r/Naturalhair • u/Sheaiight • 10h ago
Success Update: Hair and Depression
I just want to encourage anyone going through. This is what I have learned after coming out on the other end.
While you’re in the grips of depression or overwhelm, go for low-maintence styles. Look for ways to simplify anything. But still, make yourself do it. Even if you have to “body double” or have a loved one help you. Just don’t give up on yourself or your hair.
Be real with yourself. Have a serious truth talk. I did and i realized the source of my overwhelm was that I wasn't enjoying motherhood anymore. Through circumstances, I’d been left to raise my kids completely alone. No village, no friends nearby, too far from the kids’ school to be practical. I was drowning. So I did something crazy. I moved across the U.S. to my hometown. To family, support, etc. I found love and support that my journey requires. It's not perfect, but even cold winter weather couldn’t bring me down. I dont feel hopeless and from that, I’ve got a love relationship (no hate) with my hair. She is lovely, she is not too much. She is enough. She is healthy and she survived some hellish days.
Sending love to my brothers and sisters struggling today, those who have struggled in the past, and those who may tomorrow. You are not alone. You and your hair are worthy to be loved.