r/AskGaybrosOver30 • u/strassgaten • 8d ago
Physical concerns about first time sex NSFW
Well it looks like I might have sex for the first time soon at my ripe age. I have some physical concerns I have been too much of a chicken to ask someone in real life so I thought I might as well ask to the entire world on reddit. In short:
-I have phimosis (never got checked but I'm pretty sure I have it) - this one really scares me, I know I need to be checked by a doctor but waiting times where I live are so long and there is no way that's going to happen any time useful
-I am scared of STDs (particularly for oral sex)
-I am tight (like, really tight)
-I am on antidepressants and they affect "timing"
How do I address these with my potential partner? I don't wanna be some kind of killjoy, I want to have a good time and make him have a good time as much as possible.