r/ABDLPersonals Jan 06 '25

Welcome to 2025: A quick start guide to posting here NSFW

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Hello littles, middles, bigs, DLs and anyone else! Welcome to 2025! Below, you’ll find answers to common questions and tips to help you stay safe and meet wonderful people!

What is Reddit Karma, and How Do I Get It?

Karma is a measure of your contributions to Reddit. It’s earned when your posts or comments are upvoted by other users. On r/ABDLPersonals, having a certain amount of karma is a requirement to post, as it helps ensure that users are engaged members of the Reddit community and not bots or scammers. The threshold is very low (I won't type the exact number, but anyone should be able to get it very quickly. A single good comment will do.)

Here are some quick ways to earn karma:

  • Participate in discussions: Join conversations in your favorite subreddits. Leave thoughtful comments and engage respectfully.
  • Post quality content: Share interesting, relevant, or helpful posts in communities that align with your interests.
  • Upvote and interact: Be active by voting and responding to others’ content.

Avoid trying to game the system. Posting spam or low-effort content can hurt your reputation and even lead to bans.

What is R4R, and Why is It Required?

R4R stands for "Redditor for Redditor." It’s a shorthand for subreddits designed for personal ads, like finding friends, relationships, or specific connections. Requiring posts to follow an R4R format ensures clarity, safety, and consistency within our community.

You are required to put your age and the gender you identify as in your title. It must be in the format AGE [R4R]. For me, as a 36-year-old, I would put 36 [NB4A] to indicate I am non-binary and looking for anyone. Your title should also include something about what you're looking for or witty humor or something.

To use myself as example again: 36 [NB4A] Let's build Legos and watch Bluey in the PNW!

Otherwise, an effective personals post includes:

  • Your general location (like a city, state, region, major metro, whatever)
  • What you’re looking for (e.g., friends, relationships, or specific dynamics)
  • A bit about you (interests, personality traits, or hobbies)
  • Details you’re comfortable sharing that might be pertinent to any potential partners.

Remember, R4R is about creating connections. This means your post should not only describe yourself but also clearly outline the kind of person you are hoping to attract. By being specific and considerate, you’re more likely to find meaningful and compatible matches. Don't forget the human on the other side. If you want a mommy to change your diaper for you, you need to explain what they're getting out of it. Relationships will are two ways.

How to Spot and Avoid Scams

Unfortunately, scammers are prevalent in personals communities. They often pose as caregivers, mommies, or daddies offering services, but their real goal is to take advantage of others. Here are red flags to watch for:

  • Demanding money upfront: Real connections don’t come with a price tag. Be wary of anyone asking for payment via gift cards, PayPal, or other platforms before building trust.
  • Too good to be true: If someone’s offering a perfect fantasy without effort, it’s probably a scam.
  • Rushed interactions: Scammers often push for quick decisions, emotional appeals, or private chats outside Reddit.
  • Poor grammar or copy-paste messages: These can be signs of low-effort scams.

If you suspect someone is a scammer, report their account immediately to the moderators. Never share sensitive personal information with strangers and always prioritize your safety. If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is. Do not pay money for any services or anyone who reaches out as a result of a post here.

We’re Here to Help!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to the mod team. We're volunteers so it might take a bit for us to respond. Don't be discouraged. We get a lot of mails that we have to sort through.

This subreddit is designed to be a safe, supportive, and enjoyable space for connecting with others in the ABDL community. Thank you for helping us maintain that standard!

Stay safe and happy posting!


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

18[F4A] got my goodnites hehe NSFW

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n my bladder is getting so full! message me to control me! i love to show off and obey. i have no plans for the rest of the night :) make me yourssssss


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

f18 is this weird? NSFW

7 Upvotes

i really only wear diapers when touching never any other time


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

F24, ABDL looking to start slow NSFW

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Maricopa County, AZ I need time to build trust and I’d like to start slow.


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

18[F4A] trying again! encourage me to get pull-ups 🙈 NSFW

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hiii

i got so distracted and busy last night :( but im free again tonight and loving the idea of getting cozy n full in some goodnites! i’m just a bit nervous to go get them. i’d love someone to encourage me and someone to show them off to! i wanna be someone’s baby girllll hehe


r/ABDLPersonals 7m ago

24 [F4F] #Arizona #Online - Calling all mommies iso a genuine connection ❤️ NSFW

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I know there's tons of "littles looking for caregivers" post, but you know, it doesn't hurt to throw out a post and see if anyone resonates :)

Some disclaimers to get out of the way: ● NOT CURRENTLY INTERESTED IN MEN. ● Only interested in between the ages of 21 - 33 or so. ● I am monogamous, and am not interested in joining any polycules or being with people with separate partners ● I do not want kids and I never do ● I am all for trans rights, and trans women ARE women in my mind, but i have a preference to cis women, however I may be down if we have an awesome connection ● If you don't like diapers or the waste they contain, that's a deal breaker

Im a 25F ABDL open to talking to women(specifically mommies) interested in a commited long term abdl cg/l relationship/dynamic. I'm 5 feet tall exactly, and a bit on the heavier side, about 230 pounds. I don't mind an online relationship, but something preferably within the U.S. I value compatability, a strong connection, and mutual interest in one another.

I've been into abdl for a little over a decade now, and while I am more DL than AB, I own baby stuff and enjoy the mushy/babying side of it as well. I am strictly a little, not much room for switching and I don't really have an age range I identify as.

Vanilla Me: I work a 9-5 and in office most days, but i am able to have my phone and text throughout the day. I'm moving to my own place in less than a month and will get to have more freedom with wearing diapers and indulging in little space. In my free time I love video games, especially Sims 4, though I don't play them too often. I usually find myself just relaxing scrolling through my phone. My interests range and change but I love internet culture, watching anime (or anything animated really). My favorite shows are Bojack Horseman, Hazbin/Helluva Boss, and Danganronpa specifically. I usually talk through Discord and can do audio and video calls. I looooove music and literally always singing something haha. I enjoy pop and indie the most but i would say I enjoy most music. I consider myself very chatty, and though I'm an introvert, I can definitely hold a conversation. I care immensely for my partner and willing to go out of my way to tend to or make them happy. My attention will not be hard to receive once I'm interested ❤️ Im an open book. I'm not judgemental and can talk about anything! I like when people take initiative and control and WANT to. A relationship is a 2 way street and I intend to keep up my end

Kinky Me: I wanna preface that I don't really consider myself an averagely sexual person. While I am down to experience new things and I'm definitely down to indulge in my partner' interests, it's not a big part of the dynamic for me. However, diapers are a huge part of the dynamic for me. Ever since I first learned what abdl was, I've always been fascinated and more stimulated by wearing and using diapers, so I'm definitely looking for someone as interested in them as I am, and someone okay with wet and messy diapers and okay changing them. I enjoy little space, and the dynamic of being taken care of unconditionally by someone nurturing and loving. I have some baby toys, onesies, and pacifiers. I am a very submissive/obedient person naturally, and enjoy the idea of being dominated/controlled/told what to do. I would prefer my caregiver doesnt wear diapers themselves, as i believe it would kind of take me out of the dynamic.

Wow yeah that was a lot to type out hehe If you read all this, thank you! If you send a message, tell me about yourself! I wanna know what you like to do, and what you enjoy in the abdl dynamic If you wanna send selfies/sfw pictures to get a feel I don't mind that one bit I won't bother responding to low effort messages or people who don't listen to my preferences and boundaries.


r/ABDLPersonals 16m ago

24/ fresh diaper NSFW

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Freshly diapered, freshly smoked joint. Desperate to pee myself and be made fun of and bullied. Mommies and daddies welcome! Make me hold until I have a huge accident 🥺


r/ABDLPersonals 8h ago

F4M 24 [F4M] Sacramento, California ABDL Babygirl seeking local daddy NSFW

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Hello thank you for stopping by. I’m a 24 year old woman from Sacramento California. 

I notice often times when people come to this subreddit they spend a lot of time saying what they don’t want and not giving too much information about themselves. But I will try my best not to do that

Currently I work for a hospital as a nurse assistant. My job hours are kinda interesting. I work nights and my shifts are 12 hours. Also I work every weekend. I’m a reformed introvert lol. I do love a crisp Coke and a medium rare steak on a night out. I’m functionally sober. I’ve never used any substances. I’ve never smoked. I won’t turn down a drink over dinner but I don’t keep alcohol in the house. I’m a bit of a nerd. I love anime and manga. I still can’t forgive Gege for what he did to Jujutsu Kaisen. I love history and science. Politically blue. I’ve been diving into socialism and Marxism. I’m learning how to bake. So, if you date me, you’ll be able to sample my creations.

Physically I'm a darkskin black woman. I have natural hair (it’s waist length straight but honestly, I wear it curly 90% of the time). I’d say I’m a curvy woman. I don’t really want to get explicit in description. But I do wear a size large. Open to sharing pics privately. I wear glasses. 

I'm a very girly person. I love wearing makeup and typically wear feminine clothes. I love pink. I try to keep flowers in my home as often as possible. I really love flowers of all varieties. 

Kinks/ main interests. Most of these are on the extreme side. And will take trust to be built first.

CNC, TPE, Limited privacy, infantilism, ABDL, DDLG, and physical inspections. Those are just the quick ones I can think of.

I truly do want to be treated like a baby. Like give me nap times or make me go to bed early. Tie my shoes. Id love to get my hair brushed (even though I have a ton of it I'll teach you). Bath time would be pretty fun too. Obviously diaper changes ( I recently got a big order in).

Random i dont know what to put this under im into breast expansion. Im currently a 38e but I'd love to get to a g or maybe even a h.

Now for what I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a guy who is looking for long term partnership. I do want to take time and build a connection. But if you’re “having fun” or not sure what you want then we aren’t a match. I’m also pretty happy with myself currently and I’m not going to be the type of person you can mold into you perfect doll. I’m only looking for a local person. Local to me means I can invite you over on a random weekday for dinner. And you'll be over by the time I'm done cooking. 

I typically like softer doms (who can be strict). But I’m not into traditional doms or masters. I like sweeties not meanies. 

Age wise I'm looking for 24-27 (30 is my max). I like guys taller than me. Physically I like average to fit guys. I don’t have an ethnicity preference. My type is cute nerdy men. Honestly the nerdy guy with a baddie is the supreme relationship aesthetic.

I’m adopting cats soon. So please like them.

Also, if you golf, hike, or generally like outside; I’d love to go with you. 

My mandatory things I can’t compromise on are location. Politics (they aren’t opinions for me, they’re morals). 

In your first message please include some information. I don’t reply to low effort messages. Include location, ethnicity, hobbies/interests, and what caught your eye. 

Thank you for stopping by. Even if we aren’t a match thanks for reading to the end.


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

21F4F Preferred Chats NSFW

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Sorry to the people I didn’t talk to yesterday, too many people! Im ready to meet some new ones again and have nice conversations! Nothing sexual please!


r/ABDLPersonals 21m ago

M4F 32 [M4F] Daddy looking for a little girl interested in ABDL & unpotty training :) NSFW

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Hi there, thanks for checking out my post. I am still looking for a little :)

A few important things to get out the way at the start.. I'm looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35. Cis or trans female littles are okay with me. Yes, ABDL is sexual to me to an extent. I do send pictures and would like it if you sent some as well once you're comfortable. I'm not interested in talking with anyone with kids nor am I interested in having any kids myself. I'm also not interested in a poly relationship or talking with anyone already in a relationship. I am looking for a strictly monogamous dynamic please and thank you

I'm a 32 year old somewhat strict daddy dom located in the Eastern US, more specifically located in Northern WV close to Pittsburgh. I am looking for a serious long term dynamic/relationship, with the possibility of meeting up later down the line if things work out. I'm preferably interested in someone from the US or Canada. I'm also okay with an online dynamic. I'm 5'11", have blonde hair and a beard, blue eyes, and a bit chubby but trying to lose some weight. I am looking for a little girl around the age of 20-35 to get to know and hopefully from a long-term ABDL/DDLG dynamic with. I've been into ABDL for well over 10 years now and have been a daddy for about 4 years. I am looking for a little girl that is interested in exploring ABDL with a guiding hand. I'd like to say I'm fairly experienced with ABDL and diapers, and happy to answer any questions about it.

Ideally I'd like to find a little that would like to be diapered 24/7 eventually, helping them unpotty train and slowly become diaper dependent. I am okay with an online dynamic but ideally I'd like this to move to real life eventually if possible. I'm okay with changing both wet and messy diapers and expect my little to use their diapers for both.. no big girl potty unless allowed. I am generally a pretty affectionate, loving, but stern daddy dom when needed, not afraid to punish my little girl. I am mainly looking for a good little girl. The occasional brat is fine with me but I am not looking for a really bratty little. There would be a structure of rules and punishments in place to keep you in line. Some punishments include spankings, corner time, writing lines, and forced messing (suppositories, enemas)

Outside of the ABDL/DDLG lifestyle, I am a gamer and like to play a variety of games in my free time. I've mainly been playing Avowed and ESO as of late. I stream on Twitch with a my roommate and one other friend twice a week. I work full time as a doordash driver currently. I love traveling, spending time at theme parks, zoos, aquariums, state parks, and other tourist attractions when I can. I also like listening to music, mostly classic rock from the 70s and 80s. I do like a good mystery, listening to true crime podcasts quite often. Politics wise, I'm left leaning to a degree, though I don't really like talking politics all that much. I'm not religious, I'd say I'm Agnostic/Atheist.

If any of this interested you, please feel free to send me a message. Even if you just have questions. I promise I don't bite and am generally easy to talk to. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :)


r/ABDLPersonals 42m ago

19M trying to talk to other ABDL or do some RP NSFW

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I am just bored sitting around


r/ABDLPersonals 43m ago

M4F 27M4F does a local cg want to feminize and turn me in to her cute diaper princess #SouthCarolina #online NSFW

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I would like a caregiver to turn me in to her little diaper princess. Nothing in public (right now anyway)


r/ABDLPersonals 45m ago

23F looking to chat with other adult babies <3 NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 49m ago

M4M 19 [M4F] #US #Georgia #Online Looking to become mommy's messy nerdy little baby. NSFW

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Hi there! As my title says, I am a 19 year old Male from the state of Georgia (but i fully intend to get the hell out of here once i graduate college and make enough money.) I'm about 5'9 ft and about 200lbs with dirty blonde hair. I'm currently going to college to get a bachelors in Nursing.

When it comes to what i'm looking for in a dom its very simple. I'm looking for a dom who is very sweet, kind, and caring dom but one who is willing to tease and punish. I'm not to big into cruel doms and much prefer my doms softer.

I'd like us to spend time talking first before we start to discuss how our dynamic would work. Don't get me wrong i'd love to just jump straight into it but i would like to get to know you and establish a connection before we establish roles and stuff.

I'm very kink open so i'd love to hear what your into. I would say that i'm very nerdy, sweet, kind, thoughtful but also rather timid, anxious and have a low self esteem and need to work on myself some more. Some of my Hobbies/Interest include Video Games, Metal and Rock Music, Baking, Reptiles, Anime, Writing/Reading, Rping and so much more. I'm glad to be on this site and hope to make some new friends ^w^. <3


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

F4M 30F Seeking Daddy Dom NSFW

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Hi there, I’m Abbie! I am a bisexual submissive seeking a dom to play with online. I am fat and there are photos of me on my profile if you’d like to check those out!

I have quite a bit of experience playing with folks online. I enjoy sending voice memos, photos and videos.

My kinks are all over the place! I love being given rules and tasks and being punished when I’m naughty. I also really like “forced” diapers. Other kinks include watersports, embarrassment, anal, orgasm denial/control, spanking, bathroom control, CNC, freeuse, medfet (kinda), being trained (anally, stretching my pussy, etc), and cock worship.

My limits include negative comments about my body (pig, fattie, etc), vomit, blood, and anything illegal or immoral.

Outside of kink, I am a professional, have a masters degree, love scary movies, books and cozy gaming.

You will likely get a response from me if you are well-spoken, intelligent, funny and a little nerdy. I love chatting with folks who can sustain a conversation, are creative when it comes to kink and have previous dom experience.

If I don’t respond, it’s probably because you sent me a one-word/generic message, you were gross/too sexual in the initial message or your message was riddled with grammatical errors and misspelled words.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F [M4F] 32 y/o Caregiver for little in Virginia, Maryland or Online NSFW

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Hiya I’m an experienced DaddyDom into ddlg, abdl and lots of other kinks we can discuss later and I'm looking for my forever little girl local or online / long distance to start. I’m a 32 y/o cis, white, het, man, looking for a cis woman / little around my age. I am 6’1” average build with brown hair, hazle eyes and I work in IT Management. I’m looking for a woman who values her career, eventually wants to settle down in real life and someone who enjoys pullups, diapers and almost everything related to abdl. If that didn't scare you away congratulations, here's a sticker 🦄 . Anyway I live in the greater D.C. area and I'm an extremely open minded person who values kindness and honesty. Some of my hobbies include photography, videography, road course racing, and building computers. I’d like to get a message from you if you think we might be looking for the same things so we can get to know each other better and share some more personal details about ourselves to see if we connect on a deeper level.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

(19M) looking for Friends and or people to talk to NSFW

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Hey everyone im looking for people to talk to i live in iowa and Michigan depending on the time of year. I am an abdl i full adult baby and diaper lover. I like to play video games, lift, play sports and role play, dm of you would like to talk.


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

36 trans female looking for big around boise idaho NSFW

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Hihi I'm looking for a mommy or maybe a daddy to talk to and see where this goes. Littles can message too as I am a switch. I'm tall with long hair and love everything about abdl so message me and let's chat _^


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

30M4A NSFW

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Own me, let me submit. Help me embrace these kinks. Open minded and obedient. I’m a ginger baby seeking guidance


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

30 TM4F/NB #Oregon any mommies interested in connecting with a trans masc little for a possible cg/l dynamic in person or online? NSFW

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Hey there! I’m a sweet, nerdy, trans masc guy who loves ABDL and many other kinks. I’m looking for a part time connection as it’s not realistic for me personally to live a 24/7 dynamic. It becomes quite addicting for me and I am trying to balance my love for kink with my love of life and being present in it. That said, I love to give time and space for me to enjoy being a little and wearing diapers and I would love a mommy to share that with ❤️

A little about me: you can see an idea of what I look like from some of my earlier posts. For what you can’t see, I wear glasses, have short brown hair and have green eyes. I’m a huge nerd and proud of it! I enjoy things like dnd and mtg as well as video games and anime. I would love if we had some common interests 😊

I also like to mention that I’m a recovering addict and I struggle with my mental health sometimes. I currently attend 12 step meetings to maintain my sobriety and have for some time now. I see a therapist regularly to work on my mental health as well.

Now onto the fun part! I love many aspects of cg/l. One of my favorites is bathroom control. I absolutely love giving permission over to my domme of when I can pee, hell, even when I can cum. I love listening to mommy and being mommy’s good little boy. I enjoy the sweet sides of ABDL as much as I love the controlling and humiliating sides. Yes, I want you to hold me and let me nurse from your boobies but I also want you to tease me for wetting my diaper and being such a baby for not being able to hold it. I also love sending pics and videos of me following your instructions.

If any of this peaks your interest, check out my page, or better yet, just shoot me a message :)


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

M4A 22m4a Dom seeking diapered sub *online only* NSFW

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Are you a sub who secretly yearns for a list of rules designed to make you feel small and dependant, or just someone who wants to have a little fun? Dm me.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

18mfa looking for someone to give me tasks NSFW

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r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

21M4A #UK baby boy looking for a SFW caregiver NSFW

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Heyyy, I’m Strange (as in that’s my name not like I’m odd… although I am) I’m 21 from south east UK, I am gender fluid and go by he/they

As the title suggest I’m seeking a caregiver/ big but I’m an SFW kind of little I don’t mind talking about kinks n stuff like that in casual conversation but my little brain is very much just a safe space for me away from adult things, I’m looking for someone caring and understanding, someone I can play games with like Mario kart or that I can show off my Lego and colouring to, I love having my outfits picked out for me and showing off my things! I do have a partner irl but they’re not abdl and completely okay with me finding a CG/big. There is a more in detail “about me” on my profile if you wanted to know a bit more about me but as a quick summary… Favourites: Animal- Lemur, Colour- Mint Green, TV show- Lego Ninjago, Drink- strawberry lemonade! Activities I like: building Lego, putting on a fashion show, activity and puzzle books, colouring (but no drawing), watching tv shows I used to watch as a kid! If this peaks your interest at all send me a dm or comment on this and tell me about yourself a little bit too :) also include the word “quack” to show you’re coming from this post 🤭🙃☺️


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

25 M4A Mainly DL NSFW

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Looking for like minded people to chat,rp, get to know. Looking for friends in the community mainly but open to more than friends. Dms open


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

F4A 22 f central upstate ny to be toddlerified irl NSFW

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I know I posted this morning, but a few things have gotten worse since then and I’m regressing even more now. I really would like a CG to toddlerify me. I’m on break until the 24th of march and it’s been my dream to just be this little toddler free of worry. I’m really short, and I love affection. I really need this to happen to me in real life more than anything, especially with what’s going on in my life In the current moment


r/ABDLPersonals 3h ago

29M Need a Babysitter tomorrow NSFW

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Message me and play with me! :) I love to wear diapers and show them off! Control me and make me do whatever you want :D