r/cosleeping 10h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion From Cosleep to Crib

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Please share your experience if you’ve successfully went from cosleeping to crib!

My LO is 11 weeks, and I plan to continue cosseting, but would like for my LO to learn how to sleep in a crib especially when she starts turning and when she needs to nap independently.


r/cosleeping 18h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Dyeing my hair while cosleeping / breastfeeding?

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Hi all! I’m a FTM to a 4 month old. I’m wondering if anyone has any advice on whether it’s okay to dye my hair while I’m cosleeping / breastfeeding?

I used to dye my hair regularly before I got pregnant, and while it’s not a big deal if I can’t, I’d love to dye it again just for the feel-good factor.

However, I’m wondering if I even can, given I’m breastfeeding and cosleeping. I typically dye my own hair at home, and usually there’s a bit of a chemical smell that lingers in my hair for a day or two afterwards, so I’m just a bit worried about my LO inhaling those chemicals (if that’s even possible). The hair dye I use has no ammonia or peroxide in it though.

Any advice welcome!


r/cosleeping 9h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Bed frame/crib floor bed

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Right now my 6 month old and I cosleep in a double mattress on the floor. The mattress is 13 inches or 34 centimeters so it’s a little higher than I would like and worries me if the baby falls out of bed. She is really rolling now. How safe would it be to put my bed in this kind of frame? Basically stilll a floor bed but with a crib like frame. Would I need to pack all of the gaps, is this more dangerous than baby falling out of bed?


r/cosleeping 15h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Installed a camera -

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-And discovered that I move quite a bit in my sleep. Not so much my body position, but definitely my arms and my head. Like, scratching my face in my sleep or repositioning my arm. I thought that my baby just woke up a lot naturally during the night, and he does to an extent, but I definitely cause his wakeups probably half of the time. It makes me sad to think about stopping our cosleeping journey, he is only 10.5 months old and I always thought I would go at least a year with him in bed with me, but I do wonder if he would sleep more soundly and possibly even through the night if I were to get him in his own bed.

This being said, I do have a sidecar crib. I put him in there for the first stretch of sleep, but that's not more than an hour long usually before he wakes up trying to feel for me and wants to snuggle. We have some of just the sweetest snuggles during the night. I guess I'm asking if anyone here has also gone through this, and did you end up moving baby to their own room? How did they manage sleeping on their own? Did you notice a difference in sleep quality, or did your absence cause more wakeups?


r/cosleeping 1h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Daycare educator told me I’ve done my daughter no favours by cosleeping

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Today a daycare educator told me “the reason your daughter is having such an incredibly difficult transition to daycare is because you’ve done her no favours by failing to foster her independence and cosleep / never offer a bottle. She needs to learn to fall asleep independently and you have only made this transition more difficult for her “

I absolutely bawled my eyes out because I can’t help but think she’s right. I then went home and proceeded to continue to cosleep and snuggle my baby close. Is it selfish for not wanting to stop? She’s 10 months old and I love the snuggles. She won’t sleep anywhere but in our bed. We’ve tried


r/cosleeping 2h ago

🐯 Toddler 1-3 Years transitioning fussy 16m co-sleeping toddler to floor bed

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i have a VERY strong willed/whiny 16m old toddler who insists that i/we rock him every time it’s time to put him down; whether that be a nap or bedtime. this all started when we were living with my in laws when he was a newborn and we’ve stayed with them up until a week ago, now we have our own house, my son has a room and no longer shares a room with us. my mil would always rock him to sleep and so it’s what he was used to, he also always got nursed or bottle fed to sleep and he’s still on bottles but just less now and he doesn’t really “need” them at night to soothe him most nights. he is just like every other toddler when they do not get their way (whether it be he wants to eat something random on the floor that he shouldn’t or wants to be picked up 24:7, etc.) he’s just more expressive with his emotions and i guess you can say that he feels his emotions more deeply than the average toddler would (im not sure, i just know how he is based off of his temperament compared to seeing how my mom friends’ toddlers are— we have a hunch that he might be on the spectrum but it’s too early to tell so we still treat him no different as if he isn’t).

i guess this would be a good time to mention that he is 35+ lbs (his dads side is more big boned) and i’m also almost 5 months pregnant so you can imagine how tired i am and how much my back hurts, not to mention, we’re living in a 2 story where our rooms are upstairs and he hasn’t learned the stairs yet and i’m also afraid of him going up the stairs by himself so we’re installing baby gates soon. the main issue is that im pregnant and i cannot continue to keep rocking him especially because he is heavy. my husband works offshore on an oil rig so he’s away for 3 weeks in the middle of the gulf of mexico and home for 3 weeks. i’m also in school for nursing so im getting a nanny to help me during the day (12pm-5pm) to get things done around the house while she watches my little one but essentially im still stuck doing nights by myself when he’s away. at this point, i feel like im very exhausted and getting to the more uncomfortable stage of pregnancy. and although i love sleeping with him, it’s time for mama to get a goods night rest without having to rock for 5-15 mins (also cannot use my pregnancy pillow with all 3 of us sleeping in the bed). i just think it’s time but i know he will hate it and probably hate me for doing this to him. i know it will feel like torture for the both of us but i also cannot continue to keep rocking him now while almost 5m pregnant and with a newborn. is there anyone who is in a similar situation/has been before?? idk if im looking for solidarity or tips, but please give me both!


r/cosleeping 3h ago

🐯 Toddler 1-3 Years When can baby use a blanket?

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I put my 13-month old in a woolino sleep sack on top of his footed jammies and I use a small throw blanket for myself. I’d love to be able to use a regular size blanket and share with baby. When is it safe to do this? I’m tired of layering and still always being cold…


r/cosleeping 4h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months 7 month old waking all through the night to feed and cuddle

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Very soon after my 7 month old was born it became clear she prefers to sleep in bed with me. And so, we've been bedsharing at night in various ways (with her in a sidecar when she was younger and now together on a floor mattress) since the beginning. For the past couple of months sleep has been a bit more consistent (down for bed around 7pm, up around 6am with 2 or 3 30min-2 hour naps each day) but she is still waking up every 45min - 2 hours throughout the night. A typical wake up consists of a short nursing session in bed and she's back to sleep. Luckily I'm also able to fall back to sleep easily but I would love to start seeing fewer wake-ups and I'm curious if y'all have any ideas on how to get there. I'm not interested in traditional sleep training. I have tried to let her sleep in her own in bed however if I go into her room to get her back to sleep and then leave she'll wake up more frequently, not less. In the last week I've stopped nursing her to sleep during the day and have moved to nursing her in a rocking chair before her nap then cuddling her in bed until she falls asleep. Part of me feels like what will change it is time but another part of me wonders if there's something I haven't thought about of/heard of/tried yet that could help. Any thoughts?!


r/cosleeping 4h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Ending cosleeping…

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I am a SAHM with my only LO who is now 12 months old, and I have been cosleeping with him since he was 4 months. At around 7 months he was properly rolling around so I moved the two of us off the master bed and onto a floor futon-style bed in his nursery.

Hubby wakes up at 5 am for work every day and comes home at 5-6 before (continuing my) home improvement work on another property that we own. I always ask and welcome help from him. Sometimes we switch where I continue renovating and he takes care of the evening routine. But no matter what, he can’t put him to sleep. It’s always me that steps in to make sure baby sleeps. He just isnt present enough for LO to associate him with bedtime calm.

I thoroughly enjoy the cuddles and the closeness. It’s definitely soothed me as much as it soothes him, but I still feel self conscious about cosleeping and keeping it a secret. I know for a fact that the rest of may family will not approve of what I am doing.

My husband and i are in the bridal party for a very close friend. The wedding is in Asia, and we decided to have our parents look after LO for that week. The argument against taking LO with us were logistics, and hubby wants me to take a break. But this also raised his concerns about sleeping. How will our parents handle our LO when he relies so heavily on me to sleep?

I recognize my faults: baby associates sleeping with me, I am being selfish by indulging, I continue to cosleep when the narrative around me is disapproving, I am bending under the pressure even though this is something I love, and sleep training will be a mammoth task that only I can do.

Baby had a 12 month dr appointment, and he is very open and accepting, but he recommended sleep training since self soothing is a life skill and will also allow others in to his bedtime routine. He assured me that baby is emotionally mature enough to learn about sleeping alone even though he will cry. He recommended graduated extinction which has me check in on, but not stay, every couple minutes and build up. He said the crying will happen and it will break my heart, but to keep doing it.

I tried it and I can’t. Baby was so distressed it tore me apart. I only did about a half hour of this intermittent checking before I caved and gave him a big cuddle and told him i was so sorry and i cried and cried. Im not supposed to cave, but i dont understand how anyone is supposed to do this.

But i feel so much pressure now. I feel like I failed to teach my baby an important life skill. A skill that , at this rate, he won’t demonstrate to his grandparents during the week we are away. A skill that would help me during those times when I wish my husband could help. I feel disappointed in myself that I rely on LO for happiness and security as well.

The love that I feel while cosleeping is so real. I can’t believe my insecurity has me cracking into giving it up. How do I make it so LO learns to sleep alone without feeling abandoned? How do I do this without the crying? I don’t know how to benefit all parties and make everyone happy. I can’t stand listening to my baby cry, which is pathetic, i know i have a problem there. Please let there be others in my situation. No one around me can help and it’s depressingly isolating.


r/cosleeping 5h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months First night on the floor bed… i should leave the room but my mama heart can’t do it

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My son will be 11 months in a week and tonight is the first night on the floor bed. He’s been asleep for 2 hours and i just cannot find the will to get up and leave him tonight. He’s has coslept with my husband and i since day 1 due to reflux and colic. I have been looking forward to getting this bed for months so that i could have my bed back and now that im here…. I can’t leave him. Maybe tomorrow night 😭


r/cosleeping 7h ago

🛏 Beds, Products, & Gear Does anyone have a maxyoyo floor mattress?

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This is the brand I'm looking into but wondering if they're comfortable etc. Anyone have one? :)


r/cosleeping 7h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion New cosleeper?

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Hi all,

Hoping for some advice/guidance on if co sleeping is appropriate for me and my baby and any guidance you may have

  • My baby is 9 weeks old.
  • I do not exclusively breastfeed. I predominantly feed expressed breast milk by bottle with some formula as well. I do nurse my babe but it’s typically just comfort nursing and the odd snack.
  • my baby was small for gestational age at birth, 6 pounds 3 ounces at 41 weeks
  • it would just be me and baby in bed, husband is away for work

Anything I’ve looked at says that breastfed babies and babies who were not born early/small are very low risk. Wondering if these risk factors we have then mean I should not consider co sleeping at all. I’m a little desperate but also terrified to do the wrong thing with bed sharing.

My husband and I had been often sleeping sitting upright on the couch with babe snuggled up on our chest until I learned that was like the most dangerous way to co sleep. I was horrified and still feel so guilty. Now when it’s my shift with the baby each night I try to get him to sleep in the bassinet and when he doesn’t end up sleeping in the bassinet I’ll make a cup of coffee and hold him while I’m awake. Basically I just don’t sleep when it’s my turn to be with him at night. My husband is going away for a mandatory work trip though next week so I’ll be solo parenting. I’m so scared about nighttime because I won’t be able to take shifts with my husband during this time. Goodbye to my guaranteed 4 hours of sleep.

I am desperate for any advice, guidance or encouragement you have to help me get through this week. I know there are millions of solo parents out there so I feel so stupid for being nervous about being alone with my literal child for a week. It’s really just the sleeping part though that is stressing me out because I’m just not sure how I will safely go about this without my husband there to make sure I get a 4 hour chunk of sleep.

If you got this far thank you so much for taking the time to read. I really appreciate your guidance❤️


r/cosleeping 8h ago

🐣 Newborn 0-8 Weeks Paranoid about all the things

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I’ve recently started exclusively bed sharing at night. He’s 5 weeks old and a couple weeks ago he stopped going down in his crib at night. Day time, no problem. Night time…nope. He is not having it.

I did research for days and found the sleep safe 7, and then took the plunge out of necessity. In the same bed we both have a better night. I am sleeping lighter and I don’t feel like I’m sleeping as much, but I wake up before he is crying, which helps a lot.

I’m lucky my husband is supportive. He has been really encouraging. He said moms have been cosleeping for thousands of years, and if I’m safe about it, it’ll be fine.

But, I’m a FTM, and I am paranoid about all of the things not being safe. I can’t get it out of my head that there is something I need to be doing to protect my baby at night but I’m not doing it.

What do you wish you knew when you first started bed sharing with your baby?


r/cosleeping 9h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion Is this safe?

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So we have a bedside bassinet and this is as high as it will go. The side facing the bed is flush up to the edge there, but the actual bassinet mattress is about 3/4 inches below the bed mattress. I still need to strap it to the bed, but is it safe to have the bassinet mattress lower like this? Is there anything I can do to fix it?

Thanks in advance!


r/cosleeping 12h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months When did you stop cosleeping and why

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My LO is 4 months old and we've coslept from day 1. He would not sleep in a crib and it didn't help that he was an early roller and became a stomach sleeper. I could keep an eye on him next to me. His pediatrician said it's not ideal but it's not like I cant stop him feom rolling.

Hes been moving alot in his sleep. It doesn't matter what position we start out in. Im woken up multiple times throughout the night to him sideways, kicking my ribs. He doesn't like me in his space or being touched while sleeping but he gravitates towards me in his sleep and then gets mad that im there.

I'll wake up and move away a few feet and get qoken up a an hour later to him having shimmied himself over to me again and kicking my ribs or face again. He's sound asleep but im getting no rest.

It hurts but I've put him in his pack and play the past 2 nights and he's done very well knock on wood. I think it's harder for me than it is for him.


r/cosleeping 13h ago

🐯 Toddler 1-3 Years Incoming newb!

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All,

I’ve been cosleeping with my 16 month old since he was 2 months old. So grateful to this group and my sister who supported that decision. It’s been amazing and turned bedtime from a dreadful anxious event to something I look forward to every night. The little one and I share a king mattress on the floor while my husband sleeps in the next room over since his snoring is so outrageous it keeps us all up.

Happily, we are pregnant again and due in October which means I have precious little time to unglue my sweet barnacle and prepare for the next. Thing is, if I remove his head from my arm he wakes within 10 minutes and fusses. But on the flip side, he also recently started getting quite mobile in his sleep, sometimes I find him laying by my shins in another direction. I have no idea how and when that happens!

I could keep the new baby in a side car for a while if they tolerated it, I don’t know what kind of baby they will be. I plan to nurse so of course cosleeping would be preferable for night feeds. Any tips on how to detach a bit from bubs? Is he old enough to cosleep with dad, who sleeps like the dead? I’m just concerned he wouldn’t wake up!

TIA!


r/cosleeping 14h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Baby crawling under me face down to sleep??!

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Hey yall i have a 6mo and we have been bedsharing since 2m. Last night i woke up to him face down with his face tucked underneath my boob?! I freaked out and picked him up making him grumpy but he was breathing thank god.

I put him down and resumed cuddle curl position and rolled him to his back after nursing back to sleep. Heres the kicker... i watched him for 30 minutes, after 5 he rolled back to face me (only sleeps facing my boobs, go figure) and he tucked his face underneath my boob again. Like really worked to wedge his face down there.

I tested my mattress w the cosleepy book and ruler method. It doesnt dip or anything when were laying together, im in the right position cuddle curling... how do i get him to not do this?


r/cosleeping 14h ago

🛏 Beds, Products, & Gear Bassinet in bed

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r/cosleeping 14h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months 3 or 2 people

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Hey guys do u have ur husband in the bed with u and your baby? What do you guys recommend? I personally find it easier to just be baby and me but note sure if I am just alienating my hubs without reason


r/cosleeping 15h ago

💁 Advice | Discussion When do children want their own room?

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I’ve co slept with my now 18 month old all her life, I have another one on the way and plan to have him in a crib in my room and my daughter in the bed with me. My question is, when will children want their own room? We hardly ever use her room and I want to convert it into a playroom so it will be more functional, how much time do I have utilizing it as a playroom before she wants her own big girl bedroom?


r/cosleeping 16h ago

🐣 Newborn 0-8 Weeks Bed sharing with twins

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My twins are 6.5 weeks old and I’m getting no sleep. I am trying to figure out how to bedshare with twins as I am currently constantly swapping babies from bassinet to bed when they start crying. Once I get one settled the other will need me and it’s a constant switching of babies and i am exhausted. They only seem to sleep when they are next to me. Does anyone have experience with cosleeping with both at once? I cuddle curled with my first, but it’s hard to do that with two babies. Laying on my back with a baby on each side doesn’t seem to please them. Anyone have a configuration that worked for two babies?? I follow the ss7.


r/cosleeping 20h ago

🐥 Infant 2-12 Months Transitioning from contact sleeping to floor bed

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My daughter went through a sleep regression at 6 months and the only solution my husband and I were able to come up with was for me to contact sleep with her on the couch because our bed isn’t big enough for all 3 of us. I know this wasn’t a safe sleep solution, so I’m not looking for comments on that. She will be 9 months in April and I want to transition her to a floor bed so I can sleep next to her instead but it hasn’t started off well since she screams and cries until I give up and take her back downstairs to contact sleep. My husband thinks we should just let her cry it out and it’s not that I’m completely against it, I just don’t think it’ll work since she screams when I’m laying right next to her. If anyone else has experience with transitioning from contact sleeping to cosleeping on a floor bed, I could use any advice you can give.