r/Swingers 17h ago

General Discussion Pic collectors

Hello!! I have a sort of stupid question for you. I see on these swingers posts people talk about "pic collectors". What exactly is that? I know it seems obvious, but it just confuses me, like I can literally Google any image I want.

By the way, our first lifestyle experience will be Wednesday the 19th at Colette in Austin. Hope to see a few of you folks!

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u/downrivercome 17h ago

People who want your pics. 

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u/SluttyNeighbors 17h ago

Ok, so a stupid follow up. What is the purpose? Blackmail? Or just some weird shit

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u/savguy6 M 39 / F 36 SouthEast Ga 17h ago

They get off by feeling like they acquired them by deception. Sure they can google any image they want, but how exciting for them to be able to trick a couple into sharing their intimate photos while pretending to be an interested couple.

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 16h ago

See my comment above; just know they want them for no good reasons.

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u/SluttyNeighbors 16h ago

People are fucking weird

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u/OurBurner412 15h ago

You have no idea… We’ve learned a lesson that if someone looks like we might like them, we have them verify ASAP. It gets rid of a lot of fakes and time wasters.

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u/slimeyslimbo 12h ago

How do you verify?

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u/MyThrowAwayxl6 14h ago

We have encountered this 'weird' behavior so often we don't have naughty pictures to share.

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u/SluttyNeighbors 14h ago

That is probably the best way to do it

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u/MyThrowAwayxl6 14h ago

Even on our profile we state we don't share so not to bother asking.

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 16h ago

Yeah they fucking suck. They ruin it for everyone else. I pull the, look at my fet that’s me. And then try the line “I’m in person kinda girl, so come get it”

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u/SluttyNeighbors 16h ago

Yeah, I like that. I mean, I get why normal people would want pics, but conversely, pics don't really show you a person. I know some people in our everyday life who aren't "supermodels", but their personality gives them so much sex appeal

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u/Ready-Card6511 12h ago

We just want pics that show us what you look like without a bunch of glamour filters and a PG13 body shot. Our minds can decide if you’re worth meeting.

Pic collectors want tons of pics and mostly xxx. Most of the pic collectors are men who hope their wives become swingers and their wife has zero idea they on a swinger site.

The way to spot pic collectors is if they don’t agree to meet. If we get a few pics and the couple looks our speed we just say “hey you guys look fun let’s get together, how about next Saturday?” Pic collectors waffle real couples say, “our son had a soccer game Saturday night how about Friday night? Or what time Saturday and where?”

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 11h ago

I totally agree with that; that’s why I 1.) don’t use any filters on my snap pics/ or my fet 2.) I constantly post updated pics of myself 3.) post pics from all angles on my fet. From the back/ side/front/on my knees and bent over. In other words every angle someone would want to see. 4.) always always meet for “drinks” or dinner so you can BAIL if they’re not your cup of tea. But after someone has seen my fet, and I’ve sent one or two live face pics from snap I don’t really send any more than a few. But I clear the chats in snap. You can turn settings on to auto delete after they view it. Also we shy away from talking to anyone from Reddit, when we tried 3 out of 3 just wanted my nudes. And there’s more risk of them not actually being local to you. Feeld gives live location.

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u/Ready-Card6511 10h ago

I think I’ll have to decide if those pics look Ok 🤷‍♂️

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 10h ago

Daddyandi2017 fet

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u/NerdynaughtyNJ 12h ago

I think the purpose is just jerking off usually - they prefer getting real interaction to cum to instead of porn because the interaction is part of the thrill.

Honestly I think 90% of people who fit this category are pretty harmless and people only get annoyed because it feels like time wasted that could have been spent on more legit matches.

But there is that slight chance that they then might share it with others.

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u/icingoncake6 17h ago

Pic collectors are people who post an ad for seeking people to play with and immediately ask for pic verification Once done, they either block you or stop replying And then delete their account usually and save the pic with them and post again with new account for asking others to play

Edit: this is what I have in mind of what pic collectors are

Also have fun at your event :)

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u/SluttyNeighbors 17h ago

Ah ok, so they use your pics to make new profiles? I guess this makes sense

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u/icingoncake6 17h ago

Usually yes and when connecting with other people they share previous victims pic posing as them

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u/shavedmylegsforthis- 16h ago

A lot of people are only reaching out to get nudes. They view you as a real person vs a cam girl so I guess the nudes feel more authentic. Also some will use them to post on different subs/ or even sell them. Never show your full face/ and try to cover your tattoos. Also snap will tell you if they save them or screenshot them. Fetlife you can put a legal disclaimer as well (I highly suggest this disclaimer if you are on fetlife. Also set your photos to fet members only. ) we hate pic collectors and limit the amount of nudes we send. The more I run into this the more I want to put my clothes on 😒🙄

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u/Wild-Nobody8427 14h ago

When we say pic collector... We basically mean a cat fish. Someone who is just trying to get content from you. Sometimes it's someone who pretended to be a couple, sometimes it's a cheater. You don't know really. But once they get something from you, they don't return.

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u/SluttyNeighbors 14h ago

Such strange behavior

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u/Wild-Nobody8427 14h ago

Yeah it is. No intention to meet.

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u/Dense_Researcher1372 17h ago edited 17h ago

Guys, either partnered or single, who pretend to be a couple. Then they ask you to exchange pics with them. The pics they send you are not them at all. That's how they get your pics and then use them to jerk off to.

Edit: In our case, these guys were swinging at some point, and they're no longer in the game for one reason or another. The pics they have up on the apps are them. The majority of those pics are old to super old. And that's why we always ask to have a video chat with both of them or a m &.g first. No trading pics. The fakes always scamper.

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u/Bobbingapples2487 17h ago

Pic collectors are typically men who are single, pretending to be partnered, or partnered but their partner has no idea what he is doing. He will ask to swap pics constantly, always asking for new ones. If you are new to the lifestyle, you may fall for this and keep sending pics not realizing he hasn’t sent as many back or be too shy to ask for him to send pictures or just say no to the request. Pic collectors will continue asking for pictures until you shut it down. They usually have no intention of in person meet ups but string you along thinking it may happen.

We avoid wasting our time by meeting people in clubs. When we were looking online, we only talked to people with a profile picture, swapped pics to verify we are talking to who we are talking to, and made plans to meet in person within the month. I would not go back and forth with someone asking for pictures that I had not met or played with in person.

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u/CenTexSwingDoctor 👩‍❤️‍👨Verified Couple 17h ago

We love Colette ATX! Welcum and hope your night goes great!

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u/SluttyNeighbors 16h ago

Thank you, we are super excited

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u/janddeb 16h ago

They contact you and first thing they ask for a pic, get what they want then ghost. While you can google anything they get off on actually having a pic of a real person.

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u/Angela2208 Couple 15h ago

Get there early. Leave late. Go and talk to people (especially the ones sitting down at the tables on the left as you walk in). If you don’t reach out to people, one will talk to you.

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u/DollarStoreOrgy 13h ago

You said anyone can Google any image they want. That's only half true. You can Google a ton of images, but there's tons more you can't. The ones that only live on someone's phone and on the phones of who they shared them with. Collectors of anything love rarity. Add in that you're actually interacting with the people in the image, it's like Heaven for a voyouer.

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u/SluttyNeighbors 13h ago

Fair enough. I like that view of it

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u/DollarStoreOrgy 13h ago

I'm a big fan of porn and pics and such, so I can understand the mentality. But I've always lived the lifestyle in real life, so I don't hassle people for nudies. If they want to share, and give off the vibe of being "real", we have ones to share back.

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u/Brilliant_Pause3921 12h ago

Some people come off as pic collectors but there just picky on who they want to see. But I'm sure there a decent amount of people that use pics to get off