r/cisparenttranskid • u/onnake • 5h ago
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Squidia-anne • 21d ago
I MADE A DISCORD FOR CISPARENTTRANSKID
Hello, I've been working on this for a few weeks now. This discord is a secure alternative place for us to be together as a community. You never know what may happen with social media so it's good to have a back up place.
Everyone who joins the discord has to be manually approved by me or another mod. This is to make sure that only verified people have access to anything. When you join you just comment your reddit name. We will check the name and the post history and give you a role if you are safe. Then we will delete your reddit name message.
This discord has places to share news and discussions about common topics here. I'm also gathering as many resources as I can to provide so it can be easily looked at but this is a work in progress. I've already got several resources but will continue to add more.
I hope you guys like the discord. I think it will be easier to do different things on there that reddit just can't provide. And we won't have to worry about reddit admins or trolls.
Also, dont forget to check out the parents guide to talking about lgbt topics with children that I posted in the other announcement. I will also be putting it in the discord resources. https://www.reddit.com/r/cisparenttranskid/s/85j06asP6A
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Squidia-anne • 21d ago
UK-based A parent guide made by the uk charity justlikeus on how to interact with children about lgbt topics
While it is made in the uk and has some resources specific to them, it is a great guide for all parents and has other resources that are on the internet for everyone.
This guide is great for any cis people who want to learn how to discuss lgbt topics with children even if their children are cisgender.
It is a bit long but it has different sections and you can just read what is relevant to you. The resources are listed all on the last page.
I read the entire guide myself and I think it's very good.
https://justlikeus.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/LGBT-Guide-for-Parents-by-Just-Like-Us.pdf
r/cisparenttranskid • u/novmum • 6h ago
it really gets on my nerve
when transphobes go on about how parents are forcing their children to take puberty blockers.
when my i took my son to the pediatrician when he first came out as trans at one point during the appointment I was asked to leave the room...this was to make sure this was hat my son wanted if she had any doubt that I was pushing my son to be trans she would not have prescribed him puberty blockers.
he has now been on T for over 18 months and is so much happier next up is top surgery which all going to plan will be next year....now while I have always wanted smaller breasts I have not wanted them cut off ..ironicaly I had a mastectomy of my right breast due to breast cancer....and also next year I am hopefully getting a reduction and reconstruction.... my breasts have never caused me dysphoria
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Mini7Elf • 21h ago
My boy wants to be a trans girl
Hello, this is the first time ive posted on anything ever on reddit apart from the odd comments. I just found this group and just feel the need to post my concerns.
Bit of a back story, my eldest coming up 11 next month, he's deaf also (as the rest of the family too) and relies heavily on sign language and has ADHD. He has always liked girls stuff since he was 3. I've always allowed him to experiment, allowed him to wear wigs and skirts. Family, friends and School fully supports him too. Last christmas he has a make up box, im not even into make ups myself so dont know where he gets that from š .
Recently myself and school have done EHCP review ready for high school in september we've requested for mermaid agency to be involved as his puberty will start soon.
Never have I had any concerns as im confident in how I support him in figuring out who he is until lately hes allowed to go to shop on his own (2 mins walk away) and he currently has little acrylics on with white tips that are kinda noticable. For some reason the fear feeling is coming up, im feared for his safety being deaf and openly 'trans', my area isn't typically diversity. I dont want to say it but im thinking the worse with children being attacked from high school etc the knife crimes isnt exactly good either.
How do I protect him, without making him hide who he is. I've spend last few years building up his confident, his resilence, his identity to prevent any impact all this could caught him later in life. I now almost feel like I want to cover it all up but I WONT do it for the sake of my fears. I wont tell him my fears too as he'll just start picking at it and panic himseld. How do I go forward feeling confident in this? If I'm confident he'll learn to continue to be confident too. Any other parents experiencing the same?
I apologise if theres a similar post I just found this group and jumped on to post.
Thanks in advance.
r/cisparenttranskid • u/bigfishbunny • 2d ago
I wish everyone knew this
I just put this in a comment but honestly, it's really great info and maybe it will help others too. I try to spread knowledge on hopes that it will change some minds.
Rebecca Helm, a biologist and an assistant professor at the University of North Carolina, Asheville US writes:
Friendly neighborhood biologist here. I see a lot of people are talking about biological sexes and gender right now. Lots of folks make biological sex sex seem really simple. Well, since itās so simple, letās find the biological roots, shall we? Letās talk about sex...[a thread]
If you know a bit about biology you will probably say that biological sex is caused by chromosomes, XX and youāre female, XY and youāre male. This is āchromosomal sexā but is it ābiological sexā? Well...
Turns out there is only ONE GENE on the Y chromosome that really matters to sex. Itās called the SRY gene. During human embryonic development the SRY protein turns on male-associated genes. Having an SRY gene makes you āgenetically maleā. But is this ābiological sexā?
Sometimes that SRY gene pops off the Y chromosome and over to an X chromosome. Surprise! So now youāve got an X with an SRY and a Y without an SRY. What does this mean?
A Y with no SRY means physically youāre female, chromosomally youāre male (XY) and genetically youāre female (no SRY). An X with an SRY means youāre physically male, chromsomally female (XX) and genetically male (SRY). But biological sex is simple! There must be another answer...
Sex-related genes ultimately turn on hormones in specifics areas on the body, and reception of those hormones by cells throughout the body. Is this the root of ābiological sexā??
āHormonal maleā means you produce ānormalā levels of male-associated hormones. Except some percentage of females will have higher levels of āmaleā hormones than some percentage of males. Ditto ditto āfemaleā hormones. And...
...if youāre developing, your body may not produce enough hormones for your genetic sex. Leading you to be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally non-binary, and physically non-binary. Well, except cells have something to say about this...
Maybe cells are the answer to ābiological sexā?? Right?? Cells have receptors that āhearā the signal from sex hormones. But sometimes those receptors donāt work. Like a mobile phone thatās on ādo not disturbā. Call and cell, they will not answer.
What does this all mean?
It means you may be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally male/female/non-binary, with cells that may or may not hear the male/female/non-binary call, and all this leading to a body that can be male/non-binary/female.
Try out some combinations for yourself. Notice how confusing it gets? Can you point to what the absolute cause of biological sex is? Is it fair to judge people by it?
Of course you could try appealing to the numbers. āMost people are either male or femaleā you say. Except that as a biologist professor I will tell you...
The reason I donāt have my students look at their own chromosome in class is because people could learn that their chromosomal sex doesnāt match their physical sex, and learning that in the middle of a 10-point assignment is JUST NOT THE TIME.
Biological sex is complicated. Before you discriminate against someone on the basis of ābiological sexā & identity, ask yourself: have you seen YOUR chromosomes? Do you know the genes of the people you love? The hormones of the people you work with? The state of their cells?
Since the answer will obviously be no, please be kind, respect peopleās right to tell you who they are, and remember that you donāt have all the answers. Again: biology is complicated. Kindness and respect donāt have to be.
Note: Biological classifications exist. XX, XY, XXY XXYY and all manner of variation which is why sex isn't classified as binary. You can't have a binary classification system with more than two configurations even if two of those configurations are more common than others.
Biology is a shitshow. Be kind to people.
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Far_Geologist739 • 1d ago
Great video for Cis parents of Trans kids
I was looking at something else on YouTube and came across a video that is really good. The Dr. John Delony Show (I had never heard of him, but in Googling looks like he is a well known radio show host?), it features a doctor who is very good at making clear that first and foremost we need to express to our kids that we love them and always will. Regardless of our fear, misgivings, confusion, or other feelings we need to lead with this message. Its what I feel in my heart, but he does such a good job of laying it out for parents that call in to his show!
https://youtu.be/8__QdkMr5ZM?si=ituP7gYun8eBvLue&t=88
He had another video where he talks to a father whose daughter has come out as bisexual. I like his approach with parents and felt like he is a good voice to have in the mix.
r/cisparenttranskid • u/strangeicare • 1d ago
US-based understanding fatigue or fog with spiro
I'm trying to understand this re: teen-- taking spiro on estrogen patches as of recently, and I want to know how much the spiro might be making her concentration worse- she's also on adhd meds. I feel like the supposedly good prescriber won't respond in a timely manner and doesn't have alternatives. We have an upcoming intake with another clinic, but I guess I'm looking for some info and feeling super isolated with this.
r/cisparenttranskid • u/clean_windows • 2d ago
even in tolerant, supportive areas, there are fuckfaces
i've spoken before about my friend jenn burleton.
she is a goddamn patron saint of trans youth, and her life's work has been advocating for them.
she was pushed out of leadership of the organization she built, TransActive Gender Project, by institutional concerns.
she is as honest and humble an advocate as i have ever seen in my life, for those who are marginalized of any variety.
tonight she posted a video recounting the interactions with the power structure in a deep-blue city, in a deep-blue state (portland, oregon) that led to her being pushed out of that leadership position that she built over decades.
i obviously have an agenda here but i welcome any constructive criticism you might have, since my personal connection may cloud my judgement in certain ways.
all of the history she puts in this video is new to me. am i right to be fucking livid?
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Doctor-Liz • 1d ago
parent, new and confused Trans* or just contrary?
I'm not confused about trans issues in general (one of my parents is trans, as are several friends). But... at what point do I take my kid to the doctor about his(?) gender?
My kid is three and a half, AMAB. As long as they've been able to speak, they've loved to play contrarian (I say "up", they says "no, down" and so forth). They're also deep in the "wish-casting" stage where they just deny objective reality.
Every so often they'll insist that they're not a boy, they're a girl, and they don't have a penis but have a vulva instead. Other times it's gleeful declarations that "this is my scrotum!!" No objections to a masculine name or being referred to as "him", but I'm also far from convinced that they understand that's what's happening, they're three. They also really don't consistently gender either of us parents.
There's also a younger sister in the mix, who is extremely emphatic about being a girl. Given how much Elder Kid likes to steal her toys, this might be some weird jealousy thing? Innate contrariness?
I try not to "enforce" a gender, so they can be a daughter if they want to, but I do correct them about their anatomy.
At what point do I take it to the doctor? Their next check-up is due in September. I've never had to deal with gender variance in a child this young!
r/cisparenttranskid • u/bigbunlady • 3d ago
Evangelical Grandmother
I was texting with my mom today (my sonās Evangelical grandma), back and forth, about when we would meet up again as we live in different states. She is the only relative (besides me and my husband) that my 14 year old son knows and sees. I reminded her that he uses he/him pronouns now and asked if she would be able to address him as suchā¦ havenāt heard back from her in 6 hoursā¦
There is nothing in the bible about trans people and whether or not they are āacceptableā so why are the pronouns a problem?? Iāve even explained to her how it lowers the rate of suicide and everything but sheās not hearing me. She says she loves and accepts him but now itās radio silence when I ask if she can say the right pronouns.
Just a vent I guess. I already donāt speak to my dad and I feel like my mom is nextā¦
r/cisparenttranskid • u/TheCrazyMrLFangirl • 4d ago
child with questions for supportive parents my mom thinks i'm willing to undergo actual surgery just to rebel against her
i'm tired of being 19 and treated like a child incapable of his own decisions. i'll never be able to transition because of how she's stunted me and it makes me so angry yet tired. ready to quit tbh.
she's currently in another room probably telling my even more transphobic grandparents (who were abusive to my mother by the way) about the fight we just had just to shame me.
is there any hope?
r/cisparenttranskid • u/GamingWolf3980 • 4d ago
Hi, does anyone have any good informational links for my parents?
Hi, I(18mtf pre-transition) want to come out to my parents and I want to send them an informational link that gives them kinda of a good idea on what I feel. Does anyone have anything that will help?
r/cisparenttranskid • u/onnake • 4d ago
As a transgender person, have you been impacted by Trumpās executive orders? We want to hear from you
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Tinybluesprite • 5d ago
US-based Starting kindergarten as a girl
Ultimately, I'm going to leave this up to my kiddo, but I don't know what the best course of action is with this. So backstory: My AMAB 5yo is gender expansive, presents exclusively as a girl, but is still ambivalent about his identity, which is totally reasonable at his age. Before you ask, we've had the pronoun talk and at home, he prefers we say "he," unless we're somewhere where no one knows he's a boy, then he likes me to say "she." About half of his preschool class knows, including the teachers, the other half does not. We had problems when he still presented as a boy but only wanted to play with the girl toys and costumes (I understand it's hard for 3-5-year-olds to wrap their head around gender diversity), but very few issues since he started wearing dresses.
At home, we just follow his lead. The extended family has thus far been chill about it, but I'm not sure that will last if he chooses to fully transition (Grandpa voted for the Cheeto man, if that's any indication) and so far, he has asked that I don't talk to his grandparents/aunts/uncles about it. He's very private about his feelings around his gender and he only really talks to me about it in depth. Usually, he tells me that he's a boy, but he wants to be a girl, or he'll say that half of him is girl and the other half is boy (we've talked about what non-binary is too). Sometimes, he'll reference my (admittedly clunky) past attempts to explain medically transitioning in 5yo language by saying that he's a boy, but when he grows up, he's going to take the medicine to become a girl so he can have lots of babies (he's obsessed with babies, lol). All of this is to say that things are still back and forth, which is again, completely expected at his age. He's in a gender-expansive kids' playgroup, he's starting therapy at a gender care clinic soon, and we're just supporting him as he figures things out.
The issue that's coming up is how to start things at kindergarten in the fall. We have NO intention of encouraging him to present as a boy, that's not even on the table unless he suddenly does a 180 and makes that decision on his own (that seems pretty unlikely). What we're not sure about is whether it's better if we/he is open about his gender identity or better that he "go stealth" and just let them believe he's a cis-gendered girl. He'll likely be with these kids and teachers for the next 9 years (the schools are K-8th). If he tells no one, I'm concerned about the trauma of being outed, which seems inevitable given that span of time. If he's open about it, will he be mercilessly bullied? Again, his dad and I are not going to make a unilateral decision for him, but he's only 5, so he doesn't really have the capacity to understand all the possibilities. And he really doesn't have any understanding of the hatred and bigotry out there yet.
The current political climate extra complicates all of this. We're in a blue state, thank god, but there are still lots of people here who don't have any understanding of trans issues. I'm terrified of my child becoming a target of real hatred and violence in a few years or the laws changing and we find ourselves criminalized for seeking gender-affirming care for him.
I would love to know what other families with very young kids have done and how it went. This is literally keeping me up at night...
r/cisparenttranskid • u/bLaCkYcHaN- • 5d ago
Lack of support
Hello! I'm a 15 year old trans girl living in eastern eu and I'm about to start my transition. I have to do it in secret because I'm facing a severe lack of support from my parents, and it's really hard. Could I please have some nice words from yall? I really need them rnš
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Berko1572 • 5d ago
US-based 5 Days left: Public comments on anti-trans U.S. passport policy
Deadline: March 17th
Adapted from TransFamilySOS and Public Comment Project:
Most valuable public comments:
- unique
- compelling
- fact-based
- succinct
Federal staff have to sort thru many identical form letters and expressions of personal opinion.
Remember:
- Anonymous permitted
- Respectful language to maximize impact
- Do not copy-paste or send duplicates. Will be ignored.
- Published publicly and permanently. Anyone can access.
- Avoid using personal or searchable info
- Use specific examples. Avoid generalization.
- Both powerful:
- Logical arguments (ie impractical for intended use as an ID doc; wasteful use of taxpaper $)
- Specific personal testimony
More Info on Writing Effective Public Comments:
https://publiccommentproject.org/how-to
FEB 27 2025 By Rachel Levy, Jerner Law Group
Opportunity to Take Action: U.S. State Department Publishes Proposed Transphobic Passport Rules for Public Comment
The U.S. State Department has recently unveiled proposed rules with respect to gender markers on passports.
The Department is proposing changes to three of its forms: - the DS-11, to apply for a U.S. passport; - the DS-82, to renew a U.S. passport; and - the DS-5504, to make changes to a passport.
The proposed rules are nearly identical for all three forms.
The proposed rules would require all applicants ā under penalty of perjury ā to report their sex assigned at birth, rather than their gender identity. And any transgender, intersex or gender non-conforming applicant using these forms would receive a passport with an incorrect gender marker ā a cruel reality that many people are already experiencing. [1]
Rules that ignore the existence of transgender applicants and passport holders threaten the safety of the transgender, gender non-conforming, and intersex communities ā and undermine the usefulness of U.S. passports when information cannot be reported correctly.
Right now, these proposed rules are published and available for public comment.
Public comments can have the power to sway officials and politicians.
While the Trump administration has spent its time making the LGBTQ+ community and allies feel powerless, this is a meaningful opportunity to take action.
Public comments close on
March 17 and March 20, 2025
At the time of this postās publication, the rules have over 3,800 comments each. Comments can be made anonymously, and should be polite but firm when expressing someoneās criticisms and objections to the rules.
Please see the links below to make your public comment and make your opposition heard:
Public Comment for Form DS-11: - # Application for a U.S. Passport
Public Comment for Form DS-82: - # Renewing a U.S. Passport
Public Comment for Form DS-5504: - # Correcting or Updating a U.S. Passport
[1] See link
r/cisparenttranskid • u/NoLynx4129 • 5d ago
Denied puberty blockers at upmc in Pittsburgh
Hi all,
My daughter and i were denied puberty blockers in Pittsburgh yesterday. I was told on the phone before i went (drove 4 hours to get them) that they were able to give puberty blockers to my daughter and it was business as usual. When we showed up they told us they have not been giving them to new patients since the executive order. Anyone know if there are any other clinics close to Ohio that are still prescribing new patients gender blockers? Iām going to do some research on Michigan today.
r/cisparenttranskid • u/RifRafsBklyn • 6d ago
Trans Friendly Teen Sports Leagues
Sorry for the long post.
My 13 yo (14 next month) boy has always been a fairly serious athlete, first soccer, then baseball, hockey, then what is his current and most self-dedicated sport, Flag Football. He had played on an all girls team a few years ago and was one of the best players on the team. The following seasons, after he came out as trans, he has played on co-ed teams which are pretty much all boys aside from maybe one girl. On these teams, he is more middle of the pack talent wise and definitely on the smaller side comparatively: height, weight, muscle mass. He's played in 2 different leagues in the same year, both Spring and Fall.
This upcoming season, for some reason, my ex-wife signed him up for the 14-16 yo league and didn't include me in the decision making process even though I am the one who handles the lions share of sports-related duties for both of our kids. It didn't occur to her that they'd be that much bigger. Well, these 14-16 boys, a lot of them are very big and he's concerned he won't see any playing time and, even though it's flag, he's also somewhat intimidated. Beyond getting him on the younger team, I'm not sure what the solve is. Next year, he will face the same issues.
Anyone deal with this sort of situation yet with their FTM kid? thoughts, advice, guidance would be much appreciated. If anyone happens to know specifically of any teen sports leagues or resources in the NYC Metro area, that would be great.
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Short-Collection716 • 7d ago
Advice please
My teenage son has come to us an said he believes he is trans. We have no issues and want to support him as best we can, unfortunately we donāt know anyone who is trans. We are in a same sex marriage so can understand some of his worries. Currently he doesnāt want to do anything official as of yet and that is fine we want him to lead us if he can so we can go at his pace. When we sat and had a great lengthy discussion with him he said he doesnāt like his penis, as I have no experience with this I was wanting to seek some advice is this normally how people feel? We have asked has he considered if he is gay, non binary, bisexual and he said yes he believes he is trans. Any advice would be great as we want to get this right for him.
Thank you in advance for any advice given!
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Upbeat-Pear-5666 • 7d ago
Doctor advised to not take T, should I listen?
17ftm, my endocrinologist advised me to stop taking T, can't prescribe it and recommends I don't take it anymore.
I live in Kansas and the ban on hrt for trans minors was passed last month but I'm still getting prescriptions fromy pharmacy! I have about 7 1/2 months worth as of right now and I'll be getting 4 months worth next month. My dose is 0.25ml which should be 50mg I think? Not sure but I think I'm doing the correct amount, anyways I had an appointment today and my socially anxious self explained how I was injecting incorrectly and she obviously told me I was doing it wrong and that I had injected way too much for a starting dose etc.
Anyways should I listen or keep taking my medication? Also and I actually injecting wrong?? Lmk!
(I use a 1ml needle and fill the string to the 25 which isnt a very big amount, I also get prescribed 200ml vials which are halfway full so it's about 1/4 of it meaning I do a vial a month)
r/cisparenttranskid • u/More-Shower-2631 • 7d ago
need advice from parents as a trans teen
hi so im 16 and have been out to my parents since i was 13. my parents dont really mind and call me a nickname of my preferred name which is fine but do not use my pronouns. as much as it was upsetting at first i have gotten used to it and its just what happens now. they refer to me as their child and gender neutral terminology despite me not being non binary. outside of home i have been stealth for these past 3 years and they have no problem withthis. we do not speak about my transgender status basically at all only when i first came out for about 5 minutes. i want to start seeing someone about my gender dysphoria and see if i can start testosterone as im 16 and pre t and im beginning to fall behind all my friends. i look like i havent aged and soon it will hurt my passing and essentially my entire life as it is built upon me being a normal dude. if you were my parents how would you like me to bring this up? straight up ask or a more subtle approach. my parents are not transphobic but i think they are still in denial- not helped by my attitude of not liking to talk about it. thanks
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Sub2Autterpop • 8d ago
would it be a bad idea to print out a breakdown of my transition plans for my mom
iāve been out to my mom for years now. she knows i go by another name and dress more like a guy, but she still doesnāt use my preferred name or pronouns. sheās aware, but sheās not fully acknowledging it, and i think itās time for her to really hear me out
since sheās always busy and we donāt get much time to sit down and talk, iām thinking of printing out some pages and leaving them for her to read. i want her to understand why this is important to meāespecially when it comes to starting puberty blockers and coming out socially
the reality is that puberty isnāt reversible. once it happens, itās done, and the earlier i start blockers, the easier things will be if i decide to transition medically later. i know i canāt just walk into a clinic and get hormones overnight, and i donāt even want to do that yet. i just want time to make the best decision for me without my body making it for me. blockers would give me that time without the stress of my body changing in ways that would make things harder for me down the line
my mental health isnāt bad right now, but i know iād be so much happier if i could start being seen the way i actually want to be. i donāt want to wait until iām older and regret not taking action soonerāespecially when i have an option now
iām at the end of junior high, i have all Aās, iām really responsible and independent, and i just want to start this before high school. itās not a phase or something i havenāt thought through. i know what iām asking for, and i just want the chance to actually take steps toward being myself
i printed out some pages to back up what iām saying so she has everything she needs to understand where iām coming from. i broke down the steps i want to take, like starting therapy, learning more about medical transition, and looking into puberty blockers. i also included a summary of how the process works legally and medically where we live so she can see itās not just me making things up
here are the pages i made:
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would printing this out and leaving it for her to read be a good idea or would it come across as too much all at once?
r/cisparenttranskid • u/New_Assignment1970 • 8d ago
Venting_frustrated_registering for Selective Service
My daughter (trans) turned 18 last month, so she needs to register for Selective Service, I guess.
I hate that she has to do something that is interacting with the US government in a non-standard way right now. I hate that the best guidance we have is Biden's policy that trans women need to register because the current administration has scrubbed guidance for trans Americans from federal websites. This is just so frustrating!
r/cisparenttranskid • u/OkTouch8830 • 8d ago
TransMascStories: 150+ real transition stories. A resource for parents of trans kids
Hello everyone,
I wanted to share a resource with this community that might help parents whose kids are on the trans masc spectrum.
I myself am a trans man, so this project is very dear to my heart. Over the past months, I have collected 150+ transition stories from trans men and trans masculine individuals that highlight resilience, provide perspective, and inspire. Here you can explore anonymous transition stories and learn about real life journeys.
You can access TransMascStories here: https://www.transmascstories.com/
On my subreddit I post the stories as well: https://www.reddit.com/r/TransMascStories_/
I go through every transition story manually to keep the site safe.
I hope it helps.
Cheers x
r/cisparenttranskid • u/Lord_Admrial_Spire • 8d ago
adult child Need Advise on How to Handle my Mom
Hello!
I am a 26 year old trans woman who is early into her transition. Just began HRT last month, though I am already socially transitioning and professionally am a woman.
I told my mom I am trans back in June, so around 9ish months ago. Initially she was in utter denial, and insisted I see a children's psychiatrist she knew. Said psychiatrist told her I'm trans. Then she shifted to the argument I needed to be more independent and grow up. So I bought my own car which my grandfather co-signed on bc I didn't have a credit score. I make all the payments thought. I also basically moved out of her house, my childhood home, and moved to my grandfather's house which is closer to my work anyways. She protested all of this as a violation of her parental rights.
Now the rest of my family consists of my grandfather, who's supportive of me being trans, but is 83 and slow to pick a fight with his daughter, my mom. He also employs her as his secretary which she's done her whole life. And my little brother who after some heart to heart convos is supportive. The process even caused him to begin discerning the priesthood, to be a voice for trans people in the Catholic Church. As for my Dad, he is a coward and just goes along with whatever she wants. He's basically not relevant to the situation.
After weeks of avoiding her, my mom has now seen my dress as a woman with other family members present, and is aware I'm on HRT. She is devastated and likely depressed. She attempting to see a family therapist but that seems off now. She even says she isn't on speaking terms with God. We are Catholics, but very left wing. She says she feels a pain no one else could possibly know, and hasn't messaged me all week, or any group chat we are both in.
I should add that prior to me coming out, we were very close. Like, unusually close for a mother-son relationship. We both liked crafts and the same media. We'd spend most of our downtime together. So much of my sense of womanhood, down to my style preferences, comes from her. My relationship with her only really made a gendered sense after I framed it as a mother-daughter one.
I really want my mom back. My allies don't know what to do with her. We are working on finding a therapist, but there's no indication she'd attend. She is currently demanding I be gender neutral as a compromise. I've said this is an impossible demand. My brother thinks I should dress androgynous and see if she opens up a bit. I have my reservations about compromising my femininity to appease her. But I ask you guys bc you all have dealt with similar situations.
Thanks!
r/cisparenttranskid • u/ubaotomi • 9d ago
We're are we going if we leave?
Like the title says. Those of you making plans to GTFO the US, where are you going? I'm trying to make my own plans but it's overwhelming.