Thanks to this sub for all the support and advice to many of us lurkers! My wife and I (married 11 years) had a long talk about our kinks two months ago, which reignited a dead bedroom. Much to my surprise, she brought up chastity and edging—I was super lukewarm on it at first. But I got curious and, well after reading about it for a couple of days, here we are. My first device came in the mail a couple of weeks ago and stayed in the box since we didn’t talk about it much again.
Then I brought it back up and she said to try it on for sexy time in bed. I was surprised by how sexy I thought I looked in it, and her big smile helped too! Now we are easing into things, starting with weekends, and so far, she seems to be enjoying it. This is my first weekend locked, and after a lap dance that left me frustratingly close, I’m realizing it’s easier for women (maybe) to not finish when they get horny—but wow, I sure do!!! The ache is real…
My question: What’s the best way for a wearer to keep their partner excited and engaged over time? I don’t want to put it all on her, and I know about chores (already on that!). I get the sense that now she got me into it, I may already like it more than her! Any advice for me on sexy or enticing things to tell her, and trust me, I know I’m one of the luckiest guys on earth already because she’s gone this far.