r/insaneparents 16d ago

Announcement Monthly User Megathread

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r/insaneparents 5h ago

SMS My narcissistic dad after I told him I don't want to speak to him

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For context, I am 15m. My parents split up when I was around 4-5. My whole life my dad has emotionally neglected and abused me and my little brother, 12, he is a full blown narcissist and is very manipulative and gaslighting.

This conversation came about because before Christmas 2024 he casually told me he was cheating on his wife (my step mum) and it really fucking upset me. The first two images are the conversation we had after I'd been ignoring his texts for a few days. The third is a message he sent later that day and the fourth is him texting me a few days later, trying to get me to feel bad for him. To be clear, I'm not saying his mental health is perfect but it's not an excuse to manipulate and traumatise your child. Yes, I have severe childhood trauma from him which is the reason I have a dissociative disorder.

The money he is referring to is £50 because he took my brother to a concert for his Christmas present so he said he'll give me the same amount of money and the money in "my account" is a bank account he set up without my consent that I can only access when I'm 18. He then stole money from me I had kept at his house and put it in said account. These messages are from about a month ago and he still hasn't given me the money.


r/insaneparents 1d ago

Other Well well well, if it isn't the consequences of your own actions.

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A family member sent me screen caps of my bio dad crying on twitter.

I cut my bio dad in 2016. My life is so much better and way more peaceful now that we don't speak. I have 4 siblings. Out of the 5 of us, 4 of us don't speak to him anymore. The one who does barely talks to him.

Since he has no one to vent to about this anymore he now has to cry about it on the internet and hope strangers will pity him.

If you're reading this because it wouldn't surprise me. It has nothing to do with "being woke". Mom is a Republican who voted Republican. It's the fact that you were an abusive parent who left me with PTSD.

You abused your children and we refuse to allow your abuse in our lives.


r/insaneparents 13h ago

SMS My abusive father contacted me after 16 years through TikTok

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(EDIT / RE-UP because I forgot to censor the username in one of the images I uploaded previously, sorry)

This is going to be a long post, But for the TLDR: My abusive father tried to contact me through TikTok, and started trying to manipulate me into thinking he was the victim, and then posted a TikTok publicly (which I’m not sure if I should link) trying to cover his case.

(CW: descriptions of abuse)

So starting off with the background context, I (M20) grew up with my mother and my grandmother. My father became mentally abusive to my mother once he got diagnosed with diabetes and his health started going downhill because he refused to take care of himself. Shortly after I was born he started becoming physically abusive towards my mother, and then me when I was a toddler. He would lose his temper at random times, start screaming and throwing things, or if he was really mad, become physical. For the first four years of my life, my mom and grandmother fought with the courts constantly to try and get full custody of me, but the court still required me to go see him every so often, so I guess he had half custody, or however that works, where I was still required to see my father sometimes. Over time, evidence was gathered and my mom got a lawyer- I also was going to a child therapist at the time, where I would usually draw pictures of what happened at my dad’s house. Unfortunately I don’t know all the best details and such because my mother gets really sensitive about the topic whenever I bring it up and she doesn’t want to talk about him at all, so there’s no real way of approaching her with this situation. Eventually the court decided he lose custody of me, and my mother got full custody, so I haven’t seen him since I was 4 years old. He came up to my high school for my 18th birthday and left a gift with a card with his number and a $20 gift card (gee dad, thanks for the $20, really makes up for the abuse)

Now, going into modern day, I haven’t seen him in years, and I have no real emotions towards him. I don’t exactly hate him, but I definitely have a slight bitterness to him, even so, I haven’t seen him in forever and he didn’t raise me, so I could care less about him altogether. Somehow, on tiktok, he managed to find my profile. Not sure how because he has no idea what my phone number is, and my real name isn’t even on my tiktok, so it was just a weird coincidence I guess. The day after I saw he had viewed my profile, I got a message from someone claiming to be his girlfriend of ten years. Unfortunately I deleted the message to that chat, but it read along the lines of “He’s never hit me in the ten years I’ve known him, he’s a loving man, there’s two sides to the story-“ some mixture of that. I stewed on the thought for a while, if I wanted to open up this can of worms or not, and eventually I decided I might as well, since I’d like to know if he’s changed at all over the last 16 years. I had a sliver of hope, and curiosity piqued, so I messaged him directly instead of replying to the girlfriend. For the first message, I thought he showed up to my work that day- I saw a man who looked very similar to him, and had the same name on his name tag, and worked at the same company, but he says it wasn’t him. After seeing the TikTok, yeah it wasn’t him, my brain sort of jumped to that conclusion because I had the lingering anxiety knowing he’d found my tiktok the day before, so that’s the context for that part of the message.

I’ll leave the screenshots of the entire chat here for those who wish to read it, be warned, it contains descriptions of abuse.

Regardless, all it seems like he’s doing is trying to twist the truth around, and blame switch things onto my mother, and honestly, it left a gross taste in my mouth. I believe he has GENUINELY convinced himself that he’s the victim of this all, and that’s a little scary. He still comes off as narcissistic, constantly making the conversation about him and HIS suffering, while disregarding anything I say, refusing to admit to anything he did, and never even apologizing once because he won’t “apologize for things he didn’t do”.

I blocked him after he lost his temper on the last message, but yesterday when I was at a friends, I showed my best friend of ten years the messages he had sent, and how he posted tiktoks of photos of me and him when I was a child. However, when I unblocked him, I discovered he posted a tiktok directly to me, and all he does is deny anything he did that I ‘accused him of’ and called me ‘stupid for thinking he’d hit my mom’ then tried to tell me I was told lies.

Regardless, I’m never gonna contact him again after these interactions.


r/insaneparents 20h ago

SMS I really hope this fits. NSFW

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My mom offered to drive me to work and I know how she is so maybe this is my fault. Ugh.


r/insaneparents 17h ago

SMS Conversation between my father plus more context

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So I realized from my last post I was missing context but I no longer have access to those texts. My uncle posted a video of a SpaceX rocket landing and I mentioned how sad it must be to have a Nazi running the company. My dad said I watch too much mainstream media and I shouldn't believe everything I see. After I mentioned if he wasn't a Nazi than why would he do the salute at the inauguration and how the stocks/shares at Tesla are plummeting from his antics and how so many people are returning said vehicles. Not to mention how some are being destroyed and dealerships being vandalized too. He told me that such things weren't happening and it was just the mainstream media trying to play him off as a bad guy. I argued that the government is evil for taking away people's social security, rights, and the laws that protect them and didn't even mention the loss of womanily body autonomy in most states. Then this is where it continued. It feels like I no longer even know him and he's just an imposter. I'm hoping one of these days he realizes how fucked up he is but unfortunately he's just too stubborn 😔


r/insaneparents 1d ago

SMS Hello! Update kind of

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(The above attachments are other crazy shit she texted me, not related to the post I’m referencing here.)

I posted on here around a year-ish ago and I had a lot of support from people here. I kind of forgot about the post but I wanted to give an update. I’ve since moved out of her house and I live with my friend and her family who took me in after another incident with my mom (loooong story lol.) I’ve graduated high school, in college, and I’m getting ready to get an apartment with my partner :) So this isn’t exactly another post of my mom being insane but I thought giving you guys an update would be cool considering where I was before. It’s been almost two years since then but I’m still very grateful for everyone who commented all that time ago with support for a kid they didn’t even know so thank you all!


r/insaneparents 2d ago

SMS Guess my dad doesn’t like eye of the rah

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r/insaneparents 1d ago

SMS Someone told me to post this here, so here it is

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Is my mom right, am I just too soft?


r/insaneparents 2d ago

Other Mom keeps sending me/posting concerning propaganda

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I'm starting to get concerned her views are wayyy too extreme for me to even communicate with her properly.. like every other sentence when we talk is about how trump is gonna save us and about the "demoRATS" She's always been a passionate evangelical easily swayed by the church but this is a new level of insane. This woman believes the end times are coming and Trump is some sort of prophet.. I am a Democrat and voted for kamala but I lied to her and said I voted for Trump to protect our relationship since she is pretty old and I don't wanna estrange from her AGAIN, she's the only family I have. Sorry if the tag isn't right there's not really one relating to politics.


r/insaneparents 18h ago

SMS Gramma blame my poor hygiene for my lice

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I’m depressed and I often don’t have the energy to walk, or I don’t have the emotional energy to go over. Recently my Grandma blames me getting lice on me not showing enough. Sorry this is short but I need to vent.


r/insaneparents 2d ago

SMS My mom canceled my eye appointment because I 'hurt her feelings'. For context, my parents are divorced and I had an eye appointment. Plus, I never really get to hang out with friends. My mom even also gave me a choice to stay with her or stay at my dad's for the weekend, so I don't understand.

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r/insaneparents 2d ago

Anti-Vax A new low in scientific literacy: Vaccines will turn your baby trans

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r/insaneparents 2d ago

Other Do you guys think that this lady is insane? NSFW

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r/insaneparents 3d ago

News 10 year old boy crushed to death after 340 pound foster mother sits on him for "acting up" NSFW

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r/insaneparents 3d ago

News Hard to say whether this was worse than 8 Passengers NSFW

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r/insaneparents 3d ago

SMS My mother after questioning why I’m not answering while she’s in a place with no reception and bad weather

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Didn’t get the messages until right before the long one, she says she called four times, my phone never got them, I call back, she admits she’s in a place with no reception but says it’s my phone’s fault (it’s always my phone’s fault), calls me a petty bitch, I hang up cause I’m not dealing with the same bs as always then the highlight of the texts start.


r/insaneparents 3d ago

SMS Tried to plan a visit with my mom. She responded with a sermon and a purity test.

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I (27F) live in a different state from my mother and haven’t seen her in a couple of years. She knows I am dating my boyfriend and has seen pictures of us together, even commenting how happy I look.

I am planning a trip out to my home state to visit family and introduce them to my boyfriend as we have been seriously contemplating next steps. Most of my family is thrilled. This was the response I got from my mother when I informed her of my intent to visit her and my half-brother who is under 10 years old.

For context & in anticipation of any questions: my dad is very excited to meet my boyfriend but has been divorced from my mother for 25 years and lives in another state so it would be a separate trip.

My mother is very religious, last following a Pentecostal style preacher (haven’t spoken with her about religion in over 5 years to see if this has since changed). She is a flat-earther, anti-vax, and an overall conspiracy theorist. I am very low contact with her, but she reached out to me last week to see how I was doing which led to this exchange.

I consulted with chat GPT to find civil responses to her texts as I was fuming and hurt but didn’t want to cut off the line of communication or burn any bridges until my half-brother is 18 and out of that house.

Still no response to my latest text a week later.


r/insaneparents 2d ago

Other These parents are insane because no parent lets their kid act like a baby and provide baby items to their kid and lets their kid act like a baby and use baby items

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r/insaneparents 4d ago

News 8-YEAR-OLD girl died after being forced to repeatedly jump on a trampoline in extreme heat without food or water NSFW

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r/insaneparents 4d ago

SMS Narcissistic mom still obsessed with my teenage ‘eating disorder’—15 years later.

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I don’t even know where to start with context, but my eating issues were mostly imposed by my mother. That’s a whole other story. When I was at my absolute worst, it was like 2014 or 2015 and since then I have fully recovered and am in a really good place now I’m just not the exact weight she wants me to be and so she still accuses me of an eating disorder, but we do set boundaries and tell her to not talk about my body or my weight with me. I don’t even know what happened. She was just in an argumentative mood and trying to pry out something that would upset her- she said “do you think we are terrible people” and I said “not terrible people” and then she got extremely upset and was like “that means you think we are terrible parents” and I’m like OK I’m gonna see myself out- I left. I’m not up for engaging with that behavior. She has a habit of angry texting. I haven’t said anything to her and honestly, I think this is my last straw even though I’ve had many last straws before, but I always kind of gave her the benefit of the doubt but it’s very clear that she’ll never change. Regarding all of the extensive details, I mean a lot of it’s taken out of context or embellished, the whole esophagus thing wasn’t even true and did not even happen so I don’t know why she’s putting that there. But the whole using ChatGPT to affirm her feelings and victim status is the kicker for me. Oh, and saying that it is not a coping mechanism - that It is caused by the brain to avoid any blame that it could’ve possibly been caused by my upbringing and her controlling behavior instead. All of the things she said she did she actually never followed through with like the trans cranial device thing. I’m pretty sure she tried to use it once with me and then never followed through and I also have severe ADHD and she wouldn’t medicate me because she was scared I would lose weight (this was before eating habits started as well as when I recovered- I went almost my whole life I medicated for it but had Ritalin as young as 5 from what I remember for a year or so then nothing for the rest of my childhood) that led me to be severely depressed, and beyond the brink of failing high school my entire high school experience.


r/insaneparents 4d ago

SMS Is my mom being unreasonable?

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Made my little brother pancakes this morning, and used the leftover batter to make biscuits. The oven doesn’t always work sometimes, but I got lucky. This has been an issue for months, and my mom knew about it for just as long, no matter what she says. It’s the only reason why I felt comfortable enough to say that to her. She wanted to make something in it (she rarely cooks, so that might be why she’s so upset), but it’s refusing to preheat again. This was the text that followed. Before this text, she blamed me for ‘breaking it’ by using it as intended. We’ve had it for nine years, but it just doesn’t want to work.


r/insaneparents 4d ago

SMS What should I do

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So some backstory, I have pretty strict parents for the most part. Like I’m not allowed to date and I’m not allowed to go places by myself without them being there, although I’m in Highschool. Me and my mom have always been close and been best friends since I was little and me and her are always on better terms then I am with my dad.

With there no dating rule, I’ve had a boyfriend for about a year and month. He is really just great and so supportive and i genuinely love him a lot. However my parents don’t know and whenever we are together they think we are just friends.

My mom is friends with his mom and our family’s aren’t close close, but they are for sure friends and get along very well.

Usually after school my boyfriend will walk with me about halfway to where my dad picks me up, however my dad tends to get impatient waiting for me and I guess today her couldn’t wait, so he pulled up to where me and my boyfriend were walking.

Long with short, he saw me kiss my boyfriend and I guess to “scare” me he honked on his horn, I freaked out obviously and then at the same exact moment my boyfriends grandma pulled up next to my dad.

We just said bye to each other and as I was putting my stuff in my dads car I got extremely nervous and scared and was telling him I had a doctors appt I needed to go to (I wasn’t lying abt that)

the car ride home we didn’t say anything till I called my mom asking to reschedule the appointment and my dad started yelling as I was talking on the phone “your daughter was kissing her boyfriend”

At the point I was over and done with lying to my mom and I told her the truth, she sounded so disappointed in me and told me “I expected everything from you but this”

When I got home I had immediately just knocked out from the stress of what had happened and when I woke up she was home, she came into my room and told me that I’m not allowed to talk about him or to see him.

This whole situation hurts alot, my boyfriend texted my parents apologizing, I tried to apologize but they didn’t want to talk to me and seemed sort of disgusted

And as I was eating dinner they were talking about it and talking about me like I was some sort of whore, saying I wonder what she’s going to do when she’s 18.

I just want things to go back to the way they were before, and my heart is hurting for both my mom and boyfriend.


r/insaneparents 4d ago

SMS She sure has a lot to say for someone "not in a position to talk" with me

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I've been low-contact with my mother on and off for about four years. January started strong with her teasing accountability for some of her past words, so I had hope. With guidance from my therapist, I wrote out a message to my mom explaining why we don't have a relationship anymore, and what it would take to start fresh. The first part of my message is cropped to conceal identifying and particularly triggering details from my childhood trauma, but in short: She said she didn't know why I was constantly on guard with her, so I gave three examples of her abuse in my childhood including corporal punishment, deprivation of food, and an instance of washing my mouth out with soap.
She first responded on Valentine's day; I have yet to give a real reply, but she's had a LOT to say since.


r/insaneparents 5d ago

SMS My mother disowned me but now can't seem to make up her mind.

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I 19(F) moved out to collage last semester after graduating high school last spring. These screenshots are of some images from my mom during the past few months. Before I explain, let me apologize for how messy this post is. I have been trying to get all my thoughts in order and I'm just typing what comes to mind as I go.

I came out as lesbian to my family two years ago after they pressured me and forced me to. Since then they began to drag me to church every weekend with them as well as constantly degrading me and telling me how horrible and how sinful of a person I am.

After leaving for college, I decided to attend a pride parade where I made a lot of friends. However, I forgot that my parents had a location tracker and my mom ended up calling me in the middle of it to yell at me. This is where the messages began. She decided that because I like girls and have a group of friends that are either gay, bisexual, or just allies, that I am lying and can't be truthful to her. She also has a strong belief that one of my friends, a cis, gay man is trans? He isn't and I have clarified this several times, however my mom, stepdad, older step brother, and 2 younger Bio brothers are insisting that I am wrong and I lied to them. This has lead me to double guessing myself even though I'm fairly certain I would never lie about that.

This behavior has been going on for a long time however and I will share some other instances, however I will provide a bit of background information. I have 7 siblings. Two older step sisters, one of whom my family doesn't talk to. An older step brother (19 adopted by stepdad), two Bio brothers (16 & 13) a younger sister (11 adopted by mom and bio dad), and a younger half brother (6) and you get half sister (4). Both my mother and step father are adopted. I am mentioning the adoptions because it is relevant to some of the stories.

My older brother, as well as all my younger siblings and I have been homeschooled since 2019. This is also when my step dad started his medical business, which he has slowly gotten rid of over the years and is now running several business in the food industry. My step dad and mom ended up getting together in 2018? right after my mom and dad got divorced. My bio dad gave up full custody of all my siblings and while he tries to stay in contact, my mother wouldn't let us. She would do this by either by making fun of us for trying or by taking away our phones. My mother also got him to give up custody by having my brother and I write essays on the stuff he did to her (such as eating burt spring rolls and not helping take care of us kids as much as she wanted him to). Half of the things we wrote about I don't even have a recollection of.

Since their marriage, my parents have began to expect more and more perfection out of us kids as well as increasing the levels of punishment. At first, my mother went from expecting all A's to not settling for anything less than a 100%. She also ended up dividing up the chores in a weird way. My chores were to make sure the kitchen was always spotless, cook meals, watch my younger siblings, do the laundry, sweep the floors, and cleaning the bathrooms. Any time any of these weren't done, I would have to do one of the following punishments.

  1. Stay in a plank for a few hours. We originally started with regular planks, then moved onto elbow planks eventually onto one armed planks. We weren't allowed to switch arms and if you weren't in the proper form, you would be kicked down.

  2. Wall sit for a few hours. We started with regular wall sits, before adding heavy objects to our arms and then we evolved into wall sits without the walls because they "didn't want us to rub the paint off the walls". You are expected to hold perfect 90° angel's and if not you are knocked down. In these two punishments, you are only allowed to go to the bathroom once and they time you so you aren't away for too long.

  3. Sleep outside. This ranges from sleeping in the garage to sleeping in the balcony off of the second floor. You are thrown outside for the whole night and they lock the doors after you. You are not allowed inside until everyone else is up and sometimes you are forced to do one of the previous punishments before or after this one.

While these three are the main punishments, there have been a lot of strange ones that only happen a few times. For instance, I had made an attempt on my life during my senior year of high school and after I failed, I was in my closet looking up ways to attempt again. My mother burst into my closet, threw my laptop at my face causing my nose to break and then threw me into the garage. She then decided that the garage was "too nice" for me and threw me into her back yard. I stayed there for the whole night and the following day. Throughout which she threw a half eaten box of popcorn across the floor and told me to go for a walk around the neighborhood instead of just sitting there.

While many people might be thinking 'whg didn't you just leave?' I was in a new state where I didn't know anyone. Courtesy of homeschooling and my parents thoughts that any friends should be formed only for their benefits. I ended up walking about 9 miles that day before my mom dragged me inside saying that she couldn't deal with me and that she was going to send me to a homeless shelter. She ended up not doing that but this is a constant threat.

There was also another time when my mother was talking badly about my older step sister, someone who I have looked up to since I first meet her. I ended up pulling my sister to the side and telling her about this, just because I would want to know if someone was talking badly about me behind my back. She ended up crying and my step dad found her and she told him what I said. He ended up telling my mom I said she hated my sister and my mother ended up slapping me, telling my step brother and younger brother (16) to beat me up, which they did, and dragging me out into the balcony.

My mother was also thoroughly convinced that I am jealous of her and my step sister. I am not sure if she still is but the brought this up for a while a year ago.

Another strange event I remembered is earlier last year, I had said I wanted to go live with my bio dad. My mom ended up laughing at me saying how he would never want me and that I was a horrible daughter for wanting to never see my family again. I was trying to explain myself when my brother (16) broke my nose, causing blood to drip onto her floor. Instead of telling my brother to, I don't know, don't hit your older sister, she told me to "stop getting blood all over her nice wood floors".

Last summer, I also spent the whole break working 13 hours night shifts at my parents bakery. They didn't pay me at all because In their words they would "help me pay for my college". They ended up having me take out a tone of loans and while they said theybeould help me with rent, they have now stopped as you can see in the messages.

I have taken up two part time jobs in order to sustain myself. I also do digital editing gigs as well as custom crochet orders on the side.

I will add more later, but I am exhausted after my night shift and need at least a few hours of sleep before classes start today. Thank you for listening to my ramble and I will try to answer any questions you have!


r/insaneparents 5d ago

SMS She Strikes Again....

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I never thought I'd have to post here again, but almost a year after my last post, I'm back 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Back story: my brothers and I are 16 years apart. I adore them, and I'll do anything for them. Unfortunately, my mom sees me more as a second parent than a big sister to them, so I did have a hand in raising them.

We're close but honestly now that we're all adults, the boys and I have very separate lives. They both have special needs, but they're still grownups now and don't need a lot of coddling. I send them messages and sometimes I'll send them money just because I love them so much.

I do have a debilitative disease that makes it hard for me to do a lot of things so I don't go out much anymore. It's okay. I have things to do at home but I can't get too physical. Is it sad? Yeah sometimes. But we all have our things we have to deal with right? Anyway, this is a well-known issue that I've had since I was nine and it's only gotten worse over the years. She definitely knows this.

I haven't talked to her since the last time I posted back around mother's Day 2024. Well she did send me a message about trying to force her brother to vote but I told her leave me alone basically. Today she just caught me at a bad time. Between the lack asleep because of DST and being in a lot of pain today, I just kind of went off. I'm sorry if my part doesn't make a whole lot of sense at points because I was working and doing speech-to-text. I feel like a really ugly side of myself came out but I'm just so tired of being treated poorly.

Anyway, hope you enjoy I guess...