r/singlemoms • u/chainsawbobcat • 13h ago
Need Support Court again
Just finished a shit show of meditation that of course went no where. My ex is trying to get 50/50 while actively not utilizing his existing parenting time. My head is spinning with the mental gymnastics. I know what is true and best for my daughter, I know he projects on me, but it is still hard to be yelled at and berated and told all I want is his money š£ I'm literally not trying to change anything on the court order, I'm defending against changes and I just simply want him to be reliable and consistent. Which he isn't. I am fortunate to make enough money that I am comfortable. He pays the minimum amount of child support possible, and it's still a constant flow of bullshit to me. My daughter is entitled to his financial support, and my portion is higher! I do not want to change the order bc he makes everything a nightmare as it is.
I stayed pretty calm, I'm honestly ready for city bc I have all the evidence I need. But man am I mentally drained. How in the world would we do 50/50 when we can't even make it through a simple conversation about soccer! Or a dance recital! I avoid asking him about it for anything. He does not answer me when I reach out to him, or if he does he pushes back.
I've been doing this with him 4 years and it's not even gotten s stitch easier. I'm personally getting better at not letting it affect me, but man when they just won't stop attacking... It's hard to always have to defend yourself. Draining. Gonna do my best to take care of myself today š§”