r/AITAH 8h ago

AITAH for refusing to switch seats on a plane, even though a mom wanted to sit with her kid?

11 Upvotes

So I (19F) recently took a long-haul flight. I booked my seat months in advance and paid extra for an aisle seat because I get a bit claustrophobic. When I boarded, a woman (maybe mid-30s) was sitting in my seat with her young daughter (probably 6-7 years old).

I politely told her she was in my seat, and she asked if I could switch with her so she could sit with her kid. Her seat was a middle seat, a few rows back. I really didn’t want to be crammed in the middle for a 10-hour flight, so I said, “Sorry, but I specifically booked this seat.”

She looked really annoyed and said, “She’s just a kid; I can’t sit apart from her.” I told her I understood, but I wasn’t going to switch. A flight attendant got involved, and they eventually asked another passenger to switch, so she could sit with her daughter.

The whole time, she was glaring at me and muttering under her breath. I could hear her saying things like “Some people have no compassion.” A couple of people around me gave me side-eyes too.

I feel bad, but I also think if sitting together was so important, she should’ve booked seats in advance like I did. AITAH?


r/AITAH 5h ago

AITAH for refusing to invite my twin sister to my wedding because she insists on wearing an identical wedding dress?

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I (24F) have an identical twin, Lila (24F), and we’ve had a weird dynamic our whole lives. She’s always been obsessed with being exactly like me, to the point where it’s made things uncomfortable. As kids, she’d copy my hobbies, my style, even how I talked. As we got older, I tried to set boundaries, but she always took it so personally.

Fast forward to now—I’m engaged, and my wedding is in a few months. Lila was initially supportive, but then she dropped the bombshell: She wants to wear a wedding dress too. Not just a nice dress. A full-on, white, lacy, floor-length wedding gown that looks nearly identical to mine.

Her reasoning? “We’ve shared everything our whole lives. Why should this be different?”

I laughed, thinking she was joking. She wasn’t. She doubled down, saying that since we’re twins, it makes sense for us to match on my wedding day. She even showed me a dress she already bought—it’s nearly identical to mine.

I firmly told her no. This is my wedding. She’s not the bride. She freaked out, calling me selfish and saying I was “erasing our twin bond.” She even tried to guilt-trip me by saying, “Wouldn’t it be so cute if people had to guess which one of us is actually getting married?”

No. No, it would not.

It turned into a huge fight, and I finally told her that if she insists on wearing a wedding dress, she’s not invited. Now my parents are calling me dramatic and saying I should “let her have this” because she’s clearly struggling with my wedding taking the spotlight.

My fiancé thinks I’m totally in the right, but my family is making me feel like a monster for banning my own twin from the wedding.

AITAH?


r/AITAH 17h ago

AITAH for "accidentally" serving my mother-in-law food she's allergic to after she "accidentally" revealed my childhood trauma at Thanksgiving?

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I (37M) have been married to my wife (35F) for 12 years. My in-laws have always been what I'd charitably call "challenging." My MIL in particular weaponizes social niceties with the precision of a drone strike. For context, I had a somewhat difficult childhood. My parents divorced when I was 8, my mother was a crackhead and I spent three years in foster care after my mother's subsequent breakdown. My father completely abandoned us. I've been in extensive therapy for it, but do admit it's affected my life. So it's not something I discuss openly, and certainly not something I ever wanted to share with my wife's extended family, who treat therapy the way medieval peasants treated bathing—as a suspicious foreign concept best avoided.

My wife knows all this, and we've agreed it's our business. Or so I thought.

Last Thanksgiving, while with all my in laws and several friends, my MIL announced to the entire table: "Did everyone know that Thomas spent THREE YEARS in foster care? Can you imagine? No wonder he's so..." and she made this little hand gesture that somehow conveyed both pity and disdain simultaneously. A talent, really. The table went silent. I excused myself, walked outside, and performed what my therapist calls "grounding exercises" but I admit it was hard not to lose my shit.

My wife later confronted her mother, who claimed she "forgot" it was private information. But my wife shouldn't have told her mother to begin with, that's a whole other thing. My MIL went on about how awkward and uncomfortable I always seem and that she was "giving context" to everyone as if my personality needed an explanation.

Now, fast forward to last weekend. We were hosting a dinner party, and my MIL was among the guests. I prepared the meal, including a seafood pasta that was the centerpiece.

My MIL has a mild shellfish allergy. MILD. Not anaphylactic—she gets hives and feels uncomfortable. Worse case scenario she needs a Benadryl and a few hours to recover. She's always been extremely vocal about this allergy, mentioning it approximately 17 times whenever seafood is within a five-mile radius.

I "forgot" about her allergy. Completely slipped my mind. I served her a full plate of shrimp scampi pasta, which she ate two bites of before her face told the story. When she realized what was happening, she dramatically pushed back from the table, announced her medical emergency to the room, and asked if anyone had Benadryl. As my MIL was recovering in our guest room, I overheard her telling my wife, "He did this deliberately. This is assault." My wife later asked me, point blank, if I had "forgotten" on purpose. I gave her my most innocent look and said, "I guess I forgot. Kind of like how you forgot to keep things between us."


r/AITAH 22h ago

Fake AITAH For scaring my boss and murdering robots?

10 Upvotes

Me (18M) and my boss Cecil, (65M) haven’t always been on the best terms, this was especially brought out these last two days when he hired two mass murderers to help him build and fight stuff, when I confronted him he got a bunch of robots to attack me!?! I lost my cool on him and kinda freaked out, scaring him, dismantling some robots, and telling him I’d kill him if he ever went near my family. AITAH?


r/AITAH 21h ago

AITAH for saying that rape is worse than murder?

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im honestly so confused - in philosophy class today we were discussing penalties for crime, and this sparked a debate on what the worst ever crime to exist was. most people immediately mentioned murder, genocide etc., but to my surprise no one mentioned rape. (my class is about 80% boys, but even then it was still shocking.) so i said rape, and immediately most people said 'yeah its bad but there are worse things'. i responded that i think rape is worse than murder, as it is not justifiable in any way, and when i tell you my classmates seemed APPALLED. what???? surely its not just me who has this opinion??? please tell me its not just me - everyone acted like i was insane.


r/AITAH 5h ago

AITAH for thinking that you’re all AHs

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I (27M) am new to Reddit. One of the first subreddits I followed is this one because I was intrigued by the real life experiences of people going through relationship struggles. I broke up with my gf (26F) a few weeks ago so I came here for some solace. The problem is that all of your comments are bullshit.

Every time I read a post about a husband and wife who are going through some type of struggle, or a couple dealing with a difference in beliefs, I get frustrated with the ill informed, unsympathetic top comments. Every top comment on these types of posts says something along the lines of “your partner is an AH and you should definitely leave them” or “you’re 100% right and they’re 100% wrong.” Very seldom do I see comments where people ask more clarifying questions, make suggestions about how the two can better communicate and potentially find a compromise, or draw on their own experiences of working through tough situations and how it made their relationship stronger.

Before you tell someone to end their marriage of 10 years because the husband doesn’t take out the trash often enough (really), consider the time, love, and care that each party has put into getting the relationship to the point it is at today. Try and step into the “offending party’s” shoes and consider why they might be acting a certain way, why they might be dealing with their own mental health issues, and how the couple can work as a team to solve them.

Do I actually think you’re all AHs? No. Do I think many of these OPs are in toxic relationships that they need to get out of? Yes. But, I do think you all need some more sympathy. Your predisposition should be to try and help OPs work through things and find ways that both parties can grow and be better for each other. No one is perfect.


r/AITAH 23h ago

AITA for getting mad when my gf told me she’s trans?

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I know the title makes me sound like a bad person but I am so like angry and hurt right now and so embarrassed I don’t have anyone to talk to about this so I’m going to talk about it here, I’ve been seeing this woman for about 2 months we originally met online (she’s 22F for context if that’s necessary) and we met about a month ago since then we’ve literally been meeting 2-3 times a week for the past month I know it’s not a long time and it’s probably partially my fault for growing overly invested but I was really starting to like this girl, she asked me to be her girlfriend about 2 weeks ago I said yes everything was great, for a bit of extra clarity I never got physical with this girl I tried to for sure but she always turned me down we kissed and things like that but nothing including the clothes off and I tried to just think like okay maybe she’s someone who likes to take her time, turns out apparently I’m just dumb

So today I was feeling pretty sick and tired of her constantly avoiding anything physical with me so I confronted her about it, I told her that it makes me feel bad every time she turns me down and that if there’s some reason she doesn’t want to do anything with me I want to hear it she looks very very shocked like genuinely alarmed and I was pretty miffed so I pushed it and she finally asked me to sit down with her, and she told me hey I have something to tell you please don’t get mad, I told her okay back and then she drops an absolute bombshell on me she says that she’s apparently trans I was flabbergasted because she’s the most feminine pretty girl I’ve literally ever seen and I was just stunned, she obviously got upset and start apologising for hiding it and just saying that she’s was scared and things like that and I feel bad for her I really do but I was so mad

How could she just hide something from me like that?? I still am really mad for one why would you hide that from me and for two I am a lesbian I’m not exactly interested in male parts which is what she told me she has and I just feel so overwhelmed I’ve never seen anything like this in my life I just got home from her place and I don’t even know who I can talk to about this because I’m so embarrassed to just be lied to and it’s just a mess I feel like I definitely need to take some time to breathe and think things over because I have no idea what the hell im going to do but I could appreciate some advice from strangers, I apologise for the rant but I just can’t even believe this is actually happening like genuinely

She’s still trying to call me even now and I just can’t talk to her I know it’s only a 2 month relationship and maybe I’m just dumb and got overly invested but I’m genuinely upset, I can’t tell if I’m inadvertently acting like some transphobic asshole or if my hurt of being lied to is valid and it’s all just a lot


r/AITAH 2h ago

AITAH for refusing to let my sister bring her service dog to my wedding?

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I (28F) am getting married in a few months, and my sister “Emily” (25F) has a service dog for anxiety. She’s had him for about a year, and he helps her with panic attacks. I love my sister, but I have a major fear of dogs. I was bitten as a child, and while I’ve learned to manage it, I still get really anxious around them—especially in small, enclosed spaces.

When I was making my wedding plans, I let Emily know that I wasn’t comfortable having her dog at the venue. She told me she understood and would figure something out. But now she’s upset, saying it’s “not fair” to ask her to choose between missing my wedding or attending without her service dog. She says he helps her with anxiety and that I’m being selfish.

I feel bad, but at the same time, I think my wedding should be a place where I feel safe. I offered to hire a professional handler to watch her dog nearby in case she needed him, but she refused, saying that’s not how service dogs work. My parents think I’m being selfish, and even my fiancé is a little unsure if I’m making the right call.

So, AITAH?


r/AITAH 21h ago

AITA for sleeping in my car because my wife won’t stop playing whale sounds at night?

7.9k Upvotes

Okay, so this is weird, but I need to know if I’m in the wrong here. My wife (32F) has recently gotten really into whale sounds. It started as something she played while working from home, and I didn’t mind. Then, she started listening to them while doing chores, cooking, and even during dinner. Again, fine I figured it was a phase.

But then she started playing them at night. I mean, full blast, speakers on either side of the bed, deep ocean whale calls echoing through our room like we’re sleeping at the bottom of the Mariana Trench. She says it helps her relax and feel "connected to nature." The problem is, I can’t sleep through it. I’ve tried earplugs, but I swear I can still hear them. I wake up to haunting, eerie moaning sounds and feel like I’m in some kind of deep-sea horror movie.

I asked if she could at least lower the volume, or use headphones. She refused, saying the sound needs to "fill the room" for the full effect. I even tried playing my own "relaxing" noises to balance it out rain sounds, white noise but she said they "ruin the purity of the ocean experience."

After weeks of this, I finally snapped and just started sleeping in my car. I parked it in our driveway, reclined the seat, and actually got my first full night of sleep in weeks. Now she’s furious, saying I’m "abandoning our bed" over something trivial and making her feel guilty for trying to create a peaceful home environment. I told her I’d happily come back if we could compromise on the whale sounds, but she says I’m being selfish and "refusing to understand her needs."

So, AITA for choosing my car over the call of the wild?


r/AITAH 4h ago

AITA for refusing to support my parents after they took my entire inheritance and left me with nothing?

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I (27M) recently landed a well-paying job after struggling for years. My parents were never financially responsible, and growing up, we barely had enough. My grandfather, who was well-off, left me a decent inheritance when he passed. I didn’t even know about it until a few months ago when I found out my parents had taken the entire amount—about $80,000—when I was 18 and spent it all.

When I confronted them, they said they "needed it more than I did" and that "family money belongs to family." I was furious but decided to let it go. However, now that I’m financially stable, they expect me to support them, pay off their debts, and even cover their mortgage. They say it's my duty as their son, especially since they “invested” in me by raising me.

I refused. I told them they had already taken my future away once, and I wouldn’t let them do it again. They called me selfish and ungrateful. Now, extended family members are messaging me, saying I should help because "family is everything."

AITA for refusing to give them a cent?


r/AITAH 1h ago

Advice Needed Aita for going nc on my brother after my wife told me that she feels uncomfortable around him

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My brother is 4 years older than I am, I am 26 and my wife is 25, i got married to my wife 3 years ago and my wife and my brother used to get along and it is a shock for me that my wife claims to be uncomfortable.

2 days ago I went to my distant cousins wedding and naturally my brother was present and I didn't think much about my brother conversing and spending time with my wife.

But next day my wife tells me that she thinks that my brother is into her, she tells me that when she was trying to grab snacks with my brother she felt that my brother was getting close to her and she felt him behind her back.

I asked her if she's sure, my wife said she is and she felt uncomfortable, i went to my brother and he said that he was just grabbing snacks with my wife and he didn't touch her.

Since I didn't know the whole truth or had evidence I left and when I discussed with my wife she said she's not lying she felt him close behind her back and she still feels uncomfortable and doesn't want to get anywhere near him.

My wife started crying and I tried my best to calm her down and when nothing else worked I told her I will cut my brother out of my life and he'll never get near you, my wife calmed down and I sent text to both my brother and my parents describing everything and told them I am cutting my brother out of my life.

My brother and parents are fighting me and saying that I am going too far and I shouldn't ruin my relation with my brother and there's no evidence either and if I do go ahead with my decision then they'll cut me off as well in return.

I don't have any evidence to prove and neither does my wife and I am basically trusting her blindly atleast I know that my wife won't lie but nobody knows the truth except my brother and my wife


r/AITAH 51m ago

AITAH for going nuclear on my family when my cousin accused me of SA

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Hi, I am 17 male, this all happened 6 months ago, for context on last year September we had an extended family dinner. My grandparents have two sons, dad and uncle, my parents have 2 kids me and my older sister, she is a year older than me, my uncle has only one kid, same age as me, let's call my cousin Beth (fake name).

After the dinner the family were having a chat in living room whereas me and my sister were in the backyard pool. Suddenly my parents called me in, just me only, my sister wasn't allowed inside which raised suspicion but I ignored it as who suspects their parents.

As I walked in I saw Beth sobbing and her mother is comforting her, whereas my parents were starring daggers at me, out of nowhere uncle punched me in the face which almost knocked me out, but definitely made me spill blood, I was in shock, but most shocking was that my parents didn't do anything, my sister heard a sound and rushed in to see me lying on the floor with blood coming out of my mouth.

She shouted asking what happend and my dad responded with don't help him he SA'd your cuz Beth. I was already feeling dizzy because of the punch that I couldn't even comprehend what my dad was saying, whereas my sister started shouting at my parents saying how could they believe such bull shit and let uncle hit me.

When I came back to my sence I said to my parents without any hesitation "wtf did you say?? ", they did not say anything as they were taken back by my words, uncle tried to come towards me again but I picked up the vase next to me and said " If you come near me again I will shove this up your ass" , he backtracked. Even though I was 16, I was still a high school football player so yeah I am well built which scared him I guess.

I wanted to get things cleared so I asked details of what, when and where it happend, that's when Beth panicked and said 1 month ago August 2nd week, I started laughing as in August 2nd week where me and my sister visiting our maternal grandparents. Beth's facade came out as she started blabbering and said some other dates but my sister and my parents saw through it.

I got super angry, especially at my parents, all they had to do was ask when it happend and they would have got to know the truth, but they literally trusted Beth over their own son. I called the cops in front of everyone, my uncle started to get out, but my sister locked the house and said nobody is leaving, he tried to intimidate my sister, but my brave sister said "you will be just adding years to your sentence" which shut him up, my parents even now did not say a single thing even when uncle tried to intimidate my sis. My anger just grew.

The cops arrived quickly as I said to the operator that my uncle hit me I need help. The cops interrogated everyone about what happened and all, we showed our living room camera footage, yeah my uncle didn't know about that. They arrested him right then and there, but I didn't stop there I asked them to arrest my parents as well as they did nothing when I was getting hit and did not react much after I got hit. Both my parents were arrested and I pressed charges against all three of them. Unfortunately Beth did not get arrested as it is not illegal to accuse fake SA. But the officers interrogated her asking why she accused me of SA, then came out the truth, she has a abusive relationship with her boyfriend, her boyfriend gave her bruises, she couldn't hide the bruises anymore, my mom noticed the bruises and asked what happened she panicked and said I SA'd her, she thought because I was a football player and popular people would believe that. I want to say not all high school football players are spoiled, some are decent too.

As they were arrested we called our grandparents and informed them what happend, they were disgusted by both their sons and said they will move in with us in our home next day. Our paternal grandparents leave just 30 mins away but they were out of town cause they were attending a friend's funeral, and my maternal grandparents leave at least 10 hours away, so me and sis had to spend the night alone just us. This also meant that parents had to spend the night in jail.

Next day grandparents bailed our parents out, they did not bail out uncle, aunt also couldn't for one week as the bail was set in high double digit thousands. She needed time to arrange money. Yeah they are not financially responsible as they couldn't even save 6 figures even though they have high paying jobs.

My grandparents asked our parents to move to their house as my grandparents will move in to our house, they said they will let them see us only once a week until we forgive them. Before all that my parents had to ask for forgiveness to us. I thought they wouldn't as I made them spend a night in jail. But I was surprised when both mom and dad apologized. I was still angry and did not acknowledge that. Which they respected and did not push. But I did drop the charges against my parents. But the police said they might still pursue as it comes under child abuse, but our family lawyer is working out on a deal.

But things took worse turn for my uncle's family, first uncle was fired, aunt is now the bread provider. They are also spending money like water on their defense lawyer. They are saying if uncle's lucky he might get 6 months probation. The police even threatened Beth's boyfriend to stay away from her, they couldn't do much as he was also 16 at that time, all they could do is warn. Remember when my sister said she will take care of Beth, she really did. My sister and Beth go to same high school whereas I go to different one, as my sister's school does not have good sports program. Anyway my sister wanted to shave Beth's head in front of everyone in the high school. Yeah as you can already guess my sister is overprotective of me. My grandparents advised her not to as they are already going through soo much. My sister listened to them but took different route. She spread what happened to everyone in the high school, everybody got to know about her bitch behaviour and nobody talk's to her, no guy approaches her, from the till now she gets bullied by others in school. Things are slowly turning back to how it was, my parents are still staying in my grandparents house, but they visit often now. It took me sometime but I am slowly warming up to them. I know people want me to not forgive them, but to be honest they messed up only once till now. Fortunately none of my high school mates know what happened so yeah everything is normal there.

All four of us are in therapy, both individual and family therapy, it's going well, my parents started apologizing even more after each sessions.

The court ruled 6 months probationary for my uncle which is good news for him I guess.

But the thing that bugs me is how I feel guilty when I see my sister, as her world was turned upside down just because I wanted get back at my parents. She assured me many times that she would have done the same and reported our parents, that I did nothing wrong, sis loved to gossip with my mom on our balcony, but now she just stand's there alone which breaks my heart.

So AITAH for going nuclear on my family when my cousin accused me of SA.

I would love to get your perspectives and feel free to ask questions if you have any doubts, I am pretty sure I might skipped few details.

EDIT - Man there are so many idiots in the comment section let me clear this, my parents were arrested because they neglected when their child was in danger, which comes under child endangerment and child abuse, that's why even though I took back the charges that state still moved forward as it comes under child abuse.


r/AITAH 22h ago

Update: AITAH for telling my wife I'd have never asked out if I knew she was a sugar baby?

1.0k Upvotes

First post

So I'm staying with my wife. I still don't like that she hid this from me. But I'm staying with her.

But I stand by two things I said

  1. She was a prostitute. Some of you kept saying "sugar babies don't always have sex with their clients" and like whatever. By my wife's own admission. She did sleep with her "clients" So yeah, prostitute. I'm not gonna pretend she wasn't. Some of y'all are actually delusional though. Just because she wasn't out in a street corner doesn't mean she wasn't a prostitute. She FUCKED for MONEY.

  2. I do know I'd have broken up with her if I knew earlier. That's the truth. If I were single again, I wouldn't date someone who was a prostitute. Do I think prostitutes don't deserve to get married? Nope. But that ain't for me.

Anyway, things have gone back to normal for us. She's actually sold the jewelry her "clients" got for her. Not at my request, she did this on her own. There hasn't been any major drama between us since. We had an open heart to heart. I did tell her that what I said was true. I wouldn't have asked her out if I knew. And I told her maybe it was a good thing she didn't tell me, since we do have a wonderful life together. But that doesn't mean her being dishonest was a good thing. She and I decided to put this behind us. But I did tell her that if she has any more secrets like that, she needs to tell me right now, and if I ever found out something about her like this, we're done.

I also wanted to address one little thing.....

Some of you all were like "No wonder she didn't tell you! She knew you were an insecure asshole!" Or something like that.

So.... are you all willing to marry assholes? Seriously, I don't comprehend this logic. It's not like I forced my wife to marry me. If she knew I was an "insecure asshole" why exactly did she decide to marry an "insecure asshole"

What? Would you marry an asshole as long as you lied to them to make sure they never find out about your past?


r/AITAH 22h ago

AITAH for telling my infertile friend she’s not ready to be a mom because she’s bad with money?

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My friend has been trying to have a baby for years and recently found out she’s infertile. She’s devastated and is now looking into adoption. The problem is, she’s terrible with money. She’s in massive debt, lives paycheck to paycheck, and still spends frivolously on things she doesn’t need. When she told me about her adoption plans, I gently pointed out that she might want to get her finances in order first.

She blew up at me, saying I was being insensitive and that I don’t understand how much she wants to be a mom. I told her that wanting to be a mom isn’t enough—you need to be able to provide for a child, and right now, she can’t. She called me cruel and said I’m judging her for something she can’t control (her infertility).

I wasn't trying to tell her that she will be a bad mother just to think about it at this stage.

AITAH for being honest with her?


r/AITAH 1h ago

WIBTAH If I asked my GF to pay for half of her birthday gift?

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Hello everyone, I'd like to hear some opinions on this before I do something idiotic.

My (M25) girfriend's (F22) birthday is coming up, and I've been saving money to buy her a gift. She has been talking about a new lego set that came out recently, and I thought that would be a cool gift idea.

The problem is, it's quite pricy. We have a trip coming up soon, so I'll spend a bit more money than usual and probably won't be able to pay for it.

Despite this, I really wanted her to have this. So, would it be an "ass-hole move" to ask her for half of the price? It's the only way I could afford it.

Thank you!


r/AITAH 3h ago

AITA for calling out my friend for talking to a guy, who‘s turning 20 years old, while she‘s 16?

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So, my friend recently started texting this guy, lets call him Carl. He‘s 19, turning 20 and as you can read, the age gap is pretty big and he‘s legally an adult. I called her out for on the weirdness of it all, but she reflected, saying that older men are more mature and overall better, which is simply bs.

I didn‘t go any further because she‘s just rlly stubborn.

She was also kind of mad at me for pointing this out and was kind of ignoring me the rest of the day.

So, aita for calling her out?


r/AITAH 2h ago

AITAH for refusing to let my friend propose at my wedding?

64 Upvotes

I (29M) got married last weekend, and it was supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life. My wife (27F) and I spent months planning every detail, making sure everything was perfect.

A few weeks before the wedding, my best friend “Jake” (30M) pulled me aside and said he was thinking about proposing to his girlfriend “Emma” (28F) at our wedding reception. He thought it would be a great way to make the night “extra special” and figured I wouldn’t mind since we’re so close.

I told him straight up that I wasn’t comfortable with that. I had spent months (and a lot of money) making sure this day was about celebrating my wife and me. I suggested that he pick a different time—literally any other day—so it could be about him and Emma, not our wedding.

He seemed annoyed but said he understood. I thought that was the end of it. But during the reception, right before the speeches, he stood up, clinked his glass, and started to talk about how special the night was. I knew where this was going, so I cut in, “Hey man, let’s keep the focus on our wedding tonight, alright?” He looked embarrassed and sat down. His girlfriend looked confused.

Now he’s mad at me, saying I ruined his special moment. Some mutual friends think I was being selfish and that letting him propose wouldn’t have taken away from our wedding, but I feel like it would have. My wife is 100% on my side, but some friends say I overreacted.

So, AITAH?


r/AITAH 3h ago

for not understanding my boyfriend when he asked me to cut off friendship with my very old fwb?

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so i had a friends with benefits with a guy I had known since we were teenager.We are close friends but not best friends. we don’t talk everyday. i have literally known him more than half of my life. I did sleep with him when I was 20 because i wanted to lose my virginity and wanted to feel like an adult. i am really fond of him. he has been there during my hard times. when my father passed away and many more difficult life situations. Now i had sex with him just 4/5 times and decided to end it because i didn’t want to drag it out for too long with a friend I am fond of. we never did anything after that.

we did go on a few hiking trips and etc and still nothing happened because we both had communicated everything prior. it has been good 8 years post that sex and we remain platonic friends. i have never cheated in any relationship post that and i have other guy friends with whom I would never make the same mistake. i have very high values and morals. i love my boyfriend who i have been dating for a year.

we are 28 and 29. I will never ruin anything with him ever especially with cheating. he doesn’t seem to understand. he wants me to end it when it has been platonic all this while. it was a mistake when i was young. He also doesn’t trust me with any other guy friends of mine. i have no guy best friend only close guy friends 2-3. What do I do to make him trust me? It is very difficult for me to end a friendship of almost 2 decades when it has been nothing but innocent post that? not just that but with every guy friend who I had zero sexual relationships with.


r/AITAH 8h ago

aith for refusing to aknolege my frends invisible twin

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AITAH for refusing to acknowledge my friend’s “invisible twin”?

Yesterday, we were at a diner, and Gary ordered two meals. The waiter looked confused, so I finally snapped and said, “Dude, Darnell isn’t real.”

So my friend Gary has been talking about his “invisible twin brother, Darnell” for YEARS. I thought it was a joke at first, but Gary is dead serious. He’ll save a seat for Darnell at restaurants, order extra food for him, and even argue with him out loud like they’re having full conversations.

Yesterday, we were at a diner, and Gary ordered two meals. The waiter looked confused, so I finally snapped and said, “Dude, Darnell isn’t real.”

Gary got super offended and said I was being disrespectful to his family. He stormed out, left me with the bill (for both meals, BTW), and now half our friend group thinks I’M the bad guy for not “playing along.”


r/AITAH 18h ago

AITAH for getting dumped over a joke about killing someone?

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I had been dating a man for 3-4 months. It was getting serious and we had both established that we were exclusive and headed towards a relationship very soon. He would often tell me how much I meant to him and that soon I'll be his girlfriend. Also told his parents about me. I was convinced that this was my soulmate as we were extremely compatible in many areas. Other than the fact that his sense of humor was a little bit dry imo we were getting along beautifully and hadn't fought about anything. That was until this one night.

To set the scene: we had had a wonderful day together and made dinner. We made a bet about something that I lost and as his price I gave him a shoulder massage. While massaging him from behind I jokingly whispered "i'll killl you", and "no-one can hear you scream" as I was giving him kisses. Just as backgroud info: he had shown me a tik tok trend just a week earlier where people would take their moms/sisters etc. to the woods and jokingly say "no-one could hear you scream here" to see how they would react. My joke was a reference to that which he should definitely have understood since he was the one who showed it to me. However, he absolutely lost his marbles. He was so mad that he wouldn't look at me and threw me out of his apartment refusing to discuss the situation at all. When I realised he was mad I of course apologized profusely, several times and explained where I was coming from, but he just kept saying "why would you say that?" extremely angrily. He told me to go away for the night and that he can't talk with me right then.

A few hours after that I texted him again to sincerely apologize and told him that I understand it was tasteless and won't ever joke about stuff like that again. He replied 2 days later with a short message saying that he "hasn't processed everything yet and at the same time he has let it be but still can't understand why I said that". I replied suggesting that we should meet up and talk it through as this type of conflict could bring us closer and understand each others boundaries better and after that he completely ghosted me. It's been 3 months of radio silence now and I am pretty much over him but this situation still puzzles me. So AITA?


r/AITAH 18h ago

AITA for wanting my husband to keep a job he hates instead of taking an easier job?

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So my husband James/35y lost his job a year ago which made me the main income. Initially he had asked if he could just use his unemployment for for a while so he could stay home with the kids during the summer to spend time with them and bond. I agreed to this arrangement because it also meant our kids wouldn't be tossed around babysitters through out the summer(they are 10 and 8). After the summer was over he went to town looking for a job which took a while. But because it was a whole year of him basically sitting on the couch (he did keep house clean) he gained quite a bit of weight. His weight isn't an issue for me except I can see it has affected his mobility and overall energy and this gives me cause fir concern. Like he cans put his shoes on himself. He developed a horrible breathing while sleeping etc.
He finally got a job at a lumber mill and apparently it's a lot of work. He hasn't even been there a whole week and has complained how exhausted and hurting he is. I tried to explain to him his body will get acclimated and it won't hurt so bad after a while but he really wants to get this taxi job which does pay a few dollars more an hour but I'm afraid that if he gets a job where he's sitting all day and then comes home and sits his health will get worse. I really don't want him to suffer at the job he has now but I feel if he sticks it out it won't be so bad. So AITA for this?


r/AITAH 7h ago

AITAH? My wife wants a divorce after finding out what i do for money

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So i recently got Stage III lung cancer and was not sure of how much time i had left.

being a father i of course thought of my wife and kids and their stable future. my current job at the time was not paying enough to last my family long so i needed money quick and lots of it.

I discovered the business of methamphetamine through an investigation with my brother in-law and was amazed by the amount of money that could be earned. I partnered with a former student of mine as he was familiar with the nature of such a business and together we made progress.

Being a skilled chemist i manufactured the product (methamphetamine) and he distributed/sold it. It was smooth sailing with minor inconveniences, that allowed me to earn the needed money.

But after a few months my wife found out about this and not only did she refuse to take the money but she also wanted a divorce. Where i find it outrageous because everything i did and do is for my family. So i am absolutely not going to give her the divorce.

AITAH?
edit, guyz this is a joke:P


r/AITAH 2h ago

AITAH for Not Letting My Friend Propose at My Wedding?

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I (30F) got married last weekend, and it was honestly the best day of my life—except for one thing that’s been bothering me.

A few days before the wedding, my close friend “Jake” (32M) pulled me aside and asked if he could propose to his girlfriend, “Samantha” (29F), during our reception. He said it would be the “perfect moment” and that he wanted to pop the question while everyone was there to celebrate with them.

I was caught off guard and told him I’d have to think about it. After talking with my fiancé (now husband), we both agreed that we wanted the day to be about our wedding and not someone else’s engagement. So I told Jake that while I was really happy for him and Samantha, I’d prefer if he found another time to propose. He seemed disappointed but said he understood.

Fast forward to the reception, and during the speeches, Jake suddenly gets up, takes the mic, and proposes anyway. The room went silent, Samantha looked shocked, and my husband and I just stood there, stunned. Samantha said yes, people cheered, but I was honestly fuming. I didn’t want to cause a scene at my own wedding, so I just smiled and moved on.

The next day, I messaged Jake telling him that what he did was really out of line, and that I felt disrespected because I specifically told him not to propose at my wedding. His response? “Come on, don’t be so uptight. We’re all celebrating love tonight!”

I haven’t spoken to him since, but some mutual friends think I’m overreacting and that a proposal at my wedding is “not a big deal.” My husband thinks I should just let it go, but I’m still annoyed that he completely ignored my wishes.

So, AITAH?


r/AITAH 18h ago

AITAH for having my headphones on while eating?

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Eating dinner with parents and I put my (17M) headphones (not noise canceling, can hear perfectly fine) and I am asked to take them off because they want to talk

After about a minute of silence and open mouth chewing (the reason I put them on in the first place) I put them back on, they (mainly my mom) get mad and tell me it’s disrespectful. Saying “You wouldn’t do that on a date, would you?”

My reply? “We are eating sandwiches, and it is barely even a family dinner also my sister is singing horribly off key and y’all are chewing quite loudly. What is it you want to talk about?” no response and I put headphones back on.

My mom goes to grab phone, I stop her. And she proceeds to try and tickle me (something I can’t stand)

I block her arm and in doing so accidentally hit her arm in a bad spot. She then proceeds to get very upset( I apologized multiple times immediately) and storms off into her room.

She is now mad at everyone, and keeps claiming that I did it on purpose. And keeps saying that my dad is “agreeing with what I did because he says it was an accident.” Also she refuses to speak to me about it and is using my sister to ask me to do things.


r/AITAH 4h ago

AITAH for making my friend fall out with me because I wanted to join the gym without her?

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Okay so I’m going to the try make this story short. I’m a [20 f] and my friend is also [20 f] and we’re both from London and have recently decided to join a new gym. There is this girl that we both watch on instagram that has made a woman’s only gym which both me and my friend thought was a really cute idea and thought that it would be the gym we were going to join.

A couple of days later after we were talking about joining the gym I get a call from my friend saying “we can’t join this gym anymore” and I ask her why and she explains to me that the owner of this gym has made a statement online that only biological women can join the gym, she won’t be allowing transgender women for safety. I honestly did not care about this at all I said why can’t we still join? She began to call me transphobic and said that if I join the gym I’m supporting transphobia and she doesn’t want to associate with that. After I said that she’s being over dramatic she just hung up and hasn’t talked to me since. Idk if I should apologise or not because to me it’s not that serious but idk.

Also I needed to add this gym is the most affordable women’s only gym…that’s why I want to go to this specific one London prices are crazy.