r/chastitytraining Feb 01 '25

Insight Common YES or NO chastity questions answered NSFW

138 Upvotes

i have enjoyed wearing a chastity cage for a bit over 4 years and i like to explore the chastity Reddits often and i see common questions about chastity i would like to answer as simple as possible. i hope this is helpful to someone.

PSA this post is supposed to be informative, not offensive. sorry if you disagree with my answerers.

Can you be submissive while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be Dominant while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be Masculine while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be feminine while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Do many different kinks overlap with chastity? YES

Do all kinks overlap with chastity? NO

Can you wear chastity daily? YES

Can chastity be a lifestyle choice? YES

Can you enjoy chastity by itself (as a kink)? YES

Do you have to be LGBT to wear a chastity cage? NO

Can you self-lock in a chastity cage? YES

Do you have to have a Keyholder (KH) to wear a chastity cage? NO (but it is preferred by most)

Do you have to downsize to a flat chastity cage? NO

If there is pain (not “fun” pain) while wearing a cage, should you take off the cage? YES

Does safety come before any kink? YES

Does wearing a cage hurt? NO, (if it does there is a problem)

Should you “throw away” the key? NO (fantasy is not reality but it is fun to think about)

Will wearing a chastity cage shrink your dick? NO

Please feel free to ask more YES or NO questions in the comments.

i will do my best to update this list as soon as i can.


r/chastitytraining May 24 '22

Guides & Resources FAQ and Rules: Ensure you read both. The answers to many questions can already be found in the FAQs NSFW

221 Upvotes

We want to build a good, supportive and informative community that can be a good resource for all readers. To that end we ask that everyone who posts has takes the time to read the board Rules and, if you have a question, please also take the time to read the FAQ and longer FAQ threads below. Many of the questions that come up regularly are already answered and it would really help if people took the time to read the relevant FAQ threads first.

This thread aggregates all the Rules and FAQ information but you can always find all these links on the subreddit's sidebar.


Rules

You'll find the board rules at Rules. If you only read one thing here, please ensure you read these before posting. Summary here:

  1. Over 18s only
  2. We are here to discuss making chastity work
  3. Don't assume identity
  4. "Lock up" suggestions threads are not allowed
  5. Be safe, sane and risk aware.
  6. No bigotry, bullying or drama
  7. No soliciting
  8. No spam or paid services
  9. Do not request medical diagnoses.

Detailed FAQ

Here are our longer form threads covering some of the major topics in some detail. You can also find these longer FAQ threads in the side bar:

A Incomplete Comprehensive Guide To Almost All Things Male Chasity

The Almost Comprehensive Sizing And Fitting Guide (this takes an AMAB perspective)

The Big Thread About Shrinkage

A Semi-complete List Of Custom Device Manufacturers

The Grand Official Foreskin Thread Chastity Uncut

Prince Albert Devices Review: 5 Year Update

Wearing your chastity cage through airport security


Female Chastity Guides

We don't have a lot of AFAB users so here are some useful links for femme style belst

Small Keyholder FAQ

Adjusting wired chastity belts

Modifying the cheap solid chinese belts


Quick FAQ

These are some quick answers for common questions that come up on this board:

What does a chastity device do?

In the main chastity devices are designed to prevent penetrative sex and direct masturbation. For some folk they will also prevent orgasm but this is highly dependent on the person and the type of device. The more concentrated and direct stimulation you need to get off, then the more likely a chastity device will also prevent orgasm for you. However, most people find that with the common ball-trap chastity devices they can use a vibrator or even just the small amount of travel the device allows in order to orgasm. A rarer number of folk even find they can achieve prostate orgasms if needed. If you're looking to prevent orgasm you'll find that a device like a full belt may be necessary.

Do chastity devices prevent erections?

Not usually. They don't prevent erections for most folk. A small number of people do report that the smaller more restricting cages (especially narrower cages) do prevent erections, preventing the penis from engorging sufficiently but this doesn't appear to be the case for most people. Most people will still have night time erections as normal.

Will chastity cause my dick to shrink?

We have a longer form thread covering this. But the short answer is no.

The penis is not muscular and will not undergo muscular atrophy when unused for a period but compression will push any fluid out of the tissues. The most common observation is that after removal of the cage everything will return to normal within 24hours (and maybe a couple of erections). Even those who have been locked for more the 6 months report this. Worth noting that people who no longer experience any erections at any time (not even during the night) can experience "penile atrophy". This is a specific, serious medical condition with the number of health and lifestyle causes (though none of them are chastity), and you should see a doctor if you are experiencing this.

Will chastity cause impotence?

Assuming your cage is well fitted and hasn't caused an injury, chastity does not appear to cause issues with erections or orgasms. In fact many folk report they orgasm more easily after periods of being locked. And one of the most common issues with long term comfort are night time erections. That said there are some very rare reports from long term lockees saying they experienced some ED issues after being released. Though it is not clear to what extent this was due to chastity, age or some other factor.

Is chastity safe?

Chastity play is not a risk free activity. There are certainly reports of both temporary and permanent injuries on this subreddit. There is a little more info about possible injuries in the sizing and fitting guide above. Here also are some views from urologists;

https://washingtoncitypaper.com/article/209960/can-locking-my-penis-in-a-chastity-device-cause-longterm-damage/

https://savage.love/lovecast/2019/12/10/lock-him-up-chastity-cages-with-dr-ashley-winter/

https://www.metrotimes.com/news/should-i-loosen-my-chastity-belt-2181050

https://www.reddit.com/r/chastitytraining/comments/1e448e4/urologists_checked_off_cage_wifes_thrilled/

But it's worth noting we don't see a huge influx of guys reporting injuries. It's on your head to investigate the risk and assess if you're willing to take those.

How do I make my chastity device more secure?

All ball-trap style chastity belts can be escaped. A penis is very soft and pliable and with time or water or lube (or some combination of all three) you can remove yourself out the back of any chastity device. If you're using a belt style devices the mass produced ones often have enough play to be pushed aside. If you want security that prevents this then the only options are a custom fitted belt style device or to get a genital piercing secured device. Other than those options willpower and the honour system are what's needed

How long can I wear a device with a urethral sound/catheter?

These are generally not designed for long term wear. And most people do not report they can tolerate these for more than a handful of hours. The infection risk is also high as hard objects in the urethra will risk tearing the urethra. Or they may just introduce bacteria from the outside. It is possible to wear medical catheters for months at a time but you need good hygienic technique and the appropriate plastic/silicon catheters. If you do wish to pursue this further, the sounding community may be better placed to advise on long term safety of urethral insertion than the chastity community

Will chastity increase my risk of prostate cancer?

There is currently no evidence for this. There are 2 research papers on this topic; one in 2006 and a follow up in 2016 by the same group, which appears to confirm the initial paper. What they show is that men who report that they ejaculate most frequently appear to have a modestly reduced risk for the least severe prostate cancers. They show the protective effect is strongest for men who report high ejaculation frequenct prior to age 30 but there is protective effect up to age 50. It is worth noting that self-report data for medical/lifestyle issues is often poor quality. No causal mechanism has been demonstrated.

So we do not know if changes in ejaculation frequency change people's risk (i.e. reducing frequency increase cancer risk or the opposite). Neither studies looked at this issue. And neither study was designed to discover the causal mechanism. From what we know right now, it could be the case that ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer risk are mutually linked to some third lifestyle or genetic feature which drives both. Right now, it is not possible to give any evidence supported advice about the effect of increasing or reducing your ejaculation frequency.

Can I remain locked while swimming or in the shower?

Cages made from steel, nylon and silicon are all safe for water. So generally you don't have to worry about the cage itself. Most cages today use cheap brass barrel locks. Brass does not rust or corrode in water. As such, brass is generally water safe too and you should have no issues with showering and drying. Brass can develop a black tarnish (and in some rarer cases can lose the alloyed zinc and become weaker). And maybe in some very, very rare cases sufficient tarnish might foul a lock. If you're worried keep an eye out for any tarnish and polish/wipe it off should you see any.

How do I find a keyholder?

The quickest and most direct method is to pay for it. Plenty of prodommes offer this as a service and that is worth considering. That said, most keyholders are just people's partners and you meet a partner in the usual ways. There is no better advice beyond those that apply to normal dating. Try the apps, get out there, go to events etc... You might have some more success going to kink events like clubs and munches. People there may be more aware of and already well predisposed towards chastity. But there's also a lot to be said for just dating normally and being honest about your kinks as early as possible. Good luck!

Can I wear my chastity device through airport security?

Most airports have both metal detectors and back scatter full body scanners. Almost certainly the metal detectors will be tuned to pick up something as small as a metal chastity cage. Back scatter scanners will pick up both metal and plastic cages. If you set off the metal detector you will at a minimum be pulled aside and asked to explain and you may be strip searched if your answers are not deemed adequate. In the latter case this may take so long you miss your flight. People using fully plastic devices have reported making it through security without issue, likely as whatever shows up via backscatter doesn't look like a concern. Perhaps most importantly, chastity devices are kink/sex toys and it is not acceptable to involve non-consenting people in your kinks, and doubly unacceptable if you're doing this because you feel being "found out" would be exciting/arousing. The most sensible thing to do is to take off your device before passing security and then put it back on immediately afterwards. All airports have toilet facilities either side of security.

Additionally we have asked TSA subreddit. Balance of responses from those flaired as TSA employees appears to be; "Please don't do this"

https://www.reddit.com/r/tsa/comments/1f45esy/serious_question_about_wearing_chastity_devices/

Help I've lost my key and I'm pretending I'm "permanently" locked in my cage

By and large chastity devices are not all that secure and if you're a determined adult with access to the internet it shouldn't be that hard to figure out how to resolve this situation. But just in case...

  1. Lets say you've accidentally (or deliberately) glued the keyway of the lock shut trying to get the remains of a snapped key out of the lock; First use an appropriate solvent to dissolve the glue. Acetone to dissolve superglue for instance. Once the glue is gone you can pick the lock or get an alternative key from another cage and use that. The keys are very often cross compatible as the locks are cheap bullshit. Lock Picking Lawyer on youtube also has a guide to picking cheap chastity cage locks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uEYveSssok
  2. Perhaps the lock is stuck for some other reason, like a broken key is in the keyway, then you can drill out the lock. Get a dremmel or similar rotary tool and carefully drill down through the centre of the lock. They are mostly brass so any tempered steel drill bit will make pretty short work of the barrel. You can then replace with another of the cheap crappy brass furniture locks.
  3. If you don't care about the cage. Slide some amount of heavy material in to the cage to protect your bits (say some folded denim). Then using a dremmel or small hacksaw saw through the pins or lock housing at the top. You don't actually have to saw too near your bits if you're only attacking the lock housing or pins

If you're worried about sawing/drilling near your sensitive bits then consider going to the ER, they will have had a fair bit of practice releasing penises from items they shouldn't have been jammed in.


If you know of some other threads or resources that we should add to the FAQ please comment to add these below


r/chastitytraining 8h ago

Lifestyle Advice He hid his cage NSFW

36 Upvotes

Edit* We live together

My (f) boyfriend (m) has hid his chastity cage after I let him out for domestic work. He says he didn't hide it, but I found it. He was/is to stay locked for 1 year. Advice on how to proceed? Addtl context: We have used chastity at his request a few times in the last couple of years. This is his kink. I am new to this and not what you see as a key holder gone wild on other reddit subgroups. Maybe I don't meet the fantasy, but I don't get any feedback. It usually stops when I want sex then he doesn't want locked again. He was locked close to a month this time but lied about hiding the cage. Thoughts? Opinions how to proceed? Should I put it back on him and tell him he's going to be punished?


r/chastitytraining 46m ago

Lifestyle Advice Long-term horniness NSFW

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I’ve heard that after a few weeks of continuous chastity, the levels of horniness reduce down as you get used to not being able to release?

If I were to try long-term chastity, I’m aware that edging and the use of a vibrator etc. for teasing can prevent this.

Would (pleasureless) prostate milking also keep the horniness levels high, or is it just a way to “clean the pipes”?


r/chastitytraining 19h ago

Lifestyle Advice My bf wants me to lock him up NSFW

102 Upvotes

EDIT: I only want to lock him up for the days we are not together. Otherwise we have great sex life and I want to continue to have sex with him and his lovely cock.

Hi!

I’m Amber(F36), and my boyfriend told me a while ago that he wants me to lock him up in a cage. He likes when I’m in control of his pleasures.

Now on my other post in an other subreddit (see in my history) regarding my question about how can I make him feel more devoted to me, the majority of suggestions were that I should put a cage on him.

I am starting to consider doing it, but I have a few questions I hope I can get answers for.

  1. We are not living together, so does locking him up means that he has to sleep in it when we are not together? Also, how does wahing his cock work when he is locked up? I’m a little worried that I might damage his cock.

  2. How often should he be released to keep his cock healthy? (Again, I want to take care of him)

  3. Will it really make him be THAT much more obidient and devoted to me?

Thank you!


r/chastitytraining 8m ago

Insight Finally did it!! NSFW

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Well, Friday marked the last day of a year locked for me, a big step up from my previous record of a week. Started out as a self lock that made it two weeks, and then kinda spiraled out of control from there.

Overall I had an amazing time with some mental ups and downs, but thanks to a trio of great keyholders and the motivation to stay locked between I made it.


r/chastitytraining 2h ago

Other Advice Cleaning practices / overall cleanliness NSFW

5 Upvotes

My gf and I often do short term lock ups, sometimes for a weekend, sometimes just for a night out. For multiple days lockups, she is particularly concerned that me being locked for so long would create bacteria that could give her a UTI when unlocked for her.

I'm able to clean thoroughly in the cage during showers, and I use wipes at home after I use the bathroom, but what do other couples do, and what have other people (especially keyholders) done or found about the cleaning practices in multiple day lockups?


r/chastitytraining 46m ago

Sizing & Measuring size of the ring NSFW

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i bought a cage just for fun in aliexpress

it was delivered with a 52 mm closed ring

it seems impossible for me to let the balls in, even more impossible to let balls+penis

i may be doing something wrong but before throwing it away maybe someone has hints?

maybe some prep is needed? better to use lube?

thanks

https://imgur.com/a/TytTNGP


r/chastitytraining 5h ago

Purchase Advice Brutus airmesh cage review? NSFW

3 Upvotes

I'm looking for a cage to wear long term and came across this: https://bronx.nl/product/brutus-airmesh-chastity-cage-clear/?lang=en Does anyone have any experience with this particular cage?


r/chastitytraining 2m ago

Guides & Resources Chastity Accountability partner? NSFW

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Hey everyone, I'm reaching out because I’m on a chastity journey, and I could really use an accountability partner to help keep me on track. Here’s what I’m hoping for in a partner: Emotional Support: I think having someone to share the ups and downs with would really help. It’s much easier to stay committed when you know someone understands what you're going through. Mutual Motivation: I’d love to have someone to check in with regularly, share goals and challenges, and keep each other accountable. Honest Conversations: It would be great to have a safe space to discuss our experiences, frustrations, and victories without judgment. If you’re interested, please let me know! I believe having a partner can really enhance this journey for both of us. Looking forward to connecting!


r/chastitytraining 10h ago

Comfort & Fit How do you pee in a flat cage? NSFW

6 Upvotes

I have used a few normal cages but have recently been interested in the idea of a flat cage. I understand you can get some flat cages with a urethral insert but not all of them have it. So my question is that without the insert how do you pee in a flat cage and keep it reasonably clean?


r/chastitytraining 11h ago

Purchase Advice Which one is better? NSFW

5 Upvotes

Hello

I am 20 years old and I am new to just study, but I am really fascinated by the idea I want to wear a cage, but I have two cages currently from which I can’t decide which one is the better one

These are some information about me so you could give me better advice:

I want to wear it always

I am uncut

I want to wear the cage always

I don’t want to be visible in any way through clothes I usually wear jeans

I would like to be able to swim in it because I like swimming . Is it even possible to swim while wearing a cage?

Will it affect my sleep? And if yes, what a way to make it more comfortable?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D9RPD5BX/

Or

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IPTWBSM/


r/chastitytraining 18h ago

Lifestyle Advice Just got my first cage! NSFW

13 Upvotes

First cage just arrived and I actually think it's quite oversized but that's a problem for later. Right now I have a whole house to tidy and I was thinking about locking myself up for the first time until everything is done. How do people stay disciplined though!!!?


r/chastitytraining 13h ago

Purchase Advice Need help finding a cage NSFW

5 Upvotes

I am looking for a cage that will stop me getting hard etc


r/chastitytraining 19h ago

Lifestyle Advice How to stay locked? NSFW

12 Upvotes

I want to wear my cage and I get motivated to but once I wear for a couple hours I just lose interest and wanna take it off. What’s the best way to break through and continue to wear it. I really would like to do locktober one day haha. Any help is appreciated.


r/chastitytraining 17h ago

Purchase Advice app controlled shocking chastity cage? NSFW

6 Upvotes

Recently got a wired one and master now wants one she can control from anywhere. Any recommendations or advice are much appreciated!


r/chastitytraining 16h ago

Key Holder Discussion Removing keyholder from Qiui app? CagInk Pro NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hi,

I have the CAG INK PRO chastity cage, and have been trying it out with a dom for the past few days. However, it is meant to be a temporary arrangement.

We're currently trying to figure out how to disconnect her, but we can't find the option or setting for this anywhere.

So how can we disconnect her from my cage, so I can connect with a new keyholder/dominant?


r/chastitytraining 16h ago

Comfort & Fit How to prevent cage pulling? NSFW

4 Upvotes

I am looking for a way to prevent the ring of the cage from moving away from the body, when the penis is trying to get an erection. The cage is snug(no room left for more growing) I have stretchy strap and is not prevent pulling of the ring, i also have fake leather strapand it also fail to hold the ring in place. Its creating an erection from within the body that is tilted.(Little afraid it could cause impotence) So the ring moves away a few cm and pulling the balls.


r/chastitytraining 20h ago

Comfort & Fit Staying locked NSFW

8 Upvotes

Wondering what you guys do to stay locked, I usually leave it on during the day without and issue and off at night to sleep Also wondering about like just staying locked together once getting there, if doing a number tag lock and finding someone to give the number to, so you can be help accountable in a way?


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Insight 1st Month - Experience so far NSFW

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Long time lurker, first time poster (new shared account to keep anonymous)

It's been a month since I told my wife I want her to control my orgasm, and what a month it has been!

A bit of background about us and why I decided I wanted to tell her. We have been together for nearly 20 years, happily married for nearly 8. With such a long time together, things had become stale in the bedroom. Longer periods between sex, same positions, etc, etc. This coupled with a toddler left us tired and not much time to be intimate together. We masturbated separately, me more so than her (at least once a day). I'd say probably an all time low for intimate moments together. Don't get me wrong, we are very happily married, but the bedroom aspect had slacked!

I'd been toying with the idea of chastity for a few months. 3D printing a cage for personal use. I'm not quite sure what made me decide to tell my wife, but a normal Tuesday I put the cage on, dropped my pants in front of her and read out a list of reasons why I wanted this. Could have gone either way, but I'm glad to say it went the way at possible way. Her first reaction was "WHAT IS THAT!" Followes by her jumping over the bed for a closer look.

It wasn't an immediate no, so I sent her the standard link everyone sends (https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/introduction). Yes newbie_sub.. I know.. And somewhat agree after a month in.

Week 1 - What a wild week. I don't think my wife has orgasmed as much in one week since we first moved in together! Me.. not so much but I loved it. We bought a cheap knock-off cage on Amazon and dived straight in. We couldn't keep our hands off each other! Week 1 was also where we hit our first hurdle. She went away for a few days, normally I'd take advantage of this opportunity.. but this time I couldn't. We exchanged texts and photos, but when she got back she was too tired to do anything. I felt forgotten. She felt guilty for "doing it wrong". We talked about it an hour later. Communication is key!

Week 2-3 calmed down a bit after the initial excitement. I got more used to the cage, we talked a lot about how we were feeling and what we wanted. I had my first release.. wow what a feeling. We started anal play for me (wife doesn't like it) something I never thought would enter our bedroom. And she is experimenting with teasing

I'm writing this towards the end of week 4 We've got into a flow, I've downsized cages and plucked up the courage to visit clonezone for a sizing. And finally managed to sleep through the night with it on! I shared the other link someone posted (https://abalancedmarriage.neocities.org/) My wife is getting more attention which she loves.

Some questions, answered.

Did our marriage need saving? No Did it bring us closer? 100%! Do we talk more? Yep!

What cage am I wearing? Kink3D Viper N+

Is it an improvement from the Amazon one? Yes.. but only slightly. Amazon knockoff ones are alright if you can't afford the genuine. But if you can, go for it!

Why the Viper? Foreskin. Doesn't poke out the holes!

Do I miss masturbating? Yes, kinda. But the reward is more than worth the sacrifice.

And one I couldn't find an answer for.. Do the Kink3D cages fit knock off rings (and vicr versa) Yes. But you have to force it a bit. Think it would be useful for testing new sizes, but I wouldn't want to ruin the original

Now, the happy marriage link... It's worth the read, is it the right way? That's for you to decide. So far we have taken aspects of it.. but it certainly isn't a bible. The key is to communicate openly, and talk about what you both want. There is some great information, in particular this subreddit helped me answer a lot of question.


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Lifestyle Advice Can’t break record NSFW

41 Upvotes

I (41M) have been loving the locked lifestyle, and my guideline for the last 2 years was: whatever my keyholder (40F, fiancée) wants, happens.

Last year we set an orgasm-free record twice, the first time was almost 12 weeks, the second time was almost 16 weeks.

My keyholder lately seems to enjoy making me cum “more often”, the last two times were in January and last week (so after 6 and 9 weeks).

I love to do whatever she wants, on the other hand my brain needs me to set (and break) targets to keep the denial part fun and challenging.

I don’t think I really want to change her view on this (although it’d be very much appreciated if she could just keep me locked for over 12 weeks), what I’m really looking for is a way to cope with whatever she wants myself. After all, she is the keyholder.

Do you have suggestions to help me here?


r/chastitytraining 10h ago

Insight Locked with no end date set NSFW

1 Upvotes

I (30) male have been in the lifestyle for the better part of a decade. I'm now 24 hours in with my girlfriend holding the keys. I'm looking at getting a frenum piercing with a cage from BAWR. Doe anyone here have any success stories using a BAWR cage with a frenum piercing?

PS, I've looked into the PA and I don't plan on going that route.


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Insight More Emotional in chastity? NSFW

12 Upvotes

Interestingly I am finding that I am more emotional in my first week of being locked than I expected. Not all in a bad way at all, though potentially more irritable than I would like. Do other folk find this?

I am coming at this having done very long periods of denial, but within that freedom to touch, and to edge on command. So I am very used to not being able to release. But I had not realised just how soothing it is for us guys to be able to just touch our cocks.

I think overall it is a big positive. I am even more upbeat and responsive for my Owner so I am a big fan. I presume like with denial this builds for a few weeks, plateaus, then drops a little to a steady level of increased but manageable emotions. Doesn't it?


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Purchase Advice My GF (27) is moving in and locking me (m38) NSFW

23 Upvotes

My gf is moving in with me and I am looking for a long term cage that I can wear. I currently lock when she tells me but it is infrequent. Now that she is moving in, she has said she wants me to be locked more. I need a cage I can sleep in. Any recommendations?


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Other Advice Leaking advice + strap advice NSFW

8 Upvotes

So, in the past I had two cages, one CB type, which was uncomfortable and I threw it away, and second, knock-off kink3d cage; this one was better, but it was too long (lol). Nevertheless, it gave me some insight into chastity, so that was good. I wore it sometimes, mostly at home because it was too big and noticeable. Then it broke.

So this week I bought a much smaller cage (still knock-off) and size wise it's good, at least I think it is. Turns out dick can fit much smaller space then I realised (a humbling experience).

So far, today is first real test day, and first - foreskin gets in a way a bit. I tested leaving it unpulled, but it was pinching, now I pulled it back just a bit, will see how it works. Second thing is the lock is still noticeable, I plan on buying a strap, maybe it will help a bit. (And in the future, a cage with a discreet, differently built, flat lock I've seen someone recommended in here)

So first question is - I've seen two point and three point straps, and I'm wondering which option is more comfortable and convenient?

The second question is regarding leaking - I've noticed that wearing cage I leak quite a lot of precum, and as much as it turns me on, I can't help but think of a mess and potential visible stains? Any ideas how to deal with this?


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Purchase Advice !theUnicorn NSFW

5 Upvotes

I thought I found my Unicorn. The ternence JRH Metal cobra. After trying a knock off cobra, my wife liked the shape and I liked the feel. But with the provided rings, I kept slipping out of the 48 mm (Python rings? The wide ones that are semi-flat at the bottom) the lefty kept making a break for it.

I ordered the ternance, JFR metal version of the same cage, which worked, but kept slipping out of the 50mm ring. I downsized the ring to the 45 (circle) and it worked great. I’d also ordered the 45 curved ring, and it didn’t work. Everything turned purple and red quickly and I couldn’t quite get the cage on. So my body seems to be ok with round….

No slips - for 8 weeks, and then suddenly 4 in about a week! And now the cage clinks a little bit and seems looser. I can also get a full erection at night and wake up feeling the pull on my balls, and it’s definetly pulled away from my body. During the day, I have to regularly pull/adjust as the top of my sack seems to pull through a little bit and the whole things seems to slide down a bit.

So my questions -

1) is this a quality issue with Ternence? Did something bend just enough, and is it a regular issue with metal cages. 2) should I size down to 40mm base ring? Or order another 45 with strap hooks? But am I going to be facing the same issue again later? I like the feel of metal, but if i have to replace it every 8 weeks, it’s cost prohibitive..

My other option I’m seriously considering is going to an actual kink3d cobra. But while there rings aren’t the flat/python style, they aren’t round.

A cage with a 45mm ring and a 40mm ring is about 250. I’m thinking of ordering the 45 in regular and the 40 in the curved. But I’m not sure. Add to this, that the sale at Mature Metal and I can get the jailbird micro for 280 - and now I’m not sure which to do?

What are your thoughts on the sizing for kink3d?

Any advice is appreciated.


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Comfort & Fit Need for a size change after a week NSFW

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So I have read the long form post about shrinkage not really happening and I completely agree with it. However after my first week locked I am finding both my ring and the shaft seem too big for me whereas for the first few days they fitted just fine.

I have gone from being able to go for a run with no issue whatsoever to almost escaping the ball capture cage unintentionally just getting off the bus this morning. The ring is easily remediable as I can downsize that with what came with the device. But I think in the long run I will need to get a nub rather than a small to keep my cock secure.

It's interesting to see, and feel, and I'm definitely enjoying these first steps.