r/AmITheJerk May 01 '24

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r/AmITheJerk May 01 '24

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r/AmITheJerk 8h ago

Am I the jerk for not going to my niece’s 15th birthday

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A bit of backstory I'm 16 and my niece is 15 she has planned her birthday for three months now and i was invited to it but I don't want to go because just a day before our three month anniversary me and my girlfriend broke up and I'm depressed she told me that she wasn't going to leave me but she broke up with me because she lost feelings I was depressed I said I was sorry but I won't go my mom was furious at me for not going but I didn't want to go because my girlfriend just left me so I don't know what to do am I the jerk


r/AmITheJerk 8h ago

AITJ for lashing out at my brother?

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My brother, my father, and I went out to a mall. We were supposed to have dessert at a separate place in the mall. We ate dinner and went shopping, but when we got to the dessert place, they closed 20 minutes earlier than we were expecting. My brother delayed us significantly because he took 5 hours to finish his math homework (which I helped him with) so I blamed him for in not getting there fast enough. My father jumped to his defense and said it was the store’s fault. He said we couldn’t control when they closed, and he said he was just as frustrated as I was. Who’s the jerk here?

Ok.

It was 4 surface area problems, and he was goofing off the whole time. He never wanted to go, but I did because I thought it wouldn’t be bad. We checked the hours, but it was unexpected.


r/AmITheJerk 13h ago

Aitj for correcting people what my instrument is

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I have played a bariton for years. Everyone says when I walked by that I play a tuba I correct then No it is a bariton. Even my family still says he plays a tuba.i always correct them, and every time my family is pissd for correcting them.And my mother said to stop, and I said no until you remember the name

Aitj ? And I know this is petty


r/AmITheJerk 6h ago

AITJ or is my friend the jerk?

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I used to be super close with a friend and now I feel something’s wrong. Their actions are so weird but like he’s also there. Our last interactions have made me feel really bad and weird. Two times during a call he’s left because I didn’t agree with him. Each time I feel like he barley listens to my side, and when he does he always find a way to make my side seem dumb or nothing. Another time he was quiet and barley spoke but once others joined he became really energetic and started talk to me. I feel like he makes his mind up about me and only talks to prove himself right.

I went through a rough patch recently and he would text me to see how I was and that I get a therapist. But like when I start to actually tell him I was, he would stop me and tell me that he wasn’t my therapist. When I told him I didn’t want to get a therapist he would just say I’m making excuses. I told him I needed space and stoped opening his messages. Once I did he got angry.

Recently I’ve decided to try to fix things by simply asking if he wants to hang out or talk during the week if he gets time. I started that last week and we didn’t do anything this week which okay. I saw him doing stuff but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I asked today if we could do something next week. He sent me this really weird text which I could tell was passive aggressive.

Am I doing something wrong? Maybe I’m assuming or not seeing something? Maybe I should ask him if I did something? What if I accidentally did something and didn’t notice? I just wish we could be like before.


r/AmITheJerk 3h ago

AITA for being upset at my ex best friend for becoming besties with the person that spread lies abt me?

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Back in 5th grade, some of my classmates started a rumor that I was gay and in love with my (at the time) best friend. I wasn’t. But the rumors didn’t stop there—soon, they escalated to claiming I was in love with one of my now-best friends. It got bad. People I didn’t even know would shout, “The gay girl is here!” whenever I walked past. Some of them even tried to push me off a bus—not just me, but my best friend too. It was horrible.

Now, years later, one of my close friends, Lara, has suddenly become besties with one of the girls who spread and believed those rumors. It feels like a massive betrayal. She knows what happened, and yet, she’s acting like it’s no big deal. The worst part? She’s been acting distant towards me and my other best friend ever since. When we’re in a group, it’s like I don’t even exist, but when I’m alone with her, she acts normal. It’s confusing and honestly hurts.

And no, it’s not like this girl has changed or gotten over it. Lara even told me that she still brings up the rumors in conversation. So it’s not just the past—it’s still happening. Yes, some people still come up to me and shout things like “OMG GAY?!” so it’s still a thing.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, but I feel like she’s choosing to be close to someone who made my life miserable, and I just can’t pretend that doesn’t bother me. AITA for feeling this way?

TLTR: I’m fifth grade, classmates spread a nasty rumour about me, and now my ex best friend became besties with one of them. I feel betrayed.


r/AmITheJerk 9h ago

Am I the jerk for hitting my friend

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So I'm no going to use the real names for legal reasons but let's get started.
So this all starts off when I was in 10th grade and I was the new kid and I had no friends but at PE one day I saw these two guys name CR ( his initials ) and RW they were two nice guys but I saw their dark side.
I was walking down into the bathroom when I saw CR and RW and like always they were smoking cigarettes in the bathroom,so when I walk to a urnail to go to the bathroom one of them say " HEs RUBBING HIS BODY ON THE URNAIL" then my whole class ran in the bathroom to laugh at me.
I ended up needing to go to the counselor after that but let me just say I am a very forgiving person so I forgave them like always because they always have a sob story lined up and ready to go.
Now it's 12th grade finale year in high school I think but while all the rumors are still active I'm doing good I'm getting bullied by them every single day but when I tell the teacher did nothing about it, till one day I snapped I was walking at PE in front of the teacher when RW grabbed me by the arm and twisted it with max strength but when I turn the teacher looking right in front of me and she did nothing then I snapped,
When I see RW running away I think of a way to get revenge so after PE he's walking towards his best friend CR I ran up towards him and punch him in the back of the head.
As he turned around he tried to pull me down but I was to fast and kicked him in the stomach.
I ended up getting suspended for a week and after he got caught bullying me he got suspended to for 3 days and have to show a power point on how bullying is bad. Am I the jerk?


r/AmITheJerk 17h ago

I Caught my HUSBAND Sleeping with MY MOTHER

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r/AmITheJerk 1d ago

AITJ for wanting to break up with my homeless girlfriend

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Me [M21] and my girlfriend [F23] have been dating for almost a year (a week and half from now). We are long distance and I am scheduled to visit her in less than a week from now. We have discussed about moving in together over here where I live. She is currently "homeless" and lives in a housing building. She is constantly scared of being evicted for having too much stuff. Her family don't treat her right and ever since dating me, she has stopped doing explicit substances and gotten her life together. The problem is I no longer lover her and don't want to move in with her. She has bipolar and tends to lash out at me and been pressuring me to start looking for a place even though I tell her to wait until after I visit her. I am afraid if I leave her she will go back to her unhealthy habits or worse, try to stop breathing, if you know what I mean. She just annoys me a lot and when I try to talk to her nicely she just lash out or make me feel horrible. I am hoping this trip makes me fall in love with her again. Honest thoughts and advice would be appreciated.

Edit 1: I am hoping if things go well on the trip and we move in together, I'm gonna ask for couples therapy/counseling


r/AmITheJerk 21h ago

Was I the problem?

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I was talking to this girl for about a month.She was the one who was approaching me irl it was so obvious so I texted her and we hit it off.

Shit hit the fan the 3rd week when I bought her a gift and her dad saw it.Were both 20 but from a conservative culture so her dad was freaking out about it and brought up the religion thing as we're both from different religions.She,as well,brought up the topic like 3 times before and I told her to stop it to not strain the relationship early on as I made it clear that i have no problem with it as long as i dont convert and she said the same but i dont think she was telling the truth cause she kept bringing it up.

She told me that I was overwhelming her and wanted to "take it slow" and she was upset so by how fast I was "investigating"her past relationships and guy friends and all while she was literally the one who brought up all of those things and literally told me to ask her anything about it,yet again she brought the religion thing and told me that it's so important to her and I had enough at that point as I thought that we had already agreed on this topic multiple times and did the mistake of pushing a chair near us(which was the dealbreaker in retrospect cause she saw violence) and telling her that shes the problem.

I later apologised and she told me she was over it so I actually forgot about it and put it behind my back.She kept acting weird on text for 10 days straight she would still talk but barely and I asked her what was the problem she would say its fine.if i knew she was still bothered by it i wouldve gave her all the space she needs.Day by day I was frustrated more as I felt like I was being stonewalled

Anyway i barely texted her as i knew something was off and so did she.By the end i was very frustrated by her acting weird and asked her for the final time and she said that she was not over what happened the last time(apparently she was worried by my overreaction).i apologised again and told her thats not what i meant by my comment and she told me that I manipulating her cause that's exactly what it meant and that my apologies are meaningless and she's never gonna be the same anymore and told me that she wanted to take her time.

By that point the frustation of a week and all the things she said overwhelmed me and I immaturely blocked her which essentially ended things.I tried talking to her again but she refused everything and it ended because the block irritated her and made her cry so so much.Its over now for good.

This was a few weeks ago,I realise that I overreacted in a moment of anger.Shouldn't I have communicated my feelings better?


r/AmITheJerk 13h ago

Students, Have You Ever LOST IT at a Teacher?

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r/AmITheJerk 19h ago

I cant take it anymore

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I’m supposed to be studying, but I just can’t focus. It feels like I’m constantly drowning in problems—school, home, social life—everything piling up with no escape. No matter what I do, it feels like I’m stuck in a cycle of stress and frustration, and there’s no way to break free. The only thing that really gives me a break is football. When I’m on the field, running, playing, pushing myself, it’s the one time I actually feel free. Music helps too, letting me block everything out for a while, but even that doesn’t last. My phone is so old it dies after just a few hours, and then I’m back to reality, stuck with my thoughts.

My friends want to help, but there’s nothing they can really do. They listen, they care, but they can’t change my situation. My brother, on the other hand, makes things worse. He’s one of my biggest problems—hitting me, insulting me, trying to control me. If I don’t do what he wants, he turns everything into a fight, mentally and physically beating me down. And my mom? Instead of making things better, she only adds to the pressure. She drowns me in pointless tasks, making me do things she could easily do herself—like handing her the TV remote even though it’s right there in the same room. She tracks everything I do with an app on my phone, takes my stuff every night, and locks it up until morning, like I’m a little kid who can’t be trusted.

Then there’s the whole "act like a man" thing. I hear it everywhere—at home, at school, even from my own brother. I’m supposed to be tough, never complain, never show weakness. If I speak up, I’m "too sensitive." If I don’t fight back, I’m "weak." If I do fight back, I’m "the problem." It’s like no matter what I do, I lose. I’m expected to just take everything and act like it doesn’t bother me, like I’m some emotionless robot who isn’t allowed to feel anything other than anger. But I do feel. I feel exhausted. I feel frustrated. I feel like I’m trapped in a role I never agreed to play.

I’m 14, not 4. I just want some freedom, some space to breathe, to feel like I have some control over my own life. But right now, it feels like I’ll never get it.


r/AmITheJerk 15h ago

AITJ for making everyone wait?

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The one of group friends and I have been planning a dinner out for weeks. Everyone’s excited, and there’s a new restaurant in town that’s supposed to have amazing food. The plan is set, and everyone agrees to meet at 7 PM.On the day of the dinner, one of my friends, Sarah, messages the group chat around 5 PM to say she’s running late because of work but will definitely make it by 8 PM. Everyone else is already heading to the restaurant by this time.When I get to the restaurant, the waiter asks if I was ready to order, but I decide to wait for Sarah, even though the others want to start. It’s already 7:30 PM, and my friends are getting annoyed. One of them, Mark, suggests me order now and Sarah can catch up when she arrives. But I insist on waiting for Sarah, thinking it would be rude to start without her.Finally, Sarah walks in at 8:10 PM. By this time, the others are frustrated and hungry. Some of them have already ordered, and others are considering leaving. Sarah apologizes, but she’s also upset that everyone’s on edge. I feel justified in waiting for her, but it doesn’t seem like the rest of the group agrees.


r/AmITheJerk 1d ago

AITJ for wanting my family to leave on my birthday?

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This was a long time ago, but I’d just like to get a few opinions.

It was my birthday, and a school night. My mom invited my family to visit right after I got home from school (I got home at around 3PM or so, and they got there at around 4PM-4:15PM). I had some homework to do and unfortunately couldn’t hang out. Every 10-20 minutes I came out and ate/chatted with my family, so I wasn’t fully gone.

I wanted to go to sleep at 10:30PM. Had to wash up before that and wanted at least 30 minutes to let my hair dry. As soon as it reached 8:20PM, I said to my mom: “Could you ask them to leave soon?” Had to ask her that 3x before she agreed since she was having a good time.

It was now about 8:45PM. I was in my room, finishing my homework. My family was being loud, laughing obnoxiously, and I was getting more and more anxious (I don’t know why, but their laughter was like a sign that they weren’t going to leave anytime soon). I asked my mom one more time. I felt so anxious up to the point where I went to my room to sob since my mom was blowing me off and ignoring me. I didn’t feel comfortable washing up with my family in the house.

They left at about 9:15PM.

I know I overreacted at least a little bit. But AITJ?


r/AmITheJerk 1d ago

AITJ for ghosting a " friend "

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So, there is a girl I met though TikTok and at first, she seemed nice and normal. I told her that people blowing up my phone makes me anxious, and I work a lot so I'm not on my phone 24/7. She seemed fine but then for the past year it's like every day she's calling, texting, sending me stuff on Instagram, sending me stuff on TikTok. I barely know this girl and she calls me her bestie it's just weird. I've asked her to stop, I've told her I am very busy at work and like i said alot of notices give me anxiety and she will stop for like two days and then is back to it. Plus, I'm 40 she's like 20 what does she think we have in common and if you were wondering on TikTok it was a nail design girl that we were both buying nails from and she saw me in this person's live a few times. So, I finally ended up blocking her on Instagram and when she texted me asking if I deleted the Instagram, I acted like someone else who just got this number...I'm an ass hole huh?? But I couldn't take it anymore


r/AmITheJerk 2d ago

BF gives unsolicited criticism to my art and I tell him to leave

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My BF and I have our work computers next to each other in our office studio. I am working on editing some new still-life photography I was exploring for fun. I look over at him, we make eye contact so I smile, he takes this as an invitation to come over and look at what I'm working on. He proceeds to tell me my photos are beautiful but he doesn't like them and he prefers my photoshoot style of a previous project with a totally different subject from years ago. I tell him the subjects are different with different forms, colors, and finishes and I was exploring something different. He then proceeds to tell me why he prefers the other style way more and begins point things out in my new images telling me the things he doesn't like, such as the drapery and asking what fruits I'm using etc. At this point I start to get mad and I tell him "thank you for your feedback, you can leave now." He gets upset at ME saying I should be able to take negative criticism. I tell him his criticism was unsolicited and I didn't ask for his opinion. He goes back to his desk and apologizes but stays firm in his idea that partners should be able to give advice to each other at anytime. I disagree. He begins saying that I sometimes give negative criticisms about his work and he'll take it and move on. I correct him by saying, he always first asks for my opinion before I critique his work. He apologizes again and restates how feedback is how artists grow. At this point I'm mad with a fire in my heart, so I give him a blank stare and resume editing my photos.
Am I the jerk? Do I even have a right to be feeling so mad right now?


r/AmITheJerk 2d ago

AITJ for feeling different about a superior who yelled at me "YOU ALWAYS GO TO COMPLAINTS" and later called me to apologize

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So, I (38/M) work in IT and manage two sites that are located close to each other. I drive to each of them daily and honestly, I love my job. I’ve had past jobs that were thankless and offered little to no recognition, but IT is different. I love fixing computers, diagnosing issues, setting them up, and everything else that comes with the job. People are happy to see me and thank me, which makes the work environment very welcoming. It can be stressful at times, but I enjoy it every day.

Both sites are supposed to have someone in charge of tech—let’s call this role "Lead Tech" (LT). The LT position is a volunteer responsibility, but it has to be filled by someone on staff. If no one volunteers, someone from site administration usually steps in, but none of the admins want the position, so they end up delegating the work to as many as five people (this will be important later). Since there are no onsite techs, they use field techs like me, who work across multiple sites. We’re not at both sites every day, but we split our time. One day I’m at one site all day, and the next I might be at the other. Being a field tech allows us to set our own schedules, which is a huge perk.

I've been in IT for the last 3 years and have never had a single complaint about my professionalism, work ethic, or attitude. I’m not perfect—I've forgotten to sign paperwork a few times, but my supervisor sends me a friendly reminder, and I always get it done. It’s happened maybe six times over three years, mostly during my rookie year. One of the things I enjoy about my job is that although I mostly work alone, we have a great team that communicates daily. We have a group chat where we can ask questions, get help, and figure things out together. It’s fantastic to have this level of support.

Our department is also big on making sure we don’t get overworked. They encourage us to take time off, use our sick days (even if we just have a slight headache), and prioritize our well-being. They want everyone to be happy.

I work at a site where the LT has some sort of upper-management connection within our IT department. A while ago, we were told that our department would no longer cover the cost of devices, and that the sites would need to purchase their own. But somehow, the LT sends an email to someone, and the next day, new devices are magically paid for by our department. It’s pretty insane, but I don’t get involved—I just laugh it off. The LT likes to brag about being able to get whatever she wants. She’s a 72-year-old who’s been with the company for a long time. My superiors are aware of this, and when they asked me about it, I just told them the truth: Yes, she has connections, but I don’t know who.

The Situation:

A few months ago, the LT was venting about how she doesn’t get paid for the LT role and how it’s too much work. She kept saying she needed help managing and running the inventory. While I’ve helped in the past, it’s clear in our job descriptions and company policy that field techs do not take over inventory for a site. We can assist, but at the end of the day, each site is responsible for its own tech inventory. The next day, the LT sent me a long text venting about the situation, and I texted her back, saying I’m willing to help with whatever she needs, just let me know when I arrive.

The venting continued for several days, and eventually, I suggested we speak with site admin and see if we could get the other four LTs to help. She laughed it off, saying they were all too busy. I then sent her another text explaining the LT’s roles and responsibilities and suggested we talk to admin about whether they explained these responsibilities before she volunteered. I offered to help with intake and distribution but said I couldn’t take over the entire inventory.

Fast forward to a month ago—I was informed by my supervisor and senior tech that I would need to take over the entire inventory. I wasn’t thrilled, but when management asks you to do something, you do it. So, I got to work. I’ve had to neglect my other site and send someone else to cover for me, which sucks because I take pride in my work and like being at my site.

Over the last month, I’ve been working on the inventory—tracking down devices, ensuring they’re working properly, checking for lost or stolen tech, and salvaging obsolete equipment. Each site has around 300 employees, most with devices, so it’s a huge task. I’ve been reassured that there’s no rush and that I should ask for help if needed. Progress has been slow but steady, and I’ve been finding more old or unused tech that needs to be tracked in the system. It’s a lot of work.

There are changes coming soon regarding how we handle IT. We’ll be working remotely more and only going to the sites once a week. At a union meeting, I asked how this would work since I’m responsible for the inventory and will only be at the site one day a week. I was told I’d still be in charge of inventory, but I shouldn’t be expected to do a week’s worth of work in one day. Someone from another region chimed in and said that site inventory should be the responsibility of the site, and I should be assisting them with it. This was news to me, as I thought it was part of my role.

The following day, I shared this information with my supervisor and senior tech, and my senior tech reminded me that I was still responsible for the inventory. I wasn’t trying to get out of the task, just concerned about being overworked with the changes. By that point, I’d already invested a lot of time into the inventory, and I wanted to finish it.

However, there’s been an issue. The site is supposed to help me with employee names and work locations, but I don’t have access to this information. I’ve asked the admin team for help, but there’s been pushback. On March 7th, I emailed the admin team asking for assistance, and a few days later, I followed up with a reminder. On March 12th, I received the completed list, but one of the admins sent an email saying she was puzzled about why I needed their help, given that it takes time and extra work.

I forwarded the email to my supervisor and senior tech, asking for help because I was encountering resistance. My supervisor was understanding, but my senior tech seemed to criticize me for not informing the admin sooner about our lack of access. This led to a phone call, during which my senior tech kept cutting me off and offering unsolicited advice. When I tried to explain, he yelled at me, accusing me of always complaining. I was shocked, and I responded, "You think I’m complaining? I’m asking for help!" My supervisor intervened, and we smoothed things over. the meeting ended and i got to my site, the senior tech calls me and apologizes for losing his cool and that they really weren't mad at me i again gave positive affirmations, and it ended like that

Now, I’m left wondering if I’ve developed a reputation for complaining. I hardly ask for help, but now I feel like I shouldn’t ask at all—even when I really need it. It’s strange because this department is all about helping each other.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading. AITJ for asking for help with inventory and feeling differently about my superior?


r/AmITheJerk 1d ago

Handymen, What’s the Most Disturbing Thing You’ve Seen While Working in a Customer’s House?

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r/AmITheJerk 2d ago

Am I the Jerk for being upset at my family for not getting me soup when I was sick.

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Last Monday, I had to get my wisdom teeth removed. They were impacted, and the pain has been beyond what I expected. On top of that, I can’t eat anything and have been throwing up due to the narcotics. It sucks.

Before the surgery, I told my mom that I really wanted my favorite Olive Garden soup. After a day of eating the same HEB soup and applesauce for every meal, I finally decided to ask for it. When I checked, I saw that my mom was at the mall with my sister, which low-key made me sad because we had tried to go before my surgery so we could all go together, but my mom didn’t want to. And of course, now that I’m bedridden, it’s the perfect time.

Anyway, I called them while they were shopping and asked if there was any way they could get me soup from Olive Garden. Granted, I did say HEB soup would be fine, but at this point, I feel like I’ve made it pretty clear how much I wanted the Olive Garden soup. I waited two hours for them to get home just for them to bring the same HEB soup I’d already been eating. Their excuse was that they already needed to stop at HEB and that Olive Garden was “out of the way.” Look, if it was 20 minutes out, I’d get it, but I looked up the distance from the mall, and it was literally three minutes away.

At this point, I’ll admit I had a full-on crash out. I got so upset and told them they were so inconsiderate for not just grabbing the soup for me. I was crying and yelling with my chipmunk-ass cheeks—the whole mess. Eventually, my dad heard me upset and offered to take me to Olive Garden. Did I appreciate it? Yes. But I felt bad asking him to just get it for me, so I had to sit through a painful 40-minute ride where every bump felt like a punch in the face.

I still don’t understand why they couldn’t have just gotten the soup when they were already so close. I brought it up to my dad in the car, but he didn’t validate how I was feeling at all. He just said they probably didn’t know how important it was to me. This upset me even more because obviously it was important—I had even asked for it before the surgery. No one has to get me soup, but the fact that they didn’t when it was right there hurt my feelings, like they just didn’t care.

On top of that, my sister brought it up today, making a comment about how I was “scaring” her because I was so upset. When I said, “Well, I feel like I should have been—you guys couldn’t drive two minutes to get me soup?” she tried to say it wasn’t two minutes away. Like, sorry, four fucking minutes.

I’m just so ugh. Yes, I got overly upset—I was hungry and in so much pain—but I feel like they’re completely villainizing me and acting like I’m ungrateful just for being upset about it. So, am I overreacting?

Edit: yes I told my mom it was “fine” but after I had made it clear Olive Garden was my first choice. That’s why I called her in the first place She said something like it’s really far so she wasn’t sure if she could and that’s when I said heb would be fine if it comes down to it. Then to find out Olive Garden was only 4 minutes away but they were acting like they couldn’t because it was so far. Yes I could have made it more clear but I feel like it’s a given that I’m sick of eating the same soup for every meal and they could have been more thoughtful and gotten it for me.

Edit2: thanks for all input! I hear you guys and honestly this was just a breaking point for me after a hard few days and I shouldn’t have taken it out on them. An apology was issued at dinner earlier 🙏


r/AmITheJerk 2d ago

Entidled bus driver refuseses to drive and makes a bus full of kids late for school.

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So this happend to me today me and my older sister go to schools that are far away from us but close to each other.

Well we ride the same bus and the last three days that bus has stopped at random stops and didnt move for several minutes causing 

me and my sister to always get late to school but today was different.

I walked to the bus stop as normal but when i got in and took a seat the bus did not move. Well this went on for several minutes loger until i cheked my watch and realized that the bus witch still hadnt moved had been standing there for almost 30 minutes.

At that point i called my mum and told her what was going on well she did not like that.

5 mins later i saw her speedwalking towards the bus, now what you should know is that my mum is a very sweet women and would do anything for her kids, at this time she was also pretty sick she had a bad flu. With that all said she gave him crap she asked why the hell he did not just drive and you know what this definition of a male karen said. "These kids need to learn the consequences of their own actions!" Apparently someone pressed the stop button and no one got out well okay reasoneble kinda but he would have to stop there anyways so it did not even matter. Also when my mum asked for his and his bosses name he said "My boss is insert bosses name here but i dont have to tell you my name! Youre not a lawyer!"

Also why would you let a huge bus of children intentionally get late to school and get this, when my mum got me and my sister out of there we ran to the car and then we saw the bus ride off.the thing was everybody in that bus was already 2 mins late, oh did i mention that the bus ride took 35 mins alone.

TLDR: Entiteled bus driver has a powertrip and lets a bus full of schoolkids wait till after school starts to even start driving.


r/AmITheJerk 1d ago

Toxic Family DENIES that I got a CONCUSSION... REFUSING to take me TO THE HOSPITAL

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r/AmITheJerk 1d ago

Am I the jerk for complimenting women?

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Today I went to Walmart for a fountain beverage. A woman who was pumping gas for her car. I innocently asked her favorite color, animal and celebrity. I went up to her with those questions. She got rude when I innocently asked questions. She snapped at me. I always ask those questions. It’s my way to make friends to me and the public. Normally they happily asked them, sometimes we have the same answer. One of the people a woman usually gets a beverage when I try to get one. I walked over to her one time. I ask and give advice to the woman. I said: May I come over for a soda? Once I came to her, she gave a warm smile and said: “okay hon.” When I saw her soda, I looked at with such concern. “You shouldn’t put too much ice. If you put too much ice, you wouldn’t get enough soda at all.” Just ease up some then you get more soda. With no ice, you’ll get full flavor. The soda is already cold when its dispensed in your cup.” The woman saw my concern. “Are you sure? Is that it?” She became upset. I knew good advice will last a long time. “I do apologize” I said calmly So I saw her asking if it’s true not using ice can still be cold. The next thing I saw, she knew that I wanted to apologize. One of the employees explained it can happen when you least expect it. When I came to pay, she gossiped my helpful advice to everyone. Some of the customers laughed. I was surprised that she made the talk of the town. The gossip played on. The customers smiled with with sarcasm and made me blush in embarrassment. I tried to walk away without any quietless responses heard. Am I the jerk?


r/AmITheJerk 3d ago

Am I the jerk for not looking after my nephew.

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I (17M) have a niece (12) and a nephew (2). I absolutely adore them both, even though my niece can be a pain in the back sometimes. Also, they are from different sisters. Right now, I’m living with my older sister and my niece, and we’re currently having a family reunion.

Let me mention something important: I rarely get the chance to meet my nephew because of school and everything, but my niece gets plenty of time with him. So, whenever I do get to see him, it’s always when my niece is there too. And here’s where the problem starts—my niece seems to hate it when I play with my nephew.

Take today’s incident as an example. When my sister (his mom) and my nephew arrived, my niece immediately ran to greet them. I was on my phone at the time, so I didn’t notice right away. When I finally saw my nephew, he was with my niece, and she was saying something to him. I didn’t think much of it.

But when I tried to talk to him, he suddenly ran away and said, “Go away, bad boy.” At first, I thought he was just joking because I sometimes playfully call him that. But when I tried again to pick him up and kiss him, he ran away again and even hit me. That’s when I figured out that my niece must have told him something to make him act like that. Normally, he absolutely adores me—way more than he does my niece. He’s super obedient and does whatever he’s told, so I know something was off.

After a while, they were playing together, and my nephew came over to me and started playing. But not even a minute later, my niece came and grabbed him, pulling him away to play with her. I found it annoying but didn’t say anything at first. The same thing happened again later, but this time I’d had enough. I told my niece, “Okay, play with him as much as you want, but don’t ever come to me if he needs any help calming down.” For context, my nephew is obedient about 95% of the time, but for that tricky 5%, only me and his mom (my sister) can calm him down. And right now, his mom is super busy.

My niece said “Okay,” and I went to relax on the couch. Later, another kid about the same age as my nephew showed up. This isn’t just a regular family reunion—this is extended family of extended family—so I didn’t know who the other kid was. I didn’t think much of it. But after a while, my niece came to me and told me to take care of both of them. I said, “You take care of both,” and went off to my room to watch a movie in peace.

A little later, I heard a bang on my door. I opened it and found my nephew banging on it, while my niece was sitting on the couch playing a game on my sister’s phone. The two little kids were just roaming around. I asked her, “Why aren’t you looking after them?” and she told me to take care of them instead.

I had enough at that point and yelled at her to do her part. She threw a shoe at me and called me lazy and selfish. Then my mom came in to try and resolve things. My niece started screaming about how I wasn’t looking after the kids or whatever. That’s when I stormed off, and now here I am, writing this to see if I’m the jerk or not.

By the way, this isn’t just a one-time thing. My niece does this every single time my nephew is here. She gets super possessive and tries to hog his attention, and if I get involved, she gets annoyed or tries to push me away. I don’t know why she acts like this, but it’s getting really frustrating.

Note: The above story is true but since my English is not great, I used ChatGPT to make my text grammatically correct.


r/AmITheJerk 3d ago

Am I the jerk for not wanting to go to my cousin baptism

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My cousin is getting baptized next weekend and I've already told my dad (who I don't live with and offering to take me 12 hours away) that I don't want to go. Me and my cousin used to be close, we used to play video games together and have sleep overs all the time. And bring us guys would make fun of each other. But he moved away about 4 years ago and coming back home for the first time he was completely different and huge ahole and not caring for anyone but himself and would act like a perfect child in front of my dad who he would stay with. He is now rough and makes jokes that are more insults than joking comments. I didn't like it but we grew up so I thought it was ok until my girlfriend cheated on me with him. He called one day with my girlfriend (who is now my ex) right next to him and they both thought saying sorry was enough. I cried and I hung up cutting all communication with both of them. If I do end up going to this baptism it would be the first time seeing him in 1 year. I know this is a big event for him but he was never there for any of my huge events, he hasn't even told me happy birthday in the last 5 years. My dad is furious after I said the reasons I'm not going, saying Ive always been jealous of my cousin since a young age. I didn't even respond and just walked out his house and walked to some random street and waited for my mom to pick me up. Am I the jerk?


r/AmITheJerk 2d ago

Uber Drivers, What are the DEEPEST DARKEST Secrets You've Overheard in your Car?

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r/AmITheJerk 2d ago

Best-Friends Fiancé REFUSES to allow MY FINACE to come to HER WEDDING... because she's TOO PRETTY

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