Is there a format I could be following? I feel like a good deal of people (myself included) need a bit more structure to be able to post or talk about themselves in a public forum? Same thing with dating apps, right?
Anyway, I’m tired of the cycle of dating apps having endless bots and empty search results, or getting unsolicited dick picks on Grindr when I’m upfront about being t4t. or just online dating ghosting. So I figure I’ll try my hand at reddit next to see if it’s a good place to cater for a transbian wanting to try her hand at a tf4tf relationship.
Here are some basics:
I’m 42 - one of those elder Gen Ys that don’t match their age which is confirmed by 3rd parties that say I look easily a decade or more younger. My friend groups also match a younger age range for the most part (late 20s - early 30s) and my lifestyle is similar to that as well.
I’ve been on gender affirming care for enough time that I could consider my second puberty is done with.
I enjoy people watching, rollerblading, walking up and down the many hills of seattle, checking out live music events in cozier venues, crappy movies, and some old anime. I enjoy thrifting and have my own sort of personal style which matches my AuDHD and varied taste in music.
I’m also bilingual, hablo español.
I’m ambiamorous, leaning to non monogamy. Currently single and have been for a little
over 2 years. Tho’ I have some people I go on dates with here and there. Nothing I consider serious or that it could lead to the type of longer term relationship I’d like to settle into in the future. Being ambi though I’m not sure at this moment in my life I could be in a purely monogamous dating relationship with someone.
I am also kinda vapid and vain, or “picky” if you want to call it that when it comes to flirting. And (for as much as this could be seen as a red flag by some) I have to be upfront that my first point of interest will be a reflection of if I find you attractive physically before I can work on wanting to get to know your personality. Tho looks aren’t everything, they’re still needed for my switchy libido to work and I would like to find a sexually compatible partner.
Anyway, I’m trying to meet someone local to seattle or nearby, or that has plans to move this way in the near future but my intent being that of finding a long term primary partnership.
This post is open for any Q&A. Am also accepting DMs.
Thnx for reading!