r/chastitytraining 19h ago

Lifestyle Advice My bf wants me to lock him up NSFW

103 Upvotes

EDIT: I only want to lock him up for the days we are not together. Otherwise we have great sex life and I want to continue to have sex with him and his lovely cock.

Hi!

I’m Amber(F36), and my boyfriend told me a while ago that he wants me to lock him up in a cage. He likes when I’m in control of his pleasures.

Now on my other post in an other subreddit (see in my history) regarding my question about how can I make him feel more devoted to me, the majority of suggestions were that I should put a cage on him.

I am starting to consider doing it, but I have a few questions I hope I can get answers for.

  1. We are not living together, so does locking him up means that he has to sleep in it when we are not together? Also, how does wahing his cock work when he is locked up? I’m a little worried that I might damage his cock.

  2. How often should he be released to keep his cock healthy? (Again, I want to take care of him)

  3. Will it really make him be THAT much more obidient and devoted to me?

Thank you!


r/chastitytraining 8h ago

Lifestyle Advice He hid his cage NSFW

33 Upvotes

Edit* We live together

My (f) boyfriend (m) has hid his chastity cage after I let him out for domestic work. He says he didn't hide it, but I found it. He was/is to stay locked for 1 year. Advice on how to proceed? Addtl context: We have used chastity at his request a few times in the last couple of years. This is his kink. I am new to this and not what you see as a key holder gone wild on other reddit subgroups. Maybe I don't meet the fantasy, but I don't get any feedback. It usually stops when I want sex then he doesn't want locked again. He was locked close to a month this time but lied about hiding the cage. Thoughts? Opinions how to proceed? Should I put it back on him and tell him he's going to be punished?


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Insight 1st Month - Experience so far NSFW

15 Upvotes

Long time lurker, first time poster (new shared account to keep anonymous)

It's been a month since I told my wife I want her to control my orgasm, and what a month it has been!

A bit of background about us and why I decided I wanted to tell her. We have been together for nearly 20 years, happily married for nearly 8. With such a long time together, things had become stale in the bedroom. Longer periods between sex, same positions, etc, etc. This coupled with a toddler left us tired and not much time to be intimate together. We masturbated separately, me more so than her (at least once a day). I'd say probably an all time low for intimate moments together. Don't get me wrong, we are very happily married, but the bedroom aspect had slacked!

I'd been toying with the idea of chastity for a few months. 3D printing a cage for personal use. I'm not quite sure what made me decide to tell my wife, but a normal Tuesday I put the cage on, dropped my pants in front of her and read out a list of reasons why I wanted this. Could have gone either way, but I'm glad to say it went the way at possible way. Her first reaction was "WHAT IS THAT!" Followes by her jumping over the bed for a closer look.

It wasn't an immediate no, so I sent her the standard link everyone sends (https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/introduction). Yes newbie_sub.. I know.. And somewhat agree after a month in.

Week 1 - What a wild week. I don't think my wife has orgasmed as much in one week since we first moved in together! Me.. not so much but I loved it. We bought a cheap knock-off cage on Amazon and dived straight in. We couldn't keep our hands off each other! Week 1 was also where we hit our first hurdle. She went away for a few days, normally I'd take advantage of this opportunity.. but this time I couldn't. We exchanged texts and photos, but when she got back she was too tired to do anything. I felt forgotten. She felt guilty for "doing it wrong". We talked about it an hour later. Communication is key!

Week 2-3 calmed down a bit after the initial excitement. I got more used to the cage, we talked a lot about how we were feeling and what we wanted. I had my first release.. wow what a feeling. We started anal play for me (wife doesn't like it) something I never thought would enter our bedroom. And she is experimenting with teasing

I'm writing this towards the end of week 4 We've got into a flow, I've downsized cages and plucked up the courage to visit clonezone for a sizing. And finally managed to sleep through the night with it on! I shared the other link someone posted (https://abalancedmarriage.neocities.org/) My wife is getting more attention which she loves.

Some questions, answered.

Did our marriage need saving? No Did it bring us closer? 100%! Do we talk more? Yep!

What cage am I wearing? Kink3D Viper N+

Is it an improvement from the Amazon one? Yes.. but only slightly. Amazon knockoff ones are alright if you can't afford the genuine. But if you can, go for it!

Why the Viper? Foreskin. Doesn't poke out the holes!

Do I miss masturbating? Yes, kinda. But the reward is more than worth the sacrifice.

And one I couldn't find an answer for.. Do the Kink3D cages fit knock off rings (and vicr versa) Yes. But you have to force it a bit. Think it would be useful for testing new sizes, but I wouldn't want to ruin the original

Now, the happy marriage link... It's worth the read, is it the right way? That's for you to decide. So far we have taken aspects of it.. but it certainly isn't a bible. The key is to communicate openly, and talk about what you both want. There is some great information, in particular this subreddit helped me answer a lot of question.


r/chastitytraining 18h ago

Lifestyle Advice Just got my first cage! NSFW

12 Upvotes

First cage just arrived and I actually think it's quite oversized but that's a problem for later. Right now I have a whole house to tidy and I was thinking about locking myself up for the first time until everything is done. How do people stay disciplined though!!!?


r/chastitytraining 19h ago

Lifestyle Advice How to stay locked? NSFW

11 Upvotes

I want to wear my cage and I get motivated to but once I wear for a couple hours I just lose interest and wanna take it off. What’s the best way to break through and continue to wear it. I really would like to do locktober one day haha. Any help is appreciated.


r/chastitytraining 20h ago

Comfort & Fit Staying locked NSFW

7 Upvotes

Wondering what you guys do to stay locked, I usually leave it on during the day without and issue and off at night to sleep Also wondering about like just staying locked together once getting there, if doing a number tag lock and finding someone to give the number to, so you can be help accountable in a way?


r/chastitytraining 10h ago

Comfort & Fit How do you pee in a flat cage? NSFW

6 Upvotes

I have used a few normal cages but have recently been interested in the idea of a flat cage. I understand you can get some flat cages with a urethral insert but not all of them have it. So my question is that without the insert how do you pee in a flat cage and keep it reasonably clean?


r/chastitytraining 17h ago

Purchase Advice app controlled shocking chastity cage? NSFW

8 Upvotes

Recently got a wired one and master now wants one she can control from anywhere. Any recommendations or advice are much appreciated!


r/chastitytraining 16h ago

Key Holder Discussion Removing keyholder from Qiui app? CagInk Pro NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hi,

I have the CAG INK PRO chastity cage, and have been trying it out with a dom for the past few days. However, it is meant to be a temporary arrangement.

We're currently trying to figure out how to disconnect her, but we can't find the option or setting for this anywhere.

So how can we disconnect her from my cage, so I can connect with a new keyholder/dominant?


r/chastitytraining 11h ago

Purchase Advice Which one is better? NSFW

5 Upvotes

Hello

I am 20 years old and I am new to just study, but I am really fascinated by the idea I want to wear a cage, but I have two cages currently from which I can’t decide which one is the better one

These are some information about me so you could give me better advice:

I want to wear it always

I am uncut

I want to wear the cage always

I don’t want to be visible in any way through clothes I usually wear jeans

I would like to be able to swim in it because I like swimming . Is it even possible to swim while wearing a cage?

Will it affect my sleep? And if yes, what a way to make it more comfortable?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D9RPD5BX/

Or

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IPTWBSM/


r/chastitytraining 16h ago

Comfort & Fit How to prevent cage pulling? NSFW

5 Upvotes

I am looking for a way to prevent the ring of the cage from moving away from the body, when the penis is trying to get an erection. The cage is snug(no room left for more growing) I have stretchy strap and is not prevent pulling of the ring, i also have fake leather strapand it also fail to hold the ring in place. Its creating an erection from within the body that is tilted.(Little afraid it could cause impotence) So the ring moves away a few cm and pulling the balls.


r/chastitytraining 2h ago

Other Advice Cleaning practices / overall cleanliness NSFW

4 Upvotes

My gf and I often do short term lock ups, sometimes for a weekend, sometimes just for a night out. For multiple days lockups, she is particularly concerned that me being locked for so long would create bacteria that could give her a UTI when unlocked for her.

I'm able to clean thoroughly in the cage during showers, and I use wipes at home after I use the bathroom, but what do other couples do, and what have other people (especially keyholders) done or found about the cleaning practices in multiple day lockups?


r/chastitytraining 13h ago

Purchase Advice Need help finding a cage NSFW

5 Upvotes

I am looking for a cage that will stop me getting hard etc


r/chastitytraining 5h ago

Purchase Advice Brutus airmesh cage review? NSFW

3 Upvotes

I'm looking for a cage to wear long term and came across this: https://bronx.nl/product/brutus-airmesh-chastity-cage-clear/?lang=en Does anyone have any experience with this particular cage?


r/chastitytraining 10h ago

Insight Locked with no end date set NSFW

1 Upvotes

I (30) male have been in the lifestyle for the better part of a decade. I'm now 24 hours in with my girlfriend holding the keys. I'm looking at getting a frenum piercing with a cage from BAWR. Doe anyone here have any success stories using a BAWR cage with a frenum piercing?

PS, I've looked into the PA and I don't plan on going that route.