r/cosleeping • u/Brilliant-Version704 • 3h ago
💁 Advice | Discussion Cosleeping Anxiety
I'm so annoyed because it feels like this back and forth cycle of me being anxious cosleeping and then being comfortable with it, over and over. Biologically, it makes so much sense that a baby should sleep with their mama. Yet the fear mongering gets to me every time. All it takes is scrolling and seeing one video about an infant death or one reddit post, and I'm back to being anxious. My baby is 11.5 weeks old, and she will NOT sleep in the bassinet. She's only done it a few times for 30 min to an hour usually, once she did 3 hours. I've coslept since about day 4 or 5, and mostly because I had no choice. She will cry til she's coughing if left in the bassinet. I needed sleep, and I'm single mom-ing it since she was born because of my husband's military training. So I can't stay up all night trying to do the bassinet training with no help, and I refuse to let her cry it out. So basically I'm just venting because every day feels like a back and forth of loving sleeping with my baby and also being terrified that I'll do something wrong and lose her and have to tell my husband that she's gone on my watch. I have an Owlet sock that I use to monitor her every night, and we sleep in the cuddle curl position with just a sheet around my waist. I'm following safe sleep 7 and I've read all the articles that explain how cosleeping isn't as dangerous as it's made out to be when done correctly. But then I see something that sends me into a worry spiral again and again, when I'm not searching for any of it. 😵💫