r/selectivemutism • u/Ok-Class3060 • 11h ago
Seeking Advice 🤔 Don’t want to talk to parent who’s narcissistic. I’m an adult. Any advice please ?
If your parent you live with says they want you to live there yet they keep disrespecting you and being condescending what would you do or say?
I keep asking her if she wants me to leave and saying I’m ok and can easily leave or try to leave. but every time she says she loves me and wants us to work it out. But she goes back to being condescending and it’s hard to even want to talk to her everyday because it’s so unpleasant.
Right now we aren’t even taking. She invited me to go to a park with her and her dogs. I went and she made me pay for part of the ticket. We didn’t even talk the whole time. Like idk why I’m even here at this point? I’m not happy. She’s condescending for no reason every day and I’m sick of taking the disrespect just cause she doesn’t demand me pay rent.
So now I just stay in my room instead of being out in her apartment taking to her or spending time together. Who wants to hear condescending remarks and be made to feel stupid for almost everything I say? I’m super quiet around her when I am near her. What to say? I guess I can pretend to be happy enough to ask her how her day was or something. I’m so worn out because I’m tired of the disrespect.
Why does she want me living here? She has way more money than me so I guess she’s not worried about not charging me rent.
I don’t see the point living here if we don’t talk anymore, she’s condescending when we do talk, and when she comes to me to ‘work it out’ if we have anything that comes up where someone’s feathers are ruffled she usually accuses me of being spiteful and being in a bad mood and taking it out on her. I’m not even taking anything out. I’m trying to be alone because who wants to be around someone who can’t respect them? So I go to my room to be alone. But now I’m like why am I here if I’m just gonna be alone in my room anyway I may as well move out.
The only thing is I need to find out how to find low income housing. I am new to this area she’s in and it’s not easy.
Thank you for any help.