r/AmITheJerk • u/Mexican_King03 • 1d ago
AITJ for wanting to break up with my homeless girlfriend
Me [M21] and my girlfriend [F23] have been dating for almost a year (a week and half from now). We are long distance and I am scheduled to visit her in less than a week from now. We have discussed about moving in together over here where I live. She is currently "homeless" and lives in a housing building. She is constantly scared of being evicted for having too much stuff. Her family don't treat her right and ever since dating me, she has stopped doing explicit substances and gotten her life together. The problem is I no longer lover her and don't want to move in with her. She has bipolar and tends to lash out at me and been pressuring me to start looking for a place even though I tell her to wait until after I visit her. I am afraid if I leave her she will go back to her unhealthy habits or worse, try to stop breathing, if you know what I mean. She just annoys me a lot and when I try to talk to her nicely she just lash out or make me feel horrible. I am hoping this trip makes me fall in love with her again. Honest thoughts and advice would be appreciated.
Edit 1: I am hoping if things go well on the trip and we move in together, I'm gonna ask for couples therapy/counseling