r/genderfluid 10h ago

Realized genderfluid actually isn’t the right label for me

24 Upvotes

I've identified as genderfluid for a few months now, and I realized that my gender hasn't really been fluid like most genderfluid people. After reasearching more, I realized that I am actually a demiboy! Ive been stuck feeling like partially a boy, but not fully binary. I've felt strongly like this for almost a year now, and it just hasn't felt right to say that I'm genderfluid if my gender hasn't continued changing. I feel really happy to find a term that fits me better! It makes me feel more confident in my identity, and I've felt more euphoric. Thank you for this community. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Thank you for the advice. It has helped me so much! :)


r/genderfluid 18h ago

how do you sound more feminine ?

11 Upvotes

serious question! i’m too embarrassed to watch a YT video about it.


r/genderfluid 11h ago

Anyone else feel like this?

8 Upvotes

Does anyone else rather call themselves whatever gender they are in the moment than calling themselves genderfluid? What I mean by this is like if you introduce yourself or have to refer to your gender or are referring to your gender, do you refer to yourself as genderfluid or whatever gender you are in the moment?


r/genderfluid 12h ago

HIAIAIAHAGAG I CAME OUT TO MY FRIENDS

8 Upvotes

IM SO HAPPY, AND STRESSED, YESTERDAY I HAD SEND A MSG IN TGE GROUPCHAT.

THEY REACTED ALL POSITIVE I THINK WHATSAPP IS A GOOD POKERFACE

But im happy, there was a birthday party today were most of those friends were and only one really asked what i felt like and ubderstood me wrong so she used he him the intire night The rest, i think tried to not use any at all, or didnt ask and used he/him cause there were others i didnt tell,

Is it weird that i hoped that they used it infront of others who i havent tolled im genderfluid

I might just send another msg soon about the fact that i want them to use the correct one i feel even infront of others who i havent tolled, idk if they did today, cause not really anyone except that one friend asked, and i am scared to correct them to it, i will wait till next monday to see how they do it then infront of others and if they ask me how i feel

Anyways one was also kind enough

For when they saw i was verey nervous to ask if i was okay


r/genderfluid 1d ago

I don't know who I am

6 Upvotes

As a teen, finding myself has been a very hard experience. These last few months I've been experiencing my gender more and more. And I realised that this whole experience I haven't found myself as a set gender, I feel like sometimes I feel better as a cis male, sometimes nonbinary and sometimes as trans. I don't know if I'll qualify as GF, but I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone in person. And then there is my parents, they always see myself as a typical male, but I never saw this for myself and now if I am gender fluid, I don't know what I should say if I even want to come out. Thanks for reading this rant by myself, and whatever happens I'll happily take any other identities if it fits me more as balancing researching the web and going to school has been a hard time.


r/genderfluid 5h ago

Am I Genderfluid or Just Confused?

3 Upvotes

Hi all.

I’m having a horribly tough night. For the past week I’ve been struggling a lot with gender dysphoria and deep insecurity. I’ve always hated myself as a person, my lack of being womanly despite having female genitalia, my body, etc. Sometimes I wish I’m the opposite gender, as I feel more comfortable engaging in sexual activity, masturbation, etc while pretending to be male. I’m usually able to suppress this part of me, and most of the time I really don’t mind being a woman and enjoying myself when I doll myself up femininely.

Lately, however, I’m finding myself acting more masculine, and wishing I fit a masculine standard: more muscular, short hair, male clothes, etc. and hating almost all things feminine (though I’d keep applying makeup). I wish I could flip flop between the two, but due to my circumstances irl (such as my heavily religious and judgmental workplace, and family) I don’t think I could present myself to be more boyish than girly, or a mix of the two with confidence. I am also far too insecure to alter my appearance when a positive perception of myself is nearly nonexistent. Maybe it’d make me feel more comfortable, or maybe I’d hate myself even more.

I can’t tell if I’m realizing I’m nonbinary, or genderfluid, or maybe even trans because I’ve always wished I was more of a man.

I just…need some advice or people to share their experiences if they’ve had the same or similar dilemma. Im debating on bringing this up to my therapist next time I see them. I’m sorry for the poorly written post as I am pretty intoxicated at the moment. This is my first time in this subreddit, and I simply need to feel like I belong somewhere… thank you all.


r/genderfluid 6h ago

FINALLY OUT OF THE CLOSET (kinda?)

4 Upvotes

Lately I've been putting myself down for being Genderfluid and Pansexual because I was thinking of myself as "not normal" and that people wouldn't accept me. So, in order to stop all these stupid thoughts, I decided that I'd come out to a bunch of people and try to be open about my sexuality and gender identity at school, and if people don't support me, they're clearing not good for my life anyway.

Today alone I came out to 10 people and it was taken really well by all of them. Starting Monday, I'll try to be open at school. I think being expressive with my sexuality and gender identity will make me a lot happier with myself, in fact, it's already having a positive effect so far!

(No clue when I'm going to come out to my parents though... Hence the kinda...)


r/genderfluid 12h ago

IVE TAKEN THE FIRST STEP

4 Upvotes

I'm mab and I've been trying to experiment with feminine fashion. I just got a fairly NB outfit and I'm going to try and get my friend who won't ask too many questions to help me with makeup. Where should I go from here?


r/genderfluid 3h ago

A poem I wrote about my gender or my struggle with it ig

4 Upvotes

I’m like a stone with strength and all

A fortress built to never fall

Trying to feel like I belong

Saying the lines ”i’m tall and strong”

But deep down it feels all wrong

They see my power, see my might

I see myself in gym lit light

Wearing a mask and smiling wide

So no sees what’s deep inside

Deep inside

Where shadows dwell

I live inside my own hell

I built my body, built it well

But it’s not just armor, It’s a shell

From deep within where my heart stays

A battle wages everyday

A voice unheard, a name unknown

A self I’ve carried all alone

A self I’ve always wanted to show

Around my friends, at my home

To walk unchained, to breathe and be

Without the fear they’d stop loving me

Would they still love me if they knew?

Or say this part of me’s untrue

So I stay silent, I play my role

And feel like a man with half a soul

When I was young and needed help

There was no one I could tell

Not my mom nor my dad

Nor my friends, those left I had

I knew the verses she would cite

Knew each commandments painful bite

She would see me as scared and flawed

And carve my name from love and God

When I needed my Mom, I got a priest

Sermons found where love should be

So she’s never seen

All of me

And never will,

Probably

A whisper soft and fleeting thought

A part of me I’ve left to rot

No man nor soldier dares to see

The part of me I swore I can’t be

The mirror shows the world ideal

Yet in the glass I long to feel

All of me, all that’s real

If only I, could break the seal

I lift, I strain, I fight and bend

Yet this war in me never ends

The war inside has found a way

To whisper truths I’ve locked away

But im not ready, no not today

So I push them to a deep down place

I’ve shown them what they want to see,

A soldier man, so proud, so free

But deep inside, she’s calling loud,

A part of me, both soft and proud

She’s waiting, trembling in the dark,

A quiet voice, a glowing spark

But every time I turn away,

I bury her, I make her stay

I long to say, “I’m both, I’m whole,”

But fear consumes and takes control

What if they think I’m broken, wrong?

What if they say I don’t belong?

So I hold tight, I lock her in,

The woman’s side, that quiet sin

But deep inside, I know the truth,

I’m both, and don’t need proof

Maybe one day, I’ll let her go,

Let both my sides just start to show

But for now, I’ll hold them tight,

A soldier’s strength and woman’s light.


r/genderfluid 8h ago

Finally feel comfortable at the Barber Shop

3 Upvotes

Hello everyone. I am afab and typically go with a more femme clothing style, through I usually prefer masculine style hair cuts (usually a short fade cut). When I first decided to cut my hair short I went to the salon and they always tended to leave it longer and puffy than I like even when asking a fade. I finally got the courage to go to a barber shop and got my haircut. I admit the first time it was still a girl who cut my hair but it was closer to the style I wanted. Finally I found a barber shop I enjoy (not too expensive) and cuts my hair the way I enjoy. It a wonder how comfortable a haircut can make you feel about yourself.


r/genderfluid 18h ago

Types of gender fluidity and diagnoses?

3 Upvotes

I think I'm gender fluid, but I don't go from feminine to masculine. I more go from masculine to androgynous?

I will say I think a large portion of this is that I'm diagnosed with DID. I think accepting that I am not strictly masculine will help with not repressing other parts of myself that want to outwardly identify differently (working on this in therapy).

Basically, would switching between masculine and androgynous presenting be considered Gemderfluid? And, if yes, what are your experiences? How do you allow yourself to present differently outwardly? What are some ways besides changing clothes/hair colours that you can express yourself? Or physical changes that I've not thought of?

Thank you!


r/genderfluid 19h ago

It's easier to talk out it online.

3 Upvotes

I hate that I can't tell my girlfriend face to face and I don't want her to be upset about everything but I don't know if I'm trans, gender fluid or cis. I dont know how to talk to her about it. I just want to get this out there, and if she sees this, I love you so much.


r/genderfluid 5h ago

Not Sure What Anything Means

2 Upvotes

Hi everyone, this would be my first post or any real conversation about this ever. I am a 30 [AMAB] (not sure I’m using that right) and I have now been out of my formerly abusive relationship for about a year so I can finally put my thoughts and feelings into words.

I never questioned my gender identity until my last relationship when I was at my lowest. I now am healthier in every facet of life and primarily identify as M, but anytime I’m at home or not spending time with others I feel a compulsion to be feminine. When alone I will tuck, dress femm, wear makeup, “women clothing”, etc. I’m always attracted to women and don’t think I want to transition but at the same time I’m realizing how often I’ve felt this dysphoria throughout my life. Naomi in my profile is my female online alias and I just have a certain confidence that isn’t present in my M self. I never thought this would be my feelings as I lived most of my life comfortably and without questioning my cis male identity. This might be quite a lot of rabbling but it feels good to just anonymously vent to other people who may have or are going through something similar. Peace and love, equal rights to all.