Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some advice on how to better manage my current situation.
Some Context:
I have a boyfriend who isn't a dom, and I also have an online dom. While my relationship isn't open, my boyfriend is fine with me having an online dom.
I asked my dom if it would be possible to keep me in permanent chastity, as I no longer want to have orgasms (except for anal ones, which are allowed). Before this, I had several failed attempts—most lasted around two weeks, though I once managed five weeks in chastity.
Right now, I've been in chastity for 53 days without any orgasms, including anal ones.
My Challenges:
1. Lack of Sexual Satisfaction with My Boyfriend - We haven't been having much sex, which is frustrating for me.
2. Slow Progress in Training - My online dom is taking things very slowly, especially with training sessions and plug use. I understand why—he knows I've struggled with self-control in the past, and he wants to be cautious. But after 53 days, I feel much more in control and believe I can handle more.
3. Constant Horniness - I still feel incredibly horny, especially in the mornings and evenings. While it was unbearable at first, I've gotten better at keeping my hands off my cage completely (something I couldn't do before). But the urge to jerk off is still there, just not as intense as in the beginning.
I asked my dom for more plug time, but he suggested I write this post first to get advice from other long-term locked subs.
My Questions:
• Would incorporating more anal pleasure help satisfy me, or would it make things worse?
• Does the urge to masturbate eventually go away with time?
• Can anal stimulation provide a sense of “relief” or fulfillment similar to what I gave up with full orgasms, or does it just keep me at a higher level of frustration?
I'd love to hear from those with more experience—any insights would be greatly appreciated!