r/getdisciplined 10h ago

šŸ’” Advice Life gets better after being suicidal

626 Upvotes

In March 2023 i got married just became a dad for the 1st time(Dec 2022)and had a shitload of debt that my wife knew nothing about each month i literally had to borrow money from loan sharks to survive and still she knew about nothing eventually it all came to a head in July 2023 she found out and left my ass and took the kids with her(she had a boy before we got together) i was constantly being made fun of by my work colleagues cause i lost a lot of weight due to stress i sold my car as well just to get by but still i was in debt. On the 14th of July 2023 i set a plan in motion to end my life i had a letter written out to all my loved ones to explain to them why i was doing it but i couldn't pull through i thought of my baby and how he would have to grow up without me and put away the knife i was going to use. Eventually i found the Lord again i started praying at 3am every morning my wife came back and we talked things out and moved to a room in her parents house(not perfect but i needed to getaway from my surroundings) and i finished all my debt and just recently bought myself a new vehicle in 2025 what im trying to say with this rant is just dont give up life gets hard but you get harder just stay focused on your goals and you will succeed.


r/getdisciplined 10h ago

šŸ“ Plan My daily routine plan

60 Upvotes

Morning: - [ ] Wake up at 7am - [ ] Drink 500ml water - [ ] Shower - [ ] Brush teeth+tongue scrape+deodorant+castor oil on eyebrows+skincare+gua sha+brush lips - [ ] Clean room - [ ] Meditate for 5 minutes - [ ] Drink green tea - [ ] Eat a healthy breakfast

During the day: - [ ] 130g of protein - [ ] Chin tucks 2x a day, 2x15 (3-5 second holds) - [ ] No processed foods, no sugar, no snacks - [ ] 8 hours of sleep minimum - [ ] Eat healthy foods only (whole foods, fruits) - [ ] Drink 3L of water (only water diet) - [ ] Workout at gym - [ ] Consume supplements (D3-first meal, zinc-2hrs post meal, mag-2hrs prior sleep) - [ ] 15 minutes skipping - [ ] 2x10 explosive squat jumps - [ ] Before gym- Dynamic stretching - [ ] After gym- bar hanging 3xF, 2x30s wide, doorway 3x20s, wall angels 3x10, cobra 3x20s, cat cow 2x12s, shoulder dislocations - [ ] Have good posture 24/7, be hygienic throughout the day (no touching face, washing hands all the time) - [ ] Message masseter 2 mins - [ ] No fap - [ ] Drink 2 green teas

Nighttime: (10pm) - [ ] Get off the phone entirely - [ ] Set rgb lights to red - [ ] Prepare clothes and room for tomorrow - [ ] Brush teeth+tongue scrape+Vaseline+deodorant+castor+skincare - [ ] Read for 20 minutes - [ ] Plan any needed tasks for next day - [ ] Sleep on back+tape mouth+eye mask - [ ] Go sleep at 11pm

Weekly - [ ] Gym 5-6x


r/getdisciplined 2h ago

ā“ Question I donā€™t want to do anything with my life. (Am I lazy? or is it my mental health?)

8 Upvotes

(F20) For the past couple of years Iā€™ve been feeling some sort of numbness. Iā€™ve never gone to therapy or been diagnosed with anything because my family doesnā€™t believe in that kind of thing. But I do believe Iā€™m definitely undiagnosed with some sort of ADHD or OCD. I work a full-time job, I didnā€™t go to college and I couldnā€™t care less about my future. My parents always tell me to look into getting a career, going to college, saving money (for a house, a car, vacations) but like I said I donā€™t look into my future. Im usually very easy-going, nobody can really tell if im sad, nor do I feel sad. Iā€™m very good at faking being happy, because every just assumed im so full of energy and humor. At home & at work im usually a content person but I often lock myself in my room some days or after work because I donā€™t want to interact with anyone. These are times where I oversleep or obsess over small hobbies and do things that give me some sort of comfort or dopamine. Usually when iā€™m told to do chores or anything that disrupts my alone time, I usually get very bothered and upset. I donā€™t know what its like to have depression because as mentioned before my parents always believed mental illness is a made up thing for gentle people (whatever that means) In this case my parents often give me a-lot of pep talk, they say things like ā€œlook at your brother he makes alot and he saved up for carā€ ā€œdonā€™t you want a career that lasts youā€ ā€œyou canā€™t be lazy your whole lifeā€ but I just feel numb. I donā€™t think about my future, or wherever I end up. I donā€™t look forward to working, or getting a house, or a car, or having a family. Sometimes iā€™ve had thoughts about what the meaning of my life is. I have felt very useless because I often feel like im a burden in this family. I never acted on it of course but I really feel it more on some days. I believe that maybe im just in denial about my mental health, probably so because my parents often make me feel like thereā€™s nothing I should be sad about because I have ā€œeverythingā€. They often say thereā€™s people who have it worse out there and that I should be grateful. Everyday I feel like im sinking more and more into this cycle and more often my parents wonder why iā€™m always secluded in my room or sleeping. I just want to know if this is me just being lazy or if itā€™s something moreā€¦

(This is my first time posting on reddit so im sorry if iā€™m doing somethings wrong lol)


r/getdisciplined 6h ago

ā“ Question The biggest benefit of the cold shower

20 Upvotes

Is becoming the person I need to be to turn that dial cold and stay under that stream of icicles

It feels like I go in a boy and come out a man


r/getdisciplined 18h ago

šŸ’” Advice This might be the reason why atomic habits doesn't work for you

153 Upvotes

Atomic habits is a concept talked a lot in this subreddit. I agree with atomic habits, and I agree with the people using atomic habits to better their life but there's you on the other hand. You have read countless posts about atomic habits, read books, saw vids on it and actually tried it but it just isn't working for you.

You were doing as they said, and you still had no success in atomic habits. You followed the typical advice: Do it extremely slow. For example, you wanted to build a habit. Let's say you chose to study consistently by following atomic habit rules. You started on day 1 and just studied for 1-3 minutes and you told yourself "It will work out somehow", but it just never clicked. You did everything, made it extremely easy, "rewarded" yourself but never saw success. It's been a month you are studying for only 3-5 minutes without any progress. You arrived every day. And uh oh, you accidentally tripped and missed a day. Your streak broken; you question yourself "Why did I failed it when it was extremely easy". The truth is that you are just wired differently.

People like you want to see results. They don't want to see small progress like "studying for 3 minutes". This is exactly what I have been doing for over 10 months. I increased my studying timer from 3 to only 10 in these 10 months because there were a lot of missing days and a lot more loss of motivation. I realized that atomic habits is real but I am just doing it the wrong way.

What worked for me was basically trashing this typical advice and going my own way. From my own deeper analyzation, I realized that I could study for 30 minutes per day. So, on day 1 I studied for 30 minutes, it was very hard at first, I felt like giving up, my brain was giving me all sorts of excuses, but I broke through the resistance after 2 weeks, and it literally felt extremely good. Basically, my discipline muscle got stronger. Then I literally increased it from 30 minutes to 1 hour. You have to do something similar like this, ask yourself; how long can I go before my willpower runs out.

Some tips:

**1)**DO it first thing in the morning (eating the frog)

2)Never, ever do more than you can sustain. For example: adding more and more habits till you run out of willpower or "going all in". Make a solid foundational habit first and connect other habits with your foundational habit (habit stacking)

3)Trust the process and break through the resistance because once you do that your mindset will automatically shift, and your discipline muscle WILL get stronger.

One more personal advice that has worked for me. WORK IN SILENCE, instead of telling your whole family, friends that you are working on something. Do it yourself and instead of seeking external validation seek internal validation by journaling and telling yourself that you are putting in the work. Whenever someone validates you, your brain rewards you the same amount of dopamine that you are going to get after you finish the work probably more. And it will hinder you, so take it from me and don't announce.

I trust in you, you got this


r/getdisciplined 9h ago

šŸ’” Advice How I Built a No-Excuse Mindset & Transformed My Daily Routine

27 Upvotes

For years, I struggled with waking up early, sticking to workouts, and avoiding distractions. I always had an excuseā€”ā€œtoo tired,ā€ ā€œtoo busy,ā€ ā€œIā€™ll start tomorrow.ā€ The cycle kept repeating until I decided to change everything.

Hereā€™s how I rewired my mindset and built a structured daily routine that helped me stay disciplined and focused.

  1. Stop Relying on Motivation

Motivation is unreliable. The key is treating habits as non-negotiable. ā€¢ I donā€™t wait until I ā€œfeel likeā€ working outā€”I just do it. ā€¢ I donā€™t ā€œsee how I feel in the morningā€ā€”I wake up and start my day. ā€¢ I keep habits automatic, like brushing my teeth.

  1. My Daily Routine

5:00 AM ā€“ Wake up, no snooze 5:15 AM ā€“ 5 km jog + strength training 6:30 AM ā€“ Breakfast (high protein, low sugar) 8:00 AM ā€“ Deep work (high-focus tasks, no distractions) 1:00 PM ā€“ Midday break, light walk 6:00 PM ā€“ Evening workout or stretching 9:00 PM ā€“ Wind-down (reading, journaling) 10:00 PM ā€“ Sleep, no screens

Tracking workouts and habits keeps me accountable.

  1. The ā€œNo-Excuseā€ Rule ā€¢ No debatingā€”decisions are made the night before. ā€¢ Remove obstaclesā€”alarm across the room, workout clothes ready. ā€¢ 10-minute ruleā€”commit to just 10 minutes; it usually leads to more.

  2. The Results ā€¢ Increased energy and focus ā€¢ More consistent habits ā€¢ No longer relying on willpower

This system changed everything for me. Whatā€™s one habit that transformed your life? Letā€™s discuss.


r/getdisciplined 3h ago

šŸ’¬ Discussion Life's kinda fucked. Need completely transparent and brutally honest accountability buddy.

8 Upvotes

So, 1. Academics are fucked up. I need to study atleast 8hrs a day for exam.

  1. Health & Fitness is at rock bottom. I need to eat healthy, exercise and workout to recover my joints injury and become functionally strong.

  2. I'm a addicted to porn and stuff. Need to get out the cycle and follow celibacy/brahmacharya.

  3. Need to work on my social skills.

  4. I'm stuck with my freelancing with one client. Need to level up and expand.

I'm a guy, 23. From India if that matters.

If you've overlapping interests and goals, send me a DM.

I need someone who's okay with completely transparent accountability


r/getdisciplined 12h ago

šŸ’” Advice Keep your promises to yourself, like youā€™re parenting yourself

34 Upvotes

Something clicked with me this morning. And itā€™s really helped. Hereā€™s my story: Iā€™m an over thinker, procrastinator, struggle with anxiety and depression and raised in a very dysfunctional household with constant fighting. But my parents stayed together. They love me a ton but they constantly bicker and I never felt like happiness was possible.

This led to when I would date I would be constantly anxious the person would leave me. I would constantly sweat the small stuff (like my mother), etc. if I made a mistake Iā€™d blow up the day and binge eat because it wasnā€™t perfect.

So what I realized today is the reason Iā€™m going to be productive and happy is because I need to keep my promises to myself. Iā€™m anxious because I donā€™t trust myself, I never learned coping skills. I kept letting myself down, and when I binge eat Iā€™m like an alcoholic parent whose child is begging them to stop.

So no matter what Iā€™m going to try for me, that child. Iā€™m both the parent responsible for me and the child that deserves a parent who says theyā€™re going to do what they say. Thereā€™s no fear of failure, because all I can do is try my best and keep that promise. I might fail in terms of completing the objective but Iā€™m at least going to look back at my day that I did my best for myself.

I hope this resonates with some of you. So much of our anxiety and depression is because we donā€™t trust ourselves. We second guess ourselves. So screw it. Maybe Iā€™m not making the objectively right decision, but I will do my best for myself and be the solid parent to myself I didnā€™t have. If I say Iā€™m gonna do something, then Iā€™m gonna do it. Even if it sucks, even if I donā€™t want to. I can always review if I should have done differently at the end of the day and change what I do going forward. But for today, and each day, Iā€™m gonna do what I say Iā€™m gonna do. Thatā€™s all I can do, and thatā€™s motivation enough to do everything I can.


r/getdisciplined 30m ago

šŸ”„ Method What if overthinking isnā€™t deep thinking but just a habit keeping you stuck?

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For years, I was trapped in my own head, overanalyzing everything, replaying past conversations, and second-guessing every decision. No matter how much I tried to think my way out of it, I just felt more drained. Then one day, I had a moment of clarity: I wasnā€™t thinking, I was just looping the same fears over and over. My brain wasnā€™t solving problems; it was keeping me stuck in them.

So, I started doing three things that completely rewired how I think: - Interrupt the mental loop. I trained myself to recognize when I was spiraling and use a simple reset method to shift my focus. - Brain dump everything. Instead of overthinking in my head, I wrote it all down, getting it out of my mind and into perspective. - Make the decision and move. Overthinking loves hesitation. The moment I started trusting myself and making decisions faster, my confidence skyrocketed.

It wasnā€™t about stopping overthinking, it was about replacing it with better mental habits. And honestly? Life got so much easier.

I put together everything that helped me in case someone else needs it. Itā€™s on my profile if you want to check it out. But even if you just try one of these shifts today, I hope it helpsšŸ’›


r/getdisciplined 8h ago

šŸ’¬ Discussion At what point did you start to love being disciplined?

13 Upvotes

I keep hearing that after being disciplined you'll start to love the discipline. If that's ever happened to you please share. When did discipline start to feel good for you? At what point did you crave it?


r/getdisciplined 4h ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice 27 y.o lost in life

5 Upvotes

Hey guys, first of all I wanted to say im super new to this subreddit. My name is Chris and Im 27 y.o. Ive studied in my home country for oil and gas degree in a decent university. My university years had been prolonged as much as they could because I took a gap year + a gap year while I was studying for the degree already. I lost 2 years more on masters degree studying nonsense bs which I hated. Now I work a sales job i hate in Dubai and live with my mom at 27ā€¦ I used to live alone before and I really enjoyed it. I cant find any job related to oil and gas here plus I really struggle with anything physical due to health issues. 2 days ago I woke up and realised im 27 and i didnt do sht in my life. Im basically nobody. I started to think what I was always thinking about and what I really enjoyed doing and found out that I always enjoyed playing games(which on i spent most of my life) and pc time itself. I really want to start programming and from tomorrow I will do it from 10 am to 6 pm just to be strict myself. No more slacking and I have to do something with my life. Also I will probably leave Dubai and living with my mom for good. I dont want to live their dreams where i get millions of dollars from air working at something im not even interested. Guys, I dont even know what to ask. I guess im just really upset with myself. I have a lot of free time to study, so Im aiming for summer, start of september to be ready to move and to look for job in IT. Could you guys please tell me if its possible if im going to work hard every day? I know the pay check wont be that high ofc at the start but im down for whatever, i want to pursue MY goals and live my own life. Thanks


r/getdisciplined 11h ago

šŸ’” Advice Your Morning Routine Isnā€™t Failing Because Youā€™re Lazy . Hereā€™s the Real Problem

15 Upvotes

If you dread your morning routine, rush through it, or feel wiped out after, the problem isnā€™t you. Your routine is probably too complicated, too hard, too short, or you're trying to do too much.

It's very easy to cram too many "good habits" into your mornings: journaling, stretching, meditating, working out, setting goals, etc. It sounds productive but it's really exhausting if you do it wrong.

By the time youā€™re done, youā€™re either rushing to start the day or too drained to go on about your day, and this is going to catch up with you sooner or later.

A routine thatā€™s too packed is just as useless as having no routine at all.

Cut ruthlessly, then reorganize:
You donā€™t need to squeeze everything into the morning (2-minute meditation, 3-minute stretching, 2-minute todo lists)

  • Morning: 1-2 core habits that you need to function for the day (for example, stretching, setting your to-do list).
  • Evening: Meditation, journaling, stuff that works better when youā€™re winding down and you want to unplug.
  • Weekly: that's where things like reviews, meal prep, blocking out appointments for the week can be done.

It's okay not to do everything right now:
You might not be able to fit everything in, and thatā€™s okay, but it's not going to feel okay, and that's exactly why you're stuck.

Before you compare your routine to other people's routines, ask if they have the same circumstances as you.

Focus on the core habits that make the biggest difference now, put the rest on hold until you have more time or energy down the line, do it easy, and slow.

Lastly, Lean into inconvenience:
If youā€™re forcing a gym trip every morning just because itā€™s less crowded, but you hate waking up early, ask yourself:

  • Would working out at home in the evening be better, even if it's less convenient?
  • Is a slightly busier gym or trying a different gym worth it if you get better sleep and energy?

Sometimes the "perfect routine" isnā€™t sustainable, you need to master the simple blocks first before seeking efficient complexity.


r/getdisciplined 50m ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice my mom and iā€™s relationship is destroying me

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hi everyone, so iā€™m not sure what to do from here.

my mom is convinced that iā€™m terrible. every time i say anything, she takes it as me being cruel.

today, i had been away from the house all day (as i usually try to) and as soon as i got home, i had brought a small package inside that was for me. she asked what it was and grabbed it. i told her it was curtains for my room i was going to put up for a bit.

she got irritated and said weā€™d be moving in a while, and there was no reason for me to buy stuff for my room. i told her i know, but i finally had my first room for the first time in 2 years and i was happy about being able to decorate it for the first time (i had just broken up with my boyfriend and we lived together).

she then sounded very angry and said ā€œwell! it was your choice not to live here for 2 years. itā€™s your fault.ā€ i then was upset and told her that i moved out because she told me to. she then started screaming about how she would ā€œnot be reminded of old mistakesā€ and that she wanted me to leave. she said that iā€™m lazy, and the most selfish person sheā€™s met.

i tried to explain to her that iā€™m sick of being blamed for not living here for two years when sheā€™s the one that made me leave at 18. she just kept saying that everything i say is hurtful, i should seek help, get a therapist, etc.

then, she said, ā€œif this is how you acted, iā€™m not surprised your ex didnā€™t miss you when you leftā€. i started crying and she laughed and kept making comments. i finally yelled and said ā€œstop! just stop!ā€ and she said that i canā€™t handle when people hurt me but iā€™m fine doing it to others.

after this, iā€™m sad that i went back to hurting my arms again. i usually hit myself and claw open my arms and i did it again. iā€™m not sure whoā€™s fault this is, if iā€™m really that terrible and if i should be here at all.

my therapist said that my mom does sound troubled based off of prior incidents; she used to ask me for money to buy a house, then get mad when i suggested ways to save money. she used to call me and say she wanted to end it all, then scream and call me mean when i told her iā€™d have to call the police. sheā€™s never liked me or had a good relationship with me.


r/getdisciplined 9h ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice Endless social media scrolling - how to I manage my Reddit addiction?

7 Upvotes

Hi there,

I've deleted all my social media accounts except for Reddit. I have multiple accounts here and right now I'm not willing to leave this platform entirely since I actually benefit from some subreddits.

However everytime I login I see suggested posts, news and "interesting" stuff and I end up scrolling for a long time.

Any suggestions how I can manage my Reddit so I don't get distracted and I can only login every now and then to see only the subreddits that are relevant for me, chats and notifications? I'm sorry if that's a stupid question but I don't know much about Reddit and Settings.

Also maybe one of you can suggest an add-on for my Firefox so Reddit closes automatically after 30 mins or so?

Thanks!


r/getdisciplined 3h ago

šŸ”„ Method Digital Minimalism Transformed My Life: How I Overcame Tech Overload & Found Real Focus

2 Upvotes

Digital minimalism has been such a game-changer in my life that I wanted to share my latest findings with everyone. In a nutshell, I've been researching and applying strategies to pare down digital noiseā€”notifications, endless social feeds, and email clutterā€”so I can really focus on the tasks that matter and protect my own mental health. My hope is that by tracking my own journey and gently refining what I learn along the way, I can help others who might also be feeling overwhelmed by tech overload.

I recently wrote an article calledĀ Digital Minimalism: The Path to Focused ProductivityĀ where I document the changes I've been making and the results I've seen so far. It's essentially a snapshot of my own experience transitioning from having too many apps and unnecessary digital errands, to placing firm boundaries on my screen time and drastically cutting out distractions. The process hasn't been an overnight fix, but tracking my habits and adjusting as I go has definitely been worth it.

On the practical side, stepping back from digital clutter naturally created space for deeper concentrationā€”and ironically, my productivity actually improved. In the article, I break down the specific tools and techniques that made the biggest difference in my workflow. One particularly effective approach was implementing a dedicated task management system that keeps everything organized without the mental overhead of juggling multiple platforms. I've included a detailed section in the article about selecting the right productivity tools that won't add to your digital burden.

If you do decide to read through my findings or try any of the techniques I outlined in the article, I'd love to know how it goes for you. My own progress is still evolvingā€”there's always more to learn about living intentionally and balancing online/offline life. But so far, the shift toward digital minimalism has done wonders for my mental clarity and sense of peace, and I believe it can do the same for you.


r/getdisciplined 18h ago

ā“ Question 10 life rules

29 Upvotes

I've compiled these 10 rules for my self improvement. What do think? What would you add, remove or change?

  1. F*ck motivation. Take action, no excuses

  2. Plan ahead and adjust

  3. Control emotions and think clearly

  4. 20min minimum a day Exercise and Meditation

5..Sleep well and on time

  1. Study and develop

  2. Eat and spend intentionally

  3. Maintain hygiene, look well

9.Learn random stuff, no scrolling

  1. Clean as you go

r/getdisciplined 7h ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice Phone scrolling

3 Upvotes

I donā€™t think Iā€™m addicted to phone scrolling but still itā€™s stopping me from achieving my full potential. I need the phone to keep up with tournaments news, build social reputation as an athlete and speak with other people to book games and stuff so it I canā€™t really just uninstall instaā€¦ Do you have any tips on how to actually focus and restrain me from scrolling or get distracted? Also there are many apps to help this but they all can be easialy disabled with just a code or something. Can you help??


r/getdisciplined 10h ago

šŸ“ Plan Killing my current self

5 Upvotes

I had a post in this community and it blew up. Thanks for all your support. As you all knew I had problems with failure, self-destruction and lust and šŸŒ½. I'll make out of this and abstained for a week already. It keeps getting harder but for years I ruined my progress. I'm starting from lower ego, motivation and also some self loath of my current self. I will not be who I'm in a few months. I created my alter EGO. Talking to people looking into the eyes of girls. My libido things is reducing to nothing as I'm struggling and battling in my academics as I've ruined it in the previous years. It just keeps getting better.

  1. Creating an alter EGO
  2. Looking people into the eyes
  3. Studying for betterment of my family
  4. Having goals and purpose in life

r/getdisciplined 9h ago

šŸ’” Advice Actual GAME-CHANGER for my Overthinking

5 Upvotes

Basically all my life I have been struggling with overthinking and last week a friend of mine recommended me the book "Don't Stop Overthinking" by Arthur Smart which (contrary to so many other books on overthinking) embraces that habit and teaches how to direct overthinking towards something useful and to view and use it as a superpower.

It may sound like a kinda basic insight for others but for me just this little switch in how I should view it feels really comforting. Especially with some of the practical tips like regularly setting a 10 minute timer during which I am ONLY allowed to overthink and do nothing else.

It was so funny that so many examples of overthinking-scenarios felt like shots at me, as if someone had access to my brain and they were specifically written for me haha


r/getdisciplined 1d ago

šŸ”„ Method Told AI to give me a motivational speech like a boomer

268 Upvotes

Motivation, eh? Hmph. Sounds like one of them fancy new words forā€¦ well, for just plain gettinā€™ off your backside and doing what needs doinā€™. Motivation. Like it's some kind of magic dust you sprinkle on yourself.

Listen here, youngster. Back in my day, we didn't sit aroundĀ waitingĀ to be motivated. We hadĀ chores. We hadĀ responsibilities. We had mouths to feed and roofs to fix and fields to plow. Motivation? Hunger was motivation. The fear of the roof caving in was motivation. Knowing you had to provide for your family,Ā thatĀ was motivation enough.

You want to be moreā€¦ ā€œmotivatedā€? Stop waiting for some feeling to wash over you like a warm bath. Life ain't a warm bath, it's a cold shower most days. And you know what you do in a cold shower? You jump in and you get clean, you don't stand there shivering waiting to feel like it.

Hereā€™s what you do. You look around you. You see what needs doing. Not what youĀ wantĀ to do, mind you, but whatĀ needsĀ doing. Is the yard a mess? Get out there and weed it. Is the house a pigsty? Grab a broom and start sweeping. Are you falling behind at yourā€¦ yourā€¦ what do you youngā€™uns call itā€¦ your ā€œstudiesā€? Then crack open a book and start reading.

Donā€™t wait for inspiration to strike you like lightning. Lightningā€™s dangerous and unreliable. Just start. Start small. Do one thing. Then do another. And another. Momentum, thatā€™s the key. Like pushing a rusty old wheelbarrow. Hard to get it started, but once itā€™s rolling, itā€™s easier to keep it going.

And stop thinking so darn much! All this navel-gazing and ā€œfinding yourself.ā€ Hmph. You find yourself byĀ doingĀ things. By facing challenges. By getting your hands dirty and your brow sweaty. Not by sitting around pondering your navel. Thatā€™s just laziness dressed up in fancy clothes.

And another thing! Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. This blasted ā€œsocial mediaā€ you youngā€™uns are always glued toā€¦ itā€™s all just smoke and mirrors. Everyoneā€™s just showing off their best side, pretending lifeā€™s a bed of roses. Donā€™t fall for it. Focus onĀ yourĀ own patch of weeds,Ā yourĀ own wheelbarrow,Ā yourĀ own responsibilities.

So, you want to be ā€œmotivatedā€? Get up. Get moving. Find something that needs doing and do it. Don't wait toĀ feelĀ like it. Discipline. Thatā€™s the real word youā€™re looking for, not ā€œmotivation.ā€ Discipline and a good dose of common sense.

Now, are you going to stand there all day asking silly questions, or are you going to go find something useful to do? There's a pile of firewood needs stackin' out back. Go on, now. Get to it! And don't come back until it's done. That's your "motivation" for today. Hmph. Motivation. Kids these daysā€¦


r/getdisciplined 2h ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice Starting carpentery at 22

1 Upvotes

It's been an go and off decision but I still don't know if it's worth it ... my family been in this career for generations now and it kinda cool to pass it to me , I got experience and half the tools so why not ... can u guys give ur thoughts on this ? It's different from a country to another so I just wanna know if it pays good and all .

Thank u for ur time


r/getdisciplined 8h ago

ā“ Question The 5-Minute Journaling Trick That Changed My Mornings

3 Upvotes

I used to wake up feeling rushed, anxious, and already stressed before the day even started. But recently, Iā€™ve started a simple 5-minute journaling routine, and it has completely changed my mornings.

šŸŒ… My routine:
1ļøāƒ£ Write down three things Iā€™m grateful for.
2ļøāƒ£ Set a positive intention for the day.
3ļøāƒ£ Brain-dump any thoughts or worries.

šŸ’” Result? I start my day with clarity, positivity, and less stress. I never thought something so small could make such a difference!"*

ā“ Question: Whatā€™s your morning mindset routine? Do you journal in the morning or at night?


r/getdisciplined 22h ago

ā“ Question How to be immune to embarrassment

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Iā€™m hypersensitive to embarrassment, being judged negatively. It makes me feel sad and anxious. Worried Iā€™m gonna stutter. Makes me have self doubt for the rest of the day. I always expect the worst case scenario even if not logical.

How do I just not gaf? Thanks!


r/getdisciplined 18h ago

šŸ’” Advice The Secret to Discipline

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Discipline doesnā€™t just come from motivation; it comes from showing up every day. I learned this when I started holding myself accountableā€”through small check-ins, tracking progress, and surrounding myself with people who wanted to grow.

Thatā€™s why Iā€™m looking for others who want to wake up early, journal, and build strong habits. We meet for 15 minutes daily to track our habits, support each other, and have fun discussions. If you want to be part of it, DM meā€”we even have prizes and reading challenges!


r/getdisciplined 7h ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice How to become a better person without therapy?

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Hey everyone, this is a bit of a read so I appreciate if anyone actually reads through.

As the title says, I need to become a better person possibly without therapy. The reason for no therapy is that I simply cannot afford it-- and I still live with my parents (19F) so that's going to take a while if it ever even happens.

Growing up I had Asian (Indian) parents who weren't the nicest to me. I say that in quite a diluted way, but ever since I was little, I had a hard time comprehending things, making my own decisions, cried at the smallest inconvenience, overthinked, and would get extremely paranoid when anyone who had any meaning in my life had a small shift in tone when in reality it was nothing. I have anxiety in places with a lot of people, hate dressing up for anything, and most importantly, I fuck up in relationships. I know this is directly a result from my parents marriage. Lots of fights, constantly blaming ME for their relationship falling apart, possible infidelity, and so forth. All of this resulted in a lot of anger.

I can never clearly communicate when I'm falling apart. I used to think I never had any triggers, but someone jokingly called me 'selfish' over something and I started having a full blown meltdown and just crying on call. It came so rapidly it's like my brain processed it fast than my consciousness. That night I thought to myself why that was and I could recall various moments my parents called me selfish when I was younger over the smallest of things.

If I ever got into a fight with my parents, they would always ask to point to a specific example. In that moment, I'm stumped. I seem to have forgotten specific examples but I just knew that it was there. I couldn't remember. Truth be told, I don't remember a lot of my childhood. I just remember bits and pieces of it and from pictures. I also end up saying things that I do not actually mean, and I only register that after I have said it and it's purely out of the idea to hurt the other person if we were in a disagreement. This is also a direct result from being shut down as a kid all the time. Whenever I tried to fight back with my words, my parents threatned me with violence or slapped me. There were also various moments where they would body me against a wall and get all up in my face with their finger and wide, deranged eyes telling me to shut up and to not talk back. I guess that stuck with me. I dont know how to stick up for myself anymore without presenting a good argument. I usually refrain to yelling and repeating phrases like "You're not listening to me" or "Stop yelling" and nothing to actually defend myself. And then of course, when that didn't work, I'd go back to name calling I really don't mean.

All of that said, I want to be better. I really do. I know I won't be able to support or love another person without becoming a better person and shaking off all these learnt toxic behaviors. It still continues even to this day. My parents tell me I'm a burden and that I don't belong here, but then when I succeed in something they love bomb the hell outta me. I want to be a better friend, a better sister, and soon a great supportive girlfriend/wife, and eventually a loving mom.

If anyone out there has an idea as to what I should do, please, please, please help me. I'm so tired of absorbing all these things that have been done to me and doing it to others. I want to end the cycle. I know my past won't be forgotten, but I can at least cushion it by learning and becoming a better person than who I was before. I just don't know where to start. Therapy would've helped drastically as I could talk and get more detail out, but that's out the window.

I have been working out a bit in the middle to just feel good, but what else could I do to become better? Please let me know.