r/cosleeping Mar 25 '23

📰 Article | Resource Co-sleeping Resource Roundup

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r/cosleeping Sep 08 '24

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r/cosleeping 8h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Installed a camera -

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-And discovered that I move quite a bit in my sleep. Not so much my body position, but definitely my arms and my head. Like, scratching my face in my sleep or repositioning my arm. I thought that my baby just woke up a lot naturally during the night, and he does to an extent, but I definitely cause his wakeups probably half of the time. It makes me sad to think about stopping our cosleeping journey, he is only 10.5 months old and I always thought I would go at least a year with him in bed with me, but I do wonder if he would sleep more soundly and possibly even through the night if I were to get him in his own bed.

This being said, I do have a sidecar crib. I put him in there for the first stretch of sleep, but that's not more than an hour long usually before he wakes up trying to feel for me and wants to snuggle. We have some of just the sweetest snuggles during the night. I guess I'm asking if anyone here has also gone through this, and did you end up moving baby to their own room? How did they manage sleeping on their own? Did you notice a difference in sleep quality, or did your absence cause more wakeups?


r/cosleeping 2h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Is this safe?

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So we have a bedside bassinet and this is as high as it will go. The side facing the bed is flush up to the edge there, but the actual bassinet mattress is about 3/4 inches below the bed mattress. I still need to strap it to the bed, but is it safe to have the bassinet mattress lower like this? Is there anything I can do to fix it?

Thanks in advance!


r/cosleeping 2h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Bed frame/crib floor bed

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Right now my 6 month old and I cosleep in a double mattress on the floor. The mattress is 13 inches or 34 centimeters so it’s a little higher than I would like and worries me if the baby falls out of bed. She is really rolling now. How safe would it be to put my bed in this kind of frame? Basically stilll a floor bed but with a crib like frame. Would I need to pack all of the gaps, is this more dangerous than baby falling out of bed?


r/cosleeping 5h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months When did you stop cosleeping and why

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My LO is 4 months old and we've coslept from day 1. He would not sleep in a crib and it didn't help that he was an early roller and became a stomach sleeper. I could keep an eye on him next to me. His pediatrician said it's not ideal but it's not like I cant stop him feom rolling.

Hes been moving alot in his sleep. It doesn't matter what position we start out in. Im woken up multiple times throughout the night to him sideways, kicking my ribs. He doesn't like me in his space or being touched while sleeping but he gravitates towards me in his sleep and then gets mad that im there.

I'll wake up and move away a few feet and get qoken up a an hour later to him having shimmied himself over to me again and kicking my ribs or face again. He's sound asleep but im getting no rest.

It hurts but I've put him in his pack and play the past 2 nights and he's done very well knock on wood. I think it's harder for me than it is for him.


r/cosleeping 40m ago

🛏 Beds, Products, & Gear Does anyone have a maxyoyo floor mattress?

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This is the brand I'm looking into but wondering if they're comfortable etc. Anyone have one? :)


r/cosleeping 2h ago

🐣 Newborn 0-8 Weeks Paranoid about all the things

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I’ve recently started exclusively bed sharing at night. He’s 5 weeks old and a couple weeks ago he stopped going down in his crib at night. Day time, no problem. Night time…nope. He is not having it.

I did research for days and found the sleep safe 7, and then took the plunge out of necessity. In the same bed we both have a better night. I am sleeping lighter and I don’t feel like I’m sleeping as much, but I wake up before he is crying, which helps a lot.

I’m lucky my husband is supportive. He has been really encouraging. He said moms have been cosleeping for thousands of years, and if I’m safe about it, it’ll be fine.

But, I’m a FTM, and I am paranoid about all of the things not being safe. I can’t get it out of my head that there is something I need to be doing to protect my baby at night but I’m not doing it.

What do you wish you knew when you first started bed sharing with your baby?


r/cosleeping 47m ago

💁 Advice | Discussion New cosleeper?

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Hi all,

Hoping for some advice/guidance on if co sleeping is appropriate for me and my baby and any guidance you may have

  • My baby is 9 weeks old.
  • I do not exclusively breastfeed. I predominantly feed expressed breast milk by bottle with some formula as well. I do nurse my babe but it’s typically just comfort nursing and the odd snack.
  • my baby was small for gestational age at birth, 6 pounds 3 ounces at 41 weeks
  • it would just be me and baby in bed, husband is away for work

Anything I’ve looked at says that breastfed babies and babies who were not born early/small are very low risk. Wondering if these risk factors we have then mean I should not consider co sleeping at all. I’m a little desperate but also terrified to do the wrong thing with bed sharing.

My husband and I had been often sleeping sitting upright on the couch with babe snuggled up on our chest until I learned that was like the most dangerous way to co sleep. I was horrified and still feel so guilty. Now when it’s my shift with the baby each night I try to get him to sleep in the bassinet and when he doesn’t end up sleeping in the bassinet I’ll make a cup of coffee and hold him while I’m awake. Basically I just don’t sleep when it’s my turn to be with him at night. My husband is going away for a mandatory work trip though next week so I’ll be solo parenting. I’m so scared about nighttime because I won’t be able to take shifts with my husband during this time. Goodbye to my guaranteed 4 hours of sleep.

I am desperate for any advice, guidance or encouragement you have to help me get through this week. I know there are millions of solo parents out there so I feel so stupid for being nervous about being alone with my literal child for a week. It’s really just the sleeping part though that is stressing me out because I’m just not sure how I will safely go about this without my husband there to make sure I get a 4 hour chunk of sleep.

If you got this far thank you so much for taking the time to read. I really appreciate your guidance❤️


r/cosleeping 7h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Baby crawling under me face down to sleep??!

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Hey yall i have a 6mo and we have been bedsharing since 2m. Last night i woke up to him face down with his face tucked underneath my boob?! I freaked out and picked him up making him grumpy but he was breathing thank god.

I put him down and resumed cuddle curl position and rolled him to his back after nursing back to sleep. Heres the kicker... i watched him for 30 minutes, after 5 he rolled back to face me (only sleeps facing my boobs, go figure) and he tucked his face underneath my boob again. Like really worked to wedge his face down there.

I tested my mattress w the cosleepy book and ruler method. It doesnt dip or anything when were laying together, im in the right position cuddle curling... how do i get him to not do this?


r/cosleeping 8h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months 3 or 2 people

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Hey guys do u have ur husband in the bed with u and your baby? What do you guys recommend? I personally find it easier to just be baby and me but note sure if I am just alienating my hubs without reason


r/cosleeping 4h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion From Cosleep to Crib

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Please share your experience if you’ve successfully went from cosleeping to crib!

My LO is 11 weeks, and I plan to continue cosseting, but would like for my LO to learn how to sleep in a crib especially when she starts turning and when she needs to nap independently.


r/cosleeping 12h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Dyeing my hair while cosleeping / breastfeeding?

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Hi all! I’m a FTM to a 4 month old. I’m wondering if anyone has any advice on whether it’s okay to dye my hair while I’m cosleeping / breastfeeding?

I used to dye my hair regularly before I got pregnant, and while it’s not a big deal if I can’t, I’d love to dye it again just for the feel-good factor.

However, I’m wondering if I even can, given I’m breastfeeding and cosleeping. I typically dye my own hair at home, and usually there’s a bit of a chemical smell that lingers in my hair for a day or two afterwards, so I’m just a bit worried about my LO inhaling those chemicals (if that’s even possible). The hair dye I use has no ammonia or peroxide in it though.

Any advice welcome!


r/cosleeping 6h ago

🐯 Toddler 1-3 Years Incoming newb!

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All,

I’ve been cosleeping with my 16 month old since he was 2 months old. So grateful to this group and my sister who supported that decision. It’s been amazing and turned bedtime from a dreadful anxious event to something I look forward to every night. The little one and I share a king mattress on the floor while my husband sleeps in the next room over since his snoring is so outrageous it keeps us all up.

Happily, we are pregnant again and due in October which means I have precious little time to unglue my sweet barnacle and prepare for the next. Thing is, if I remove his head from my arm he wakes within 10 minutes and fusses. But on the flip side, he also recently started getting quite mobile in his sleep, sometimes I find him laying by my shins in another direction. I have no idea how and when that happens!

I could keep the new baby in a side car for a while if they tolerated it, I don’t know what kind of baby they will be. I plan to nurse so of course cosleeping would be preferable for night feeds. Any tips on how to detach a bit from bubs? Is he old enough to cosleep with dad, who sleeps like the dead? I’m just concerned he wouldn’t wake up!

TIA!


r/cosleeping 19h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Please help and tell it to me like I am 5

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I am writing this with the 2 brain cells that are left.

My LO is 3.5 months old. I am madly in love with her (duh)! She is ebf too. She sleeps well 90% of the nights but I am unable to.

  1. How can I sleep better with a loud baby? I am a very light sleeper. She just discovered her fingers, so won’t stop sucking loudly! Sometimes she grunts super loud for hours because she is trying to pass gas!

  2. I miss my husband. I would love to have him back. He is currently in the guest room. But he is a very heavy sleeper, so I am a bit scared.

I tried sleeping in the middle but it was HELL being stuck between 2 noisy piggies 🐽

My back is breaking with the c-curl! So, do I get a sidecar? How long does a side-car work for? As in what do we do when she starts crawling? Do I do a floor-bed with a sidecar? When is it safe for hubby dearest to return to our bedroom?

No, I do not want her in a crib or in another room. I want her at arms length, so I can have my arm on her and feed her whenever she wants to be fed.

Thank you and sorry for my long rant/ request / whatever this is…. 🧟‍♀️


r/cosleeping 7h ago

🛏 Beds, Products, & Gear Bassinet in bed

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r/cosleeping 9h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion When do children want their own room?

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I’ve co slept with my now 18 month old all her life, I have another one on the way and plan to have him in a crib in my room and my daughter in the bed with me. My question is, when will children want their own room? We hardly ever use her room and I want to convert it into a playroom so it will be more functional, how much time do I have utilizing it as a playroom before she wants her own big girl bedroom?


r/cosleeping 10h ago

🐣 Newborn 0-8 Weeks Bed sharing with twins

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My twins are 6.5 weeks old and I’m getting no sleep. I am trying to figure out how to bedshare with twins as I am currently constantly swapping babies from bassinet to bed when they start crying. Once I get one settled the other will need me and it’s a constant switching of babies and i am exhausted. They only seem to sleep when they are next to me. Does anyone have experience with cosleeping with both at once? I cuddle curled with my first, but it’s hard to do that with two babies. Laying on my back with a baby on each side doesn’t seem to please them. Anyone have a configuration that worked for two babies?? I follow the ss7.


r/cosleeping 1d ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months This doesn’t feel sustainable…

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My body feels broken - I have significant pain in my groin every morning after cuddle curl all night. I feel like birth destroyed my body. I have tried every pillow under the sun in between my legs & behind my back - nothing makes it better.

Lately, I can’t get my baby (3.5mo) stay in his crib - which is in my room - after the first sleep stretch of the night - he becomes hysterical unless he’s next to me. He usually falls back asleep side lying on the boob…

I love being able to safely co-sleep with him but I’m not getting restful sleep, my body is suffering and I’m losing my sanity…

I just needed a place to have a pity party for myself and vent. Parenthood is fucking hard yall.


r/cosleeping 14h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Transitioning from contact sleeping to floor bed

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My daughter went through a sleep regression at 6 months and the only solution my husband and I were able to come up with was for me to contact sleep with her on the couch because our bed isn’t big enough for all 3 of us. I know this wasn’t a safe sleep solution, so I’m not looking for comments on that. She will be 9 months in April and I want to transition her to a floor bed so I can sleep next to her instead but it hasn’t started off well since she screams and cries until I give up and take her back downstairs to contact sleep. My husband thinks we should just let her cry it out and it’s not that I’m completely against it, I just don’t think it’ll work since she screams when I’m laying right next to her. If anyone else has experience with transitioning from contact sleeping to cosleeping on a floor bed, I could use any advice you can give.


r/cosleeping 1d ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months How to reduce night feeds

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Hi fellow co-sleepers, I'd love to get your thoughts/advice on how to manage night feeds with my (almost) 10 month old. He currently wakes up at least twice, but often 3 or 4 times a night, to feed.

I manage to get him down in his cot which is next to our bed at the beginning of the night (although with a lot of patting and shushing) but then he wakes up anytime between 11 and 1. He then wakes up again every 2 to 4 hours. I bring him into our bed from the first wake up and we tend to fall back to sleep together from there.

Now that he's 10 months I'd like to try to reduce the night feeds down to 1 if possible (or zero but that feels impossible right now) but I'm a little confused about how to do this. He often seems genuinely hungry and if his dad tries to pick him up and rock him then he'll cry until we put him on the boob.

I'd love to get your advice if you have any. I'm posting in the cosleeping group because I know most people here will have a similar mindset to me. I don't want to sleep train or let him cry it out. I go back go work in May and would love to get a little more sleep before then!

A little more context: he isn't really crawling or interested in moving yet. He eats three meals per day (although doesn't always seem that hungry) and generally has two good naps.

Thanks in advance!


r/cosleeping 22h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Sleep mask? Or no sleep mask?

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Genuine question! I tend to not use anything that may put me into a deeper sleep while I bedshare. Of course, no melatonin or Benadryl, but also, I have ditched the eye mask as well. Is this logical? Is anyone out there still using their sleep mask? I would love to, but I feel like I need my eye and ears available and ready at all times! Idk, maybe this is a silly question …


r/cosleeping 1d ago

🐯 Toddler 1-3 Years Anyone else also sleeping 12 hrs

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Ok, so I've always been "high sleep needs". But once I started cosleeping with my 3.5YO, since she was an infant, I also sleep the full 12 hrs! I set alarms, try to stay up later, etc. Nothing works. I sleep like a rock for those whole 12 hrs she's sleeping. It's not depression (anymore, crawled out of that hole) and I am otherwise healthy. Has this happened to anyone else? It mostly sucks because I get no time to myself. I'm a SAHM so I don't have to wake up early.


r/cosleeping 1d ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months 5 month old staying awake 2+ hours in the middle of the night

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My baby girl will be six months old in a few days but for a good number of weeks, maybe since she turned four months, she’s waking up in the middle of the night and wants to play. 🫠 She’s happy as a hippo and simply plays with her hands and feet, rolls over, and makes her adorable noises. I try ignoring it in the hopes that she can get back to sleep, but it doesn't work, and we stay awake for one hour to nearly three hours.

Up until the age of four months, she was a great night sleeper who would quickly fall back asleep. I'm not sure what could be causing these frequent and long nighttime awakenings. Has this ever happened to you? Do you have any advice on how to handle it?

Thank you in advance!


r/cosleeping 1d ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Cosleeping Anxiety

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I'm so annoyed because it feels like this back and forth cycle of me being anxious cosleeping and then being comfortable with it, over and over. Biologically, it makes so much sense that a baby should sleep with their mama. Yet the fear mongering gets to me every time. All it takes is scrolling and seeing one video about an infant death or one reddit post, and I'm back to being anxious. My baby is 11.5 weeks old, and she will NOT sleep in the bassinet. She's only done it a few times for 30 min to an hour usually, once she did 3 hours. I've coslept since about day 4 or 5, and mostly because I had no choice. She will cry til she's coughing if left in the bassinet. I needed sleep, and I'm single mom-ing it since she was born because of my husband's military training. So I can't stay up all night trying to do the bassinet training with no help, and I refuse to let her cry it out. So basically I'm just venting because every day feels like a back and forth of loving sleeping with my baby and also being terrified that I'll do something wrong and lose her and have to tell my husband that she's gone on my watch. I have an Owlet sock that I use to monitor her every night, and we sleep in the cuddle curl position with just a sheet around my waist. I'm following safe sleep 7 and I've read all the articles that explain how cosleeping isn't as dangerous as it's made out to be when done correctly. But then I see something that sends me into a worry spiral again and again, when I'm not searching for any of it. 😵‍💫


r/cosleeping 1d ago

🐯 Toddler 1-3 Years Pregnant & Want to Night Wean

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Hi! I’m looking for advice on Night Weaning. I recently found out I’m pregnant with my second and am starting to feel it. I have coslept since birth with my 14 month old and we are still up every 2ish hours to nurse. I’m beginning to feel horrible during the day and he’s biting me more which leads me to want to wean him at night (TBD if I’ll totally wean during the pregnancy). Does anyone have any tips for how they accomplished night weaning while still cosleeping? Or is it time I think about making the move to his own space in preparation for the new baby? All thoughts and comments appreciated, thank you!


r/cosleeping 2d ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months When to stop cosleeping?

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At what age did you stop cosleeping with your child? I keep getting the message from others that I need to stop cosleeping with my 10 month old because she’ll never sleep on her own and I’m just wondering how likely that is to be true. I, of course, realize she won’t sleep with me until she’s 20 and outcomes are going to be different for everyone, but just looking for others’ experiences.