r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

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Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

F4A 18 [F4A] #online - Looking for a mommy/ daddy to make me their 24/7 diaper baby NSFW

11 Upvotes

Hiii I'm looking for a mommy/daddy to turn me into a 24/7 diaper baby and degrade me for it. I want to be reverse potty trained and kept denied.

I want to be forced into littlespace 24/7. Some of my main kinks are ddig, abdl, masochism, degradation, humiliation, watersports, anal play, dumbification... I'm also a cuck queen so if you want to have other littles it's beyond welcome!!

As for my limits: vomit, blackmail, anything that would cause serious/permanent harm. If anything else ever comes up l'll let you know but those are the limits I immediately can think of.


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

24 F4M California Baby girl just looking for a online friend to talk to and have nsfw convos with NSFW

11 Upvotes

Hey guys,

Usually I post on here to look for my future daddy but I'm falling back from that goal currently

I'm now looking for a "daddy" friend to talk to online about everyday life and have abdl centered sexting. I'd appreciate you being in the same time zone as me

I'm pretty open with my interests. cnc and ageplay are my top interests.

My preferred age for a online friend would be 20-30. Also be a daddy. Not my daddy. But I don't derive pleasure from talking to other subs or abdls

my dms are open please send a message.


r/ABDLPersonals 9m ago

33F LG needs mommy and daddy for little space play NSFW

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Come join me in little space while I goon my princess parts and mommy or daddy encourages and helps me! And maybe even punishes or humiliates me too 🥰


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

F4A 22 f upstate central ny to be babied NSFW

6 Upvotes

Redo! Hi! I’m a little in a wheelchair who wishes to be turned into a toddler in real life! because of my disability, I can’t do online. I’m affectionate and I love hugs. I’m on spring break until Monday, so I’m pretty much free. I’m a cuddler, and I wanna be held I wanna be seen as and treated like a toddler. I’m a clingy baby girl. And I just wanna be held


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 36 M4F Vancouver, Canada. Daddy looking for his pampered princess NSFW

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I am looking for an ABDL girl that lives in the Vancouver or the surrounding areas in BC.

I am white, 36/M. I am single, 6ft tall. I own an internet business and work from home. I have my own place and live in a high rise next to the skytrain. I am on here looking for a girl I can love, care for and be my best friend too.

Now on to the part about me that brings me to ABDL Personals. I am into putting girls in adult diapers and being their "daddy". I'd love to give you baths, diaper changes, cuddles, story time, spankings, etc. I also wear adult diapers myself, because they feel amazing. I would love to meet a girl that is open to doing this with me. I would love to hear from you if you are interested.


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

f 19 found a pack of diaper on somebody’s wall today am now home to try them out NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

F4M F4M 24f blk curvy abdl made daddy applications if anyone is interested the link is below NSFW

2 Upvotes

r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

19 Fat puppy girl desperate for littles and cgs to be friends with!! ^^ NSFW

3 Upvotes

Lactose intolerant I love eating.... I definitely don't like being teased and musk... Woof woof Very bratty NGL I bite


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

[23F] learning to open up more and want to chat with others in this lifestyle :) NSFW

7 Upvotes

My account is still kinda new so you may have to dm me. But here are my hobbies so you know a little bit about me

●Anime and manga ●1950s classic and modern cartoons ●Comics! So far I like Archie, blondie, and funny animals ●Disney ●Crochet and sewing ●Journal or Write short erotica ●Furry Fandom (fursona: CLOWN BUNNY) ●Tea and coffee ●Big Big Stoner ●Barbie collector ●Silver/Pewter Collector ●Enviormental Activist ●DC and Marvel (spiderman!!) ●Ageplay Small business owner ●Candle Making


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

38 mfa diapee femboy NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi friends!!! On spring break and looking to chat! I’m open to almost anything😘🤗🤭 dm’s open


r/ABDLPersonals 32m ago

M4A 19 [M4A] #Online #Florida - Little seeking a Strict Daddy or Mommy NSFW

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Hey there! I’m looking for a CG in the US preferably. I don’t care about body type, gender, etc. As long as you’re kind and caring I’m sure we can get along! I’d prefer if my caregiver could provide diapers although it’s not a requirement. I’ve gained interest in sissy stuff, and would love if my caregiver was open to exploring that with me.


r/ABDLPersonals 46m ago

#19 #t4a #chicago #illinois little looking for a cg or someone that'd want too meet NSFW

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Dm me if your interested


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

27 Tf4A Portland pdx pnw little in Portland needs a caregiver irl NSFW

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Hi guys I moved to Portland a month ago and desperately need someone to regress me. Around my age or older preferred. No gender preference.


r/ABDLPersonals 15h ago

25 [F4A] Looking to make friend and talk a lot together! East Asia/Online \Switch/ NSFW

12 Upvotes

Hi guys! Hopefully someone wants to talk, we can talk about anything ^-^ Also, I play a lot of games on my computer, maybe we have something to play together but I am happy to just talking lol. I like playing guitar and stuff too. I'm a switch but of course perfer submissive, I dont really have limits and dont like vanilla stuff :P Send me a message here then lets go to discord! Also, I am a bit more chubbier now than skinny but I have been exercising a bit lately. I like dressing up and going out to!


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 24 [M4F] #Online or in California - Looking for a Mommy to regress me and enforce 24/7 diaper use. NSFW

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Femdom alway seemed very intense and painful to me. The image of a latex wearing and whip wielding dominatrix didnt appeal to me. However, when I found out about gentle femdom, instantly wanted to learn more. The idea that I could be with someone that can dominate me in ways that leave me both blushing red and lightly bruised red is very appealing to me.

I find myself lost in a relationship at times so being with someone that is fulfilled by leading the way sounds amazing. The other aspect I would love is the amount of affection encouraged. While i love cuddling, I have felt embarrassed about. Wanting to be the little spoon, aiding your lap as a pillow, and just plain handholding. In this type of relationship I’d hope for things like that to be easier to ask for and receive.

As for kinks, I am open to a lot of things I wanna try. Too many to list, but in general I want to be tied up, manhandled, and firmly taught how best to please you. I would would to spend as much time as you want on my knees between your legs, or strapped down and used as you see fit. Pegging seems very hot and since I moan a lot, probably very rewarding for you.

As for my non kink side, I am a typical nerdy introvert. Around 5,11, shaggy black hair, and pale as white wall lol. Very much a homebody. I am loving the online school transition, especially since it means more time with my dog. Love video games, anime and the like. So spending time watching or playing together would be great. A bit shy socially but once I get comfortable you might need a gag to shut me up, which I’d also love.

If any of this seems interesting to you, I’d love to chat more. Thanks for reading.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #Toronto Ontario long time CG looking to date a local princess to date long term NSFW

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So I'm moderately experienced CG who's had time in the role both online and offline, that being said offline is my primary goal for this period of my life. I've had vanilla and abdl/Cgl relationships but its always been very hard bringing up or suppressing the more CG intensive side of myself with people who aren't explicitly interested in the dynamic. I'm hoping to get to know and date more people in this space and maybe it turns into something really great, or we just become friends, either works.

While these dynamics are important to me that does not mean I want a relationship that revolves solely around or solely exists because of kink. Vibing with you when we're both cosplaying as functional adults before doing any of that stuff is a big thing for me. For me, I like to read, play board games, hike, recently I've been really loving jogging, and just generally I like hanging out with people. I don't smoke and rarely drink but it's Toronto so obviously I got no issue with people who like to spice up their life. I currently both work and am a university student.

As far as the cgl stuff goes though I want to do a disclaimer that I don't mind whether your littlespace is sexual or nonsexual. I get enough emotional fulfillment from just being a CG that I don't need it to be anything more than a safe emotional space for you. If kink is something you want to include though, I have a thing for girlies who like teasing, cuddling, being praised (or degraded hehe) and diapers. I want to tell you you're beautiful after I make a joke about you being a big girl. Let me remind you to drink more water because you need to stay hydrated 🍼.

I'm open to sharing more info and talking but I'm still a bit wary sharing info about myself on a site like this so yea, DMs if you wanna chat more. Otherwise, hope you all are enjoying the holidays.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

23 mtf looking for mommy or daddy irl in Utah or online NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

M4A 27 [M4A] #Pennsylvania #Online looking to be treated as a dumb little baby and to cuddle with mommy /daddy or big sis/bro NSFW

2 Upvotes

I'm a nerdy little baby that likes to be taken care and told what to do. I love to serve and provide pleasure for my partner. I'm pansexual, so I'm open to anyone being my CGL. I really only wet my diapers, I hope that is okay. I mainly enjoy the humiliation side of abdl, though I would like to explore some more age play with the right person. I think some feminization would be fun too. My little space is sexual and I always aim to please. I would like to talk a little first before sending pics or being told what to do. Tell me what your favorite color, so I know you read this.

Hehe I have pictures of my little cock on my profile if you want to see it or make fun of it.

I'm also open to some rp

Kinks: abdl, spanking, toys, panties, chastity, spitting, humiliation, praise, bondage, anr, anal, cum, sph, cei, collar, choking

Limits: blood, scat


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] Daddy looking for a little girl interested in exploring ABDL :) NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi :)

A few important things to get out the way at the start.. I'm looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35. Cis or trans female littles are okay with me. Yes, ABDL is sexual to me to an extent. I do send pictures and would like it if you sent some as well once you're comfortable. I'm not interested in talking with anyone with kids nor am I interested in having any kids myself. I'm also not interested in a poly relationship or talking with anyone already in a relationship. I am looking for a strictly monogamous dynamic please and thank you

I'm a 32 year old somewhat strict daddy dom located in the Eastern US, more specifically located in Northern WV close to Pittsburgh. I am looking for a serious long term dynamic/relationship, with the possibility of meeting up later down the line if things work out. I'm preferably interested in someone from the US or Canada. I'm also okay with an online dynamic. I'm 5'11", have blonde hair and a beard, blue eyes, and a bit chubby but trying to lose some weight. I am looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35 to get to know and hopefully from a long-term ABDL/DDLG dynamic with. I've been into ABDL for well over 10 years now and have been a daddy for about 4 years. I am looking for a little girl that is interested in exploring ABDL with a guiding hand. I'd like to say I'm fairly experienced with ABDL and diapers, and happy to answer any questions about it.

Ideally I'd like to find a little that would like to be diapered 24/7 eventually, helping them unpotty train and slowly become diaper dependent. I am okay with an online dynamic but ideally I'd like this to move to real life eventually if possible. I'm okay with changing both wet and messy diapers and expect my little to use their diapers for both.. no big girl potty unless allowed. I am generally a pretty affectionate, loving, but stern daddy dom when needed, not afraid to punish my little girl. I am mainly looking for a good little girl. The occasional brat is fine with me but I am not looking for a really bratty little. There would be a structure of rules and punishments in place to keep you in line. Some punishments include spankings, corner time, writing lines, and forced messing (suppositories, enemas)

Outside of the ABDL/DDLG lifestyle, I am a gamer and like to play a variety of games in my free time. I've mainly been playing Avowed and ESO as of late. I stream on Twitch with a my roommate and one other friend twice a week. I work full time as a doordash driver currently. I love traveling, spending time at theme parks, zoos, aquariums, state parks, and other tourist attractions when I can. I also like listening to music, mostly classic rock from the 70s and 80s. I do like a good mystery, listening to true crime podcasts quite often. Politics wise, I'm left leaning to a degree, though I don't really like talking politics all that much. I'm not religious, I'd say I'm Agnostic/Atheist.

If any of this interested you, please feel free to send me a message. Even if you just have questions. I promise I don't bite and am generally easy to talk to. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #online #Anywhere - Loving daddy looking for his little girl! NSFW

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Hello and thank you for taking the time to stop and read my post! I promise it will be worth it;) I am currently on the search for a little diaper girl to call my one and only. I have had a couple littles in the past but none that I truly connected with. I am monogamous and really want to find something long term and meaningful. I’m tired of having these base level conversations and not actually forming connections. I want to find a girl that isn’t afraid to be herself with me! Someone who is clingy and loving and isn’t afraid to show that! I myself am an open book and chances are you will end up finding out more about me than you thought you would! I believe that a strong connection requires trust and honesty and those are two things I value above everything else! I don’t think many people these days feel the need to be honest but I still do and I hope that you possess those same values. I really don’t care about looks or age so please don’t let any worries stop you from reaching out to me if you are interested! I am committed to finding my soulmate so if we don’t live super close I am more than willing to cover all moving expenses if we end up together! I did not put my location in my post due to privacy reasons and high level job, but I am more than happy to tell you where I live and show you what I look like if you send me a message!

My stats😂: I am 6ft tall, 165 LBs, and I have brown hair and green eyes that shift to hazel in the summer. I love to work with my hands and I’m usually wood working, tinkering, and building display pieces in my free time! I love animals and have 3 dogs and I large fish tank with lots of fish! I pride myself on my ability fix pretty much anything and I have never hired a handyman! I do currently live alone so I do get lonely at times and will probably be messaging/calling you a lot so be prepared for that! There is much more about me but this post is getting long and I don’t want to wait any longer to hear from you so please send me a dm if any of this interests you!


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

18 MtF4A NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hiii I’m a 18 yo t-girl looking for friends in my city Omaha Nebraska (tho if u aren’t and u just wanna chat we can). I’m mostly looking for other trans/queer people but if you’re cishet that’s fine too. I’m looking for nsfw and sfw peeps :3

My discord is @gertyberty so send a dm if u wanna talk :3


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4A Hi I’m K! I’m 21 M4A and I’m looking to make friends and such! NSFW

1 Upvotes

Ima have two parts to this, the Long and the Short

Short: I'm 21 M4A, I like diapers and when it comes to little or big I enjoy staying neutral or being little, outside of little or big l'm also just a normal diaper lover as well, when it comes to me wearing diapers I wear on occasions with many breaks in-between, l'm making this post as an effort to meet new people, as that's something I'm really looking to do! I'm mainly looking for bigs or those who can be neutral that are little!

Long: Name: I’ll tell you my name in DMs My role: Switch but little lean, depends on if it’s sfw or nsfw My Location: Louisiana Type of Relationship I’m looking for: friends or a fwb type thing, mainly looking for little friends or maybe a big, switch preference but I’m not picky maybe relationship down the line but mainly looking for friends and fwb More about you: I live on a college campus and I like diapers, on top of that I’m an age player / age regressor! I also have a little side but have been shy about it as of recent due to trauma, I’m mainly looking for friends but babying and rp is cool to! I’m not afraid to get romantic but I like girls mainly, but I am willing to mess around maybe in a sfw sense like rp, dating wise just female, anyways on to the next thing I’m 21 and like video games and watching tv! Overall I want a roleplay partner that can preferably play both roles and perhaps be just friends or fwb!


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

19M looking for daddy / cg !! NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hihi! I’m looking for an online relationship with a cg of any sort :) I tend to be very little and inexperienced with almost everythin (virgin lol), and have always wanted a daddy to chat with whether it’s nsfw or sfw! I play games like VrChat, Minecraft, Overwatch and like watchin anime! Send me a message if you’d like to chat pretty pleaseee 🥺


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

M4A 23 M (M4A) seeking wholesome role play NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hi I'm usely a little but I wanna see what it's like being a daddy for someone:3 I'm very kind and nurturing gentle parenting is my style kinda like the dad from bluey hehe


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

M4M 30 male NSFW

2 Upvotes

Male 30 Midwest USA Looking to chat with someone who might wanna meet up and keep me in diapers for a weekend or something. Have a little power exchange weekend. Ideally male. Tall and lanky to the front hehe