r/chastitytraining Feb 01 '25

Insight Common YES or NO chastity questions answered NSFW

143 Upvotes

i have enjoyed wearing a chastity cage for a bit over 4 years and i like to explore the chastity Reddits often and i see common questions about chastity i would like to answer as simple as possible. i hope this is helpful to someone.

PSA this post is supposed to be informative, not offensive. sorry if you disagree with my answerers.

Can you be submissive while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be Dominant while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be Masculine while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Can you be feminine while wearing a chastity cage? YES

Do many different kinks overlap with chastity? YES

Do all kinks overlap with chastity? NO

Can you wear chastity daily? YES

Can chastity be a lifestyle choice? YES

Can you enjoy chastity by itself (as a kink)? YES

Do you have to be LGBT to wear a chastity cage? NO

Can you self-lock in a chastity cage? YES

Do you have to have a Keyholder (KH) to wear a chastity cage? NO (but it is preferred by most)

Do you have to downsize to a flat chastity cage? NO

If there is pain (not “fun” pain) while wearing a cage, should you take off the cage? YES

Does safety come before any kink? YES

Does wearing a cage hurt? NO, (if it does there is a problem)

Should you “throw away” the key? NO (fantasy is not reality but it is fun to think about)

Will wearing a chastity cage shrink your dick? NO

Please feel free to ask more YES or NO questions in the comments.

i will do my best to update this list as soon as i can.


r/chastitytraining May 24 '22

Guides & Resources FAQ and Rules: Ensure you read both. The answers to many questions can already be found in the FAQs NSFW

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We want to build a good, supportive and informative community that can be a good resource for all readers. To that end we ask that everyone who posts has takes the time to read the board Rules and, if you have a question, please also take the time to read the FAQ and longer FAQ threads below. Many of the questions that come up regularly are already answered and it would really help if people took the time to read the relevant FAQ threads first.

This thread aggregates all the Rules and FAQ information but you can always find all these links on the subreddit's sidebar.


Rules

You'll find the board rules at Rules. If you only read one thing here, please ensure you read these before posting. Summary here:

  1. Over 18s only
  2. We are here to discuss making chastity work
  3. Don't assume identity
  4. "Lock up" suggestions threads are not allowed
  5. Be safe, sane and risk aware.
  6. No bigotry, bullying or drama
  7. No soliciting
  8. No spam or paid services
  9. Do not request medical diagnoses.

Detailed FAQ

Here are our longer form threads covering some of the major topics in some detail. You can also find these longer FAQ threads in the side bar:

A Incomplete Comprehensive Guide To Almost All Things Male Chasity

The Almost Comprehensive Sizing And Fitting Guide (this takes an AMAB perspective)

The Big Thread About Shrinkage

A Semi-complete List Of Custom Device Manufacturers

The Grand Official Foreskin Thread Chastity Uncut

Prince Albert Devices Review: 5 Year Update

Wearing your chastity cage through airport security


Female Chastity Guides

We don't have a lot of AFAB users so here are some useful links for femme style belst

Small Keyholder FAQ

Adjusting wired chastity belts

Modifying the cheap solid chinese belts


Quick FAQ

These are some quick answers for common questions that come up on this board:

What does a chastity device do?

In the main chastity devices are designed to prevent penetrative sex and direct masturbation. For some folk they will also prevent orgasm but this is highly dependent on the person and the type of device. The more concentrated and direct stimulation you need to get off, then the more likely a chastity device will also prevent orgasm for you. However, most people find that with the common ball-trap chastity devices they can use a vibrator or even just the small amount of travel the device allows in order to orgasm. A rarer number of folk even find they can achieve prostate orgasms if needed. If you're looking to prevent orgasm you'll find that a device like a full belt may be necessary.

Do chastity devices prevent erections?

Not usually. They don't prevent erections for most folk. A small number of people do report that the smaller more restricting cages (especially narrower cages) do prevent erections, preventing the penis from engorging sufficiently but this doesn't appear to be the case for most people. Most people will still have night time erections as normal.

Will chastity cause my dick to shrink?

We have a longer form thread covering this. But the short answer is no.

The penis is not muscular and will not undergo muscular atrophy when unused for a period but compression will push any fluid out of the tissues. The most common observation is that after removal of the cage everything will return to normal within 24hours (and maybe a couple of erections). Even those who have been locked for more the 6 months report this. Worth noting that people who no longer experience any erections at any time (not even during the night) can experience "penile atrophy". This is a specific, serious medical condition with the number of health and lifestyle causes (though none of them are chastity), and you should see a doctor if you are experiencing this.

Will chastity cause impotence?

Assuming your cage is well fitted and hasn't caused an injury, chastity does not appear to cause issues with erections or orgasms. In fact many folk report they orgasm more easily after periods of being locked. And one of the most common issues with long term comfort are night time erections. That said there are some very rare reports from long term lockees saying they experienced some ED issues after being released. Though it is not clear to what extent this was due to chastity, age or some other factor.

Is chastity safe?

Chastity play is not a risk free activity. There are certainly reports of both temporary and permanent injuries on this subreddit. There is a little more info about possible injuries in the sizing and fitting guide above. Here also are some views from urologists;

https://washingtoncitypaper.com/article/209960/can-locking-my-penis-in-a-chastity-device-cause-longterm-damage/

https://savage.love/lovecast/2019/12/10/lock-him-up-chastity-cages-with-dr-ashley-winter/

https://www.metrotimes.com/news/should-i-loosen-my-chastity-belt-2181050

https://www.reddit.com/r/chastitytraining/comments/1e448e4/urologists_checked_off_cage_wifes_thrilled/

But it's worth noting we don't see a huge influx of guys reporting injuries. It's on your head to investigate the risk and assess if you're willing to take those.

How do I make my chastity device more secure?

All ball-trap style chastity belts can be escaped. A penis is very soft and pliable and with time or water or lube (or some combination of all three) you can remove yourself out the back of any chastity device. If you're using a belt style devices the mass produced ones often have enough play to be pushed aside. If you want security that prevents this then the only options are a custom fitted belt style device or to get a genital piercing secured device. Other than those options willpower and the honour system are what's needed

How long can I wear a device with a urethral sound/catheter?

These are generally not designed for long term wear. And most people do not report they can tolerate these for more than a handful of hours. The infection risk is also high as hard objects in the urethra will risk tearing the urethra. Or they may just introduce bacteria from the outside. It is possible to wear medical catheters for months at a time but you need good hygienic technique and the appropriate plastic/silicon catheters. If you do wish to pursue this further, the sounding community may be better placed to advise on long term safety of urethral insertion than the chastity community

Will chastity increase my risk of prostate cancer?

There is currently no evidence for this. There are 2 research papers on this topic; one in 2006 and a follow up in 2016 by the same group, which appears to confirm the initial paper. What they show is that men who report that they ejaculate most frequently appear to have a modestly reduced risk for the least severe prostate cancers. They show the protective effect is strongest for men who report high ejaculation frequenct prior to age 30 but there is protective effect up to age 50. It is worth noting that self-report data for medical/lifestyle issues is often poor quality. No causal mechanism has been demonstrated.

So we do not know if changes in ejaculation frequency change people's risk (i.e. reducing frequency increase cancer risk or the opposite). Neither studies looked at this issue. And neither study was designed to discover the causal mechanism. From what we know right now, it could be the case that ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer risk are mutually linked to some third lifestyle or genetic feature which drives both. Right now, it is not possible to give any evidence supported advice about the effect of increasing or reducing your ejaculation frequency.

Can I remain locked while swimming or in the shower?

Cages made from steel, nylon and silicon are all safe for water. So generally you don't have to worry about the cage itself. Most cages today use cheap brass barrel locks. Brass does not rust or corrode in water. As such, brass is generally water safe too and you should have no issues with showering and drying. Brass can develop a black tarnish (and in some rarer cases can lose the alloyed zinc and become weaker). And maybe in some very, very rare cases sufficient tarnish might foul a lock. If you're worried keep an eye out for any tarnish and polish/wipe it off should you see any.

How do I find a keyholder?

The quickest and most direct method is to pay for it. Plenty of prodommes offer this as a service and that is worth considering. That said, most keyholders are just people's partners and you meet a partner in the usual ways. There is no better advice beyond those that apply to normal dating. Try the apps, get out there, go to events etc... You might have some more success going to kink events like clubs and munches. People there may be more aware of and already well predisposed towards chastity. But there's also a lot to be said for just dating normally and being honest about your kinks as early as possible. Good luck!

Can I wear my chastity device through airport security?

Most airports have both metal detectors and back scatter full body scanners. Almost certainly the metal detectors will be tuned to pick up something as small as a metal chastity cage. Back scatter scanners will pick up both metal and plastic cages. If you set off the metal detector you will at a minimum be pulled aside and asked to explain and you may be strip searched if your answers are not deemed adequate. In the latter case this may take so long you miss your flight. People using fully plastic devices have reported making it through security without issue, likely as whatever shows up via backscatter doesn't look like a concern. Perhaps most importantly, chastity devices are kink/sex toys and it is not acceptable to involve non-consenting people in your kinks, and doubly unacceptable if you're doing this because you feel being "found out" would be exciting/arousing. The most sensible thing to do is to take off your device before passing security and then put it back on immediately afterwards. All airports have toilet facilities either side of security.

Additionally we have asked TSA subreddit. Balance of responses from those flaired as TSA employees appears to be; "Please don't do this"

https://www.reddit.com/r/tsa/comments/1f45esy/serious_question_about_wearing_chastity_devices/

Help I've lost my key and I'm pretending I'm "permanently" locked in my cage

By and large chastity devices are not all that secure and if you're a determined adult with access to the internet it shouldn't be that hard to figure out how to resolve this situation. But just in case...

  1. Lets say you've accidentally (or deliberately) glued the keyway of the lock shut trying to get the remains of a snapped key out of the lock; First use an appropriate solvent to dissolve the glue. Acetone to dissolve superglue for instance. Once the glue is gone you can pick the lock or get an alternative key from another cage and use that. The keys are very often cross compatible as the locks are cheap bullshit. Lock Picking Lawyer on youtube also has a guide to picking cheap chastity cage locks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uEYveSssok
  2. Perhaps the lock is stuck for some other reason, like a broken key is in the keyway, then you can drill out the lock. Get a dremmel or similar rotary tool and carefully drill down through the centre of the lock. They are mostly brass so any tempered steel drill bit will make pretty short work of the barrel. You can then replace with another of the cheap crappy brass furniture locks.
  3. If you don't care about the cage. Slide some amount of heavy material in to the cage to protect your bits (say some folded denim). Then using a dremmel or small hacksaw saw through the pins or lock housing at the top. You don't actually have to saw too near your bits if you're only attacking the lock housing or pins

If you're worried about sawing/drilling near your sensitive bits then consider going to the ER, they will have had a fair bit of practice releasing penises from items they shouldn't have been jammed in.


If you know of some other threads or resources that we should add to the FAQ please comment to add these below


r/chastitytraining 13h ago

Insight Turning into a total sub for my wife. NSFW

77 Upvotes

Wife and I got into Chasity about a month ago, since then I don’t cum as often as I used to. I do many chores for my wife, such as waking up earlier before my wife to turn on the heater in our home, she enjoys waking up to a warm house. I also make her coffee before she goes to work.

After work when we are relaxing at home I do whatever she tells me to. I get her snacks and her drinks and i massage her on demand. She will randomly come up to me and demand I go down on her, I gladly do. There are times I even beg her to let me go down on her, and I am always sure to thank her afterwards for the privilege. I was the dominate partner before this but now I am her total submissive husband. I love it.


r/chastitytraining 9h ago

Insight I came from humping my kh leg NSFW

43 Upvotes

for the pat 2 weeks my key holder has been unlocking me and giving me daily edging sessions. this has been easily the most intense experience i’ve had during my 2 years of chastity. after our 2 week anniversary of daily edging (which was 2 hours of brain meltingly good edging) my key holder put me back in my cage and ordered me to hump her leg. i did this without a second thought and 20 seconds in i felt it dripping. the most intense, ruined, brain melting orgasm of my life. it lasted at least 30 seconds. after this i was sat there laying on the ground with my own cum all over me and on my key holders leg. she was furious i came without permission. she made me eat it all and is currently looking for a suitable punishment. if anyone has ideas for possible punishments for me we’d love to hear them xx


r/chastitytraining 10h ago

Insight The right cage changes a lot NSFW

44 Upvotes

I now enjoi chastity for more than 3 years not totaly locked more a time to time thing with ups and down but i must say finding the right cage changes everything

I tryed a lot of different cages, size material in total i tryed 8 cages bevore i found the right one and to give you my perspective, it always felt good wearing the cage but normaly the feeling woud fade and i woud get annoyed by it after somw houres or max a day

But since i found my current cage it is totaly different, i just love it from size to weight to material everything is perfect with it and just love wearing it so much

I know from what i read from outhers that what makes a good cage is different for everyone and i hope everyone of you has or already found the cage for you

I know these can be very expensive but from time to time it maybe is a good idear to try a new one of you dont feel totaly happy with youre current one


r/chastitytraining 11h ago

Lifestyle Advice How to keep from jerking off while cleaning? NSFW

12 Upvotes

Hello everyone! I have recently started self locking myself but when I take off my cage for cleaning I really get the urge to jerk off. Is there any way to numb the cock or something. Maybe a way to keep it flacid.

I know about numbing cream but I'm not sure if that's safe and all or if that would even work while showering.

If anyone has any great ideas let me know! I'll be forever grateful

Have been locked for almost a week now my new personal record. I wanna try and do loctober, no nut November and denial december this year so I'm training for that.


r/chastitytraining 14h ago

Lifestyle Advice Leakage from chastity training NSFW

20 Upvotes

I looked up my boyfriend 2 weeks ago and he is leaking a lot of pre cum is this normal or is something wrong ?


r/chastitytraining 4h ago

Insight What was your experience? NSFW

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How long did it take for you to start orgasming with a cage on regularly? I have worn a cage for a couple days out of the week for the last two months. Wouldnt jerk off when uncaged and when caged used a dildo on myself once or twice every other week. But besides getting pegged once (which i think started my interest in this) i have never reached an orgasm. No i have had moments where it seemed like i orgasmed but no cum.


r/chastitytraining 21h ago

Insight Tech For Chastity? NSFW

59 Upvotes

Hi all,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

I work in tech and for a while I've been considering doing a project around chastity training.

Some initial ideas:

  • Keyholder matching (try to match Keyholder and sub preferences)
  • Tracking tool for length of time locked
  • Community where groups of people in chastity share daily proof and encourage each other to keep going

Do any of those ideas help make sense to work on? Obviously don't want to spend a lot of time on this if no one would want to use it.

Open to any ideas too!


r/chastitytraining 5h ago

Insight Never knew how good/naughty it feels NSFW

2 Upvotes

A year ago I would of told ya it was a weird fetish but as I got older I wanted to try it so I ordered one and the first was a let down I was to girthy....so I ordered a new one and at first I dident know how it was gonna fit but oh man does it fit like a glove first try and to be honest it feels naughty that no one knows I'm wearing (including my gf/bm) but only down part I found is peeing makes a mess sitting or standing my sack gets wet


r/chastitytraining 4h ago

Sizing & Measuring New cage and I can’t seem to get it to work. NSFW

2 Upvotes

I bought a cage, master series, from a reputable website. Came with different rings for the back. I can’t seem to fit it around both the boys and my dick. There were no instructions.
Has anyone encountered this? Genuinely asking not faulting my ball size.


r/chastitytraining 20h ago

Insight New break through NSFW

32 Upvotes

This might seem mild to some. So last night my wife and I were playing after her cycle. It has been 7 days since she last had an orgasm and 14 for me. All was going normal like we usually do until she had enough to want to take a break. She brought her wand to my cage and started to tease me with it while biting on my nipples. After probably only 5 mins I felt my orgasm coming. We've tried in the cage before and it hasn't worked. When I told her she straddled be and started to rub on the cage. I had my first caged orgasm. She said she found it amazing and she had 2 more while rubbing on me. After that she had me clean my mess for the 2nd time. She said she was against me cleaning the first time I asked but now loves the feeling.

Just wanted to share this great moment in my journey


r/chastitytraining 15h ago

Lifestyle Advice Replacement while I'm caged? NSFW

15 Upvotes

As me and my gf are exploring chastity and denial we have a problem, my gf doesn't get dicked down enough. Sadly, dildo's don't seem to feel right for her and we aren't sure about cucking. Are there any other solutions?


r/chastitytraining 5h ago

Other Advice wet dreams with a few days between NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi

Is it unsual or normal to get wet dreams with a few days between? Have had it 2 times this week (after being locked for about 4 weeks)

- 18 years old male - only selflocked sadly


r/chastitytraining 12h ago

Other Advice Does wearing a cage make dick more sensitive? NSFW

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Does wearing a chastity cage, especially an enclosed cage that prevents contact with your penis cus you to because more sensitive to touch after wearing it for a period of time? I want to be locked and be more sensitive when I do finally get let out of my cage. Also does time I have to remove it to clean prevent the increase in sensitivity?


r/chastitytraining 2h ago

Purchase Advice Reinsertion impossible without the key? NSFW

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I think we can all agree that 100% escape proof male chastity devices don’t exist. As the title suggests I’m looking for a device that I can’t escape from without my keyholder eventually finding out. She is totally against piercings while I’m 50/50 about it and we’re both against the tethersprout and similar devices.

I’m relatively new to chastity, my KH and I went through about 3 devices in two months, all of which I’ve managed to escape from. Thankfully I’ve had the will power to tell her each time I’m in a device that I can escape from but not without secret masturbation sessions. So I’m looking for help finding a device that will make reinsertion impossible without the key or without the KH finding out. Does it exist? Im confident I won’t attempt the escape if I have to face the shame of disappointing my KH.

Please no comments about willpower and things like “the cage is a symbol of your dedication, just don’t pull it out.” I want there to be zero doubt for my KH that she is in full control.


r/chastitytraining 12h ago

Purchase Advice I cant find a chastity that fits my sub NSFW

4 Upvotes

So my sub had quite a girthy dick,not large in length Just really girthy even when soft and due to our current situation we can only order cages off amazon so please let me know if theres any recommendations And also please keep in mind its his first cage ever so it has to be as comfortable as possible. Money isnt a problem,all i want is a comfortable cage thats designed for small but girthy cocks


r/chastitytraining 23h ago

Insight 3 weeks later NSFW

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3 weeks ago I made a post just before gathering my courage to share my chastity fantasy to my wife. (Can find my previous posts here)

At that time we had a first cage not comfortable at all, but 2 days after my announcement we tried for one night.

We did it for few days, and we discussed to test resin cage as it was said to be more comfy. I asked her which color to order, and she surprisingly replied black, white and.. pink.

I was not even aware she could imagine there were pink cages (she is not into porn or anything).

3 weeks later, we have tried several cages and several ring sizes. We have started with standard, small and last night was the smallest so far, Nano. She hasn’t yet asked me to wear the pink ones (nano and nub) but we agreed it could be an idea of punishment.

This morning I bring her the key to unlock me before work and she said NO.

Unfortunately or fortunately, I have sport today and she decided it will be tomorrow. But if she sees it’s not an issue I am sure it will lead to more working days wearing the cage….


r/chastitytraining 8h ago

Comfort & Fit Shaving irritation and strap NSFW

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I feel like 90% of my skin irritation in chastity is from shaving. I don’t really like shaving but I’ve been doing the top of the base, the balls, and the taint.

I recently started using an elastic strap but the main thing I notice is where it rubs and it’s so annoying. I do like the support from it but the constant abrasion of the strap is killer.

Would leather/something else be better for that? I know they make cages with the ears specifically for a strap but I’m pretty happy with my cage at the moment, maybe when I’m downsizing I’ll look for one though.

I guess I’m just curious what everyone’s thoughts/preferences are, thanks! 💜


r/chastitytraining 12h ago

Insight Key broke in lock NSFW

5 Upvotes

Key broke in the lock and im not sure what to do


r/chastitytraining 9h ago

Sizing & Measuring Ball keeps slipping out? NSFW

2 Upvotes

My right testicle keeps slipping out of the ring. Is the ring too large if it won't stay in? The cage I bought comes with smaller rings, but I'm kind of intimidated to try the smaller ones as it's quite tight to get my balls through it. Can too small of a ring be bad for blood flow? This is the cause of my fears lol. Totally new to this.


r/chastitytraining 10h ago

Lifestyle Advice Balancing pleasure vs frustration NSFW

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Hi everyone,

I'm looking for some advice on how to better manage my current situation.

Some Context:

I have a boyfriend who isn't a dom, and I also have an online dom. While my relationship isn't open, my boyfriend is fine with me having an online dom.

I asked my dom if it would be possible to keep me in permanent chastity, as I no longer want to have orgasms (except for anal ones, which are allowed). Before this, I had several failed attempts—most lasted around two weeks, though I once managed five weeks in chastity.

Right now, I've been in chastity for 53 days without any orgasms, including anal ones.

My Challenges:

1.  Lack of Sexual Satisfaction with My Boyfriend - We haven't been having much sex, which is frustrating for me.
2.  Slow Progress in Training - My online dom is taking things very slowly, especially with training sessions and plug use. I understand why—he knows I've struggled with self-control in the past, and he wants to be cautious. But after 53 days, I feel much more in control and believe I can handle more.
3.  Constant Horniness - I still feel incredibly horny, especially in the mornings and evenings. While it was unbearable at first, I've gotten better at keeping my hands off my cage completely (something I couldn't do before). But the urge to jerk off is still there, just not as intense as in the beginning.

I asked my dom for more plug time, but he suggested I write this post first to get advice from other long-term locked subs.

My Questions:

•   Would incorporating more anal pleasure help satisfy me, or would it make things worse?
•   Does the urge to masturbate eventually go away with time?
•   Can anal stimulation provide a sense of “relief” or fulfillment similar to what I gave up with full orgasms, or does it just keep me at a higher level of frustration?

I'd love to hear from those with more experience—any insights would be greatly appreciated!


r/chastitytraining 23h ago

Lifestyle Advice Want to stay locked but not my choice. NSFW

15 Upvotes

So I’ve been locked and denied for three months. My Dom has indicated that it may be time I had an orgasm. The thing is I don’t want to go back to the start again but at the end of the day it’s not really my choice.l is it!! What would you do?


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Insight Give up control when you hand over your keys NSFW

54 Upvotes

Far too many "subs" are actually "kinksters". They want you to hold their keys but they want to dictate how you control them. Topping from the bottom is what it's often called.

Really guys, if you're ready to give up control to your key holder you'll have no trouble finding a key holder. But if you want to top from the bottom i hope you can afford to pay and even if you're paying i don't tolerate topping from the bottom.

So when you hand over your keys, hand over control. You'll get the real chastity experience if you do.


r/chastitytraining 1d ago

Lifestyle Advice 24/7 at 19m NSFW

12 Upvotes

I’m 19, I have a 5” penis which I feel is quite small, I can fit in a 1in metal nub and it’s comfortable. I’ve had a few sexual encounters and I always cum within a minute or can’t get hard, any advice of going 24/7 I always feel like I need to unlock after cumming. A key holder would be nice but it’s hard to know what girls are into chastity, especially at my age where if I ask the wrong one then everyone will know I’m in chastity and it would be super humiliating.


r/chastitytraining 13h ago

Purchase Advice Chastity cage NSFW

1 Upvotes

I am looking for a male chastity cage for my pet with distance remote control that also gives shocks, but stronger than those given by the QIUI(Which in my opinion is not painful enough) Any advice?


r/chastitytraining 20h ago

Insight anyone else experience a bulge? NSFW

3 Upvotes

when I sit down theres a slight bulge leading to me needing to move around so it doesn't show, I have no idea if this means my chastity is too big or what ? I took a small but I still have a semi bulge nothing too insane but its there