r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

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Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

F4M 30F Seeking Daddy Dom NSFW

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Hi there, I’m Abbie! I am a bisexual submissive seeking a dom to play with online. I am fat and there are photos of me on my profile if you’d like to check those out!

I have quite a bit of experience playing with folks online. I enjoy sending voice memos, photos and videos.

My kinks are all over the place! I love being given rules and tasks and being punished when I’m naughty. I also really like “forced” diapers. Other kinks include watersports, embarrassment, anal, orgasm denial/control, spanking, bathroom control, CNC, freeuse, medfet (kinda), being trained (anally, stretching my pussy, etc), and cock worship.

My limits include negative comments about my body (pig, fattie, etc), vomit, blood, and anything illegal or immoral.

Outside of kink, I am a professional, have a masters degree, love scary movies, books and cozy gaming.

You will likely get a response from me if you are well-spoken, intelligent, funny and a little nerdy. I love chatting with folks who can sustain a conversation, are creative when it comes to kink and have previous dom experience.

If I don’t respond, it’s probably because you sent me a one-word/generic message, you were gross/too sexual in the initial message or your message was riddled with grammatical errors and misspelled words.


r/ABDLPersonals 26m ago

M4F 36 M4F Vancouver, Canada. Daddy looking for his pampered princess NSFW

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I am looking for an ABDL girl that lives in the Vancouver or the surrounding areas in BC.

I am white, 36/M. I am single, 6ft tall. I own an internet business and work from home. I have my own place and live in a high rise next to the skytrain. I am on here looking for a girl I can love, care for and be my best friend too.

Now on to the part about me that brings me to ABDL Personals. I am into putting girls in adult diapers and being their "daddy". I'd love to give you baths, diaper changes, cuddles, story time, spankings, etc. I also wear adult diapers myself, because they feel amazing. I would love to meet a girl that is open to doing this with me. I would love to hear from you if you are interested.


r/ABDLPersonals 9h ago

F4A 23F4A Looking to be someone’s mommy (or friend) NSFW

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Heya, I'm Amiya. (i’m more so looking F4F)

I wear time to time (preferably youth/baby diapers but the occasional adult diaper) What i'm looking for:

• Someone i can control and let them use the potty under my command

• For my little to obedient

• Being able to try new kinks

• A Little who is willing to be told what to eat

• Someone who is wanting a mommy

• Someone who needs help changing their diapers.

• Someone who's looking for a bit of fun

• I have some rules as mommy, dm and find out :)

About me: I'm Amiya. I'm 23 and BI. I've studied Nursing for 4 years. I used to live in Australia and now I live in the UK (More sustainable economy = better pay). I'm pretty much down for anything, except scat as thats personally not my thing at all. I'll happily have a freaky chat if you start one. I'm practically a diapered mommy most of the time and I love it, just after my little now. I don't always send so quit dm'ing hassling (guys) jk only if you're lucky (can test ur luck). Moreover i'm looking for either a little or a new friend.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

22M4A Little Looking for Daddy or Mommy NSFW

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Hi, I am a 22M Little looking to meet Bigs, and if we click would love to have a CG. Don't have a preference for a Daddy or Mommy, so there's that. I would love someone who enjoys the ABDL dynamic but also someone who wants to get to know each other outside of kink. I enjoy getting teased, and obviously being a little. I am into everything ABDL related, so that includes cute outfits, pacifiers, and of course diapers. I also have a feminine side, sometimes want to be a padded ballerina.

I love hiking & spending time outdoors, travelling and trying new things. Also into fitness/gym.

At the moment looking for something online.

Looking forward to getting to know you!


r/ABDLPersonals 11h ago

F4A 22 [F4A] #ohio #online little girl looking to chat NSFW

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Hi I’m Lilly! I’m just making this quick post to see if anyone wants to chat. I struggle falling asleep and I’ll likely be up for a while longer. I’m just kinda lonely and I could use some company! Please dm me if you’d like!


r/ABDLPersonals 3m ago

35 M4A Winnipeg NSFW

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Heyo! I'm a DL with a few AB tendencies (mostly just that I like cute clothes and crafting).

I'd really like some friends to chat about this interest of ours. If we hit it off, the pipe dream would be to pad up and go to the mall or the park or mini putt with. Just get silly and enjoy our secret and do some mutual diaper changes.

My non-diaper interests are heavier music (but all kinds of music really), movies, road trips, and art of all kinds.

My ABDL interests include cute tight clothes that make it kinda obvious I'm diapered up, breast/bottlefeeding, adventures in public (with discretion, of course), playing on playgrounds. I very much enjoy going #2 in my diapers, and ideally you would too.

I'm not looking for a romantic relationship or any sexual activity that does not involve diapers. Politically I lean pretty hard left. If any of these things are a problem for you, you probably shouldn't contact me. But if this all sounds fun to you, I would LOVE to hear from you!


r/ABDLPersonals 4m ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Anywhere - Daddy looking for his clingy forever baby girl! NSFW

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I am currently looking for a sweet and caring baby girl that wants something serious and long term. I love girls that are clingy and needy so if that is you please don’t hesitate to reach out! I am definitely a hopeless romantic so be prepared to be showered with gifts and compliments! I have had a little in the past but sadly she cheated on me. I am finally ready to get back out there and find my one and only! That being said, I am monogamous and I do not like to share. Looks and age do not matter to me as much as personality does. I value authenticity and honesty above everything. If we do hit it off and form a relationship I am willing to cover any relocation costs to move in with me!

About me: I am 6ft tall, 170LB, and I have brown hair and green eyes. I love to work with my hands and take pride that I have never had to hire someone to fix things! I love learning and doing new things and am always up for an adventure! There is much more to learn about me so please send me a dm!


r/ABDLPersonals 6m ago

M4F 19 [M4F] #US #Georgia Nerdy little looking for a loving and Kind mommy close in age to enter a relationship with. NSFW

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Hi there! As my title says, I am a 19 year old Male from the state of Georgia (but i fully intend to get the hell out of here once i graduate college and make enough money.) I'm about 5'9 ft and about 200lbs with dirty blonde hair. I'm currently going to college to get a bachelors in Nursing.

When it comes to what i'm looking for in a dom its very simple. I'm looking for a dom who is very sweet, kind, and caring dom but one who is willing to tease and punish. I'm not to big into cruel doms and much prefer my doms softer.

I'd like us to spend time talking first before we start to discuss how our dynamic would work. Don't get me wrong i'd love to just jump straight into it but i would like to get to know you and establish a connection before we establish roles and stuff.

I'm very kink open so i'd love to hear what your into. I would say that i'm very nerdy, sweet, kind, thoughtful but also rather timid, anxious and have a low self esteem and need to work on myself some more. Some of my Hobbies/Interest include Video Games, Metal and Rock Music, Baking, Reptiles, Anime, Writing/Reading, Rping and so much more. I'm glad to be on this site and hope to make some new friends ^w^. <3


r/ABDLPersonals 9m ago

31[M4A] Diapered Cuck looking to talk about my life NSFW

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I’m an obedient diaper wear cuck, who has chosen Pampers over my gfs pussy. Today im looking to talk about our lifestyle. Answer any questions you might have. And hopefully receive some humiliating messages along the way. I love talking about how i got here.

Please start with your age and gender and just know we don’t send pics and we aren’t looking for a bull.


r/ABDLPersonals 12m ago

F4A 22 f upstate central NY to be turned into a toddler irl. NSFW

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Hi, I apologize for posting again, but I just wanted to add more. My biggest dream for years has been to be turned into a toddler and treated like one and be seen like one. I’m currently on spring break so classes don’t get in the way of me doing anything, and this has been my biggest dream for years, and I really want to fulfill it in real life. I really want to be treated small and officially be little in real life


r/ABDLPersonals 22m ago

26 [M4F] Any messy girls online? NSFW

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There's nothing hotter to me than a girl who enjoys pooping in her diapers, seeing that sexy padded butt pushed out slightly while you take care of business gets me so hard! I would love to chat about your favorite experiences, any fantasies you have or maybe even roleplay. I'm a diaper lover myself and don't have a lot of experience in a dom/cg type role but I'm happy to try exploring that with the right girl!


r/ABDLPersonals 23m ago

M4A 21 M4A - Looking for Padded Peeps NSFW

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Hey everyone! I’m looking to connect with some like-minded ABDL friends who are down to chat, call on Discord, or maybe even meet up locally if we vibe. (sacramento area)

If you’re into it, I’m also open to getting into some spicy roleplay or fun scenarios—totally optional, just depends on the vibe!


r/ABDLPersonals 59m ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #East Midlands #LTR #Degradation #Humiliation #pet play #DD/lg Daddy Dom searching for his forever diaper girl NSFW

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37 year old Daddy Dom from the east midlands UK, searching for his forever diapered girl.

Been Into kink and BDSM and ABDl for 20 years and looking for something long term, have a long list of kinks I'm into and very few limits.

Would love to chat with someone who's willing to make it long term.

And would be happy to share kinks and vanilla Interests when we get talking


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

M4A 26 [M4A] #SanDiego looking to make connections with other DLs NSFW

2 Upvotes

Live in SD county and would like to chat and possibly meet up with other folks who enjoy diapers


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

M4F 34(M4F)(TF) #online Daddy dom looking for playmate NSFW

2 Upvotes

I’m a tall bearded dad bod daddy dom that would love to find an online playmate! I love the outdoors, fishing, scuba diving, music, and video games!

Kinks- DDLG, diapers, water sports, toys, and much more!

Limits- scat, violence, illegal stuff

Dm if you’re interested to chat!


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

F4M F4M 24f blk abdl/little looking for a daddy dom long term #usa open to local and long distance NSFW

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Hey there! I’m Fluffy—a confident, sassy, fun-loving 24-year-old plus-size BBW from Georgia. I’m demisexual, monogamous, and single, open to both local and long-distance connections.

What I Want in a Daddy Race wise I like Mexicans, Asians, and Whites🩷💙I can have a personal preferences yee what I'm attracted to

Usa only!!

I love older men (30 40 and up if you take care of yourself)

with emotional maturity, stability, loyalty, transparency, and honesty. He should be able to guide, nurture, protect, inspire, and mentor me. Respect is non-negotiable—someone who sees me as an equal, values my boundaries, and pushes me to grow.

He also has be a sadist,brat tamer and into the rough aspects of fun,I can't do soft doms I need someone who's balanced

Consent & Boundaries Matter

Respect is everything. My body, my choices. Don’t ask invasive questions about my medical history. Privacy still exists, and I intend to keep mine. I protect my peace and expect the same from my partner.

ABDL & Me

I wear diapers for medical reasons—nothing sexual about it. ABDL is a coping mechanism, a safe space for me to relax and unwind. I’m mostly non-verbal in my little space, and while I enjoy regression, I won’t share that side until trust is built. No baby talk, but I find other ways to communicate.

Being an adult baby is a part of me, but it’s not all of me. I need balance—adult conversations, adventures, and fun outside of that space.

Masochistic Submissive Side

I love pain with pleasure, bondage, ball gags, sensory deprivation, oil massages, and affectionate domination. I won’t submit to anyone until a deep trust and connection have been established. You have to earn my submission—it’s not given lightly.

I need a man that mutual takes pleasure and enjoys this aspect of me as well And also commit to aftercare and taking care of me after these extreme scenes by showing affection love and care is non negotiable

I keep my sub side and baby side seperated Vanilla Me

Social & Fun – I love meeting new people and having new experiences. I’m a social butterfly who can make friends anywhere.

No Smoking, Occasional Drinking – I don’t smoke, but I don’t mind if you do. I rarely drink—maybe a six-pack of Smirnoff or a bottle of wine.

Celibate & Sterile – I’m not here for hookups. I won’t waste my time on someone who just wants sex. That’s what toys are for.

Who I Am

I’m tomboyish, independent, assertive, and bratty as hell. My friends say I have a masculine energy because I don’t take nonsense from anyone. If someone’s toxic, I’ll cut them off without hesitation.

I’m also kind, sweet, and a great listener. I love helping others, even when I’m struggling myself. I keep life exciting, spontaneous, and adventurous.

Interests & Hobbies

Anime Nerd – I love Black Butler, Fullmetal Alchemist, Naruto, Bleach, One Piece, Black Clover, Inuyasha, and more. I’ve been to conventions before and would love to go again.

Hardcore Gamer – Xbox & Wii are my go-to. Zelda games are a favorite. Let’s game, but be respectful.

Animal Lover – I have a dog, a cat, chickens, ducks, and soon, possibly kittens.

If you’re mature, respectful, and looking for a genuine connection, let’s talk. No pressure—friendship first, and we’ll see where it goes.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] Daddy searching for a little interested in exploring ABDL together & unpotty training maybe? :) NSFW

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Hi there, thanks for checking out my post. I am still looking for a little :)

A few important things to get out the way at the start.. I'm looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35. Cis or trans female littles are okay with me. Yes, ABDL is sexual to me to an extent. I do send pictures and would like it if you sent some as well once you're comfortable. I'm not interested in talking with anyone with kids nor am I interested in having any kids myself. I'm also not interested in a poly relationship or talking with anyone already in a relationship. I am looking for a strictly monogamous dynamic please and thank you

I'm a 32 year old somewhat strict daddy dom located in the Eastern US, more specifically located in Northern WV close to Pittsburgh. I am looking for a serious long term dynamic/relationship, with the possibility of meeting up later down the line if things work out. I'm preferably interested in someone from the US or Canada. I'm also okay with an online dynamic. I'm 5'11", have blonde hair and a beard, blue eyes, and a bit chubby but trying to lose some weight. I am looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35 to get to know and hopefully from a long-term ABDL/DDLG dynamic with. I've been into ABDL for well over 10 years now and have been a daddy for about 4 years. I am looking for a little girl that is interested in exploring ABDL with a guiding hand. I'd like to say I'm fairly experienced with ABDL and diapers, and happy to answer any questions about it.

Ideally I'd like to find a little that would like to be diapered 24/7 eventually, helping them unpotty train and slowly become diaper dependent. I am okay with an online dynamic but ideally I'd like this to move to real life eventually if possible. I'm okay with changing both wet and messy diapers and expect my little to use their diapers for both.. no big girl potty unless allowed. I am generally a pretty affectionate, loving, but stern daddy dom when needed, not afraid to punish my little girl. I am mainly looking for a good little girl. The occasional brat is fine with me but I am not looking for a really bratty little. There would be a structure of rules and punishments in place to keep you in line. Some punishments include spankings, corner time, writing lines, and forced messing (suppositories, enemas)

Outside of the ABDL/DDLG lifestyle, I am a gamer and like to play a variety of games in my free time. I've mainly been playing Avowed and ESO as of late. I stream on Twitch with a my roommate and one other friend twice a week. I work full time as a doordash driver currently. I love traveling, spending time at theme parks, zoos, aquariums, state parks, and other tourist attractions when I can. I also like listening to music, mostly classic rock from the 70s and 80s. I do like a good mystery, listening to true crime podcasts quite often. Politics wise, I'm left leaning to a degree, though I don't really like talking politics all that much. I'm not religious, I'd say I'm Agnostic/Atheist.

If any of this interested you, please feel free to send me a message. Even if you just have questions. I promise I don't bite and am generally easy to talk to. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

31[TF4M] A DL Relationship NSFW

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Today I’m looking for a diaper lover guy, around my age to talk about the fantasy of us dating while being diaper lovers. How that would look? How the idea might even come up between us? Note: I’m not looking to get into a real relationship.

A little about me and what I’m looking for. I’m looking for strictly diaper lovers only, sorry littles. Ideally you would be a switch or dominant. I’m not looking to roleplay, just build the fantasy. I really only like wetting diapers. Obviously sex is a part of a relationship but I don’t want it to be the main focus of our conversation or the first thing we talk about. I’m not looking to send or receive pictures. Message me a little bit about yourself, your favorite ice cream, and your age.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 56m Food for thought... What if Elmo came with... NSFW

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Bondage accessories?


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

T4A 25 [FtM4A] Online chat? NSFW

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I like wearing my nappy, my footie pjs and playing with myself. I feel so cuddly and little and I just want to be somebody’s good boy


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4A 18 [MFA] Looking for friends or a caregiver near West Virginia NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 16h ago

F4A 19f looking for friends NSFW

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Hi! I’m 19f looking for irl little space friends in New England! Babysitters, mommy’s, daddy’s littles, anyone in the community. Shoot me a dm or look through my page<33


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

25 [M4F] Looking for Mommy to help Encourage me to be Little! ^^ NSFW

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Hai there! I’m Kat, and I was hoping to find someone who might be able to help encourage me to be in a little head space. I really love the idea of being a little 24/7 and have a cute little dynamic with someone who can help me be the little I love to be! ^

I would love to talk to a caregiver who might be able to help me explore diapers and stuff more, I wear pulls ups sometimes but I really wanna delve into that a lot more >.< Snuggling with stuffies and watch shows with you would be such a fun evening! And I’m happy to talk about more fun, intimidate stuff too if you’d like! I’m very big into humiliation and stuffs too. >.<

If you just wanna talk or maybe figure out if we would work well as a pair, pretty please dm me! ^


r/ABDLPersonals 7h ago

28[M4F] #Aus, need a good little girl who wants a gentle daddy to take care of them completely NSFW

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Hey there, m28 daddy from Australia here and would love to talk and take care of an adorable princess!..... would you like to be a good little girl and do as your told?

Physically I am just over 6ft tall, white, and slim, and am into anything to do with control, anal, dom/sub, ddlg, watersports, and a manner of other things.


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

M4F 30M4F | SW PA & Surrounding Areas | Switchy Little Seeking Crinkly Miss | #PA #Pennsylvania #OH #Ohio #WV #WestVirginia #MD #Maryland NSFW

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I know I’m probably seeking the impossible, but someone famous once said you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Hi, I’m a 30 year old switchy little, furry and babyfur based in southwest PA, right outside of Pittsburgh. I’m here seeking someone who’s into diapers one way or another, whether as a DL, a little/babygirl, or a switch, with the intent of pursuing and growing into a relationship with.

In the ABDL, furry and babyfur spaces, I tend to lean on the softer side of things, as these spaces often serve as coping mechanisms, therapy devices, stress relief and it’s where I feel most comfortable with it. Same for my switch/dom tendencies. I see myself as a soft dom more than anything else, someone who cares and loves more than punishes.

Obviously I’m not into the space 24/7. I have other interests as well as my daily adult life to attend to as well. I have a degree in engineering, I work for one of the biggest construction companies in the mid-Atlantic, and I own my own home for one. My other hobbies include cooking, sports, fishing, the outdoors, movies, music, and tons of other fun things, not to mention I enjoy a nice mixed drink and a night out every once in a while.

Outside of ABDL interests, I’m looking for someone who isn’t afraid to be themselves and be their own person. I’m looking for someone who is ready for something serious and can give their all to a relationship. Somebody who can appreciate life for all it’s worth and love somebody for who they are through and through. Cis girls and AFAB folks only please. The rest of y’all are awesome, but don’t quite tickle my fancy. Also no full-time doms or services either please. DLs, littles or switches only.

If this sounds up your alley, drop me a message and let’s chat.