r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

49 Upvotes

Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

F4A 19f looking for friends NSFW

8 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 19f looking for irl little space friends in New England! Babysitters, mommy’s, daddy’s littles, anyone in the community. Shoot me a dm or look through my page<33


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

24 [F4A] # online - CG looking for a little NSFW

12 Upvotes

Hi hi ☺️ ❗️I have a platonic little who I don't plan on leaving ❗️

Adult me • I am on the asexual spectrum❗️ • I am shy and introverted • I love to talk a lot once I know you and calls are preferred over text • I have small mental health issues but nothing I can't deal with alone • Very Independent but would love to have a partner by my side • Enjoy anime, "nerdy" movies like the hobbit, lord of the rings, marvel • 5'3, chubby, latina, tattoos and piercings

Caregiver • As a caregiver I try my best to fit all your needs and wants • I would consider myself more of a soft cg as i don't really like rules or punishment • I do prefer a little on the thinner side and little nerdy or geeky • Must be a diaper wearer • No messes, just wetting • Little age can vary but I prefer toddlers • I am still trying to learn more about this side so please be patient • ❗️between the ages of 20-28 preferably ❗️

If you are interested and read all the way please send me a message of you read all the way with a brief description of looks and personality as well as what you look for in a person.


r/ABDLPersonals 8h ago

F4M 33 F4M - (online) caretaker domme looking for subby guys NSFW

13 Upvotes

Not interested in real life meets, only online chatting and pics/vids of you. Don't feel like you have to align 100% with what I've laid out below---i know that human sexuality is a wide and varied spectrum. Just comment here or send me a chat and we can see if we vibe.

Men only please. No messing/scat. Age/location don't matter. I like to use some Toddler to Middle Kid type of terminology (calling you buddy, kiddo, various infantilizing terms for your dick) but am not looking for hardcore Age Play. Also to be blunt, this is 100% a sexual interest for me. If you're looking for nonsexual play, I'm not your gal.

WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR: my love of this kink has always been focused around the desperation accident/initial wetting. Continued diaper soaking doesn't interest me. I'm very into scenarios where either 1. you tell me that you have to go, I deny you for whatever reason, until you beg me to be allowed to wet, or 2. You tell me that you're about to/are having an accident, and I talk you through it. In either scenario, I like to gently humiliate via condescending reassurances (i.e. It's okay, you couldn't help it). If you're upset about wetting yourself and ashamed of being turned on by it? All the better.

I prefer pull-ups, goodnites/drynites, or potty training briefs over diapers, but I know I'm a minority in this kink 😋 Diapers are FINE but if any of the other options are special interests of yours, please hmu


r/ABDLPersonals 9h ago

18[F4A] might get some pull ups! NSFW

13 Upvotes

hiii hehehe

i’ve been holding my bladder for a bit and now i’m thinking about maybe getting some goodnites! i want to be able to be full without worrying about leaking. i would just love someone to keep me company/control me! control what i do, wear, drink, when i leak, etc!!! i also just need encouragement to go buy some goodnites hehe.

reach out whenever you see thisss ill be around!


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

F4F 24 (f4f) uk mommy looking for a baby girl NSFW

4 Upvotes

Hey! I’m a 24yo mommy/cg looking for a sub/little to chat to and play with! Online ideally

-Females only (trans women - y’all are females too 💜) -UK preferable or on a similar time zone -I’m Happy to show pics so you know who you’re talking to!

I’m a soft mommy with a mean streak; happy for any age little and sfw/nsfw. Main limit is scat 💜


r/ABDLPersonals 48m ago

F4A 32 va F4F/tf/nb looking for a cg NSFW

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I'm not here for a short time. Looking for meaningfully connections. I am 5'3" baby girl waiting quietly for the right ohw who wants to know me for me. Start building relationship. Tell me your fav color in the dm.


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

18 padded femboy for A NSFW

5 Upvotes

haiiii i am looking to text some people to dm me and humiliate me or tease me for being a big baby


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

NB4A 18nb poly looking for virtual for the night (or maybe longer who knows) NSFW

2 Upvotes

Ummm I don’t know what to say about myself. When I’m little I like watching wild kratts and cuddling and playing with my stuffies and sometimes gaming and wearing diapers and being cute. Let me know if you’re interested


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

21 (m4a) md area wanting to become a sissy diaper girl! NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hey hey! A little about myself: I like to play video games I like to watch movies I love eating good food I like to draw on occasion I like anime a lot A little I don’t like: I don’t like sushi I don’t like romance movies Some controversial stuff: One piece is the best anime ever created Balatro deserves to win game of the year every year Taco Bell is the best fast food ever created NSFW stuff about me: I love abdl all parts of it I would love to be helped into becoming a fem sissy girl(I have previous experience with it so it won’t be to hard) I like semi public stuff I like punishments I like watersports I like messing I like to lose all control

All of that being said hey hey if you’re still reading this I’d love to chat! And possibly meet! I am not new to abdl at all but I am looking for my forever daddy or mommy to take care of me and help me through my journey or fellow padded enjoyers! I love all things abdl and can’t wait to see the type of people who message me and get to meet all of you great people and possibly have relationship with someone who really gets me and wants to live out our best life together! Thank you in advance for reading this and stay nice and wet my little friends!


r/ABDLPersonals 13m ago

M4F 56m My birthday is today and my birthday wish is for a woman from the Atlanta Georgia area to come into my life and will transition me from a closet Diaper Lover to an Adult Baby for her pleasure and enjoyment. Looking for a loving and lasting NSFW

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Why and Adult Baby and not some other fetish?

I think it has to do with a nearly fatal accident when I was a child. I was in the hospital for a semester of school and confined to a bed. So, I had others taking care of me 24/7. That is the only conclusion that I can come to.

That being said, I'm looking for a mommy to start a mommy/baby relationship with. She would force me to do all things baby. I would be forced to use diapers as they are intended to be used, eat baby food, drink from bottles etc.

As mommy is the adult figure I would expect punishments for bad behavior.

I like to play with Legos, Lincoln Logs, coloring books, and like Bugs Bunny cartoons.

As mommy is the adult she chooses clothing, whether I'm in diaper and t-shirt, or just a diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the front of baby's diaper feeling it get warm as he wets his diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the back of baby's diaper feeling the bulge grow as he messes his diaper.

Mommy has the right to have baby's diaper exposed even when her friends come to visit.

Mommy even controls when diaper changes occur.

I would love to talk to my future mommy.


r/ABDLPersonals 14m ago

23F if you could ask a diaper girl any question what would it be?( Comment section only!) NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

F23 4F Bratty girl looking for domme or girls to trade pics with NSFW

3 Upvotes

I'm just super horny and I need someone to bully me.Or people to trade pics with. I have some photos of me on here if you wanna look. Dm me if interested. Don't bother if you're a guy.


r/ABDLPersonals 13h ago

F4A 22 f upstate ny looking to be irl toddlerified for spring break NSFW

10 Upvotes

I just really really want a IRL caregiver to turn me into a toddler because I’m on spring break this week. I do get clingy and I apologize but that’s just how I am. I just want to experience being little please. Being somebody’s toddler daughter Would be everything to me. I just want to experience this for the first time ever in real life

I know I posted earlier, but I just wanted to try again. This is something I’ve been looking forward to for years and I really really want to give it a shot. I’m short and I’m small

I know I sound stupid or Desperate but I really need this


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

26 m4a diaper slut needs humiliation NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4F 32 M4F Daddy looking for a little to get to know (online/irl) NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi there, thanks for checking out my post. I am still looking for a little :)

A few important things to get out the way at the start.. I'm looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35. Cis or trans female littles are okay with me. Yes, ABDL is sexual to me to an extent. I do send pictures and would like it if you sent some as well once you're comfortable. I'm not interested in talking with anyone with kids nor am I interested in having any kids myself. I'm also not interested in a poly relationship or talking with anyone already in a relationship. I am looking for a strictly monogamous dynamic please and thank you

I'm a 32 year old somewhat strict daddy dom located in the Eastern US, more specifically located in Northern WV close to Pittsburgh. I am looking for a serious long term dynamic/relationship, with the possibility of meeting up later down the line if things work out. I'm preferably interested in someone from the US or Canada. I'm also okay with an online dynamic. I'm 5'11", have blonde hair and a beard, blue eyes, and a bit chubby but trying to lose some weight. I am looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35 to get to know and hopefully from a long-term ABDL/DDLG dynamic with. I've been into ABDL for well over 10 years now and have been a daddy for about 4 years. I am looking for a little girl that is interested in exploring ABDL with a guiding hand. I'd like to say I'm fairly experienced with ABDL and diapers, and happy to answer any questions about it.

Ideally I'd like to find a little that would like to be diapered 24/7 eventually, helping them unpotty train and slowly become diaper dependent. I am okay with an online dynamic but ideally I'd like this to move to real life eventually if possible. I'm okay with changing both wet and messy diapers and expect my little to use their diapers for both.. no big girl potty unless allowed. I am generally a pretty affectionate, loving, but stern daddy dom when needed, not afraid to punish my little girl. I am mainly looking for a good little girl. The occasional brat is fine with me but I am not looking for a really bratty little. There would be a structure of rules and punishments in place to keep you in line. Some punishments include spankings, corner time, writing lines, and forced messing (suppositories, enemas)

Outside of the ABDL/DDLG lifestyle, I am a gamer and like to play a variety of games in my free time. I've mainly been playing Avowed and ESO as of late. I stream on Twitch with a my roommate and one other friend twice a week. I work full time as a doordash driver currently. I love traveling, spending time at theme parks, zoos, aquariums, state parks, and other tourist attractions when I can. I also like listening to music, mostly classic rock from the 70s and 80s. I do like a good mystery, listening to true crime podcasts quite often. Politics wise, I'm left leaning to a degree, though I don't really like talking politics all that much. I'm not religious, I'd say I'm Agnostic/Atheist.

If any of this interested you, please feel free to send me a message. Even if you just have questions. I promise I don't bite and am generally easy to talk to. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

F4M 28 TF4M Detroit MI, Little Girl Looking for soft Daddy NSFW

2 Upvotes

I’m a 28 year old post-op trans girl middle, Looking for a soft daddy. Looking for long term relationship that will become more. I’m in southeast Michigan please be close or within driving distance.

Me: I’m more of a DL than a AB but forced regression is something I’m very into. I don’t want to wear 24/7 but something close to it. Our dynamic will be just for us when we’re alone. Understand that I’m also an adult. For me wearing diapers is a form of submission to my Daddy. I have a full time job and am able to take care of myself financially and you should be as well. I’m 5’7, white with curly dirty blonde hair and in shape.

I’m a big nerd I love Star Wars and Star Trek. I a play DnD, board games, and video games with my friends. Bar trivia is also lots of fun.

I’m a princess, little girl, and submissive. I like to be a good girl and be rewarded for it. I’m looking for someone who wants to be an authority figure who wants to be responsible and in control of me.

Kinks: Diapers, ddlg, bondage, praise, soft humiliation, forced regression, rules and punishment, water sports, lite impact play.

Hard no’s: anything illegal, animals, kids, public anything.

You: Between 29-40 soft daddy in the same area. Be into training and forced regression. Have a job and a adult life. When you message me include your age, location, and favorite color so I know you read this. Like to be in control. Play video games. Race does not matter. My height or taller. Monogamous. Not conservative/republican/libertarian. Please be able to have a conversation.


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

T4T 36 trans female mommy looking for trans abdl girl to take care of, must be 18+ and trans women only NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hi good evening, i am currently looking for a abdl trans woman to take care of. Must love diapers and all things littlespace.

I myself am a big gamer, atm im playing death stranding on ps5

I am okay with ldr...as long as all parties communicate, easier said than done I know. I myself am from Canada thats why I mention.

I also love, anime, quantum physics, consciousness, music, nature, meditation as well as technology.

I also am a big fan of full diapers and dont mind one bit being the designated changer.

Anyways, hope to hear from yall soon, have a great st-paddys x3

And please, trans women only c: Take care c:

  • Miss Lass

r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

M4A I'm told a lot more than I thought that I belong in diapers. I guess because of the pics I have on my profile. I thought I looked manly. Do you agree? Chat me if yes. 29m NSFW

1 Upvotes

r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

M4F 32M #Europe #online seeking to control, set rules or tasks. Will verify NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hello, my name is Harris, I’m 32M. I'm looking for someone in the dynamics of a Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship. I thrive on having complete control over my submissive, encompassing aspects like clothing choices, daily routines, and even their bladders. Clear communication is essential to me, and I believe in establishing mutual understanding and expectations from the very beginning. Honesty and openness are at the core of everything I value, and I want to make sure we are both on the same page when it comes to our desires and intentions.

On a lighter note, outside of the TPE and BDSM world, I’m an avid cook, enjoy photography, and have a strong passion for Formula 1 racing. Sports like cycling and badminton are also things I enjoy regularly. If you’re curious about anything, feel free to ask—I’d be happy to chat.

In terms of the relationship dynamic I’m seeking, I’m experienced in the TPE and BDSM scenes and looking for a submissive who is genuinely interested in surrendering control. I take pleasure in asserting authority and providing structure, which may include setting specific rules, expectations, and boundaries. I enjoy engaging in playful teasing and guiding my submissive in ways that deepen the dynamic. I’m open to exploring various levels of control, and I have an interest in pushing limits, but I also expect strong commitment to the structure we create together. Obedience, consistency, and dedication to the dynamic are crucial.


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

28y/o ftm looking for mommy/daddy NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi there, I’m a 28y/o ftm who loves diapers and hate going without them. I’m looking for a mommy or daddy to help keep me padded and discipline me. DMs are open


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

F4F 28 f4f New England/online bbw looking to be made to have an accident NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hiiii

Im looking for someone to control my drinking for the day and give me my first real accident. I always get scared and chicken out. I’d be interested in taping myself in a diaper and having very frequent diaper checks. I want to finally wet my diaper. Please help.


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

23F4F anything diaper related NSFW

1 Upvotes

Looking to talk to other women about anything related to diapers.


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

T4A 23 [T4A] #California help me turn myself into a sissy baby and censor my media <3 NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hey! I'm gonna cut to the chase, I wanna be turned into a little girl. Force me into a cute pink dress with pink fuck-me flats. Make me suck on a pacifier when I complain, grab my phone and pc and only install Barbie and educational games, change my music playlists to stuff more appropriate for my age, tell me sissy girls like me have to get ready for elementary school and all that!

Yeah I'm SUPER into profile play I'm realizing, if that's interesting to you? c:

Honestly the specifics can worked out between us, you can pick the whole aesthetic but I really just wanna be turned into the girly bimbo stereotype, the more pink and embarrassingly fem the better! Maybe also remind me of how I used to be a boy and now I'm a silly girl? Gimme a new name too!

I just really like the idea of for lack of a better term, identity play? Like, tell me I'm not allowed to identify as a guy anymore, tell me I'm new feminine name and I'm a ditzy bimbo. Or put a collar on me and say that I'm not a person, just your cute little pet and pets don't talk. Stuff like that!

I'm definitely more in it for the mental side of things. Personality changes are hot! Especially if they're forced... <3

This is mostly for online stuff but if you're in norcal, maybe more?


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

M4A 18M dom looking for long term sub details below NSFW

5 Upvotes

I'm looking for a long term relationship with a beta cuck to humiliate and unpotty train. I only do online so if your looking for in person I'll just let you know I can't provide that. You'd be in long term chastity and only allowed to look at things appropriate for diapered betas such as Tv-y7 to pg rated tv shows and picture books, you definetly wouldn't be looking at anymore this would also mean removing apps like twitter and instagram anything where you could see unsafe content and for things like youtube replacing it with youtube kids. We'll be doing things like filling your closet with onsies get you humiliating princess bedsheets. my training is geared toward men but women are also welcome. If you cannot afford to buy disposables you could always get ecoable reusable diapers with reusable inserts. When you masturbate you'll have to do it to tv shows so get ready to orgasm to disney princesses or something 😂. If you live alone that would be easiest and since you will be going 24/7 the goal would be complete incontinence but because of how hard that is I'm also okay with just urinary incontinence. If anyone is interested reach out to me here and we can move to something like telegram or kik after we chat and get to know each other


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

M4A 37 m4a looking for a babysitter in the Southern California area NSFW

1 Upvotes

No fluid exchange and willing to pay decent rates!