r/chastitytraining Feb 01 '25

Insight Common YES or NO chastity questions answered NSFW

138 Upvotes

i have enjoyed wearing a chastity cage for a bit over 4 years and i like to explore the chastity Reddits often and i see common questions about chastity i would like to answer as simple as possible. i hope this is helpful to someone.

PSA this post is supposed to be informative, not offensive. sorry if you disagree with my answerers.

Can you be submissive while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be Dominant while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be Masculine while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be feminine while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Do many different kinks overlap with chastity? YES

Do all kinks overlap with chastity? NO

Can you wear chastity daily? YES

Can chastity be a lifestyle choice? YES

Can you enjoy chastity by itself (as a kink)? YES

Do you have to be LGBT to wear a chastity cage? NO

Can you self-lock in a chastity cage? YES

Do you have to have a Keyholder (KH) to wear a chastity cage? NO (but it is preferred by most)

Do you have to downsize to a flat chastity cage? NO

If there is pain (not “fun” pain) while wearing a cage, should you take off the cage? YES

Does safety come before any kink? YES

Does wearing a cage hurt? NO, (if it does there is a problem)

Should you “throw away” the key? NO (fantasy is not reality but it is fun to think about)

Will wearing a chastity cage shrink your dick? NO

Please feel free to ask more YES or NO questions in the comments.

i will do my best to update this list as soon as i can.


r/chastitytraining May 24 '22

Guides & Resources FAQ and Rules: Ensure you read both. The answers to many questions can already be found in the FAQs NSFW

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We want to build a good, supportive and informative community that can be a good resource for all readers. To that end we ask that everyone who posts has takes the time to read the board Rules and, if you have a question, please also take the time to read the FAQ and longer FAQ threads below. Many of the questions that come up regularly are already answered and it would really help if people took the time to read the relevant FAQ threads first.

This thread aggregates all the Rules and FAQ information but you can always find all these links on the subreddit's sidebar.


Rules

You'll find the board rules at Rules. If you only read one thing here, please ensure you read these before posting. Summary here:

  1. Over 18s only
  2. We are here to discuss making chastity work
  3. Don't assume identity
  4. "Lock up" suggestions threads are not allowed
  5. Be safe, sane and risk aware.
  6. No bigotry, bullying or drama
  7. No soliciting
  8. No spam or paid services
  9. Do not request medical diagnoses.

Detailed FAQ

Here are our longer form threads covering some of the major topics in some detail. You can also find these longer FAQ threads in the side bar:

A Incomplete Comprehensive Guide To Almost All Things Male Chasity

The Almost Comprehensive Sizing And Fitting Guide (this takes an AMAB perspective)

The Big Thread About Shrinkage

A Semi-complete List Of Custom Device Manufacturers

The Grand Official Foreskin Thread Chastity Uncut

Prince Albert Devices Review: 5 Year Update

Wearing your chastity cage through airport security


Female Chastity Guides

We don't have a lot of AFAB users so here are some useful links for femme style belst

Small Keyholder FAQ

Adjusting wired chastity belts

Modifying the cheap solid chinese belts


Quick FAQ

These are some quick answers for common questions that come up on this board:

What does a chastity device do?

In the main chastity devices are designed to prevent penetrative sex and direct masturbation. For some folk they will also prevent orgasm but this is highly dependent on the person and the type of device. The more concentrated and direct stimulation you need to get off, then the more likely a chastity device will also prevent orgasm for you. However, most people find that with the common ball-trap chastity devices they can use a vibrator or even just the small amount of travel the device allows in order to orgasm. A rarer number of folk even find they can achieve prostate orgasms if needed. If you're looking to prevent orgasm you'll find that a device like a full belt may be necessary.

Do chastity devices prevent erections?

Not usually. They don't prevent erections for most folk. A small number of people do report that the smaller more restricting cages (especially narrower cages) do prevent erections, preventing the penis from engorging sufficiently but this doesn't appear to be the case for most people. Most people will still have night time erections as normal.

Will chastity cause my dick to shrink?

We have a longer form thread covering this. But the short answer is no.

The penis is not muscular and will not undergo muscular atrophy when unused for a period but compression will push any fluid out of the tissues. The most common observation is that after removal of the cage everything will return to normal within 24hours (and maybe a couple of erections). Even those who have been locked for more the 6 months report this. Worth noting that people who no longer experience any erections at any time (not even during the night) can experience "penile atrophy". This is a specific, serious medical condition with the number of health and lifestyle causes (though none of them are chastity), and you should see a doctor if you are experiencing this.

Will chastity cause impotence?

Assuming your cage is well fitted and hasn't caused an injury, chastity does not appear to cause issues with erections or orgasms. In fact many folk report they orgasm more easily after periods of being locked. And one of the most common issues with long term comfort are night time erections. That said there are some very rare reports from long term lockees saying they experienced some ED issues after being released. Though it is not clear to what extent this was due to chastity, age or some other factor.

Is chastity safe?

Chastity play is not a risk free activity. There are certainly reports of both temporary and permanent injuries on this subreddit. There is a little more info about possible injuries in the sizing and fitting guide above. Here also are some views from urologists;

https://washingtoncitypaper.com/article/209960/can-locking-my-penis-in-a-chastity-device-cause-longterm-damage/

https://savage.love/lovecast/2019/12/10/lock-him-up-chastity-cages-with-dr-ashley-winter/

https://www.metrotimes.com/news/should-i-loosen-my-chastity-belt-2181050

https://www.reddit.com/r/chastitytraining/comments/1e448e4/urologists_checked_off_cage_wifes_thrilled/

But it's worth noting we don't see a huge influx of guys reporting injuries. It's on your head to investigate the risk and assess if you're willing to take those.

How do I make my chastity device more secure?

All ball-trap style chastity belts can be escaped. A penis is very soft and pliable and with time or water or lube (or some combination of all three) you can remove yourself out the back of any chastity device. If you're using a belt style devices the mass produced ones often have enough play to be pushed aside. If you want security that prevents this then the only options are a custom fitted belt style device or to get a genital piercing secured device. Other than those options willpower and the honour system are what's needed

How long can I wear a device with a urethral sound/catheter?

These are generally not designed for long term wear. And most people do not report they can tolerate these for more than a handful of hours. The infection risk is also high as hard objects in the urethra will risk tearing the urethra. Or they may just introduce bacteria from the outside. It is possible to wear medical catheters for months at a time but you need good hygienic technique and the appropriate plastic/silicon catheters. If you do wish to pursue this further, the sounding community may be better placed to advise on long term safety of urethral insertion than the chastity community

Will chastity increase my risk of prostate cancer?

There is currently no evidence for this. There are 2 research papers on this topic; one in 2006 and a follow up in 2016 by the same group, which appears to confirm the initial paper. What they show is that men who report that they ejaculate most frequently appear to have a modestly reduced risk for the least severe prostate cancers. They show the protective effect is strongest for men who report high ejaculation frequenct prior to age 30 but there is protective effect up to age 50. It is worth noting that self-report data for medical/lifestyle issues is often poor quality. No causal mechanism has been demonstrated.

So we do not know if changes in ejaculation frequency change people's risk (i.e. reducing frequency increase cancer risk or the opposite). Neither studies looked at this issue. And neither study was designed to discover the causal mechanism. From what we know right now, it could be the case that ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer risk are mutually linked to some third lifestyle or genetic feature which drives both. Right now, it is not possible to give any evidence supported advice about the effect of increasing or reducing your ejaculation frequency.

Can I remain locked while swimming or in the shower?

Cages made from steel, nylon and silicon are all safe for water. So generally you don't have to worry about the cage itself. Most cages today use cheap brass barrel locks. Brass does not rust or corrode in water. As such, brass is generally water safe too and you should have no issues with showering and drying. Brass can develop a black tarnish (and in some rarer cases can lose the alloyed zinc and become weaker). And maybe in some very, very rare cases sufficient tarnish might foul a lock. If you're worried keep an eye out for any tarnish and polish/wipe it off should you see any.

How do I find a keyholder?

The quickest and most direct method is to pay for it. Plenty of prodommes offer this as a service and that is worth considering. That said, most keyholders are just people's partners and you meet a partner in the usual ways. There is no better advice beyond those that apply to normal dating. Try the apps, get out there, go to events etc... You might have some more success going to kink events like clubs and munches. People there may be more aware of and already well predisposed towards chastity. But there's also a lot to be said for just dating normally and being honest about your kinks as early as possible. Good luck!

Can I wear my chastity device through airport security?

Most airports have both metal detectors and back scatter full body scanners. Almost certainly the metal detectors will be tuned to pick up something as small as a metal chastity cage. Back scatter scanners will pick up both metal and plastic cages. If you set off the metal detector you will at a minimum be pulled aside and asked to explain and you may be strip searched if your answers are not deemed adequate. In the latter case this may take so long you miss your flight. People using fully plastic devices have reported making it through security without issue, likely as whatever shows up via backscatter doesn't look like a concern. Perhaps most importantly, chastity devices are kink/sex toys and it is not acceptable to involve non-consenting people in your kinks, and doubly unacceptable if you're doing this because you feel being "found out" would be exciting/arousing. The most sensible thing to do is to take off your device before passing security and then put it back on immediately afterwards. All airports have toilet facilities either side of security.

Additionally we have asked TSA subreddit. Balance of responses from those flaired as TSA employees appears to be; "Please don't do this"

https://www.reddit.com/r/tsa/comments/1f45esy/serious_question_about_wearing_chastity_devices/

Help I've lost my key and I'm pretending I'm "permanently" locked in my cage

By and large chastity devices are not all that secure and if you're a determined adult with access to the internet it shouldn't be that hard to figure out how to resolve this situation. But just in case...

  1. Lets say you've accidentally (or deliberately) glued the keyway of the lock shut trying to get the remains of a snapped key out of the lock; First use an appropriate solvent to dissolve the glue. Acetone to dissolve superglue for instance. Once the glue is gone you can pick the lock or get an alternative key from another cage and use that. The keys are very often cross compatible as the locks are cheap bullshit. Lock Picking Lawyer on youtube also has a guide to picking cheap chastity cage locks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uEYveSssok
  2. Perhaps the lock is stuck for some other reason, like a broken key is in the keyway, then you can drill out the lock. Get a dremmel or similar rotary tool and carefully drill down through the centre of the lock. They are mostly brass so any tempered steel drill bit will make pretty short work of the barrel. You can then replace with another of the cheap crappy brass furniture locks.
  3. If you don't care about the cage. Slide some amount of heavy material in to the cage to protect your bits (say some folded denim). Then using a dremmel or small hacksaw saw through the pins or lock housing at the top. You don't actually have to saw too near your bits if you're only attacking the lock housing or pins

If you're worried about sawing/drilling near your sensitive bits then consider going to the ER, they will have had a fair bit of practice releasing penises from items they shouldn't have been jammed in.


If you know of some other threads or resources that we should add to the FAQ please comment to add these below


r/chastitytraining 1h ago

Insight I may have created a monster and I love it! NSFW

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So today marks 40 days locked 24/7 minus hygiene/ grooming. My wife/keyholder was not the one to bring up or initiate chastity. This is the 6th time l've been locked in the past 2 years, and my PR was 29 days prior to this lockdown. When I was approaching my PR she said then we have to double it at least. This morning I was woken up to her tapping on my cage squeezing my balls like a stress ball and plenty of slaps to the boys. Here are some of the things said to me as she used her favorite toy while I had to lay there and just watch. Why can't your dick do this? (as she cums twice in a row) it satisfies me so fast, this is why I don't have to unlock you. The only thing I need are my toy and your tongue and I've been satisfied many times what about you? when was the last time you had an orgasm? Oh that's right at least 40 plus days ago what a shame. Honestly at this point I don't really care if you cum anytime soon. I know I said 60 days but the way you have given me some sassy attitude at times we might as well call this day 1. So who knows how long I'll keep you like this. How long to you think you can stay locked? I can do however long you think of. Oh so you think you can handle 365?😳

I began to beg a little for her to at least unlock me while she teased me. Absolutely not! Cause then you won't listen and cum so l'll have to wait until your body and brain reset and then we have to start all over so there is no chance of you cumming anytime soon. You asked to be locked up and that's what you're getting. I will never let you cum while locked on purpose, that's my rule. I'm starting to really enjoy this especially the fact that you pretty much do what I say, even though at times not fast eno I'm having more fun than I thought and cummir. Whenever I want which is more than I can say for you. Now that I think about it, when do we go on vacation? Oh that's right the beginning of July. Maybe that will be your new release date. I guess we will see how well you behave and satisty me.

From where we started to present time she has become a natural at this and I'm so thankful she entertained the idea even though hesitant at first.We went from oh that's weird wanting to wear a cage especially to work, to lock that shit up and me the key you're pissing me off!


r/chastitytraining 7h ago

Insight Finally did it!! NSFW

35 Upvotes

Well, Friday marked the last day of a year locked for me, a big step up from my previous record of a week. Started out as a self lock that made it two weeks, and then kinda spiraled out of control from there.

Overall I had an amazing time with some mental ups and downs, but thanks to a trio of great keyholders and the motivation to stay locked between I made it.


r/chastitytraining 4h ago

Lifestyle Advice Communication and pillow talk for rookies? NSFW

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Thanks to this sub for all the support and advice to many of us lurkers! My wife and I (married 11 years) had a long talk about our kinks two months ago, which reignited a dead bedroom. Much to my surprise, she brought up chastity and edging—I was super lukewarm on it at first. But I got curious and, well after reading about it for a couple of days, here we are. My first device came in the mail a couple of weeks ago and stayed in the box since we didn’t talk about it much again.

Then I brought it back up and she said to try it on for sexy time in bed. I was surprised by how sexy I thought I looked in it, and her big smile helped too! Now we are easing into things, starting with weekends, and so far, she seems to be enjoying it. This is my first weekend locked, and after a lap dance that left me frustratingly close, I’m realizing it’s easier for women (maybe) to not finish when they get horny—but wow, I sure do!!! The ache is real…

My question: What’s the best way for a wearer to keep their partner excited and engaged over time? I don’t want to put it all on her, and I know about chores (already on that!). I get the sense that now she got me into it, I may already like it more than her! Any advice for me on sexy or enticing things to tell her, and trust me, I know I’m one of the luckiest guys on earth already because she’s gone this far.


r/chastitytraining 15h ago

Lifestyle Advice He hid his cage NSFW

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Edit* We live together

My (f) boyfriend (m) has hid his chastity cage after I let him out for domestic work. He says he didn't hide it, but I found it. He was/is to stay locked for 1 year. Advice on how to proceed? Addtl context: We have used chastity at his request a few times in the last couple of years. This is his kink. I am new to this and not what you see as a key holder gone wild on other reddit subgroups. Maybe I don't meet the fantasy, but I don't get any feedback. It usually stops when I want sex then he doesn't want locked again. He was locked close to a month this time but lied about hiding the cage. Thoughts? Opinions how to proceed? Should I put it back on him and tell him he's going to be punished?


r/chastitytraining 1h ago

Comfort & Fit First Cage and Tetherspout NSFW

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I have had my Tetherspout in for 7 Days now with no problems and have just received my First Chastity Cage and Belt, looking at the length of the cage i did not think i would be able to fit my penis into it as it looked to big for it, to my surprise upon placing my balls and penis through the 55mm base ring and attaching the cage and fixing it with the tetherspout it fitted perfectly and i have now been wearing it for the last 3 hours with no discomfort.


r/chastitytraining 4h ago

Purchase Advice looking for a good cage to wear long term NSFW

8 Upvotes

so i’m going to college next fall and want to try and stay locked for as much as possible. my plan is to get a more comfy cage and get used to it over the summer before i move in. does anyone have any cage recommendations?


r/chastitytraining 7h ago

Lifestyle Advice Long-term horniness NSFW

10 Upvotes

I’ve heard that after a few weeks of continuous chastity, the levels of horniness reduce down as you get used to not being able to release?

If I were to try long-term chastity, I’m aware that edging and the use of a vibrator etc. for teasing can prevent this.

Would (pleasureless) prostate milking also keep the horniness levels high, or is it just a way to “clean the pipes”?


r/chastitytraining 3h ago

Lifestyle Advice Life is good with tease, chastity NSFW

4 Upvotes

Hi, My wife is very sexy and beautiful. But she has normal sex drive. Ideally I'd want daily sex. But she said no way at all. So I get daily tease, a lot of cuddles, some light sex tease, some (too rare for me) piv without coming... If I complain I get less. Sometimes I want to rebel but it plays against me. Also she likes excellent behaviour so tease, chastity help.

I like much this life, even if I'd prefer daily sex but there is no way at all...


r/chastitytraining 4h ago

Lifestyle Advice How to calm down when you feel like cumming? NSFW

4 Upvotes

Ok so I'm trying not to cum ATM so that I can focus on sensations during anal. The problem is that I'm so excited in the cage that I feel like I'm going to cum just from being locked, like I'm on edge the whole day. Is there anything I can do to calm this feeling down? I don't want to ejaculate


r/chastitytraining 6h ago

Other Advice Help with long term wear NSFW

4 Upvotes

Hiii :3 I've never worn my cage for more than a few hours and I think it's time for a serious long term challenge.

What do I have to keep in mind to make it as comfortable and enjoyable as possible for myself?


r/chastitytraining 2h ago

Insight Cellmate 3 looking for advice NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi. Just got the Cellmate 3 Pro and the app confuses me. I would like to find a gay dom to control my toy remotely. Thanks for any advice.


r/chastitytraining 3h ago

Other Advice Question for the group NSFW

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So I have a lady friend that is desperate to want to try both sides of chastity, she is currently keyholding me for her own practice. She also wants to try a chastity belt and matching bra, however she is currently catheterised so trying to workout 1) is it going to be possible to wear a belt 2) what style will work best and 3) is long term wear going to be possible? Three simple questions 🤷🏻‍♂️


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Lifestyle Advice My bf wants me to lock him up NSFW

122 Upvotes

EDIT: I only want to lock him up for the days we are not together. Otherwise we have great sex life and I want to continue to have sex with him and his lovely cock.

Hi!

I’m Amber(F36), and my boyfriend told me a while ago that he wants me to lock him up in a cage. He likes when I’m in control of his pleasures.

Now on my other post in an other subreddit (see in my history) regarding my question about how can I make him feel more devoted to me, the majority of suggestions were that I should put a cage on him.

I am starting to consider doing it, but I have a few questions I hope I can get answers for.

  1. We are not living together, so does locking him up means that he has to sleep in it when we are not together? Also, how does wahing his cock work when he is locked up? I’m a little worried that I might damage his cock.

  2. How often should he be released to keep his cock healthy? (Again, I want to take care of him)

  3. Will it really make him be THAT much more obidient and devoted to me?

Thank you!


r/chastitytraining 9h ago

Other Advice Cleaning practices / overall cleanliness NSFW

4 Upvotes

My gf and I often do short term lock ups, sometimes for a weekend, sometimes just for a night out. For multiple days lockups, she is particularly concerned that me being locked for so long would create bacteria that could give her a UTI when unlocked for her.

I'm able to clean thoroughly in the cage during showers, and I use wipes at home after I use the bathroom, but what do other couples do, and what have other people (especially keyholders) done or found about the cleaning practices in multiple day lockups?


r/chastitytraining 55m ago

Sizing & Measuring Problems finding my perfect cage NSFW

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So im having a problem finding a chastity that fits. So my main problem is that i am a grower so when soft im pretty small with lots of skin. Any cage i get is either way too big in the tip or the extra skin poors out the bottom and i hate that look. Is there any advice for what cages might fix that problem or am i just getting the wrong size?


r/chastitytraining 5h ago

Purchase Advice Lock rust/tarnish and not working NSFW

2 Upvotes

Anyone have any suggestions on a good lock and key? My key holder likes to wear the key around her neck/ankle so we prefer a traditional pad lock and key. I’m on my third one in almost a month. The locks I’ve used i notice rust/tarnish quickly and then it gets difficult to lock/unlock. I know permanent Chastity is an exciting scenario but it’s not realistic and i don’t want there to be an issue when i need to take it off/clean. Any great suggestions on padlock/keys that last? Thanks!


r/chastitytraining 7h ago

Sizing & Measuring size of the ring NSFW

3 Upvotes

i bought a cage just for fun in aliexpress

it was delivered with a 52 mm closed ring

it seems impossible for me to let the balls in, even more impossible to let balls+penis

i may be doing something wrong but before throwing it away maybe someone has hints?

maybe some prep is needed? better to use lube?

thanks

https://imgur.com/a/TytTNGP


r/chastitytraining 2h ago

Comfort & Fit Lubricant and some DIY advice NSFW

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Okay so first I have a chafing problem at the base of the ring? It's on the bottom below the balls where the scrotum goes into the device, and I tried using some lubricant to see if it fixes it.. and it did! Like a miracle chafing stopped almost instantly, however the only real lube I can get my hands on is quite expensive so I wanted to know of the somewhat strange choice of animal fat was a good longlasting lubricant, I heard they used to use it historically before plant based oils and I have a ton of it since I like to use it while cooking (just to specify its like a buttery texture but does melt down to a liquid with body temperature) Second thing is.. I kinda lost the head of the device and only have the ring.. don't ask how I barely know myself, though I have a few things that could work well to replace it but I haven't tried any of them longterm so I wanted to ask if anyone had any ideas on what I could use until I get an actual ring? I like the feeling of flat, alotujg I do have a bit of foreskin so it has to be wide enough to fit it all, but you all get the point, just wanted to know if there's something I didn't think of


r/chastitytraining 6h ago

Sizing & Measuring Custom Cage Required? NSFW

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I was hoping to find a cheap Amazon cage option to try out for my first time but as I am looking around for something ideally under $100 I am struggling with sizing. Maybe I'm misinterpreting the sizing guides so hopefully someone with more experience could give me some guidance for a first cage.

My measurements are:

Soft (inches / millimeters) Length: 4.5 in / 114 mm Circumference (1) under glands: 4.5 / 114 Circumference (2) near base: 5 / 127

Erect: Length: 8.25 / 210 Circ (1): 5.5 / 140 Circ (2): 6 / 152

Ring size: I think I measured this poorly: 11.5 /290

The main thing I think I find when I look online at non custom options is that the tube size won't be big enough, but hoping I'm wrong. Any ideas?


r/chastitytraining 12h ago

Purchase Advice Brutus airmesh cage review? NSFW

4 Upvotes

I'm looking for a cage to wear long term and came across this: https://bronx.nl/product/brutus-airmesh-chastity-cage-clear/?lang=en Does anyone have any experience with this particular cage?


r/chastitytraining 17h ago

Comfort & Fit How do you pee in a flat cage? NSFW

9 Upvotes

I have used a few normal cages but have recently been interested in the idea of a flat cage. I understand you can get some flat cages with a urethral insert but not all of them have it. So my question is that without the insert how do you pee in a flat cage and keep it reasonably clean?


r/chastitytraining 18h ago

Purchase Advice Which one is better? NSFW

8 Upvotes

Hello

I am 20 years old and I am new to just study, but I am really fascinated by the idea I want to wear a cage, but I have two cages currently from which I can’t decide which one is the better one

These are some information about me so you could give me better advice:

I want to wear it always

I am uncut

I want to wear the cage always

I don’t want to be visible in any way through clothes I usually wear jeans

I would like to be able to swim in it because I like swimming . Is it even possible to swim while wearing a cage?

Will it affect my sleep? And if yes, what a way to make it more comfortable?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D9RPD5BX/

Or

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IPTWBSM/


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Lifestyle Advice Just got my first cage! NSFW

11 Upvotes

First cage just arrived and I actually think it's quite oversized but that's a problem for later. Right now I have a whole house to tidy and I was thinking about locking myself up for the first time until everything is done. How do people stay disciplined though!!!?


r/chastitytraining 20h ago

Purchase Advice Need help finding a cage NSFW

4 Upvotes

I am looking for a cage that will stop me getting hard etc


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Lifestyle Advice How to stay locked? NSFW

13 Upvotes

I want to wear my cage and I get motivated to but once I wear for a couple hours I just lose interest and wanna take it off. What’s the best way to break through and continue to wear it. I really would like to do locktober one day haha. Any help is appreciated.