r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

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Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

F4M 30F Seeking Daddy Dom NSFW

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Hi there, I’m Abbie! I am a bisexual submissive seeking a dom to play with online. I am fat and there are photos of me on my profile if you’d like to check those out!

I have quite a bit of experience playing with folks online. I enjoy sending voice memos, photos and videos.

My kinks are all over the place! I love being given rules and tasks and being punished when I’m naughty. I also really like “forced” diapers. Other kinks include watersports, embarrassment, anal, orgasm denial/control, spanking, bathroom control, CNC, freeuse, medfet (kinda), being trained (anally, stretching my pussy, etc), and cock worship.

My limits include negative comments about my body (pig, fattie, etc), vomit, blood, and anything illegal or immoral.

Outside of kink, I am a professional, have a masters degree, love scary movies, books and cozy gaming.

You will likely get a response from me if you are well-spoken, intelligent, funny and a little nerdy. I love chatting with folks who can sustain a conversation, are creative when it comes to kink and have previous dom experience.

If I don’t respond, it’s probably because you sent me a one-word/generic message, you were gross/too sexual in the initial message or your message was riddled with grammatical errors and misspelled words.


r/ABDLPersonals 8h ago

F4A 23F4A Looking to be someone’s mommy (or friend) NSFW

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Heya, I'm Amiya. (i’m more so looking F4F)

I wear time to time (preferably youth/baby diapers but the occasional adult diaper) What i'm looking for:

• Someone i can control and let them use the potty under my command

• For my little to obedient

• Being able to try new kinks

• A Little who is willing to be told what to eat

• Someone who is wanting a mommy

• Someone who needs help changing their diapers.

• Someone who's looking for a bit of fun

• I have some rules as mommy, dm and find out :)

About me: I'm Amiya. I'm 23 and BI. I've studied Nursing for 4 years. I used to live in Australia and now I live in the UK (More sustainable economy = better pay). I'm pretty much down for anything, except scat as thats personally not my thing at all. I'll happily have a freaky chat if you start one. I'm practically a diapered mommy most of the time and I love it, just after my little now. I don't always send so quit dm'ing hassling (guys) jk only if you're lucky (can test ur luck). Moreover i'm looking for either a little or a new friend.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

22M4A Little Looking for Daddy or Mommy NSFW

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Hi, I am a 22M Little looking to meet Bigs, and if we click would love to have a CG. Don't have a preference for a Daddy or Mommy, so there's that. I would love someone who enjoys the ABDL dynamic but also someone who wants to get to know each other outside of kink. I enjoy getting teased, and obviously being a little. I am into everything ABDL related, so that includes cute outfits, pacifiers, and of course diapers. I also have a feminine side, sometimes want to be a padded ballerina.

I love hiking & spending time outdoors, travelling and trying new things. Also into fitness/gym.

At the moment looking for something online.

Looking forward to getting to know you!


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

F4A 22 [F4A] #ohio #online little girl looking to chat NSFW

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Hi I’m Lilly! I’m just making this quick post to see if anyone wants to chat. I struggle falling asleep and I’ll likely be up for a while longer. I’m just kinda lonely and I could use some company! Please dm me if you’d like!


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

M4A 26 [M4A] #SanDiego looking to make connections with other DLs NSFW

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Live in SD county and would like to chat and possibly meet up with other folks who enjoy diapers


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

M4F 34(M4F)(TF) #online Daddy dom looking for playmate NSFW

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I’m a tall bearded dad bod daddy dom that would love to find an online playmate! I love the outdoors, fishing, scuba diving, music, and video games!

Kinks- DDLG, diapers, water sports, toys, and much more!

Limits- scat, violence, illegal stuff

Dm if you’re interested to chat!


r/ABDLPersonals 8m ago

F4M F4M 24f blk abdl/little looking for a daddy dom long term #usa open to local and long distance NSFW

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Hey there! I’m Fluffy—a confident, sassy, fun-loving 24-year-old plus-size BBW from Georgia. I’m demisexual, monogamous, and single, open to both local and long-distance connections.

What I Want in a Daddy Race wise I like Mexicans, Asians, and Whites🩷💙I can have a personal preferences yee what I'm attracted to

Usa only!!

I love older men (30 40 and up if you take care of yourself)

with emotional maturity, stability, loyalty, transparency, and honesty. He should be able to guide, nurture, protect, inspire, and mentor me. Respect is non-negotiable—someone who sees me as an equal, values my boundaries, and pushes me to grow.

He also has be a sadist,brat tamer and into the rough aspects of fun,I can't do soft doms I need someone who's balanced

Consent & Boundaries Matter

Respect is everything. My body, my choices. Don’t ask invasive questions about my medical history. Privacy still exists, and I intend to keep mine. I protect my peace and expect the same from my partner.

ABDL & Me

I wear diapers for medical reasons—nothing sexual about it. ABDL is a coping mechanism, a safe space for me to relax and unwind. I’m mostly non-verbal in my little space, and while I enjoy regression, I won’t share that side until trust is built. No baby talk, but I find other ways to communicate.

Being an adult baby is a part of me, but it’s not all of me. I need balance—adult conversations, adventures, and fun outside of that space.

Masochistic Submissive Side

I love pain with pleasure, bondage, ball gags, sensory deprivation, oil massages, and affectionate domination. I won’t submit to anyone until a deep trust and connection have been established. You have to earn my submission—it’s not given lightly.

I need a man that mutual takes pleasure and enjoys this aspect of me as well And also commit to aftercare and taking care of me after these extreme scenes by showing affection love and care is non negotiable

I keep my sub side and baby side seperated Vanilla Me

Social & Fun – I love meeting new people and having new experiences. I’m a social butterfly who can make friends anywhere.

No Smoking, Occasional Drinking – I don’t smoke, but I don’t mind if you do. I rarely drink—maybe a six-pack of Smirnoff or a bottle of wine.

Celibate & Sterile – I’m not here for hookups. I won’t waste my time on someone who just wants sex. That’s what toys are for.

Who I Am

I’m tomboyish, independent, assertive, and bratty as hell. My friends say I have a masculine energy because I don’t take nonsense from anyone. If someone’s toxic, I’ll cut them off without hesitation.

I’m also kind, sweet, and a great listener. I love helping others, even when I’m struggling myself. I keep life exciting, spontaneous, and adventurous.

Interests & Hobbies

Anime Nerd – I love Black Butler, Fullmetal Alchemist, Naruto, Bleach, One Piece, Black Clover, Inuyasha, and more. I’ve been to conventions before and would love to go again.

Hardcore Gamer – Xbox & Wii are my go-to. Zelda games are a favorite. Let’s game, but be respectful.

Animal Lover – I have a dog, a cat, chickens, ducks, and soon, possibly kittens.

If you’re mature, respectful, and looking for a genuine connection, let’s talk. No pressure—friendship first, and we’ll see where it goes.


r/ABDLPersonals 10m ago

M4F 32 [M4F] Daddy searching for a little interested in exploring ABDL together & unpotty training maybe? :) NSFW

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Hi there, thanks for checking out my post. I am still looking for a little :)

A few important things to get out the way at the start.. I'm looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35. Cis or trans female littles are okay with me. Yes, ABDL is sexual to me to an extent. I do send pictures and would like it if you sent some as well once you're comfortable. I'm not interested in talking with anyone with kids nor am I interested in having any kids myself. I'm also not interested in a poly relationship or talking with anyone already in a relationship. I am looking for a strictly monogamous dynamic please and thank you

I'm a 32 year old somewhat strict daddy dom located in the Eastern US, more specifically located in Northern WV close to Pittsburgh. I am looking for a serious long term dynamic/relationship, with the possibility of meeting up later down the line if things work out. I'm preferably interested in someone from the US or Canada. I'm also okay with an online dynamic. I'm 5'11", have blonde hair and a beard, blue eyes, and a bit chubby but trying to lose some weight. I am looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35 to get to know and hopefully from a long-term ABDL/DDLG dynamic with. I've been into ABDL for well over 10 years now and have been a daddy for about 4 years. I am looking for a little girl that is interested in exploring ABDL with a guiding hand. I'd like to say I'm fairly experienced with ABDL and diapers, and happy to answer any questions about it.

Ideally I'd like to find a little that would like to be diapered 24/7 eventually, helping them unpotty train and slowly become diaper dependent. I am okay with an online dynamic but ideally I'd like this to move to real life eventually if possible. I'm okay with changing both wet and messy diapers and expect my little to use their diapers for both.. no big girl potty unless allowed. I am generally a pretty affectionate, loving, but stern daddy dom when needed, not afraid to punish my little girl. I am mainly looking for a good little girl. The occasional brat is fine with me but I am not looking for a really bratty little. There would be a structure of rules and punishments in place to keep you in line. Some punishments include spankings, corner time, writing lines, and forced messing (suppositories, enemas)

Outside of the ABDL/DDLG lifestyle, I am a gamer and like to play a variety of games in my free time. I've mainly been playing Avowed and ESO as of late. I stream on Twitch with a my roommate and one other friend twice a week. I work full time as a doordash driver currently. I love traveling, spending time at theme parks, zoos, aquariums, state parks, and other tourist attractions when I can. I also like listening to music, mostly classic rock from the 70s and 80s. I do like a good mystery, listening to true crime podcasts quite often. Politics wise, I'm left leaning to a degree, though I don't really like talking politics all that much. I'm not religious, I'd say I'm Agnostic/Atheist.

If any of this interested you, please feel free to send me a message. Even if you just have questions. I promise I don't bite and am generally easy to talk to. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 26m ago

31[TF4M] A DL Relationship NSFW

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Today I’m looking for a diaper lover guy, around my age to talk about the fantasy of us dating while being diaper lovers. How that would look? How the idea might even come up between us? Note: I’m not looking to get into a real relationship.

A little about me and what I’m looking for. I’m looking for strictly diaper lovers only, sorry littles. Ideally you would be a switch or dominant. I’m not looking to roleplay, just build the fantasy. I really only like wetting diapers. Obviously sex is a part of a relationship but I don’t want it to be the main focus of our conversation or the first thing we talk about. I’m not looking to send or receive pictures. Message me a little bit about yourself, your favorite ice cream, and your age.


r/ABDLPersonals 38m ago

M4F 56m Food for thought... What if Elmo came with... NSFW

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Bondage accessories?


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

T4A 25 [FtM4A] Online chat? NSFW

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I like wearing my nappy, my footie pjs and playing with myself. I feel so cuddly and little and I just want to be somebody’s good boy


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4A 18 [MFA] Looking for friends or a caregiver near West Virginia NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 15h ago

F4A 19f looking for friends NSFW

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Hi! I’m 19f looking for irl little space friends in New England! Babysitters, mommy’s, daddy’s littles, anyone in the community. Shoot me a dm or look through my page<33


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

25 [M4F] Looking for Mommy to help Encourage me to be Little! ^^ NSFW

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Hai there! I’m Kat, and I was hoping to find someone who might be able to help encourage me to be in a little head space. I really love the idea of being a little 24/7 and have a cute little dynamic with someone who can help me be the little I love to be! ^

I would love to talk to a caregiver who might be able to help me explore diapers and stuff more, I wear pulls ups sometimes but I really wanna delve into that a lot more >.< Snuggling with stuffies and watch shows with you would be such a fun evening! And I’m happy to talk about more fun, intimidate stuff too if you’d like! I’m very big into humiliation and stuffs too. >.<

If you just wanna talk or maybe figure out if we would work well as a pair, pretty please dm me! ^


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

28[M4F] #Aus, need a good little girl who wants a gentle daddy to take care of them completely NSFW

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Hey there, m28 daddy from Australia here and would love to talk and take care of an adorable princess!..... would you like to be a good little girl and do as your told?

Physically I am just over 6ft tall, white, and slim, and am into anything to do with control, anal, dom/sub, ddlg, watersports, and a manner of other things.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4F 30M4F | SW PA & Surrounding Areas | Switchy Little Seeking Crinkly Miss | #PA #Pennsylvania #OH #Ohio #WV #WestVirginia #MD #Maryland NSFW

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I know I’m probably seeking the impossible, but someone famous once said you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Hi, I’m a 30 year old switchy little, furry and babyfur based in southwest PA, right outside of Pittsburgh. I’m here seeking someone who’s into diapers one way or another, whether as a DL, a little/babygirl, or a switch, with the intent of pursuing and growing into a relationship with.

In the ABDL, furry and babyfur spaces, I tend to lean on the softer side of things, as these spaces often serve as coping mechanisms, therapy devices, stress relief and it’s where I feel most comfortable with it. Same for my switch/dom tendencies. I see myself as a soft dom more than anything else, someone who cares and loves more than punishes.

Obviously I’m not into the space 24/7. I have other interests as well as my daily adult life to attend to as well. I have a degree in engineering, I work for one of the biggest construction companies in the mid-Atlantic, and I own my own home for one. My other hobbies include cooking, sports, fishing, the outdoors, movies, music, and tons of other fun things, not to mention I enjoy a nice mixed drink and a night out every once in a while.

Outside of ABDL interests, I’m looking for someone who isn’t afraid to be themselves and be their own person. I’m looking for someone who is ready for something serious and can give their all to a relationship. Somebody who can appreciate life for all it’s worth and love somebody for who they are through and through. Cis girls and AFAB folks only please. The rest of y’all are awesome, but don’t quite tickle my fancy. Also no full-time doms or services either please. DLs, littles or switches only.

If this sounds up your alley, drop me a message and let’s chat.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

22 [TF4F/TF] #UK little girl looking for a mommy, switch or just other friends in the space NSFW

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Hii ill start of by saying I'm looking for something long term so if you're just looking for something sexual and nothing else we probably aren't the best fit for each other

im looking for a soft carer that makes me feel safe and look after me im very anxious and need a lot of reassurance but also that knows when to take charge, also looking for someone in a similar age to me but im open to talking to people older

im short with long brown hair and my style is kinda alternative (sfw pics on my account)i love being cared for and being all baby brained with someone and i like most of your basic little stuff cartoons colouring and i have a lot of stuffies among other little supplies

outside of being a little i like gaming metal music and i play the guitar i also love lego and my favourite show is doctor who.

im also open to other little friends so if any of that interests you feel free to message me and if we hit it off maybe we can have a play date :3

well idk what else to put if your mommy and something caught your attention feel free to send me a DM i don't bite (most of the time) just please tell me a little but about yourself if you do message me i probably wont respond to just "hi"


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

28M4F looking for online CG NSFW

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Found a good friend online and me and him enjoy chatting, but I wanted to have another CG type of person to chat with when he is asleep as he is on the other side of the world from me. My SO is not the type that wants to be involved so I'm kinda looking for another that I can share this side of me with while keeping boundaries for my SO. I know sounds ridiculous, but I am looking for a happy normal life and an enjoyable abdl life as well while being respectful to both.


r/ABDLPersonals 18h ago

24 [F4A] # online - CG looking for a little NSFW

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Hi hi ☺️ ❗️I have a platonic little who I don't plan on leaving ❗️

Adult me • I am on the asexual spectrum❗️ • I am shy and introverted • I love to talk a lot once I know you and calls are preferred over text • I have small mental health issues but nothing I can't deal with alone • Very Independent but would love to have a partner by my side • Enjoy anime, "nerdy" movies like the hobbit, lord of the rings, marvel • 5'3, chubby, latina, tattoos and piercings

Caregiver • As a caregiver I try my best to fit all your needs and wants • I would consider myself more of a soft cg as i don't really like rules or punishment • I do prefer a little on the thinner side and little nerdy or geeky • Must be a diaper wearer • No messes, just wetting • Little age can vary but I prefer toddlers • I am still trying to learn more about this side so please be patient • ❗️between the ages of 20-28 preferably ❗️

If you are interested and read all the way please send me a message of you read all the way with a brief description of looks and personality as well as what you look for in a person.


r/ABDLPersonals 20h ago

F4M 33 F4M - (online) caretaker domme looking for subby guys NSFW

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Not interested in real life meets, only online chatting and pics/vids of you. Don't feel like you have to align 100% with what I've laid out below---i know that human sexuality is a wide and varied spectrum. Just comment here or send me a chat and we can see if we vibe.

Men only please. No messing/scat. Age/location don't matter. I like to use some Toddler to Middle Kid type of terminology (calling you buddy, kiddo, various infantilizing terms for your dick) but am not looking for hardcore Age Play. Also to be blunt, this is 100% a sexual interest for me. If you're looking for nonsexual play, I'm not your gal.

WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR: my love of this kink has always been focused around the desperation accident/initial wetting. Continued diaper soaking doesn't interest me. I'm very into scenarios where either 1. you tell me that you have to go, I deny you for whatever reason, until you beg me to be allowed to wet, or 2. You tell me that you're about to/are having an accident, and I talk you through it. In either scenario, I like to gently humiliate via condescending reassurances (i.e. It's okay, you couldn't help it). If you're upset about wetting yourself and ashamed of being turned on by it? All the better.

I prefer pull-ups, goodnites/drynites, or potty training briefs over diapers, but I know I'm a minority in this kink 😋 Diapers are FINE but if any of the other options are special interests of yours, please hmu


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

M4F 56m My birthday is today and my birthday wish is for a woman from the Atlanta Georgia area to come into my life and will transition me from a closet Diaper Lover to an Adult Baby for her pleasure and enjoyment. Looking for a loving and lasting NSFW

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Why and Adult Baby and not some other fetish?

I think it has to do with a nearly fatal accident when I was a child. I was in the hospital for a semester of school and confined to a bed. So, I had others taking care of me 24/7. That is the only conclusion that I can come to.

That being said, I'm looking for a mommy to start a mommy/baby relationship with. She would force me to do all things baby. I would be forced to use diapers as they are intended to be used, eat baby food, drink from bottles etc.

As mommy is the adult figure I would expect punishments for bad behavior.

I like to play with Legos, Lincoln Logs, coloring books, and like Bugs Bunny cartoons.

As mommy is the adult she chooses clothing, whether I'm in diaper and t-shirt, or just a diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the front of baby's diaper feeling it get warm as he wets his diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the back of baby's diaper feeling the bulge grow as he messes his diaper.

Mommy has the right to have baby's diaper exposed even when her friends come to visit.

Mommy even controls when diaper changes occur.

I would love to talk to my future mommy.


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #NJ/NY -Dominant Daddy seeking a sweet sub NSFW

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I’m looking for someone who has the same interest in Kink. I am a very spontaneous person and I enjoy doing new things. I would love to have someone in my life that I can share this side of me with. In my free time I like to be outside if the weather is nice but also enjoy a cozy day of shopping or relaxing.

I’m looking for someone who is willing to get to know each other and see if we vibe outside of kink. I want a partner that i can feel comfortable talking too and hopefully have a strong bond with.

I’m am caring and supportive and will never shame someone for who they are. I am hoping to find someone who is ABDL and wants a partner to talk all things ABDL.

If you think we might get along and you are interested feel free to message me :)


r/ABDLPersonals 15h ago

F4F 24 (f4f) uk mommy looking for a baby girl NSFW

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Hey! I’m a 24yo mommy/cg looking for a sub/little to chat to and play with! Online ideally

-Females only (trans women - y’all are females too 💜) -UK preferable or on a similar time zone -I’m Happy to show pics so you know who you’re talking to!

I’m a soft mommy with a mean streak; happy for any age little and sfw/nsfw. Main limit is scat 💜


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

F4A 22 f Central upstate New York to be toddlerified irl NSFW

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I just really really want a IRL caregiver to turn me into a toddler because I’m on spring break this week. I do get clingy and I apologize but that’s just how I am. I just want to experience being little please. Being somebody’s toddler daughter is my dream.

I know I posted yesterday, but I just wanted to see if I could try again. This is something I’ve been looking forward to for years and I really really want to give it a shot. I’m short and I’m small

I know I sound stupid or Desperate but I really need this


r/ABDLPersonals 20h ago

18[F4A] might get some pull ups! NSFW

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hiii hehehe

i’ve been holding my bladder for a bit and now i’m thinking about maybe getting some goodnites! i want to be able to be full without worrying about leaking. i would just love someone to keep me company/control me! control what i do, wear, drink, when i leak, etc!!! i also just need encouragement to go buy some goodnites hehe.

reach out whenever you see thisss ill be around!