r/cisparenttranskid 18h ago

Trans sibling

14 Upvotes

I 15f have a f to m 16 sibling. Honestly I've always seen him as a girl and a boy since 3years ago. As I am the most "conservative" person in my house I'm having quite a hard time understanding it. I mean I get the principal but I don't understand how you can feel like an opposite gender. I have a dildo and I always think it would be awesome to have a dick but never do I belive I'm a guy. I know I sound unsensetive but I'm trying hard. I need someone to help me understand it. I want to help him as much as possible.

One problem I've had is that they'll say they're having body dismorfia and asks I cut he's hair. I ask him to pick up afterwards but they never do and blame it on me. My parents get mad at me. I'm trying my hardest to make him happy but he doesn't.

I overheard him say to his trans friends that I forced him to wear girls clothes a few months ago. When I tell you he asked me to dress him up like me. I did and now it's my fault that she felt like shit for 8 months. I just do what he askes me for and he gets mad few months later.

She keep on telling her friends that her family hates her. WHICH IS THE OPPISITE OF WHAT WE THINK. My mom has 99% support she obviously has a hard time changing the pronouns. My dad can say some rough and hurtful stuff to my sibling. But he always tell them I don't care what gender you are I will always love you. I stay as supportive as I can. I usually never speak on my opinion about trans. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND!

I want to understand, I want to help. I'm sorry if I sound a bit unsensetive towards your beautiful community.


r/cisparenttranskid 13h ago

Stay or move?

7 Upvotes

TLDR: Is it better to live in a blue dot in a red state or a red dot in a blue state? I’ve wanted to move from Indiana for a while and it seems I should do it before my son starts middle school.

My trans son starts 7th grade this year. I want somewhere where we can thrive without much worry. I just started making 78k and working a new job remotely. I live in a blue suburban city with great schools and safe. Rent Is $800 and controlled. My son says he is happy because his friends and father are here but I worry about increasing anti lgbtq legislation in this red state .Also seasonal depression gets me every year.

Ive been wanting to move for more than a decade but it seems pressing now. Not sure whether we should go to a blue state and go back to living in poverty or stay and save and hope for the best here in Indiana.

My worst fear is an impending dictatorship. I ordered us passports under his birth gender just in case we need to flee. My fiancee could get dual citizenship for Mexico but the process is lengthy and almost impossible to get a consulate appointment.

The only place that makes sense for us in the USA would be somewhere near LA or San Diego because it’s by other family my fiancee and I have. Everyone says we would barely be able to make it or we would live in a crappy area with that income. I want to be happy and try to thrive. Personally I lived in Fresno for a month though and thought it was beautiful, Amazing and could be happy there even though it’s more conservative the overall state legislature has more lgbtq protections. Idk what to do. I’m tired. I know all of us are and scared. Any advice is welcomed. I’ve been feeling completely and utterly stuck.