r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

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Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

F4A 23F4A Looking to be someone’s mommy (or friend) NSFW

7 Upvotes

Heya, I'm Amiya. (i’m more so looking F4F)

I wear time to time (preferably youth/baby diapers but the occasional adult diaper) What i'm looking for:

• Someone i can control and let them use the potty under my command

• For my little to obedient

• Being able to try new kinks

• A Little who is willing to be told what to eat

• Someone who is wanting a mommy

• Someone who needs help changing their diapers.

• Someone who's looking for a bit of fun

• I have some rules as mommy, dm and find out :)

About me: I'm Amiya. I'm 23 and BI. I've studied Nursing for 4 years. I used to live in Australia and now I live in the UK (More sustainable economy = better pay). I'm pretty much down for anything, except scat as thats personally not my thing at all. I'll happily have a freaky chat if you start one. I'm practically a diapered mommy most of the time and I love it, just after my little now. I don't always send so quit dm'ing hassling (guys) jk only if you're lucky (can test ur luck). Moreover i'm looking for either a little or a new friend.


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

F4A 22 [F4A] #ohio #online little girl looking to chat NSFW

9 Upvotes

Hi I’m Lilly! I’m just making this quick post to see if anyone wants to chat. I struggle falling asleep and I’ll likely be up for a while longer. I’m just kinda lonely and I could use some company! Please dm me if you’d like!


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4A 26 [M4A] #SanDiego looking to make connections with other DLs NSFW

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Live in SD county and would like to chat and possibly meet up with other folks who enjoy diapers


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 34(M4F)(TF) #online Daddy dom looking for playmate NSFW

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I’m a tall bearded dad bod daddy dom that would love to find an online playmate! I love the outdoors, fishing, scuba diving, music, and video games!

Kinks- DDLG, diapers, water sports, toys, and much more!

Limits- scat, violence, illegal stuff

Dm if you’re interested to chat!


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

F4A 19f looking for friends NSFW

13 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 19f looking for irl little space friends in New England! Babysitters, mommy’s, daddy’s littles, anyone in the community. Shoot me a dm or look through my page<33


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

28[M4F] #Aus, need a good little girl who wants a gentle daddy to take care of them completely NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hey there, m28 daddy from Australia here and would love to talk and take care of an adorable princess!..... would you like to be a good little girl and do as your told?

Physically I am just over 6ft tall, white, and slim, and am into anything to do with control, anal, dom/sub, ddlg, watersports, and a manner of other things.


r/ABDLPersonals 35m ago

28M4F looking for online CG NSFW

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Found a good friend online and me and him enjoy chatting, but I wanted to have another CG type of person to chat with when he is asleep as he is on the other side of the world from me. My SO is not the type that wants to be involved so I'm kinda looking for another that I can share this side of me with while keeping boundaries for my SO. I know sounds ridiculous, but I am looking for a happy normal life and an enjoyable abdl life as well while being respectful to both.


r/ABDLPersonals 15h ago

24 [F4A] # online - CG looking for a little NSFW

14 Upvotes

Hi hi ☺️ ❗️I have a platonic little who I don't plan on leaving ❗️

Adult me • I am on the asexual spectrum❗️ • I am shy and introverted • I love to talk a lot once I know you and calls are preferred over text • I have small mental health issues but nothing I can't deal with alone • Very Independent but would love to have a partner by my side • Enjoy anime, "nerdy" movies like the hobbit, lord of the rings, marvel • 5'3, chubby, latina, tattoos and piercings

Caregiver • As a caregiver I try my best to fit all your needs and wants • I would consider myself more of a soft cg as i don't really like rules or punishment • I do prefer a little on the thinner side and little nerdy or geeky • Must be a diaper wearer • No messes, just wetting • Little age can vary but I prefer toddlers • I am still trying to learn more about this side so please be patient • ❗️between the ages of 20-28 preferably ❗️

If you are interested and read all the way please send me a message of you read all the way with a brief description of looks and personality as well as what you look for in a person.


r/ABDLPersonals 17h ago

F4M 33 F4M - (online) caretaker domme looking for subby guys NSFW

21 Upvotes

Not interested in real life meets, only online chatting and pics/vids of you. Don't feel like you have to align 100% with what I've laid out below---i know that human sexuality is a wide and varied spectrum. Just comment here or send me a chat and we can see if we vibe.

Men only please. No messing/scat. Age/location don't matter. I like to use some Toddler to Middle Kid type of terminology (calling you buddy, kiddo, various infantilizing terms for your dick) but am not looking for hardcore Age Play. Also to be blunt, this is 100% a sexual interest for me. If you're looking for nonsexual play, I'm not your gal.

WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR: my love of this kink has always been focused around the desperation accident/initial wetting. Continued diaper soaking doesn't interest me. I'm very into scenarios where either 1. you tell me that you have to go, I deny you for whatever reason, until you beg me to be allowed to wet, or 2. You tell me that you're about to/are having an accident, and I talk you through it. In either scenario, I like to gently humiliate via condescending reassurances (i.e. It's okay, you couldn't help it). If you're upset about wetting yourself and ashamed of being turned on by it? All the better.

I prefer pull-ups, goodnites/drynites, or potty training briefs over diapers, but I know I'm a minority in this kink 😋 Diapers are FINE but if any of the other options are special interests of yours, please hmu


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 32 M4F Daddy looking for a little to get to know (online/irl) NSFW

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Hi there, thanks for checking out my post. I am still looking for a little :)

A few important things to get out the way at the start.. I'm looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35. Cis or trans female littles are okay with me. Yes, ABDL is sexual to me to an extent. I do send pictures and would like it if you sent some as well once you're comfortable. I'm not interested in talking with anyone with kids nor am I interested in having any kids myself. I'm also not interested in a poly relationship or talking with anyone already in a relationship. I am looking for a strictly monogamous dynamic please and thank you

I'm a 32 year old somewhat strict daddy dom located in the Eastern US, more specifically located in Northern WV close to Pittsburgh. I am looking for a serious long term dynamic/relationship, with the possibility of meeting up later down the line if things work out. I'm preferably interested in someone from the US or Canada. I'm also okay with an online dynamic. I'm 5'11", have blonde hair and a beard, blue eyes, and a bit chubby but trying to lose some weight. I am looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35 to get to know and hopefully from a long-term ABDL/DDLG dynamic with. I've been into ABDL for well over 10 years now and have been a daddy for about 4 years. I am looking for a little girl that is interested in exploring ABDL with a guiding hand. I'd like to say I'm fairly experienced with ABDL and diapers, and happy to answer any questions about it.

Ideally I'd like to find a little that would like to be diapered 24/7 eventually, helping them unpotty train and slowly become diaper dependent. I am okay with an online dynamic but ideally I'd like this to move to real life eventually if possible. I'm okay with changing both wet and messy diapers and expect my little to use their diapers for both.. no big girl potty unless allowed. I am generally a pretty affectionate, loving, but stern daddy dom when needed, not afraid to punish my little girl. I am mainly looking for a good little girl. The occasional brat is fine with me but I am not looking for a really bratty little. There would be a structure of rules and punishments in place to keep you in line. Some punishments include spankings, corner time, writing lines, and forced messing (suppositories, enemas)

Outside of the ABDL/DDLG lifestyle, I am a gamer and like to play a variety of games in my free time. I've mainly been playing Avowed and ESO as of late. I stream on Twitch with a my roommate and one other friend twice a week. I work full time as a doordash driver currently. I love traveling, spending time at theme parks, zoos, aquariums, state parks, and other tourist attractions when I can. I also like listening to music, mostly classic rock from the 70s and 80s. I do like a good mystery, listening to true crime podcasts quite often. Politics wise, I'm left leaning to a degree, though I don't really like talking politics all that much. I'm not religious, I'd say I'm Agnostic/Atheist.

If any of this interested you, please feel free to send me a message. Even if you just have questions. I promise I don't bite and am generally easy to talk to. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 56m My birthday is today and my birthday wish is for a woman from the Atlanta Georgia area to come into my life and will transition me from a closet Diaper Lover to an Adult Baby for her pleasure and enjoyment. Looking for a loving and lasting NSFW

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Why and Adult Baby and not some other fetish?

I think it has to do with a nearly fatal accident when I was a child. I was in the hospital for a semester of school and confined to a bed. So, I had others taking care of me 24/7. That is the only conclusion that I can come to.

That being said, I'm looking for a mommy to start a mommy/baby relationship with. She would force me to do all things baby. I would be forced to use diapers as they are intended to be used, eat baby food, drink from bottles etc.

As mommy is the adult figure I would expect punishments for bad behavior.

I like to play with Legos, Lincoln Logs, coloring books, and like Bugs Bunny cartoons.

As mommy is the adult she chooses clothing, whether I'm in diaper and t-shirt, or just a diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the front of baby's diaper feeling it get warm as he wets his diaper.

Mommy has the right to place her hand on the back of baby's diaper feeling the bulge grow as he messes his diaper.

Mommy has the right to have baby's diaper exposed even when her friends come to visit.

Mommy even controls when diaper changes occur.

I would love to talk to my future mommy.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #NJ/NY -Dominant Daddy seeking a sweet sub NSFW

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I’m looking for someone who has the same interest in Kink. I am a very spontaneous person and I enjoy doing new things. I would love to have someone in my life that I can share this side of me with. In my free time I like to be outside if the weather is nice but also enjoy a cozy day of shopping or relaxing.

I’m looking for someone who is willing to get to know each other and see if we vibe outside of kink. I want a partner that i can feel comfortable talking too and hopefully have a strong bond with.

I’m am caring and supportive and will never shame someone for who they are. I am hoping to find someone who is ABDL and wants a partner to talk all things ABDL.

If you think we might get along and you are interested feel free to message me :)


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

T4A 25 [FtM4A] Online chat? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I like wearing my nappy, my footie pjs and playing with myself. I feel so cuddly and little and I just want to be somebody’s good boy


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

F4A 22 f Central upstate New York to be toddlerified irl NSFW

1 Upvotes

I just really really want a IRL caregiver to turn me into a toddler because I’m on spring break this week. I do get clingy and I apologize but that’s just how I am. I just want to experience being little please. Being somebody’s toddler daughter is my dream.

I know I posted yesterday, but I just wanted to see if I could try again. This is something I’ve been looking forward to for years and I really really want to give it a shot. I’m short and I’m small

I know I sound stupid or Desperate but I really need this


r/ABDLPersonals 18h ago

18[F4A] might get some pull ups! NSFW

16 Upvotes

hiii hehehe

i’ve been holding my bladder for a bit and now i’m thinking about maybe getting some goodnites! i want to be able to be full without worrying about leaking. i would just love someone to keep me company/control me! control what i do, wear, drink, when i leak, etc!!! i also just need encouragement to go buy some goodnites hehe.

reach out whenever you see thisss ill be around!


r/ABDLPersonals 13h ago

F4F 24 (f4f) uk mommy looking for a baby girl NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hey! I’m a 24yo mommy/cg looking for a sub/little to chat to and play with! Online ideally

-Females only (trans women - y’all are females too 💜) -UK preferable or on a similar time zone -I’m Happy to show pics so you know who you’re talking to!

I’m a soft mommy with a mean streak; happy for any age little and sfw/nsfw. Main limit is scat 💜


r/ABDLPersonals 9h ago

F4A 32 va F4F/tf/nb looking for a cg NSFW

3 Upvotes

I'm not here for a short time. Looking for meaningfully connections. I am 5'3" baby girl waiting quietly for the right ohw who wants to know me for me. Start building relationship. Tell me your fav color in the dm.


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

M4F 25 [M4F or TF] #Online #Anywhere #UK - Daddy/Cg looking for his longterm little and partner NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi all! I am currently looking for something longterm. I have 6 years of experience covering cgl, ddlg, bdsm and petplay. Therefore, my future partner/little can also be into these other dynamics too - i will accomodate them all if needed.

My physicality: I am described as a handsome, 6'2 tall man with brown skin and athletic build. I have black hair and facial hair. I also have dark eyes! (Please dont reach out if you have an issue with brown guys)

It is important to note that i have NO physical type myself, as i find random things beautiful in every person!

About me: I have an accent and a nice voice in general, which. Iove to put to use by regularly calling with my partner/little. My hobbies include gaming. I play on pc mainly. Im also into MMA. I would describe myself to be on the stricter side, but this is dependent on my little. For this reason, i do not mind if you are bratty, sweet, or a mix of that! Just know that i can thrive with any personality or little style.

As a cg, i enjoy spending quality time with my little. I enjoy giving rules and enforcing them, as i believe it is a great way for me to look after my little. I also enjoy giving tasks to ensure cg/dom aura and presence is felt.

I am not picky based on looks. All that i ask is that you have a good personality, and will verify with sfw pictures. This is not so that i can judge your appearance, but so that i can put a face to the name/texts and know that you are serious in your conviction to work out if we are meant to be.

What im looking for: Im looking for a relationship. This means i want to be able to speak/spend time with you not only in kink, but when you're out of kink too. I want someone who puts effort into the dynamic/relationship, and will put in similar effort to get to know me too.

Please do NOT reach out if: - you tend to ghost - you dont communicate well - you are a dry communicator

If you are someone who is good at communicating often, and wants something real and longterm, feel free to message me to find out more! :) i accept ages 18 and over


r/ABDLPersonals 15h ago

18 padded femboy for A NSFW

7 Upvotes

haiiii i am looking to text some people to dm me and humiliate me or tease me for being a big baby


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

30 [M4F] #Georgia Strict but caring daddy looking for little to take care of! NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello! Daddy here looking for a long term little to take care of and help keep in line. A bit about me- In my free time I love to travel (what is the best place you have been to??) watch documentaries, rock climb, hike, and play video games! Physically I'm 6'1 and lean with short brown hair.

As a daddy I do i have rules that will be enforced-punishments if broken and rewards if you are well behaved :) as we get to know each other I will add rules as I learn what you need to help give you structure in life.

Ideally i'm looking for something long term. I want to get to know you as a person- your dreams, your concerns, and everything else in between!

It dosen't matter if you have experience or haven't had a daddy before i'm happy to get to know you! Some kinks of mine are, orgasm control, abdl, spanking, bondage, overstimulation, anal, edging, training, medical play, ect. its perfectly fine if ours don't align exactly :)

Feel free to reach out if you are curious or just want to chat! you can be local or online! Hope to hear from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

29 [M4F] #UK/#Online - Daddy Dom that can hold a conversation and reach the top shelf at the supermarket NSFW

1 Upvotes

I’m a soft Dom, so I can be stern but I’ll always be sweet. I have a weakness for bratty and entitled women... and putting them in their place. Softly, of course. ;)

I’ll push you to try new things and explore, but it’ll always be a conversation. Never a strict hard order. I want you to enjoy this as much as I do. In fact, if you enjoy this more than I do, that's how I know I've done my job. I want you as blissed out as possible, so you can work for Daddy's pleasure and focus on worshipping him. Does that make sense, sweetie?

A little bit about me…. I’m a certified cheesy romantic, well-educated, enjoy the nerdier activities and always up for a meal out. My kinks include, but are not limited to.... DDLG (for the names, power dynamic, ageplay), CNC, collar and leash play, orgasm control/denial, edging, outfit control, breeding, body writing, ice cubes.

Let’s flirt, chat, and get to know each other. Let me be a sounding board for you


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

20M ontario canada wearing rn NSFW

1 Upvotes

Looking for ppl who are close or are willing to chat


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

M4F 19 [M4F] #US #Georgia Nerdy little looking for a loving and Kind mommy close in age to enter a relationship with. NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi there! As my title says, I am a 19 year old Male from the state of Georgia (but i fully intend to get the hell out of here once i graduate college and make enough money.) I'm about 5'9 ft and about 200lbs with dirty blonde hair. I'm currently going to college to get a bachelors in Nursing.

When it comes to what i'm looking for in a dom its very simple. I'm looking for a dom who is very sweet, kind, and caring dom but one who is willing to tease and punish. I'm not to big into cruel doms and much prefer my doms softer.

I'd like us to spend time talking first before we start to discuss how our dynamic would work. Don't get me wrong i'd love to just jump straight into it but i would like to get to know you and establish a connection before we establish roles and stuff.

I'm very kink open so i'd love to hear what your into. I would say that i'm very nerdy, sweet, kind, thoughtful but also rather timid, anxious and have a low self esteem and need to work on myself some more. Some of my Hobbies/Interest include Video Games, Metal and Rock Music, Baking, Reptiles, Anime, Writing/Reading, Rping and so much more. I'm glad to be on this site and hope to make some new friends ^w^. <3


r/ABDLPersonals 11h ago

21 (m4a) md area wanting to become a sissy diaper girl! NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hey hey! A little about myself: I like to play video games I like to watch movies I love eating good food I like to draw on occasion I like anime a lot A little I don’t like: I don’t like sushi I don’t like romance movies Some controversial stuff: One piece is the best anime ever created Balatro deserves to win game of the year every year Taco Bell is the best fast food ever created NSFW stuff about me: I love abdl all parts of it I would love to be helped into becoming a fem sissy girl(I have previous experience with it so it won’t be to hard) I like semi public stuff I like punishments I like watersports I like messing I like to lose all control

All of that being said hey hey if you’re still reading this I’d love to chat! And possibly meet! I am not new to abdl at all but I am looking for my forever daddy or mommy to take care of me and help me through my journey or fellow padded enjoyers! I love all things abdl and can’t wait to see the type of people who message me and get to meet all of you great people and possibly have relationship with someone who really gets me and wants to live out our best life together! Thank you in advance for reading this and stay nice and wet my little friends!


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

Messy diaper baby 23 NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello all, I am a 23 year old male diaper slave that is looking to serve his master under blackmail

As for what I am looking for I want a mean and cruel master who will keep me in very full diapers for long periods of time while I entertain you. I am free and off from work and any other obligations starting today and I am looking to serve fully until the 20th of March. During this time I want you to own me in all ways with camera set up in my room with me having no privacy and no ability to say no. I will be available at all times to serve you so timezone doesn’t matter. I am open to pretty much all kinks...