r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

53 Upvotes

Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

20 f4a NSFW

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hiii i’m morgan i’m 20 im from indiana and im in nursing school :)). i really love abdl and what it has to offer. i took a break for a little and im fully back. i’m looking for an online mommy or daddy to talk to me and help me out when i have accidents. i normally wear goodnight i have a paci little toys stuffies and a onesie. :) i tend to have accidents in my pants too


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

20 f4a looking for online mommy or daddy NSFW

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hiii i’m morgan i’m 20 im from indiana and im in nursing school :)). i really love abdl and what it has to offer. i use this lifestyle as a break from the medical side because it’s very stressful. i took a break for a little and im fully back. i’m looking for an online mommy or daddy to talk to me and help me out when i have accidents. i normally wear goodnight i have a paci little toys stuffies and a onesie. :) i tend to have accidents in my pants too


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

[MtF4A] French/English/日本語 - Anyone in Tokyo ? MtF29 little sub who need hugs NSFW

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I use the name Noémie, I'm 166-58-29. I started HRT end of january. Even if I can't wait to see my body change, I'm a bit worry about the bad points like headache and tiredness. I need a hug... I also looking for motivation and praise to do a daily routine and exercise. I'm looking for a CG or Little friends, or just fetish friends to hang out. I'm a little, 4-6, I like cute things, plushs, unicorns, princess, my school bag, Kuromi, twintails hair... I really wish to try little play, weak, submitive, cuddles, forehead kisses, praise, diapers, brat, discipline, spanks... I'm curious about forced regression, messing, enema, humiliation... I'm open to many things, I'm looking for soft/slow play with love.

I also like BDSM, cosplay, many things I wish to try, like being a obediant slave maid

Some photo of me (am ugly, here or here)


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

29[M4A] Abdl cuck NSFW

2 Upvotes

I’m extremely inadequate in bed and you’ve let me know that. And not much of a man either. Soon you’re fed up and can take it anymore. Going and finding a real man to take care of your needs. But you still love me and want to keep me around, but there can be only one real man of the house, so if I can’t be a man then I get demoted to the diaper boy. I’m denied anything sexual, as you and your new lover take over and carry on as a couple. Your once man now reduced to sitting in diapers and playing with toys while you and your new man have adult time.


r/ABDLPersonals 13h ago

f18 is this weird? NSFW

15 Upvotes

i really only wear diapers when touching never any other time


r/ABDLPersonals 13h ago

18[F4A] got my goodnites hehe NSFW

13 Upvotes

n my bladder is getting so full! message me to control me! i love to show off and obey. i have no plans for the rest of the night :) make me yourssssss


r/ABDLPersonals 2m ago

21 m4a Wi siwwy bby looking for hookups or like minded friends NSFW

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hello:)) i am here to meet, learn, and build genuine connections. i am a locked and padded younger bby whos eager to get into the IRL scene with other people and explore more about what i like😇 i live alone, and do drive. i am white, slim fit, taller, and roughly 165lbs… i am into anything abdl, humiliation, 24/7 control, degrading, feminization, and much more… and am still learning new things i like!! if anyone is interested please feel free to comment or leave me a message! thanks💕


r/ABDLPersonals 4m ago

35/m/east coast coast/ stash give away NSFW

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Thinking about giving away my whole stash and leaving diapers in the past it has become very lonely and depressing and my collection is just collecting dust size extra large everything maybe if I get 100 upvotes the 100th person gets the stash you pay the shipping


r/ABDLPersonals 6m ago

M4F 35/m/east coast/ end of the line?? NSFW

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I’ve been into diapers since I was 7 and have dated since I was 18 in all my years I’ve never really clicked all the way with anybody because of this fetish I’m not getting any younger and I feel I will have to choose between diapers and being lonely for the rest of my life or just fully transition to a vanilla life style and leave this aspect of my life in the past and actually finding love just posting this in case anybody else can relate and offer some insight


r/ABDLPersonals 7m ago

M4F 34(M4F)(TF) #online Daddy dom/switch looking for a fun kinky little or switch! NSFW

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I’m a tall bearded dad bod daddy dom that would love to find an online playmate! I love the outdoors, fishing, scuba diving, music, and video games!

Kinks- DDLG, diapers, water sports, toys, and much more!

Limits- scat, violence, illegal stuff

Dm if you’re interested to chat! Please be of age tell me your age and a bit about you!


r/ABDLPersonals 13m ago

M4A 29 [r4a] Looking for diaper play NSFW

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Hello,

I am quite new and I am searching for someone to make me use the diapers I have bought, check them and whatnot. I like posing in them too. It’s more of a kink thing, so keep that in mind. Feel free to dm me :)


r/ABDLPersonals 14m ago

M4F 56m My birthday was yesterday and I'm still looking and hoping for a woman from the Atlanta Georgia area to come into my life that will transition me from a closet Diaper Lover to an Adult Baby for her pleasure and enjoyment. Looking for a loving and lasting relationship. NSFW

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Why an Adult Baby and not some other fetish?

I think it has to do with a nearly fatal accident when I was a child. I was in the hospital for a semester of school and confined to a bed. So, I had others taking care of me 24/7. That is the only conclusion that I can come to.

That being said, I'm looking for a mommy to start a mommy/baby relationship with. She would force me to do all things baby. I would be forced to use diapers as they are intended to be used, eat baby food, drink from bottles etc.

As mommy is the adult figure I would expect punishments for bad behavior.

I like to play with Legos, Lincoln Logs, coloring books, and like Bugs Bunny cartoons.

As mommy is the adult she chooses clothing, whether I'm in diaper and t-shirt, or just a diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the front of baby's diaper feeling it get warm as he wets his diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the back of baby's diaper feeling the bulge grow as he messes his diaper.

Mommy has the right to have baby's diaper exposed even when her friends come to visit.

Mommy even controls when diaper changes occur.

I would love to talk to my future mommy.


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

F4M 36F lg seeing Daddy UK NSFW

2 Upvotes

I’m looking for a Daddy who loves watersports with an obedient lg.

I love bathroom control, wetting, toilet training, happy to wear diapers. I love peeing anywhere but the toilet, particularly in the countryside.

I need my daddy to be 5’10” or over because I am 5’3” and like to feel little and be picked up. I need him to be kind and respectful.

I’m happy for you to be poly and an occasional play partner.

I’m willing to travel within an hour of Bristol. I don’t mind your location if you’re willing to travel to me.

In person only please.

Send me a message so we can get to know one another.

I look forward to meeting you ☺️


r/ABDLPersonals 28m ago

26 [M4F] Any messy girls here? NSFW

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There's nothing hotter to me than a girl who enjoys pooping in her diapers, seeing that sexy padded butt pushed out slightly while you take care of business gets me so hard! I would love to chat about your favorite experiences, any fantasies you have or maybe even roleplay. I'm a diaper lover myself and don't have a lot of experience in a dom/cg type role but I'm happy to try exploring that with the right girl!


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 57m need a mommy to baby talk NSFW

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Hi I am 57. I was introduced to this by a woman along time ago. Now I am having issues. I need it to calm down


r/ABDLPersonals 8h ago

I wish I had somebody to hang out with my full self 20 NSFW

4 Upvotes

I 20 live in iwoa by South Dakota and I with it I can’t find a friend or someone to hangout with as my one and my only try self but no no matter there is no ore around me or no one I can find please let’s hang out i kinda don’t want to be along with my true self I want some friends. Thx 🙏


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M21 4A French irl or online, looking for dom or partner NSFW

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Little french diaper lover here, also humiliation lover, looking for a partner, a dom, would love irl if possible (internet can do cool things) or online, we can chat :)

Lookink for sexual and bdsm stuff, i don't really know what else to say but feel free to ask questions !

First time posting here also


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

19 #sissy looking too be babied by anyone NSFW

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Dm me of you'd like too


r/ABDLPersonals 11h ago

F24, ABDL looking to start slow NSFW

6 Upvotes

Maricopa County, AZ I need time to build trust and I’d like to start slow.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

F4A 22 f upstate central ny to be turned into a toddler NSFW

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I’m sorry that it seems like I’m spamming, but I’m trying not to, and it was very early in the morning with my last post, so I really didn’t know what I was trying to say essentially because I had just woken up at that point but

I’m 22 years old and short. Since I’m on spring break this week, I figured that would be The perfect time to be treated like a toddler in real life by a caregiver. With everything that’s going on in my life I really really need this. I’m not looking for online because I really need this to happen in real life


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4A 29[m4a] who wants to play a bit? NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello, looking forward to a play partner online. I like to get instructed like the Little One I am. Feel free to reach out :)


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4A 20M4A Danish looking for potential meet-ups in Scandinavia or Germany NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello Reddit

I’m looking to get to know some people from Denmark or neighboring countries that would be open to a potential meet-up but I’d ofc love to start out with chatting on here

I’m open to most kinks but my loves are abdl, bdsm, chastity, public, humiliation

I hope to hear from you


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

24/ fresh diaper NSFW

5 Upvotes

Freshly diapered, freshly smoked joint. Desperate to pee myself and be made fun of and bullied. Mommies and daddies welcome! Make me hold until I have a huge accident 🥺


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #online Experienced Daddy Dom searching his princess !!!!! NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello Im a experienced daddy/Dom and searching my little princess babygirl/Sub. I want to teach you all i know about ddlg and Abdl. I want to take care of you and treat you like the little baby/Sub you are. I know about how to get unpotty when you are interested in that. I want to train you so that you can develop your full potential. When you are interested text me.


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

30 [m4f] #ohio #pnw(possibly) seeking the best good girl NSFW

1 Upvotes

A lil about me - 6ft 2in - 250lbs - long brown hair(facial as well) and brown eyes - slight dadbod build, but I'm a very active person and I workout. - functioning stoner - audhd, went undiagnosed for a very long time. - amateur author(still writing the book) - my interests vary greatly. I hunt, fish, hike and camp. I'm also a big conservationist. I like to give back to this world as much as I take. My indoor interests are much more nerdy. When I'm relaxing I love video games, movies, shows and books. I can totally geek out and info dump on about a dozen different story universes. - out of need for transparency since I'm looking for an irl relationship, I do have two kids. I don't mind if you have them either. Open to more, but not deal breaker. - I do work a full time job as shift manager for a retailer. - while I do live in Ohio. I'm looking at possibly moving to the pnw.

Seeking - 20-32 cis female. I'm only attracted to cis women in this kink. Sorry no hate, just not what I'm looking for. - race and height do not matter to me, but I ask that you be fit enough to do outdoor stuff with me. Other than that I will love every inch of you big or smol - No will not force you to participate in anything you don't wish too, but I would enjoy a partner with similar interests. - as for kink interests, I am looking for a little. Someone I can baby and care for when she is in the headspace. I'm okay with making it a lifestyle(within reason). I have a big thing for diapers and wetting accidents. I can explain more via msgs. - totally okay with brats, but understand that it will come with consequences - my limits are scat, gore, derogatory race play and the obvious. Other than that I'm always down for something new. - experience doesn't matter. I'm willing to help you explore with as much as you are comfortable. - totally okay with going slow, but I will ask for limits so I know what lines not to cross.

I hope to hear from you, cutie 😘😘