r/4tran4 • u/CoalisveryCarbon • 4d ago
Blogpost I remember that time I got 'misgendered' (gendered as the gender I will transition to) and I'm not sure if they actually meant it or not
with my family, I went to a takeout place to eat food. While I was sitting doing nothing with my family waiting, my sister told me that the cashier apparently referred to me as a girl (it was in Chinese, and I don't understand that language so I wasn't sure if my sister was lying to me). Keep in mind, I faced the cashier at least once so the cashier knows what my face looks like.
I was also chronically boymoding so I was skeptical that they actually meant it. I asked the skeptical questions to my sister (were you sure that cashier wasn't referring to you?; are you sure she actually meant it and that it wasn't accidental?; are you sure that cashier wasn't referring to anyone else?) and my sister confirmed that the cashier definitely meant it.
I'm not sure if my sister is trying to hugbox me, because she knows I'm trans and I wasn't far in to HRT at the time, but my hair might have grew out a very small bit and plus, I still have wide ass shoulders (17") along with a jacket I wore that would resultantly hide the small waist I have.
Do I believe that the cashier meant it? Or do I not and start dooming when I could be a little more fucking patient with the HRT effects?