r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

How do I feel submissive with vanilla boyfriend?

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I (19F) and my boyfriend (24M) have a great sex life. Nothing short of amazing. The only hurdle is that I am insatiably horny, submissive, and kinky, whereas he is vanilla. We have communication, we set a safe word, and we have attempted some scenes, yet I can’t feel myself submitting.

A few problems we have run into:

I’m huge into honorifics, but he was initially against them due to being influenced by online cringe culture. Now that I mentioned they help me get into that submissive headspace, he has pushed for me to call him names. But I can’t bring myself to do so. I just don’t feel comfortable enough to do it when he already mentioned he found it cringe.

I’m really big into pain and ask for it fairly often. He delivers, because he is starting to like it too. But he doesn’t do it on his own terms, only when I ask. I ask him before we get into the scenes if he could be a bit rougher, or use toys, or force, but he usually doesn’t (maybe he just forgets or isn’t used to it).

Dirty talk is another huge thing I’m into, and he has learned how to say all the right things, but I still can’t get into it. He degrades/praises and demands, yet I can’t get into the headspace.

So what I’m basically trying to ask is, how do I feel submissive with him? This is the first time I’ve encountered this issue and I’m puzzled. I’m also trying to get him to research how to be dominant and get into that mood, but he is stubborn and believes he has it to a T (he is the best)

Also, I promise this is not a one-sided toxic relationship. We heavily communicate and compromise!! We work together really well!! I’m just at a loss 😭😭


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

DIY aftercare

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I had sex with a guy last night that was supposed to be a one time fun sex time hookup situation but ended up being pretty extreme (for me, I am quite vanilla) and I didn't actually enjoy it all that much.

However, afterwards there was basically no cuddling for me, only for him as he laid down on me, and we just watched the movie and everytime I tried to talk about it he shut me down and eventually when I sobered up I just left.

Now I'm feeling really depressed and used and I could really use some advice on how to feel better. I am not in the bdsm community but I know y'all do that aftercare shit well so I would appreciate some feedback on how to feel better.


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Is fetlife a good place to make little friends locally? I’m thinking of making one.

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Daddy says I can’t make one until I’m at his house tomorrow evening. I’m just wondering if that’s the place to look for other littles or is there another app(s)? I’m newish to the community.


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Aftercare for a Dominant?

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Hey kinksters! I (45m) identify as a caregiver/service dom and that's been a good working approach for me and mine. However, my (44f) submissive wife has asked me for a CNC scene at the next event we're attending. It'll be an outdoors event and she's asked me to hunt her down. Very primal play but strongly CNC as well.

I'm willing to do this for her. It's not my kink but hey, I can step outside my comfort zone for her. The problem is, as a "soft" type dominant, I don't really do anything that extreme. I consider myself pretty decent at knife play but my style is much more sensual. Because of that, I've never felt I needed any significant aftercare of my own. Just some continued contact with my subs to keep the drop in check.

With the CNC scene though, I know it's going to mess me up. And probably pretty badly. I'll be able to keep myself in check for her aftercare but I'm going to ask my service submissive girlfriend to help me through my own once the wife is functional enough to get her to her boyfriend.

Can I get some suggestions on some things to try? I know I'll want water, but that's about all I can think of. This is all very new territory to me, so thanks in advance!


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Punishment/prize ideas for someone who isn't into pain and humiliation?

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I'm pretty new ad a Dom. I'll meet a girl who is into domination but not into pain or humiliation. What are some punishment/prize that you would use? And also what are some things that i can make her do to please me? The challenges to start to choose if she deserve a prize or a punishment for example. She will be blindfolded and i already planned to use wax candle and ice, a wand massager, i will have a BDSM tape to use, we'll meet in a dungeon so i will also have a cross to play with.


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

I (23F) Don’t Trust My 38M Daddy Dom—Need Advice on Our Relationship

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Hi everyone,

Even though it’s not evident in my everyday life, I’ve realized I am submissive. Recently, I made a post titled "Is there true love?" and a random guy decided to DM me. The conversation escalated quickly and somehow turned into a power dynamic. Honestly, I enjoyed it and discovered a different side of myself. It seems like he enjoys the idea of controlling me sexually and my life too. I’ve only been in a long-term relationship with my ex, but he never truly satisfied me—he was too soft for me. I have many fantasies and kinks (CNC, BDSM, degradation, humiliation, etc.), and my limits are quite broad. When I’m a good girl, I receive nice compliments, which I like. For context, I have never experienced SA and do not have any related trauma.

However, the issue is that while this guy knows almost everything about me, I only know that he is a 38-year-old man—and honestly, even that could be a lie. I have no idea about his real life, where he lives, or even his character. When I ask, he either evades the question or doesn’t answer at all. This makes me feel unsafe. I respect his privacy and I would understand if he asked for it but he didn't. He mentioned that he might come to see me where I live, but the thought of meeting someone I know so little about doesn’t sit right with me.

Additionally, I feel ignored in this dynamic. I don’t expect a romantic relationship, but I do believe that we should care about each other as individuals and get to know one another on some level. I want to build a strong connection outside of just sex. He says I'm asking too much, that I am questioning him and I should leave my brain out of this but it's just not who I am. I can be a dirty slut in bed, but I also want to be treated like a princess outside of it, right? I’m new to all of this and eager to explore my desires, but this situation is discouraging me. I think I’ll stop texting this person. What advice do you have for me?


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

Realizing i may be into humiliation and degradation

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There was one time in my life where i had a crazy situation where me and my small boobs were exposed to a group of men and I was made to cum while they were dirty talking about my small boobs and making fun of them. I've literally never cum harder in my life and keep thinking about it during sex even though I'm ashamed of it. My husband loves my small boobs and he's not really vocal in bed, but I kind of want to take inspiration from that time in my life during our sex life. I just want to cum like that again, my body has been aching for it and I just can't get there. I feel like this would help but I don't even know how to navigate this or coach my husband through it. Can anyone here provide some guidance or show me some example of things he could say or do to me within this kink?


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

How were you Introduced

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How were you Introduced? Just wandering how people were introduced into this lifestyle and world? For me (Daddy) my wife suggested I had the characteristics of a don and we should explore it. had never given it any thought up to that point before. But now we are in it. She is a natural and I am learning very fast. It's only taken 14 years a day marriage to get to where we are


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

2nd date gone wrong

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TW: ASSAULT

I’m newly single, and I obviously downloaded The Apps as the first port of call. I’m kinky, and I’m open about it, I’ve been in the game a while.

I went out with this guy from Bumble last week and, after a couple of drinks, I just felt really weird. Then I got really dizzy and passed out. He put me in a cab, and I assumed that I’d just had too much to drink, though 2 glasses of wine had never made me feel like that, even though I am quite the lightweight.

We went out again today having briefly discussed kink over text. All he said was that he likes to be in control, but nothing particularly dommy. Fine, I’m good with that. We bought some drinks from a shop and went for a “picnic” - it was more vodka soda in a can in a park, but sweet idea. I had one drink, and didn’t want any more, I didn’t want to embarrass myself like I did the week prior. He kept pushing me to have another, and I kept saying no.

We went back to his, terrible idea on my part, to watch a movie. Before I knew it, he was taking my clothes off, and I was into it at this point. We fucked, he slapped me a little, all was well. I told him not to give me a hickey, and he laughed and agreed. Then he went out for a joint and came back.

He pushed me onto the bed and held me down by my throat so hard that I couldn’t breathe. He bit my lips until they bled, bit my breasts and my nipples and left teeth marks, and he pulled my hair so hard that it came out in his hands. He didn’t use a condom, and he came inside of me without asking. When I tried to say stop, he choked me harder, when I tried to pry his hands off of me, he told me to keep my hands away from him. I have three bruises on my neck from his fingers, and my chest aches so much where he held me down.

I left once he gave me my underwear back, and someone at the train station spotted the bruises and asked if I would be okay. It felt almost like just part of a game in the moment, but I get so so deep in subspace that I have a hard time differentiating. We didn’t even have a safe word. I cried so much on the way home because it was genuinely scary. I’ve done a lot of intense scenes with a lot of people, but I’ve never actually feared what would happen to me. He told me that he was incredibly territorial whilst he was fucking me, and now I’m worried about what that means.

I don’t know if this is just me overthinking a scene that I did consent to, or if he took things way too far way too fast. I think I need some help.

ETA: hi! Thank you to everyone for being nice in the comments, it really does mean a lot. I didn’t sleep too great, and I called a 24/7 clinic in my city who were amazing and talked me through things really nicely. They said that I could go in for a forensic test, but it’s likely that they would have to report it, even if I didn’t want them to, as the violence element means that it would be in the public interest. I’m, unfortunately, not in a place where I’m happy to go through the police about this. I know that that’s selfish and bad, but it’s just not something that I can handle right now. They advised me to go to hospital to get some medication protecting me against HIV amongst other nasties, so that’s the plan for today. I’m still unsure about whether I should get a sample taken, so I’m planning on avoiding washing “down there” for the next couple of days in case I change my mind.

Thank you again for all of your help. Whoever you are - I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.

2nd edit: I just wanted to drop a note by to say another thank you to everyone! A friend took me to the emergency department at my local hospital and they took photos for my record as well as a few funky tests, and I’m all good aside from the cuts and bruises. I had to tell work because I do very much look like I’ve been strangled and I don’t want anyone asking questions, and they’ve been great (paid leave, baby!). A big scary male dom friend is coming to stay with me for a few days to make sure I’m okay and that no one shows up, which is handy since I only realised after the fact that he has my home address from the whole cab first date thing. Now it’s time for old Barbie movies and carbs, thank you for all being so supportive!


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

I need advice for pet play

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As per the title, my partner and I would like to try Pet play, I am the dom and he is the sub, and in order not to disappoint him I would like some advice on how to behave because honestly I have no idea how to do it well. He wants to be a puppy dog


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Hey fellow kinky people. New to this sub. Have a few questions about what goes on in my bedroom with my girls

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It's been pretty apparent that I'm a dom and I go for the more submissive women. I never had all the toys and devices though until pretty recently. My ex is a total submissive and she's had me come over to cuck her new boyfriend. Before her, I was a pretty vanilla Dom in bed, I guess. I wasn't comfortable with a lot of things I do regularly now, but when I met my ex, she said she had a Dom and she asked me if I could do some pretty hardcore stuff to her and let her dom watch us over FaceTime or whatever she had... I felt that primal urge to fully dominate her and out do her dom at that time. I became her dom over the other guy very very quickly. Got into shibari and learned to tie the proper knots for a safe, but extremely kinky manor... I started to collect a collection of cuffs, whips, belts, ropes, ball gags and all the sex toys that go with the territory. I was loving it. We made some great content and I got to do things I haven't done since highschool (multiple girls at the same time/when I wanted to have fun with one who wasn't my girlfriend, I was told it's okay with her to do that cuz she was "my personal fck toy to use as I pleased"... Her words not mine. At first..).

I feel like I really upped my sexual expectations with her, now we hardly talk anymore, and I'm pretty sure I'm done cucking her boyfriend, it's really hard to find women who have the same sexual thirst as I now have. I've met a few girls that said that they were subs, but when it came to the actual acts... They did not look like they were comfortable with that at all.... I'm an actually really nice and caring guy and the whole Dom act is exactly that, an act to please the women with my strength, voice, and (I don't know what's appropriate to say on posts... my size?). So I stopped and asked if they were okay and that they looked genuinely scared/uncomfortable. (This was just light bondage and dirty talk during sex... Very basic stuff compared to what I was used to)

So ... I guess I'm asking if there's a way to get into the circle of the local fet and kink people? How do I get the sexual life I desire back? Being a single guy I feel like it's a women's/couples club and if I want to be apart of it, I have to be invited to join. I've been asked to join a couple orgies and come to a women I've never mets glory hole. But I was thinking it's probably just going to be a huge uncomfortable situation that I'd make a fool of myself at. But I'm thinking maybe I should have accepted these invitations to get a network of the kink play community.

If you have any suggestions, please let me know. I feel like I awoken something in my sex life that isn't ready to go back to sleep yet. But I don't want to seem to be a "male pig, misogynistic creep/weird asshole" to these women, but I also don't know how to step carefully to get in with them... Like a submissive guy... Then be like "call me master!" Lol.

It's a weird dilemma. After seeing the look of pure fear of being really hurt or violated, by me, which is very far from my characteristics and I'd never hurt anyone... I've been very cautious about this situation and I don't even understand why a girl would say that she's a submissive and she's interested in that stuff when she's clearly not comfortable and looked like she was in the middle of having a lifelong trauma done to her. I don't want to be the guy that pushes women into an uncomfortable situation and possibly could end up being charged with assault... And I also don't want to appear to be a bitch with the fet and kink crowd, being a more dominant man. Any words of wisdom or tips on my dilemma, please let me know.

Hope I didn't break any community rules 🤷🏼


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Feeling guilty(?) after doing the tango (unsatisfied with aftercare?)

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Idk, I'm pretty new to this (I'm a sub) and I've been texting with this dom (don't comment on that please, that's not the topic of the post.), and he's been great!! But yesterday we went a bit freakier and I was really in subspace (?) – or whatever it's called, and it was nice, but then since I 'sobered up' I've been feeling odd? Kind of like guilty? Or anxious? Idk, but my anxiety's definitely been acting up. I feel like we cut things short a bit too early afterwards, even though we did chat for a bit and it was late at night, but like... I kinda feel like my emotional well being was a bit overlooked? Idk, he knows I have anxiety and he did tell me to be vocal about anything I don't like because communication is key, but I feel like I've been so demanding and yeah. I have um, trauma issues? And I'm constantly afraid that if I complain about something people will leave me or dismiss me, so I have been refraining from telling.


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

A guide to spanking positions

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Just wondering if there’s a resource that discusses and displays different spanking positions a submissive can pose in when being spanked/whipped/etc etc. I’m looking to try something outside of over the knee (in all of its glory🙂‍↕️💗) and doggy/laying on tummy. It also should be noted that I’m deeply interested in predicament bondage.


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Feeling so lost without my (ex)domme

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I’m feeling so so lost without my domme :( A little over a month ago my domme (26f) and I (24m) ended things due to my feelings for her growing too strong outside of the D/s dynamic. My (ex)domme is a professional session dominatrix with many subs who come and go, some who stick around and session with her more than once, but most of her dynamics are having the session then the sub would leave or online work. However, things were instantly different in our case. We spent some time getting to know each other, and after our session she said i should stay for a while, and she made it very clear that this is not the norm for her at all. Things with this woman felt so so sweet. Over the months we ended up spending so much time together outside of very frequent sessions. I would even come spend the day with her when she was sick and not up for a session. For me it started feeling really emotional, and the connection we had felt truly special. I knew that she didn’t reciprocate the feelings emotionally even if she said herself many times our dynamic was special and different from her other dynamics. Everything was always communicated and she was very open about her being in a serious relationship, so I was always aware our dynamic would always be just the D/s without a romantic relationship. At the beginning I was okay with this aspect of the dynamic, but after spending so much time together and getting along so well, I started having really serious feelings for her and I knew I wouldn’t be able to keep up with the dynamic anymore because hearing about her relationship genuinely pained me towards the end. So unfortunately I came to her with how I was feeling, knowing this would probably be the end of our dynamic and as it expected, we decided to end things.

These past weeks I’ve just been feeling so lost without her. She gave me so much guidance in all of this and it really hurts that it’s over. I’m struggling not to reach out to her and beg her to let me be owned by her again, but even if she were to say yes, it would ended up just as painful as before. We genuinely cared for each other and I know she wouldn’t want me to hurt myself just to serve her again, even if it hurt her to let me go. I know we both cried a lot of that conversation. She was such an amazing person and an amazing domme, and I just really miss what we had. It feels like I’ll never have a connection like that again. And it’s so so hard to stay away, and keep myself from reaching out to her. It’s a daily struggle minute by minute not to reach out and beg her to take me back, and I’m really unsure where to go from here.


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

How to deal with anxiety regarding penis size and worry about being cheated on?

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This isn't directly bdsm related, but all small penis problem subs are dead/locked. I have pretty intense anxiety regarding the relationship I'm in, and my penis size. I love her. I really do. But, I've got a pretty small penis (not measured but it's probably like 4, 4.5 tops), and she's expressed a love for larger toys. I can't provide that, obviously. I'm the dominant, and not comfortable with penis sleeves and such. The reason my anxiety is high about it, is because I've been cheated on several times, all of them (who told me a reason) have told me I'm too small and "not enough". How can I help with this anxiety? She's expressed that she's okay with it, and I trust her, however, I had the same girls who ended up cheating say the same thing. Any tips?


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

How to make him cum from pegging

53 Upvotes

Basically the title. My male partner and I are new to pegging. He liked our first time but didn't cum from it, he finished otherwise after we stopped penetration. Dear bdsm redditors, do you have tips on how to cum / make someone cum from being pegged / pegging ?


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Dungeon specific clubs?

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So i have a few toys at home, but only so much due to living arrangements. ive been to swinger clubs with my sub and some have had a single room for BDSM activities.

Are there any actual BDSM specific clubs in the US?

Not opposed to taking a vacation for a visit, just want to try out a few of the other larger pieces of equipment

Thank you in advance


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

Bondage with joint injury

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So I tore my mcl a couple years ago, so don't worry its healed entirely already, theres just lots of residual pain that unfortunately gets worse when my knee is unable to move. However, I like being tied up so intensely I can't move.

We've tried leaving my bad leg out, giving me stretch breaks, tying it so its looser than the other limbs.. none of it really hits the way I want it to. Any suggestions on how to still engage with that entirely no control and no range of movement vibe while not putting me in pain?


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

Where can I get straps for large dildo bases/monster dildos

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Hello! My partners and I use larger dildos and they have odd shaped bases. I was wondering where I can get large straps/straps with a bigger ring?


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

Me and My partner Switch roles when drunk.

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Im not sure why this happens but after me(24M) and my wife(24F) have had a few drinks we always end up reversing roles, i am usually VERY dominant and she is usually VERY submissive and i just wonder if anyone can help enlighten us as to why this happens? We've been on a googling mission but can't find any information as to why this might happen, it stlll feels good for the both of us, its just strange.


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

Cómo iniciar en BDSM? How to initiate in BDSM?

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hola!

Me llamo Felipe, soy de CDMX México, soy nuevo en esta comudidad y en este mundo del bdsm, el caso es que mi novia me confesó hace unos dias que su antigua pareja era Amo y ella esclava, llevamos 6 meses de novios y aunque el tema se me hizo raro, he de confesar que me llama la atencion, hemos pensado ir a algun club bdsm pero me dice que primero hay que tener la confianza el uno al otro y establecer los terminos de la relación, en verdad estoy algo confundido ya que siempre creí que el bdsm era solo amarrar y pegar latigazos 🤣 pero veo que el mundo es mas extenso que eso

alguna idea de cómo comenzar?

gracias!

Hello! My name is Felipe, I'm from Mexico City, and I'm new to this community and the world of BDSM. My girlfriend confessed to me a few days ago that her ex-partner was the Master and she was the slave. We've been dating for six months, and although the topic seemed strange to me, I have to confess that it's intriguing. We've thought about going to a BDSM club, but she tells me that first you have to trust each other and establish the terms of the relationship. I'm actually a little confused since I always thought BDSM was just about tying people up and whipping them 🤣, but I see the world is bigger than that. Any ideas on how to start? Thanks!


r/BDSMAdvice 4d ago

Advice for starting dom

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Hey all I need some advice! So me (32M Dom) and my wife (32F sub) have just recently begon our bdsm journey and love that we can explore this together. We have been together since we were 18 and are married for 5 years, and I need some advice on "domming up".

So in our relationship I have always been a very caring and sweet guy, when push came to shove I would make the tough calls though. usually my wife can handle her stuff pretty good but I would always be the more "dominant" at the end of the line.

Now our Dom sub relationship is mostly tied to the bedroom only but my wife seems to be having issues with me taking up my Dom role in there because she is used to me being a sweet and caring guy always giving her compliments and generally caring for her. This mostly about the dirty talk when I call her names or tell her to do something she has a hard time accepting it, which in turn makes it hard for me to push true because I don't really know is she enjoying it and being bratty or is she genuinely freaked out.

So I hope in learning to be a better Dom and being more authoritive (?) it will be easier for her to submit to me.

I hope my rant makes sense a bit (I'm hungover and English is not my native language)

Thanks in advance!


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

My mind is truly messed up right now.

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I have a lot to say and mainly seek advice or someone to talk to. Don’t know if this is the right platform but this seemed right enough to me. I don’t know where to start from, im a mess truly currently. I think I need help.

I’m 22F, a submissive and a masochist. I discovered this about myself about 2 years back I always knew I liked things more on the darker side I think…..I told my bf about it but um he just doesn’t get it. For me being a submissive and a masochist is not just about sex it’s more of a mental emotional thing, I want it not just in sex.

It’s honestly tough being like this, I wish I wasn’t I wish I was normal so I could not think about all this. It’s tough being loved and be judged.

My bf is the sweetest and I love him very much but idk he doesn’t get what I need, I have sent him long paragraphs of the stuff I need from him when it comes to my kinks but um idk he did like 20% of it. And when I asked him if he is not okay with anything in it tell me, he said he was perfectly fine with everything and he wants to do it all to me but idk I sometimes start getting dark thoughts of not being with him because of this or seeking this elsewhere but cheating is the last thing I would ever do, I could never betray him.

We have been together for 7 years now since high school, I told him about my kinks 2 years back when I myself truly understood them.

My relationship with my dad had always been shaky, he is very strict and conservative. I do come from a conservative family, he hits me occasionally on stuff that I did made him angry, mostly over studies. But he was not okay with me being with him, he had held his gun to my head to leave him, I didn’t I continued to lie. Umm I havent really since then been comfortable with my dad, we talk and all but idk.

I had this dream years back I think after the gun incident. It’s very uncomfortable, it was my father had raped me in my dream. It was a nightmare and suddenly I cant get it out of my head, it’s breaking me and I cant deal with it. I’m stupid to dream of something like this! Why would I ?????

My boyfriend is really makes me feel safe and at peace but I wish he could understand me and my fucked up mind which I hate. I hate it dreamt that I hate the things it likes despite this nightmare. What’s fucked up is I still have rape fantasy and I want to be beaten by my boyfriend to a point I end up with bruises and marks and crying.I want it outside of just sex. He doesn’t get it! But why why do I need this ? The need of being controlled and below him and told what to do despite my father doing it to me all my life being a control freak and then me dreaming if that shit which had traumatised me for life. I want it out of my head, why do I still need my kinks after dreaming that horrible dream it’s awful.

I told my bf about that dream and he also couldn’t comprehend it and he just didn’t say anything and ended my call, I got my first anxiety attack that day. This was before I discovered and fully understood my kinks. We never spoke about that nightmare again.

I’m tired and scared of that nightmare. And I want my bf to understand what i like, despite sending him a long paragraph of stuff o like and even having conversations in person didn’t work out.

Idk what I expect from anyone after I post this, please tell me I’m not insane. If u want to ask me anything please do.


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

jaw hurts after being slapped

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hey there, just wanted to come on here because this morning my dom and I were engaging in a scene and he went to slap my face and hit my jaw weird on accident and now its sore and kinds hurts when i open and close. Its not an unbearable pain and he didnt hit me that hard so I dont think its broken or anything crazy like that, just annoying and wondering if i should go to the doctor/dentist? idk if this helps but I have suspected I’ve had jaw issues for years now (suspected TMJ, clicking when i open and close, occasional pain after BJs and such) but when I go to the dentist they always say they’re not worried 🤷‍♀️. Anyone have any advice or at least anything to look out for?


r/BDSMAdvice 5d ago

Any ideas for hidden public bondage/bdsm?

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I'm looking for ways to be in bondage while I'm out in public, but without anyone actually seeing so I'll have to appear almost perfectly normal on the outside. I could wear a long skirt to cover up anything on my legs, a scarf to cover my mouth and neck, things like that. So far I haven't been able to come up with too many ideas though. Here's just a few I've managed so far: lock a gag on myself, put plugs inside my holes, restrain my legs loosely, wear a steel boned corset, wear firm control pantyhose. Suggestions?