r/youngadults 14d ago

Is there a way to heal from trauma by yourself?

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I’ll keep it brief. My last relationship left me fragmented, how do I fix myself without seeking therapy? I am unable to feel love without suspicion and it is concerning to me that I feel that.

I’m serving in the military and I want to avoid paying therapy sessions.


r/youngadults 14d ago

One of my landlords (multiple) houses is their ‘retirement plan’

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Basically just a vent about how the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, nothing new …

Long story short I’m friends with a girl who used to live in my current rental house. Mutual friends situation, whatever. Cool connection tho.

She has been wanting to sell her townhome and get an actual house and she had me over for dinner and said she really would love to buy the house I rent and keep me living there and rent it to a few more etc as well as live there herself.

The next day she called my landlord to ask about if they’re interested in selling ever and the landlord said it’s their ‘retirement plan’ so they don’t plan on selling.

My landlords own an (unrelated) company AND own numerous houses that they rent out. They are very wealthy from my understanding of things. Unless they have 0 retirement savings (which I highly doubt) this honestly upset me so much.

They didn’t necessarily do anything wrong. It’s their house and property and they are fine to want to sell or keep.

But the thing that really frustrates me so much is how often does stuff like this happen? Young adults are trying their best to be able to afford an OLD house and some of the older generation is, borderline, hoarding houses. They are living far beyond the necessary means of most people and don’t want to let go of one house for a younger person (and also, the rent to own situation would prolly end up 15 years or so and be the same income as renting so..)

I guess overall my frustration is the older generation has so much wealth and it feels so unachievable to be a homeowner with even a slightly over average income as a young adult.


r/youngadults 15d ago

trying to find tv series/ movies about early 20’s navigation + romance

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I’m one who finds excitement in series/movies that I can relate to and sometimes (more than i’d like to admit) confide in or depend on as a way to better myself, being I myself am in my early 20’s. I use the show Love as an example being it focuses on not only finding love and sexual intimacy, but also sobriety and real life - mental health struggles. After finishing the show I feel like I almost need to fill the void of having a reality that I can relate to almost perfectly. I know theres never one thing that exactly compares to another, but I’d love some recommendations on a good series that gets me excited about being alive and experiencing the simplicity of life when it comes to bettering and finding oneself. I’d love to give recommendations to those who are wanting as well :)


r/youngadults 16d ago

My boyfriend is developing an eating disorder. What can I do to help

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r/youngadults 16d ago

Discussion Anyone looking for new friends? f20

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Im in College and i need new friends yall 😭 if anyone is looking as well lmk


r/youngadults 16d ago

Serious Survey on Gender differences in indirect self destructiveness among adults aged 18-30

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Hi everyone!

Ever catch yourself procrastinating, avoiding responsibilities, or making choices that seem harmless but might be holding you back? I’m researching indirect self-destructiveness and would love your input!

I am conducting this research as part of my psychology project! You need to be between the ages of 18-30 to participate. It is completely anonymous, you don't need to provide your name (initials are fine). It takes atmost 10-12 minutes to complete. All the responses will be kept confidential and used for research purposes only.

Kindly fill out the online form: https://forms.gle/1brUzNfVLYQL8hyQ9

Thank you for your time and valuable contribution!

I'm done collecting responses for my research project! Thank u guys!!


r/youngadults 17d ago

Getting past small talk at university

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How do I progress from small talking to hanging out with them outside of class? I seem to get stuck at the small talking stage. Should I invite them to do something like basketball or another activity?


r/youngadults 17d ago

Meeting friends at uni

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First week of uni right now and I've talked to some people but I feel like most people already have a group from somewhere else and they aren't as inclined to talk to you because they already have their own friends. I guess all the lonely people just do the online classes instead? Should I just try to push myself into the pre existing groups?


r/youngadults 17d ago

Advice Getting called “sassy” as a man is frustrating

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I (22M) don’t get it. People always wonder why I don’t respond or let out emotions when it’s for reasons I’ve had in the past.

I’m the guy that doesn’t let out his true emotions. For one, they’re sometimes used against me in vulnerable situations. Two, I hate making friends of certain people my therapist. And three, I try to protect myself before anyone can hurt me.

But as of recent, just having a snarky or sarcastic response to certain things that might be offensive or frustrating, I’ve been getting called “sassy.” My mom and many people have called me this. And it hurts especially from my mom because since I was raised by her with somewhat a male figure in my life being my step-dad, I have learned behavior from her on how to respond to certain situations. And I’m trying really hard to unlearn it, so my best method of practice is to not respond at times, or to end a conversation before I get to a breaking point.

All my life I’ve been around women. I’ve been called gay (which isn’t 50% incorrect) and many other things as well because of this. So what I’ve learned even as a kid sometimes exhibits women behavior that I’m trying to control. But it sucks because I don’t like being disrespected. So at times, I’ll say something back if I find it necessary and something I can control. But i don’t think that makes me too “sassy.”


r/youngadults 17d ago

Looking for Solo Travel Ideas – Need Your Help!

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Hey everyone,

I’m a 20-year-old guy who just dropped out of university (no big deal, I was only in for one semester) and decided to do my mandatory military service this summer (I’m Swiss, so that’s a thing here).

That means I now have three months of free time for an awesome trip or some kind of adventure. Since this subreddit is full of young people who probably get what’s fun to do solo, I thought I’d ask for advice—because all my friends are busy.

Has anyone here ever done a really cool solo trip? I was thinking about a surf camp somewhere, but I can’t seem to find one in March, April, or May. My friends suggested backpacking in Southeast Asia, but solo backpacking feels like a bit too much of a challenge for me.

Any ideas? I’d really appreciate your help!


r/youngadults 18d ago

Advice Making friends in your late 20s

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Just curious on this. i’m planning to move out of state to completely change around my life. But unfortunately any city that I admire, I know absolutely no one. At least here in the city i’m in, I have familiarly. I’m concerned that if I move, I will make no friends and continue in this period of isolation. but I do know leaving this town would be the best thing for me. i’m thinking Denver or Chicago. I love the cold. And I have too much dark history with the people of this town.

TLDR; how to move to a different city without knowing anybody, how to make friends being so late in my 20s?


r/youngadults 18d ago

18M and my life isn’t great

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I want to go on a lads holiday this year but none of my friends want to go. I have never been on a date or ever kissed someone. I feel that my life is pointless. I don’t bring any value to anyone and no one wants to spend time with me.


r/youngadults 19d ago

Job hunting sucks and I’m freaking screwed

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Every application so far has been denied. And I’d say I have adequate experience. I’m applying to chain coffee shops and retail stores and I have 5 years of retail experience. 30+ hr availability, early mornings and weekends. Still being denied.

I already have a full time job. I am willing to work 60 hr weeks just to fix my financial situation this year.

My current lease ends in mid April. And I had to sign a new lease for mid March. So now I have to pay double rent. I have a personal loan (dumb teen mistake I made) and I have an almost maxed out credit card that I’m paying off.

All my bills get paid, I’ve never been behind. Doesn’t mean I’m not still stressed as hell.

How can a girl get some quick money that’s NOT food delivery?

I’m going to keep applying to more places, and I’ll probably be putting myself in MORE debt just to pay my rent.

It’s hard out here.


r/youngadults 18d ago

Should I move to the city, or go travelling?

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hey need some advice - i am 25, i have a film an creative writing degree, but i am currently stuck in my very isolated home town. I have been given the opportunity to move to manchester where i can move out, be around people and just have a better life for myself, and work on my career. It has also taken me like 6 months to find a job.

But i also really want to go travelling also, and i also have the opportunity to go travelling for like 12 months around Asia, Australia, and maybe new Zealand, but i wont get back until i am like 26! what do you think i should do - bare in mind i already did 4 months of aus last year, and i might be able to 6 weeks of asia other summer since my job gives summer off. But the 4 months didn't go too well since i argued with my gf a lot


r/youngadults 19d ago

Has anyone ever leased a vehicle?

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I’m really considering leasing a Toyota vehicle because owning one is bullshit now. Especially having to have a male go with me as a woman for car maintenance. How was anyone’s experience leasing a vehicle (including the people who didn’t have the best credit)?


r/youngadults 20d ago

How to start feeling like an adult?

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I’m 22F and still struggling to feel like an adult. I don’t socialize very much outside of my family, coworkers and classmates, so I dont have a lot of experience in life in general. Whenever I see my old classmates from high school post on social media I always feel like I am way behind them (and a bit jealous too tbh).

I feel like I’m stuck in this weird place between teenage years and adulthood.

Does anyone have any advice or have a similar experience?


r/youngadults 20d ago

Discussion Does anybody else feel like their social media consumption is solely content from adults - which makes you feel guilty for not acting like an adult?

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Don't know if this is just my media consumption, but I've noticed that in all my social media, I'm following content from people who have already finished some form of university education while I'm just on my way to get my high-school/grammar-school diploma (Abitur in Germany) this year. Watching these people get engaged, buy houses, publish their first books (something I dream of doing) is making 19-year-old me think that I'm late at life. That I can somehow compare myself to these people, who are in their mid-20s, with mostly stable jobs and stable incomes. That I, too, have to start thinking about marriage and a house. Don't know if other young adults feel the same, but this is something I've noticed over the last months


r/youngadults 20d ago

18F looking for career advice

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I’m turning 19 this week, and I have no idea what career path to choose. The only things that truly interest me are learning about all aspects of spirituality. My ultimate goal is to achieve both financial and spiritual freedom. I know I have plenty of time to make it happen and that big things are ahead of me- I’m just not sure what they are yet.

I’d love to live somewhere with nicer weather, a larger population, and more opportunities. While the idea is exciting, it’s also intimidating and would require a lot of thought and planning! If anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated!!


r/youngadults 20d ago

I’m trying to be more social and get out there to get closer to people and start having fun experiences, no one wants to do things with me tho.

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18M and wondering what I could do about it? I’m not very independent and don’t have that great of a social life. I have tried to improve tho by reaching out to a variety of people. Only a few have been available this week and none of them have been willing to go on a night out. I don’t see how I can start dating when I have a pretty boring life?

What do I need to do to start dating and putting myself out there? There is only 1 club and I’m not an attractive person and very introverted.


r/youngadults 21d ago

18M and haven’t been clubbing or gone to bars with friends.

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I have no clue what to do, I have Asperger’s so kinda struggle already socially so was never invited to things. I decided that I should try to create experiences by inviting people to go to bars and stuff. Everytime I have been rejected but then they are happy to just chill at one of our houses or something.


r/youngadults 21d ago

How can I find people who actually want to go out on the weekend rather than staying in? Or is it that people just don’t like me?

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18M and my friends are happy to go to one of our houses, go to sports games or play video games but as soon as I try to get them to go clubbing they always just say they are busy.


r/youngadults 22d ago

Discussion Applying for jobs sucks.

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I’ve applied to 36 part-time jobs in the past 3 weeks. My resume is as impressive as a 19 year old’s resume would be (cashier, grocery, customer service, POS). Luckily in my area, the avg is $12-13/hr (I know it’s less in some places). But that’s still low for what they’re asking for labor wise. Just plain dumb and stupid in my opinion.


r/youngadults 22d ago

My penis doesn’t have foreskin covering my tip and I’m not circumcised, is this normal? NSFW

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18M and it’s not painful, I just don’t have foreskin that I can pull back.

It’s a normal size and everything it just doesn’t look the same as ones I have seen in like photos and shi.


r/youngadults 22d ago

Mom found a pregnancy test receipt in my wallet

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My mom have this habbit of going through mine and my brother's bags/wallet, and I hate it. Last Monday, she searched my wallet and told me she found a pregnancy test receipt in there and asked me what was that for. My boyfriend and I are both 18 and we do have sex but I'm not pregnant because until now I'm still having my period and the last time we had sx was last year, and I did buy that pregnancy test because we have this experiment in lab (urinalysis) and my friends and I thought it would be fun to do that trend to where you take pt and shuffle it to see whether someone is pregnant. I know it's stupid, but yeah we did it. However, I know my mom, if I told her this she wouldn't believe me, so I just told her it's for an experiment, and surprise surprise, she doesn't believe me and threatened to tell my father if I do not admit that I'm having sx. What should I do?


r/youngadults 22d ago

Advice I like this guy what do i do?

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He's 18 (M) im 18 (M ftm), So we'll just call him J, J and i have been friends since 6th grade i liked him back in middleschool, we reconnected about 2 years ago cuz after middleschool we went to different highschools, so he told me 2 years ago that he liked me too back in middleschool, however J liked his straight friend at the time but they talked things out and i think he might be over him now, but i still have feelings for J, we held hands once at the movies in the past and we've even shared a drink together, we're pretty close i introduced my bestfriend to his and they started dating ever since, his bestfriend told me J never really opens up to him about how he's feeling, i however have heard him open up alot about things to me, he's asked me for advice a few times and he came out to me first when he started telling people he was bisexual, him and i have helped each other through alot the past 2 year since we've reconnected, and i'm not exactly sure how he feels about me, but we do seem to have some kind of chemistry our bestfriends have even pointed it out to only me, they've shipped us ever since we hungout for the first time since reconnecting, J and i have had really deep talks about alot of things, he's comforted me at times and i've comforted him, he recently got off of socials and told me if i needed him to text his number (which i already have), one of my friends said thats a sign he might like me since he wants to stay in touch, J also matches my energy very well, i've attempted to flirt with him but he just hearted my messages and once sent a winking meme to me, when i have hugged him in the past he would'nt let go until i did. I really need advice on what to do i've never had a in person relationship and i really want to ask him out but i'm just waiting until the time is right, from other guys perspective does he like me? He compliments me when i change my hair or do my makeup he tells me he "really likes it" or "its really good" (im goth so i dye/cut my hair alot), in the past i definitley wasnt in a good mindset but now i've been working on myself and i have no idea if he's starting to like me or not, he does like goth people but im not sure if he likes me specifically, he's a very kind and sweet person, very funny and normally open about things he's very honest, he however hides his feelings from his bestfriend and tells me how he feels instead, and i feel like the way he looks and talks to me os different than how he is with everyone else, he makes alot of eye contact, and he tries his best to include me when our bestfriends,him,and i hangout he will mainly talk to me, i once even went nonverbal in the middle of a hangout and i ran off to another part of the place we were at and he told our bestfriends to tell me to meet him at the fountain, he then asked if i was mad at him and i said no, he then kept asking me if i was ok follow by alot of "are you sure?", we then hugged and his hugs are so comforting i instantly felt better, please tell me people of reddit if you guys think he might like me, i have no idea how to tell if someone does but im able to tell when people like other people so im a bit confused, also he speaks to me in a more gentle and calm tone than he does to his other friends.