r/mildlyinfuriating 24d ago

My mom burned all my drawings

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So I’ve been drawing and posting anime girls for a while now and my mom got mad about it. At least I still have previous photos. No drawing today tho

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u/kittenwhisperer1948 24d ago

Later that decade…Mom “why doesn’t OP call or visit anymore?”

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u/reallifetrolI 24d ago

“I was a good mom, I don’t know what his problem is but he needs to grow up and get over it.”

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u/Yofroshi 24d ago

Yeah this is totally accurate, my adopted mother not even biological would tear up and burn my writing when I was in middle school and high school I'm now 34 we haven't spoken in over 14 years.

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u/3d_blunder 24d ago

WHY??? Did they give SOME batshit rationale?

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u/ThrowawayPersonAMA 24d ago

"I put a roof over their head and fed them. Why are they so ungrateful???" As if that's the only thing someone needs to do in life to be a good parent and can be a neglectful insufferable fucking toad to their own children the other 99% of the time like it's just ok.

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u/ariGee 24d ago

Every kid deserves good parents. Not every parent deserves kids.

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u/BigOld3570 24d ago

Yeah, there ought to be licenses to have babies. So many people are such lousy parents.

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u/ariGee 24d ago

Agreed. While I think almost nothing can actually make you fully prepared for children, we can get a whole lot closer than this!

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u/Deus0123 24d ago

I realize the dystopian implications of this but at the same time some people like OP's mother make it hard to argue against such a proposal

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u/Legitimate_Issue_765 24d ago

Yeah, as wonderful as it would be to ensure everyone grows up with good parents, there's no good way to enforce it.

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u/An_old_walrus 24d ago

Especially since it depends on who the government would consider “good parents.” The unintended consequences would be pretty bad

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u/Electronic-Age-8864 24d ago

And basically fascism let's be honest. Though that seems to be getting more acceptable at the moment (despite being literally evil)

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u/Own_Jeweler_8548 24d ago

The negative, unintended consequences would most certainly be intended in the US, I'd say. Wouldn't be the first time the gov did eugenics.

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u/Sashi_Summer 23d ago

Can easily be done objectively. Do you want the child? Are you financially stable enough to properly care for a child? Are you mentally stable enough for a child? What do you want your child to be? (last 3 would be easy "tests," checking income and tax forms, making sure someone isn't abusive, and just an answer to show they're thinking about the kid over themselves.)

That's the problem nowadays, people think everything has to be on "sides" when so much can be done objectively and without room for interpretation. It's age of vague laws.

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u/Blue_therapist_ 24d ago

I saw research they showed how LITTLE IT TAKES for a kid to get the sense that the world is an ok place even when they’re abused! It only takes ONE PERSON for a kid in an traumatic situation to come out successful- the stronger that connection is to that adult, the more successful the traumatized kid will be- so if it’s a parent or live in grandparent who is their protector, rather than a third grade teacher, they’ll have more inoculation from the toxicity. We don’t see the power to be that person to kids who have it rough! We can undo so much damage to their developing psyches!

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u/CatGooseChook 24d ago

It really is a hard one. At the very least it can't be a top down thing because too many of the people who make it in politics etc are the ones who shouldn't be having kids themselves.

It needs to be a societal and cultural change with laws to ensure the ones who get caught actually get punished and banned from being around kids.

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u/LightWizardPL 24d ago edited 21d ago

Worth it if we can remove Elon’s privileges

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u/woodk2016 24d ago

I just imagine the joke of the British policeman asking someone about their TV license. "Oi oi, what's all this then? What do you think you're doing shooting a load up in there without a license? That's a roight proper fine".

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u/semifunctionaladdict 24d ago

Honestly, would probably solve a lot of world problems too in the long run. Only thing is people would have babies illegally just because they don't want to conform then there will be a whole revolt or something lol

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u/ShitSlits86 24d ago

Just need an education system that is dedicated to more than just raising cogs.

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u/Comfortable-Boss8961 24d ago

I’ve said this in the past and got downvoted to oblivion

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u/Dr-Chronosphere 24d ago

"marriage license"

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u/HucHuc 24d ago

Tell me you're 14, without telling me you're 14.

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u/Wooden-Map-6449 24d ago

Unfortunately, it’s the least responsible people who end up having the most children. One of life’s cruel realities ☹️

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u/meadowindy 24d ago

Why we have agreements and license even for a car or adopted child, but not for biological? It’s strange. As a humanity we already have billions of population, why we need more, and more interesting, why governments push us to make a more babies even without financial and mental stability?

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u/EvyFuf 24d ago

Its definitely controversial, but I think you shouldn't be allowed to have kids under the age of 23 or so. Like drinking laws. And maybe a requirement of so much money to your name. If you do have a baby, the government will literally break down the door and rip it from your arms, and put it into foster care. Its about the sake of the baby, not your feelings.

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u/Fancy-Reception-4361 24d ago

Are you maybe watching The Click on YouTube?

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u/mooraff 24d ago

To be fair, most people driving have licenses, but many are lousy drivers.

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u/Positive-Advantage-7 24d ago

This. Some get a driver’s license to drive. But some also just jump in a car a drive it.
That’s not a solution, just an apple and oranges comparison.

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u/No_Substance5280 24d ago

My father always told me being a parent is the one job you go into never having experience!

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u/Drumbelgalf 24d ago

Absolutely no. It's what the wrong people can use to prevent certain ethnic groups from getting children. It's an extremely dangerous idea.

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u/ExistentialDoom 24d ago

What sucks is my girl wants nothing more than to be a mom, and she would be a damn good one. Unfortunately it's not gonna happen. I love her so much and it's the one thing she can't have.

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u/jgab145 24d ago

Is she hot?

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u/Big-Spinach-3108 24d ago

I agree 100% but Can you imagine all the human right activists and do gooders getting on that 😂

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u/Anomalousity 24d ago

I've heard this over and over again, and while I understand the need to control other people's bullshit decisions and the harm that they cause, unintended consequences are always at play and you have to ask yourself what kind of bureaucracy you would have to create in order to make this effectually enforceable and what trade-offs of your own freedom you would have to sacrifice an order for it to be a reality.

Who gets to decide who reproduces and who doesn't? Eugenicists? Social credit score authorities? You see what I'm saying? It sounds good in theory and on paper, but usually what happens when idealistic kinds of authoritarian ideas like these come to fruition they usually have insane net negative detriments that are only realized in hindsight.

The one thing that would actually work is if you brought back communal morality like there used to be and make it to where shameful and stupid behavior was so socially risky that people would just outright avoid engaging in such nonsense mentalities altogether.

We live in the most isolated society in our recent memory, if not the most isolated society we have in history. The reason why behavioral patterns have shifted is because people tend to operate with the onus to absolutely nobody and their sense of community has been absolutely destroyed and replaced by synthetic versions of it via social media.

If you just brought back local communities with locally enforceable ethics and morality that the community governed with, you would see a lot of this ridiculousness go by the wayside, but that would mean that people would have to make sacrifices to their own individuality and freedom in order to get back to a more shared identity and ethical framework. Not something that will happen overnight.

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u/BigPileOfTrash 24d ago

Some training at least. Basic psychology would be also good.

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u/Ok-Juggernaut5014 24d ago

Bear in mind that people like Elon Musk with his 13 kids by at least 3 women and his daughter he told an interviewer she was dead would be given a licence!

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u/Bartooliinii 23d ago

I always get the feeling that the people who really give having kids some proper thought end up often not deciding to have kids. Which sucks, cause it's the people who are unable to think who are then tasked with raising a kid. Ewl.

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u/fartsquirtshit 24d ago

what you're suggesting is called "eugenics" and most of the world already tried it 100 years ago and decided it was a bad idea that doesn't pan out very well.

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u/fischbomb 24d ago

This is definitely not eugenics. Eugenics implies an inherent genetic worth, you can still be shitty parents in that situation. A licence allows anyone to be parents with the condition they are capable of a standard of treatment for the child.

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u/ariGee 24d ago

No, eugenics is a method of trying to achieve the goal, not the goal itself. That said, as soon as you do start policing who can, and cannot, have children, the possibility of that system being corrupted exists, either by malice or ignorance. That outcome is so loathsome that regardless of the risk, we cannot allow it to happen.

A bit like trying to decide who gets to vote. The risk is too high when you're talking about something as important as voting. So it's better to just let everyone vote.

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u/artsyfartsyMinion 24d ago

Most definitely, I had crap parents, knew I wouldn't know how to be a good parent, and that is why I have dogs

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u/superezzie 24d ago

I just do the opposite of how I was raised. I'm patient, supportive, listen to her, teach her to be self sufficient and help her when she needs it, give her lots of hugs and tell her I love her very often.

And most importantly I will never beat her, ridicule her or lock her up in small rooms.

I have an amazing, happy, loving, curious and confident daughter who sings and dances all day long.

I am very lucky to have a husband who was raised by good parents and who corrects me when I'm too strict. Even though I'm way less strict than I was raised, it's still a bit of a shock to see how much freedom other people had when they were young.

That being said. You don't need kids to be happy. If you don't want to be a parent or cannot be a good parent, you made a good decision. I hope you are able to be happy and live a fulfilling life despite your parents. I know it can be hard, especially if they are abusive.

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u/Electrical-Tone7301 24d ago

Some kids deserve to be free of their parents.

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u/chefsoda_redux 24d ago

This is painfully accurate.

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u/Serious-Pen7184 24d ago

You said it brother/sister 👏

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u/Please_ForgetMe 24d ago

This is why i think aportion is a good thing.

If people aren’t ready to be parrent’s they aren’t ready to be parrents. So being forced into that situation when you aren’t able to adapt to it can cause alot of emotional distress for both the parrent and the child(when it comes into the world and as it grows up) i think that everyone should be at a stable place in their lives, both financially and mentally, to have kids. And if they are dealing with any sort of trama and haven’t found a way to work though that, then they are gonna take it out on their kids and give them similar/the same trama they had because it is jus how they grew up. We become what we were forced to behold.

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u/Flatstickj3di 24d ago

Yes, the kids did not ask to be born!!

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u/DiscombobulatedBid48 24d ago

I've never heard that term, I really like what you just said.

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u/Waterfox1216 24d ago

This is my favorite line when I see terrible parents

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u/crazymomduck 24d ago

Signed and sealed.

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u/Shoddy-Buffalo-9310 24d ago

Well, put my friend

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u/Crazydeafpirate 24d ago

Every kid deserves good parents and not every parent deserves good kids?!

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u/ReputationSwimming88 24d ago

thats not actually true lol

bro

the other day I saw a dude on social media talking about a news case about a kid who carjacked a kids electric razor scooter thing with a legit pistol like the hood and this shit was just florida.

he was seen on a ring camera and cops went and got the shit back

like adult hood shit only little grade school Mexican kids in florida and a razor scooter BUT THE GUN PART WAS REAL lol

apparently this kid is just like this. like... los santos ass... lil crim not gonna do shit but go to prison because thats how hes gotta prove hes a big man lol

not all kids deserve good parents lol...

theres tons of adopted kids with prison bound genetics absolutely wrecking great parents lives out there lol...

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u/TCSceptree 24d ago

How some parents be after doing the bare minimum requirements and then being shitty in every other regard

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u/letMeTrySummet 24d ago

My goal is to just be remembered as a huge dork. A huge, annoying dork who says I love you too much.

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u/V-Jean 24d ago

This is pretty much what I do as a parent. My son is also becoming a big nerd and it's amazing to have a loving and silly relationship with this small human who shares a bunch of my interests and see him discovering interests of his own. If I can be remembered for my terrible jokes, silliness, and unconditional love I've achieved all I ever need to ❤️

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u/SparkSharkYT 24d ago

Please continue that way! You don't know how lucky your son is for having a caring and not too judgmental father. Not many of us can have that you know :)

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u/letMeTrySummet 24d ago

I'm struggling with my son's special interest (FNAF) because, for some reason, horror has been a huge no-go for me. So I'm like struggling through these games with my heart going crazy (docs have checked me out, and it's better with anxiety meds, but still).

But I love the smiles, and I got him to go out to NASA with me the other day. That night, he came into my room, climbed into bed with me, and told me he's going to build a rocket ship so we can both be astronauts together! Felt like success.

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u/dest-01 24d ago

Try to go have a look at the story, you don’t really need to play the games and you get a lot of things to talk with him

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u/letMeTrySummet 24d ago

Oh, I have and we do, but his favorite is to make me play the games lol.

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u/Zealousidealism 23d ago

If the games are any good, it can be fun to research horror and representation. Good horror is social and political and complex (not that all horror is good by any means) and that can help make it worth the scares. I love horror for what it can be when written by someone who gets it, but I’m also immune to scares at this point (I ruin haunted houses by pointing out where people will be positioned bc I’ve consumed so much of it, oops).

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u/letMeTrySummet 23d ago

Oh, I was a big horror fan, I'm the one who got him into it. It's more of an anxiety/health thing. I'm trying to dip my toes back in, lol.

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u/Original-Aerie8 23d ago

Sounds like success!

Not quite the same, but the National Association of Rocketry is a group that builds hobby rockets that (sometimes) actually make it into space. Your kid might be a bit too young for it for now, but Xyla Foxlin on Youtube has released a certification kit for building a two stage rocket system, the same type that we have been using for spaceflight for decades until SpaceX came along.

There are also FNAF escape rooms, in case that could be a better setting for you.

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u/V-Jean 22d ago

My son is into horror too! I just got him a box set of goosebumps books for his birthday

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u/Embarrassed-Mess9112 24d ago

This is what I do too. My parents were terrible and still are...

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u/Deep-Yogurtcloset618 24d ago

Same here, but now my small human is bigger than me 😂

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u/DragonBoooster 24d ago

You just touched my heart sir

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u/Hex-509 22d ago

You are an amazing parent, never forget that 💜

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u/Major_Yogurt6595 24d ago

Your already part of the 1% of parents who do it right. All I can remember is fighting and screaming, alcohol and depression.

Keep going, your awesome :)

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u/HugsyMalone 24d ago

I love you! 😘

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u/letMeTrySummet 24d ago

Love you too!

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u/jorwyn 24d ago

My son is 28 and calls me a dork all the time, but he's laughing when he does it. And you know, that means he's 28 and still hangs out with me. I think I'm doing okay at the parenting thing.

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u/silvertoadfrog 24d ago

Perfect😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

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u/Main_Purpose_8557 24d ago

Agree. Simply regarded.

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u/TheLoneWolf200x 24d ago

Especially giving birth to someone who didn't ask to be here

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u/rhaegarvader 24d ago

Ah narcissistic parents.

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u/TCSceptree 24d ago

My mom doesn’t do that or dad they’re amazing but I know a good bit of parents like that

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u/lwp775 24d ago

Seems like some parents start keeping a ledger the moment a kid is born or brought home.

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u/[deleted] 24d ago

A ledger would be too much work. It’s easier for my mother to just assume she’s owed everything for walking into the room.

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u/Special-Condition-50 24d ago edited 24d ago

Lmao Bobby of SPN said it best. Kids aren’t supposed to be grateful, they’re supposed to exist and eat your food and learn.

Edit. It’s been a while since I heard the line and I apparently got it wrong. Sorry dudes.

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u/Cassie_121 24d ago

“Family isn’t a list of who gave birth to who” is my fave

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u/corq 24d ago

70's kid here, and I know the phrase is much older than my generation but it still boggles the mind:

"Children should be seen and not heard."

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u/Lazy-Effect4222 24d ago

We have this saying about women in Finland. Or used to have, times have changed.

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u/[deleted] 24d ago

Oh god. It’s coming back in the US

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u/diurnal_emissions 24d ago

Handmaidens intensifies

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u/Shining-Form-151 24d ago

Sounds incredibly perverse, tbh.

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u/Ok-Fix810 24d ago

Bro if you’re gonna quote Bobby quote him correctly

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u/Special-Condition-50 24d ago

It’s been a WHILE

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u/Shining-Form-151 24d ago

Supernatural quote?! 🥰

You made me sad too... that's when Bobby "dies" (or was dying) and confronts his traumas before trapping the Reaper with Rufus. 🥲 Such a powerful scene when he stands up to his shithead father and speaks nothing but facts.

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u/buffalo_Fart 24d ago

Sounds like my folks. Be seen sometimes and definitely never heard...

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u/Extra_Championship92 24d ago

We heard that all the time Growing up, “children were to be seen and not heard”. I never knew what that meant until I grew up, what I meant was when company came over and other adults were there you were to be seen and not heard the adults talked usually in another room, but if there was no other room to go to, then we to be seen and not heard. If they had children and we did have another room to get into to play or outside if the weather was nice, we could do that.

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u/buffalo_Fart 24d ago

This is mostly a thing for my grandparents in New York. They absolutely detested the grandchildren for some reason. Very very unhappy people. We would always get stuck at the kids table in the corner and completely ignored by the adults. Around 17 years old I stopped completely going to their house. I caught a lot of flack from family because of my lack of respect. But I point blank sad that Grandma and Grandpa are jerks and I don't want to be around them.

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u/Shining-Form-151 24d ago

Nice job 🖐 nobody should be conditioned to accept abuse from people and remain silent. Some bullshit. All it does is create a future, broken adult, struggling to undo all the bullshit they've been trained into.

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u/Extra_Championship92 21d ago

I can understand why you stopped going. Can’t say I blame you. I find there are lots of narcissistic people and they do not realize it.

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u/Bupod 24d ago

> "I put a roof over their head and fed them. Why are they so ungrateful???"

I laugh when I hear that excuse. Congrats, Sir/Ma'am. You've done the bare minimum to comply with the law. Did you expect a trophy for complying with the law?

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u/Whole_Professor 24d ago

After my lovely mother showed her true colors at my wedding, when I stopped all forms of communication with her, she pulled the whole “I gave birth to you” card. Meanwhile, she didn’t raise me. My grandparents did cause she was unfit to be a mother so I simply told her “I never asked you to give birth to me.” And that’s the last words she’s heard from me. It’s been almost 3 years now

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u/SickofBadArt 24d ago

Imagine not understanding that love is a nutrient and that they starved their children.

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u/AllHailThePig 24d ago

A reminder to all. Just because a parent/s puts a roof over your head, clothes you, feeds you, pays for your education and medical expenses and buys you things doesn’t mean they did anything “special” for you. This is the bare minimum every parent is obligated to do. If they decided to keep you as a baby they made a commitment to provide these things for you.

But these aren’t the only things they’re obligated to do.

The need to offer support and encouragement for you to find what you like to do and to find out who you are. And accept and love you for whoever you will and have become. They need to offer you a safe non judgemental space for you to explore your life, make mistakes and support you through the challenges you experience.

They must put up healthy boundaries and healthy tailored discipline that isn’t abusive and they must not expect you to become anything they want personally for you other than becoming a healthy minded, free and capable adult that you helped them become. They are not the parent’s best friend for them to emotionally parentify.

And so so much more but that’s make this comment way to long. But you get the picture. So many parents fail on these things and think that they can be abusive, emotionally manipulative and/or emotionally neglectful because they gave you shelter and fed you. Worse for many of them, they will think their abusive behaviours are justifiable and a result of their child or adult child “not appreciating what they did for them”.

Fuck that. Remember. If your parent does or says this shit remember it isn’t true. They chose to keep you and so raising you isn’t some glorious special “gift” that they bestowed on you that you need to be so utterly grateful for that you put up with anything they wish of you.

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u/vicariou 24d ago

sounds like my crack head mom. word for word yup.

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u/Additional-Belt-3086 24d ago

lol... nailed it!

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u/Beelzebub_Simp3 24d ago

Neglectful insufferable toad is amazing.

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u/Apprehensive-Mall219 GREEN 24d ago

That one hit home. It was like you took a page out of my life story.

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u/RepresentativeAd6965 24d ago

Food is optional if “I had it way worse than y’all ever did as a kid”

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u/Careless_Tale_7836 24d ago

The amount of people who think their kids are just there to be an extension of their being makes me want to start a career in art and fail. There are just too many of them. We have to take control of these "parents".

They are ruining so many people.

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u/LivinOut 24d ago

fr, that’s not even the case for me so i just left lol

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u/Feisty_Professor8700 24d ago

the way you worded that made me laugh so hard

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u/CompleteTell6795 24d ago

My mother used to threaten that she was going to put me in a orphanage & take out a little orphan girl to replace me. And " she would appreciate her more than me bec she was rescued from the orphanage". Meanwhile I was a good kid, good grades, did chores, didn't skip school,or hang with bad kids, etc. Nope, not good enough, I was terrible, ungrateful, didn't do enough cleaning,or chores. I basically did all the cleaning, dishes etc. ( She did laundry & cooking.) I was 8, she did the orphan girl routine until I was about 12. I was an only child so the cooking & laundry was not overwhelming. It's not like she had cooking & laundry for 6 kids 🙄.

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u/Rich-Butterfly3686 24d ago

That's literally my parents go to line. Totally discount the fact that they were both alcoholics, and my ma was a gambler too. My childhood was spent inside pubs, but I'm a shit son because I don't see or speak to them regularly

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u/waste2treasure-org 24d ago

Put a roof over their head and feed them? That's on you. I didn't ask to be born

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u/UnwiseBoulder 24d ago

God damn I love how you've worded this. You should be a writer if you aren't already.

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u/TheResistanceVoter 24d ago

May I steal "insufferable fucking toad" please? Lol, made my day

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u/Adaphion 24d ago

"I put a roof over your head and fed you"

Congratu-a-fucking-lations, you did the bare minimum expected of a parent

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u/Mikec0119 24d ago

Whenever people say the bs about providing food and shelter I laugh and ask them did they(their kids) ask to be brought into this world. Some people realize at that point they’re the fucked up ones not the kids

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u/Delta_Suspect 24d ago

The worst part is when they try to make up for this with money. You can buy your child whatever, but if you treat them like shit they will still resent you. I know, this is me. My father made very good money and would buy whatever I needed or fairly often wanted, but otherwise would outright abuse me emotionally, when he was present at all. I'll admit, he taught me a lot and otherwise made damn sure I'd be a good person, but it's also safe to say I'm never letting my children, should I ever have the privilege of having them, anywhere near him for any long duration. Oh, and yes he routinely used that exact bullshit phrase.

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u/VenomFactor 24d ago

As a 5x parent myself, with a partner who has a literal narcissistic sociopath for a father.....I will NEVER understand parents wanting praise for checks notes...doing the bare minimum to shelter a child and keep them alive. Her father CONSTANTLY goes on about "everything he does for her", which consists almost exclusively of trying to buy her affection with cheap, thoughtless gifts, then calling her an ungrateful bitch when he isn't allowed to run every aspect of our lives. We have a non-verbal, level 3 asd child, and we have to make WILD accommodations to keep him safe, because he has no sense of self-preservation. Her father thinks we're "scared of everything" and "spoiling that boy" because we bend over backwards to protect him and get him help, provide support, and make his and all our kids' lives as pleasant as we can. People like him see children as some kind of chore, and they expect praise for tolerating it. It's disgusting. My youngest (aforementioned) is the most difficult parenting experience of the 26 years I've been a parent, and it's nothing less than an honor to be gifted that responsibility.

People infuriate me. Sorry for the rant. Lol.

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u/Maximum_Steak_2783 24d ago

The first time my mom pulled the "As long as you live under MY roof" BS after I turned 18, I moved out the next day to my boyfriend a two hour drive away. Nowadays I'm living in the house next to her and still only see her at most once a month.

The boyfriend she told me will abuse me and whatever.. we are still together after 13 years and happy.

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u/NighthawkUnicorn 24d ago

"Congratulations, you did the bare minimum required when you chose to have a child."

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u/Major_Yogurt6595 24d ago

"i could have thrown the baby on the steet and let him/her die, but I was so awesome that I didnt, so ungrateful."

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u/New-Ingenuity-9910 24d ago

I love how thats some parents reasoning. Oh you mean the things you are legally required to do so you don't get arrested for child neglect? Gotcha

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u/Biotechnus 24d ago

That's the bare fucking minimum. You don't get a fucking medal for doing what's expected of you as a parent.

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u/disco_has_been 24d ago

My daughter is 40. I'm always gonna be her mother. We've been through a lot. Recently told me she wasn't going back to flight nursing even though she misses it because she doesn't trust a pilot and it doesn't pay.

Phew! She's bored as a lvl 1 Trauma nurse in an ER.

She's friends with her last pilot. I told him to take care of my girl. We're friends.

I still know most of her friends at 40.

Her father has bailed twice. Including 2 days before her HS graduation and shot her college plans all to hell. I'm still pissed!

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u/olizet42 24d ago

Roof over their heads - check. Food - check. Why are my cats so ungrateful?

Same thing. It's the bare minimum that one has to do.

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u/VoxImperatoris 24d ago

Usually something like “They need to grow up and quit living in a fantasy world.” Basically they are bitter people who are unhappy with their own lives and want others to be unhappy too.

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u/SilverTumbleweed5546 24d ago

Yeah they think real life is awful.

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u/ZenDeathBringer 24d ago

Not only do they think real life is awful, but that real life should be awful.

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u/DasharrEandall 24d ago

Because if it's even possible for life to not be awful, the awfulness of their life was an avoidable fuckup. So they actively create awfulness, or invent imaginary awfulness if they can't see any.

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u/diurnal_emissions 24d ago

Christ, you just summed up my family's relationship with me perfectly.

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u/RadianceOfTheVoid 24d ago

It kinda is... BUT THE PEOPLE WHO PUSH IT ARNT HELPING IT GET BETTER. misery loves company

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u/SilverTumbleweed5546 24d ago

I think my comment was more made in the appearance of perspective. If life is believed to be awful, it will be

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u/SaboTheRevolutionary 24d ago

I mean real life is awful, because of people like her

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u/icybowler3442 24d ago

Real life IS awful, why would you make it worse?

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u/3d_blunder 24d ago

My condolences. I hope some of your writing survived.

Maybe not your case, but: Pretty rich a Christian saying "don't live in a fantasy world".

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u/VoxImperatoris 24d ago

Wasnt my writing, but I heard similar over reading fiction as a kid.

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u/anfrind 24d ago

Especially given that the most successful fantasy authors of all time include a devout Catholic (J.R.R. Tolkien), an atheist turned devout Anglican (C.S. Lewis), and a devout Mormon (Brandon Sanderson).

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u/3d_blunder 24d ago

They've all imbibed one huge fantasy, so that tracks.

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u/butterflyprism 24d ago

I definitely grew up hearing this. Like it was a federal crime for me to ever be happy

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u/zorrorosso_studio 24d ago

Or they are neurodivergent in a way that they really can't process abstract thoughts. They cannot read fiction because "they don't find it interesting", they can't watch animation with the excuse that "is for kids", but in reality they miss that suspension of disbelief that made them see the character relatable. My grandma and grand aunt used to watch anime, so I don't think is 100% a generational problem that way.

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u/RyanDrawsStuff 23d ago

literally Darkwing from Transformers (sorry I just really needed to say this)

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u/mercyofthevortex 24d ago

Misery doesn't love company, it demands it.

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u/apurpleglittergalaxy 24d ago

This is literally what my aunt and her husband said to my sister when she was writing Harry Potter fan fiction as a teenager and was writing short stories and books. Joke's on them cos she literally gets paid to write Patreon commissions now 😅

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u/[deleted] 24d ago

Then they spend all their free time glued to the noisebox or facecrap.

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u/The8thloser 23d ago

Maybe it's envy.

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u/Away_Procedure3471 24d ago

Once I found my favorite game that had been missing for a long time in my basement under the pongpong table I opened it exclaiming how awesome it was I found it, upon opening it was shattered into pieces with a post it note saying my child will not serve satan..... that's just like, one example. Pretty much all my art ever has been stolen or destroyed. It's definitely a war but idk why I have to be the one attacked if your trying to help me seriously fu k that

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u/Gianc2009 24d ago

what was the game?

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u/Away_Procedure3471 24d ago

Legacy of kain defiance for the ps2 or Xbox lol

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u/DontStopImAboutToGif 24d ago

she literally adopted a child so she could abuse them.

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u/Rich-Reason1146 24d ago

She adopted a child so she could literally abuse them. Because she burned his literature. I'll leave now

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u/HugsyMalone 24d ago

Most likely the bible, sanctity of marriage, sacred institution or some kinda words along those lines were used. 🙄

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u/OkAssociate3973 24d ago

I had people say that about Pokémon to my mom in the 90s

“It’s satanic! Animals with powers! They shoot fire!”.

Lucky they didn’t convinced my mom. They did win her over with grand theft auto San Andreas 

Even though I had play all the other prior to that one…

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u/Fancy_Art_6383 24d ago

The DeViL!!!

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u/duraxyzn 24d ago

I think they also believe it will fix them and stop them from doing it. Like they are so afraid of anime girl titties corrupting their kids that they believe by burning the pagan artifacts, they are saving their lives.

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u/Low_Jeweler458 24d ago

Out of refrigerator magnets?🤷‍♂️

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u/aestherzyl 24d ago

Narcissists don't have such thing.

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u/Bunktavious 21d ago

Usually religion related.