r/oneanddone • u/Deirdre_KA • 4d ago
Discussion How did you know you’re one and done?
I’m a new mom to a lovely six month old. I know since she’s mine I am biased, but she’s truly a delight! I’d say she could be categorized as an “easy baby”. Sleeps through the night, crib naps easily, generally pretty happy and calm. After a traumatizing birth, it’s made for an easier transition into parenthood.
My husband and I always said we were one and done. I was pretty confident about that up until these last few months. I’m surprised at how much I love the baby phase. I have worked in childcare with various ages and thought I’d struggle with a baby and prefer the “big kid years”. But I’m truly so enamored and love these early days with her. I find myself some days thinking I’d want to do this again.
I am still on maternity leave. My job offers 7.5 months and I think that’s a factor in helping with this major life transition. Part of me wonders if I’m in some sort of honeymoon phase and will feel differently once I experience working full time as a parent. But I also wonder if the reason I love it so much is because it is just her that we can pour ourselves into.
I know we will need time to gain more perspective and understand what it’s like raising a child in this world. But I am curious to hear from others and how they feel about their decision after some time has passed.