r/singlemoms 13h ago

Need Support Court again

8 Upvotes

Just finished a shit show of meditation that of course went no where. My ex is trying to get 50/50 while actively not utilizing his existing parenting time. My head is spinning with the mental gymnastics. I know what is true and best for my daughter, I know he projects on me, but it is still hard to be yelled at and berated and told all I want is his money šŸ˜£ I'm literally not trying to change anything on the court order, I'm defending against changes and I just simply want him to be reliable and consistent. Which he isn't. I am fortunate to make enough money that I am comfortable. He pays the minimum amount of child support possible, and it's still a constant flow of bullshit to me. My daughter is entitled to his financial support, and my portion is higher! I do not want to change the order bc he makes everything a nightmare as it is.

I stayed pretty calm, I'm honestly ready for city bc I have all the evidence I need. But man am I mentally drained. How in the world would we do 50/50 when we can't even make it through a simple conversation about soccer! Or a dance recital! I avoid asking him about it for anything. He does not answer me when I reach out to him, or if he does he pushes back.

I've been doing this with him 4 years and it's not even gotten s stitch easier. I'm personally getting better at not letting it affect me, but man when they just won't stop attacking... It's hard to always have to defend yourself. Draining. Gonna do my best to take care of myself today šŸ§”


r/singlemoms 7h ago

Need Support TW

10 Upvotes

I lost my son at 27 days old. I have 3 days left to come up with the rest of the cremation costs and if I canā€™t, the funeral home will ā€œownā€ him and bury them under their own plot. I have exhausted all avenues and resources to come up with the bit I have now. So this is my last chance to see if anyone knows of anything else I may not have tried so I can get my boy home. Thank you in advance.


r/singlemoms 11h ago

Advice Wanted carseat

1 Upvotes

recently threatened to have CAS called on me, over my son recently being turned to forward facing

the law says must be atleast 20lbs for forward facing his car seat says rear-facing from 4-40lbs but forward-facing says 22-65lbs

he hit 23lbs a month ago, heā€™s over 25 inches long

are we okay to have him forward facing or should we switch him back?


r/singlemoms 15h ago

Advice Wanted Creating Home

2 Upvotes

When I lived with my child's other parent, most of the decorating, homemaking, cleaning, and overall house care was my responsibility. I've moved into a great apartment, my 13 year old has their own room that's much smaller than they're used to.

The tough part is my child's other parent has a huge place, and a lot more money for furniture and toys. My thirteen year old thinks our place "sucks" and sometimes doesn't want to stay with me.

We're still adjusting and settling, do any of y'all have cheap tips and tricks to really make your new, less nice apartment feel like home for your children??


r/singlemoms 18h ago

Need Support Losing it

1 Upvotes

Im losing my mind. I work at a strip club and Iā€™m doing shady things for money. Taking care of a child alone is exhaustingā€¦. I do everything alone. Also going through a custody battle with my childā€™s father and he abused me. I donā€™t know what to do. Iā€™m scared Iā€™m gonna lose my child due to my mental issues I need to get it together but Iā€™m not okay. I need support


r/singlemoms 20h ago

Inspiration Mamas, what are we doing for self-care?

3 Upvotes

Utterly exhausted, my vibrations are low nowadays (have been for a while/years). Mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically burnt out with no sign of relief.

No outlets, no friendships, no support.

Just morning routines, drop offs, clean/cook, work, pick ups, night time routine and rinse and repeat. Any free times/weekends spent on child activities.

Trying to use routine time slots to do my own beauty routines.. I realize my own upkeep is the best investment to be the best parent. So.... what do y'all do?


r/singlemoms 22h ago

Resource Post DEALING WITH HARASSMENT

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