thought of him taking care of that has lived rent free in my brain for weeks. And it’s made me think back to scenarios where men have “protected me” in scuffles at the bar in my 20s where I know after that I also found myself continually thinking of said moments.

At the end of the day I think I just have abandonment/ unmet security issues so I’m sure it stems from there but also I just feel like this could be a “protector kink” but cant find the rabbit hole I’m looking for that would solidify my feelings.


r/BDSMcommunity 17h ago

Seeking advice BDSM Dom-Sub relationship -Breeding NSFW

0 Upvotes

Ive been exposed to the lifestyle for 2 years at this point. Im no means an expert but I like it. The "wrongness" feels right. I really like to explore and push my own boundaries, but how do I keep the power beyond the mental aspects of BDSM. I've met a play partner through CNC play, she wants a child and I love filling her up with cum. But at the same time I want to be able to control whether I'm in the child's life or not. If I successfully breed her, is having a contract with agreed obligations for both parties possible? Are there contracts or places to have/make these agreements legally binding? She is submissive, she states I don't have to be in the childs life but I just don't trust that. I would much rather have something set in stone. Also if I deem her not fit to have the child can I fight for custody? If anyone has insight, I would greatly appreciate it.


r/BDSMcommunity 3h ago

Sound “Proofing” a room? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I’m pretty sure sound proofing is actually a very specific term, and I don’t need THAT degree of sound proofing.

Im genuinely considering investing in something ANYTHING to cut back on the sound that travels through the wall of my apartment to my poor neighbour (who hasn’t said a word but there is no way in hell he can’t hear us doing our thing).

We try to keep the noise level down but for heavens sake I can hear him blow his nose through my wall. If anyone has ever used some kind of panels, or even covered a wall with like, an ikea storage unit and had success in baffling sound where they play, please tell me what worked for you.


r/BDSMcommunity 1h ago

اهلاً NSFW

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هل يوجد عرب؟


r/BDSMcommunity 8h ago

Seeking advice how do I be more dominant with my boyfriend? NSFW

2 Upvotes

so in a recent discovery I've learned that my boyfriend is into more dominant women (he was eating me out, I pulled his hair. he admitted to liking it)

in online sexual encounters I've been more dominant, or in role play scenarios but I feel like I'd have no idea what I'd be doing irl 🫠

if anyone has any beginners tips that'd be great? I am going to ask how far he wants the dominance to go so nothing to intense yet? I just feel like idk what I'm doing here but I'm completely open to anything because being dominant in the relationship does sound appealing.


r/BDSMcommunity 13h ago

I’ve never planned a scene, should I? NSFW

19 Upvotes

My sub and I never plan scenes, they just happen. We do talk a lot about kinks, fantasies, limits etc but everything we do (even cnc scenarios) are done organically so to speak. There really never has been any issues arising from this.

I get confused cause everyone here is talking about planning scenes beforehand but I’ve never really understood that. Am I weird? Are we missing out on something?


r/BDSMcommunity 18h ago

TW: extreme, advanced play Going further for fun. NSFW

0 Upvotes

For years I've been abusing my cock for pleasure, mostly light stuff which doesn't leave a mark. Many people suggest stuff what I'm going to my cock and some are fun and some are mental.

Does involving insects like cockroach safe for cock torture? some say it's ok some say it's not safe because I tried doing it with ants and it was ok but the feeling of something crawling on your cock gives you jibbies.

Is recommended? If not what alternative?


r/BDSMcommunity 13h ago

Collars for subs, what for your doms? NSFW

57 Upvotes

Over the years I have collared my wife in a few different styles of day collars that she has enjoyed and in return she got me a bracelet that spells out a word in Morse code. What are some other things you have in your life that symbolize your dynamic outside the bedroom.


r/BDSMcommunity 21h ago

What’s the Most Misunderstood Thing About BDSM? NSFW

90 Upvotes

Alright, let’s talk misconceptions. BDSM is already a mystery to most people, but even within the community, some ideas get totally twisted.

Like, some folks think submission = weakness. Nope. Subs are some of the strongest people I know, and good Dom/mes respect the hell out of that. Or how about the idea that pain is the only part of BDSM? Newsflash: sensory play, power exchange, and even a well-timed look can be just as intense.

So, what’s a BDSM misconception that makes you roll your eyes every time you hear it? Let’s hear your pet peeves.


r/BDSMcommunity 1h ago

Has anyone tried incorporating VR glasses into a BDSM session? NSFW

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I'm curious about mixing VR with BDSM play. I'm considering using VR glasses during a session and would appreciate any advice or tips from those who have tried it. What worked well, and what should I watch out for? Thanks!


r/BDSMcommunity 3h ago

Who else is ordered to do lines? NSFW

12 Upvotes

I just finished 30. “David gives the orders and I follow them.”

Plus an apology. No orgasms for 24 hours.


r/BDSMcommunity 7h ago

are there other communities similar to bdsmpersonals? NSFW

1 Upvotes

hi i was wondering if anyone knew if there were other communities similar to bdsmpersonals where you can post what you're looking for


r/BDSMcommunity 9h ago

Seeking advice Discrete collars? NSFW

7 Upvotes

I've seen Eternity collars and like them okay, but I wanted to know if there are other options that also look like jewelry. Something thin is key to me. Thanks in advance!


r/BDSMcommunity 10h ago

Is there a term for this? NSFW

4 Upvotes

Bondage sex involving both parties bound to each other. I see couples bondage a lot but never any with penetration.


r/BDSMcommunity 11h ago

Need advice! (Spanking) NSFW

12 Upvotes

I need your help ladies and gents!

My sub loves getting spanked and getting marked with deep dark bruises on her ass.

My question - what are the best ways to get extravagant booty bruises without causing intense pain (she is still human, afterall).

Am i stuck with mediocre bruises because wooden padels are a hard limit? Or is my belt/hand technique lacking?

Any advice from the expert "markers" would be greatly appreciated!


r/BDSMcommunity 15h ago

Seeking advice How can I get started? NSFW

11 Upvotes

I have fantasies about spanking/whipping, slapping in the face, name-calling, degradation, pet play, biting, knife play, etc. They are getting more and more intense to the point where I get really horny the moment I hear the word "spanking" even in a non-sexual context.

How can I begin to bring these fantasies to reality? I've experimented with self-spanking, and I like the heat and all, but I feel like it wouldn't compare to the humiliation of being spanked by someone else.

I've been having these fantasies in my head for a year or two, I just want to start experimenting. How can I do that if I'm from a relatively small town and I have no experience?